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You’ve spent your whole life being “the strong one”—the dependable one, the one who holds everything together. It earned you love, safety, and belonging. But what if that strength isn’t really strength at all—what if it’s a trauma response rooted in fear of abandonment and performance?
In this powerful episode, Janice Holland (Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and host of The Trauma Teacher) reveals how the “strong one” identity keeps high-functioning people stuck in survival mode, disconnected from their needs, and trapped in exhaustion.
You’ll learn how this performance-based identity forms, the hidden emotional and physical toll it takes, and how to begin shifting from performing to being—so you can finally feel peace, joy, and connection in your life again. _________________________________________________________________Ready to go Deeper?
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⏱ Chapter Timestamps
00:00 – The Truth About Being Strong
00:20 – How This Role Forms
02:00 – Why Changing Feels So Scary
03:30 – The Hidden Costs
05:00 – The Body Impact How chronic stress and over-functioning break down your nervous system and immune system.
06:30 – The Fear of Disappointing Others
08:30 – What Real Strength Looks Like
09:30 – The Next Step How this “strength” quietly morphs into the addiction of people-pleasing. _________________________________________________________________Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher
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