Why 70% of Mothers Tie Their Worth to Achievement (And How to Stop)

This episode is one I've been sitting with for a while, and I knew it was time to have this conversation with you.

We're talking about self-worth – but not in a superficial way.

I'm talking about the deep, often confronting truth that so many of us as mothers, particularly those of us raising children with disabilities or additional needs, have quietly handed our value over to everyone and everything else. Our achievements. Our children's progress. Our appearance. The approval of therapists, educators, family members.

And somewhere in all of that giving, we've completely lost sight of who we are.

Here's what the research tells us: 70% of women tie their self-worth to achievement and the approval of others. When those external measures shift – when our bodies change, when our child's diagnosis arrives, when we're no longer producing or achieving in the ways we once did – our sense of value can collapse with it. We've been measuring ourselves against the wrong standards, and it's absolutely exhausting.

In this episode, I walk you through the difference between your true self and your performed self, why belonging built on imitation is actually bondage, how to identify whose approval you've been chasing, and why your worth was never lost – it's simply been waiting for you to remember it. Because here's the truth I need you to hear: you are not your productivity, you're not your child's behaviour or progress, you're not your relationship status, and you're certainly not defined by how well you're managing in the eyes of others.

This is for every mother who has whispered "what happened to me?" in the quiet moments. It's time to remember who you are.

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