August 5, 2025 • 16 mins
S2E3: Say How You Really Feel, Miss Moriarty
What if your face changed and the whole world thought they deserved an explanation?
In this episode, I reflect on the judgment Erin Moriarty faced, the weight of unspoken illness, and the chaos of a day where everyone — including me — had something to get off their chest.
It’s about public scrutiny, private battles, and choosing peace when the world wants drama. If you’ve ever swallowed your words to keep the peace… this one’s for you.
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(00:02):
She looked different, didn't she?
Her face was full, and then it just became gaunt looking, and I
could see the muscles in her jawwhen she talked, when she moved,
when she swallowed. Her eyes, they looked wider and
(00:24):
sunk in kind of like strained and her features were softer in
places. Her lips were larger.
She was the same person but it looked like it looked like there
was something behind her eyes. Little bit of sadness.
It reminded me of my sister whenshe lost a lot of weight.
(00:47):
It just seemed like her eyes started bulging a little bit.
She was still her but and she was thin, which was great, but
also she was eating vegetarian and just extremely healthy.
And I know that what she looked like was supposed to be the
pillar of health, but to me it just looked anorexic and and
(01:15):
that's kind of what Erin Moriarty looked like.
She looked noticeably different.And I'm watching The Boys right
now, so I feel like she's an OK character.
She's she's a doll, she's a darling and she plays that role
(01:36):
so well. But I'm noticing her change
across the seasons. And instead of pausing and
thinking why I am guilty of this, I just immediately
thought, this girl, stop messingwith your face, you have a
beautiful face, what are you doing?
(01:58):
But I think I do believe that she did.
She had to have done something to her lips, some Botox, some
fillers or whatever. Or maybe she was trying to
counteract something that she didn't like.
But while everyone else was chanting and believing and and
filling the Internet with noise about how she ruined her face,
(02:19):
her whole beautiful, gorgeous baby face, when no one saw
coming, was that her transformation?
It was not about vanity. Crazy enough, she was not trying
to be more beautiful. It wasn't an insecurity that was
surfacing. It was a disease, Graves'
disease, an autoimmune conditionthat can literally change the
(02:40):
way your face and eyes look. I did not see that coming.
I had to scour the Internet. Well, it didn't take me very
long to find it, but after I gotthrough watching and binging the
shows, I looked it up and she was quietly going through this
thing this whole time. And imagine your your medical
(03:03):
health is nobody else's business, but people feel like
they have rights to you because they're going through the story
like they own this piece. They spent time, they've
interacted not with the actor, but with this representation of
(03:26):
the actor. And there, there is a connection
that is made and they feel some some type of ownership and
betrayal and, you know, as though they have a say.
I feel like I was her neighbor and I needed to go, that it was
my duty to go knock on her door and inform her that she was
(03:47):
beautiful, maybe give her an uplifting life coach type
speech. This girl did not need that.
And she has so much poise. She was just going through this
quietly on her own, minding her own business, doing her job,
focusing on her work as an actress.
So yeah, she looks different now.
(04:11):
She was fighting for her life. And people judge those symptoms
before they even ask about the cause.
Again, shame on me. So you never know what someone
is fighting. And then today, I mean, every
(04:32):
day is a struggle. Everybody's going through
something in their own special way.
And I get it. Everybody's world is unique to
them. And of course, the things that
seem small to you or maybe to others are larger because that
is your world, and your world iseverything.
(04:52):
You're the one living in it. You are the star of your own
show, whether people want to admit it or not.
The captain of your own ship. So I spoke to my sister today
again. Everyone's going through
something. And you know, every time I talk
(05:12):
to her, she's so tired. And we're working on this thing.
This is the thing, by the way. We're working on this
conversation, this elongated conversation to where I want to
document the days as they go by.It's like a living diary.
And I'm been biting you in and I'm saying come sit down, share
some tea with me, maybe a littlebit of bread and butter.
(05:37):
What do you feel like? Are you a seaweed kind of
person? Do you like some toasted
seaweed? Is what's in the cabinet that or
Ritz crackers. So I mean, you're going to have
to pick. Maybe you like some Gatorade,
maybe you want a sunny delight. Unfortunately, I have kids.
Unfortunately, fortunately I have kids type foods.
(05:59):
I came across the wrong whatever.
Anyway, unfortunately I have children.
I love them. I do.
I love them. I do.
Wow. I'm going to keep going down
that whole, that whole rabbit hole.
Doesn't that sound like it? That sounds like a different
(06:20):
song, right? Anyway, Anyway, OK, so she was
going through her thing. She opened up to me and I said,
Holly, next time let me record you, OK?
Because this is exactly what people need to hear.
They need to know what the struggle is when you're going
through it because it's never asreal as when you're going
(06:42):
through it in that moment. I'm not going to tell her story.
I'm not going to share her secrets and her the juicy
details of her life. But be assured I will be
including her in future episodesso that you can hear some of
what's going on in the life of anow single mother.
So single mothers unite. Here we are.
(07:06):
We are holding it down. We are spinning all the plates
and we're loving our kids. Speaking of loving our kids,
see, unfortunately, fortunately,my little wee one fell asleep in
between my legs. I was sitting cross legged on
the couch. Some really nice couches that I
just got. By the way, they were super
(07:26):
cheap on Amazon, and they're like, it's just cushions, like
stacked cushions, and you can sprawl out on them.
It's like a big bed. Anyway, couch.
Great. Love it.
And then, oh, it's ribbed. Yeah, the texture is ribbed and
very plushy. I love it.
I don't know. Yeah, a little baby fell asleep
in between my legs, and he was just so precious with his teeny
(07:48):
tiny legs and arms and his sweetcurly curls.
He's a little cherub. So I rested him gently over on
that the couch behind me, his angelic self.
He was so sweet to me Tonight. That boy is going to be
(08:09):
something else. But yeah, you don't want you
don't want to lash out, but. And sometimes you got to get
some stuff off your chest. And I'm pretty sure that Aaron
Moriarty. Moriarty.
I don't, I don't, I don't know how you say her name.
Aaron Moriarty, I'm sure she wanted to go rope, punch
(08:32):
somebody, drop, kick them curb, stop them, do something like
what they're doing on the boys, make them explode like confetti.
Or the Skittles, like a waterfall of Skittles.
Like that's what it looks like to me when they explode.
It's just these murders are almost comical but fun to watch.
(08:54):
Not realistic, but in the best way.
I mean, sometimes you really just want to do some damage and
get it out, but then you breathethrough the moment and you
realize that there's something more to be gained from the
experience. Life is tough.
(09:15):
People are going to say things. That is just a bunch of bull,
bull duty. They're just going to say
things. And it really all it is, is a
reflection of their insecuritiesand their hate that they have
that's actually directed toward themselves.
And I'm not just saying this because it sounds good and
(09:38):
someone said it and hey, I'm going to go on ahead and pass
this on so that you don't think that there's anything wrong with
you. I don't know, maybe there's
something wrong with you. But also people are pretty
shitty. And when they have something
wrong with themselves, they try,they project it.
And so you have to be aware of that.
(09:59):
Having grace and poise will get you through some pretty tough
situations. You rise above the moment and
you embrace, I don't know, an ethereal whole wholeness.
(10:25):
Yep. So at work today I opened up my
e-mail and there was a whole lotof finger pointing.
(10:45):
It was like disco up in that office.
People get these wild hairs man and and if you are not present
to defend yourself, they just run amok and they'll just go on.
And instead of taking onus of what is or their responsibility
and they did not complete, they choose or opt to point fingers
(11:10):
and throw blame. And people follow the follow the
crumbs. You know, true or not, in that
moment, people follow the crumbs.
And it's whoever speaks the loudest, whoever is the most
aggressive, whoever is taking charge, whether they have the
(11:31):
facts or if it's fake news, theydeliver it with confidence and
persuasively. And that seems to rule the day.
Those are the people who walk out the winners, despite the
fact that the information may befalse and refuted later on.
So good job. Good job being a leader, if
(11:55):
that's what you want to call it.But I had to go and and defuse
some unnecessary finger pointingat work.
And and that was my struggle. It really wasn't that big of a
struggle, but I did not want to get up this morning.
I was like, seriously, again, I have to go to work again.
(12:18):
You mean I can't just work for five days and that be it for the
rest of my life? I'm really working toward that.
That's a goal of mine. I just want to no more work.
No more work because work is work.
I don't want to work. I have fun.
I want to talk to you. Oh, my goodness.
(12:39):
Tell me what is going on in the Life and Times of you anyway.
Yeah. Get that shit off your chest,
Aaron. Go on ahead and curb stomp some
people. No, don't do that.
I'm so proud of you. I think that you're a role
model. I think that that you're
inspiring and we should aspire to think better thoughts and to
(13:05):
rise above the situation when people are acting crazy.
You be that calm breath of freshair, that still but strong voice
that people can trust. Yeah, people are hypocrites, so
(13:42):
don't always believe what you hear and definitely don't stay
on social media. You'll end up suicidal, you
know, don't you take all that stuff with a grain of salt and
then, you know, just a grain so you don't get high blood
pressure and pass out anymore. Would be undignified.
(14:08):
Just a grain. I don't have much, but I'm being
honest with you. Tonight was tough because for
whatever reason, I am super judgy.
I am judgy of myself. And yeah, we judge ourselves so
harshly. And I, I realized that I'm like,
(14:28):
who wants to listen to these cowturds coming out of my mouth
right now? But it's funny because right
now, who knows when you'll be listening to this, but nobody
cares until they do. So, you know, Erin Moriarty, she
was just a girl. My sister's just a girl.
I'm just a girl. I'm just a girl in the world.
(14:53):
That's all that we need to be. Yeah.
Everybody has their struggles and their confrontations that
may or may not occur. But if it's important to you,
it's important. So make sure that you live in
(15:15):
your truth. I think that's essential.
And I'm trying to do that for myself.
And I'm trying to walk through it and remember who I'm talking
to because I don't even, I don'teven know my voice.
I don't even know who I am half the time.
And then I was watching The Boysand Aaron Moriarty, Starlight
got into a fight with shifter. This is, I don't know, whatever
(15:39):
the last season is, I haven't seen the most recent one.
It's 2024, so I'm still waiting on the newest season to come
out. I'm all caught up.
I'm ready. I'm ready for the drop.
But yeah, she was fighting with a shifter and the shifter said,
I remember what the shifter said, but she said I don't know
who I am and blah, blah, blah, but I'm the girl that's beating
(16:03):
your ass right now or something like that.
And I was just like, Oh my God, that was so real.
Damn straight. I don't know who I'm going to
be. I don't know who I am right now.
Sometimes I don't recognize myself in the mirror.
But I'm doing this and it's happening now.
So get it off your chest and move on.
Move forward. This is the way forward.
(16:24):
And you're listening to your host better, Moody.
Thank you. I finished another episode and
good night.
She looked different, didn't she?
Her face was full, and then it just became gaunt looking, and I
could see the muscles in her jawwhen she talked, when she moved,
when she swallowed. Her eyes, they looked wider and
(00:24):
sunk in kind of like strained and her features were softer in
places. Her lips were larger.
She was the same person but it looked like it looked like there
was something behind her eyes. Little bit of sadness.
It reminded me of my sister whenshe lost a lot of weight.
(00:47):
It just seemed like her eyes started bulging a little bit.
She was still her but and she was thin, which was great, but
also she was eating vegetarian and just extremely healthy.
And I know that what she looked like was supposed to be the
pillar of health, but to me it just looked anorexic and and
(01:15):
that's kind of what Erin Moriarty looked like.
She looked noticeably different.And I'm watching The Boys right
now, so I feel like she's an OK character.
She's she's a doll, she's a darling and she plays that role
(01:36):
so well. But I'm noticing her change
across the seasons. And instead of pausing and
thinking why I am guilty of this, I just immediately
thought, this girl, stop messingwith your face, you have a
beautiful face, what are you doing?
(01:58):
But I think I do believe that she did.
She had to have done something to her lips, some Botox, some
fillers or whatever. Or maybe she was trying to
counteract something that she didn't like.
But while everyone else was chanting and believing and and
filling the Internet with noise about how she ruined her face,
(02:19):
her whole beautiful, gorgeous baby face, when no one saw
coming, was that her transformation?
It was not about vanity. Crazy enough, she was not trying
to be more beautiful. It wasn't an insecurity that was
surfacing. It was a disease, Graves'
disease, an autoimmune conditionthat can literally change the
(02:40):
way your face and eyes look. I did not see that coming.
I had to scour the Internet. Well, it didn't take me very
long to find it, but after I gotthrough watching and binging the
shows, I looked it up and she was quietly going through this
thing this whole time. And imagine your your medical
(03:03):
health is nobody else's business, but people feel like
they have rights to you because they're going through the story
like they own this piece. They spent time, they've
interacted not with the actor, but with this representation of
(03:26):
the actor. And there, there is a connection
that is made and they feel some some type of ownership and
betrayal and, you know, as though they have a say.
I feel like I was her neighbor and I needed to go, that it was
my duty to go knock on her door and inform her that she was
(03:47):
beautiful, maybe give her an uplifting life coach type
speech. This girl did not need that.
And she has so much poise. She was just going through this
quietly on her own, minding her own business, doing her job,
focusing on her work as an actress.
So yeah, she looks different now.
(04:11):
She was fighting for her life. And people judge those symptoms
before they even ask about the cause.
Again, shame on me. So you never know what someone
is fighting. And then today, I mean, every
(04:32):
day is a struggle. Everybody's going through
something in their own special way.
And I get it. Everybody's world is unique to
them. And of course, the things that
seem small to you or maybe to others are larger because that
is your world, and your world iseverything.
(04:52):
You're the one living in it. You are the star of your own
show, whether people want to admit it or not.
The captain of your own ship. So I spoke to my sister today
again. Everyone's going through
something. And you know, every time I talk
(05:12):
to her, she's so tired. And we're working on this thing.
This is the thing, by the way. We're working on this
conversation, this elongated conversation to where I want to
document the days as they go by.It's like a living diary.
And I'm been biting you in and I'm saying come sit down, share
some tea with me, maybe a littlebit of bread and butter.
(05:37):
What do you feel like? Are you a seaweed kind of
person? Do you like some toasted
seaweed? Is what's in the cabinet that or
Ritz crackers. So I mean, you're going to have
to pick. Maybe you like some Gatorade,
maybe you want a sunny delight. Unfortunately, I have kids.
Unfortunately, fortunately I have kids type foods.
(05:59):
I came across the wrong whatever.
Anyway, unfortunately I have children.
I love them. I do.
I love them. I do.
Wow. I'm going to keep going down
that whole, that whole rabbit hole.
Doesn't that sound like it? That sounds like a different
(06:20):
song, right? Anyway, Anyway, OK, so she was
going through her thing. She opened up to me and I said,
Holly, next time let me record you, OK?
Because this is exactly what people need to hear.
They need to know what the struggle is when you're going
through it because it's never asreal as when you're going
(06:42):
through it in that moment. I'm not going to tell her story.
I'm not going to share her secrets and her the juicy
details of her life. But be assured I will be
including her in future episodesso that you can hear some of
what's going on in the life of anow single mother.
So single mothers unite. Here we are.
(07:06):
We are holding it down. We are spinning all the plates
and we're loving our kids. Speaking of loving our kids,
see, unfortunately, fortunately,my little wee one fell asleep in
between my legs. I was sitting cross legged on
the couch. Some really nice couches that I
just got. By the way, they were super
(07:26):
cheap on Amazon, and they're like, it's just cushions, like
stacked cushions, and you can sprawl out on them.
It's like a big bed. Anyway, couch.
Great. Love it.
And then, oh, it's ribbed. Yeah, the texture is ribbed and
very plushy. I love it.
I don't know. Yeah, a little baby fell asleep
in between my legs, and he was just so precious with his teeny
(07:48):
tiny legs and arms and his sweetcurly curls.
He's a little cherub. So I rested him gently over on
that the couch behind me, his angelic self.
He was so sweet to me Tonight. That boy is going to be
(08:09):
something else. But yeah, you don't want you
don't want to lash out, but. And sometimes you got to get
some stuff off your chest. And I'm pretty sure that Aaron
Moriarty. Moriarty.
I don't, I don't, I don't know how you say her name.
Aaron Moriarty, I'm sure she wanted to go rope, punch
(08:32):
somebody, drop, kick them curb, stop them, do something like
what they're doing on the boys, make them explode like confetti.
Or the Skittles, like a waterfall of Skittles.
Like that's what it looks like to me when they explode.
It's just these murders are almost comical but fun to watch.
(08:54):
Not realistic, but in the best way.
I mean, sometimes you really just want to do some damage and
get it out, but then you breathethrough the moment and you
realize that there's something more to be gained from the
experience. Life is tough.
(09:15):
People are going to say things. That is just a bunch of bull,
bull duty. They're just going to say
things. And it really all it is, is a
reflection of their insecuritiesand their hate that they have
that's actually directed toward themselves.
And I'm not just saying this because it sounds good and
(09:38):
someone said it and hey, I'm going to go on ahead and pass
this on so that you don't think that there's anything wrong with
you. I don't know, maybe there's
something wrong with you. But also people are pretty
shitty. And when they have something
wrong with themselves, they try,they project it.
And so you have to be aware of that.
(09:59):
Having grace and poise will get you through some pretty tough
situations. You rise above the moment and
you embrace, I don't know, an ethereal whole wholeness.
(10:25):
Yep. So at work today I opened up my
e-mail and there was a whole lotof finger pointing.
(10:45):
It was like disco up in that office.
People get these wild hairs man and and if you are not present
to defend yourself, they just run amok and they'll just go on.
And instead of taking onus of what is or their responsibility
and they did not complete, they choose or opt to point fingers
(11:10):
and throw blame. And people follow the follow the
crumbs. You know, true or not, in that
moment, people follow the crumbs.
And it's whoever speaks the loudest, whoever is the most
aggressive, whoever is taking charge, whether they have the
(11:31):
facts or if it's fake news, theydeliver it with confidence and
persuasively. And that seems to rule the day.
Those are the people who walk out the winners, despite the
fact that the information may befalse and refuted later on.
So good job. Good job being a leader, if
(11:55):
that's what you want to call it.But I had to go and and defuse
some unnecessary finger pointingat work.
And and that was my struggle. It really wasn't that big of a
struggle, but I did not want to get up this morning.
I was like, seriously, again, I have to go to work again.
(12:18):
You mean I can't just work for five days and that be it for the
rest of my life? I'm really working toward that.
That's a goal of mine. I just want to no more work.
No more work because work is work.
I don't want to work. I have fun.
I want to talk to you. Oh, my goodness.
(12:39):
Tell me what is going on in the Life and Times of you anyway.
Yeah. Get that shit off your chest,
Aaron. Go on ahead and curb stomp some
people. No, don't do that.
I'm so proud of you. I think that you're a role
model. I think that that you're
inspiring and we should aspire to think better thoughts and to
(13:05):
rise above the situation when people are acting crazy.
You be that calm breath of freshair, that still but strong voice
that people can trust. Yeah, people are hypocrites, so
(13:42):
don't always believe what you hear and definitely don't stay
on social media. You'll end up suicidal, you
know, don't you take all that stuff with a grain of salt and
then, you know, just a grain so you don't get high blood
pressure and pass out anymore. Would be undignified.
(14:08):
Just a grain. I don't have much, but I'm being
honest with you. Tonight was tough because for
whatever reason, I am super judgy.
I am judgy of myself. And yeah, we judge ourselves so
harshly. And I, I realized that I'm like,
(14:28):
who wants to listen to these cowturds coming out of my mouth
right now? But it's funny because right
now, who knows when you'll be listening to this, but nobody
cares until they do. So, you know, Erin Moriarty, she
was just a girl. My sister's just a girl.
I'm just a girl. I'm just a girl in the world.
(14:53):
That's all that we need to be. Yeah.
Everybody has their struggles and their confrontations that
may or may not occur. But if it's important to you,
it's important. So make sure that you live in
(15:15):
your truth. I think that's essential.
And I'm trying to do that for myself.
And I'm trying to walk through it and remember who I'm talking
to because I don't even, I don'teven know my voice.
I don't even know who I am half the time.
And then I was watching The Boysand Aaron Moriarty, Starlight
got into a fight with shifter. This is, I don't know, whatever
(15:39):
the last season is, I haven't seen the most recent one.
It's 2024, so I'm still waiting on the newest season to come
out. I'm all caught up.
I'm ready. I'm ready for the drop.
But yeah, she was fighting with a shifter and the shifter said,
I remember what the shifter said, but she said I don't know
who I am and blah, blah, blah, but I'm the girl that's beating
(16:03):
your ass right now or something like that.
And I was just like, Oh my God, that was so real.
Damn straight. I don't know who I'm going to
be. I don't know who I am right now.
Sometimes I don't recognize myself in the mirror.
But I'm doing this and it's happening now.
So get it off your chest and move on.
Move forward. This is the way forward.
(16:24):
And you're listening to your host better, Moody.
Thank you. I finished another episode and
good night.
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