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You’ve been taught that saying *yes* keeps people close. That giving more means loving more. But here’s the truth: over-giving isn’t love—it’s self-abandonment. And instead of creating closeness, it destroys intimacy.
In this episode, Janice Holland calls out the myth that constant giving is virtue. You’ll discover why saying yes all the time is actually manipulation, how “performance service” masquerades as selflessness, and why true intimacy only comes from boundaries.
⚡ Inside this episode:
- The hidden manipulation behind saying yes.
- The real cost of over-giving: resentment, loneliness, and illness.
- How faith and values get misused to justify self-abandonment.
- The difference between authentic service and performance service.
- Why boundaries aren’t walls—they’re the gateway to connection.
- One simple boundary you can start practicing today.
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