How many times have you asked yourself:
“What have I done to be stuck in this cycle of self-sabotage?”
“Am I holding myself back, or is there a part of me that refuses to move forward?”
In this episode, I break down the **avatars we create from trauma and pain**—the versions of us that show up when we’re triggered. These avatars might feel like protection, but really, they keep us from showing up as who we truly are today.
This conversation brings clarity to:
* How self-sabotage shows up through past pain
* Why certain triggers pull out old versions of us
* The impact of trauma-created identities on our present choices
* How to stop letting those avatars ruin your future
It’s raw, eye-opening, and filled with the kind of truth that sets you free.
Episode Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Self-Sabotage and Acceptance
05:44 Understanding Acceptance and Avoidance
11:49 Exploring Self-Sabotage and Its Roots
18:43 Identifying and Accepting Our Avatars
25:34 The Journey of Acceptance and Transformation
31:26 Recognizing Self-Sabotage and Triggers
34:15 The Role of Acceptance in Personal Growth
36:27 Understanding Lies and Accountability
40:36 The Impact of Community on Identity
44:34 The Prodigal Son: A Lesson in Acceptance
50:45 Returning to Acceptance and Community
58:52 Personal Transformation and New Beginnings
Key Points Made During The episode...
Self-sabotage often stems from unresolved past experiences.
Acceptance is a deeper process than simply acknowledging something.
Triggers can reveal unprocessed emotions and past traumas.
Understanding your 'avatars' can help in recognizing your reactions.
Community support is crucial for personal growth and acceptance.
Awareness of one's actions does not equate to true acceptance.
Acceptance involves taking accountability for one's past actions.
Biblical stories can provide valuable lessons on acceptance and forgiveness.
Transformation begins in the heart, not just the mind.
You are not alone in your journey of self-discovery and healing.
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