Episode 6: Understanding Power Dynamics and Healing Through Consent and Restorative Justice

"In just a few minutes, the experience of receiving what you want can break your heart open and show you that your desires matter." — Betty Martin

 

Episode Summary In this enlightening conversation, Betty Martin shares her insights into the intersection of power, consent, and empowerment. The discussion explores The Wheel of Consent®, a model that fosters mutual understanding and respect for boundaries in both personal and professional contexts. Betty reflects on her personal journey with Right Use of Power™, revealing how it integrates with her work. She discusses the significance of understanding different types of power, the nuances of giving and receiving, and the importance of taking responsibility for one’s actions and desires. This conversation illustrates how such practices extend beyond intimacy and touch, offering tools for personal growth and responsible engagement in all relationships.

Time Stamps:

00:00 Introduction to the Conversation

00:15 Discovering the Right Use of Power

03:02 Exploring the Wheel of Consent

04:35 The Practice and Impact of Receiving

06:32 Unpacking Giving and Receiving Dynamics

11:43 Personal Power and Responsibility

16:59 Navigating Role Power and Personal Power

23:46 The Interplay of Power and Responsibility

25:37 Exploring Power and Responsibility Dynamics

26:06 The Emotional Labor of Power Differentials

26:57 Consent and Power: Navigating Complexities

28:32 The Impact of Power Dynamics in Relationships

31:46 Misuse of Power: Underuse as a Form of Misuse

32:52 The Bystander Phenomenon and Collective Power

34:23 Spiritual Leadership and Power Vulnerabilities

37:23 Addressing Misuse of Power and Restorative Justice

43:39 Personal Power and the Wheel of Consent

48:03 Reparenting Through Experiential Learning

48:36 Closing Thoughts on Power Dynamics and Personal Growth

About Our Guest:

Betty Martin is the originator of the Wheel of Consent and co-founder of the School of Consent, where she has trained facilitators and educators around the world in consent, boundaries, and embodied communication. With a background in chiropractic care, body-mind integration, and intimacy coaching, she brings decades of experience in group facilitation, somatic practice, and peer-led learning. Betty now focuses on mentoring practitioners and contributing to professional trainings, continuing her lifelong work of helping people feel at home in their own skin.

Resources & Links:

• The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin  https://www.wheelofconsent.org/free-resources

• The Art of Receiving and Giving by Betty Martin and Robyn Dalzen

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Credits

• Host: Dr. Amanda Aguilera
• Music by: Future Makers by Styve Bolduc