290 🌟 Discover Your Inner Wisdom: Healing Through Intuition with Christine Lang

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>> Christine Lang (00:00):
And I always say, nobody has your back like your spirit in

(00:02):
relationships. as a health consultant, as a career consultant,
like 24 7, she'll be like, hey, you know
what? Here's a good idea. Or, hey, you know, it would work better. Or you know,
to have that, it just means you're never alone again.
Right. It never feels like I don't know what to do
next. I feel stuck or I feel adrift, or I feel
scared that that ability to get that

(00:22):
reassurance that isn't just fluff sometimes not just,
oh, everything will be okay, you know, that your friends might, might say to you
in a situation, it's, here's why it will be okay, or
here's how it will be okay, or here's the next best step for
you. So to have that sort of a working
partnership all the time.

>> Wendy Valentine (00:40):
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Welcome back to the Midlife makeover Show. I'm your host,
Wendy Valentine. If you've ever felt like
your body is trying to tell you something through
stress symptoms or even tough

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relationships, today's episode is going to
blow your mind in the best way possible. Our
guest is Christine Lang, a former
attorney turned medical intuitive and
wellness expert who helps people find clarity,
healing and peace by tuning into
their inner wisdom. Whether you're navigating a
midlife transition, health challenge or

(04:17):
relationship hurdle, Christine believes your
spirit already has the answers. I
agree. You just need to know how to ask the
right questions. Christine's new book, ask
your spirit receiving life changing wisdom from your
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learning how to tap into your intuition and use it to

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improve every area of your life. In
today's conversation, we'll talk about how our bodies give us
clues when something's out of alignment. How to release
draining relationships. wouldn't that be great?
And how to transform stress into
insight. Get ready for a soul centered
eye openening chitchat.
Please welcome Christine to the show.

Thank you for that intro, Wendy.

Everyone likes their intros. They're like so nice.
They're like, yeah, just keep going. Keep talking about me. I
love it. Welcome to the show. I am so
excited for our chat today. And
everyone stay tuned towards the end because we might just do a little
reading for your hostess of the midlife mostess.
And, yeah, I'm excited about that. I've had a couple on

(05:23):
the show before. One where there was a goblin, behind
my right shoulder. I was like, oh, yeah, that's probably
my ex. I don't know. I got. I
think it was. I wish all my
exes lived in Texas. But no, they just follow me
everywhere.
so my first question for you, and I'm sure You get this question
a lot. So how in the world

(05:45):
did you go from an attorney to a medical
intuitive? What was your aha moment where you're like, I've
got to make the switch here?

Yeah, not your typical career, path. It was not available to me
in the career counseling office in high school.
when I was in law school, I developed terrible allergies.
And so I. By the time I was practicing as a
lawyer, I sounded like I always had a cold,
and I was always sneezing and blowing my nose. It was very
attractive. And it was before the days of the stuff they

(06:14):
have now that doesn't make you drowsy. So I was either taking
Benadryl and drinking Diet Coke all day or walking around with a
box of tissues. And I was like, that's it. I'm super stubborn. I'm like,
I'm not going down this way. This is not okay. And
I started studying what was then called alternative medicine and.
And looking for a cure for my
allergies. And so I studied energy
healing, Reiki, and homeopathy. I've made a

(06:37):
lot of progress with homeopathy. Got rid of probably 40, 50% of my
allergies, and then made the link between
my stress. I'm, more stressed. My allergies are worse. So I started
studying Buddhism and meditation and tai
chi and yoga. And it all started coalescing
where I started offering friends energy treatments. And
I would say, well, let me come home from work and take off my lawyer

(06:57):
suit and. And change clothes and meditate so I can switch from,
you know, aggressive lawyer to peaceful healer and
just change channels in my brain. And when I would do
that, I would just be sitting in meditation and I would have this.
This voice, come and say a word
phrase that was about the friend that I was going to give energy
to and why that symptom was there. And I'm thinking, I am making this

(07:18):
up. So at first, I didn't even tell the friend. I just gave
energy, just let it center on her way, and
finally got up the courage and said, I keep
hearing this phrase, you know, about arguing
about buying a new car does that, you know, and she's like, oh, my God, I didn't
argue with my husband last night. Nobody knows that. How do you know that? I'm
like, how do I know that? And so I realized I

(07:38):
was getting information from somewhere, and
her headache went away, and she talked about it. And
next. Next time it happened, a friend had excruciating
back pain. Same thing. I'm like, I Get this message.
She's astounded. Her back pain
completely goes away. And when
she left, I thought, who am I talking to? And I went

(08:00):
upstairs and sat in my meditation chair, raised my
energy up in meditation and said, who am I speaking with? And my
spirit said, welcome home. And tears started streaming
down my face. And she said, this is who you came here to
be. Get ready. And I started sitting in meditation for three or four hours
a day. And she started teaching me. When
someone's lungs are compromised. I'm going to show you this. When someone

(08:20):
is, in an abusive relationship of this type,
I will. Their energy will move like this. And she
just started explaining to me what I was starting to see and feel
and pick up. And we worked out a
shorthand of things, of, you know, if I smell
cigarette smoke when I'm working on somebody, it means their lungs are compromised.
Doesn't mean they're a smoker. It means their lungs are compromised. And
there's different sense than feelings and different things.

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And so my friends got better, and they told their friends,
and soon I was treating strangers, and a practice
was born. And that was 30 years ago, and I've been doing it ever since.
It was easy to walk away from law.

I was just gonna ask you, like, you're probably like, no,
thank you. m. Wow.
So do you think those gifts were there all along? Were they
turned on? Did you ever feel like, oh,
maybe as a child or a teenager,
that you sense some of that, but you couldn't
quite make sense of it?

I mean, I think we. I think we definitely each have a
destiny where we come in with gifts, right? So.
But. But it's not just one gift. I mean, the first time I got on a
horse, my riding instructor looked at my mom and said, why the hell
does it look like she was born on the back of a horse? And it's like
I remembered riding for other lifetimes, and I
remembered being a horseman, right? So I. I think we come in
with gifts that are just for our enjoyment. I'm not meant to be,

(09:34):
oh, you know, a horse trainer or anything, but it was just
something that I. That I tapped into and
remembered. And so I think those gifts were there, but
dormant and waiting to be awakened. And a lot of times
I'll work with a client, and she'll say, oh, and it does
happen a lot. Midlife, she's like, okay, I've achieved success
in my career. Now all of a sudden, I'm drawn
to work with homeopathy or work

(09:57):
with Healing energy, like what is that about? Right. And your spirit
just sort of opens a door and says remember.
And then you start remembering and those things come in.

So with your book, ask your spirit,
meaning each person asking their own spirit.
So then each one of us has the ability
to be able to tap into our own spirits
then.

Yeah. Yes. I always say think of this like
tennis and I'm, Venus Williams. Right. And so I can
get you playing a phenomenal game. I don't know that I
can get you to Wimbledon, but I can play a phenomenal game.
So when I channel now, I'm getting downloads
of a paragraph at a time. I get a visual, a little
scene of you as a kid in a movie. I get a lot of

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information. I might not be able to get you there because now I'm
30 years into doing this with my spirit.
But I can get you to where you're hearing phrases and you're
hearing words and you're getting a flush in your body, whether it's
goosebumps or some kind of a signaling system that you
work out with your spirit. That's a yes. No. So when you're
standing at Whole Foods and you're like, I don't know which vitamin B to get,

(11:00):
do I get this one or that one? And your eye keeps getting drawn to one and that
bottle actually looks like it shimmers. That's your spirit going, that's the one for
you. That's the one you're gonna absorb the best. Right. So having
that ability to get guidance
247 from your spirit on any
topic, it's like it's a game changer for your life.
It's the ultimate hack.

Are there certain things that we can do to kind of tune into
our spirit spirit more on a daily basis
so that we kind of cut that noise and we're able to
fully tap in?

Yeah, there's you know, the, the thing
that people don't want to hear is the basic thing is silence and
stillness.

Right.

My favorite Buddhist quote is be still and know.
And you know, we're in a culture that, that
values busyness and productivity and
hyper speed and all that kind of thing. So it's feels so
counterintuitive to be quiet and still, but
just sitting quietly, even at your desk
for 30 seconds and saying, I'm going to take 30

(11:57):
seconds and I'm going to turn my attention inward and I'm going to first
notice how my body feels and where there's tension
and then I'm going to follow that tension. And I'm going to just ask my
body, what is that about? And people are shocked. They're like,
oh, my God, I actually got an answer right? And then
go into the center of your chest and like, what is the
predominant feeling I have right now? Not necessarily

(12:17):
the why, just what is the predominant feeling? And as you sit with it, the
why comes. So just having that level of
awareness, most people are like floating
heads, right? They're just all in their head all day, and their bodies
just used to carry their head around. And so to drop
down into yourself and tune into your experience
is so powerful. And there's. There's techniques I give
in the book that center you and align,

(12:40):
you with your spirit. And they take less than five minutes.
The Divine centering technique is one. And you can. People I
know will do that throughout the day. And they're like, oh, my gosh,
I'm so much more intuitive now. Even when I'm not meditating,
if I do that Divine centering technique, it takes a couple
minutes. Mm.

I know for me, when I've
gotten back into my meditation, which I have recently,
that the more that I meditate, the more
I'm getting these, aha, moments or
synchronicities or just this.
Like, just this week, actually, all of a sudden, I'm
like, you know what? I'm gonna start a sub stack. It's gonna be

(13:18):
midlifeology, and I'm gonna feature midlifeologist on
there. Like, all of them. I was like, where is this coming from? I was like, I'm just gonna. And I
don't even have time for it right now, but I'm like, I'm, going for it, you
know, But. But I do know the
power of that silence.
And. And for some people, too, I always say, like,
you know, you kind of find what works for you on meditation. If

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you can sit in silence, then
maybe try background music, or you can
do guided meditations. I actually listened to
your guided meditation earlier today, which was really.
On your website. You have a, few. Yeah, they're really good.

Thank you. There's a lot of. When you join my
email list, there's a free guided meditation to help you get
messages from your symptoms. And then there's also free
guided meditations on my website, because that's how I start. I mean,
as a lawyer with my busy mind, I bullet
meditation. When I started it made me grumpy instead of peaceful. I was
like, this is stupid meditation. Right?
And. And so it took me using guided

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meditations to calm and settle my mind enough
to be able to sit still and do it. So that's why I always have
free guided meditations, because they are so helpful.

They are, Yeah. I. When I first, learned how to do
meditation, it was when I was getting certified at the Chopra
center in. In Carlsbad. And
they would do it, like, where you would sit in a
room of, you know, a few hundred people in
silence for over an hour, two hours,
and I was dying because then

(14:47):
my stomach would start growling or I was like. Or
I wanted to clear my throat. I was like, what if I clear my throat and people
next to me get annoyed? And then it was just.
I. I could not stand it.
I mean, now I think I probably could
meditate in silence if I was just by
myself. But. But, you know, point is, you

(15:07):
do whatever works for you. I do like Joe Dispensa
meditations and things like that, you know, or my own.

But yeah, I think it. I think you have to customize it and make it
your own. And I. I always say that whether I'm teaching my
form of energy healing or meditation, it's
like, make it your own because you'll get guided
as to what's going to work best for you. Yes, but
I think that so often people also think
meditation is just about having no thoughts. And I'm like, yeah, that

(15:32):
happens a minute after you die. As long as you're alive, you're going to
produce thoughts. So just clearing up what
we're actually trying to achieve is really helpful. And
my style of meditation is really not about getting
quiet. It's about having the conversation with your spirit and moving
your energy to the place in your energy field and in your body
where you can actually hear your spirit. And

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that's the whole tickets.

So how does one know, like, that's
my spirit or. Or is that my
ego? Is that my. Just my random thoughts?
How do we know it's actually our spirits talking?

it's a brilliant question. There's a whole chapter devoted to that. But I'll
tell you that when. When our ego mind speaks, there's
fear behind it. Oh, remember to call that guy back. Oh, don't forget to get dog
food on the way home. I've got to do that, right? You can feel the urgency.
I always say it comes in like an arrow, and when it comes in
from your spirit, it floats into your body like a cloud,
because it is simply what is. So your

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spirit doesn't have an urgency for you to know something right
now. She's just like, by the way, this is true,
by the way.

She's like very chill.

She's like, hey, even if she's saying your job sucks.
Right. It's just, it's simply what is. So that's a
toxic work environment. You should leave. But she doesn't need
you to leave today. Right. So it's your ego mind that goes,
you have to quit right now. You have to do this. And also when a message
comes in from your ego mind, you tend to have
five or six thoughts right after. But if I quit, then, now this will happen.

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What if I don't have enough money in my savings? But if it's from your
spirit, it comes in as a complete feeling
and m. There's a softness to it. Right. So that's. And there's,
there's more detail, of course, in the book, but that's how you start distinguishing
how your spirit speaks to you versus your
ego. So when I'm channeling a person, like
if I'm channeling your spirit, she will sound similar, similar to

(17:15):
you, but softer because,
isn't present in the voice.
So it's. It sounds similar to your voice, but
just a little softer.

Yeah, I can relate to that. A quick
story. I, Before I started, or actually
it was right when I started on my RV journey across the country
and I went to have you been to 10,000 waves
in Santa Fe, New Mexico? Oh, you
gotta go. So cool. But anyways, I ended
up doing a ketamine journey, which I had never done

(17:47):
before. And I had one
particular thing that I was really seeking that I wanted
help with resolving within me. And
the. There was two big things that I
got out of that whole experience.
First of all, I had the most amazing chit
chat conversation with my spirit.

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and yeah, it was so cool. And just
like you said, she was like, hey, hey girl.
She's like, here's how it is.
She had said she was, you have got
to just get out of the way. I got this.
Like, trust me, I got this. We can do this.
Just get out of the way. Relax. And I got it.

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I was like, okay, all right,
have at it then. You know, and this was kind of like right before
I'd started the show, before I got into my writing and everything.
And it was just this. And you're so right, it was just this
nice. It was very comforting.
And I felt so, you know, just assured
that everything is going to be just fine.

Well, and I, and I always say that the messages from your
spirit Always have your central
nervous system relaxed when you hear it, even if it's the message
you don't want to hear. Even if you're like, yeah, I do need to quit this job, I do need to quit
this relationship. You're like, oh, crap, I do have to leave.
But there's still a softness in your body which feels
counterintuitive. Right. Which is how we can sometimes trust. Like,

(19:09):
oh, yeah, because there's. With it comes that knowledge
of the perfection of the whole situation.
Right.

Have you gotten messages in your past
that have been like, oh, shoot, I did not want
to hear that. That means I got to make a move on something.

Yeah, yeah. Ah. And I've heard messages
where, you know, if, if somebody has a
life threatening illness and they come to me, I, you know, I
invite them to email first and send a photo because I never want to
waste somebody's time or money. And, and, and so
I sometimes will look at a picture, connect with the
person's spirit and, and she'll say, I've already got my

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journey mapped out. Stay out and
honor that. And that is hard because people are, you know,
for some people, I'm like their last ditch. And I'm like, I'm not the
er. I'm not the place to come to get, you know, and
yet there's people that I really want to help or somebody
who comes to me and I can feel,
oh, they're, they're not able to get
pregnant because their husband's having an affair and they're going to find out.

(20:09):
Right. I'm like, oh, right. So.
And, and I just have to trust the perfection of the
process. And that client is now
happily married, adorable twins, love of her
life. It all worked out. But it's, but to have that faith
in the universe or if I'm asked to be
the bad guy and deliver the bad news, it's like,

(20:30):
yikes. But I just, I trust the
universe now because after 30 years of questioning it.
Yeah.

I mean, sometimes, right, it's hard to hear the truth.
It's hard to hear the truth from our own spirits. I mean,
I, when looking back in my own life, I,
I know Spirit Wendy
was like, girl, like, let's go. Like, get out of this
relationship.
Let's go. Like, what are you doing? Step into your power, you
know? And I'm like, yeah, yeah,

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well, and.

We'Re, and we're so afraid of change sometimes that we will
rationalize why we should stay where we are.

Right.

And, and then usually our spirits are pretty patient
into A point. You start getting symptomatic. First you get, you know,
the little bit of anxiety, then you get symptomatic.
Then you really get. The symptoms get louder and they're just knocking
louder and louder. And you know, and I always say,
how bad do you need the universe to make this before you,
before you acknowledge what's going on? Like, the universe will toss a

(21:25):
hand grenade into your work environment if you need it to. But let's,
let's leave before that.

Yeah, yeah, exactly. I know.

Take the 11th message and not make it go to message
20. Right. And right. That's us
acknowledging our fear and how we want to work through it.

Yeah. Because sometimes the spirit's just like, okay, I've
been telling you this. Let's. I mean, I've
had her raise her voice to me in the
kindest way, you know, trying to get my
attention.

I've had clients say, like, why would my spirit bring me
this thing? Why would she have, you know, this car
accident where I broke my leg? Or. And, and people's
spirits always say to me, I will always choose
the gentlest method possible. And when something,
quote, drastic happens, it's. It's
message number 100.

Yes.

Never out of the gate. How your spirit, your spirit ain't going to just
throw you off a cliff. That's never going to happen. It
is always like, well, I've been trying to get your attention about five
years about how toxic this marriage is. So
now notice that he never came to see you in the hospital and you're here by
yourself. now do you get the message? Right.

Yeah.

Has to go that way. But it is always a result of
usually years of your spirit trying to get your attention on
something.

Yeah. Let's talk a little bit about
embracing that struggle and those challenges
and using that towards our growth. Even if it's
something that our spirit says, hey, I need for you to get a divorce. You
should be getting a divorce. You should, you know, you, you should be
moving out of this career and into this business
that you've always dreame of and, embracing that

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struggle during those times.

Well, one of the things I've learned from the spirit world is that pain
always has a purpose.

Yeah.

And that the pain, the purpose might be
showing you the tenacity you have.

Right?

We all want to think of ourselves as resilient, but we don't want any of the things that
let us know we're resilient. I just want to be resilient with no
challenges ever.

So yeah, exactly.

So, you know, the, A lot of the times it's
just to let us see certain illnesses are there to build our
immune system. Not necessarily. If you get a cold, it isn't
always a message from your spirit. Sometimes I tune in for a
client and it's like, yeah, she actually needs her
immune system needs to kind of chew on this and
build up its resistance so that when she travels next

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month, she doesn't get everything that somebody has on the plane.
So your spirit is that proactive in bringing you
things so the pain has a purpose. It's. And when we
accept that, we ask questions from
a place of what I call spiritual humility
versus righteous indignation. And when clients come
in for a session, they're like, why did this happen? This is so
unfair. I mean, I had them thinking, oh, this is not how

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it's going to go. You're not going to get your. The smackdown of your
spirit. You think you are. And so,
so then, then they always leave going, oh,
okay. Kind of humble. Because their spirit's like, let me tell you
why we're doing it this way. Right. And list it out. And,
and that, that's a beautiful thing to witness.
Spirit had your back the whole time.
You got caught up in your victim story of it.

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Shouldn't have gone down this way.

Yeah, yeah.

Or somebody will say to me, why, why didn't you know I meditate
every day? Why didn't my spirit tell me my husband was cheating
and her spirit man go, oh, I did. You
chose to not see it because, hard for you to leave. And
now that you're ready to leave, now you see it like there's a
perfection. Right. And so part of the
purpose of all that pain is always about learning

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yourself, learning the signals from your spirit,
learning what being out of alignment feels like,
learning what lying to ourselves feels like. Learning what self
abandonment feels like. so that we course correct
that much faster. I won't say I never doubt the
universe, but I used to, like when I went through my divorce,
I was like, went on strike. I'm not talking to my spirit like,

(25:09):
you, you didn't tell me this was coming. I'm not talking. So for a week, I didn't talk to
her. She's like, all right, don't talk to me. Right? She ain't going anywhere. It
didn't hurt her at all. And so after I got
over my pity party, after a week of not talking to her, I sat down, she
was right there. Love it. You know? And then I felt like the toddler that I
had just been. And, and having that
understanding of ourselves of now if I get upset

(25:30):
about something that happens, you know, my neighbor's cat
gets hit by a car and I'm like, God, universe, that seems harsh.
I might be off for five minutes. And then I sit down and
go, okay, what may I know about this?

Yes.

Place of spiritual humility. And my spirit said
long ago, mastery isn't that you're always in this state
of. It's, ah, all beautiful and perfect. Right. You're going to have human
emotions. It's when you get off track, how quickly
do you come back and how do you elicit your
spirit's help to come back into that place
of alignment with the universe? Because that's so powerful to
know your way back plus two.

I mean, when you are so connected
and it just feels like a nice cup of
warm tea, like you know what it feels like, or sitting in a
nice warm bath, you know, and then when you're
out of that and you're not feeling.
Yes.

It's just like, a lone wildebeest out in the tundra.

Like, oh, my God, stand out here naked in the cold. You know,
I'm like, take me back to my spirit. And you're right,
though, too. It's like we all get busy. Like even you and I right
now, these book launches. It's like, we get busy, we're doing
stuff, and then I'll have those moments throughout the day. Or
I'm like, oh, I just want to sit and
hang out with my spirit. You know, go sit in

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meditation or do journaling or just.
Or just chill. I mean, like once, I think
once you really learn to
tap into your. Into your intuition,
into your spirit, it's just so
comforting that you, just want to stay
there. It's like, oh, then I could go back to those Deepak
days and sit there for two hours. You know, now that

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I know it.

Feels like, well, and I always say
nobody has your back. Like your spirit in relationships
as a health consultant, as a career consultant, like
24 7, she'll be like, hey, you know what? Here's a good
idea. Or, hey, you know, it would work better or you know, to have
that. It just means you're never alone again.

Right?

It never feels like I don't know what to do next.
I feel stuck or I feel adrift or I feel
scared that. That ability to get that
reassurance that isn't just fluff, not just,
oh, everything will be okay. You know, that your friends might, might say to
you in a situation, it's here's why it will be okay,
or here's how it will be okay, or here's the next best step for
you. So to have that sort of a working

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partnership all the time. That's
why in the subtitle I came up with this phrase, elevated
intelligence because.

Oh yes, I love that I meant to tell you that. I was like, oh,
that's genius. Elevated intelligence.

There's organic intelligence, which is our logical mind,
and then AI and then there's our elevated intelligence, which is
like the highest intelligence you can have, which is when you partner with
your spirit and she's giving you nudges throughout the
day. You know, I, ah, dumb
little things like what? We were going to go to a restaurant and I'm like, you know what, let's not
go to that one. Let's go to this other one. I sure enough, we drive past that first one and

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it was closed. Yeah, I don't know why. But
so little things where your spirit tries to save you time, tries
to make things easier, tries to connect you with the right people.

Yeah, I think. And
maybe someone else can relate to this. But, you know, years
ago, especially when I was going through all of my,
whatever, my midlife meltdown, that
I was almost like scared. I was scared of the truth and I
was scared of connecting with spirit. I
avoided it. and then one day there was
like the, the quote from Marianne Williamson. Our. Our

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deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that
we're powerful beyond measure. It is our light,
not our, darkness that most frightens us. And I
remember sitting at my desk,
I was miserable, like, I don't know, boohooing about something.
And I looked up and I had that quote sitting
above my laptop. And I thought, what if

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I did step into my light? You know, who
would I be and what would I have to do if I,
if I truly became. Because, you know, like, the
word authentic gets thrown around. Become your authentic
self. Become her true self. And I was like, what does that mean?
I don't even know. I don't even know my fake self. which I don't know,
but. But then I thought it was like, okay,

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yeah, I actually am scared of my light. And
so I think when we, when we embrace
our light, our strengths and our powers,
then it's like, oh my gosh. I mean, I got
goosebumps now. Then it's unstoppable
and stepping into your Light is becoming
buddies with your spirit and trusting that

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she's got you well.

And that's how you. That's how you tap into your destiny. Right? So when
you agree to, okay, now I'm going to step into my
light, it's like you're volunteering to step onto your path
consciousness rug there by a horse, right? But
being your path consciously. And what
I. And had I known you that day, I would have said,
let's go back and figure out when you were

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taught as a child to be afraid of your life.
And when clients find that it's the
teacher that shamed them for giving the right answer, too often,
it's the mom. Yesterday I had a client who said, oh, my
mom said basically to thread the needle of, like,
you have to be not showing off,
but I need you to be a high performer.

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And she was in third grade. I'm like, how do you navigate that? Right?
And she's like, I need you to get straight A's, but don't be thinking you're
too big for your britches. And she's like,
yeah, be good.

But not too good. Just don't show it. Or, yeah.

And of course, that's completely up to mom's discretion of
how you thread the needle that day. But
if we can trace that and we realize what the
fear is. So then we figured out, okay, her mom's
fear was that she would get too much
attention because the dad was a jealous type.
so then it became about, oh, what happens if you're

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sparkly? And then she realized
where that manifested in her life. And we just
turned it around in that one hour session. She came out, she's like, I
got it. I'm on. My light is on. I get it. I
don't have those fears. And they can drop away because you have to trace that
origin of them. And her spirit helped us, of course, and
gave me a lot of the answers. But that idea

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of, oh, that was a limiting belief that
somebody convinced me of, or a child's mind came up with
watching their parents have a fight one time, right? It doesn't even have to be that
somebody taught you. You can conclude things with all you
have to work with at age 5 or 6 or whatever age it was,
and we come up with these limiting beliefs, and then we don't even question them.
And they are these guardrails that get tighter and tighter and

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fascinating. It makes me think back too,
for me, because, and I, as a child, I
was. Claire, was it? Well, I still am, but very clear,

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sentient. Right when you feel.
So I wasn't so much clairvoyant as when
you can see.

Correct.

Yeah, I did have a little bit of that, but not
too much. But long story short,
I. Something had.
Something tragic had happened and I knew it was going to happen.
And I was only like 9 years old
and I knew it was about to happen. And sure enough,
five minutes later, it was proven true. And

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then from that point forward, I got very
terrified of my spirit because
of my, gut instinct and my hunches.
And so then I tried to, like, turn it off and
I tried to not listen to it for decades.

So your spirit is already
whispering in my ear that the reason you got afraid of it is
because you were worried you caused it.

Yes. Oh, yes, for sure. Yeah.

But that's a really big link because just knowing
things ahead of time can make you powerful. Right. In your
family, it's when they think that. But did
you cause it? And to A child's mind. It's. How
would I separate out if I caused it or if I just knew about it. Right.
And so the idea that you could possibly harm
others is what makes you suppress.

Yes, yes, I know.
I know. Poor little Wendy.
Poor thing. Gosh.

M. But your spirit said that that's when you learned
to be afraid of your power and its
potential to impact others. And when
you went through your midlife meltdown, as you say,
you decided that the power to help
others would cancel out any harm you
did, which still has a limiting aspect to it. So

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she wants to clean that up right now. Do you hear what she's saying?

Yes.

so what she's saying is it's not that the good is going to outweigh the
bad. It's that there never was any bad. your
power can't. You know, your power to
know and to observe things and to
feel what's happening in the energy around
you is never causative.
It's just noticing.

Yeah, Right.

And that expands people. It doesn't contract
or harm anyone. When you fully own
that, you'll expand out further and your abilities
will increase because you're
still hemming them in a little bit.

Yeah, I know.

All right. But just. You can listen to this. And then.
And when you. If you repeat some version of this or write
it into one sentence and stick it on your mirror, so you. Bathroom mirror. So
you see it every day or once you really get through to your subconscious
that there isn't the potential for you to harm anybody with
what, you know, perceive or intuit,
you'll open up even more.

I gotta. Yeah. That. I'm gonna have to absorb that a little bit.

Yeah.

It's so. It's so simple, but it's very
profound, very powerful.

We notice, like, how. How the child's mind,
in trying to be a good person and keep them safe and
their family safe, comes up with these limiting beliefs and how we
end up limiting our own power in. In trying
to, you know, do good. Right?

Yeah. Yeah. That's so
cool.
You know what, too? I mean, I was watching your
video on. I think it's your about page, and
you talked about relationships. Because,
as we know, I mean, relationships are huge
parts of our lives, and
our. A toxic relationship can make you

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extremely toxic.

Oh, yeah.

And can make you very sick. Can make your whole
life a mess.

Well, when most people, come to me originally
for. For chronic physical symptoms, they. They can't figure out
or can't get relief on, but they stay with me as clients over the
years for the relationship guidance. Because
the. The chronic symptoms are either about your
relationship with yourself, your relationship with the universe,
or your relationship with others.
That's. That's where it all stems from.

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So inevitably, we end up talking about relationships
and about the energy you have in relationships.
And so that it. It's inseparable.

Right.

Where we live, and it's how we get information about ourselves
and the world. And so having.
There's a relationship audit in the book where you can kind of audit
your relate different relationships to know which one is kind of
costing you the most and, which ones
drain you and why and that sort of thing so that
you can begin making different boundaries. It doesn't mean you have to cut those

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people out of your life, but you make boundaries that reflect
the energy expenditure. So m. You
sort of do a little bit of a balance sheet on the people you
spend the most time with and the people that. Sometimes people will do
that energy audit and go, oh, my God, I didn't realize how much
energy I'm still feeding to my sister every day. Right?
So then just whether in the form of worry or having

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conversations or whatever that is, or frustration from
years, you know, a grudge you can't put down. And then
cleaning that stuff up lets your energy return to
you, so you're more potent and powerful each day,
and you just feel better. Right. And your body is
just.

I mean, it's almost like a decluttering of,
toxic energy.

And it weighs.

Yeah, well, I was gonna say it just weighs you down. It's
so heavy.

Yeah. My spirit always uses an analogy of a backpack full of
rocks. And we all walk around with a backpack full of rocks, but some people got boulders
in there. And a good
session, whether it's with me or a therapist or whoever, is
taking one of those rocks out and looking at it
and understanding it to such a degree that it turns into a pebble. And
you put the pebble back as just here's an experience I had, right? so

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now it's this little tiny pebble in your backpack that you can easily talk
about. There's no weight to it really at all. It's just an
experience. And that's the work
I do every day or every week with my
spirit. I will sit in meditation and ask
questions like, what is it time for me to know?
Or what am I not seeing? Questions like
that that open me up to learning where I'm just

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showing up and trying to be humble and saying,
I know there's probably Some way I'm making my life harder than it needs to be, or
I'm torturing somebody I'm in relationship with because I'm not seeing something.
You know, how am I driving my kids crazy? Or whatever that is.
And having those questions is so helpful.
In every chapter in the book, there are sample,
like 10 sample questions to ask.

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So if you have a. In each chapter. So the first part of the book
is how to actually connect to your spirit and the step by step
process to do it. Second, two thirds of the book, I
call your relationship manual, because now your relationship
with your spirit, you want to be able to utilize it. And so
there's chapters on, like, the
toxic friend, the competitive friend, the labels

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you got from childhood. Like, each chapter are
things that we all deal with at some point.
And how to ask your spirit questions on that
topic and why your spirit will answer most
questions but won't answer some. M
M. How to ask questions where you're most likely to get an
answer. And then chapters on, like, how to interpret the
answers and how to distinguish between your ego

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voice and your spirit.

Do you typically ask the question to
yourself just sitting there in silence? Can you do it,
like, in a journal format?

Yeah, I mean, I typically throw the questions out there before I even
sit and meditate. So I put them all out
there in my head, you know, okay, spirit, these are the things I want to know. Either
journaling or just, you know, saying them in my head. And then I sit and
meditate and I just picture sort of opening up like a
satellite dish, like, whatever. Whichever of those questions you want to
answer, I'm open to hear whatever. M.

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And. And then seeing what, what comes to us,
right?

What if nothing comes? How do we stay,
hopeful that something will come eventually?

Yeah, I mean, it. It definitely takes practice, right? It's not.
It's not as hard and laborious as learning a foreign language,
but it's, It's. It definitely takes some learning
and some practice to hold your energy open enough. And I will say,
even when you don't hear anything, you're getting information.
Because if you don't hear anything, the first question thing,
you know, I teach this in group form, and people will say, well, I

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didn't hear anything. And I'm like, notice if you felt
contracted or open.
Notice the feelings that you had and what your energy
was doing. And from that they'll go, oh,
yeah, I was contracted. And then I had the thought, I'll be the
one person in this group that can't do It. And then I made that true.
Right. So there's learning even when you're not getting

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information, where it's like, oh, I'm always a
skeptic. And since I see myself that way, I'm of course the person that
took the longest to learn to hear somebody, you know, to hear my
spirit. So there's things that we learn about ourselves
not to make ourselves wrong. Just how do I get my own
way? How do I make it harder? Because I'm. It's too good to be true or
it's whatever. And, and there's times where I'll connect
and my spirit just lets me sit there and be peaceful because I've been

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running.

Yeah.

I'm like, aren't you gonna answer my question? She's like, eventually.
Fair enough.

Yeah. Ah, true. Like maybe, maybe that is the answer
in itself is that you just need to sit and chill out for a little bit.

Well, and we're such cerebral, you know, mental
being that we always think the answer has to be words
and understanding. And my spirit's like, sometimes
just sitting like, this is the healing. I'm like,
fair enough.

Yeah.
What's a typical session like with you?
So you'll, you do one on one sessions?

I do one on one sessions. They're not easy to get. I, I can,
Yeah, I know.

We're talking about that. Yeah.

I open them once a quarter and they sell out in like 15 minutes. But
I do get cancellations and I put them, throw them up on social
media and, and a lot of people get in with me that way. But
a private session is an hour and, and
the last 10 minutes we do, I do energy work, but the, the first
50 minutes, I asked people in the beginning, like, what are the
topics? What are the, what are your priorities? And,

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and then I turn it over to the person's spirit and
they'll. Sometimes they'll ask what seem like really weird
random questions, but they're always connected someone
like, they're with me. Your spirit's asking about where you went to
elementary school when you were nine. I don't know why, but. And then as she tells, she goes,
oh, I remember what happened. I was nine.

Right.

And then we're right there in it. So
we, we eventually usually cover most,
you know, everything that's asked, but it's looping
together so that the client starts to see those connections.
And that's what's important, so that you start noticing
the patterns. So even when you're not in session with me, you're like,
oh, I know that thing. I know when my shoulder

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hurts, it means I'm taking too much responsibility for my
dad's care. That's what that means. Right.
So when you can get the message in your symptom now, your spirit has
a shorthand she can use with you to go, hey, remember you're doing that thing again.

Yeah, right. Oh,
so good. Aren't you
glad you left? Being an attorney, I mean, ah, I.

Mean to witness people having that aha moment every
day is. I always say, if I won the lottery, my life will look
exactly the same. I would still do this work. It doesn't.
It just. I could not give it up. It's, it's so much
who I am and it's such an honor
to be able to do that and to teach other people to do energy
healing work and hear their spirit and

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have that ripple effect out. It's just, it's, it's such an
honor.

Well, yeah, like I said, it's really opening up their, their
eyes, their hearts, their mind and
just connecting. And sometimes it's like once
that's open and expanded, it's
ah, you can finally.

And what I love about it is when, when people have had a
session, I always say, you can't get that toothpaste back in the tube.
You.

Yes. Yeah.

You can't pretend that all these
symptoms are random things that just happened. Right.
I mean, if you step off the curb and sprain your ankle, that might be kind of
like, okay, that, that's what, that's just physiology. I get it. But
chronic symptoms, we know there's
a message there. And when we start partnering with
our body and our spirit, instead of seeing our body

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as the enemy, which, especially as women, we are trained in our culture
to see it as the enemy, you got to whip into shape because it sells all these
products. But when we can partner with our body
and basically be asking, oh, what are you trying to tell me?
How did I just miss something there? How am I making my life hard right
here? What shift can I make that will make me feel like ease
and flow? Now we start getting almost grateful

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for those symptoms and the empowerment we feel when we make
that shift and the symptom goes away?

Do most people come to you because of medical issues,
because of symptoms or disease? Did
they ever come to you just because of emotional issues?

Oh, yeah, I have a lot of people come with, with
physical stuff, but I have a lot of people come with relationship
questions. And I also now have more and more,
women Coming to me who are like corporate level,
CEO, C suite, who are coming in
recognizing their spirit as the best business
coach and career coach. And I have consultants that'll come in
like, okay, we're up for this $11 million contract.

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And their spirit will say, there's going to be six people in the room. And
it's actually the person sitting to the CEOs
left who's going to make the decision. And here are the phrases they're waiting to
hear. When you can get that specific of, guidance
from your spirit, people are hooked. And
that's why I wrote the book, because I can't get everybody
in. So I always say I want to put myself out of business by writing this

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book and have people be able to do it for themselves. And it
might take you some years to get, as proficient as I
am at it, but to be able to get that insight
about your kids, about your pets, about your, your
partner as well.

And that's all possible for all of us.

Absolutely. Absolutely. Yeah.

Gosh, is so good. what, so you
do one on one? Any, like group coaching? Not
coaching, but group healing.

I do group, I do group classes, both in
teaching people how to do the energy healing. And what's different
about my style of energy healing is that I have people start
hearing from the start, because the
universe is going to trust you with, to channel more healing
energy if you are listening to how the universe
says it. So the person comes to you, your friend says, can you put energy

(48:05):
in my shoulder? It really hurts. And I had a client today, my
shoulder's really hurting. I go, yeah, it's actually a problem with your neck. So
I'm actually going to put it there. Even though you think you want it in the shoulder, the problem
is, and here's the message that goes with
it, you keep pivoting like an owl and looking, looking,
looking over your shoulder because you don't trust the person you're in business with.
And she's like, oh, crap, that's right. And so as we
talked about it and we realized it wasn't

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because the person wasn't trustworthy. It was a pattern that her dad taught her.
And she really, felt into how trustworthy her partner was.
I saw her neck and her body like, settle down.
Then I was able to do energy work and move it. And it's just
done, right. It's not so she doesn't have to go to the
chiropractor every week like she's been doing for years. Right now it's Just
done. So to get that idea of
resolution. I love teaching that. That

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energy healing, those classes because
that's the ripple effect. Knowing that I'm putting other
healers out in the world who do the same m kind of work
and are able to channel and get those insights. I have a lot of
therapists and nurses and people who take
the classes and are then adding it to their
practice. Right. I have a cardiologist nurse who. Who uses it

(49:10):
now and gives energy to her patients in the hospital. And
it's just all of that is. Again, it's just an
honor to be a part of that journey.

So cool. Well, you know, and I know you know this, but it's
like we're 99 energy and only
maybe 1% matter. But we focus on the
matter and that's the. We focus on the energy.
That's where the healing occurs.

Yeah.

It's like getting to that deeper level.
Yes.

Energy and emotion travel together. So if you follow that
emotional trail like we did with you. Right, okay. When did that.
When did that belief start? Oh, that's a fear. Here's where the fear came from. Right,
yeah. That following that trail
is how we unwind it and then set ourselves free.

exactly. and that's how miracles occur.

Yes. Yeah. At that deeper level, the
universe is just the universe playing right to them. It's just like,
oh, this is fun. Let's do this. Right.

Yeah.

Because we believed in the stuckness before.

Yes. Who was the. Oh, gosh, Hopefully
I can remember her name. The author. She was with Hay
House.

Louise Hay.

No, there's one. An author with,
Hay House. More, Johnny, More.

Oh, yes.

She had all the tumor. Yes. Anita Moorjani.
Is that right? Yeah. And she had all the tumors and then just
miraculously they went. She just went
into the zone, into her spirit, into her soul.
And then all of. I mean, she was dying.
It was crazy.

Yeah. There are a couple stories of people like that. There was a guy
that used to be an executive at CBS, like in the 80s, and he was
like, given like two weeks to live because he had tumors throughout his whole
body. And he just. He. Norman Lear,
he.

Yes, yes.

Bring me every funny movie that I've ever loved. And he did
nothing but laugh. And he said he laughed his cancer away
because all of his tumors dissolved in like a couple months.
And that's all he did. Was he just. Anybody that was a
downer or there was afraid for him. He didn't want to see him.
Kept everything really positive and he's like, how can there be
this much fun and delight in the universe

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and cancer just, they don't go together. And
he just. It's.

Yeah, you become like an. Yeah, it's like
you become an energy snob. You know, like, be very
careful, like, about that. The energy you're putting
out, the energy that you're allowing to come in.

Yeah, I, I even think that's behind, like
in the Bible, like, be careful of the company you keep because.

Yes.

She's going to impact you so much.

Yeah. Your health, everything.
well, since we're at the end here, any more
insights on moi?

Okay.

If you want to, if you want to share. I mean, as long
as I'm not pregnant.

Yeah. You're not pregnant. You're not pregnant. You,
you mentioned that you're digest. You have
digestive stuff, and I feel like that's your, your weak area of
your body all the time. Yes. Okay, so,
so it. Do you relate it more to, oh, there's foods I
can't eat or my stomach is just tight or.
What's your most common symptom?

I do. I definitely think it's emotional. I know
that for sure. I don't think it's because of foods.
I would actually love for it to be foods, but I don't think it's
foods.

No, it's not.

But yeah, it's just a very, very sensitive and
unpredictable. It could be great for a few
days and then all of a sudden be like, wait, all I had was water. What's
wrong? You know, like just very back on and forth.

Okay, so I'm going to give you the, the simple statement that your spirit's
giving me, and then we can go into it a little more. The simple statement is
it's a manifestation, a physical manifestation of your
belief that you are often too much.

Oh, yes.

Okay, so now let me, let me just ask her for a little more
specifics on that. She
said your awareness is that you,
it's like you intrude energetically. If you picture
your energy, that your energy intrudes into other
people's energy sometimes. It's your
belief. I'm not saying that's what happens. And, and so

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because of that, you know, our stomach
area, our third chakra is there, and your, your stomach
area is where we store stress about how we see
ourselves and how we think other people see us. So when
you have worry that you are being a
bulldozer or snowplow of some sort,
then the stomach, the digestion gets compromised

(53:29):
and that chakra goes out of balance. You're so energetically
sensitive, you actually feel when the chakra goes out of balance. What you're
describing as tightness is a contraction that the stomach
does when the chakra first goes out of balance. M.
So even if you went to, you know, you're right, it's not
food. But even if you went to some food allergy guy and they're like, tested
yourself, they probably wouldn't find anything because what you're actually

(53:50):
feeling is the contraction of the muscles
in response to the energy being out of balance in your stomach,
chest wouldn't show. So you're right. It is
completely emotion and thought based or
triggered. And when you feel
like you're in your lane or
you're doing good and helping people, then your

(54:11):
digestion's fine. But anytime you worry you're
pushing too much, you're asking for too much, you're being too much
in some way. That's where that shows up there. Does
that resonate for you?

It resonates, yes. Yeah.

And so what I would do, what I
would recommend is what your spirit is showing me is a meditation that
I have people do for different reasons, but
where you picture yourself in a field and
there's a tree up ahead, and you go sit and lean against the
back of the tree and you picture your path like a lighted
sidewalk coming out in front of you. And then you take this thing

(54:46):
that you're thinking about doing, you picture it as a. As a
silver ball, and you hand it off to your spirit and you ask her
to place it. And if she places it on your path, you're all good.
And if she places it off your path, that means the universe
isn't supporting that. And it's going to. You're going to feel like you're climbing
Mount Everest by yourself. So once you
can feel that something is in your lane,

(55:06):
go for it. Don't have that fear and that
concern because it's. If it's something that the universe
is behind, it benefits everybody. Even if it makes them
uncomfortable, it's still benefiting them. Ah.

that's good.

Okay.

It makes me cry. I know. I was like, oh, well. And
brings me back to years ago, right, when
spirit, Wendy had said, just, I got this.
Like, just relax. I can, I can take care
of it. We, like, I mean, she literally told me, she's like, I guess
you do? Yeah, I have stuff to do here.
Like, you need to step aside.

What's happening was you're. She's saying your fears were Making you contract
to the point that you were going into some analysis paralysis. And
she's like, if you just stop doing that, I actually have the way
already paved. All you have to do is kind of ride it like a
surfer on the surfboard and it'll be fun.
But if you're trying to figure it all out ahead of time and
map it out and be strategic,

(55:59):
this is going to collapse because it's not going to
necessarily make logical sense. Right. So that's why she was saying, if you
could just go sit down over there. I got this. Because
you're kind of in the way.

Wendy, you actually are too much right now. You need to back off.

But the too much was too much fear.

Yes. Yeah, I know. Yeah, yeah.
And I mean, again, going back to the relationships
topic, a lot of this stuff all stems
from relationships.

people who think they're too much were told they were too much. They didn't
come up with that on their own. Right. And whether you were told that by, I
mean, I remember, like every report card as a kid talks too much.
Right. I was like,
I'm chatty, I got stuff to say. Right.
But so I got that message
frequently of, you're really intense and
you have a lot of energy and, you know, so it, we

(56:53):
get those messages and then we're like, okay, how can I
make up for the fact that I'm too much?
I'm too needy, I'm too high maintenance, I'm too picky and
whatever. And whether we become people pleaser or
shy or we shut down or we become angry and
resentful and defensive, whatever, the thing is, it's a
coping mechanism to those messages that we were given of how

(57:13):
we were too much. Right.
So when we can trace those patterns back of when did you start hearing
those messages or how did your child's mind conclude that
and heal those. God, it sets you
free.

Yeah, yeah.
You had said a term earlier, which is kind of a
new term for me personally, at least it was a
couple of years ago, was self abandonment.
And, you know, like, that was like my biggest,
fear since a child was abandonment.
And then I realized it took me,

(57:46):
you know, 50 years to
figure this out, but I was like, wait a second, Wendy, you're actually
abandoning yourself. You're fearing being
abandoned, but you are actually just abandoning yourself
by holding back.

Right. And another way to, to say that this may be
a little kinder to you is that from the time we were
little, we know we are heavily
dependent on the energy exchange from our
parents. Not only do they have to physically take care of
us, but that's why solitary confinement is such an effective
punishment, because we actually don't take
in quite enough energy each day to run our bodies.

(58:22):
So we need some of that difference is made up with food and the
energy contained within food. And the rest of it is made up with the
energy exchanges we do with other people. You and I are
exchanging energy right now, but it amplifies in the middle, and we both
walk away with more than we started with. So it can
be negative energy if we're both complaining about taxes or
something. Right. Or it can be positive energy. And the

(58:42):
people that we benefit from spending
time with are because we come out ahead.
And so from the time we're young, we don't want
to do anything that makes our parents shut down
energetically in disapproval and stop sending us loving
energy. So in an effort to not
be physically abandoned or energetically abandoned,

(59:03):
we will emotionally abandon our truth.
Yes. And that's where the pattern starts of,
I will emotionally and mentally
abandon what is true for me in order to stay
connected to the people I believe I need to have
in my life. Which, when you're a child, is absolutely true.
You were accurate to conclude that as a kid, problem is

(59:23):
because we never had it broken down for us like that. We never go back and
reexamine it. And I have people in their 60s and 70s
still trying to please their parents.

Yes, I know. M. But I can't.

I can't have my mom mad at me. And I'm like, she's
90. What's she gonna do?
You're not gonna get grounded.

It's not gonna sue you. It's not gonna happen.

But it's. Now it's just habitualized. It's
just this in. In ingrained fear
of. But I can't have that person upset or I can't have
my mom give me the silent treatment. I'm like, she calls and yells at you
every day. Anyway, I think selling train would be nice for a week. Yeah, I think we
go from that. So. But having
that understanding of, oh, here's the

(01:00:04):
message. I rightfully concluded as a
kid that I need these people in my life.
As an adult, particularly an adult connected to your
spirit, there's actually nobody you need in your life. There's
people you love and your kids, absolutely, you
love to have them, but there's no one you need
for survival in your life. And

(01:00:25):
that empowerment should be freeing and
allow you to then not abandon yourself.
Emotionally and, and stay whole
in your. And that's, to me, how you become your
authentic self.

>> Wendy Valentine (01:00:37):
Yes, exactly. I can see though,
just releasing these blocks for
people that. Oh my. It's so freeing, like you said,
and empowering. Your whole life can change in an
instant.

>> Christine Lang (01:00:50):
Yeah, it's. I mean, people that I've worked with
for, for years just say I go back
to, you know, see family that I haven't seen in seven or eight years
and they're like, people don't even recognize me.
How different they look because they just have so much less
fear and they carry themselves differently.
And there's a bright brightness that comes out of you
when you're not dimming your light anymore to get approval

(01:01:13):
and acceptance.

I know, I know. Yeah.
Oh, fascinating. This is awesome. I'm so glad I met
you. Yeah. Yeah. I'm
glad that everyone's getting to hear all this and they can
trust their own intuition and talk to their
spirit. I want to read your book. I need it.
Yeah.

Yeah.

so speaking of, how do we find you and how do we
get your awesome book?

You get the book anywhere. Amazon, Barnes, and
you can get on my website even. my website is christine
lang.org O R G and
you can find me on Everywhere, Instagram, Facebook,
YouTube, all the stuff. and
I like I said if I get cancellations, I post them
on Instagram and Facebook and they're usually gone

(01:01:58):
within a day but, but they come up a couple times a month.
So, and get on my email
list. I'm always amazed the people that get those sessions. So.

Yeah, and I mean, and you've got some great freebies on
there, the meditations freebies.

And I try to send out, you know, newsletters each month
that, that give free insights and stuff as well. And I
have lower priced classes that are like $25 that I
offer like once a quarter that are teaching people about their energy.
And there's a whole series of that called your energy matters, about how to
shield yourself and cleanse yourself energetically. And all
those are up on the website too. So.

Ah, you're doing good stuff.

Thank you. Thank you.

Thank you, Christine.

Oh, thanks for having me. What a fun conversation.

I know I could do this stuff all day long.

You know, you're in your zone.

I know. Everyone, have a great day.
Did this podcast inspire you? Challenge you,
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