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October 10, 2024 • 50 mins

Summary:

During Edith's, Michael's and Yannick's conversation, the hosts explore a range of personal experiences, from navigating the challenges of natural disasters to the complexities of identity and transition. They face down the shadows of church abuse, the healing power of therapy, and the importance of authenticity in self-expression. The discussion also touches on the political climate and personal encounters in public spaces, as well as the significance of names in shaping identity. Through shared stories and insights, the three emphasize the importance of healing, acceptance, and the journey towards self-discovery.

Sound Bites:

"I slept right through it all night."

"I'm sharing my story to help other people."

"This body is mine."

Chapters

00:00 Weathering the Storms

01:56 Navigating Personal Transitions

04:29 The Church and Personal Struggles

06:57 Sharing Stories of Abuse and Healing

09:23 Spirituality Beyond Religion

11:59 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Expression

14:24 Political Climate and Personal Experiences

16:57 The Complexity of Identity and Names

19:30 Therapy and Personal Growth

22:03 The Importance of Community and Support

24:45 Conversations on Relationships and Misogyny

27:01 The Journey of Self-Discovery

29:33 Navigating Conflict and Understanding

32:18 The Power of Love and Acceptance

34:45 Reddit Stories and Community Engagement

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Episode Transcript

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(00:00):
Well, if you can, we're just we're hanging out. We're all good. Life is good. No, right?

(00:07):
Yes, the weather. So right. Well, right. The weather first, right? The
hurricane, Haleen coming right up to Florida, keeping it topical because, you know, this is a
podcast that'll come out like a week later. But by this time, yeah, by this time, they might even
get another hurricane. Who knows? But I know Florida got hit and then Georgia got hit and then it just
like went up through Augusta and South Carolina and Tennessee. They just weren't ready for it.

(00:31):
They got pummelled. And I've been in a righteous amount of a dilulu about the entire storm. I slept.
Yeah. Yeah. I slept right through it all mine too. Like, conures didn't really get hit all that bad.
You see, what was happening is that the powers that be decided that conures wasn't going to get
hit by a hurricane. We were going to get hit by an exploded chemical factory

(00:53):
that caused me and roughly 10,000 people to get evacuated out of their homes. And we are currently
waiting to see what the fallout is. They say it's chlorine, it may be chlorine and some kind of
vaporized acid. We don't know. We're finding that out. Currently, I am not in front of my normal.

(01:14):
Florida. Here in Florida, everybody was losing their mind. Oh my God. Oh my God,
poured the windows. Oh my God. Well, I'm glad everybody weathered the weather. You guys don't
have to worry about a chemical explosion. So I'm glad for that. And now we are here after
much planning and discussing to talk about and to the priestess, Yannick. Hello. Yes. Yes.

(01:38):
It's your girl. It's your girl, honey. Yes. I'm glad to be on tonight. Glad to be going. Yeah.
Yeah. I'm glad to have you here. I want to start with the church story. Okay. So that was the very
first video I saw and they were giving you a whole lot of drama. Let's start with that. Okay. So
this is like 2021 going into 2022. Been transitioning for about seven years at this point.

(02:06):
Well, I'm on transition and finally set the stage work to have my surgeries done and had
transitioned socially in the church that I was attending at the time. And I talk about this on
the podcast, conversations with the priestess, diver church girl. We were going steady afterwards,
brought a big proclamation of support, which turned out to be a show for the Facebook live

(02:27):
and the YouTube live crowd, you know, so everything was going good until there was a situation with
one of the, well, let me start with the bishop. So during this time of me transitioning socially,
that one particular bishop and I had a certain type of relationship had a little salacious
entanglement, which really he was using his influence of power. And I wasn't the only person

(02:49):
that he was dealing with at that time. So, and it's wild because it's like something out of the
TV show Green Leaf or Dynasty, something like that. Oh yeah, for sure. And I can't think of the
other one on HBO, but it was like, I ran into one of his other pieces while we in church and
they're looking me up and down. I'm like, honey, I'm not even worried about you. Like, you need to

(03:12):
talk to him. I don't know why you looking at me, but then I already knew the game that players play.
So that situation happened with him where there was a phone call that took place out of me as
trans to the archbishop of the organization. And in that it was exposed that, you know, by me, of
course, that we had had this relationship. And then on top of that, after this, there was another

(03:35):
bishop that ranked a little bit higher. If you're in the Pinal Costa church, you'll have what we
call a district bishop, regional bishop, then you'll have your state bishop, however they do it.
It depends on the Reformation. But then you have your archbishop, which is the head honto of a
whole organization, which is basically like just churches that are in the same club together,

(03:55):
basically. So this was the head bishop of the pastor that brought the other bishop in. He was
like trying. They all wanted you. They all wanted you. Well, come to find out. They're birds of a
feather that flock together. They're all scammers and con artists and people looking for validation.
And the similarities between all three of these, they are very abusive, but they all

(04:17):
act like the one bishop that was supposed to be the one to help us through all the fallout of this,
which he ended up taking advantage of me as well and in the vulnerable place that I was in.
Because in the time of all this, I became homeless and was homeless up until like the end of 2022
going into 2023. So I find I've at this point, I had left the church completely, finally left

(04:40):
religion. But in April of 2022, after I've settled into transitional housing, my former pastor,
who knew all of this, he asked for my resignation papers from the church. However, after everything
was exposed, I really didn't get a chance to state my part in the whole thing. He did most of the

(05:02):
speaking for me, but just allowed me to say the little important bits. And in hindsight,
in his response, it was giving very much instead of the pastor being upset because his members had
been violated, he was more so upset that it was the sexual relationship that he couldn't have with
those particular bishops. And so recently, I got tangled. It's the tangled web. And these are the

(05:25):
things that happen all the time. You saw this in the Hillsong church documentary as well. It's like
with any cool documentary. So I actually sent him a letter, long email, a couple of years later,
explained to him, you know, it's a lot that was unsaid, but I'm just letting you know. I'm telling
my story. You were a horrible person. This is where you can find it because I'm letting it be
know how you treated me. Right. There you go. Right. It's it's it's an ability. It's been a

(05:51):
quite couple of instances in me telling my story. I've had some of his so-called friends
messaging me on Facebook and stuff asking me who my posts were about. You know how you make a
very bland post about your experience. And I'm like, sure, I'm not going to do. Y'all are actually
exposing your friend and you don't realize it. They're trying. They're triangulating anybody who's
actually like reading between the lines. They could easily probably find out who they're talking

(06:14):
about. My God. Right. It's something that happens in the church world. I've seen this in my time of
pastoring in my heyday and I've seen this throughout church all my life. Like whenever a person leaves
a church because of how they're being treated is going to be a smear campaign. It's going to be a lot
of childishness. It really is. But I'm telling my story now. It's childish. Exactly. And like I was

(06:37):
telling a friend of mine, I'm not telling the story to be vindictive. I'm sharing my story to
help other people and know what to look out for. Whenever you're joining any type of group of people,
any spiritual circle or anything that's supposed to be of self-help because people take advantage
of people like that. And we see it every day with the ebook things that people do with the money

(06:58):
manifestation gurus, stuff like that. And it's annoying what's sincere and what's not.
Can I, I, priestess, I just want to share with you. My name is Edith Ivey Rosenblatt. My father
was into a Baptist cult. I grew up in a Baptist cult. We were groomed for men from the time we
were very small. I was abused by the deacons there in the church so I can relate. They constantly

(07:22):
would mistreat me in school to screw with my brain to make me doubt my reality so that they
could continue abusing me. And this happened my entire life. And then I had to continue with my
father who constantly speaks of Jesus and Andrew Tate. And he won't let up on every time he would

(07:44):
get on the phone with me and things. And then finally I went to take care of him. And that's
when I let go. I'm like, I deserve better than this. I just, I deserve so much better than being in a
shitty cabin in the middle of nowhere, Texas, taking care of my father who has stage four cancer
because his thoughts are so vile and so selfish. Yeah. And I am, that is a very traumatic experience

(08:13):
experiencing that. And my heart goes out to you. You have my heart. And thank you. What people don't
understand when you've experienced that type of abuse in a spiritual or religious setting in the
church, that saw was your view on the world. That saw was your view on God. That saw was your view on
people. And we're seeing it more so come out now thanks to social media. It's unfortunate,

(08:35):
but we're seeing more and more instances of people coming out now talking about their abuse from
spiritual circles from spiritual things. Even some of the things we've seen on the apps on the very
social media apps where it's like, that's a cult, you know, those people are being abused. Yeah.
But there's, there's this guy who will tell you, he'll look at your face and tell you how

(08:59):
beautiful you are. He'll rate you from one to 10 on your beauty. And he doesn't think he's doing
anything wrong. But that, that takes a trauma kid. You can't grow. Well, how are you going to grow?
You're going to be constantly fixated on your looks for years. And then when you start aging,
that's going to be even more trauma because you can't, you know, you're like, wait a minute,

(09:22):
I'm aging. Right. What do I do now? And it's the audacity of these people to go around and proclaim
these grand things, these grand ideas, do all of these words. And everybody knows that they're
trash. They still get lauded for it. And even when you bring up the horrible things, they're
still celebrated. We're even seeing this with the music mogul. I'm, they're not called his name,
but it's like, are y'all really defending this type of behavior? Are y'all not thinking about

(09:48):
those who have been victimized by this type of system? So after all that, where are you now?
Like, spiritualized, like, how do you see yourself in the spiritual world? In the spiritual world.
And it's funny. I thought about this today. I am not so much religious. I am more so a spiritual
person, just me one with the universe, me with my ancestors, me with my spirit guide or however,

(10:12):
you know, but it's not the whole Jesus, Jesus, Jesus rolling over in the dirt. I'm not doing all
of that. I just simple read my little books, you know, do my little thing. I guess I would call
myself an eclectic person. I just started tar tarot a couple of years ago. You are living your best
life. Oh, yeah. I think I just recently saw a tarot pop up on some of your social stuff where

(10:33):
you're doing that. How's that doing? By the way, are you are there? Are you feeling like you're
gelling with that pretty well? It's going well. I actually took an extended break from doing tarot
readings for others just so I could get some things settled. Because sometimes people, I went
through a period where I was stated giving readings and it just started to become draining when you're
dealing with so many different people, so many questions and just requests. But I'm slowly getting

(10:59):
back into it. I actually am planning on doing some things later on tonight because I'm streaming
and doing some readings because I'm like, oh, I have to make sure I'm not rusty at it. Well,
I just want to say that I'm really surprised the boomerang of events that lands you and I
together in front of a camera because Edith didn't know this when she dropped into your live or the

(11:21):
video that you saw. But I mean, me and you go way back, we're slinging chicken and bojangles down in
Robux, South Carolina. I'll be honest with you, I've known you so much now as Yannick or as she
sees you, Priestess. I've seen you in this form longer than I knew you as, you know, at that point

(11:42):
in my mail presentation. Yeah. Yeah. And so I barely remember that person at all because I
like almost immediately after I left, you were like, you know, I'm going to become more about
what I am. And I saw more of that on social media. And I was just kind of like a watcher just
watching, you know, you grow. I had no idea about the homelessness in between. You know, you were

(12:06):
you were wearing that surprisingly well. I don't think anybody from the outside, unless they knew,
you knew, you knew what was going on. I only kept it to my close circle, like in certain
relatives, because at that point, it was a lot of family members I was no contact with anyway,
just the various circumstances. But as I've grown since then, and I've just seen how time has flown

(12:29):
has flown seeing you on the podcast and seeing you on social media. You was well, it's like, oh,
wow. And just meeting, I was like, I'm ready for fun. Yeah. Okay. Don't you find priestess? Don't
you find that now that you're in your, your exact avatar self, your, your, your design, that's what

(12:51):
I'm trying to get out of my mouth that your body is of your design. It's not someone else's
interpretation. You're not doing it to appeal to someone else. You're doing it to appeal to
yourself to live your fine life, the one, the divine life, the one that you're supposed to live,
the one without fear, the one with love, the one that it's a flow state and everything comes to

(13:18):
you. Would you, do you believe that? Do you believe that? First off, before you answer that, I just
want to say, Edith, I love it when you get this passionate about seeing people's like, like growth
in the way that they're shining and the glow that you point out. I love watching you get that
passionate. That's great. Anyway, go ahead for your sister. Well, for me, one thing I learned
that this body is mine. And that's why I was so gung-ho and adamant about my transition, but also

(13:43):
within the transition is sort of a reclaiming my body from others and from society as well. So I'm
trotting the path that I want and just going along with what life has to offer, but I'm making my own
ways and making my own paths as well. So it's not only with the body, but it's also the spirit as
well, the spirit of the whole entire beating. It's all of your design. Yes. And it's all of the design.

(14:07):
So, you don't keep talking. I'll bear that. But everyone that has their own design is how you
make it. You are the designer, the design me. How are you going to dress this up and how are you
going to present it? What are you going to articulate with this design? Like, what is the
message you want to send to everyone? I want to send one of love and positivity. And I believe
you're doing that. I mean, I definitely went in your social media and I checked out your videos

(14:31):
and see you're in Washington, right? Yes. Washington State or Washington, DC?
In the district. In Washington, DC? I was saying you were calling the district.
So for our listeners, would you just let them know is there a political unrest in your city?
It feels like it. In some of your videos, I see people just walking up to you randomly creating

(14:55):
resistance and things. So that's been most religious propaganda when I've been out and about.
We haven't had any unrest yet. I don't think we had unrest since like that one day in January,
a couple of years ago. January. Yes. Yeah, that was some unrest. Most of the times,
I'm getting hassled by religious folk and by creepy being creepy sysmen at that. It's interesting,

(15:21):
but I'm noticing that a lot of the religious propaganda is tied politically. So it's more
so of political harassment, innocence. I know it's one video where a young lady decided she
wanted to pester my partner and I, this is on Juneteenth, a matter of fact, extinct to Juneteenth.
And she was like, Jesus loves you. I'm like, girl, I am partaking of my anabas right now, girl. I

(15:42):
know Jesus loves me. Can you believe? I was enjoying it. You want to, you know, it's meant in this
positive way, but then there's this experience that you've had that goes along with it. So it's
like, okay, it's really hard. Hard for me to vibe with the, with Jesus right now. Okay, honey.
You know, since I'm having to smoke cannabis to bring myself down from all the garbage that

(16:07):
religion is like, but she, you know, we sent her on away and then she kept being persistent.
And I'm like, look, I'm thinking of myself, I'm a former church girl. So I can either go real old
school, penal costal girl, if you don't get out my face, because you ain't got no Holy Ghost on you.
God, you need to go praying fast some more. And then the more secular side of me was like,

(16:30):
am I going to have to get out this car and defend myself because I'm like, girl, if you don't back
up, it's going to be hands because at this time you're threatening my space. But I'm like, also,
I thought about it. I am a woman of color and police are police. So you know what,
man, we're just going to keep moving and go the other way. Man, if you happen to get hit by the
vehicle that's moving, you just happen to get hit and we just going to keep moving, you know,
because you wouldn't move. But thankfully she moved out of the way. But I'm like, I'm looking at the

(16:54):
men that were like, y'all ain't gonna get, y'all ain't gonna come get your wife. Y'all ain't gonna
come get your wife. Like come get your wife. What do you think it is? What's the attraction? I mean,
is it is it guilt? Is it what is it? A lot of the times it's they know that people are obviously
queer, especially during the summer season. But when they see people who they automatically can
figure out or what we call clock is that's an automatic thing for us. It happens on social

(17:18):
media. I've been doing videos and here comes a scripture. I'm like, why is that the one scripture
and I'm talking about dating and relationships? Like what is the tithing offering script? What
is a grief scripture has to do with me talking about dating and relationships? Like the script
is not even relevant. So I'm like, that's the gaslighting. That's the gaslighting, man. It's like
but they present. I won't even go ahead. I'm just saying that scripture for me, I was forced to

(17:46):
memorize the entire New Testament. Oh, God, I had to sit in a corner and study the Bible
and memorize the entire New Testament. Now people are like, well, let's hear some Bible verses. I
said, well, I'm not going to regurgitate that. I don't want anything to do with it. Someone forced
me, someone stuck me in a cubicle with a book and said, memorize this and gave me a list

(18:16):
of all all the every week over 100 Bible verses to memorize. I actually had a pastor that
I had a pastor that tried that with us at one church and it felt horribly because no one did
it. Yeah. Well, there's there's no passion. It doesn't hit anywhere in the heart. It doesn't
ring true with you. You might as well be like you might as well sit times table in front of

(18:38):
somebody. It feels like it's going to be the same kind of it's going to feel the same part of the
brain. And then later it's going to be so dry. It's not going to mean anything to you. If I had
grown up more around my grandparents, I probably would have been more in the church because he was
he was a fire and brimstone Baptist preacher and that he kind of kind of calmed down in his beliefs
when he came to what happens in the afterlife after his wife passed. And so it was interesting to

(19:04):
watch him change and become more accepting about family and less about, Hey, we're all going to
hell if we don't do this particular type of thing. But I grew up in mostly a non-religious
house except for a few bits and pieces. But that meant that most of my things as I was growing up
centered around counterculture, weed, hippie hippie stuff, peer pressure from the parents,

(19:28):
which is always weird. But still like growing up with those kinds of things in an extreme
environment always kind of changes more than what they think you're actually going to turn out to be
just because you're being boiled in this thing where it's like extreme religion or counterculture
or anything like that. I think we wind up coming out the other side, something completely different,

(19:49):
a different shape than what they thought was going to happen by trying to put you in there.
And I believe that I believe that I mean, I was forced. I didn't have a childhood. I've got so
many stuffed animals. I want you to know I went and I bought, look, I bought a Care Bear today.
That's a Care Bear. Yeah. Honey, I love you. Look, I am so determined to be in a place of love.

(20:14):
I am so Care Bear shit. I mean, I am so goddess when I touched base with you, it was from a place
of love. And I think you felt like felt that it's more genuine, you know, and I've practiced that
because I being in the church, I didn't feel like I didn't feel like myself. I didn't get to study
science. I didn't get to study NASA. I didn't get to study any of the things that just give me a

(20:40):
charge, make my nipples harden, make me frickin crazy. I mean, there's a guy in Iceland.
Yes, it does really amazing things. I get a charge. So I mean, there's a guy in, in, sorry,
the North Pole right now, and he does TikToks. And I'm when I say it's not that I'm in love with him.

(21:00):
I'm in love with the fact that he gets to be at the North Pole. He gets to do a job where he's
regulating the station there. He does photography, he takes pictures, he maps the stars. He also,
they monitor activity in Russia. My God, right? Like, they have activities where their shifts can

(21:21):
be 12 hours, right? 12 hours, they're on 12 hours. And then they're off 12 hours. So after their shift,
they'll go and they have a community room and they play foosball and pool and there's beer there
and everything to keep their spirits high because that you can lose yourself in a place like that.

(21:47):
They're allowed to do their TikToks. They're allowed to call their family whenever they feel
like it. You know what I mean? Yes. And that's one thing I hated about being in the church world
and being a social media personality, everything I said and did was under so much scrutiny.
And you know, we also have church snitches and snitches. I love it. I love it. I totally.

(22:07):
Which is still get stitches. So you know, you have some, I don't know what it is with people that
want to just kiss up to the pastor and you know, Brown knows it. But I actually made a comment
during the height of the pandemic. I said, I might as well start only fans, y'all. I need a stripper
name. And this one particular ill then the church went running to the pastor. I'm getting phone
calls. I said, honey, that was a joke. I said, and if church folks that up in arms about a joke,

(22:32):
they need to look at themselves. Y'all doing too much. And I went off and cussed everybody out on
the call. And I'm like, don't do that. Don't do that. Like, don't do that to me. Don't,
don't do no snitch stuff. And I'm grown because I'm a hurt your feelings. But then also I actually
had a web series called bath time confessions where all you saw was the neck up of me during
bath time. And I had people, I had family members and church people calling my uncle doing this is

(22:57):
like in the early thousands doing printouts of what I'm like, I could have anything else to do.
You know what it is? Priestess, goddess, divine human jealousy, underhanded, and people don't
see that they're being seen. You're you're showing your ass. I see you. Oh, you are.
You there. Keep doing what you're doing. Keep honey. I love you do what you do. Spill the tea.

(23:20):
Do your confessions. Oh, yeah. People that really love you want you to succeed. Want you to go to
the next level. We love you here at bisexual coffee. Want you to come here. Want we would love for
you to do your bath time confessions, but keep the plug away from the. Yes, we should all of us

(23:41):
be in the tub. Right. So for me, it's like part of my bonus content that I do where I talk about
different subjects. A lot of times I'll post the audio on the main stage, but the video as I do with
a lot of the priestess after dark talks are behind the paywall because I'm talking about
graphic stuff. No. And so I actually have a couple of episodes I have to work on, you know, after

(24:05):
my little break or for the week, but it's like it's fun. But bath time confessions is just those
times when I don't really feel like setting up. I can just put my little mic, put the camera right
there. Boom. That's my nature is content or whatever content I have to do for that week. I love it.
There's something to be said for simple content that actually comes from a place within instead
of you trying to be performative. I love moments like that. Right now I'm kind of living like that

(24:30):
because like all everything that's happening around me is just making things bubble out of me. So all
of these things like me running from the chemical cloud or hanging out with friends or just the
things that are happening in my life. I'm not trying to be performative going out there as the
sitting with you persona, which there's not a really serious like level for that. It's just me

(24:51):
being me. And I love that. I love that kind of content. I guess. And it's nothing like organic
content. And I think that's what's getting more popular other than this performative content.
This my gosh, all of this reality TV content and everyone wants to be the next it starts like.
Yeah. There's a level. We're at a whole different level here at bisexual coffee. It's authenticity.

(25:13):
150,000%. I mean, we don't say anything unless we genuinely mean it and there's no hate. And you
can feel that. And right now I have such a specific definition for who I am and it keeps me safe.
Because this is who I bought to be. I am a pansexual individual. That means that I get a charge

(25:35):
from everyone I meet. You're safe with somebody who's bisexual and pansexual because I believe
ordering probably on pan as I get older, the more I just realize that I treat humans for who they
are right now. Right. The label is by I bought I bought everything by colored for pride. I might
as well stick with that for a while. Right. I love it. I love it. I love opportunity lover. So

(25:59):
yeah. Right. Yeah, me too. Look, there is no and that I think that's the biggest problem that I
have in relationships is it's hard to believe for some that someone like me could love them.
I don't know why, but I mean, those are demons that those individuals have to work with in and

(26:21):
of themselves. I can't do the work for them. Yeah. So I don't care. I'm like basically single. I mean,
I have people that I love, but they're still working themselves out about me. I'm like a
chameleon to them, I guess, but I'm not a chameleon. I just transition into what I want from moment to

(26:41):
moment. I mean, good to be true yourself about that. Some people shape themselves because they
have a fear of not fitting in. I think you shape yourself because you like the joy of fitting in.
It's not that you are worried you're going to miss out. You just want you want to you want to share.
You want to love. That's right. I want and I want to experience everybody. Yes. Now, I want to say

(27:05):
that as much as all of these episodes that we've had so far have been like, you know, positivity,
we're all here for each other. We have to get a villain eventually. And we're working on that.
We have a villain. We have a villain. We have a villain. Can I tell priestess? No,
can I tell priestess? Go ahead. She might have a good time with them. I don't know.

(27:26):
His name is Marcus Allen. He is the unknown misogynist. Okay. He practices misogyny. He dates
Filipino women. Girl, I want you to and he's ready and he's our villain, but he's a big love muffin.
I want you to know right now he is he will appeal to you and you will probably love him.

(27:48):
And that's okay. And that is okay. But he's ready to have he wants he wants to be ribbed.
He wants to, you know, I don't think he wants to be torn into. I have to type into another line
of work that I do. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. I'm I'm for me, I haven't done a whole lot of like
conflict on screen, but I feel like I have the capacity for it at the more that I've done therapy

(28:13):
and it comes to peace with who I am, what I believe, and can actually say it without going,
I guess and all this, you know, I feel firm in my convictions. When this guy shows up,
I already have like three or four pages of just content that we can go off of it doesn't even
have to do all of it. And I'll be honest with you, if you go to talk about it, well, if we all have

(28:33):
look them up, it's really easy to find. But if we have good enough time where we both we all go
into this realizing that we're not walking away all like understanding and on the same page,
but we're here for the conversation, I would love to have him on with with you. I think that would
be amazing. He's ready. Yeah, he's ready. I mean, he he's a friend. So I'm not going to say a whole

(28:58):
lot. There's not a whole lot I can say I have compassion for the dude because I understand
that Filipino women, the mothers especially, they breed their babies for white men, honey.
They just have babies. We're just going to bag us a millionaire. That is a part of it. There's also
a part of it. It's pretty interesting. There might be some auto involved. I'm not going to go too

(29:21):
far. Yeah, exactly. Like, I'm looking forward to it because go back to that with people like that
every day, you know, it's a field day. Shit. It's funny. It is funny. His main energy comes from money.
So politics to so that's going to be a different flavor for the for the show. It's

(29:46):
so I can see what I'm hoping he's going to be one for a little bit.
It's not to be Marcus Allen. No, he's he's definitely look, we don't see eye to eye. I just
sit there and I listen, I listen, I listen to him because I want him to listen to me. And
one of the episodes, Michael was talking about his bisexuality and opening up to his wife and

(30:11):
how it didn't go over well. And Marcus and I were talking on the phone, he's like, so
it didn't work out with that wife. And I said, no, no, it didn't work out. And he said, well,
he got married again. And I said, yep, yep, he got married again. And he said, this wife stayed.
And I said, yeah, this wife stayed. And he said, well, was he honest with her? And I said, yes,

(30:31):
he was honest with her. And he's like, wow. So I honestly think that it's just not something that
he is comfortable doing. And it's easier than be honest, it's just easier to get a wife who knows
her place. And then you don't have to deal with any of that shit. He's got some views.

(30:55):
He's got some views that I want to tap into and really just ask him some good, solid questions.
As I hope that he will return the favor. So confused about a bisexual man that married a woman.
Right. Like, how is that confusing? Like, bisexual life. It's look, it's neat to watch him go through
the process, like ask questions. Maybe he's trying. We shall see. I'll gauge him. I'm gonna try not

(31:20):
embarrass him too bad, you know, or humiliate him. The fact that he's coming on a bisexual podcast.
Look, he came on naked onion. And that's an all women's podcast. And let me tell you.
Patriarchy. And he definitely is part of that. So that's great.

(31:41):
Oh, we got. Right. So is there a specific line of questions that line of questions will be asking?
So yeah, anything that you're curious about? Go ahead, Michael. Sorry. Yeah. So I what I did,
I went to his Facebook page and I looked at like the last two videos and then he repost a lot of
stuff because he has some stories that he's very, very passionate about that he wants other people

(32:03):
to know mostly about his near successes and fails that they keep repeating. So you have to kind of
get past those, get to his videos about advice to women. Those are that'll give you enough to get
your own questions. And like I said, I got four pages just after researching them.
The one that's my favorite is look, and I live by this, okay, being a gay person. The cool thing

(32:28):
about I think him is the fact that he doesn't give a shit if I'm queer or not. He doesn't care. It's
not like he loses sleep over it. You know what I'm saying? He'll talk to a trans woman. He'll,
you know, he's not gonna, I don't think he's going to be salacious. He's going to ask you
questions, real questions that really affect him. And that he's really been asking himself.

(32:50):
But the misogynist is very, very sexy. Okay. Right. There. There. I don't want to get us.
I don't want to get us banned from anywhere. I'm also a professional. I'm also a dumb outside of
what I do. So I'm a frigate that want a podcast. He might call you up. I don't know.
Marcus. Oh, and he's gonna have to pay the LA for that. He's gonna have to pay my fee.

(33:13):
I have a hefty fee for that per hour. Yeah, me too. Yeah, especially going all the way across
the country. Domwork ain't cheap. It's not. It's fun. I bet there's a fee for the part of the memory.
I feel like, I feel like, I feel like, I feel like a lot of those guys, a lot of red pillars,
they actually have a humiliation kink, but they're too scared to show that submissive side of them.

(33:36):
That's why they're, I'm sorry. Don't take all of that. You're being annoying.
Todd, but here's a milk bottle. Go sit down. Oh my God. That was good. That was so good.
That was so good. No, you know, it's like this. There are no secrets on this podcast.
There is not a one. We have young people. We have older individuals listening in.

(34:02):
Everybody's learning. It's super fun. We have another podcast mate. Name is Sydney, non-binary,
not they, them are non-binary. That'll get you. Right? That'll get me.
We talked about sexuality, relationships, addiction. The last guy we talked about,
we just talked about his upbringing, why he considers himself a comedian, why he's chosen,

(34:27):
the impressions that he has, what just kind of got into his mindset and whatnot. It's really a
very human podcast, one that doesn't really have much of a script every time. The one thing that
we have tried to do every time, and I don't know if you guys are realizing what I'm doing. I'm trying
to segue it the best I can. It's a Reddit story at the end of every podcast. Love Reddit.

(34:49):
That will work. I love Reddit. And Reddit's having a heyday right now. A lot of people are reading
Am I the Asshole Online? Am I overreacting? Related to the advice. One of my favorite
podcasts is Smosh reads Reddit and it's great. I love Smosh. I love them.
Yeah. It's great. It's a channel that's growing with us and I love it. I love it to death.

(35:12):
So what I did today is I got myself a podcast. I got a podcast, guys. Congratulations to me.
I pulled up a Reddit and this one is from Am I the Asshole, but it was the name of it that
caught my eye because I think I've heard a story like this, but this one is, it's got like five

(35:34):
different updates to it. So this one is a gift that keeps on giving. So, you guys mind if I get
into that, right, Glenn? No, absolutely. I'm not sure I have my most plugged in song. So this one
is called Am I the Asshole for Defending My Daughter's Name Changes? Throwaway Account for

(35:54):
the Stake of Privacy. I'm also on mobile, so big part. And so who knows how many typos are going
to be in this thing, but we're about to find out. My wife is 42 and I, 46 male, have a beautiful
daughter, 15, whom we love to death. Because it's relevant, I'll mention up until two years ago,
she was our son. We had a lot of, I'll be charitable and say, unlearning to do when all

(36:15):
this happened and it wasn't the smoothest ride for our daughter, I'm ashamed to say, but we're
in better place now and we're trying. Her therapist told us earlier that our daughter might want to
try on a few names before she found one that fit and her daughter, then our daughter proved that
wrong we thought by jumping on one. Let's say it's Bethany and sticking to it. After six months
of going by Bethany, it looked like it was a done deal. I want to say here that neither of us handled

(36:37):
hurt things perfectly at the start. My wife took longer to come around than I did. Bethany's birth
name in particular had a personal significance to my wife. So the whole name thing had been difficult
period. August of 2019, Bethany is about to start high school and she decides she wants a completely
fresh start. Name included. She told us she wants to try Ellie. A few months later, Liz. Credit were
credits to she was very present patient when her mom and I said that it was hard. We slipped up a lot

(37:03):
and she would just gently remind us, but my wife didn't handle it well. She got defensive, sarcastic,
roller eyes, that sort of thing. It led to a couple of arguments before her and I, okay, that sentence
just ends before her and I went with it. Liz stuck. But then a couple of weeks ago, my wife overheard
a friend of our daughter online calling her another name, let's say Maggie. She confronted her about
it. Turns out she's been trying on Maggie for a while just with friends and she had been a

(37:26):
reluctant to tell us. I wasn't there, but my wife just kind of walked away with a find whatever
type of thing. The last weeks, we've been making a new name, a habit, but my wife's been stewing.
We're all on a zoom call with my sister. They, they, he might have been sister in law, somebody edited
and her boys. I told them about the change. My younger nephew called my daughter Liz, my sister
corrected. My wife jokingly said, Oh, let her call her whatever she wants. She'll have a new one

(37:49):
next season anyway. Long story short, zoom call awkwardly ended early. Todd went straight to the
room and had it out with my wife. A daughter can't keep her side is that her daughter can't keep
changing names like this. It's hard enough for the mom without all the extra changes and she's,
and the daughter's just trying to get attention. My side, we were warned years ago, this might
happen. It's our daughter's decision to make and being sarcastic and making fun of her is just going

(38:11):
to make things work for Maggie. So now I'm lying awake wondering if I'm an asshole. I think I'm
right, but my wife has really been trying this aside, this one event aside, and we both had
shitty moments on that. Sorry for the long read, but am I the asshole before I get into the edits?
Both of you go by names that you did not start on this earth with.
Correct. How many iterations if you guys want to talk about that, were there any ones that you were

(38:36):
reluctant to let go of? Like what was your name journey? Priestess, you go first goddess. Okay,
so at first, I've been an entertainer in clubs since 2010. So I was going to go with my first
entertainer name, Denise Parris. Then some things happened with that troupe I was with and I became
Brigitte, Michelle Denise, and I had a couple of other stage names, you know how in the drag

(39:01):
community when you change drag families, your drag name changes. But I got to a point to where
although I was with certain families, I'm not changing my name anymore. Then I was Lyric,
Infinity. Oh my gosh, what was the other one? Yeah, it was just Lyric. And then I finally
said it on Yannick. Yeah. And it just came together from there. I haven't heard that actually
pronounced out loud yet. So appreciate that. Thank you. Okay, well, so for me, thank you,

(39:25):
goddess, I appreciate you. I was going through so I have autism, I have ADHD, I am bipolar,
I have a brain injury from all the verbal abuse of being stuck in a room and screamed at. So my
brain split and I'm lucky I don't have any psychiatric disorders. I meditate every single day

(39:49):
two, three hours a day. I work out. I only work four days a week. I live with a dear friend who
has allowed me to heal. When I first came on to my name, Edith, I know about reincarnation. I know
that I am more divine than my parents wanted me to believe. I know that I have more purpose. I've

(40:11):
always known this since I was very small. I know that Edith Ivey Rosenblatt is an artist in New York
City. She's now she's probably 95 years old. Well, I am taking that name and reincarnating that goddess.
I am I'm taking that energy. And I am redefining myself and Edith is a name that has been hated

(40:37):
because it's not a pretty girl's name or it's a Jewish girl's name or you know, what value does
a woman have if her name is Edith? Well, I've met a lot of Ediths in Texas, actually all over the
country. And they seem to be just the most delightful, rich embodiment of women that I could possibly

(40:58):
find in my life. So I have changed the definition of Edith and I embody the spirit of Edith. And
that's how I want to live my life is showing young people you don't have to live in sewage for your
brain. You know what I'm saying? Just because went and you live the life that wasn't really your own

(41:18):
doesn't mean that you can't define yourself now. Okay, Priestess, I see that in you. When I watch
your content, I am tickled. I laughed to myself and I just had to meet you and I want to grow with you.
So, that's Edith right there. Great. I love that. So have either one of you like when you did change

(41:40):
your name like, we have Yannick, we have Ediths, the names that you have decided to hold on to for
now. Have you got any flashback by the people that you know, like they just refused to call you by
the name that you chosen? I actually had a couple of family members that after I, I've been gone by
Yannick since 2015, of course. Right. And family members know this. And I have some that I was like,

(42:04):
oh, you can go, I would prefer, I didn't even prefer, please call me Yannick. If you can't
announce Yannick, I'll help you pronounce it or you can call me Yannick or Miss Foster.
For that matter. You know, if you don't want to say my first name, you'll call me Miss Foster.
Oh, I love that. So, and I have to do that with family, but, but I'm unfortunately, well,

(42:26):
fortunately, I should say I'm no contact with the problematic one. So I don't have to deal with that.
Now with my, with my pops, which is my uncle that raised me that that is my father, it was a little
bit of a challenge, but he corrects himself immediately, even with the pronouns. He was like,
Yannick, but only he and a couple of other people can call me a certain iteration of my name. I'm

(42:49):
not going to repeat it, but only certain people can call me that particular iteration of the day,
because that's sometimes how my former bosses would pronounce it when we first met. And I'm like,
every time y'all say that, it reminds me of how my word. I love that. That's perfect. Right. You
know, so with this story right here, this guy writes the story and goes, he didn't realize the

(43:12):
the flashback, the, this flashback that was going to get him and it was mostly positive.
People were saying, you know, hey, he was doing the right thing. And the edits are that this whole
time, this whole post, the way he's been reading it through this throwaway account,
then very reassuring and eye-opening. I'll be talking to my wife tomorrow morning and see if
my daughter, if she and my daughter are okay with it, she's going to try to post an update to keep

(43:34):
people in line. And then more people was like, yes, please post an update. We need to know how
your family's doing. Yes, please. And then the post itself, relatively long, I'll try to go through
it quickly here. My wife sat down this morning and talked, told her that we were looking for
insight and offered to show the post, but she didn't feel like she needed to read it.
Turns out she'd been thinking about it too. Surprise. It turns out that my hunch about the

(43:55):
whole thing was kind of right. I didn't share with this yesterday because I didn't want to
go without my wife's permission. But the year that we had had Maggie, my wife's father, we'll
call him George, passed away. He had been sick for some time when we were praying he'd let them
meet his grandchild, but that didn't happen. When Maggie was born, we decided to name her George,
obviously not her real birth name after him. Now, it's important thing to understand here is
the context is my daughter looked so much like her grandfather. The way that my wife tells it,

(44:19):
it's like having him back in her life again, and she took a lot of comfort with that. And then
and then felt like it was being ripped from her. So that answered a lot. Once she opened up, we
talked for a while about it afterwards. We're nowhere near all the answers. But it looks like
we're seeing our daughter transition. It brought a whole lot of grief to the surface that she had
never dealt with. Now we're talking therapy, she's reluctant, but coming around. And that's a start.

(44:41):
Anyway, that's where they are now. People are worried that the wife burned the bridge with Maggie.
And right now, the mother is getting her butt kicked by Maggie at Mario Kart as they speak.
I love it. And we both know that we're not quite done adjusting to our daughter's new identity.
But I wanted to assure everyone that the conversation isn't stopping here. We had a good day.
After a bad day, there will be more of them, I'm sure. Obviously, after that post, he was

(45:05):
definitely voted not the asshole. We're all narcissistic. We're all empathic. We're all
capable of just such emotion and such love. And love is going to vary according to trauma
in each person. And in our cast of people, we have been through so much. We've been through

(45:28):
so much. So we understand that that people are going to have to get in their feelings. Okay.
There are there are some that just don't want to. I don't want to. I don't want to feel. And
that's what mom's doing. She's like, I don't want to process the shit. Exactly. Yeah. She's
she's also projecting her trauma onto her child instead of dealing with that trauma herself. I

(45:55):
understand that you lost your father. That is a traumatic loss. However, this is your child's
life. So what you're doing, you're placing your child in this box as only you see them as only
you see her. And granted, this is a journey, but this is her journey. And I was wondering why in
the beginning, why there was no family therapy session, especially for the mom, because it seems

(46:15):
like she's the one having the hardest time with it. Right. And that was the thing. Like it was
needed. It was definitely needed. Speaking of therapy, I want to toot my own horn here. Okay.
I jokingly put this out there in my social media is I don't really think this way, but I said that
I won therapy in the respect that we got to the point where the reason that I went to therapy,

(46:36):
which was handling grief, because I was just not handling the loss of my parents well, and also a
few other behavioral things that I was concerned about. And we worked our way through that. But
we finally had a conversation. We were we were only about 30 minutes into our hour long conversation
when she's like, what is the idea of closing out this version of therapy? How does that feel to

(46:58):
you? And I'm like, be honest with you, I've been thinking about that the last couple of times,
I just really didn't know how to approach that. So we had a conversation, we had a little meditation
moment at the end where I brought up my parents in a safe space in my brain, I dealt with the
grief. It was actually a very sweet moment in my brain. Because she she was suggesting questions
that I would ask them. But the projections that I was making of my parents didn't answer the way

(47:23):
that I thought that they would. I thought it would be all saccharine sweet, it would come for me.
It was actually very much much of their own impressions on me. In fact, in that space,
I called my dad an asshole, and he laughed and mom agreed. And it wasn't until like a few moments
later that I realized like, that was like, I pulled that from my past. And I didn't even realize it.

(47:44):
So I came out of it, I had had some tears in my eyes. I'm like, oh, that was really sweet.
So I definitely agree that therapy, especially grief therapy is would be huge in this.
Awesome. And that would that would pave the way for so many other more smooth conversations
that they could have in the in the future. Well, and that's kind of what we're all dealing with,
right? It's like, so when we transition in the beginning, for me transitioning into who I am

(48:06):
now, there was a lot of grief. I was very sad because there were so many dysfunctional things
that brought me comfort. And now I have turned it around where I don't, uh, I don't want to hear
anybody arguing politics isn't a thing for me. So don't argue with me about that. Don't come
and tell me all your problems. I don't want to know. I'm not addicted to suffering. Sorry,

(48:28):
go find someone else. If you want to live in that brainwave state, not me. Get somebody else to
do it. I have lived exactly, baby. I have lived in the sewer of thoughts. I have lived in a place
where, and we talked about this on the addiction episode, the last one, it was really good. Priestess,
if you get a chance, listen to that, make sure to listen to that. I was eyeballing that episode

(48:50):
too. Okay, good. Yeah. And we'll have to do one too. So, but I'm not addicted to shit anymore.
I don't need anymore. I don't, I don't, I believe in manifesting all the good things and I will be
taken care of. And if I don't stay here, I'll stay somewhere. I don't care. Go with the flow type

(49:10):
person and I envy you with that. I, I'm a bad Buddhist in the way that I kind of like things
a certain way, not so much the objects in my life, but the way that things are happening,
like relationship where I'm living and everything like that, the big, the big parts on the bottom
of the survival period. I really like those being kind of the same thing. And when those get shook

(49:30):
up, I get, I get more anxious than some, but it's something that I'm working with in my life.
I don't think there's such thing as a bad Buddhist. I just think it's like a lower level Buddhist.
Yeah, there you go. A bargain then, Buddhist, if you will. A bargain, bud. Yeah.
I can't. I can't. Goddess, I, I appreciate you and your divinity, sweetheart,

(49:52):
and allowing us this time, this special time together so we could spend it and laugh.
Yeah. Enjoyed it myself. Yes. Yes. I look forward to future episodes. Just, just contact me.
Excellent. All right, baby. I love you. Love you too. It's good being with you all.
Peace out. We're Teer Mom. All right. See ya, lady.
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