Are You Stuck in the Healing Trap and Ready to Start Over? with Jacks O'Hare

On this episode of The Soul Mirror, host Shreya sits down with life and wellness coach Jacks O'Hare to unpack what she calls the healing trap . that exhausting cycle of doing all the “right” things on your healing journey yet still feeling empty, burned out and disconnected.

Jacks breaks down how constant self-optimization can quietly become avoidance. She shares how walking away from a 20 year restaurant career, identity collapse and deep burnout forced her to get radically honest, rebuild self trust and start over in a grounded way.

If you have been journaling, meditating and “working on yourself” nonstop yet your actual life still feels misaligned, this conversation will challenge you to stop performing healing and start actually living again in your real world.

 

About the Guest:

Jacks O'Hare is a life and wellness coach who supports women who feel stuck in permanent recovery mode. After two decades in the restaurant industry, chronic burnout and total disconnection from herself, she chose to leave a familiar identity, rebuild from the inside out and create a more embodied life. Through her work and her program Wildly Free, she helps women release over-functioning, rebuild self trust and design lives that feel emotionally honest, sustainable and truly their own.

 

Key Takeaways  :

• The healing trap is being in constant “doing mode” . therapy, journaling, EFT, steps, routines . while still feeling empty and disconnected from yourself.

• Healing stops being expansion and becomes avoidance when your schedule is full of practices, yet you are not grounded in your own body, truth or actual life.

• Jacks' turning point came when she realized it was harder to stay in a toxic, misaligned restaurant career than to leap into the unknown and start over.

• Real self trust returns when decisions feel clear and intuitive, not overthought, anxious or driven by other people’s approval.

• Embodied living is when your mind, body and choices line up . you notice stress and burnout signals in your body and use small daily practices to realign.

• Tiny consistent promises to yourself . like one honest journal sentence each morning . rebuild self trust far better than dramatic reinvention.

• Growth does not require blowing up your whole life. Sustainable change comes from honest awareness, baby steps and dropping the need to “perform” an identity.

• Grief is a core part of starting over. You must mourn lost time, old roles and the identity you hid behind in order to fully inhabit who you are now.

 

Connect with Jacks O'Hare  :

Listeners can connect with Jack and learn more about her work here.

• Website: https://highvibescollective.co/ 

• Instagram. @liveawildlyfreelife

 

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