291 💎 The Prism of Transformation with Laura Day

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>> Laura Day (00:00):
Your structure that creates your life is
done and dusted by the time you're seven years old.
That structure was very, very warped. I had a
lot of revision work that I needed to do.
But that is what the prism is. It's that you are not
stuck with what you were given. You are not
stuck with who you are. Because who you are

(00:21):
is actually just habitual. You know,
it's the parts that are uninvestigated. If
you want to change, there's a way to make it.

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welcome back to the Midlife Makeover Show. I'm your
host, Wendy Valentine and today is a great day
because it's Laura Day. I'm thrilled
to share this conversation with a true icon in the

(02:46):
world of intuition, transformation and
personal power. Laura is a New York
Times bestselling author, World Renowned teacher
and intuitive healer who has spent three, four
decades helping individuals and billion dollar
companies harness the power of intuition to reach
their goals. You've probably seen her featured
on Oprah. I did. Good Morning

(03:08):
America, the View, or in Forbes, Marie
Claire or People magazine. And today
she's here with us to dive into her brand new book,
the Prism, which I absolutely loved. It's
packed with mind blowing insights and I can't
wait to unpack them with her. In today's
episode, we're exploring how understanding the patterns
in your life can help you finally break free from

(03:30):
them. We'll talk about using challenges as
portals for change, how to shift your energy when
you feel stuck, and why vulnerability is actually
your greatest superpower. Whether you're
navigating a midlife shakeup like I did, or
just craving more alignment and meaning, this
episode is going to light you up from the inside out.

(03:51):
Please welcome the brilliant, intuitive and deeply
inspiring Laura Day to the show.

>> Laura Day (03:56):
What a lovely intro. Thank you.

Lights, camera, action.
So nice to meet you.

>> Laura Day (04:04):
same here.

I'm. I love that our, our spirits have, have met
each other. It's a beautiful thing.

>> Laura Day (04:10):
And we're like, we're both kind of in
exotic, fun places.
Yes, exactly. I'm in a hotel room in London at my
club. And you're.

Oh, yeah, we're probably on the same time zone too.

>> Laura Day (04:22):
No, one hour, I think.

Oh, one hour. We'll have to talk about time zones too. Remind me,
the other kind of time zones.
So what I would like to start with, I
thought about this this morning, that of
all the guests I've had on the show, there's one
thing that they've all had in common
and that they actually teach what they lived
and what they learned in their life.

(04:47):
And you, my dear, after reading your book,
you definitely have had a lot
to learn in the life that you lived. Like,
oh my gosh, I want to
read. There's one sentence, actually, there's two sentences. And if
my Kindle will wake up, but it's not going to wake
up, so never mind about that.

>> Laura Day (05:06):
I'm old school. Oh, you have your
page number. I'm like so old school,
I actually don't even have a Kindle. I do. It.
A book. I haven't, I haven't. Don't listen on
tape. It's all a book.

I know, I, you know. Oh, here it goes. Here
it goes. I got it, I got it. They say, like when the energies are really
strong, that electronics just go to kaput. So maybe that's
what happened. All right, here it is. I have been
raped, molested, abandoned, beaten,
hungry, shamed, criticized, and left alone.
Nothing that happened to me in the outside

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world compared to the fear I felt
in my childhood home. When I read that,
I was bawling like I, I.
All I could think about was little Laura
and what you experienced as
a child.
so let's start there because I know

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many people if they haven't heard your story, and I don't know if
you're tired telling it, but I want to hear it and I
know that they want to hear it. So take us back to little
Laura and what life was like for her.

>> Laura Day (06:12):
So one of the reasons that I wanted to write the Prism
is I'm really the sole survivor of my family. my
mother suicided, my brother suicided, my sister
suicided. And, our,
you know, from, I mean, actually I was going to say
from the outside, but that's not true because, you know,
neighbors always know. but my father was a
doctor and violent and

(06:35):
narcissistic, and my mother was
a manic depressive who was delightful and magical in
a manic phase, slept or attempted
suicide in her depressive phases. At
five, I lived in a completely
separate apartment with my three younger
siblings. You had to go out to a public hallway
and, and ring the doorbell, which of course we couldn't reach. So bang

(06:57):
on the door and if someone was home, they'd let
you in. And it was, you know, and if you got
locked out, by the way, it was tough luck because unless
someone heard you, you couldn't get back in because it was a rule the
doors were locked. But it also often found us in a
hallway. I, you know,
had to do things like heat bottles or change

(07:17):
diapers or deal with emergencies at
a really young age, which isn't
uncommon, in some communities.
But there are people who come before you
who show you how to do that. In my community,
which is an upper middle class community, it was
incredibly uncommon. And there were

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no people who came before for me
to mirror. like
most, and this is true of my siblings as well.
Like most children who don't have
protection, who don't have supervision, a
lot of violent things happened to us all.
and, you know, people would forget to, you know, leave

(07:58):
food. And we used to divvy up the
neighbors so we didn't all show up at one person's
house, at the same time. And
it was a really, and it was a confusing
life because I remember, you know, going to
the Society for the Protection of Cruelty
for Children was on my way home from

(08:19):
my private school. I took two buses. One
up Avenue and one across 23rd street
in. In New York City. And I stopped in and
I showed them bruises. And I said, I'm. I'm being
hurt. There's not, you know,
food in the house. I'm not, you know, it. It
was not an era. What era where you said, someone's

(08:39):
touching me inappropriately? Just didn't. It didn't even occur
to you to tell an outsider that?
Now, if this were happening now, that would have probably been the first thing
because I would have gotten their attention. And I think
probably because my, you
know, from. From a
socioeconomic perspective, it
wasn't people they were going to touch. My father was a doctor at

(09:01):
New York Hospital, Cornell.
I. That was really my life. And
the thing, you know, at a certain point,
and I'm very lucky because my brain
was. Was wired to be intruded on.
I have an intuitive brain, which means I
don't always know where I am as a human being

(09:22):
in time or space or even what I'm
experiencing physically, but I can,
you know, get information and move around. And it's
really a result of. Of a.
A not
functioning brain, not of a special, you know, special
in a good way brain. but the

(09:42):
prism really came to me and it
saved. It saved my life, although it didn't become a
part of me until much later.
Drove my vehicle without my
knowing what was driving it. And, And
after the death of my brother, after the suicide of my
brother, but before the suicide of my sister,

(10:03):
I really asked myself the question,
you know, why did I survive? I wasn't the smartest
or the prettiest or the strongest or the favor.
I wasn't. You know, there were a lot of
problems with my birth order, with being the first.
You know, there were a lot of extra burdens.
and I. I realized. And
intuition has a really interesting way of answering your

(10:26):
questions when you ask them. And
when I asked that question, the
prism was downloaded to me,
and I. So what had always
saved my life became. Came up
from kind of an amorphous unconsciousness
to consciousness. And then for 10 years, I

(10:46):
workshopped on thousands of people.
and, you know, workshopping something is wonderful because when something
comes through intuitively, the language is
not necessarily your language. that happened
to me with one of my books called the Circle where
it was downloaded. It's a very powerful
process, but I really hated the way

(11:07):
it was written. And then I, recorded the
audio, and I realized this was meant to be an
audio. This was not meant to be
written down. This was meant to be. Be something
where people were carried. Well, the prism
was downloaded and was this
amazing structure, but my students

(11:27):
helped me put it in a language that
people could use.

As Lady Gaga would say, you were born this way, right?

>> Laura Day (11:36):
I was born. I was born this way, but I was,
born. You know, I was born and then I was
beaten up a lot, which I think is true of a lot of people. So.
And my. My. How the world
formed me initially. You know, ego,
your structure that creates your life
is done and dusted by the time you're seven years old.

(11:57):
That structure was very, very warped. I had a
lot of revision work that I needed to
do. But that is what the prism is. It's that you
are not stuck with what you were given.
You are not stuck with who you are, because
who you are is actually just habitual, you know?

Hm.

>> Laura Day (12:14):
It's the parts that are uninvestigated. If you
want to change, there's a way to make it. And by
the way, every time you. I'm a completely
different person with my husband, for
example, who I've been with for 14 years, than I
was before him. That wasn't true in the first,
maybe one or two years because my, you know,
old habits are hard to break.

(12:38):
But certainly now, if I met the person
who met him, I would
almost not recognize her.

Yeah.
There was one thing that you said in your interview with
Oprah that I don't even know if you. If you noticed this, but
every single one of the guests that you had on that, they came in and
asked a question, each one of them, you told
them, do not give your power away.

>> Laura Day (13:02):
Interesting. I. That is not always
my message. Sometimes my message is, you know
what? You can't control this.
Like, realize you don't have power and,
like, dance to the music you're given. I. I
have a feeling that maybe
Oprah picked people,

(13:22):
like, just organically picked people
with that particular issue because.

They all were giving their power away. I kind of sense that,
too, and that really resonated with me. I feel
like I gave away my
power for decades. And
it's interesting. Yeah.

>> Laura Day (13:41):
Give away something you own, really?

Yeah.

>> Laura Day (13:43):
I mean, my. My guess would
be that you didn't know that that
was yours.

Yes.

>> Laura Day (13:51):
Decades. Or that it took decades to grow.
and now it belongs to you. And you can't
imagine being the person who did
that, you know, I can't imagine, frankly, I
can't imagine being some people I've been just
because I'm like, oh, my God, that was me. What a hot
mess. like I can imagine, you know,

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behaving in certain ways that I behaved like I
would. I know better now. but,
but that was what I had to work with at the time. And,
and one of the reasons that, that I write
self help is, is that the
answer is not inside of you. You,
you are held together by your habits, which were

(14:32):
predominantly formed before you had the intellect
to question them. You know, the
answer is outside of you. It's in therapy,
it's in self help, it's in a group,
it's in, you know, ah,
a concert where someone bumps into you and it
changes you. We need catalysts.

(14:53):
Whether they're human catalysts or whether they're
event catalysts or, you know, we need things
from outside of us because otherwise we keep doing the
same thing. Finding the same spouses, making
the same work mistakes, getting into the same arguments,
sabotaging us in the same way. You,
you're, you're in a loop.

Yes. I always say, if you want a new tomorrow, quit
repeating yesterday.

>> Laura Day (15:17):
But you can't. Yeah.

You know, or at least your habits of yesterday in
the same.

>> Laura Day (15:24):
And again, you can't, you cannot think outside
the box. You are the box.

Yes.

>> Laura Day (15:30):
You know, you need something to, to pierce
the box, and intuition does that.
Nothing does it better than community.

So explain to me, ego.
What? This was kind of mind blowing to me
because, there's been many retreats that I've been
to. What was all about being egoless? Get rid of your
ego. Ego's bad. Shoe. Shoe on the ego.
You know, I was like, but won't I just be a blob
sitting here?

>> Laura Day (15:58):
Right, Exactly. But that's, that's like the, the cults
that say, money's bad. Give it all to me.

Yeah, yeah.

>> Laura Day (16:03):
I mean, if someone tells you ego is bad, what they're saying is, give me
your power or give this very expensive process
your power. Because ego is the
framework of anything. It is the I
like. It's the difference between you,
and you're just being kind of part of everything
with no ability to take energy,

(16:24):
direct it, and create your body, create
your world, create your relationship. So any
sentence, I love, I have, I
hate, I object, I accept, I
empower, I share. I.
Your you is your ego.
And if you, you know, it's very interesting because there's a

(16:44):
real stress, especially in the
psychic Intuitive community, which people
lump together. I'm, I don't do my day job
is I predict the future for $4 billion
companies. And, you know, if I'm wrong, they'd fire
me. I mean, it's not about, you know, elevating their.
Whatever, you know, it's about bottom line. and I

(17:05):
like it because the only difference between psychic and psychotic
is that your information is right. Otherwise you're just seeing these
other people don't see. And they're meds for that.
Yeah, it's really, you know, it's
important to, to, to be
a human being. And when someone's an
ego, when people say, oh, wow, the
ego on that person, they're really talking about

(17:28):
ego damage.

Yes.

>> Laura Day (17:31):
You know, we're powerful. A damaged nuclear
reactor is a danger.

Right.

>> Laura Day (17:37):
But a functioning one can power a
country. you know, that is the same
thing with ego. A, damaged ego
is a scavenger, is dangerous because
we are powerful. No matter how powerless
you feel, you are powerful. So
a damaged ego is a danger. But

(17:57):
an attacked ego can create anything and can
create it easily. Because one
of the things I love about this process, and
I have such bad adhd, I have
such damaged neurology that I actually,
when I have a problem, I go to the ego center.
In the book, they just opened up to the third.

(18:19):
I go to the ego center in the book
and I do it myself because my
memory is so bad. And
you know, at my age, I always think dementia. It's not
dementia, it's add. I was like this at seven.
But I go and like, like I
go and I look and I say, okay, this is the

(18:40):
challenge. And now let me remind myself
how a healthy ego would do this
and then let me behave that way, which sometimes
takes a, hell of a lot of self restraint,
you know, because sometimes you just want to do raised
earth. You don't care if it makes more trouble. You don't. I mean, in
that moment, yes. You know, habit

(19:01):
is. Habits are hard. Reactivity is
hard. And so I really,
you know, life can be overwhelming
and. But a tiny change
changes everything. And, I have to go back to it
too.

So you've got. You have ego, and then there's
spirit. It's not that they're one.

>> Laura Day (19:23):
they are one, but they don't have the same function.
So ego, spirit is
God, is. Energy is our
oneness. So, and I kind of think of
it as the blob. It is us
without the potential to create, without
direction, without structure. It's Just

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energy. You know, energy before you put it through
wires and into a light. Doesn't turn anything
on. It doesn't do anything. It's just energy.
we give. Our ego gives energy
character. It. It gives energy a
relationship. It makes energy into a job, into
a business, into your body. So.

(20:03):
So there's our oneness. And
that oneness is so easy, and it's
so wonderful. Yeah. When we meditate, we
go back, you know, we go back to the womb.
We go back to that oneness where you didn't have to be
an I and you didn't live in a physical
reality. But that's

(20:24):
the hard work is in being an individual.
So from that oneness, instead of being
a hand, being a finger, and then having
to really use your
uniqueness in a way
that creates what you want
both inside of you and in the world around you. And

(20:45):
that's hard. You know, Oneness. You know,
the. What do they call it? The spiritual bypass. You
know, just kind of letting go of yourself and being
at one with everything. That takes no
effort.

Yeah, that's easy.

>> Laura Day (20:59):
Getting agreement, negotiating other
people, negotiating physical
realities. That really,
really takes a, certain amount of
evolution and intention. The
good news is we are. We are certainly
spiritual beings. You know, spirituality is regressive.
We all come from that energy. But.

(21:22):
But we also are.
We are individuals, each one of
us, and we can create. And I think that
the minute you're aware, and for me, it was
also an aha. I thought, I
am. This is what I am. This is a reality.
You know, this is a result of my trauma, this is

(21:42):
a result of my abilities, blah, blah, blah, blah,
blah, blah. Until I realized
that my world was right here and that right
over here was a whole different world.
And that the distance was like a
teeny, teeny
fraction, of a millimeter.

(22:04):
But I was incapable of making
that tiny shift. What you want
is right here.

I know.

>> Laura Day (22:12):
And so you just have to. You have to.

Yeah, it's still. That was a big
aha for me when I was reading the book. And I think that's
probably in the first chapter. I was like, I had to
sit there for a minute, kind of take it, and I'm still like, absorbing it
all. But I mean, as you know what an
atom is 99.9999 energy,
which leaves only
0.00001% matter.

(22:37):
And yes, the
99% is huge. Right. And
very. We very rarely will even
appreciate that.

>> Laura Day (22:47):
But the temperature is also energy.

Yeah, exactly.

>> Laura Day (22:51):
Has a different composition yeah, but then that.

That 1% is a really
powerful part. Like, that's.
That's. I feel like, to me,
I feel like it's kind of, creating within
myself, creating that harmony of
ego and spirit. And like, let's work together on
this. Like, let's do this together.

>> Laura Day (23:14):
But more than anything, is realizing
that you, you do have access to everything. I mean,
one of the things that keeps me honest
is the reality. As
an intuitive, as someone who
is employed to read what another
person's thinking or what's going to happen in the future

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or inside of a body, what is going wrong.
I mean, that is what I do for a job. And what it teaches
you is that we really all know
what we know. We all know it all. We all can
experience it all. But by the way,
having all the information does nothing
for you unless you do something with it. And

(23:56):
what the prism is about is do a tiny
thing. I mean, for Oprah, I wrote for her magazine,
I wrote this article about the, first time
I wore red. Because in my generation, I was
born in 1959, redheads did not
wear red. Hard and fast rule red.
Did not wear red. And I had never worn red.

(24:17):
And it was a bad moment in my life. And I went to the
store where I buy my clothes, and he handed me
a red dress, and I didn't have to have it altered. And the party
was like three days away. I said, great. I just took
was the least of my problems, what color dress I was going to wear or what
people would think of me. Wore the red dress.
My whole life changed that night because

(24:39):
I'm a navy blue person. Like this, which is
light pink, is wild for me. So
wearing red. People who notice
go getters
noticed me, approached me, approached me in a way
that I'm not usually approached, offered me
things. This is my own book party. It was a book party. I

(25:00):
forget even what book it was for. I think it was for how to rule the
world from your couch. And. But, you
know, completely, the
next morning, I had a different world. And.
And it was really just from wearing a
color. This one thing, one tiny thing.
You know, we're taught to make these. Life

(25:20):
is already overwhelming. So then when someone says,
oh, to be okay, you have to revamp your diet,
your exercise program, you have to think differently, you have to breathe differently,
you have to experience your life differently, you have to interact differently.
We. It's already overwhelming just getting
up, brushing your teeth, going to the bathroom and getting
dressed. You know, it's already so

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overwhelming that, that really what we do
is we keep ourselves stuck because frankly, it's much
easier to live in the past and the future because you don't have to do
anything. The present means you have to get off
your butt and you've got to do something. And that,
that is really scary stuff.

Yeah.
It's funny, there was one thing in your book, that you had that
I also have. I talk about the lotus effect
and the muck of, of life and, and
learning to love that mud.

>> Laura Day (26:10):
And I don't love the mud.

I don't eat. I love the mud.

>> Laura Day (26:13):
No, I don't love the mud. I know the mud exists for.
No, no lotus. I know the mud. You
have to get through the mud.

You gotta get through the mud.

>> Laura Day (26:21):
Has the tools buried in it that I need. But I
don't love the mud.

You don't love the mud, and I'm.

>> Laura Day (26:26):
Not going to love the mud.

Yes, but you'll get the lessons from the
mud.

>> Laura Day (26:32):
I'll get the tools from the mud?

Yeah.

>> Laura Day (26:34):
Lesson, like, I'm tired of learning lessons.
I will get the tools and I will use them. And the difference
between, 26 and
66 is
when I, when, when I see mud,
I don't, I don't wallow in it. I'm not a pig. I
don't like, roll around in it. No. I
reach in, I get the tool, I say, how

(26:57):
should I use this? And I use it. Or I
get outside input. Oh, I'm in the mud.
This is where I want to go. Because it all does.
Goals give us context. So this is what I want.
I'm in the mud. The mud would say, you're
crazy, girl. You are not going to get that. That is not going to happen
for you. I mean, when I wanted to be in Love, I

(27:18):
was 52 with a 17 year old and a,
legal battle, like there was, you know, not going to happen.
I didn't know the Internet existed and people even knew the
crazy job I did. Which doesn't help you in the, in
the, like, boyfriend market. nobody
wants a woman who can read their mind. except for my husband, thank
heavens. You know, but, but,

(27:39):
now when there's mud, it's like, okay, I am
getting out of this mud and into the shower. Where's the tool?
I'm not saying here. I'm not asking myself what's deeper.
Meaning, I don't want to know why. I don't want to
know what trauma led me. I don't even want to know whose fault it
is. I want the tool, the shower,
and to get on with it to my next problem.

(27:59):
Yeah, I always say,
you know, you're getting, you know, you're about to get exactly
what you want when you are lose interest
in it and you're obsessing about something else.

Mm.
Let's talk about ego centers, which, this was new to
me. I know chakras, but I never really connected
it like with the ego centers. So let's, let's talk
about that. And we got to make sure we, we teach them
what the chakras are.

>> Laura Day (28:26):
Yeah. So your body,
your prism, your structure, has an endocrine
system. It has really the different chemicals
that make different things work.
And what we call the chakras is
an very, very old system that I
did not invent. there, you know, there's so

(28:46):
many different systems that follow
these seven centers that follow the
endocrine system. So really that follow the
mechanics, the chemical mechanics of
your body. And, and
it's, it's actually extremely logical when
you look at it. Each of these

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parts that are, have a location in your body, but also
have a location in your life. And that's what chakras miss.
Each of these parts
actually are a part of
you and a part of your life. So for example,
your. I want to show you your solar plexus,
your diaphragm. Now what does a diaphragm do? It

(29:29):
takes in what's around, and then it, it
propels that oxygen through the body
and it gives you energy. Well,
that is also the, this
center that is responsible for manifesting
in your life. So that, that,
that we call it the third ego center.

(29:50):
But that. It's, it's your adrenaline,
it is your drive, literally your
drive. And it is
that, ah, higher level of drive, which. How do I, you know,
if I'm just running something over, I'm not going to
create anything. So you're born with drive, but then
you learn to cooperate with other people's drive so you can

(30:11):
get people on board. And a natural
result of that is manifestation, which
actually is a word I detest because
it's a word that means nothing. You know, we
magicalize these really simple
abilities. You know, you are all
absolutely powerful and magical.

(30:31):
But don't make it so complicated that it's something you think
you have to learn. You. This is a part of you.
So m. It makes sense that
adrenaline is drive,
your heart. And each center
also has a spiritual gift. And what I mean
by a spiritual gift is it's the Way we tap

(30:52):
in and utilize our oneness,
our oneness of energy, our oneness of resources.
Every, every center has
a way that we communicate
way beyond ourselves, that we can use that,
the power, that total power. It
also has a physical

(31:14):
ability. So the third ego
center is that physical
ability to use energy, to change energy,
and that is healing. How do we
use energy and then direct
it in a way that it creates a
desired result, which is what healing is.
Healing is another one of those mishmashy words that mean

(31:36):
nothing. You know, you never healed. You fix one
thing, you're on to the next thing. You know, it's
on to the next. We should call it onto the next problem power,
you know, onto the next challenge power.
Yeah. your, your fourth ego center is not, you know,
people think hard and love, but no, what is love really?
Love is value. You're born with a right to be

(31:58):
valued. And if you were appropriately valued at
birth and knew how to
then really be of
value, you know, because if you're valued, you
mirror that in your world, of
course, you create a natural dignity for yourself
where value is just bestowed on you. Or, you know, those people

(32:18):
who seem to do nothing, but they get everything and everyone
acknowledges them. That's a healthy fourth ego center.
This, the spiritual gift is
telepathy. Because your heart
has the strongest electrical charge in your body,
stronger than your brain. It beats a hundred
thousand times a day. So you are,

(32:39):
sending out the pattern of energy
that determines your world
a hundred thousand times
a day with every beat of your
heart. So it is really important
to work on that ego center. And often we need
to go back. If we weren't valued, and I mean

(33:00):
appropriately valued, sure, maybe I
was valued. I mean, I was. The way
my father made sure my mother wouldn't
leave him. He got her pregnant. I was born nine months after
their elopement. So her parents couldn't
rescue her, you know, because the Thorazine,
you know, when they. She got back on her meds, she certainly

(33:21):
wouldn't have married that man, and she certainly wouldn't have gotten
pregnant. But. So that's not value.
That's being of use. And that's something you
should choose. That's the, that's once you're
valuable, true value, you
look to be abuse, but, you
know, appropriate value is important for that development.
Now, what does it look like if you're injured at the fourth ego

(33:43):
center, you attract partners who, who
don't value you. They may value what you do
for them, what they can do to you, but they don't
value you. You may
be inadequately paid at your work
or, or work, in a situation
where you're value. Your dignity
is assaulted. There's so many

(34:05):
ways that, that, that that
old pattern gets
reenacted in your life until you do
something to change it. So, for example, if you. If
what you. One of the things you want is a raise. And I
love goals because again, goals structure, energy.
it's not about. You have to always do to do. It's up,

(34:26):
you know, if everything's unstructured, what it means is everyone else
is using it and you are not driving your own vehicle.
You want to drive your own vehicle.
So having those goals doesn't matter what they are.
It just matters that they matter to you. So having
those goals is. Is
really important.
And now my ADD has had me lose my train of thought,

(34:48):
so I will start speaking.

Well, it's a good thing I know what I was going to say next.

>> Laura Day (34:52):
Well, very good.

So with the chakras, what I found
fascinating is that I knew exactly right
away. I was like, I went right to the fourth and
right to the fifth. Those are my
challenging ego centers. The throat chakra
and then the heart chakra. And
what I'm wondering, though, for you.

>> Laura Day (35:13):
As much I would, by the way, now I think
people's own insight is the most important.

Yeah, that's what we're gonna say.

>> Laura Day (35:20):
But I would say that
I would go to your first and second. Yeah,
I. I think
that as much as you. And
I hope you edit after, because I don't want to say anything
that you can't edit out.

Oh, no, yeah, I never,

>> Laura Day (35:39):
But, you know, I think that really,
although these issues, that's how they
appear, the real issue is
how do I belong to a place I want to
belong to, not a place I'm tied down and stuck.
And how am I nourished and pleased and valued?
Not valued, because that is fourth. How am I

(36:01):
nourished there? How do I find
pleasure there? So how can I not be
trapped, but also not have my boundaries
invaded? Because I think you are
the master of making lemonade. But that's a very
tiring job.

Yes, I know.

>> Laura Day (36:19):
And so I think that you're a little
suspicious of the first ego center. Because, if I feel
like I belong here, then you can
trap my lack of boundaries, and then you can do me
actual harm. Because the second ego center, just
below the navel, is nourishment,
creativity, and abundance.

(36:39):
So you were born with a right to be Nourished and
for that nourish not to be nourishment, not to be poisoned,
not nourished by, you know, tinged with
depression or tinged with perfectionism
or tinged with violence, you know, or in my case, tinged
with Thorazine. You were born with the right to be
nourished. Of course, if you have

(36:59):
nourishment, you create something that is
adaptive with it and that naturally gives
you abundance in your life. I think
that your, when you have you
your experience of settling in is
then you are subject
to other people's unfair needs and demands

(37:20):
to which you cannot defend yourself. So
boundaries are the issue at the second ego center.

Yeah.

>> Laura Day (37:26):
So I would say, I would say although you
always believe yourself first, never, you know, don't give away your
power, but the first. And I
would say for you, I would want you to start
with the first egos. I'd like you to do it consecutively
because you're not going to let yourself
really create a firm foundation and a strong

(37:47):
relationship until
you feel that your foundation
is strong and that you have power
and that you can engage
without being poisoned by your lack of boundaries, without
being harmed by your lack of boundaries.
That would my, that is my sense. And you can

(38:08):
quite tell with somebody else if you need to know how,
where someone's injury is, if you just notice
where your attention goes on their body, it'll tell you.
You don't even have to think it. you just notice where are you drawn
to because that's always where
they're open. And in a sense sense, your prism,
your ego is supposed to have a certain amount

(38:28):
of containment. So if it's open, it's
vulnerable.

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It's interesting because when I. I went through all the
chakras and all the ego centers and
I answered all the questions like the yes and no,
like and yes one and two, I was
like, yes, yes, yes,
yes.

>> Laura Day (41:00):
That's true. But the fact that you did all of them, which are
not the instructions. I know, I know.
By the way, the perfectionism and
rigidity of the first ego center, it's what
makes the first ego center keep you
stuck so that already you define.
You know, it's so funny. people always

(41:20):
kind of pick something
random to be their sign about something,
but actually exactly what you do tells you
absolutely everything.

Yeah, it's. It's so helpful
though. And it really. It's opened my
eyes or opened my heart, open my,
my mind, my spirit, my ego, more
to, to really look deeper
and in ways I haven't had before. And
I've done tons of therapy since I was a child, but,

(41:52):
but this is different. And I haven't
quite. Haven't quite unlocked it all, which
is cool, which I even shared with you. I feel like there's
a quantum leap for me around the corner. And
sometimes for me it's just. It could be a book, it could
be someone I meet or something like that that
completely just whoop, opens it.
So it's. There's something there.

>> Laura Day (42:16):
You always need a catalyst. I mean, you know,
I say this all the time, but again, you can't. You cannot think
or act outside the box, outside your prism. You are
the box. You need a catalyst. You need
something from outside of you. And that's why, you know, the
prism is structured, kind of the opposite of most
self Help. Most self help is like, go

(42:36):
deeply into yourself. Find your
truth. The prism is like,
forget you. Forget what happened. Forget your truth.
Forget your patterns. Just what are your
goals? And now go and do one
tiny thing for a couple days. One teeny tiny thing.
Like wear a different color. and it tells you for different
results, what specific different step

(42:59):
to take. And they're really easy. And do
the one that doesn't resonate with you. Because if it resonates with
you, it's the old you do something where you say, wow, a
psychic did write this book. This is so weird. But
try it on. And that
will put you in the path of different
people and experiences. And then meeting them,

(43:19):
you have to change because
you're basically impacted.

Well, one thing, and I shared with you already, the three coins.
and it's funny because I could not find a permanent
marker here on the island. It's not like we have a lot of
stores and whatnot, but it's like to find certain
things. Like you're like, where's a permanent marker?
And so I just today found the permanent marker. But that was
something that I really was a

(43:45):
little different. Not different, but I was like, I'm not gonna carry
three coins around. And then I was like, okay, we're.

>> Laura Day (43:50):
Going to do it.

We're going to carry these three coins around. And I've been using them
a lot.

>> Laura Day (43:55):
More than I thought that I would. What she's talking about is
that you have to trick your brain into intuition.
Because if you ask yourself a question like, is this the right
man? all of your. Or will I ever be in love?
Or can I get a raise? Or. Ah. If you ask
yourself a question, your history comes
in your judgments. And history is not

(44:15):
destiny. Destiny, except in behavior. You know, in terms of
prediction, history actually is not that good.
So what the coins do is you write
three goals down and you number them, 1, 2, and
3. You pick one of your coins and you
do not look at it. And then
you. There's a very simple intuitive or

(44:36):
psychic, if you prefer, process where you just
notice what you notice. Where are you in time? Who's around you?
What's going on? What. What do you feel you need? You know, you
just kind of. And you document it because, you know, it's
really important. Mind is a messy place. You want to
document it whether it's on a voice note or you write it down.
And then you look at your information and you say,

(44:57):
what is this? What's this information saying to me
without having to force Yourself, you have to force yourself.
Then your information's too vague and you're just kind of
hedging. You don't. You won't let yourself do it quite
yet. Only then do you
look at what number, what goal are you getting
information about? And it is, we

(45:17):
do this on my Instagram Live. I
try to go on every day. And
we do this on my Instagram Live, everybody.
I pick a number so that people can read themselves,
and then we tag someone and we read that number, goal for them
before I even tell them what number. And
it's uncanny

(45:39):
how specific and accurate
the readings are. And because we have people
who have been doing this for
10 years with me, many of whom I've
never met, that's been the nice thing about being on book tours. I've actually
gotten to meet and hug these people. But,
Kelsey, you predicted this seven months ago, and it

(46:01):
happened exactly. Not me. I mean, random people in the
group. and it happened exactly the way,
you know, you said. Or. We've had
some pretty dramatic healings where. Where. Because
the first thing we do when we come on as a
group, and it's so powerful, and it's in the book,
but it's really powerful to do on a live

(46:21):
is we say, okay, you're your worst
healer because you avoid what you avoid. You're also your
first reader. You have no objectivity.
We can do that for each other. And
that really is the power in community.
And so we write
down our three goals. Most of us have them written down, but

(46:41):
newcomers write their three goals. And then
we just take a moment to be mindful, which, by
the way, is not meditation. It's just being in this point in
space time. It's being here now.
And then we work on the group.
We don't work on ourselves. We forget about ourselves.
We scroll through and we really

(47:03):
do a little bit of healing wish. Well,
you know, send energy of, what. What
the person wants. And how do we know? Because we
really do know. You know, you don't know, you know, but you know.
And by the end of the session
that we've had some really dramatic healings,
both physical healings, miraculous ones,

(47:25):
and life healings, where all of a
sudden, you know, something is resolved. And
we do. What we do is we do one ego
center as a group for a couple
weeks, and we go through all of them, and then we start
again. So, of course, people are their
individual ego centers they're working on. Some people
are having relationship problems. People are having money

(47:47):
troubles. You know, some People are having a physical
issue. They'll. And they'll work on that center, but we
work on one together so that. That. That particular
ego center becomes the leader
and becomes our unifying factor,
in the group.

What, what is the egocenter? That is your. Your
biggest challenge?

>> Laura Day (48:10):
I think my. There are two. My biggest
challenge. Your biggest challenge is usually also your
biggest gift. My biggest challenge is the
seventh, and the seventh is observation,
intellect, and intuition. Now, in
order to observe as a baby and a small child,
you have to have safety. Otherwise, you have to engage
intellect right away to survive and engage

(48:32):
intuition. So I am a very bad
observer. Like, I'll walk into a room
a hundred times, and I wouldn't be able to tell you
what color the room is, what's in the room. I'm a
terrible observer, which makes me make a lot
of mistakes when I'm not careful, because
I'm not in the moment, I'm in the future.

(48:53):
I'm not local, so I'm in someone else's
life. But I'm not a good observer.
And even though I consider myself
smart, I am not a particularly
intellectually curious person because I
didn't have the time to be able
to use that. I had to go right to intuition, to. There

(49:13):
just is. It's the answer. It's the right path to
survive. And it doesn't become a part of you. It kind of
drives your vehicle for you. So I would
say my biggest challenge is to observe,
is to be in this moment, not the future.
to act in my best interest in this
moment, not in someone else's best, you know, not

(49:34):
intuitively being someone else, but my best interest
in the moment and to
enjoy my mind. Because intellect,
when, when survival takes over intellect,
it becomes very reactive.
Very, very, you know, I can tell you
what the risk. I walk into a room, and I can tell you.
I can't tell you what color it is in a. You know, after I walk

(49:57):
out. But I can probably tell you the 20 biggest
risks. Slip risk, you know, earthquake
risk, flood risk. Like, I can, you know, and.
And so work working with that. Also, I
would say my third ego center. Because
I had to use my drive
so strongly and so
inappropriately to carry

(50:19):
people. I was too young to be carrying
that. Sometimes I think I
forget that it is. It, people
have a right to their illusions,
to their mistakes. It
is not my right to
direct things, even if it's for everybody's

(50:40):
good. It's not my right, and it's also
not my obligation. And so I think drive is
often where I'm doing the right thing. I'm
carrying the heavy load, I'm contributing more than my
fair share, and then I get a bullet for it
because it really,
it's not my right and it's not my responsibility. So

(51:00):
that drive, that third ego center is a hard one for me
too.

Yeah. One thing you had said, we all
are, we're a work in progress. Like, it's not like you arrive
and you're like, okay, I'm good to go. Like, there's always
work to be done and.
Yeah, and I think the number one thing is awareness.
Just having the awareness, like, okay, I'm a little
off here. Let me, let me dive into that

(51:25):
a little bit and, or not dive in.

>> Laura Day (51:28):
Let me find somebody who does, who does it
well, because there are some people
who don't need this book. There are some people
who had really good ego formation in the
first seven years of life. And those people
are resilient. It's not that bad things don't happen to
them, but they recover and they bounce

(51:48):
and it doesn't, it doesn't
overly rattle them. They're able to process it
because from
conception to age 7, they were
given that the first stage,
allowed to develop their autonomy in the second stage.
And they have, the strength and ability of the
third stage. There

(52:11):
are people like that and they're
really, they're incredible. And they don't always do
incredible things. They're usually peaceful,
contented people. which doesn't always
make those people who change the world. You know,
those of you who do feel
that you weren't given the

(52:32):
guidebook, to the world, to your own
self, that you weren't given, that you
actually become extraordinary
because of it, because you have no other choice.

Yeah.

>> Laura Day (52:45):
That's how you survive. Your pathology can
become your potential because that's where you have to put the work
in.

Yes. I love that. I know.
Yeah, it really, You know, again, going
back to some of the questions in the book about like you'd go through
like as a child, you know, were you nurtured?
Did you feel, feel loved? All of those questions during like
up until you're seven, basically. Right.
And some of those were like, okay, yes, yes. And

(53:12):
then at the same time I questioned
myself. Was it because, Because I think you even
mentioned this too, with your family. That's all
that you knew, like, that was.

>> Laura Day (53:23):
But that's all only, until you go into
the world at age 6 or 7.

Yeah.

>> Laura Day (53:29):
That is all you know, all you.

Know, like even if it's abnormal, it was normal.

>> Laura Day (53:33):
That's right. Your world is
your, is your, your world. You know,
there was a really interesting study
on children, in London actually during the second
World War. And some of the children were sent
to the countryside and had enough food
and weren't, you know, in bombings and

(53:54):
had really peaceful existence without their parents. They were
sent to the countryside and some of the children
stayed and bombed out food shortage,
war torn London with
their caretakers, with the people who birthed them or
raised them. And
the children, the young children who
stayed with their caretakers fared

(54:16):
better than the children who didn't have the so
called trauma of basically being in a war zone.
our caretakers are our world. And you
know, it's interesting, I see, I live in New
York, which is still a melting pot.
Please stay one.
and you know, people come from war
torn countries, ah, with really

(54:38):
secure children who can achieve.
Because until age 7, your
world or your caretakers. And if the eyes
looking at you say I see you, I
love you. A right to ah, be here. You are
safe, you are wanted, you are connected.
No matter what's going on outside.

(54:59):
Or even children who are born with
illnesses. You see the differences
between those who have good caretakers, not always parents.
Hm. Caretakers who are. I am here,
right here, here. I am your boundary. I am
your grounding. Because our caretakers are,
are our ego, are our structure. Until

(55:19):
we hit age 6 or 7 and have one
of our own.

The thing is too, I feel like in hearing your
story and with what you teach is
definitely saying the right words, but
proof that you can recover, that you can
move on and live a good life despite.
Despite a very challenging or because of
it. Yes, because.

>> Laura Day (55:45):
I am lucky to be alive. That's not something most of my
family chooses to be. But
my life is extraordinary
because I had to be
extraordinary in rare ways
to survive. Now I am
substandard in so many ways. You

(56:06):
know, my best friend said to me, at least look friendly
because, And he was right. Because I don't notice. Again,
back to observation. I don't
notice who's around me. So I,
I'm rude, I appear unfriendly just because I
don't know there are other people in the room. You know, I'm kind
of not there. I have,

(56:27):
I sometimes really, you know, have
trouble knowing what's appropriate to say because
I get such personal things about people.
So I can sometimes really be a bulldozer and
be harmful in ways I don't want to
be. I get lost a block from a home I've
had for 43 years because my spatial

(56:49):
sense, I'm good at remote viewing, but
my observation of where I am. So
I'm not functional in some very important
ways, and I'm extraordinary in others. But the wonderful
thing is, is we live in community.
And. And one of the things
that the prism and the.

(57:10):
The prior process that it comes from the circle helped
me do is find a
partner who is the other half of my
coin. You know, not, When people say, oh, I'm one.
I'm like, then you don't have a relationship because you can't have
if you're one. But he is literally,
you know, I'm the one who sees something on the street and it

(57:31):
engages right away and blows up and doesn't say, is that person armed? Is
that person. He's the one who says, take a
beat, punctuate, capitalize.
Is your spelling correct? You know, and,
ah, it. You know, we.
You. The people and the experiences
and the opportunities that make

(57:52):
you the whole. You want to be. Because, of course, we're always
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that are not functional for us.
Those people, those opportunities,
those support groups, those books,
they exist.

Yeah.

>> Laura Day (58:08):
And you have to enter in. You know,
I think I would say that my
most, dysfunctional trait
is that when I have a problem
in the past, not anymore, when I have a
problem, I isolate.
And I have learned that when I have a hangnail,

(58:29):
the entire world knows about it. Now, I've had
some really, you know, unpleasant things thrown at
me in the press. And,
I, You know, PR people say,
oh, we can get that at the bottom. Like, we can bury it. I'm
like, don't, don't. Because if I bury
something, then I have to, like, watch the grave site, you know,

(58:49):
change flowers in the pot. No, no,
have it. Let's. Let's have. Let's have all the mess out there.
Let me deal with it. And. And I think that,
you know, one of the things that happens so
much to people, and I see it on the Instagram Lives. I
see it on my website in the. In the comments,
is that people say, well, I don't remember what happened,

(59:11):
or, this trauma or my mother
did this. And it's like, stop looking
there. Your trauma is right here.
When you try to do something and you can't
accomplish it, your trauma
is that Thing that's in your way
and what you want to find isn't the trauma. The trauma
will find you. Don't worry about it. What you want to

(59:34):
find is the tool to deal with it
and move forward. And you do that by
moving forward, by having a goal,
putting one foot in front of the other, knowing that
there will be mud and the tools are in
it and a, shower is available,
although not always as soon as you need it

(59:54):
and moving through.
What is the can do? During COVID
I would say to my groups, because I was in London actually
during COVID and it's when I
really got into Instagram because people
would come on and they would share
resources, but I would say, yep, plenty. You can't
do. Yep. You can't go out. Yep. You can't do this.

(01:00:16):
Yep. You can't go to your job. Yep. What
can. What is the can do? There are
people who found the love of their lives during COVID
who went from a job they hated to a creative job they
loved during COVID that went from a
creative job that wasn't giving them any financial
support to actually a job, adult,
responsible job that was like, there are so many

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wonderful things that happened,
you know, not because everything happens for a reason.
I really hate that. And I don't believe that everything
doesn't happen. Yeah, the reason is you were injured
and so you meet that, that, that trauma in
your life. But everything doesn't happen for a
reason. However, once something happens,

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you need to be able, you need to deal with it in a way that
brings you to a better place. That's your job as a
human being. That's what the ego is for.
Egos have defenses, Egos have power.
And learning how to
operate that
incredibly powerful
nuclear power plant, that is you,

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is the job of being alive. And you know
you're doing it when your life reflects
what you want.

>> Wendy Valentine (01:01:28):
Totally agree. And I think, you know,
going back to what you were saying earlier about just kind of like
focusing on the trauma and
seven years ago when my life changed, I had realized
that's all I was doing was just focusing on all that was
like, boo hoo, what was me. And I was like trying to find all
the lessons and this and that. And finally I

(01:01:48):
was like, I gotta, I gotta go on. I got, I need to
move on in my life. Like I was holding
myself back basically. Like I had to get out
of my own way in order for me to.

>> Laura Day (01:01:59):
That's always the case.

Yes, it is.

>> Laura Day (01:02:01):
But you can't get out of your own way. Chances are
something out of the blue entered into
your life. A catalyst. Into your life.
And you know, sometimes catalysts are not. Are not
fun. You know, catalysts are,
you know, exhausting. Well, not just exhausting, but
are kind of in the moment, feel unfortunate.

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but you know, that that is what the prism is about.
It's our job to be resilient. It's our job
to find the next wonderful place. And that
is not. You know, none of this is
easy. And I really hate. it can be
immediate, but it's not easy.
It's letting go of a. You. You

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were that person once, kept you
alive no matter how dysfunctional it is.
That parent, I mean, I took care of my abusive
father for the last four years of his life.
That parent was your. That
person was your world when you were a child
like that. It is really. It is

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really hard to
change. And
when you do it in a tiny way, you
don't have to think about the change because it happens.
And then you can look back and say, oh,
I changed that. Wow.

I know. I love that question for you.
You had said that spirit cannot create
change, but only ego can.

>> Laura Day (01:03:30):
Right. Because all think of, you know,
gasoline is great, right?
But unless you have a vehicle that you put it in,
or a machine you put it in,
it's just liquid. and
we are the machine. The world is the machine.

Right.

>> Laura Day (01:03:48):
So. So if you think of absolutely
everything as spirit or energy, I think
they're so anonymous. Until
it has a form. It doesn't do
anything, it just is. And even if
you think of the concept of God,
God is omnipotent, omniscient and

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omnipresent. There's no change
in that.

Yeah.

>> Laura Day (01:04:13):
Spirit is the same. I mean, we use these terms, I
think often very synonymously.
The change. No matter how pathetic you may be
feeling today, and everyone has a pond
slime day, or a week or month, or
even years, but the
effort, the courage

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it takes to meet every day
and deal with it is what
changes Spirit, that
evolves energy. We are making the change.
M. And every single. Because we are
essentially one energy. Every
person's efforts are helping you.

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And your efforts, no matter how
insignificant you think they are, are helping
everyone.
You know, I often, I forget
someone asked me a question in an article
about, you know, there are all these quotes you have from
celebrities. You know, why is it that all
these celebrities are doing this? And

(01:05:15):
I'm like, no, it's because the quotes
from the House cleaners or the taxi drivers
don't make it on the COVID of the book.
You know, it's not,
you know,
people are people and situations, are situations
and we're all a celebrity in our own life

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and if you want that kind of
intrusion, go for it. You can have
that.

You know, it's amazing the impact that we can all have
with each other. I was thinking, well like the,
the word universe uni verse is
one song and it's like this, creating
this beautiful harmony and realizing that we're part of
this. It's fascinating.

>> Laura Day (01:06:00):
And the work is to, to
find a way to transform the dissonant notes
and doing that evolves all of us. I
mean, you know, sometimes
like I can be very
clumsy in social situations and

(01:06:21):
because I have very bad ADD
and not a lot of memory retention, I'm
not interesting dinner conversation unless we're talking, you
know, about you or about, you know, a very
intuitive subject. I mean, unless I'm going
into you and sometimes I get down on myself and
I think, oh, wow, you know, you, you're not good at this or

(01:06:41):
you didn't do this. And then I think, wait a sec, everyone else in
your family has killed themselves. You're alive. Go you
go. You, you know, that's my, that's
my starting point. Go you. And the rest is a
work in progress.

Yeah. Isn't it nice to get there?

>> Laura Day (01:06:57):
To just have that I'm there sometimes and
then. Yeah, I can't believe I said
that. Or I can't believe I can't do that. Or I can't
believe, you know, I mean it's,
it's, it's, you know, it's like when I write
1997 on a check, you know, it's like,
I know none of you write checks anymore, but I still write checks.
you know, it's like, oh, but, but then I

(01:07:19):
think, you know, no, there are, you
know, every interesting structure
has its hills and valleys.
And you know, even the, even a desert
flat, if you look at it has all these
variants and that's what we
are. And learning to you.
Learning to find your can do

(01:07:42):
and then apply it to what you can't do. So
you get that too. That's really
what, what growth is about.

So good. I'm going to be like thinking about this for
days. Laura Day,
you're so awesome. I appreciate you.

>> Laura Day (01:08:02):
And you're so awesome and, and that all the young people
say that. They say we, we appreciate you. And then
wait there's another one that my husband
noticed that when you enter a restaurant
now, they say something like, thank you for
joining. It's like, I forget what the phrase is that.
I love it. You know, one of the fun things about

(01:08:23):
Getting to be 66 is you hear a
language change. I remember. Yeah,
I remember. Rad. Oh,
they still.

I grew up in the 80s, so it's like I hang on to, like,
awesome and that.

>> Laura Day (01:08:36):
Yeah, awesome.

We need to bring some of those words back, right?

>> Laura Day (01:08:42):
Or maybe not.

Maybe not.

>> Laura Day (01:08:44):
Maybe not.

We create some of our own. Thank you so much. I
appreciate you. And how can we find you and
most importantly, find your book is so good.

>> Laura Day (01:08:54):
My book, I hope, is available wherever
books are sold. And please, you know,
reviews help get the message in the world.

I left you one today, by the way.

>> Laura Day (01:09:03):
Oh, my God. I cannot believe you did that.

I did it so much.

>> Laura Day (01:09:08):
I cannot believe that says everything about you.
Thank you so much.

Yes, it's my pleasure.
You know, I know how. I know how important they are.

>> Laura Day (01:09:16):
They're so, so important. But nobody thinks to. Even
people who care. They don't just don't think to do it. Also,
lar.com sign up for my
newsletter, because sometimes I'll arrive and I'm married to a
TV and screenwriter, so sometimes, like, we'll be in
Prague all of a sudden with a week's notice.
and I set up an event right away, and a lot
of them are free. I go on Instagram

(01:09:38):
live almost every day, depending on what time zone
I'm in, whenever I put lipstick stick on.
and we exchange readings. We exchange
healing. We do the prism together.
I answer your questions. Other people answer your
questions. Because, by the way, students are always
better than their teachers because they take your

(01:09:59):
work and they add themselves to it. So I have,
people on my lives who I would rather have
answer questions about the prism than you're asking me.
So there's so many ways to. And I have an
easy name. D A Y. I know.

How in the world did you get that domain? You must have bought it
decades ago.

>> Laura Day (01:10:18):
I married it and divorced it.
but I kept the name because I have a child. And.

Well, I mean, how did you. How in the world did you were able to get that
domain? Lauraday.com. i mean,
how in the world.

>> Laura Day (01:10:31):
Kismet, I guess. I guess it's so simple.
Nobody else wanted it, but it was
kismet. I also have practicalintuition.com, which is the
title of my first book. Yes. You know, it's
it. It's really, It's so funny. I. You know,
I guess people aren't as interested. Like, when I did
practical intuition, nobody even was the
words practical and intuition. Nobody put those words

(01:10:54):
together. You know, it was all purple dresses and crystal
balls and, you know, not, me. I
don't do purple. Or.

We don't do that.

>> Laura Day (01:11:02):
I don't.

We don't go there.

>> Laura Day (01:11:04):
We don't go there. We don't go.
I'm really excited about, like, visiting
Portugal. I know, but tell us quickly
about your book that's coming.

Oh, let's see. Well, probably all the listeners know,
women Waking up the Midlife Manifesto for
Passion, Purpose, and Play.

>> Laura Day (01:11:22):
Oh, wow. Wait. Let's open up our book so we
can use them.

I know. They're so colorful. I love. I love
all the colors.

>> Laura Day (01:11:30):
I'm really. And who's your publisher?

New World Library.

>> Laura Day (01:11:34):
Wow.

Eckhart Tolle's. That's Eckhart Tolle's publisher.

>> Laura Day (01:11:37):
So excited and deep.

Actually, you know, Deepak Chopra's first book, the Seven,
Spiritual Laws of Success, was with New World Library.

>> Laura Day (01:11:44):
I love Deepak. I think he's one of the most wonderful.
Rita and I have lunch about every two months, and
I think he is really one of the most
wonderful healers and presences, as is his wife
Rita and his wonderful children.

he's a hoot.

>> Laura Day (01:12:01):
He's wonderful. He's really something. Well, I can't wait
to have you on as a guest. I hope you'll come on.

Oh, gosh, yes, of course I will.

>> Laura Day (01:12:09):
We do it in our pajamas. Like, I just.

Oh, well, that's good, because
I would love that. That would be awesome. I'm not even wearing pants right now,
actually. I'm just have my shirt on.

>> Laura Day (01:12:19):
I'm wearing jeans. I can prove it. There we go.

And my skirt.

>> Laura Day (01:12:22):
Oh, yeah. Perfect.

Thank you so much, Laura. You're awesome.

>> Laura Day (01:12:27):
Thank you.

Again with the awesome. And you're totally rad.
Thank you, everybody. Hey, everyone. Have a great day.
Did this podcast inspire you? Challenge you,
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