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Rachel Brady's video (00:00):
Conscious but Grounded is a podcast about
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spirituality, high vibe livingin the real world.
I ask questions like, how do weconnect to the magic?
The spirit, the source, theuniverse, but with our feet
firmly planted on the ground.
How do we show up in a consciousway and harness that to make
big, paradigm busting change inthe day to day of our lives?
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I'm Rachel Brady, mum of three,yoga teacher and embodiment
coach.
This is the place where I'll bereflecting and exploring big,
deep questions, all with a pinchof self deprecation, a few
proper lols, and a lot of reallife.
Join me.
Hello.
Welcome back to Conscious BookGrounded.
Today's episode is going to be aclosing, but also an opening of
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sorts.
So what I've decided to do is toround up this season, the first
season of Conscious BookGrounded, um, and kind of bring
it to a natural close because Ifeel like this first season of
Conscious but grounded was verymuch about me feeling around in
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the.
Dark, you will either resonatewith this content or not,
obviously.
And some people will find likethe chatty nature of this, um,
podcast attractive and they willresonate with what's on my heart
and my mind and my journey.
Because the last, oh, since Istarted this couple of months or
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whatever, has been very muchabout me finding myself, uh,
and, and my journey into really.
My identity as a neurodivergentperson in her midlife and also
how that weaves intospirituality and my own
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struggles really.
And what has happened is I'vebeen working with my coach who
is gonna come on here soon, um,in her program, and really
working on, first of all,getting my offers out there and
my retreat out there.
And second of all.
What is my movement?
What is my message?
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And uh, yesterday I had a bigrealization.
Uh, when I went through a, Itook myself through a process of
asking questions about what,what, what is this for?
Who is this for?
And really, you know, any bookon Dharma, any book on life
purpose, anything like that, uh,will always take you back to
your own story.
That's where the key to yourpurpose and your soul's journey
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lies.
And it's just an ancient ideathat's forever been true,
really, which is, um, that weturn back in their wisdom to
help those just slightly behindus.
That's all the coaches doreally, really simply.
Uh, and teachers and guides.
You know, I don't think you'llfind a spiritual teacher or a
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guide who hasn't been in theshits like.
The lotus flower is that thelotus flower only grows in the
mud, and that's why it's aspiritual symbol.
And I've talked about thisbefore and it's that kind of
like the dark night of the soulis something to sit in and, uh,
the hard times or something tosit in.
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And this is what I've beenrealizing the last few days.
I've had a really tumultuoustime recently within personal
relationships of the greatestimportance, um, knowing, uh,
battling with.
What stays and what goes really,and that has been very aligned
with what's happening on aplanetary level.
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I'm not an astrologer, but Ikeep up with astrology from.
Respected sources.
Uh, and then there's beenanother shift today.
Um, so what the planets havebeen asking us and the universe
has been asking us is like,consider very carefully what's,
what's staying and what's going,and then plant your roots down
even.
Further, we talked about thatbefore.
And then today there's anothershift.
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Uh, don't quote me on what shiftit is, but there's another shift
that asks us to, uh, furtherkind of, well to further kind of
lean into what lights us up.
Um, and all of this is reflectedby the work I've been doing with
my coach, so, so much to saythat I want to close this
chapter of my podcast.
I've very much been thinkingabout throwing this all away and
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then also realizing that like,no, because people are out
there.
That resonate with your journeyand, and, and that kind of
constant doubt about your ownvoice and its importance.
I teach that to other people,to, you know, to not have that.
So if I have it myself, whattype of teacher am I?
But I want to honor this phaseof my growth by keeping this as
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my first season, which is verymuch, I might name it something
like exploring, uh, because Ifeel like the next chapter for
me is all about emergence.
And emergence is the word thatkeeps coming up when I'm writing
about my business.
S because I know now what I wantto focus on, who I want to focus
on working with, how to describemy work, and I want to do that
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all very soon.
And I just wanted to talk aboutwhy, why the shift, why the
change?
Because what I, I've been doingvery much is with yoga, people
think it's an exercise program.
People go like, oh yeah,flexibility, stretching, da da,
da.
As you know, if you listen tothis, it's so much more than
that.
It's a, it's walking a yogicpath, which will I.
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Always do because I'm a yogi,I'm a household, a yogi.
Um, and so, but if you go outinto the world and say, oh, I'm
a yoga teacher, that brings tomind Don't you teach yoga every
day?
Well, no, I don't actually.
Uh, so I've really been thinkingabout what is my work about and
who do I raid, who do I resonatemost with and who do I feel
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most, um, useful to?
And so I want to work goingforward, I will be working with
midlife women who are goingthrough tough trials.
Transitions.
So the midlife God is such a, Imean, you know, having been
through nce, which is thejourney from maidenhood to, uh,
motherhood, there must be aword, oh my God, I'm gonna look
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this up.
I should have done it beforethis podcast.
So there must be a word thatgoes from, you know,
premenopausal to per uh, toperimenopausal to menopausal.
But I am perimenopausal.
I'm 45, coming on for 46, andI've talked before.
This podcast about how much, Ithink for the last five years, I
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don't wanna say, oh, they'vebeen my downfall.
Oh, they've been my struggle.
But that's how I kind of go tothe doctors.
You have to kind of phrase itlike that, but they've not been
my downfall.
I don't say that.
What I say is, the last fiveyears I've, you know, been like
a liquefy, honestly, like ametamorphosis of me on from one
stage to the next.
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And now because of my spiritualwork, I understand that this has
been a portal, a huge portal,because I always, always.
So followed that up with, but Iwouldn't change any of it.
I, I'm exactly where I need tobe and the pain that I've been
through has educated me.
Um, and it's humbled me and it'svery much shows me what needs to
stay, what needs to go, whatneeds to change, and you just
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keep coming back to morehealing, more healing, more
healing.
Because what we're taught inWestern, and I'm not gonna just
bash Western medicine.
I mean, if I got a cancerdiagnosis tomorrow, which
haven't, you know, God forbid,touch wood, I won't, uh, then
you better believe that, that Iwould go and get Western
medicine to help.
However, that's not to say thatI, I do think.
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Um, the allopathic, is itcalled, uh, model is, it is time
for change.
Really.
I mean, I'm a holistic person.
My re on detri in life is tohave a holistic approach to
everything, um, and.
But the Western approach, right?
The western approach is like,oh, are you feeling depressed?
Okay, here's a tablet again.
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I take antidepressants.
I'm not knocking it.
They've been in my life for fiveyears.
I want to come off them.
But it is hard because your bodygets used to them anyway, that's
a whole side issue.
Um, what I'm saying is we think,oh God, I've got this thing.
It needs to medicate away.
Get rid of it now instead of, ohwow, I'm feeling like a shell of
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a human.
What is this telling me?
Like our bodies, our mind, body,and soul is this innate,
complex, incredible.
We don't even understand ourcapacity and our potential.
It's this incredible system thatwill never, ever lead us astray.
Our gut instincts will lead us.
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You know, our heart will leadus.
Our body will show us what isout of whack.
I'm reading a book on Aveda atthe minute, and your body will
show.
Show you what is out of work.
So bringing yourself intobalance in mind, body, and soul.
So what we've done in thewestern world is because we
progressed so fast, like sofast, we cannot keep up.
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Yesterday I was watching GaryChu say that, you know, our
grandchildren will marry AIrobots.
And like we're laughing aboutit, watching it, but like we
cannot keep up our body, mind,and soul cannot keep up with the
pace of progress.
We are too clever for our owngood.
And what's happened is.
Is the importance has beenplaced on the mind and, and the
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one thing that might lie to youabout your body is when you just
focus on the mind.
The mind will keep you safe.
The mind will keep you small,right?
The mind will keep you in a box.
The ego, we get confused betweenthe mind and the ego.
We think it's our mind.
It's actually the ego.
The ego is keeping us in fair.
The ego is keeping us small.
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The ego is saying this,depression is you.
These thoughts are.
Real Last night I watched thattherapy program.
Uh, I had it on with my teenageson, with me.
He wasn't watching it, but hekind of caught a bit of it.
He was just playing a game onhis laptop.
But, uh, I like watching thosethings around him so he can
somewhat let some of it sink inand see people talking about
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mental health and how it's justnormal and stuff.
And I was just shouting at thetv, not that the therapists
weren't great, they were, someof the stuff they were doing,
I've done in coaching sessionsand I'm not a qualified
psychotherapist.
She was doing embodiment work.
She was doing.
In a child work, reparentingwork, all these things that I'm
trained in.
But anyway, I just kept sayingto them, they're not saying one,
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the tv, they're not saying onething to them, which I would
say, which is, you are not yourthoughts.
So fear, false evidence,appearing real.
You know, all these things.
We, we suffer depression.
And really, instead of listeningto it, okay, what is out of
whack in my body?
What is out of whack in my life?
Is this relationship serving me?
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Is this job killing me?
My soul is alcohol tox.
You know, really ruining mymental health.
Is the home that I live intoxic?
Like is my sleeping pattern outof whack?
Like is working night shiftscreating my depression is on
healed child of trauma, makingme show up in a depressed way?
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You know, all of these questionswe have to investigate.
We have to stand back andwitness our depression.
We have to stand back andwitness our behavior because.
Our soul is always gonna beintact.
Our soul is who we are.
We're having a human experience.
Our human parts are having humanexperiences.
Don't get me wrong, it's fuckingincredibly hard.
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I had a terrible dark night ofthe soul when I was still
swimming in the mud, um, at theweekend, and I felt incredibly
lonely and fear false evidence.
Appearing real was telling meyou are alone.
Nobody likes you.
Nobody wants to be with you.
Nobody understands you.
You, you are wrong.
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Like you are not enough.
Um, and so I reached out to acouple of family members and
talked, and I got, I handled itgood in some ways, bad in other
ways, but like, I let it movethrough me and I cried a lot and
I, I didn't hide it from mydaughter.
I was like, yeah, I'm strugglingwith depression at the minute.
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And then I let it wash throughme.
I kept my dissertation practiceup apart from one day.
I think I was just like, oh.
Oh, God's not happening today.
I've been meditating twice a dayand so keeping up that practice,
my yoga Asana practice hasdropped off a little bit.
I'm on the way to the gym now totry and get some exercise in.
I realize that I need to balancemy mind, body and soul.
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I'm not getting enough exercise.
Um, and so it's really realizinglike, why am I feeling like
this?
What am I not committing tofully and wholly?
Where am I projecting my.
Shit onto other people andsaying, it's your fault, it's
your fault, it's your fault.
No, it's my fault.
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I'm the one that needs to do thework.
I'm the one that needs toregulate my emotions and get
help to do that.
And that might look like HRT.
It might look like going to thegym.
It might look like letting shitgo.
Like when your partner who isotherwise amazing is a bit
messy, like it might look likegoing, you know what?
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My rage that I'm experiencing asa midlife woman is affecting
this family and I need to gethelp.
Up.
You know, it is listening towhat is going on in your body
and realizing fucking hell, thisis actually a lot of this is me.
And get out of the victimconsciousness because sitting
back and going, I'm depressedand nobody cares about me.
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Nobody ever rings me.
Nobody ever checks on me.
Where is me?
Where is me?
Where is me?
Do something about it.
Stand back and witness what ishappening and go, what needs to
be fixed here?
So I'm very.
Good at doing that.
I can wall in the ship, but I'mvery proactive and I'll be like,
right, this is what we're doing.
We're resetting tomorrow.
We're doing this, we're doingthat.
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Because as a spiritual person,don't believe for a second that
I'm getting everything wrong.
No way.
That's why I do this work,because I'm getting it wrong,
but sorry, I'm getting, I'm notgetting it right all the time.
I'm getting it wrong all thetime.
And so that's the bigmisunderstanding.
I spoke to my, I've said thisseveral times recently in these
episodes, you know, I spoke tomy coach about it.
I feel like a fraud.
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I feel like a fraud.
I.
Lose my temper at my kids.
I'm supposed to be a yogateacher.
She was like, are you joking?
Don't you think yoga teachersget divorced?
Don't you think yoga teachershave mental breakdowns?
Don't you think yoga teachershave addiction?
They're the worst people for it.
Not the worst, but you know whatI mean?
That they're the people whostruggle with those things.
That's why they became yogateachers, because they need
this.
They're not naturally Vic.
They're not naturally peoplewho, you know, seekers are
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people who need this journey.
They need the path.
So where am I going with this?
So basically realizing all ofthis yesterday, writing all of
this down, like I'm like afucking expert at going through
shit, like hard shit, mentalhealth shit.
But I'm also very fucking good.
I dusting myself off and going,what needs to be healed?
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What needs to be healed?
What needs to be healed?
What needs to be healed?
Read a book.
Listen to a podcast.
Learn, learn.
Learn, learn.
I will not get stuck in victimconsciousness, and I have
learned through my.
Yogic path that I could stepback and witness, like witness,
witness, witness, witness.
I've also learnt tools and thisis the work.
The, the free workshop on mywebsite right now, um, is a free
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embodiment and new parentingworkshop that I did with Bel
Boron, who's my co-host for myretreat in November.
If you can't come to that, goget Goddess Codes.
It's on my website at the mo atthe moment.
It's 22 pounds.
It's a seven week chakra chakrabalancing course.
Just start to fucking listen inwhat is happening in this
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chakra, what is happening inthis chakra?
And if you don't believe inchakras, don't worry about it.
Listen to it anyway, and see howgrounded in practical advice it
is.
Even if you see chakras as ametaphor, right?
A spiritual metaphor.
The root chakra is all aboutsafety and security, finances,
sexual trauma, da da, da.
These are the things you can doto heal in this area.
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These are the things you can doright now.
Start to heal this part of you.
Be proactive in your ownhealing.
Be a self healer.
You know, the most prominentpeople on social media, the most
prominent psychologist, theholistic psychologist, her
entire community is called theself healer circle.
Stop.
Let's stop outsourcing all ofour shit to the doctors because
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bless them.
Even though I love all thedoctors at my local surgery,
they're general practitionershave been trained in one mode of
medicine, which is sort thisthing in the.
Like stick a sticking plaster onthe thing that you are, that
you're telling them about tomake the symptoms go away.
It's symptom-based.
Only you know the full story.
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You've got 11 minutes with themor whatever it is.
If you can get a bloodyappointment, don't wait around
doing things to self-medicateand doing things to hurt
yourself and wallow and.
Victimize yourself even furtheruntil you've got a doctor's
appointment.
Don't expect the doctor to solveall your problems.
And so specifically here, I'mtalking about midlife women
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because I feel like as midlifewomen, you know, talking to my
mom about her experience inmidlife, she actually had a.
A surgical menopause'cause shehad a hysterectomy and it was
brutal.
Like she did not have theawareness that we have today.
We have things a lot better.
We have awareness now of peopletalking about these things on
Instagram.
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You know, we are really growingin awareness, but I also feel
like this time round, thisgeneration.
It's more intense.
We are, we've got kids that areall on social media and all the
rest of it.
We're living in this post COVIDpost-truth, crazy, nutty world,
and it feels like the world isfricking breaking.
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But is it, or is itrecalibrating?
Are you breaking or are yourecalibrating?
Is part of you with the old youdying right now so you can be
reborn as the next, always.
Stronger.
Way wiser, way more radiant wisewoman.
You know, this is the way we'vegot to look at it.
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Once I realized that my mentalhealth struggles, I was told
time and ex, the people that Iwork with regularly, I go back
to them.
They've known me for years and Iwould say to them, I'm just
really struggling with mymental.
Health right now.
And then they would say, do youwant me to feed something back
to you?
And I'd be like, yeah, what?
And they would say, you'reactually going through a
spiritual awakening and you arenot.
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You're not dying right now.
You're coming alive right now.
Well, part of you is dyingbecause another part of you is
about to up level.
I was like, what?
When I realized.
That I could sit in the shit andgo, this too shall pass.
This too shall pass.
I'm going through a process.
Oh, this is what grading feelslike.
You know the metaphor of thebutterfly liquefying,
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metamorphosizing.
Guys, this is not bullshit.
This is for real, and it willchange your experience of mental
health.
It won't suck any less, butthere is hope.
You know, in the Ram Dapo.
Word that I play all the time,and that fucking changed my life
about four years ago.
He says, you know what was,once, you know, a bright glow,
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fire, fire, it feels like it'sashes now, but then you spot an
ember and all you've got to dois blow on that ember.
It gets brighter, and thenpretty much you realize that all
we're gonna do for the rest offraternity is sit around the
fire.
And also what you could add tothat is that we're all walking
each other home through thisprocess.
So the people that make itthrough life and learn the soul
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lessons that they're her tolearn on this journey, they're
not the ones that don't gothrough shit.
They're going through someserious shit, but they are the
ones that realize, this tooshall pass.
This too shall pass.
And the shit I'm learning now isgonna be really good for me and
it's gonna be gold on the otherside of this because I'm gonna
be so wise.
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And I'm going to use it to startthis business, or I'm going to
use it to help my friend, or I'mgoing to use it to like be
really wise when my daughtercomes to me with the same
problem, I've been through it.
I'm wise, I'm a wise woman now.
So we have to realize that thesethings are happening to us, are
actually happening for us.
And it's not a problem to befixed.
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It's not like, oh fuck thisrelationship.
We keep having ups and downs andthat means it's wrong.
Let's.
Throw it in the dustbin.
No, that's life.
That's relationships.
They are wrong then they'reright, then they're wrong.
Then they're right.
Because guess what?
We're all healing in a mirrorimage of each other.
You go into relationships toheal your childhood wounds, so
you.
Seek out people that are exactlylike your parents or the exact
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opposite, and you're gonna playout that shit with that person.
That's what a relationship is.
Okay?
So you either acknowledge thistogether and heal together and
keep doing the work, or youfucking throw it in the bin and
then go and repeat the samethings with somebody else.
So what I wanted to do today wasend this chapter with a bit of a
feisty one.
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Um, and I've made a bolddecision today to publish all
the ones that I've had on herestacking up and, and let people
who need to hear the journeycome along with me on the
journey.
And if you resonate, great.
If you don't, it's okay.
We're not all here for eachother.
Some people are gonna love thiswork.
Some people, it's not gonna makesense to them.
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Um, if you do resonate, go to mywebsite, which is currently
Rachel Brady yoga.com.
I might be changing it to RachelBrady because I want people to
understand that my work is aboutmore.
Than just yoga, although yoga isliterally life.
Um, so my work now goingforward, I'm niching it down
because if you're not marketingto somebody, you're marketing to
nobody is the old chestnut.
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Right?
Um, and I am specificallyworking with midlife women who
are going through shit.
They're going through thehormones, you know, loss.
They're going through grief,they're going through divorce,
they're going through emptynest, they're going through
career meltdowns.
They're going through.
Everything, everything,everything.
And I want to work with you andhelp you realize that this is
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not happening to you, ishappening for you.
You are not in victim mode.
You are not gonna be in victimmode when you work with me.
But that doesn't mean wespiritually bypass.
We sit in the shit together.
We feel seen.
We feel heard.
We use embodiment tools andyoga.
To feel this shit and to healthis shit and then release it
and then think, how can Iexpress this in a way that's
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healthy and it's gonna serve thehighest good of all?
So if you enjoyed this episode,please write to me.
Uh, write to me like theepisode, leave a comment.
Uh, email me, look me up onInstagram.
I love you and closing downseason one and I'm gonna be
calling season one experiment.
Season two is all gonna be aboutemergence and I have some
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amazing guests coming on aswell, so look out for that as
well.
I love you so much, and Godbless you if you're going
through the shit right now.
And just remember there is lighton the other side.
There's darkness and there'slight.
You can't have one without theother.
I love you.
Bye.
Conscious but Grounded is a podcast about
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spirituality, high vibe livingin the real world.
I ask questions like, how do weconnect to the magic?
The spirit, the source, theuniverse, but with our feet
firmly planted on the ground.
How do we show up in a consciousway and harness that to make
big, paradigm busting change inthe day to day of our lives?
(00:22):
I'm Rachel Brady, mum of three,yoga teacher and embodiment
coach.
This is the place where I'll bereflecting and exploring big,
deep questions, all with a pinchof self deprecation, a few
proper lols, and a lot of reallife.
Join me.
Hello.
Welcome back to Conscious BookGrounded.
Today's episode is going to be aclosing, but also an opening of
(00:45):
sorts.
So what I've decided to do is toround up this season, the first
season of Conscious BookGrounded, um, and kind of bring
it to a natural close because Ifeel like this first season of
Conscious but grounded was verymuch about me feeling around in
(01:07):
the.
Dark, you will either resonatewith this content or not,
obviously.
And some people will find likethe chatty nature of this, um,
podcast attractive and they willresonate with what's on my heart
and my mind and my journey.
Because the last, oh, since Istarted this couple of months or
(01:28):
whatever, has been very muchabout me finding myself, uh,
and, and my journey into really.
My identity as a neurodivergentperson in her midlife and also
how that weaves intospirituality and my own
(01:48):
struggles really.
And what has happened is I'vebeen working with my coach who
is gonna come on here soon, um,in her program, and really
working on, first of all,getting my offers out there and
my retreat out there.
And second of all.
What is my movement?
What is my message?
(02:10):
And uh, yesterday I had a bigrealization.
Uh, when I went through a, Itook myself through a process of
asking questions about what,what, what is this for?
Who is this for?
And really, you know, any bookon Dharma, any book on life
purpose, anything like that, uh,will always take you back to
your own story.
That's where the key to yourpurpose and your soul's journey
(02:34):
lies.
And it's just an ancient ideathat's forever been true,
really, which is, um, that weturn back in their wisdom to
help those just slightly behindus.
That's all the coaches doreally, really simply.
Uh, and teachers and guides.
You know, I don't think you'llfind a spiritual teacher or a
(02:56):
guide who hasn't been in theshits like.
The lotus flower is that thelotus flower only grows in the
mud, and that's why it's aspiritual symbol.
And I've talked about thisbefore and it's that kind of
like the dark night of the soulis something to sit in and, uh,
the hard times or something tosit in.
(03:16):
And this is what I've beenrealizing the last few days.
I've had a really tumultuoustime recently within personal
relationships of the greatestimportance, um, knowing, uh,
battling with.
What stays and what goes really,and that has been very aligned
with what's happening on aplanetary level.
(03:37):
I'm not an astrologer, but Ikeep up with astrology from.
Respected sources.
Uh, and then there's beenanother shift today.
Um, so what the planets havebeen asking us and the universe
has been asking us is like,consider very carefully what's,
what's staying and what's going,and then plant your roots down
even.
Further, we talked about thatbefore.
And then today there's anothershift.
(03:58):
Uh, don't quote me on what shiftit is, but there's another shift
that asks us to, uh, furtherkind of, well to further kind of
lean into what lights us up.
Um, and all of this is reflectedby the work I've been doing with
my coach, so, so much to saythat I want to close this
chapter of my podcast.
I've very much been thinkingabout throwing this all away and
(04:21):
then also realizing that like,no, because people are out
there.
That resonate with your journeyand, and, and that kind of
constant doubt about your ownvoice and its importance.
I teach that to other people,to, you know, to not have that.
So if I have it myself, whattype of teacher am I?
But I want to honor this phaseof my growth by keeping this as
(04:41):
my first season, which is verymuch, I might name it something
like exploring, uh, because Ifeel like the next chapter for
me is all about emergence.
And emergence is the word thatkeeps coming up when I'm writing
about my business.
S because I know now what I wantto focus on, who I want to focus
on working with, how to describemy work, and I want to do that
(05:02):
all very soon.
And I just wanted to talk aboutwhy, why the shift, why the
change?
Because what I, I've been doingvery much is with yoga, people
think it's an exercise program.
People go like, oh yeah,flexibility, stretching, da da,
da.
As you know, if you listen tothis, it's so much more than
that.
It's a, it's walking a yogicpath, which will I.
(05:25):
Always do because I'm a yogi,I'm a household, a yogi.
Um, and so, but if you go outinto the world and say, oh, I'm
a yoga teacher, that brings tomind Don't you teach yoga every
day?
Well, no, I don't actually.
Uh, so I've really been thinkingabout what is my work about and
who do I raid, who do I resonatemost with and who do I feel
(05:46):
most, um, useful to?
And so I want to work goingforward, I will be working with
midlife women who are goingthrough tough trials.
Transitions.
So the midlife God is such a, Imean, you know, having been
through nce, which is thejourney from maidenhood to, uh,
motherhood, there must be aword, oh my God, I'm gonna look
(06:09):
this up.
I should have done it beforethis podcast.
So there must be a word thatgoes from, you know,
premenopausal to per uh, toperimenopausal to menopausal.
But I am perimenopausal.
I'm 45, coming on for 46, andI've talked before.
This podcast about how much, Ithink for the last five years, I
(06:29):
don't wanna say, oh, they'vebeen my downfall.
Oh, they've been my struggle.
But that's how I kind of go tothe doctors.
You have to kind of phrase itlike that, but they've not been
my downfall.
I don't say that.
What I say is, the last fiveyears I've, you know, been like
a liquefy, honestly, like ametamorphosis of me on from one
stage to the next.
(06:49):
And now because of my spiritualwork, I understand that this has
been a portal, a huge portal,because I always, always.
So followed that up with, but Iwouldn't change any of it.
I, I'm exactly where I need tobe and the pain that I've been
through has educated me.
Um, and it's humbled me and it'svery much shows me what needs to
stay, what needs to go, whatneeds to change, and you just
(07:13):
keep coming back to morehealing, more healing, more
healing.
Because what we're taught inWestern, and I'm not gonna just
bash Western medicine.
I mean, if I got a cancerdiagnosis tomorrow, which
haven't, you know, God forbid,touch wood, I won't, uh, then
you better believe that, that Iwould go and get Western
medicine to help.
However, that's not to say thatI, I do think.
(07:35):
Um, the allopathic, is itcalled, uh, model is, it is time
for change.
Really.
I mean, I'm a holistic person.
My re on detri in life is tohave a holistic approach to
everything, um, and.
But the Western approach, right?
The western approach is like,oh, are you feeling depressed?
Okay, here's a tablet again.
(07:56):
I take antidepressants.
I'm not knocking it.
They've been in my life for fiveyears.
I want to come off them.
But it is hard because your bodygets used to them anyway, that's
a whole side issue.
Um, what I'm saying is we think,oh God, I've got this thing.
It needs to medicate away.
Get rid of it now instead of, ohwow, I'm feeling like a shell of
(08:19):
a human.
What is this telling me?
Like our bodies, our mind, body,and soul is this innate,
complex, incredible.
We don't even understand ourcapacity and our potential.
It's this incredible system thatwill never, ever lead us astray.
Our gut instincts will lead us.
(08:41):
You know, our heart will leadus.
Our body will show us what isout of whack.
I'm reading a book on Aveda atthe minute, and your body will
show.
Show you what is out of work.
So bringing yourself intobalance in mind, body, and soul.
So what we've done in thewestern world is because we
progressed so fast, like sofast, we cannot keep up.
(09:02):
Yesterday I was watching GaryChu say that, you know, our
grandchildren will marry AIrobots.
And like we're laughing aboutit, watching it, but like we
cannot keep up our body, mind,and soul cannot keep up with the
pace of progress.
We are too clever for our owngood.
And what's happened is.
Is the importance has beenplaced on the mind and, and the
(09:23):
one thing that might lie to youabout your body is when you just
focus on the mind.
The mind will keep you safe.
The mind will keep you small,right?
The mind will keep you in a box.
The ego, we get confused betweenthe mind and the ego.
We think it's our mind.
It's actually the ego.
The ego is keeping us in fair.
The ego is keeping us small.
(09:45):
The ego is saying this,depression is you.
These thoughts are.
Real Last night I watched thattherapy program.
Uh, I had it on with my teenageson, with me.
He wasn't watching it, but hekind of caught a bit of it.
He was just playing a game onhis laptop.
But, uh, I like watching thosethings around him so he can
somewhat let some of it sink inand see people talking about
(10:06):
mental health and how it's justnormal and stuff.
And I was just shouting at thetv, not that the therapists
weren't great, they were, someof the stuff they were doing,
I've done in coaching sessionsand I'm not a qualified
psychotherapist.
She was doing embodiment work.
She was doing.
In a child work, reparentingwork, all these things that I'm
trained in.
But anyway, I just kept sayingto them, they're not saying one,
(10:27):
the tv, they're not saying onething to them, which I would
say, which is, you are not yourthoughts.
So fear, false evidence,appearing real.
You know, all these things.
We, we suffer depression.
And really, instead of listeningto it, okay, what is out of
whack in my body?
What is out of whack in my life?
Is this relationship serving me?
(10:48):
Is this job killing me?
My soul is alcohol tox.
You know, really ruining mymental health.
Is the home that I live intoxic?
Like is my sleeping pattern outof whack?
Like is working night shiftscreating my depression is on
healed child of trauma, makingme show up in a depressed way?
(11:10):
You know, all of these questionswe have to investigate.
We have to stand back andwitness our depression.
We have to stand back andwitness our behavior because.
Our soul is always gonna beintact.
Our soul is who we are.
We're having a human experience.
Our human parts are having humanexperiences.
Don't get me wrong, it's fuckingincredibly hard.
(11:31):
I had a terrible dark night ofthe soul when I was still
swimming in the mud, um, at theweekend, and I felt incredibly
lonely and fear false evidence.
Appearing real was telling meyou are alone.
Nobody likes you.
Nobody wants to be with you.
Nobody understands you.
You, you are wrong.
(11:52):
Like you are not enough.
Um, and so I reached out to acouple of family members and
talked, and I got, I handled itgood in some ways, bad in other
ways, but like, I let it movethrough me and I cried a lot and
I, I didn't hide it from mydaughter.
I was like, yeah, I'm strugglingwith depression at the minute.
(12:13):
And then I let it wash throughme.
I kept my dissertation practiceup apart from one day.
I think I was just like, oh.
Oh, God's not happening today.
I've been meditating twice a dayand so keeping up that practice,
my yoga Asana practice hasdropped off a little bit.
I'm on the way to the gym now totry and get some exercise in.
I realize that I need to balancemy mind, body and soul.
(12:34):
I'm not getting enough exercise.
Um, and so it's really realizinglike, why am I feeling like
this?
What am I not committing tofully and wholly?
Where am I projecting my.
Shit onto other people andsaying, it's your fault, it's
your fault, it's your fault.
No, it's my fault.
(12:54):
I'm the one that needs to do thework.
I'm the one that needs toregulate my emotions and get
help to do that.
And that might look like HRT.
It might look like going to thegym.
It might look like letting shitgo.
Like when your partner who isotherwise amazing is a bit
messy, like it might look likegoing, you know what?
(13:14):
My rage that I'm experiencing asa midlife woman is affecting
this family and I need to gethelp.
Up.
You know, it is listening towhat is going on in your body
and realizing fucking hell, thisis actually a lot of this is me.
And get out of the victimconsciousness because sitting
back and going, I'm depressedand nobody cares about me.
(13:36):
Nobody ever rings me.
Nobody ever checks on me.
Where is me?
Where is me?
Where is me?
Do something about it.
Stand back and witness what ishappening and go, what needs to
be fixed here?
So I'm very.
Good at doing that.
I can wall in the ship, but I'mvery proactive and I'll be like,
right, this is what we're doing.
We're resetting tomorrow.
We're doing this, we're doingthat.
(13:58):
Because as a spiritual person,don't believe for a second that
I'm getting everything wrong.
No way.
That's why I do this work,because I'm getting it wrong,
but sorry, I'm getting, I'm notgetting it right all the time.
I'm getting it wrong all thetime.
And so that's the bigmisunderstanding.
I spoke to my, I've said thisseveral times recently in these
episodes, you know, I spoke tomy coach about it.
I feel like a fraud.
(14:18):
I feel like a fraud.
I.
Lose my temper at my kids.
I'm supposed to be a yogateacher.
She was like, are you joking?
Don't you think yoga teachersget divorced?
Don't you think yoga teachershave mental breakdowns?
Don't you think yoga teachershave addiction?
They're the worst people for it.
Not the worst, but you know whatI mean?
That they're the people whostruggle with those things.
That's why they became yogateachers, because they need
this.
They're not naturally Vic.
They're not naturally peoplewho, you know, seekers are
(14:43):
people who need this journey.
They need the path.
So where am I going with this?
So basically realizing all ofthis yesterday, writing all of
this down, like I'm like afucking expert at going through
shit, like hard shit, mentalhealth shit.
But I'm also very fucking good.
I dusting myself off and going,what needs to be healed?
(15:07):
What needs to be healed?
What needs to be healed?
What needs to be healed?
Read a book.
Listen to a podcast.
Learn, learn.
Learn, learn.
I will not get stuck in victimconsciousness, and I have
learned through my.
Yogic path that I could stepback and witness, like witness,
witness, witness, witness.
I've also learnt tools and thisis the work.
The, the free workshop on mywebsite right now, um, is a free
(15:30):
embodiment and new parentingworkshop that I did with Bel
Boron, who's my co-host for myretreat in November.
If you can't come to that, goget Goddess Codes.
It's on my website at the mo atthe moment.
It's 22 pounds.
It's a seven week chakra chakrabalancing course.
Just start to fucking listen inwhat is happening in this
(15:51):
chakra, what is happening inthis chakra?
And if you don't believe inchakras, don't worry about it.
Listen to it anyway, and see howgrounded in practical advice it
is.
Even if you see chakras as ametaphor, right?
A spiritual metaphor.
The root chakra is all aboutsafety and security, finances,
sexual trauma, da da, da.
These are the things you can doto heal in this area.
(16:12):
These are the things you can doright now.
Start to heal this part of you.
Be proactive in your ownhealing.
Be a self healer.
You know, the most prominentpeople on social media, the most
prominent psychologist, theholistic psychologist, her
entire community is called theself healer circle.
Stop.
Let's stop outsourcing all ofour shit to the doctors because
(16:33):
bless them.
Even though I love all thedoctors at my local surgery,
they're general practitionershave been trained in one mode of
medicine, which is sort thisthing in the.
Like stick a sticking plaster onthe thing that you are, that
you're telling them about tomake the symptoms go away.
It's symptom-based.
Only you know the full story.
(16:53):
You've got 11 minutes with themor whatever it is.
If you can get a bloodyappointment, don't wait around
doing things to self-medicateand doing things to hurt
yourself and wallow and.
Victimize yourself even furtheruntil you've got a doctor's
appointment.
Don't expect the doctor to solveall your problems.
And so specifically here, I'mtalking about midlife women
(17:15):
because I feel like as midlifewomen, you know, talking to my
mom about her experience inmidlife, she actually had a.
A surgical menopause'cause shehad a hysterectomy and it was
brutal.
Like she did not have theawareness that we have today.
We have things a lot better.
We have awareness now of peopletalking about these things on
Instagram.
(17:36):
You know, we are really growingin awareness, but I also feel
like this time round, thisgeneration.
It's more intense.
We are, we've got kids that areall on social media and all the
rest of it.
We're living in this post COVIDpost-truth, crazy, nutty world,
and it feels like the world isfricking breaking.
(17:56):
But is it, or is itrecalibrating?
Are you breaking or are yourecalibrating?
Is part of you with the old youdying right now so you can be
reborn as the next, always.
Stronger.
Way wiser, way more radiant wisewoman.
You know, this is the way we'vegot to look at it.
(18:16):
Once I realized that my mentalhealth struggles, I was told
time and ex, the people that Iwork with regularly, I go back
to them.
They've known me for years and Iwould say to them, I'm just
really struggling with mymental.
Health right now.
And then they would say, do youwant me to feed something back
to you?
And I'd be like, yeah, what?
And they would say, you'reactually going through a
spiritual awakening and you arenot.
(18:38):
You're not dying right now.
You're coming alive right now.
Well, part of you is dyingbecause another part of you is
about to up level.
I was like, what?
When I realized.
That I could sit in the shit andgo, this too shall pass.
This too shall pass.
I'm going through a process.
Oh, this is what grading feelslike.
You know the metaphor of thebutterfly liquefying,
(18:58):
metamorphosizing.
Guys, this is not bullshit.
This is for real, and it willchange your experience of mental
health.
It won't suck any less, butthere is hope.
You know, in the Ram Dapo.
Word that I play all the time,and that fucking changed my life
about four years ago.
He says, you know what was,once, you know, a bright glow,
(19:22):
fire, fire, it feels like it'sashes now, but then you spot an
ember and all you've got to dois blow on that ember.
It gets brighter, and thenpretty much you realize that all
we're gonna do for the rest offraternity is sit around the
fire.
And also what you could add tothat is that we're all walking
each other home through thisprocess.
So the people that make itthrough life and learn the soul
(19:43):
lessons that they're her tolearn on this journey, they're
not the ones that don't gothrough shit.
They're going through someserious shit, but they are the
ones that realize, this tooshall pass.
This too shall pass.
And the shit I'm learning now isgonna be really good for me and
it's gonna be gold on the otherside of this because I'm gonna
be so wise.
(20:04):
And I'm going to use it to startthis business, or I'm going to
use it to help my friend, or I'mgoing to use it to like be
really wise when my daughtercomes to me with the same
problem, I've been through it.
I'm wise, I'm a wise woman now.
So we have to realize that thesethings are happening to us, are
actually happening for us.
And it's not a problem to befixed.
(20:24):
It's not like, oh fuck thisrelationship.
We keep having ups and downs andthat means it's wrong.
Let's.
Throw it in the dustbin.
No, that's life.
That's relationships.
They are wrong then they'reright, then they're wrong.
Then they're right.
Because guess what?
We're all healing in a mirrorimage of each other.
You go into relationships toheal your childhood wounds, so
you.
Seek out people that are exactlylike your parents or the exact
(20:47):
opposite, and you're gonna playout that shit with that person.
That's what a relationship is.
Okay?
So you either acknowledge thistogether and heal together and
keep doing the work, or youfucking throw it in the bin and
then go and repeat the samethings with somebody else.
So what I wanted to do today wasend this chapter with a bit of a
feisty one.
(21:08):
Um, and I've made a bolddecision today to publish all
the ones that I've had on herestacking up and, and let people
who need to hear the journeycome along with me on the
journey.
And if you resonate, great.
If you don't, it's okay.
We're not all here for eachother.
Some people are gonna love thiswork.
Some people, it's not gonna makesense to them.
(21:29):
Um, if you do resonate, go to mywebsite, which is currently
Rachel Brady yoga.com.
I might be changing it to RachelBrady because I want people to
understand that my work is aboutmore.
Than just yoga, although yoga isliterally life.
Um, so my work now goingforward, I'm niching it down
because if you're not marketingto somebody, you're marketing to
nobody is the old chestnut.
(21:50):
Right?
Um, and I am specificallyworking with midlife women who
are going through shit.
They're going through thehormones, you know, loss.
They're going through grief,they're going through divorce,
they're going through emptynest, they're going through
career meltdowns.
They're going through.
Everything, everything,everything.
And I want to work with you andhelp you realize that this is
(22:11):
not happening to you, ishappening for you.
You are not in victim mode.
You are not gonna be in victimmode when you work with me.
But that doesn't mean wespiritually bypass.
We sit in the shit together.
We feel seen.
We feel heard.
We use embodiment tools andyoga.
To feel this shit and to healthis shit and then release it
and then think, how can Iexpress this in a way that's
(22:32):
healthy and it's gonna serve thehighest good of all?
So if you enjoyed this episode,please write to me.
Uh, write to me like theepisode, leave a comment.
Uh, email me, look me up onInstagram.
I love you and closing downseason one and I'm gonna be
calling season one experiment.
Season two is all gonna be aboutemergence and I have some
(22:55):
amazing guests coming on aswell, so look out for that as
well.
I love you so much, and Godbless you if you're going
through the shit right now.
And just remember there is lighton the other side.
There's darkness and there'slight.
You can't have one without theother.
I love you.
Bye.
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