I have complex trauma from childhood. How do I learn to love myself?

How do you begin to love yourself when you were never properly nurtured? What does healing look like when you feel like you don’t even know who you are?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener struggling with complex trauma from childhood—and the painful realization that self-love feels almost impossible.

Angela explores:

• Why missing early nurturing makes it harder to know—and care for—yourself
• How childhood survival strategies often lead to codependent patterns in adulthood
• Why getting to know yourself is the first step in learning how to nurture yourself
• How to start small by noticing your preferences, needs, and emotional landscape
• Why rushing or pressuring yourself to “catch up” only deepens old wounds
• How self-discovery, patience, and kindness lay the foundation for true healing

If you’ve ever felt lost inside your own life—or unsure how to begin building a relationship with yourself—this episode offers grounded, compassionate guidance for starting where you are.

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