How do I say I’m not ready to live together?

Episode Title: How do I say I’m not ready to live together?

Description: What do you do when your partner is ready to move in together—and you're not? How do you communicate your needs without causing harm, and what role does past trauma play in shaping your readiness for deeper commitment?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who feels pressured to move in with his girlfriend, even though he's still healing from the grief of losing a previous partner.

Angela explores:

• How conflicting trauma histories show up in intimate relationships
• Why moving slowly can be an act of care, not avoidance
• How to express your boundaries around major steps like living together
• Why disappointment is a natural—and survivable—part of healthy relationships
• The importance of choosing what (and how much) to share about past trauma
• How emotional honesty builds stronger, more resilient connections

If you’re navigating mismatched timelines in your relationship—or wondering how to talk about your trauma history without feeling exposed—this episode offers gentle, trauma-informed guidance for finding your way forward.

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