July 7, 2024 • 40 mins
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In this conversation, Edith and Michael discuss various topics including their love for art, the concept of bisexual coffee, the importance of finding supportive friends, the impact of wildfires, and the growth and dynamics of relationships. They also touch on the importance of communication, respect, and personal growth within relationships. The conversation covers various topics including friendship, self-discovery, pride experiences, and communication in relationships. The hosts discuss the importance of letting go, staying in a high vibe, and practicing meditation. They also share personal stories about their pride experiences and the significance of being true to oneself. The conversation concludes with a discussion about the dynamics of relationships and the importance of open communication.
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We're having technical difficulties, ladies and gentlemen.
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I like my back state.
How do you like it?
I'm digging the arch.
I'm a big fan of black and white art and general.
I'm seeing Salvador Dali.
There's a lot of cool things to look at the back behind you right now,
which there is more behind me than there normally is.
But that's because I'm house sitting in a nice house with two big dogs in it.
So.
Isn't it great to be mobile?
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Isn't it great?
And to be somewhere new, to experience new things, it's always a pleasure.
I'm super excited for the podcast tonight.
Again, it's Edith Ivey Rosenblatt with Michael LeBlanc.
And we are bisexual coffee.
It's only $7 and won't break the bank.
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Yeah.
I mean, to be honest with you, there really isn't a question in what else you should have.
You go into a coffee shop, that's what you get it.
You know what?
That's going to be the best kind of coffee.
It's bisexual.
Absolutely.
There's a meme that I found on Reddit and it was talking about bisexual coffee.
And I clipped it, I shared it, and it captured the imagination of 2.4 million people on my
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Instagram because they all got down with bisexual coffee memes.
You know what?
Because everybody can identify with it.
Right?
I wish I made it myself.
Because it's the truth.
But yeah, definitely.
And there was basically the whole punchline of it.
It was, you know, you could either stand in line and have a bisexual make you your coffee
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or you can go home and make coffee yourself, which turns out a bisexual still made the coffee.
And I was like, haha.
That's right.
That's great.
Everybody's a little bisexual.
I just love it.
They just don't know it yet.
You just need to embrace it.
But no, I don't want to, I guess, straight shame.
Some people just don't have that itch, that urge.
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They only look at one way.
Maybe they'll change in their life.
No one person stays the same thing throughout the entire life.
And you'll find love.
That's nirvana.
Wow, this place.
That's true.
Absolutely.
It is the cycle of life where you're dying and coming back to life over and over and over again.
You're finding out ways to live better each and every time, hopefully.
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Right.
Absolutely.
And it's a first, second there.
And it only took me a split second for me to realize that you were not talking about
curcobane, but I'm right there with you now.
Yeah.
So Edith, you don't think he's come back?
You don't think he's come back?
What is he, the grunge Jesus?
Is he back now?
Yeah.
He's here to absolve us of all of our plans.
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I think so.
I think he is back.
But if you ask me who is grunge Jesus in this moment, I wouldn't know.
Yeah.
I've been on the road for days, darling.
I've been traveling, you see.
You have.
You have escaped the natural wildfires out there.
If anybody's out there and root, root, root, help me out here.
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Where were you?
We had do so New Mexico.
That's where I was living.
If anybody's out there by the time you guys listen to this, I hope that your property
withstood the wildfires that just decided to just take up and run.
I saw most of the devastation was to older homes, older homes.
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The newer homes were still standing.
So got the Alto as a village probably north of me and they got the worst of everything.
So.
Oh, well, I hope it's not too bad.
I don't know anything about the injuries or anything.
If anything was, I think everybody got evacuated.
It sounded like everybody got evacuated at a pretty good time.
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Like nobody was really caught by surprise.
And it was wild because it actually affected some of the work that we have here in Georgia
because we work with people who are over there in Arizona, Nevada, Texas, but basically Texas over
not all the way into California yet.
We can't justify going out all the way out in California yet.
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But you know, somebody was like, yeah.
There's an app called watch duty.
Yeah.
I apologize for interrupting you.
I just wanted to let you know.
There is an app called watch duty and it tells you about all the fires in the United States of America.
Every one of them, how they're blazing, what can be expected.
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And it's updated by volunteers, people who have been firemen or EMS or and they go and they assess the fires.
Actually, mostly a lot of those fires are fought by people who volunteer.
They're not even getting paid.
Bless the volunteers in general because I mean, there are people out there who
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Volunteers.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Who have a passion for going out there, make sure everybody stays safe.
I've thankfully never been in a fire situation, but I can only hope that if I do, there are people out there
willing to help me out in the same way.
Can I tell you what I learned?
You sure can.
Nothing fucking matters.
I thought you were just going to stop with the start of the word nothing.
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Yeah.
Well, okay.
Let me elaborate on that a little bit.
Anything that would normally bring you suffering, anything that would like, you know, coming out for me last year was really painful.
And I don't know why I thought my friends wouldn't accept me.
My friends that I had, didn't accept me.
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But the new friends that I've made like you, Kitty Rebellion, Mel the Podcaster, Freakbase, just to name a few.
They want to see me do well.
Adam A. Vittable, I'm really excited.
I really want you to meet him too.
You'll love him to pieces.
But these, yeah, these people want you to do well.
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Instead of what I've experienced my whole life has been competition and people who didn't want me to do well.
Well, that matters.
We are just kind of like lips in the pan, aren't we?
We just have to enjoy our time here, make the best out of it, try not to dwell, keep moving forward, find people who are decent to be around because life's too short to be around assholes.
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Find your high-vibed tribe.
Find the people that don't reside in anger all the time or frustration or victimhood or because what I've noticed is being around that group of people kept me stuck.
You could feel that they didn't want you to do well.
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You could feel it somehow.
It's like a cloud.
It's like a miasma that just kind of weighs you down.
I've got a friend of mine, a very recent friend.
I met him at work and at first he was kind of standoffish.
I thought he was kind of an asshole actually and I don't know how he felt about me.
He's never really told me about the first inklings of how he felt about me.
But like after we got the talk, talking, he said that to me.
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He was like, you've got that energy.
You've got that fit.
You're one of my tribe.
I had known him maybe like three months at that point and it felt so cool at that point because I was already kind of feeling that way.
We had enough differences to make conversations interesting but we had enough similarities that we could also kind of geek out about some stuff.
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It was like one of the first few times in my adult life that I had made a friend that it wasn't like a romantic connection that I was looking for or anything like that.
It was just like a work friend.
It was an actual friend that happened and it felt really good.
I'd have to say over the last four years I've been working on doing that myself because I live in a completely different state than I did five, six years ago.
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Literally, actual state.
Can you tell me a little bit about the state that you were in five years ago?
It's going to be over six years now. I have such a hard time tracking time just over things.
Let's say six years right now.
Literally, I was in a different state.
I was in South Carolina but I was in a, there were a lot of other metaphysical states that I was in like depression, being overweight.
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I had diabetes that was creeping up in me and I didn't know it.
It's just been divorced a couple of years past with my mom.
Yeah, I was just wondering what was going on.
Yeah, I saw ahead.
I was like, somebody's working in the background for you.
I'm a couple of years at that point into my mom just having passed and everything.
Sure, I was in South Carolina but I wasn't dealing with any of my loss.
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I was just surviving, wearing really loose clothing over my body just to hide the weight, cutting off my hair because I didn't want to deal with it and just living, just trying to survive.
I was finding the right people after my mom passed, after my separation, well, during my separation.
That really set me on a path to where I am now where I seek out people with fantastic energy and I talked to people to learn how to face my problems instead of just letting them own me, being more open with my sexuality.
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Actually, I'm actually wearing the Nautica Pride shirt that I found in Belk.
It was the only one.
I love it.
Yeah, it looks excellent.
It was the only one there left.
It was in clearance.
It was hiding behind shirts and it fit me exactly.
Like I was like, I was made for you.
Yeah, and I wore this to Pride with a whole bunch of other things.
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Actually, I'd love to send you a couple of photos if you want to kind of like splash them on the screen.
I would love that.
Absolutely.
Share your Pride experience.
Would you please?
I would like to hear all about it.
First off, it was my first Pride event ever.
And I'd like to thank the people who I've been talking to first and foremost.
And I've been doing a lot of thinking about this and trying to really not really tally all the queer people in my life, but I don't have a lot of queer people in my life that aren't family.
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Specifically the family that I married into, if any of my actual blood family is queer at all, it's not something they're willing to share because I've got bigots and scared people all throughout my actual blood family.
But I don't have a lot of actual queer friends.
And which is why like...
You have me.
You have me.
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You were the first that I can think of because I've made acquaintances of the years and I got along with them famously, but nobody who I was able to actually just sit down and talk to get to know the way that I have you.
Because of me talking to you and at the time in your life and being able to interview you like after you have come through your revelations and you would start coming out and everything and coming into your own and realizing your own energy.
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I was like, I've known for so long that I'm by and I'm not trying to be part of a community.
You don't have to be part of Pride, but if it's something that you want to do, if you want to...
This is what I'm telling myself like a month or so ago.
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I was like, I don't have to be a part of Pride, but if I really want to celebrate who I am instead of just kind of shrugging whenever anybody asks, you know, if anybody asks or just keeping it all to myself when there's literally a whole month of not having to be part of Pride.
If you're like a whole month of not keeping to yourself and remembering those who were before us who had to be quiet.
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And you picked us.
Yeah. And I'm like, I have to. It started to become like a need for me.
And so the cool thing about that as well, I was going through that.
I was talking to my wife and I'm like, hey, I want to go to Pride.
I'm like, all right, let's do this. I don't know if I'm going to be off, but if I can't get off, I want you to go. Like, we'll get you an outfit and everything together.
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Right. That's the kind of love you want to be around is the one that fosters the person that you are.
The one that says, hey, go ahead, grow and love yourself.
Now, I believe Marley understands truly what it's like to be repressed and have somebody tell her, hey, you can't be you.
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Yeah. She knows how she's had people try to tell her that, which is why she was never in a serious relationship before she met me.
Too many people were trying to be like, okay, you're basically a token female on my arm.
Like she had a, she had a couple of dates with this one guy.
Every single date was about, okay, we're going to do whatever we're going to do.
But mostly I need to make sure I can hear the football game every time you can just hang out with me.
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And so, you know, that's essentially what it is.
My mom's not here. Could you just sit there? Look pretty. Be nice.
But I'm going to do what I want to do.
Yeah. Yeah. Let's, let's eat in silence at the bar while I sit there and stare at a TV, you know, and she was like, I need somebody who's a little bit more complicated than that,
who actually appreciates me for the person who I know that I can be.
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And not even the person that I know that I can't, the person that I am now, damn it.
Like, you know, and she's such a, she's such a force and that comes out in so many like passionate ways, including fighting.
You know, she's one of those people that if I'm agreeing with her all the time, something's wrong.
She needs to know that, you know, she can't possibly be right all the time.
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There's got to be some balance in this world. She wants somebody to help her reminder of that.
When did it become blasphemous to tell your partner, Hey, you know, maybe you shouldn't fry the hamburger like that.
Maybe it's going to come out. You could flip it twice and hope for the best, but don't leave it in the pan to continue. I've done that.
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Yeah. And let's not get offended.
The domestic traits that have caused fights like me washing this one. I swear to God, I thought she was going to like, like come down and bring the wrath of all the gods above us down on me.
She comes out there and I'm washing the car with her grandmother's green washcloth, one of one of her set out of a set and she just, she, she, I've never say I've never seen her turn that color.
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Purple since then. And she was quick to let me know that I was wrong. And I just, at this point, I've had a couple of fights with her. None is, none is where she was angry at that.
I just, I just let her say it. I just, I took it all.
It must be important.
Yes.
And that's exactly what I thought. And so I just took it out. I was like, I am so sorry. She's like, I bet you are.
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She ran off and she, she, she cooled down for a moment because she realized that she really wasn't saying anything at that point. She was just screaming.
She was just frustrated at that point.
And she came back to me. She's like, she's like, I'm still mad at you. And I was like, and previous fights that I've had with people, I expect like both of us to say I'm sorry.
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But I realized at that point, I fucked up like, I was the one to say sorry at that point.
For a motion, for a motion.
Yeah.
Wouldn't you say that in a relationship, where we've gotten is that when I've noticed is when you're communicating your feelings.
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And the other choose the other person chooses to misunderstand. Like, it's kind of a choice at that point. Like, if you had said, well, who gives a shit about these dirty, nasty old washcloths anyway.
You know what I mean? That would be invalidating her feelings.
I really, she was just getting frustrated because she didn't want to use the washcloths.
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She was in the right. And I will say this. And this is something that I learned. I was kind of a heathen. When we first got together, I knew nothing of proper towels and proper cloths for different things.
I had no idea what a duvet was. I still thought a trivet was pronounced trivet.
There are things that I've learned over the last four or five years. This particular washcloth I picked because it was so pristine, because it was a very well put together.
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Yeah.
I didn't think about it. I was like, it's a cloth in the house. And it was an eye opener for me that, yes, we are together, but there are going to be things that we are going to hold in value that the other person just either a won't understand.
Or be, you know, doesn't want to understand because it's not in their, it's not in their sphere. They know it's important to them.
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It's not in their realm.
Yeah.
Yeah. They don't necessarily have to cherish it the same way that the other person does, but respect still has to be there.
So, thank you.
Well, no, haven't we all? I mean, I have done a lot of growing in regards to people too. What I was taught, what I was taught by my parents was that they were not going to be able to do anything.
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What I was taught by my parents was that they didn't respect each other. My mom would want my dad to do something and my dad would ignore it. And then it would make my mother angry.
My dad would want my mom to do something. And when she didn't do it, he would come over to us and complain to us about mom.
So, can you imagine the training that I got about relationships? It was all disrespecting people.
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Yeah.
Respect is love. That's what I was taught. And that's what a lot of people are taught is that you need to stand in your lane.
If somebody wants you to do something for them, you need to stay where you are. Don't communicate with them and don't do what they want.
And that's neurodivergence right there.
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Yeah.
So, I had to unlearn that.
That's a relationship schism that is hard to breach until you find someone I think that is wildly different from the people that you've known before, which is why I, as much as I really enjoy monogamy, there's something to be said for a serial monogamous path as well, because people change so much like in my first relationship.
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And it ended because of the way that we grew. We grew in different ways. I had things that I was talking about like future things, buying a house and whatnot. She didn't want to get that serious.
I mean, it had been 14, 15 years, she didn't want to get that serious. There were other things that she still wanted to do. And she saw that as like a limitation.
And so that relationship ends and then I find somebody who challenges me where I am now and the growth that I'm doing. And I mean, there are things that she's learned.
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And like I said, I'm her first serious relationship.
Like so she's like talking about like therapy and whatnot, just to make sure that, you know, we both are emotionally responsible enough to talk to somebody else and go, Hey, is this normal instead of just going, of course, this is normal.
And then like build like either weird resentments or weird ways of coping that we don't tell the other one because they're spear.
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Like she's doing a lot of growing with that as well. It's cool to grow with somebody. And that's what a relationship should be. You don't, you don't just meet somebody and go, All right, this is it.
This is how the relationship looks. No, it starts to change and it starts to grow and it starts to meld. And all of a sudden you're doing this on camera.
It's so cool. When you do it, and this is where everything that I've ever been taught, the letting go, okay, the high vibe, the staying in a place of love, the meditation exercise, just communications going to be at the very, very top.
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Absolutely. Now when I'm with my dear friend that I've known for over 25 years, and we've just recently, it's like we've been living separate lives, but growing together and just kind of calling each other and checking in with one another.
And we'll talk about things we've learned and just experiences we've had. The letting go, we've done together. It's almost in tandem. Just the friendship just got stronger and stronger and stronger.
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And I might add that I was the girlfriend of her husband's brother and, you know, just very naive. I didn't understand what was expected of me or I just was dumber than a bag of hammers.
I hadn't experienced life. I hadn't talked to people. I hadn't tried to relate to anybody. I was very selfish in regards to, I'm already okay. I'm fine. I don't need any help. You know what I'm saying?
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Yeah.
She's over here laughing.
Because it's true.
I'm reminded of that meme and I'm sure you've seen it of that dog that's wearing the hat and he's in the middle of a bar. It's a little cartoon dog and the bar's on fire. And he's just sitting there calmly at a table and he's going, this is fine. This is fine.
Everything's fine.
Yeah. There's no need to worry about anything. I have all the coping mechanisms that I'll ever need. Nothing's ever going to change. And this, damn, okay. Yeah. I thought it was that too until I went to therapy. And I was like, I've got some things to do.
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But to go back to your original question that led us to the relationship talk was, Marley was wildly enthusiastic about me going to Pride. And we went to Belk. I had a $70 belt card that I had for my birthday and I hadn't had a chance to use it yet.
And so we went there and I was like, I don't want to just wear jeans and a t-shirt. This is my chance to wear something different. And so like, those are swimming trunks that fit well with the color and the shirt can to came.
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It was still very much my style and down to the like kind of floppy sun hat thing that I wear when I go walking. But Marley was able to find clothes because she got the day off. She got the actually the whole weekend off and she was able to find clothes that matched with that.
And she was worried that they wouldn't get in on time, but they did tour. It came through and clutch shout out to sword. Everything came together. The outfit looked great. She walked around with my walking stick and this one little girl walked by and called her like a, like a gay witch or a queer sorceress or something like that.
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You know, Marley, yeah, Marley is, she is straight, but she, she didn't like wreck the girl. She's an ally though. She definitely is. Yeah, definitely is.
And I took the stick from her and I was like, all right, so what am I? You're a queer wizard. I'm like, yeah, damn right I am.
You know, little kids, they just say whatever they do. It was great. It was a whole good time to rewind a little bit as we were getting dressed and getting ready and everything. She was like, do you want to do anything, makeup or anything?
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And then we went to the hotel room and I was like, I was thinking about putting color in my beard and the color of the bisexual flag. I think that would be really cool. And she's like, okay, we'll see what we have.
She picked up not only beard dye, like just day, like day or two beard dye, but also spray paint in case something didn't pick up right. And so I just let her go crazy with that because when it comes to like, she's done costuming for plays before and I've seen the things that she's pulled
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out of like the trash closet and make like these float some in jets and puppets for Ariel, a little mermaid. And the things that she does when she's, she's like the beautiful mind guy instead of seeing numbers and stuff.
It's all costuming and makeup that's floating around when she looks at something. And so she gets my beard colored, right? This side was easy to do because the pink, I mean, it was blue, purple and then pink.
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The pink on this side, it was just too bland. And so she was like holding up broke, tore Christmas cards over just the right spot. She's like, all right, hold these here. I want to spray it down.
And then she looked at me. She's like, do you want to do anything else? I'm like, I like it when you do my eyeliner. And she's like, all right, screw it. She found the right eyeliner and I had blue eyeliner.
And then she's like, you want any, you want any anything else? I'm like, what does it need? You know, because I'm trusting her. Like she's the one that sees my face.
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Sure, I'm going to go out there, but she's not going to go out there and make me not representing my best self. She's like, I think a little bit of silver sparkle will go well.
She's like, I don't necessarily like sparkle. She's like, I know, but I think it's going to work. And it did. It did. It was so good. I looked so cool. And then we go out there to the parade. It was.
The pictures. Yeah. So, so fun. There was only one little little blip of people being protesting assholes, but they were doing it in that way that they're holding rainbow stuff, but they're saying stuff that was like rainbow is for faith, not for love or something like that.
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Like it was, it was like.
So their message was skewed.
Yeah.
Yeah, it's a thing where it's like, yeah.
And so, but that, but the cops broke that up pretty quickly. It's like, nah, man, this isn't what this is about. But of course we're in Augusta, Georgia in the middle in the beginning of summer.
We got a lot of sun. We sweated it out. We drank not enough water. There was a festival afterwards where I got to interview people. I'm still working on that video because the audio is horrible.
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And.
Add music.
No, it was just, it's a new microphone that work gave us. They had extra microphones and it's a nice microphone. I just don't know how to use it yet. I should have stuck with a microphone that I knew, but I was like, oh, this will look good on camera.
But yes, the people who are there, who are representing, who are just being unabashedly themselves.
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Isn't it amazing? I went to Albuquerque Pride. Yeah, I'm glad you had a great time and you needed to have that good time. And I saw the pictures of the food and everything makes you a, and I saw your costume or your, you know, your pride outfit.
Yeah, I couldn't.
I can't wait until it's louder.
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Well, I loud.
I have grown up knowing that especially like I even when I was a teen, I knew this phrase that I'm chromophobic, like putting colors on myself was like clashing colors or two bright colors was not anything that was really interested in as a teen as I've gotten older.
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It's been a lot better.
Right.
I've been really rocking my bisexual laces. I love those damn things.
I actually wore this shirt. This will tell you where I am in the mindset because, you know, I kind of work with some people who are more along the line at the conservative lean.
I like their, yeah, by no means are they MAGA supporters or anything like that.
But I was afraid of the idea of putting too much color on this month as the month has gone on. I might not screw it.
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I'm wearing this shirt, which says love is love on there with the rainbow on it and everything and my bisexual laces and my little beaded bracelet thing that has the color on there.
And nobody gave me a second glance. Nobody gave you.
No, people don't care.
Like I said, they're too busy living their life doing what's right for them.
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And, you know, I stayed with a woman while the Riodoso, while Riodoso fires were burning and she was very much into politics and very much a Democrat.
And I came out immediately because I don't, I don't, I want to know if you're going to be triggered.
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Just eliminate your ass right now. Okay. So I showed him my tattoo. I'm going to show it to you now. I don't think you've seen it.
I got a tattoo.
Yep.
So I got a tattoo. Hold on.
That's right. Bisexual coffee.
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Oh, girl, you are, you have gone whole hog into this. That is amazing.
Yeah.
That is great. I'm dedicated. I am dedicated.
When I say the thought of a tattoo actually did pass my brain.
Don't have one yet, but I know that during pride.
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Yeah. Well, there's, there's been some that I've designed that I really enjoyed.
There was one that played with the idea of a sex, a fluid sexuality, a fluid gender fluid type situation.
But that one really doesn't fit who I am anymore.
And if anybody ever finds that online, it's theirs. Yes.
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So over the last two episodes, we started off with a Reddit post and it was actually reading another story that somebody else posted.
And what I did, what I'm choosing this time is a Reddit post that I put out there on r slash polls, P O L L S.
And I wanted to know if that I'll just read it.
It tells you exactly everything that you need to know.
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It says straight people.
This is to really, really just straight people.
I'd love to know, would it wear you out to know that your bi partner had a relationship with someone of the same gender or any gender that's different from you?
I'm asking for a podcast conversation. I let him know exactly what I'm doing.
And it was a written response to the, am I the asshole post that you found?
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Am I the asshole for not telling the girl that I'm bisexual, which for sake of time and whatnot, we can read that on the next episode and have more discussion about that.
But I wanted to talk about the poll that we had, which was very interesting.
Only 40 people. You know, I'm a small time guy. Not a lot of people.
That's nice. 40 people. No, no, no, they are paying attention.
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You walk into a room and 40 people are in the room. That's a lot of people, you know?
So more people, more men, right? More men voted.
See 14 plus nine. That's 25 people. 25. No, that's not right.
14 plus nine is 23.
23 men voted, which means 17 women voted if the numbers are, anybody could have clicked on these buttons.
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I'm just going to go take these for face value.
Answers were, I'm a straight woman. I don't like it. I'm a straight woman. I'm okay with it.
And then I'm a straight woman and I don't care.
Like it's never been on the radar. And then the other three answers were, I'm a straight man. I don't like it.
I'm a straight man. I'm okay with it. And I'm a straight man. I don't care either way.
So what the numbers are showing here is that there's a majority of men that just say, oh, I'm okay with it.
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Yeah, I'm fine. Not by much. It's nine.
That's the thing. Women say I'm a straight woman and I'm okay with it.
Only got five out of the 17 votes.
Whereas out of the 23 votes, nine men said that they were okay with it.
But women were more ambivalent.
Well, actually, I would say the same amount of ambivalence either because it was six for I don't like it and six for I don't care.
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Seven for I don't like it. Seven for I don't care.
So it still shows that men, and this is what I've gotten from other conversations and you see this as a lot of posts and whatnot,
especially if the more that we read these stories, I think you'll see it is that when men see a woman bisexual,
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like they're straight and you see that they're the partners by sexual or they come across somebody and their interests and they find out that they're bisexual,
they start thinking, maybe, maybe there's a chance for a threesome.
You know, it's it should be an ongoing conversation like we were saying before in in relationships.
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Sexuality is kind of a deal.
Like if if I'm with a man and he wants to be with a man, I would like to know.
I mean, not that I would get down on him or anything like that.
I would just like to know.
Yeah.
Okay.
All right.
So anyway, I feel like, okay, I'm your partner.
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We're partners and we're both traveling this life together and you are free to do what you want to do and I'm free to do what I want to do.
But at the same time, let's check in with one another.
That way we're building and fostering trust and love and we're not building and fostering fear.
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And I love the fact that your answer comes from a.
I want for a solid base with communication to know exactly what your partner wants needs out of the relationship.
And that's great.
The more that we dig the more that we dig into am I the asshole and bisexual Reddit.
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I think you're going to think we're going to see more of the stories with a guy if he's in the same boat and less because there's there seems to be a large amount of emotionally stunted people out there guys and women both and but guys tend to on Reddit at least tip their hat towards.
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All right girl on girl action that's what I can get out of this relationship and it's obvious with the way that they write it.
I'm so afraid that that's what those numbers showed me there.
I'm hoping for the best for humanity, but we will see.
Two women together is a beautiful thing. Okay, let's just get out of bed. I and I've seen, you know, I've seen two guys together too. And the older that I feel the right.
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The more I appreciate that.
It also depends like, I mean, what's going into where we're seeing these are either I mean I've never seen actual people have sex in front of me, like in life in real life. It's all been through watching porn.
And it's not like I watch a lot.
You're my age. Yeah, you will have seen it. You will have seen it at some point. Yeah.
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All right.
You probably know.
Maybe.
Just check it.
It'll be interesting for
Because there are so many things that she doesn't know.
There are so many. She's she's not like me. She's she's not chronically online. She doesn't know the the the wild, the weird, the interesting, the strange. She's just now finding out at the at her age and like over the last four or five years.
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Yeah, I am with her.
I mean, what does this mean? She'll she'll like read like a meme across because we've got to she's got a couple of friends on Instagram that have kind of like a
meme wars.
Yeah.
Oh, crude taste when it comes to their memes. And then she goes, what does ATM mean when it comes to sex? And I went, do you want to know?
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No, no, I mean, kind of guess it could be.
It means.
Oh, okay. Go ahead. I can edit that's the perfect setup because yes, it means ask the mouse.
When we're talking about. Yeah. So deposit.
I mean, so I was like a there are some things that you can find out all by yourself if you want to if you really want me to know I know much more things that I've stumbled across in my time.
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I need to know everything. She doesn't dirty. She doesn't need to know that. No, I mean, he doesn't need to know about fluffing.
Actually, that's the one thing she may know because she's shared. Should we why is we're getting to know each other?
Pride to.
Yeah, I'm sure. Yeah.
But as we were getting to know each other, we were we were getting the electric the sexual energy was was there like just over the phone.
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I hadn't even had a chance to really meet her yet. We were both like very excited about each other.
So we would, you know, share what we were interested in and whatnot.
Tell from the things that she told me that she was interested in what she did know.
She may know what flipper is. Maybe. I don't know.
This is maybe we could just get her get her to read a quiz online.
That will probably never happen.
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I'm not traumatizing. You do that. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't traumatize Marla.
Oh, my God, this has been so fun. My face hurts so bad.
Well, hey, before you go, because we got we got a little bit of time and I think my battery can withstand it.
I don't know how bad yours is right now. It's not the red.
We'll just let the freaking laptop die. Just two cameras.
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Well, real quick. How was your pride experience?
So I went to pride in Albuquerque. It was just one of the adventures that I went on.
And for whatever reason, I had a I had a horrible cold and I drove three hours to Albuquerque went to pride.
I was there for two hours and the people were amazing.
But I will never do that again. I'll tell you because it's probably been my hundredth.
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No, I'm not a hundred, but I doubled up on pride.
So I'd go to I'd go to Tampa pride, then I'd go to St. Pete pride.
And I would go to Port Richey and that's true because they're pride, you know,
and it's going on through all the months. So you could probably actually, you know, I hopped around.
I got around and, you know, you need to come down here in October because October coming out national coming out days in October.
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I don't remember what day it's on. I want to stay a sense, which if it is my that means it's my mom's birthday.
And I think that's hilarious. That would be another something good to associate with that.
But that's when Atlanta holds its pride parade because there were other, I mean, they do pride stuff.
I'm sure there are other pride parades, but there's a good huge pride themed event in Atlanta in October.
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It's cool. You can sign me up.
I do have a lecture or end alive that I'm doing with Kitty rebellion.
So I'll just sign my ass up. Just put it in my book of many things to do, honey.
Hell yeah. That's what I'm talking about. I think I just got a verbal contract that me and Edith will be going to the Atlanta pride event in October.
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That's right. That's right.
I guess we'll go ahead and call the short just because having to deal with things when they die in the middle and trying to get all that going.
You don't want to deal with that. Why don't we call that here?
All right. Thank you for listening to what do we buy sexual coffee with Edith and friends and that's my friend, Michael LeBlanc.
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Thank you so much. Peace out.
Good bye.
Where's the button? Hold on.
There.
We're having technical difficulties, ladies and gentlemen.
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I like my back state.
How do you like it?
I'm digging the arch.
I'm a big fan of black and white art and general.
I'm seeing Salvador Dali.
There's a lot of cool things to look at the back behind you right now,
which there is more behind me than there normally is.
But that's because I'm house sitting in a nice house with two big dogs in it.
So.
Isn't it great to be mobile?
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Isn't it great?
And to be somewhere new, to experience new things, it's always a pleasure.
I'm super excited for the podcast tonight.
Again, it's Edith Ivey Rosenblatt with Michael LeBlanc.
And we are bisexual coffee.
It's only $7 and won't break the bank.
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Yeah.
I mean, to be honest with you, there really isn't a question in what else you should have.
You go into a coffee shop, that's what you get it.
You know what?
That's going to be the best kind of coffee.
It's bisexual.
Absolutely.
There's a meme that I found on Reddit and it was talking about bisexual coffee.
And I clipped it, I shared it, and it captured the imagination of 2.4 million people on my
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Instagram because they all got down with bisexual coffee memes.
You know what?
Because everybody can identify with it.
Right?
I wish I made it myself.
Because it's the truth.
But yeah, definitely.
And there was basically the whole punchline of it.
It was, you know, you could either stand in line and have a bisexual make you your coffee
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or you can go home and make coffee yourself, which turns out a bisexual still made the coffee.
And I was like, haha.
That's right.
That's great.
Everybody's a little bisexual.
I just love it.
They just don't know it yet.
You just need to embrace it.
But no, I don't want to, I guess, straight shame.
Some people just don't have that itch, that urge.
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They only look at one way.
Maybe they'll change in their life.
No one person stays the same thing throughout the entire life.
And you'll find love.
That's nirvana.
Wow, this place.
That's true.
Absolutely.
It is the cycle of life where you're dying and coming back to life over and over and over again.
You're finding out ways to live better each and every time, hopefully.
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Right.
Absolutely.
And it's a first, second there.
And it only took me a split second for me to realize that you were not talking about
curcobane, but I'm right there with you now.
Yeah.
So Edith, you don't think he's come back?
You don't think he's come back?
What is he, the grunge Jesus?
Is he back now?
Yeah.
He's here to absolve us of all of our plans.
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I think so.
I think he is back.
But if you ask me who is grunge Jesus in this moment, I wouldn't know.
Yeah.
I've been on the road for days, darling.
I've been traveling, you see.
You have.
You have escaped the natural wildfires out there.
If anybody's out there and root, root, root, help me out here.
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Where were you?
We had do so New Mexico.
That's where I was living.
If anybody's out there by the time you guys listen to this, I hope that your property
withstood the wildfires that just decided to just take up and run.
I saw most of the devastation was to older homes, older homes.
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The newer homes were still standing.
So got the Alto as a village probably north of me and they got the worst of everything.
So.
Oh, well, I hope it's not too bad.
I don't know anything about the injuries or anything.
If anything was, I think everybody got evacuated.
It sounded like everybody got evacuated at a pretty good time.
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Like nobody was really caught by surprise.
And it was wild because it actually affected some of the work that we have here in Georgia
because we work with people who are over there in Arizona, Nevada, Texas, but basically Texas over
not all the way into California yet.
We can't justify going out all the way out in California yet.
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But you know, somebody was like, yeah.
There's an app called watch duty.
Yeah.
I apologize for interrupting you.
I just wanted to let you know.
There is an app called watch duty and it tells you about all the fires in the United States of America.
Every one of them, how they're blazing, what can be expected.
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And it's updated by volunteers, people who have been firemen or EMS or and they go and they assess the fires.
Actually, mostly a lot of those fires are fought by people who volunteer.
They're not even getting paid.
Bless the volunteers in general because I mean, there are people out there who
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Volunteers.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Who have a passion for going out there, make sure everybody stays safe.
I've thankfully never been in a fire situation, but I can only hope that if I do, there are people out there
willing to help me out in the same way.
Can I tell you what I learned?
You sure can.
Nothing fucking matters.
I thought you were just going to stop with the start of the word nothing.
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Yeah.
Well, okay.
Let me elaborate on that a little bit.
Anything that would normally bring you suffering, anything that would like, you know, coming out for me last year was really painful.
And I don't know why I thought my friends wouldn't accept me.
My friends that I had, didn't accept me.
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But the new friends that I've made like you, Kitty Rebellion, Mel the Podcaster, Freakbase, just to name a few.
They want to see me do well.
Adam A. Vittable, I'm really excited.
I really want you to meet him too.
You'll love him to pieces.
But these, yeah, these people want you to do well.
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Instead of what I've experienced my whole life has been competition and people who didn't want me to do well.
Well, that matters.
We are just kind of like lips in the pan, aren't we?
We just have to enjoy our time here, make the best out of it, try not to dwell, keep moving forward, find people who are decent to be around because life's too short to be around assholes.
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Find your high-vibed tribe.
Find the people that don't reside in anger all the time or frustration or victimhood or because what I've noticed is being around that group of people kept me stuck.
You could feel that they didn't want you to do well.
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You could feel it somehow.
It's like a cloud.
It's like a miasma that just kind of weighs you down.
I've got a friend of mine, a very recent friend.
I met him at work and at first he was kind of standoffish.
I thought he was kind of an asshole actually and I don't know how he felt about me.
He's never really told me about the first inklings of how he felt about me.
But like after we got the talk, talking, he said that to me.
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He was like, you've got that energy.
You've got that fit.
You're one of my tribe.
I had known him maybe like three months at that point and it felt so cool at that point because I was already kind of feeling that way.
We had enough differences to make conversations interesting but we had enough similarities that we could also kind of geek out about some stuff.
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It was like one of the first few times in my adult life that I had made a friend that it wasn't like a romantic connection that I was looking for or anything like that.
It was just like a work friend.
It was an actual friend that happened and it felt really good.
I'd have to say over the last four years I've been working on doing that myself because I live in a completely different state than I did five, six years ago.
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Literally, actual state.
Can you tell me a little bit about the state that you were in five years ago?
It's going to be over six years now. I have such a hard time tracking time just over things.
Let's say six years right now.
Literally, I was in a different state.
I was in South Carolina but I was in a, there were a lot of other metaphysical states that I was in like depression, being overweight.
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I had diabetes that was creeping up in me and I didn't know it.
It's just been divorced a couple of years past with my mom.
Yeah, I was just wondering what was going on.
Yeah, I saw ahead.
I was like, somebody's working in the background for you.
I'm a couple of years at that point into my mom just having passed and everything.
Sure, I was in South Carolina but I wasn't dealing with any of my loss.
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I was just surviving, wearing really loose clothing over my body just to hide the weight, cutting off my hair because I didn't want to deal with it and just living, just trying to survive.
I was finding the right people after my mom passed, after my separation, well, during my separation.
That really set me on a path to where I am now where I seek out people with fantastic energy and I talked to people to learn how to face my problems instead of just letting them own me, being more open with my sexuality.
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Actually, I'm actually wearing the Nautica Pride shirt that I found in Belk.
It was the only one.
I love it.
Yeah, it looks excellent.
It was the only one there left.
It was in clearance.
It was hiding behind shirts and it fit me exactly.
Like I was like, I was made for you.
Yeah, and I wore this to Pride with a whole bunch of other things.
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Actually, I'd love to send you a couple of photos if you want to kind of like splash them on the screen.
I would love that.
Absolutely.
Share your Pride experience.
Would you please?
I would like to hear all about it.
First off, it was my first Pride event ever.
And I'd like to thank the people who I've been talking to first and foremost.
And I've been doing a lot of thinking about this and trying to really not really tally all the queer people in my life, but I don't have a lot of queer people in my life that aren't family.
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Specifically the family that I married into, if any of my actual blood family is queer at all, it's not something they're willing to share because I've got bigots and scared people all throughout my actual blood family.
But I don't have a lot of actual queer friends.
And which is why like...
You have me.
You have me.
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You were the first that I can think of because I've made acquaintances of the years and I got along with them famously, but nobody who I was able to actually just sit down and talk to get to know the way that I have you.
Because of me talking to you and at the time in your life and being able to interview you like after you have come through your revelations and you would start coming out and everything and coming into your own and realizing your own energy.
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I was like, I've known for so long that I'm by and I'm not trying to be part of a community.
You don't have to be part of Pride, but if it's something that you want to do, if you want to...
This is what I'm telling myself like a month or so ago.
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I was like, I don't have to be a part of Pride, but if I really want to celebrate who I am instead of just kind of shrugging whenever anybody asks, you know, if anybody asks or just keeping it all to myself when there's literally a whole month of not having to be part of Pride.
If you're like a whole month of not keeping to yourself and remembering those who were before us who had to be quiet.
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And you picked us.
Yeah. And I'm like, I have to. It started to become like a need for me.
And so the cool thing about that as well, I was going through that.
I was talking to my wife and I'm like, hey, I want to go to Pride.
I'm like, all right, let's do this. I don't know if I'm going to be off, but if I can't get off, I want you to go. Like, we'll get you an outfit and everything together.
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Right. That's the kind of love you want to be around is the one that fosters the person that you are.
The one that says, hey, go ahead, grow and love yourself.
Now, I believe Marley understands truly what it's like to be repressed and have somebody tell her, hey, you can't be you.
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Yeah. She knows how she's had people try to tell her that, which is why she was never in a serious relationship before she met me.
Too many people were trying to be like, okay, you're basically a token female on my arm.
Like she had a, she had a couple of dates with this one guy.
Every single date was about, okay, we're going to do whatever we're going to do.
But mostly I need to make sure I can hear the football game every time you can just hang out with me.
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And so, you know, that's essentially what it is.
My mom's not here. Could you just sit there? Look pretty. Be nice.
But I'm going to do what I want to do.
Yeah. Yeah. Let's, let's eat in silence at the bar while I sit there and stare at a TV, you know, and she was like, I need somebody who's a little bit more complicated than that,
who actually appreciates me for the person who I know that I can be.
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And not even the person that I know that I can't, the person that I am now, damn it.
Like, you know, and she's such a, she's such a force and that comes out in so many like passionate ways, including fighting.
You know, she's one of those people that if I'm agreeing with her all the time, something's wrong.
She needs to know that, you know, she can't possibly be right all the time.
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There's got to be some balance in this world. She wants somebody to help her reminder of that.
When did it become blasphemous to tell your partner, Hey, you know, maybe you shouldn't fry the hamburger like that.
Maybe it's going to come out. You could flip it twice and hope for the best, but don't leave it in the pan to continue. I've done that.
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Yeah. And let's not get offended.
The domestic traits that have caused fights like me washing this one. I swear to God, I thought she was going to like, like come down and bring the wrath of all the gods above us down on me.
She comes out there and I'm washing the car with her grandmother's green washcloth, one of one of her set out of a set and she just, she, she, I've never say I've never seen her turn that color.
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Purple since then. And she was quick to let me know that I was wrong. And I just, at this point, I've had a couple of fights with her. None is, none is where she was angry at that.
I just, I just let her say it. I just, I took it all.
It must be important.
Yes.
And that's exactly what I thought. And so I just took it out. I was like, I am so sorry. She's like, I bet you are.
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She ran off and she, she, she cooled down for a moment because she realized that she really wasn't saying anything at that point. She was just screaming.
She was just frustrated at that point.
And she came back to me. She's like, she's like, I'm still mad at you. And I was like, and previous fights that I've had with people, I expect like both of us to say I'm sorry.
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But I realized at that point, I fucked up like, I was the one to say sorry at that point.
For a motion, for a motion.
Yeah.
Wouldn't you say that in a relationship, where we've gotten is that when I've noticed is when you're communicating your feelings.
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And the other choose the other person chooses to misunderstand. Like, it's kind of a choice at that point. Like, if you had said, well, who gives a shit about these dirty, nasty old washcloths anyway.
You know what I mean? That would be invalidating her feelings.
I really, she was just getting frustrated because she didn't want to use the washcloths.
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She was in the right. And I will say this. And this is something that I learned. I was kind of a heathen. When we first got together, I knew nothing of proper towels and proper cloths for different things.
I had no idea what a duvet was. I still thought a trivet was pronounced trivet.
There are things that I've learned over the last four or five years. This particular washcloth I picked because it was so pristine, because it was a very well put together.
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Yeah.
I didn't think about it. I was like, it's a cloth in the house. And it was an eye opener for me that, yes, we are together, but there are going to be things that we are going to hold in value that the other person just either a won't understand.
Or be, you know, doesn't want to understand because it's not in their, it's not in their sphere. They know it's important to them.
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It's not in their realm.
Yeah.
Yeah. They don't necessarily have to cherish it the same way that the other person does, but respect still has to be there.
So, thank you.
Well, no, haven't we all? I mean, I have done a lot of growing in regards to people too. What I was taught, what I was taught by my parents was that they were not going to be able to do anything.
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What I was taught by my parents was that they didn't respect each other. My mom would want my dad to do something and my dad would ignore it. And then it would make my mother angry.
My dad would want my mom to do something. And when she didn't do it, he would come over to us and complain to us about mom.
So, can you imagine the training that I got about relationships? It was all disrespecting people.
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Yeah.
Respect is love. That's what I was taught. And that's what a lot of people are taught is that you need to stand in your lane.
If somebody wants you to do something for them, you need to stay where you are. Don't communicate with them and don't do what they want.
And that's neurodivergence right there.
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Yeah.
So, I had to unlearn that.
That's a relationship schism that is hard to breach until you find someone I think that is wildly different from the people that you've known before, which is why I, as much as I really enjoy monogamy, there's something to be said for a serial monogamous path as well, because people change so much like in my first relationship.
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And it ended because of the way that we grew. We grew in different ways. I had things that I was talking about like future things, buying a house and whatnot. She didn't want to get that serious.
I mean, it had been 14, 15 years, she didn't want to get that serious. There were other things that she still wanted to do. And she saw that as like a limitation.
And so that relationship ends and then I find somebody who challenges me where I am now and the growth that I'm doing. And I mean, there are things that she's learned.
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And like I said, I'm her first serious relationship.
Like so she's like talking about like therapy and whatnot, just to make sure that, you know, we both are emotionally responsible enough to talk to somebody else and go, Hey, is this normal instead of just going, of course, this is normal.
And then like build like either weird resentments or weird ways of coping that we don't tell the other one because they're spear.
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Like she's doing a lot of growing with that as well. It's cool to grow with somebody. And that's what a relationship should be. You don't, you don't just meet somebody and go, All right, this is it.
This is how the relationship looks. No, it starts to change and it starts to grow and it starts to meld. And all of a sudden you're doing this on camera.
It's so cool. When you do it, and this is where everything that I've ever been taught, the letting go, okay, the high vibe, the staying in a place of love, the meditation exercise, just communications going to be at the very, very top.
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Absolutely. Now when I'm with my dear friend that I've known for over 25 years, and we've just recently, it's like we've been living separate lives, but growing together and just kind of calling each other and checking in with one another.
And we'll talk about things we've learned and just experiences we've had. The letting go, we've done together. It's almost in tandem. Just the friendship just got stronger and stronger and stronger.
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And I might add that I was the girlfriend of her husband's brother and, you know, just very naive. I didn't understand what was expected of me or I just was dumber than a bag of hammers.
I hadn't experienced life. I hadn't talked to people. I hadn't tried to relate to anybody. I was very selfish in regards to, I'm already okay. I'm fine. I don't need any help. You know what I'm saying?
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Yeah.
She's over here laughing.
Because it's true.
I'm reminded of that meme and I'm sure you've seen it of that dog that's wearing the hat and he's in the middle of a bar. It's a little cartoon dog and the bar's on fire. And he's just sitting there calmly at a table and he's going, this is fine. This is fine.
Everything's fine.
Yeah. There's no need to worry about anything. I have all the coping mechanisms that I'll ever need. Nothing's ever going to change. And this, damn, okay. Yeah. I thought it was that too until I went to therapy. And I was like, I've got some things to do.
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But to go back to your original question that led us to the relationship talk was, Marley was wildly enthusiastic about me going to Pride. And we went to Belk. I had a $70 belt card that I had for my birthday and I hadn't had a chance to use it yet.
And so we went there and I was like, I don't want to just wear jeans and a t-shirt. This is my chance to wear something different. And so like, those are swimming trunks that fit well with the color and the shirt can to came.
(22:41):
It was still very much my style and down to the like kind of floppy sun hat thing that I wear when I go walking. But Marley was able to find clothes because she got the day off. She got the actually the whole weekend off and she was able to find clothes that matched with that.
And she was worried that they wouldn't get in on time, but they did tour. It came through and clutch shout out to sword. Everything came together. The outfit looked great. She walked around with my walking stick and this one little girl walked by and called her like a, like a gay witch or a queer sorceress or something like that.
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You know, Marley, yeah, Marley is, she is straight, but she, she didn't like wreck the girl. She's an ally though. She definitely is. Yeah, definitely is.
And I took the stick from her and I was like, all right, so what am I? You're a queer wizard. I'm like, yeah, damn right I am.
You know, little kids, they just say whatever they do. It was great. It was a whole good time to rewind a little bit as we were getting dressed and getting ready and everything. She was like, do you want to do anything, makeup or anything?
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And then we went to the hotel room and I was like, I was thinking about putting color in my beard and the color of the bisexual flag. I think that would be really cool. And she's like, okay, we'll see what we have.
She picked up not only beard dye, like just day, like day or two beard dye, but also spray paint in case something didn't pick up right. And so I just let her go crazy with that because when it comes to like, she's done costuming for plays before and I've seen the things that she's pulled
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out of like the trash closet and make like these float some in jets and puppets for Ariel, a little mermaid. And the things that she does when she's, she's like the beautiful mind guy instead of seeing numbers and stuff.
It's all costuming and makeup that's floating around when she looks at something. And so she gets my beard colored, right? This side was easy to do because the pink, I mean, it was blue, purple and then pink.
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The pink on this side, it was just too bland. And so she was like holding up broke, tore Christmas cards over just the right spot. She's like, all right, hold these here. I want to spray it down.
And then she looked at me. She's like, do you want to do anything else? I'm like, I like it when you do my eyeliner. And she's like, all right, screw it. She found the right eyeliner and I had blue eyeliner.
And then she's like, you want any, you want any anything else? I'm like, what does it need? You know, because I'm trusting her. Like she's the one that sees my face.
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Sure, I'm going to go out there, but she's not going to go out there and make me not representing my best self. She's like, I think a little bit of silver sparkle will go well.
She's like, I don't necessarily like sparkle. She's like, I know, but I think it's going to work. And it did. It did. It was so good. I looked so cool. And then we go out there to the parade. It was.
The pictures. Yeah. So, so fun. There was only one little little blip of people being protesting assholes, but they were doing it in that way that they're holding rainbow stuff, but they're saying stuff that was like rainbow is for faith, not for love or something like that.
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Like it was, it was like.
So their message was skewed.
Yeah.
Yeah, it's a thing where it's like, yeah.
And so, but that, but the cops broke that up pretty quickly. It's like, nah, man, this isn't what this is about. But of course we're in Augusta, Georgia in the middle in the beginning of summer.
We got a lot of sun. We sweated it out. We drank not enough water. There was a festival afterwards where I got to interview people. I'm still working on that video because the audio is horrible.
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And.
Add music.
No, it was just, it's a new microphone that work gave us. They had extra microphones and it's a nice microphone. I just don't know how to use it yet. I should have stuck with a microphone that I knew, but I was like, oh, this will look good on camera.
But yes, the people who are there, who are representing, who are just being unabashedly themselves.
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Isn't it amazing? I went to Albuquerque Pride. Yeah, I'm glad you had a great time and you needed to have that good time. And I saw the pictures of the food and everything makes you a, and I saw your costume or your, you know, your pride outfit.
Yeah, I couldn't.
I can't wait until it's louder.
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Well, I loud.
I have grown up knowing that especially like I even when I was a teen, I knew this phrase that I'm chromophobic, like putting colors on myself was like clashing colors or two bright colors was not anything that was really interested in as a teen as I've gotten older.
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It's been a lot better.
Right.
I've been really rocking my bisexual laces. I love those damn things.
I actually wore this shirt. This will tell you where I am in the mindset because, you know, I kind of work with some people who are more along the line at the conservative lean.
I like their, yeah, by no means are they MAGA supporters or anything like that.
But I was afraid of the idea of putting too much color on this month as the month has gone on. I might not screw it.
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I'm wearing this shirt, which says love is love on there with the rainbow on it and everything and my bisexual laces and my little beaded bracelet thing that has the color on there.
And nobody gave me a second glance. Nobody gave you.
No, people don't care.
Like I said, they're too busy living their life doing what's right for them.
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And, you know, I stayed with a woman while the Riodoso, while Riodoso fires were burning and she was very much into politics and very much a Democrat.
And I came out immediately because I don't, I don't, I want to know if you're going to be triggered.
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Just eliminate your ass right now. Okay. So I showed him my tattoo. I'm going to show it to you now. I don't think you've seen it.
I got a tattoo.
Yep.
So I got a tattoo. Hold on.
That's right. Bisexual coffee.
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Oh, girl, you are, you have gone whole hog into this. That is amazing.
Yeah.
That is great. I'm dedicated. I am dedicated.
When I say the thought of a tattoo actually did pass my brain.
Don't have one yet, but I know that during pride.
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Yeah. Well, there's, there's been some that I've designed that I really enjoyed.
There was one that played with the idea of a sex, a fluid sexuality, a fluid gender fluid type situation.
But that one really doesn't fit who I am anymore.
And if anybody ever finds that online, it's theirs. Yes.
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So over the last two episodes, we started off with a Reddit post and it was actually reading another story that somebody else posted.
And what I did, what I'm choosing this time is a Reddit post that I put out there on r slash polls, P O L L S.
And I wanted to know if that I'll just read it.
It tells you exactly everything that you need to know.
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It says straight people.
This is to really, really just straight people.
I'd love to know, would it wear you out to know that your bi partner had a relationship with someone of the same gender or any gender that's different from you?
I'm asking for a podcast conversation. I let him know exactly what I'm doing.
And it was a written response to the, am I the asshole post that you found?
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Am I the asshole for not telling the girl that I'm bisexual, which for sake of time and whatnot, we can read that on the next episode and have more discussion about that.
But I wanted to talk about the poll that we had, which was very interesting.
Only 40 people. You know, I'm a small time guy. Not a lot of people.
That's nice. 40 people. No, no, no, they are paying attention.
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You walk into a room and 40 people are in the room. That's a lot of people, you know?
So more people, more men, right? More men voted.
See 14 plus nine. That's 25 people. 25. No, that's not right.
14 plus nine is 23.
23 men voted, which means 17 women voted if the numbers are, anybody could have clicked on these buttons.
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I'm just going to go take these for face value.
Answers were, I'm a straight woman. I don't like it. I'm a straight woman. I'm okay with it.
And then I'm a straight woman and I don't care.
Like it's never been on the radar. And then the other three answers were, I'm a straight man. I don't like it.
I'm a straight man. I'm okay with it. And I'm a straight man. I don't care either way.
So what the numbers are showing here is that there's a majority of men that just say, oh, I'm okay with it.
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Yeah, I'm fine. Not by much. It's nine.
That's the thing. Women say I'm a straight woman and I'm okay with it.
Only got five out of the 17 votes.
Whereas out of the 23 votes, nine men said that they were okay with it.
But women were more ambivalent.
Well, actually, I would say the same amount of ambivalence either because it was six for I don't like it and six for I don't care.
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Seven for I don't like it. Seven for I don't care.
So it still shows that men, and this is what I've gotten from other conversations and you see this as a lot of posts and whatnot,
especially if the more that we read these stories, I think you'll see it is that when men see a woman bisexual,
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like they're straight and you see that they're the partners by sexual or they come across somebody and their interests and they find out that they're bisexual,
they start thinking, maybe, maybe there's a chance for a threesome.
You know, it's it should be an ongoing conversation like we were saying before in in relationships.
(32:48):
Sexuality is kind of a deal.
Like if if I'm with a man and he wants to be with a man, I would like to know.
I mean, not that I would get down on him or anything like that.
I would just like to know.
Yeah.
Okay.
All right.
So anyway, I feel like, okay, I'm your partner.
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We're partners and we're both traveling this life together and you are free to do what you want to do and I'm free to do what I want to do.
But at the same time, let's check in with one another.
That way we're building and fostering trust and love and we're not building and fostering fear.
(33:30):
And I love the fact that your answer comes from a.
I want for a solid base with communication to know exactly what your partner wants needs out of the relationship.
And that's great.
The more that we dig the more that we dig into am I the asshole and bisexual Reddit.
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I think you're going to think we're going to see more of the stories with a guy if he's in the same boat and less because there's there seems to be a large amount of emotionally stunted people out there guys and women both and but guys tend to on Reddit at least tip their hat towards.
(34:13):
All right girl on girl action that's what I can get out of this relationship and it's obvious with the way that they write it.
I'm so afraid that that's what those numbers showed me there.
I'm hoping for the best for humanity, but we will see.
Two women together is a beautiful thing. Okay, let's just get out of bed. I and I've seen, you know, I've seen two guys together too. And the older that I feel the right.
(34:43):
The more I appreciate that.
It also depends like, I mean, what's going into where we're seeing these are either I mean I've never seen actual people have sex in front of me, like in life in real life. It's all been through watching porn.
And it's not like I watch a lot.
You're my age. Yeah, you will have seen it. You will have seen it at some point. Yeah.
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All right.
You probably know.
Maybe.
Just check it.
It'll be interesting for
Because there are so many things that she doesn't know.
There are so many. She's she's not like me. She's she's not chronically online. She doesn't know the the the wild, the weird, the interesting, the strange. She's just now finding out at the at her age and like over the last four or five years.
(35:35):
Yeah, I am with her.
I mean, what does this mean? She'll she'll like read like a meme across because we've got to she's got a couple of friends on Instagram that have kind of like a
meme wars.
Yeah.
Oh, crude taste when it comes to their memes. And then she goes, what does ATM mean when it comes to sex? And I went, do you want to know?
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No, no, I mean, kind of guess it could be.
It means.
Oh, okay. Go ahead. I can edit that's the perfect setup because yes, it means ask the mouse.
When we're talking about. Yeah. So deposit.
I mean, so I was like a there are some things that you can find out all by yourself if you want to if you really want me to know I know much more things that I've stumbled across in my time.
(36:25):
I need to know everything. She doesn't dirty. She doesn't need to know that. No, I mean, he doesn't need to know about fluffing.
Actually, that's the one thing she may know because she's shared. Should we why is we're getting to know each other?
Pride to.
Yeah, I'm sure. Yeah.
But as we were getting to know each other, we were we were getting the electric the sexual energy was was there like just over the phone.
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I hadn't even had a chance to really meet her yet. We were both like very excited about each other.
So we would, you know, share what we were interested in and whatnot.
Tell from the things that she told me that she was interested in what she did know.
She may know what flipper is. Maybe. I don't know.
This is maybe we could just get her get her to read a quiz online.
That will probably never happen.
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I'm not traumatizing. You do that. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't traumatize Marla.
Oh, my God, this has been so fun. My face hurts so bad.
Well, hey, before you go, because we got we got a little bit of time and I think my battery can withstand it.
I don't know how bad yours is right now. It's not the red.
We'll just let the freaking laptop die. Just two cameras.
(37:39):
Well, real quick. How was your pride experience?
So I went to pride in Albuquerque. It was just one of the adventures that I went on.
And for whatever reason, I had a I had a horrible cold and I drove three hours to Albuquerque went to pride.
I was there for two hours and the people were amazing.
But I will never do that again. I'll tell you because it's probably been my hundredth.
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No, I'm not a hundred, but I doubled up on pride.
So I'd go to I'd go to Tampa pride, then I'd go to St. Pete pride.
And I would go to Port Richey and that's true because they're pride, you know,
and it's going on through all the months. So you could probably actually, you know, I hopped around.
I got around and, you know, you need to come down here in October because October coming out national coming out days in October.
(38:36):
I don't remember what day it's on. I want to stay a sense, which if it is my that means it's my mom's birthday.
And I think that's hilarious. That would be another something good to associate with that.
But that's when Atlanta holds its pride parade because there were other, I mean, they do pride stuff.
I'm sure there are other pride parades, but there's a good huge pride themed event in Atlanta in October.
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It's cool. You can sign me up.
I do have a lecture or end alive that I'm doing with Kitty rebellion.
So I'll just sign my ass up. Just put it in my book of many things to do, honey.
Hell yeah. That's what I'm talking about. I think I just got a verbal contract that me and Edith will be going to the Atlanta pride event in October.
(39:31):
That's right. That's right.
I guess we'll go ahead and call the short just because having to deal with things when they die in the middle and trying to get all that going.
You don't want to deal with that. Why don't we call that here?
All right. Thank you for listening to what do we buy sexual coffee with Edith and friends and that's my friend, Michael LeBlanc.
(39:54):
Thank you so much. Peace out.
Good bye.
Where's the button? Hold on.
There.
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