October 22, 2024 • 35 mins
In this episode of the Understanding the Science of You podcast, Graham Skidmore dives deep into the importance of challenging the status quo. He reflects on personal growth, the power of self-guided choices, and the necessity of embracing change in a conformist world.
Graham shares his insights on individuality, neurodiversity, and the journey of self-discovery, emphasizing the need for empathy and understanding in today's society.
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Welcome to a special edition ofunderstanding the science of you
where, I guess I'm calling it aspecial edition, because, you
know, we're going to go in, youknow, in a different direction,
right? I mean, in order forchange to occur, then, you know,
you got to challenge somethings, right? And I think
that's what a lot of theseconversations have led up to and
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not led up to have been allabout right is challenging the
status quo, challenging what wethought we knew, challenging
what we thought we knew aboutourselves, challenging what we
thought, how we thought peoplewould react when we came out as
ourselves and the fear and thenrealizing being embraced. Take
your pick.
I want to challenge. I want topush some boundaries a little
bit here. Let's have a littlefun, right? Because let's I mean
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that. Let's face it, right, ifyou're listening to me, my guess
is it's not because you're, youknow, looking for, for, for the
status quo, where you're lookingto, you know, have some
traditional thoughts or ideas,reinforced - it's because you're
looking for some differentthoughts and perspectives,
right? Or, you know, somethingalong those lines. And so this
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is my first attempt here atgoing down one of these.
And so with that said, On thisepisode, I want to focus on
productively challenging thestatus quo, right? Because
there's you know, challenge.When I talk about challenging
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the status quo before you know,stuff gets taken out of context,
because there I definitely have,and I say that because I know
that I have a very rebelliousstreak, right? And I'm
absolutely, you know, talkingabout starting a movement to
create change. And sochallenging the status quo, to
me, though, is much more of amental game than it is a
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physical game. And challengingthe status quo, you know, is
just about and to me, is muchmore; it is much more powerful
to lead by example, todemonstrate what's possible than
it is to talk or to complain orto shout at people. There's no
value in that, right? If youwant my attention, it's pretty
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simple. Show me something that Iwant. Show me a personality
trait, show me a thoughtprocess, a philosophy. Show me
something of interest, right?You know, and then we can talk.
Anyway.
I want to talk aboutproductively challenging the
status quo, you know, for thesake of evolution and all right?
And so there's a couple ofthings -- beliefs that underpin
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a lot of what I'm doing here onthis podcast, the next,
subsequent seasons, other workthat I'm excited to talk about.
And that's the one is therefusal to believe that this is
as good as it gets. It doesn'tmatter what it is, right? It's
just, why do I want to thinkthat anything is as good as it
gets around me, because thatmeans anything else from here on
out is downhill. That doesn'tsound very fun and exciting to
look forward to. No, I alwayswant to believe things can get
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better, right? And so that'spoint number one. The second
part is that, you know, astechnology and AI and everything
else starts to take more andmore of a forefront, is that I
refuse to believe that humanpotential is inferior to the
potential of technology. And soand also, then, when I say as
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good as it gets, in this contextfor this episode, a simple way
to think about happiness, right?Because, I guess goodness, as
good as it gets, happiness, I'mkind of making that bridge
there, right? So a simple wayfor me to think about happiness
is living a life of self guidedchoices while maintaining, while
being able to maintain love forself, you know, and others in
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your surroundings.
But how can one fully live alife of self guided choices, if
one, they aren't aware of allthe choices available to them.
Two, if the system that there'sthat they're operating within is
resulting and rewardingconformity compared to valuing
individuality. Or three, if theyaren't receiving the
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accommodations to be their mostproductive selves. And so I
believe that the human potentialis near limitless, and that AI
should be used to enable variousforms of individualized
accommodations, right? And so Iwould say that reaching the
human potential encompassesscience, technology and
spirituality. And you know, foragain, in this context, I'm
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defining spirituality asencompassing our philosophical,
mystical and magical sides. And,you know, I'm also speaking, I
think, more to those, andassuming that, if you're
listening right, it's becauseyou prefer to be more self
sufficient than dependent onhierarchical system, right? And
so a foundational item inreaching the human potential is
thinking for yourself, being in,you know, being comfortable and
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confident in your own skin, andso, you know, like anything,
what I would suggest that, as Igo into is, I, you know,
challenge the status quo. Takewhat resonates with you, leave
what doesn't. Because it's notso much about how much you take
or what you take. Is that, asmuch as is, it sparks curiosity
and opens up new areas ofinterest in the world or for
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yourself that you want toexplore.
So where do we want to startwith? What we're going to
challenge? Let's start with whatscience has or is not proven
regarding, ESP, or abilitiesbeyond the traditional five
senses, right? So one of thethings of it, when I look at the
tests and other things, and, youknow, compare this to my own
experience and many others thatI talk about, and they'll say,
Well, we couldn't get enoughpeople to validate this. We
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couldn't get this to happen.Couldn't get essentially, what
the challenge becomes istypically about consensus,
right? And so I totallyunderstand that approach, the
thing that I would the piece ofinformation that I would want to
inject into that conversation,is to say, look, instead of
thinking about, you know,somebody having, ESP or the
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traditional five senses as thisuniform abilities of everybody
doing the same thing, thinkabout it more as athleticism,
right? Where everyone's gottheir own different unique
skills and abilities that fallwithin the realms of being
athletic. Let's talk aboutbasketball. Is somebody a good
basketball player only if theycan shoot three pointers? Is
somebody a good basketballplayer only if they can dunk a
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basketball? Is somebody only agood basketball player if they
have a high free throwpercentage?
Or are they a good basketballplayer based on and how they
perform all of those differentthings? And so psychism is the
same way, and it is just asindividualized, right? And so
the way that the tests that arebeing done, I would say, is, it
would be, is very similar tomaking a decision about how good
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a basketball player somebody isbased on their ability to
perform at one position, andthen judging everybody else's
abilities as a basketball playeron that same position as well.
would be one piece ofinformation. The next piece of
information is also, then alsothink about is, well, why does
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this exist? Well, it exists tohelp, as, you know, a guided
journey. Many people want tolook at AI and to create the
form of assistant or friend,access to information. Kind of
go around with them. Well, youknow, many people in the, you
know, in the spiritualcommunity, would would describe
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their relationship with theirspirit guides or their higher
self, whatever, right, very, youknow, similar to those same
things. And so that means it'salso then for a personalized
experience. We wonder and say,Okay, well, this gets down the
road of, hey, why are we hereand things like that. So I'm not
going to go too much down thatroad. But if we, if you do,
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believe that there is anintelligent design, doesn't
necessarily mean it's tied intoreligion, whatever else, right,
just that there's intelligencethat created and governs and
keeps the stuff together.Natural laws are an example of
that. Then, in order tonavigate, one would be provided.
You know, self sufficiency, asopposed having to rely on on
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others, right? And so if onethinks of it as these types of
different abilities, as adecision that one makes and how
they choose to navigate thislife experience, well now, well
now, when you start to to try tounderstand things from a much
more individualized as well asexperiential perspective and as
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well as contextual, now youstart to really open up and
understand that aspect ofhumanity much more differently.
And I can also tell you becausefrom my perspective, one of the
I spent 40 What do you call it?44 ish, 45 years of my life,
that if anybody would have toldme that I had anything more than
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the traditional five senses,which I would have told them
crazy. I don't believe in thatstuff. What are you talking
about? You know, get away fromme, literally. Ironically, like
one of the like in many things Ifound out, the things that I've
swore no way crazy, turned outto be some of my biggest truths.
And so it turns out, one of theways that I learned how to be at
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peace with myself is recognizingthat I'm actually extremely
gifted, sensitive and things.And so when I didn't know that
about myself, it was absolutelyinformation overload,
constantly, but once Iunderstood those things about
myself and how to work withthem, you know, etc. Then, you
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know, I was able to now go frominformation overload to wow, how
amazing and wonderful it is tohave all of this information
around me and to be able to kindof tap into it when I need to,
as opposed to it, you know,being drinking from a fire hose.
And so why does that matter?Because I read a stat online,
and so if it is online, it's gotto be true, which is that one in
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six United States citizens nowsuffers from some form of mental
illness or disorder or somethingalong those lines up, you know,
50% in the last, you know, 10years or five years, or
something like that, right? So,is it really that, or is there,
or is there really a lack of, offully understanding the human
physiology? I can tell youagain, based on my personal
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experience, and that theredefinitely comes as a lack of,
under, you know, a fullyunderstanding the human
physiology, you know, and what'sin by in what really matters
isn't so much that one person orthat everybody believes the same
thing, but what matters is thatthere's safe spaces within both
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traditional and non traditionalmedical communities to offer
healing to those that arereaching out for it, as opposed
to judging them. Nobody getsnobody gets healed by being
judged. Right?
I don't think it's not a healthyway to seek healing through
judgment anyway, all right, notone that one that I would
recommend, and, you know, look,and speaking of this, of the,
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you know, the mental theapproach to mental health and
how everyone is meant to be fromthe same cookie cutter approach.
You know, when I went throughunderstanding myself of the lens
as a neurodivergent individual,one of the things that I, that I
encountered, was this approach,you know, that somehow the goal
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in life was to learn how toassimilate and become quote,
unquote, neurotypical or normal,right? And that seems to be the
approach in medicine and, andso, you know, be there. I won't,
I won't cover that on thisepisode. I could do the on, on
just the the limiting, on howlimiting to society and
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potential belief system likethat is and and so that's why,
and that's why I will challengeit is anything that could, that
places limitations, that saysthat, it says, as humanity, we
have learned everything we canlearn this is as good as it
gets. Nope, can't buy into that.I'm not saying you're not right.
I'm just saying that this isn'tgonna be as good as good as it
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gets, because I believe inevolution.
All right, so this, this otherone I want to touch base on, as
I came to learn and understandthis. You know, as I as I first
understood myself through thelens of a neurodivergent person,
and now I'm also and nowunderstanding myself also
applying it back in the past, Ithought of myself as a
neurotypical person that justdidn't fit in, didn't understand
things. And now as well, lookingat myself as a, you know, as a
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sensitive and gifted individual,and that is this belief that,
like the status of evolution orthat, and that all animals and
all human species,neurodivergent, desire to or
aspire to be a traditional fivesenses, neurotypical experience
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where speech is thought of asthe as the valued means of
communication.
If you can't communicateverbally, then you are broken.
And you know that's justbackwards and wrong and so
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against the Intelligent DesignSystem. It just saddens my
heart, again, I can't go downthat, that path here.
thing I want to challenge isthat the western United States
medicine, the way of life, issuperior to the eastern ways, or
the indigenous ways, right? So Ithink the first thing is that,
look, this one-size-fits-allapproach or definition of
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success and happiness as a wayof life doesn't apply to all the
same, right?
that's part of respectingdifferences, and that's also
part of learning fromdifferences, right? There are
pros and cons to all cultures,right? You know, you know, some
would look at this point timelike I'm going to go in extreme
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for the sake of making an makinga point, right? That for as much
advancement as there, as therehas been in technology and
medicine and all these otherthings, right, but they also
bring with them, you know, someside effects and some symptoms.
If we were to take a look at,let's say, you know, our
indigenous friends who havechosen to kind of stay away from
society, or, you know, on theirown. On their own, I'm talking
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like, really, really remote, bythe way, you know, I'm talking
like, you know, really remote,living on their own.
We don't understand far thesepharmaceutical problems. We
don't we don't understand schoolshootings. We don't understand
all these labels being appliedto tell people how they're
broken, because they don't goagainst, fit against some chart
of some magical miracle personthat we don't know who existed,
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that these, that these, youknow, charts were made after
that we're all measured against.But you know, and I can also,
and there's also, can saythere's a there's a certain
happiness and peacefulness aswell that those people have when
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they look in the mirror thatmany people sitting in nice,
fancy homes would long for. Andlikewise, on very hot summer
days, I can assure you. Youknow, indigenous friends would
also appreciate airconditioning, right? So again,
the point is about appreciatingdifferences, respecting
differences and respecting whysomebody's going through the
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learning experience that they'regoing to going through. Because
that's like the beauty of freewill and being able to kind of
choose your own adventure, ofhow you want to live and live
and learn and experience life.
All right. So where are we goingfrom here? Oh, this is, this is,
this is definitely one that'sbeen very interesting for me, is
that this, that you know, what Irefer to as this human suit, you
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know, is our total identity,wisdom and capabilities, right?
Right. I think different people,different things, or play
things. Have called it, youknow, higher, you know, little
self, bigger self, human self,or, you know, incarnated self
versus total self, or this selfversus a higher self, right? You
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could say, lean on to to keep upwith technology. One could say
that this is you, you know,created as you know, server
based, you know, with what youneeded on your brain. But you
also have the ability to, youknow, tap into the cloud, and
that's when really get, youknow, interesting and fun. So,
you know, that's one of thethings that part of me going
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through these public changes,and is to demonstrate that,
look, I wasn't always this way.You people see, right? Like
that. Things are different. Andthis, this, this, this happened
as a result of, you know,breaking down, I don't know how
else to say it, I would justcall it breaking down, the
filters, the barriers between,you know, my individual self and
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my, you know, and my higherself, and that has changed
everything in my life. And youknow, what I can tell you is
that I absolutely am happy withwhat I see in the mirror, and it
doesn't require me buying anymore stuff. But again, now
there's nothing wrong withstuff. I picked plenty of stuff
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and enjoyed plenty of stuff, butwhat I recognized is that, you
know, there's much more to myconsciousness than me in this,
in this, in this, and me in mebeing.
And, you know, I'll talk about,you know, dimensions of
consciousness, for that matter,for even, for even a quick
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second on that one. So if I canunderstand my dimension of
reality, I can understand like,you know, things, things within
that dimension of reality. Andthen let's say I have a friend
of mine, and I'm close withthem. I have empathy. I am able
to understand things from theirperspective, or within their
dimension of reality. Well, nowI'm technically a multi
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dimensional being, right?Because I can understand the
dimension, my dimension ofreality, of their dimension of
reality, which allows me to thencreate win-win solutions. And
so, you know, I would just call,you know, consciousness, simply
comprehension. And you know,until I come up with a better
way of describing it for me. Andyou know what my experience, you
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know, has been, you know, it'sbeen simply about increasing my
comprehension of things.
So another one that I want tochallenge here is that the use
of electronics equates tointelligence, or the need to not
worry about developing survivalinstincts. People, you know, I
talk about my squirrel friendsor my animals that I, you know,
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learn from of people, well, youknow, for many reasons, you
know, some will laugh, some havefun. Well, we don't need to
worry, like I understand ourancestors need to worry about
that stuff. Well, now we figureout to build houses. We've got
AC and fridge. Got ACrefrigeration. What is there to
learn from any of these thingsanymore, right? And look, and I
agree, like, look, when you'rethinking about survival
instincts from a purelywilderness standpoint, yeah,
that's that's not so much of arelevant topic anymore. However,
when you want to talk about, Iguess, I don't know if you want
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to call it transferableintelligence or survival skills
at another level, what I want totalk about is, is creative
problem solve, is developingyour own creative problem
solving. Look, if we liveinside, if we're operating
inside of an intelligent design,and that means there's patterns,
and so the ability to recognizepatterns is part of that
navigation, and part you know,of the system developing agile
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or fluid thinking. And by theway, all of these things are
also demonstrated, of course, byour animal friends. So you're
going to notice that that this,this, this theme of, again,
understanding and appreciating,love and respecting because we
can relate to what we'resimilar. So hopefully, you know,
you're picking up what I'mputting down on that one.
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Another one is, right? How tomake the most out of our
surroundings. Like, that's animportant one. Look, whether
that be technical stuff, youknow. I mean, look, being
resourceful, you know, is asubset of that, right? And so,
yes, of course, you know, ouranimal friends can teach us
about that, but there's plentyof you know what you want to
call them. And I hope you guysrecognize the reference to like
the MacGyvers of the world,right, and the scientists, the
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people that can learn how totake and create things from your
household items and stuff.That's a sort that is absolutely
a survival skill, andunderstanding, and also learning
figure how to foster asupportive community. I mean, if
social media has taught usanything, that it is a survival
skill to foster a supportivecommunity, and it's also
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survival skill to have one andneed one, right? And also in an
opportunity and threatassessments, one of the things
that I definitely was, I was,you know, tapping into the
consciousness and trying tounderstand the animals. And I
kept using words like safe, andfinally they came back. They're
like, Look, man, we don'tunderstand safe. We just
understand, is it worth the riskor not? And if it's worth the
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risk, then we do it, you know?And some of us are more risk
averse than others, even insidethe squirrel community, who's,
you know, they love the riskreward, right? I mean, that's
their game. Even aside, there'splenty of there's different
personalities and much more thatare more risk averse than
others.
And then the other one isempathy, right? And empathy, and
one of the things that thereason I'm calling empathy a
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survival skill is number one,one of the things that I
recognize in order for me toopen up my gifts was that, is
that empathy was like a found isa foundational, or fundamental
item needed for that. Andapparently, somewhere in my
life, because of my sensitivity,I must have flipped it off. You
know, obviously it wasn'tconscious that I can aware of.
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But I definitely disconnectedmyself emotionally, right, as I
think probably was evidenced bysome, some comments and so, from
it, from that. But empathy in ain addition to then being able
to turn on your you know one'sgifts, which then allows for
guidance from the universe tobetter reach you. Empathy also
allows for product developmentto understand how to create
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value for people, how to createvalue into a society, and
understand where there's wherethere is underserved areas and
genuine needs and where peopleare being marginalized, and can
and are able to then, you know,create, you know, the
accommodation to support, tolevel the playing field. So when
you think about a survivalskill, I can't think of a
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greater survival skill thanempathy, which then allows
everybody to come together, worktogether, appreciate each other,
you know, respect each other,right? Once you start to, once
you remember that you've walkedin somebody else's footsteps,
you know, and you were giventhat grace, yeah, it's only fair
to give that same grace inreturn. So well, let's see. Or
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what else can we what else canwe challenge here?
What about what does it mean tobe human? Well, I've read
different things. Speech, right?Well, I highly disagree that
speech is what makes somebodyhuman. You know, sure, again,
it's a part of it, but it's byno means a defining trait.
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Number one. Number two, there'splenty of species that
communicate audibly, so feelingsof compassion, love and
suffering. Again, we see thatboth amongst, you know, humans
and animals. And some will say,well, aren't animals? Aren't
humans just another animal?Yeah, I guess technically, I'm
just trying not to, you know,offend anybody or somebody
sensitive about that. You know,there's say, What about walking
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on two legs? No, birds walk ontwo legs. You know, quite
frankly, birds are speakingthat. Mean, birds are talking
about, talk about a remarkablesuit and versatile intelligence,
right? I mean, they kind of, youknow, they can run, they can
jump, they can fly, they canbuild a house, a summer and a
winter house, some of themwithout, without even needing
arms, let alone forget abouthammers and nails. I mean,
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again, we all have our purposeshere on Earth, right? So I'm not
saying that humans are meant to,you know, build houses with
their mouths by any stretch,just simply acknowledging that
there's different forms ofintelligence, and it's important
to acknowledge that. So speakingof which, right? So then you
know, what else does it meanthen to be human? Does it mean
to be conscious? Yeah, allright, sentient, intelligent,
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having decision makingfaculties. Again, at its
simplest, again in its simplestform, that ties in with all,
with many of our animal friendsas well. And so, you know, in
its simplest form, then I guess,if you break it all down, or if
we're all just conscious,sentient, intelligent decision
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making, you know, entitieshappen to be wearing it is so
some of us are choosing to weara human suit. Others of us,
apparently, are choosing to wearsquirrel suits and and others,
you know, and other animalsuits. Hmm. Well, that makes an
interesting kind of aconversation, oh, doesn't it.
Huh. And then, by the way, howfun would that be to be able to
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be like, Wow, I want to go jumpon my back here and go, Yeah,
put on a squirrel suit today,just saying.
So then, then let's, let's talkabout this one: what does it
mean to be a man, you know,that's definitely one that I
don't know. And that's sure asheck not for me to say. Again,
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and like anything, right thisis, this is about challenging
the status quo and helpingpeople to figure that out for
themselves. What I willacknowledge, is like, you know,
I definitely thought of myself,you know, or at least when I
think back to what do I recallof what I was taught, or
whatever it was to be like, youknow, be the breadwinner, you
know, be the rock, you know,don't show emotion, and be a
winner, you know. Andessentially your value is what
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you can bring home, you know,economically, right? And so that
was, you know. And then alsothat, you know. And then later
on in life, I kind of, you know,I developed the thoughts that,
that, you know, that anyrelationships with women, right
there, they were supposed torevolve around me. And, you
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know, and I was extremelyselfish, right? So I and then,
and then I've lived that, andthen now I've started to live
things with very differentunderstandings. And so what I
would say is, what I haveunderstood is, what does it mean
to be a man? I don't know,because, first of all, if
somebody, anytime, somebody,told me to be manly, here's
where I get confused, all right?Like I have, you know, male
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anatomy. So I guess it makes me,if I it makes me a man. And if
I'm, if a man is doingsomething, doesn't that make it
manly? And so if I'm doingsomething, but then it's not
manly, because I'm totally beingtold to be manly, I just don't
get it. That's so confusing tome. So I, you know, I don't know
what to do with that. And so I'mgoing to take a different
approach, of saying, Well, whatdoes it mean to be a man, and
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what have I figured it out aboutmyself? And what would I share
is what it means is it meansthat I'm masculine energy, and
it means that I'm feminineenergy, and it means that it's
up to me to determine how I wantto anchor into those, and how I
want to use into those, and whatpercentages you know I want to
operate with at any given time.And what I recognize, what is
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important to me is to understandthat there are those both sides
to me, and understand the depthand the richness and the
fullness of those various sides,right? And you know, for myself
how I've, you know, I've stillnot, you know, I, for me, all
I'm saying is a man is, I knowthat's just the human suit that
I wore, right? You know, I gotboth masculine feminine energy
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in me, you know, I love bothequally. Both are equal. And
where's it going?
Oh, yeah, I love both equally. Ithink the point is, is, I think
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is for everybody to try tounderstand that about
themselves. And then also, thenlet's take a step back and say,
wait a second here. And then if,if I'm just masculine energy and
feminine energy and, you know,then that means that, so you're
saying, then that some guyscould have more masculine energy
than feminine energy, does thatmean masculine and feminine and
personality? No, don't confusethose two either, right? Those
are different things. But whatthat does bring up is the
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important point of saying it'san individualized experience.
And everybody came wired howthey came wanting to be wired to
enjoy their experience, and it'sreally, really, really crappy
then when the system tells themthat the way that they want to
experience it, they're not goingto support. Or, you know, or
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even ridicule, right? Ormarginalize over. That's what's
not cool. And so I think so thepart of the human experience,
right then is, what does it meanto have a human experience?
Look, part of that experience isunderstanding what you want to
be your experience, right? Whatare those sides of you that you
want to lead into during thistime? And how do you want to get
to know yourself? And justbecause you do it one way
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doesn't mean it has to be thatway tomorrow or the next day,
right? That's part of the wholefun of things, is that it's
never set it and forget it. Andso, you know, I've really
learned to, you know, like forme, I guess I don't know if this
makes sense or not to others,but in a simple, simplified way
that I really just lean, I leaninto my masculine energy to
focus on creating safe spaces,and then I lean into my feminine
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energy to be able to enjoy andhave the most rich experience
within those spaces. And so Ican say that, as I have, you
know, leaning into that feminineenergy was absolutely essential
and critical to, you know,unlocking and understanding, you
know, myself and my gifts andthings like that. And so it
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does. And so I do. I guess oneof the challenge then is that
when there are differentdisciplines that will say things
like, Well, I don't want to dothe movement because that's
sissy. Well, you know what? Menot doing those things because
they were sissy prevented mefrom tapping into all these
gifts about myself, right? So,you know? So that's the
downside, right? Anyway, I won'tgo down anymore, down, down that
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path.
Look, and the other thing then,then, if Graham, if what you're
saying is it's just a differenceof suits, wait a second,There's
hole. You're saying that we'reall is intelligent. No, no. Hold
on, yeah. Let me back up thatbuggy before anything. What I
think is, what's important is torecognize it look like the
concept of, you know, the circleof life is a very simplified way
of saying this earth is, is abeautiful, beautiful attribution
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model, right? Where there'severything has its cause and
effect, and everything is tiedtogether. And so therefore,
everything has its purpose.Everything has its own set of
responsibilities, both to theplanet and to the collective
consciousness. Humanity'sresponsibilities along the lines
of stewardship, you know, bothfor the planet and for each
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other, right? And all that thenbleeds into the consciousness.
I'm going to touch onconsciousness, you know, in a
different series here. Sohopefully, you know, you'll join
me there as well.
The last thing I want tochallenge is that we have to
accept the current state and thecurrent set of choices when we
live in a democraticrepresentative government. Not
to mention if we want supportfrom the universe, we need to be
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specific and concise, right? Sohere's kind of two different
approaches to problem solving tohave some fun with it, right?
And we think about that. So ifwe want to lay out there what
kind of a future world we want,I think, by the way, if you're
also listening, pay attention,you also recognize that the
world's going through somechanges, right? People talk
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about manifestation. People justtalk about the Woo. There's all.
We're in a very, very specialand wonderful time, and so, so
let's talk. So let's start to solet's, let's, let's talk about
these things. Let's bring somelife into Let's breathe some
life into our dreams and ourvisions and into a positive
future. There's plenty of wait,there's plenty of things we can
focus on to be negative andpessimistic about, but there's
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also so much that we can beidealistic about, too, and I and
whatever we breathe life into iswhat's going to grow. So let's
focus on that idealism here, allright, and let's have a little
fun. So let's start with first,let's craft a marketing
campaign. And, by the way, graba pen and paper. This is kind of
like a do it at home kind ofactivity for some self
discovery, exploration, thingslike that or right? It's craft a
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marketing campaign to attractvisitors from the cosmos, right?
So instead of like, hey, come toDisneyland into Florida, it's
like, hey, come to Earth. Here'swhat we have to offer.
And and look as a as as a unitedspecies, as a globe, as a
planet, what do we want to be?What do we want to be proud of?
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What do we what is it that wewant people to come and enjoy?
What is it that, what is it thatwe want to showcase? And then,
you know, and have, and again,have and have some fun with
that. Then the next one to throwout there is what rights,
access, and accommodations areall humans entitled to? Last
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time I checked, and again, I'msure somebody probably throw
this out there at me isactually, but anyway, you think,
generally speaking, I'm notaware of any origin stories that
talk about how humanity createdthe earth. And so nor then am I
also aware that they createdthemselves and created
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themselves to be above others.So that means somehow some
people ended up on the kind ofbunch of renters that somehow
have taken some that, say someand some families or governments
whatever, seem to take thisposition from renters to owners,
right? And not all of theseowners believe that all that all
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humans are entitled to betreated humanely, and as a
species, as a race, people canonly get away with what we
allow. It's that simple. Does itmean it is simple to change?
Absolutely not.
But it starts by saying that atsome point in time we're going
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to say, Enough is enough. We'retired of living in fear, and
we're tired of different peoplegetting treated like like shit.
And no, that doesn't mean openborders, by the way, and
everybody coming everywhere.Absolutely not. That's
definitely not what I propose. Iabsolutely do believe in
borders, and I do believe thatif you know that, you know there
should be safe places foreverybody to kind of have their
own living and learningenvironments and experiences
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based on their different beliefsystem things like that, right?
I don't believe that are beingforced to accept everything and
conformity or to have stuff toshoved down the throat is the
answer, either. And so, if wewere starting from scratch, what
would we want every human to beable to have access to, what
would level the playing fieldfor everybody? And I'm not
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talking about that shit peoplearen't allowed to get ahead.
Absolutely, somebody creates agreater contribution and value
than others, why shouldn't theyget rewarded in whatever that
reward system is, right? That'spart of the motivation. And so
hopefully some stuff isresonated. Hopefully, you know,
I shared in the beginning, thatone, you know, like in the
beginning of the podcast, ofwhat to expect, that one of my
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goals was to have you, I neverthought about things like that,
interesting. Well, hopefullythis episode, we've touched on
some of that stuff. But mostimportantly, what, most
importantly, what I really hopeis that you take some time and
define and enjoy a new humanexperience for yourself. Have a
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fantastic and awesome week.
Welcome to a special edition ofunderstanding the science of you
where, I guess I'm calling it aspecial edition, because, you
know, we're going to go in, youknow, in a different direction,
right? I mean, in order forchange to occur, then, you know,
you got to challenge somethings, right? And I think
that's what a lot of theseconversations have led up to and
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not led up to have been allabout right is challenging the
status quo, challenging what wethought we knew, challenging
what we thought we knew aboutourselves, challenging what we
thought, how we thought peoplewould react when we came out as
ourselves and the fear and thenrealizing being embraced. Take
your pick.
I want to challenge. I want topush some boundaries a little
bit here. Let's have a littlefun, right? Because let's I mean
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that. Let's face it, right, ifyou're listening to me, my guess
is it's not because you're, youknow, looking for, for, for the
status quo, where you're lookingto, you know, have some
traditional thoughts or ideas,reinforced - it's because you're
looking for some differentthoughts and perspectives,
right? Or, you know, somethingalong those lines. And so this
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is my first attempt here atgoing down one of these.
And so with that said, On thisepisode, I want to focus on
productively challenging thestatus quo, right? Because
there's you know, challenge.When I talk about challenging
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the status quo before you know,stuff gets taken out of context,
because there I definitely have,and I say that because I know
that I have a very rebelliousstreak, right? And I'm
absolutely, you know, talkingabout starting a movement to
create change. And sochallenging the status quo, to
me, though, is much more of amental game than it is a
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physical game. And challengingthe status quo, you know, is
just about and to me, is muchmore; it is much more powerful
to lead by example, todemonstrate what's possible than
it is to talk or to complain orto shout at people. There's no
value in that, right? If youwant my attention, it's pretty
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simple. Show me something that Iwant. Show me a personality
trait, show me a thoughtprocess, a philosophy. Show me
something of interest, right?You know, and then we can talk.
Anyway.
I want to talk aboutproductively challenging the
status quo, you know, for thesake of evolution and all right?
And so there's a couple ofthings -- beliefs that underpin
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a lot of what I'm doing here onthis podcast, the next,
subsequent seasons, other workthat I'm excited to talk about.
And that's the one is therefusal to believe that this is
as good as it gets. It doesn'tmatter what it is, right? It's
just, why do I want to thinkthat anything is as good as it
gets around me, because thatmeans anything else from here on
out is downhill. That doesn'tsound very fun and exciting to
look forward to. No, I alwayswant to believe things can get
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better, right? And so that'spoint number one. The second
part is that, you know, astechnology and AI and everything
else starts to take more andmore of a forefront, is that I
refuse to believe that humanpotential is inferior to the
potential of technology. And soand also, then, when I say as
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good as it gets, in this contextfor this episode, a simple way
to think about happiness, right?Because, I guess goodness, as
good as it gets, happiness, I'mkind of making that bridge
there, right? So a simple wayfor me to think about happiness
is living a life of self guidedchoices while maintaining, while
being able to maintain love forself, you know, and others in
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your surroundings.
But how can one fully live alife of self guided choices, if
one, they aren't aware of allthe choices available to them.
Two, if the system that there'sthat they're operating within is
resulting and rewardingconformity compared to valuing
individuality. Or three, if theyaren't receiving the
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accommodations to be their mostproductive selves. And so I
believe that the human potentialis near limitless, and that AI
should be used to enable variousforms of individualized
accommodations, right? And so Iwould say that reaching the
human potential encompassesscience, technology and
spirituality. And you know, foragain, in this context, I'm
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defining spirituality asencompassing our philosophical,
mystical and magical sides. And,you know, I'm also speaking, I
think, more to those, andassuming that, if you're
listening right, it's becauseyou prefer to be more self
sufficient than dependent onhierarchical system, right? And
so a foundational item inreaching the human potential is
thinking for yourself, being in,you know, being comfortable and
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confident in your own skin, andso, you know, like anything,
what I would suggest that, as Igo into is, I, you know,
challenge the status quo. Takewhat resonates with you, leave
what doesn't. Because it's notso much about how much you take
or what you take. Is that, asmuch as is, it sparks curiosity
and opens up new areas ofinterest in the world or for
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yourself that you want toexplore.
So where do we want to startwith? What we're going to
challenge? Let's start with whatscience has or is not proven
regarding, ESP, or abilitiesbeyond the traditional five
senses, right? So one of thethings of it, when I look at the
tests and other things, and, youknow, compare this to my own
experience and many others thatI talk about, and they'll say,
Well, we couldn't get enoughpeople to validate this. We
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couldn't get this to happen.Couldn't get essentially, what
the challenge becomes istypically about consensus,
right? And so I totallyunderstand that approach, the
thing that I would the piece ofinformation that I would want to
inject into that conversation,is to say, look, instead of
thinking about, you know,somebody having, ESP or the
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traditional five senses as thisuniform abilities of everybody
doing the same thing, thinkabout it more as athleticism,
right? Where everyone's gottheir own different unique
skills and abilities that fallwithin the realms of being
athletic. Let's talk aboutbasketball. Is somebody a good
basketball player only if theycan shoot three pointers? Is
somebody a good basketballplayer only if they can dunk a
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basketball? Is somebody only agood basketball player if they
have a high free throwpercentage?
Or are they a good basketballplayer based on and how they
perform all of those differentthings? And so psychism is the
same way, and it is just asindividualized, right? And so
the way that the tests that arebeing done, I would say, is, it
would be, is very similar tomaking a decision about how good
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a basketball player somebody isbased on their ability to
perform at one position, andthen judging everybody else's
abilities as a basketball playeron that same position as well.
would be one piece ofinformation. The next piece of
information is also, then alsothink about is, well, why does
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this exist? Well, it exists tohelp, as, you know, a guided
journey. Many people want tolook at AI and to create the
form of assistant or friend,access to information. Kind of
go around with them. Well, youknow, many people in the, you
know, in the spiritualcommunity, would would describe
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their relationship with theirspirit guides or their higher
self, whatever, right, very, youknow, similar to those same
things. And so that means it'salso then for a personalized
experience. We wonder and say,Okay, well, this gets down the
road of, hey, why are we hereand things like that. So I'm not
going to go too much down thatroad. But if we, if you do,
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believe that there is anintelligent design, doesn't
necessarily mean it's tied intoreligion, whatever else, right,
just that there's intelligencethat created and governs and
keeps the stuff together.Natural laws are an example of
that. Then, in order tonavigate, one would be provided.
You know, self sufficiency, asopposed having to rely on on
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others, right? And so if onethinks of it as these types of
different abilities, as adecision that one makes and how
they choose to navigate thislife experience, well now, well
now, when you start to to try tounderstand things from a much
more individualized as well asexperiential perspective and as
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well as contextual, now youstart to really open up and
understand that aspect ofhumanity much more differently.
And I can also tell you becausefrom my perspective, one of the
I spent 40 What do you call it?44 ish, 45 years of my life,
that if anybody would have toldme that I had anything more than
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the traditional five senses,which I would have told them
crazy. I don't believe in thatstuff. What are you talking
about? You know, get away fromme, literally. Ironically, like
one of the like in many things Ifound out, the things that I've
swore no way crazy, turned outto be some of my biggest truths.
And so it turns out, one of theways that I learned how to be at
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peace with myself is recognizingthat I'm actually extremely
gifted, sensitive and things.And so when I didn't know that
about myself, it was absolutelyinformation overload,
constantly, but once Iunderstood those things about
myself and how to work withthem, you know, etc. Then, you
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know, I was able to now go frominformation overload to wow, how
amazing and wonderful it is tohave all of this information
around me and to be able to kindof tap into it when I need to,
as opposed to it, you know,being drinking from a fire hose.
And so why does that matter?Because I read a stat online,
and so if it is online, it's gotto be true, which is that one in
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six United States citizens nowsuffers from some form of mental
illness or disorder or somethingalong those lines up, you know,
50% in the last, you know, 10years or five years, or
something like that, right? So,is it really that, or is there,
or is there really a lack of, offully understanding the human
physiology? I can tell youagain, based on my personal
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experience, and that theredefinitely comes as a lack of,
under, you know, a fullyunderstanding the human
physiology, you know, and what'sin by in what really matters
isn't so much that one person orthat everybody believes the same
thing, but what matters is thatthere's safe spaces within both
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traditional and non traditionalmedical communities to offer
healing to those that arereaching out for it, as opposed
to judging them. Nobody getsnobody gets healed by being
judged. Right?
I don't think it's not a healthyway to seek healing through
judgment anyway, all right, notone that one that I would
recommend, and, you know, look,and speaking of this, of the,
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you know, the mental theapproach to mental health and
how everyone is meant to be fromthe same cookie cutter approach.
You know, when I went throughunderstanding myself of the lens
as a neurodivergent individual,one of the things that I, that I
encountered, was this approach,you know, that somehow the goal
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in life was to learn how toassimilate and become quote,
unquote, neurotypical or normal,right? And that seems to be the
approach in medicine and, andso, you know, be there. I won't,
I won't cover that on thisepisode. I could do the on, on
just the the limiting, on howlimiting to society and
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potential belief system likethat is and and so that's why,
and that's why I will challengeit is anything that could, that
places limitations, that saysthat, it says, as humanity, we
have learned everything we canlearn this is as good as it
gets. Nope, can't buy into that.I'm not saying you're not right.
I'm just saying that this isn'tgonna be as good as good as it
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gets, because I believe inevolution.
All right, so this, this otherone I want to touch base on, as
I came to learn and understandthis. You know, as I as I first
understood myself through thelens of a neurodivergent person,
and now I'm also and nowunderstanding myself also
applying it back in the past, Ithought of myself as a
neurotypical person that justdidn't fit in, didn't understand
things. And now as well, lookingat myself as a, you know, as a
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sensitive and gifted individual,and that is this belief that,
like the status of evolution orthat, and that all animals and
all human species,neurodivergent, desire to or
aspire to be a traditional fivesenses, neurotypical experience
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where speech is thought of asthe as the valued means of
communication.
If you can't communicateverbally, then you are broken.
And you know that's justbackwards and wrong and so
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against the Intelligent DesignSystem. It just saddens my
heart, again, I can't go downthat, that path here.
thing I want to challenge isthat the western United States
medicine, the way of life, issuperior to the eastern ways, or
the indigenous ways, right? So Ithink the first thing is that,
look, this one-size-fits-allapproach or definition of
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success and happiness as a wayof life doesn't apply to all the
same, right?
that's part of respectingdifferences, and that's also
part of learning fromdifferences, right? There are
pros and cons to all cultures,right? You know, you know, some
would look at this point timelike I'm going to go in extreme
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for the sake of making an makinga point, right? That for as much
advancement as there, as therehas been in technology and
medicine and all these otherthings, right, but they also
bring with them, you know, someside effects and some symptoms.
If we were to take a look at,let's say, you know, our
indigenous friends who havechosen to kind of stay away from
society, or, you know, on theirown. On their own, I'm talking
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like, really, really remote, bythe way, you know, I'm talking
like, you know, really remote,living on their own.
We don't understand far thesepharmaceutical problems. We
don't we don't understand schoolshootings. We don't understand
all these labels being appliedto tell people how they're
broken, because they don't goagainst, fit against some chart
of some magical miracle personthat we don't know who existed,
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that these, that these, youknow, charts were made after
that we're all measured against.But you know, and I can also,
and there's also, can saythere's a there's a certain
happiness and peacefulness aswell that those people have when
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they look in the mirror thatmany people sitting in nice,
fancy homes would long for. Andlikewise, on very hot summer
days, I can assure you. Youknow, indigenous friends would
also appreciate airconditioning, right? So again,
the point is about appreciatingdifferences, respecting
differences and respecting whysomebody's going through the
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learning experience that they'regoing to going through. Because
that's like the beauty of freewill and being able to kind of
choose your own adventure, ofhow you want to live and live
and learn and experience life.
All right. So where are we goingfrom here? Oh, this is, this is,
this is definitely one that'sbeen very interesting for me, is
that this, that you know, what Irefer to as this human suit, you
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know, is our total identity,wisdom and capabilities, right?
Right. I think different people,different things, or play
things. Have called it, youknow, higher, you know, little
self, bigger self, human self,or, you know, incarnated self
versus total self, or this selfversus a higher self, right? You
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could say, lean on to to keep upwith technology. One could say
that this is you, you know,created as you know, server
based, you know, with what youneeded on your brain. But you
also have the ability to, youknow, tap into the cloud, and
that's when really get, youknow, interesting and fun. So,
you know, that's one of thethings that part of me going
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through these public changes,and is to demonstrate that,
look, I wasn't always this way.You people see, right? Like
that. Things are different. Andthis, this, this, this happened
as a result of, you know,breaking down, I don't know how
else to say it, I would justcall it breaking down, the
filters, the barriers between,you know, my individual self and
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my, you know, and my higherself, and that has changed
everything in my life. And youknow, what I can tell you is
that I absolutely am happy withwhat I see in the mirror, and it
doesn't require me buying anymore stuff. But again, now
there's nothing wrong withstuff. I picked plenty of stuff
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and enjoyed plenty of stuff, butwhat I recognized is that, you
know, there's much more to myconsciousness than me in this,
in this, in this, and me in mebeing.
And, you know, I'll talk about,you know, dimensions of
consciousness, for that matter,for even, for even a quick
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second on that one. So if I canunderstand my dimension of
reality, I can understand like,you know, things, things within
that dimension of reality. Andthen let's say I have a friend
of mine, and I'm close withthem. I have empathy. I am able
to understand things from theirperspective, or within their
dimension of reality. Well, nowI'm technically a multi
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dimensional being, right?Because I can understand the
dimension, my dimension ofreality, of their dimension of
reality, which allows me to thencreate win-win solutions. And
so, you know, I would just call,you know, consciousness, simply
comprehension. And you know,until I come up with a better
way of describing it for me. Andyou know what my experience, you
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know, has been, you know, it'sbeen simply about increasing my
comprehension of things.
So another one that I want tochallenge here is that the use
of electronics equates tointelligence, or the need to not
worry about developing survivalinstincts. People, you know, I
talk about my squirrel friendsor my animals that I, you know,
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learn from of people, well, youknow, for many reasons, you
know, some will laugh, some havefun. Well, we don't need to
worry, like I understand ourancestors need to worry about
that stuff. Well, now we figureout to build houses. We've got
AC and fridge. Got ACrefrigeration. What is there to
learn from any of these thingsanymore, right? And look, and I
agree, like, look, when you'rethinking about survival
instincts from a purelywilderness standpoint, yeah,
that's that's not so much of arelevant topic anymore. However,
when you want to talk about, Iguess, I don't know if you want
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to call it transferableintelligence or survival skills
at another level, what I want totalk about is, is creative
problem solve, is developingyour own creative problem
solving. Look, if we liveinside, if we're operating
inside of an intelligent design,and that means there's patterns,
and so the ability to recognizepatterns is part of that
navigation, and part you know,of the system developing agile
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or fluid thinking. And by theway, all of these things are
also demonstrated, of course, byour animal friends. So you're
going to notice that that this,this, this theme of, again,
understanding and appreciating,love and respecting because we
can relate to what we'resimilar. So hopefully, you know,
you're picking up what I'mputting down on that one.
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Another one is, right? How tomake the most out of our
surroundings. Like, that's animportant one. Look, whether
that be technical stuff, youknow. I mean, look, being
resourceful, you know, is asubset of that, right? And so,
yes, of course, you know, ouranimal friends can teach us
about that, but there's plentyof you know what you want to
call them. And I hope you guysrecognize the reference to like
the MacGyvers of the world,right, and the scientists, the
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people that can learn how totake and create things from your
household items and stuff.That's a sort that is absolutely
a survival skill, andunderstanding, and also learning
figure how to foster asupportive community. I mean, if
social media has taught usanything, that it is a survival
skill to foster a supportivecommunity, and it's also
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survival skill to have one andneed one, right? And also in an
opportunity and threatassessments, one of the things
that I definitely was, I was,you know, tapping into the
consciousness and trying tounderstand the animals. And I
kept using words like safe, andfinally they came back. They're
like, Look, man, we don'tunderstand safe. We just
understand, is it worth the riskor not? And if it's worth the
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risk, then we do it, you know?And some of us are more risk
averse than others, even insidethe squirrel community, who's,
you know, they love the riskreward, right? I mean, that's
their game. Even aside, there'splenty of there's different
personalities and much more thatare more risk averse than
others.
And then the other one isempathy, right? And empathy, and
one of the things that thereason I'm calling empathy a
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survival skill is number one,one of the things that I
recognize in order for me toopen up my gifts was that, is
that empathy was like a found isa foundational, or fundamental
item needed for that. Andapparently, somewhere in my
life, because of my sensitivity,I must have flipped it off. You
know, obviously it wasn'tconscious that I can aware of.
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But I definitely disconnectedmyself emotionally, right, as I
think probably was evidenced bysome, some comments and so, from
it, from that. But empathy in ain addition to then being able
to turn on your you know one'sgifts, which then allows for
guidance from the universe tobetter reach you. Empathy also
allows for product developmentto understand how to create
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value for people, how to createvalue into a society, and
understand where there's wherethere is underserved areas and
genuine needs and where peopleare being marginalized, and can
and are able to then, you know,create, you know, the
accommodation to support, tolevel the playing field. So when
you think about a survivalskill, I can't think of a
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greater survival skill thanempathy, which then allows
everybody to come together, worktogether, appreciate each other,
you know, respect each other,right? Once you start to, once
you remember that you've walkedin somebody else's footsteps,
you know, and you were giventhat grace, yeah, it's only fair
to give that same grace inreturn. So well, let's see. Or
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what else can we what else canwe challenge here?
What about what does it mean tobe human? Well, I've read
different things. Speech, right?Well, I highly disagree that
speech is what makes somebodyhuman. You know, sure, again,
it's a part of it, but it's byno means a defining trait.
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Number one. Number two, there'splenty of species that
communicate audibly, so feelingsof compassion, love and
suffering. Again, we see thatboth amongst, you know, humans
and animals. And some will say,well, aren't animals? Aren't
humans just another animal?Yeah, I guess technically, I'm
just trying not to, you know,offend anybody or somebody
sensitive about that. You know,there's say, What about walking
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on two legs? No, birds walk ontwo legs. You know, quite
frankly, birds are speakingthat. Mean, birds are talking
about, talk about a remarkablesuit and versatile intelligence,
right? I mean, they kind of, youknow, they can run, they can
jump, they can fly, they canbuild a house, a summer and a
winter house, some of themwithout, without even needing
arms, let alone forget abouthammers and nails. I mean,
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again, we all have our purposeshere on Earth, right? So I'm not
saying that humans are meant to,you know, build houses with
their mouths by any stretch,just simply acknowledging that
there's different forms ofintelligence, and it's important
to acknowledge that. So speakingof which, right? So then you
know, what else does it meanthen to be human? Does it mean
to be conscious? Yeah, allright, sentient, intelligent,
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having decision makingfaculties. Again, at its
simplest, again in its simplestform, that ties in with all,
with many of our animal friendsas well. And so, you know, in
its simplest form, then I guess,if you break it all down, or if
we're all just conscious,sentient, intelligent decision
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making, you know, entitieshappen to be wearing it is so
some of us are choosing to weara human suit. Others of us,
apparently, are choosing to wearsquirrel suits and and others,
you know, and other animalsuits. Hmm. Well, that makes an
interesting kind of aconversation, oh, doesn't it.
Huh. And then, by the way, howfun would that be to be able to
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be like, Wow, I want to go jumpon my back here and go, Yeah,
put on a squirrel suit today,just saying.
So then, then let's, let's talkabout this one: what does it
mean to be a man, you know,that's definitely one that I
don't know. And that's sure asheck not for me to say. Again,
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and like anything, right thisis, this is about challenging
the status quo and helpingpeople to figure that out for
themselves. What I willacknowledge, is like, you know,
I definitely thought of myself,you know, or at least when I
think back to what do I recallof what I was taught, or
whatever it was to be like, youknow, be the breadwinner, you
know, be the rock, you know,don't show emotion, and be a
winner, you know. Andessentially your value is what
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you can bring home, you know,economically, right? And so that
was, you know. And then alsothat, you know. And then later
on in life, I kind of, you know,I developed the thoughts that,
that, you know, that anyrelationships with women, right
there, they were supposed torevolve around me. And, you
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know, and I was extremelyselfish, right? So I and then,
and then I've lived that, andthen now I've started to live
things with very differentunderstandings. And so what I
would say is, what I haveunderstood is, what does it mean
to be a man? I don't know,because, first of all, if
somebody, anytime, somebody,told me to be manly, here's
where I get confused, all right?Like I have, you know, male
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anatomy. So I guess it makes me,if I it makes me a man. And if
I'm, if a man is doingsomething, doesn't that make it
manly? And so if I'm doingsomething, but then it's not
manly, because I'm totally beingtold to be manly, I just don't
get it. That's so confusing tome. So I, you know, I don't know
what to do with that. And so I'mgoing to take a different
approach, of saying, Well, whatdoes it mean to be a man, and
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what have I figured it out aboutmyself? And what would I share
is what it means is it meansthat I'm masculine energy, and
it means that I'm feminineenergy, and it means that it's
up to me to determine how I wantto anchor into those, and how I
want to use into those, and whatpercentages you know I want to
operate with at any given time.And what I recognize, what is
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important to me is to understandthat there are those both sides
to me, and understand the depthand the richness and the
fullness of those various sides,right? And you know, for myself
how I've, you know, I've stillnot, you know, I, for me, all
I'm saying is a man is, I knowthat's just the human suit that
I wore, right? You know, I gotboth masculine feminine energy
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in me, you know, I love bothequally. Both are equal. And
where's it going?
Oh, yeah, I love both equally. Ithink the point is, is, I think
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is for everybody to try tounderstand that about
themselves. And then also, thenlet's take a step back and say,
wait a second here. And then if,if I'm just masculine energy and
feminine energy and, you know,then that means that, so you're
saying, then that some guyscould have more masculine energy
than feminine energy, does thatmean masculine and feminine and
personality? No, don't confusethose two either, right? Those
are different things. But whatthat does bring up is the
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important point of saying it'san individualized experience.
And everybody came wired howthey came wanting to be wired to
enjoy their experience, and it'sreally, really, really crappy
then when the system tells themthat the way that they want to
experience it, they're not goingto support. Or, you know, or
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even ridicule, right? Ormarginalize over. That's what's
not cool. And so I think so thepart of the human experience,
right then is, what does it meanto have a human experience?
Look, part of that experience isunderstanding what you want to
be your experience, right? Whatare those sides of you that you
want to lead into during thistime? And how do you want to get
to know yourself? And justbecause you do it one way
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doesn't mean it has to be thatway tomorrow or the next day,
right? That's part of the wholefun of things, is that it's
never set it and forget it. Andso, you know, I've really
learned to, you know, like forme, I guess I don't know if this
makes sense or not to others,but in a simple, simplified way
that I really just lean, I leaninto my masculine energy to
focus on creating safe spaces,and then I lean into my feminine
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energy to be able to enjoy andhave the most rich experience
within those spaces. And so Ican say that, as I have, you
know, leaning into that feminineenergy was absolutely essential
and critical to, you know,unlocking and understanding, you
know, myself and my gifts andthings like that. And so it
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does. And so I do. I guess oneof the challenge then is that
when there are differentdisciplines that will say things
like, Well, I don't want to dothe movement because that's
sissy. Well, you know what? Menot doing those things because
they were sissy prevented mefrom tapping into all these
gifts about myself, right? So,you know? So that's the
downside, right? Anyway, I won'tgo down anymore, down, down that
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path.
Look, and the other thing then,then, if Graham, if what you're
saying is it's just a differenceof suits, wait a second,There's
hole. You're saying that we'reall is intelligent. No, no. Hold
on, yeah. Let me back up thatbuggy before anything. What I
think is, what's important is torecognize it look like the
concept of, you know, the circleof life is a very simplified way
of saying this earth is, is abeautiful, beautiful attribution
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model, right? Where there'severything has its cause and
effect, and everything is tiedtogether. And so therefore,
everything has its purpose.Everything has its own set of
responsibilities, both to theplanet and to the collective
consciousness. Humanity'sresponsibilities along the lines
of stewardship, you know, bothfor the planet and for each
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other, right? And all that thenbleeds into the consciousness.
I'm going to touch onconsciousness, you know, in a
different series here. Sohopefully, you know, you'll join
me there as well.
The last thing I want tochallenge is that we have to
accept the current state and thecurrent set of choices when we
live in a democraticrepresentative government. Not
to mention if we want supportfrom the universe, we need to be
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specific and concise, right? Sohere's kind of two different
approaches to problem solving tohave some fun with it, right?
And we think about that. So ifwe want to lay out there what
kind of a future world we want,I think, by the way, if you're
also listening, pay attention,you also recognize that the
world's going through somechanges, right? People talk
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about manifestation. People justtalk about the Woo. There's all.
We're in a very, very specialand wonderful time, and so, so
let's talk. So let's start to solet's, let's, let's talk about
these things. Let's bring somelife into Let's breathe some
life into our dreams and ourvisions and into a positive
future. There's plenty of wait,there's plenty of things we can
focus on to be negative andpessimistic about, but there's
(32:05):
also so much that we can beidealistic about, too, and I and
whatever we breathe life into iswhat's going to grow. So let's
focus on that idealism here, allright, and let's have a little
fun. So let's start with first,let's craft a marketing
campaign. And, by the way, graba pen and paper. This is kind of
like a do it at home kind ofactivity for some self
discovery, exploration, thingslike that or right? It's craft a
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marketing campaign to attractvisitors from the cosmos, right?
So instead of like, hey, come toDisneyland into Florida, it's
like, hey, come to Earth. Here'swhat we have to offer.
And and look as a as as a unitedspecies, as a globe, as a
planet, what do we want to be?What do we want to be proud of?
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What do we what is it that wewant people to come and enjoy?
What is it that, what is it thatwe want to showcase? And then,
you know, and have, and again,have and have some fun with
that. Then the next one to throwout there is what rights,
access, and accommodations areall humans entitled to? Last
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time I checked, and again, I'msure somebody probably throw
this out there at me isactually, but anyway, you think,
generally speaking, I'm notaware of any origin stories that
talk about how humanity createdthe earth. And so nor then am I
also aware that they createdthemselves and created
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themselves to be above others.So that means somehow some
people ended up on the kind ofbunch of renters that somehow
have taken some that, say someand some families or governments
whatever, seem to take thisposition from renters to owners,
right? And not all of theseowners believe that all that all
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humans are entitled to betreated humanely, and as a
species, as a race, people canonly get away with what we
allow. It's that simple. Does itmean it is simple to change?
Absolutely not.
But it starts by saying that atsome point in time we're going
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to say, Enough is enough. We'retired of living in fear, and
we're tired of different peoplegetting treated like like shit.
And no, that doesn't mean openborders, by the way, and
everybody coming everywhere.Absolutely not. That's
definitely not what I propose. Iabsolutely do believe in
borders, and I do believe thatif you know that, you know there
should be safe places foreverybody to kind of have their
own living and learningenvironments and experiences
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based on their different beliefsystem things like that, right?
I don't believe that are beingforced to accept everything and
conformity or to have stuff toshoved down the throat is the
answer, either. And so, if wewere starting from scratch, what
would we want every human to beable to have access to, what
would level the playing fieldfor everybody? And I'm not
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talking about that shit peoplearen't allowed to get ahead.
Absolutely, somebody creates agreater contribution and value
than others, why shouldn't theyget rewarded in whatever that
reward system is, right? That'spart of the motivation. And so
hopefully some stuff isresonated. Hopefully, you know,
I shared in the beginning, thatone, you know, like in the
beginning of the podcast, ofwhat to expect, that one of my
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goals was to have you, I neverthought about things like that,
interesting. Well, hopefullythis episode, we've touched on
some of that stuff. But mostimportantly, what, most
importantly, what I really hopeis that you take some time and
define and enjoy a new humanexperience for yourself. Have a
(35:46):
fantastic and awesome week.
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