How do I let go of the hurt from being treated badly by someone I loved?

How do you grieve a relationship that wasn’t all bad—but wasn’t good for you either? How do you heal when your heart is broken not just by loss, but by the way you were treated?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who asks how to release the grief and hurt of being treated badly by someone she deeply cared for.

Angela explores:

• Why breakups after hurtful relationships trigger a unique and complicated grief
• How to hold space for both the good memories and the painful reality
• Why friends’ well-meaning support can sometimes deepen feelings of isolation
• How loss isn't just about the person—it’s also about grieving the dream of what could have been
• The importance of honoring your pain without minimizing your experience
• Why healing after betrayal requires deep tenderness toward your own heart

If you've ever struggled to let go of a relationship that hurt you—or felt guilty for grieving someone who didn't treat you well—this episode offers gentle, grounded guidance for navigating the breakup grief process with compassion and clarity.

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