My wife doesn’t get along with my family. What do I do?

What happens when the people you love don’t get along—and you're stuck in the middle? How do you honor your partner's feelings without betraying your family, or yourself?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who feels torn between his wife and his family during stressful holiday visits. His wife struggles with feeling disrespected by his mother and sister, but he’s spent years learning how to "go along to get along"—and now he's caught between them.

Angela explores:

• Why “going along” with family dynamics sometimes masks deeper loyalty binds
• How unspoken family rules shape our reactions—and why your partner may resist them
• Why expecting a partner to adjust to unfair family patterns can create resentment
• How to recognize when keeping the peace comes at too high a cost
• Ways to honor your partner’s experience while maintaining family boundaries
• How healing involves learning to hold loyalty to yourself first

If you’ve ever felt pulled between your partner and your family—or struggled with guilt about setting boundaries—this episode offers compassionate, clear-eyed guidance for navigating those painful dynamics.

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