Ep 88: Are You Too Picky In Dating?

You know that pit in your stomach when someone fits all your criteria on paper, but by the 4th date, something feels - off?

Or that anxiety spike when a genuinely nice guy wants to plan a future...And suddenly you're silently picking him apart and finding all the reasons he's not right? Or maybe you're exhausted from: • Overanalyzing every dating profile • Creating elaborate "must-have" lists • Dismissing good men for minor flaws • Staying in lukewarm relationships because technically, they check all the boxes

Here's what no one's telling you: Your detailed checklist isn't about finding the right partner.

It's about managing the terror of getting it wrong again.

In this week's episode, I'm diving deep into why successful, intelligent women often hide behind being "selective" - - And often wind up dating another unavailable or narcissistic type - or going long stretches without a date, despite her best intentions. You'll discover:

--> Why your body tenses up around emotional availability (even when you logically want it)--> The hidden reason you're attracted to men who barely meet your minimum standards--> How your "non-negotiables" might be negotiating you right out of love--> The surprising difference between standards and rules (and why confusing them is costing you)If you're tired of feeling like you have to choose between lowering your standards or being alone forever, this episode is for you.

Are you a single, successful woman over 40 who's ready for love - while wanting to love yourself completely on the journey to Mr. Right? Book a free breakthrough session to discover if we can help: www.bethanydotson.com/talk

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Successful women often question if they are too picky.

Internalized messages from childhood can lead to self-doubt.

There is a difference between standards and rules in dating.

Rules can stem from a desire for control after trauma.

Control does not heal trauma; boundaries do.

Living by rules can lead to feeling stuck in life.

It's important to retrain your nervous system for healthy relationships.

Embracing love and self-acceptance is crucial for dating.

Dating should be seen as a way to learn about oneself.

Breaking the cycle of unfulfilling relationships requires action.

Keywords:

dating, relationships, standards, rules, trauma, self-acceptance, narcissistic relationships, personal growth, emotional healing, love