June 4, 2025 • 22 mins
Yay! Season 2! Expect the same chatty vibe, but less experimenting, more focussed subjects. This season is all about MIDLIFE WOMEN! This epside is all about how I manage to prioritse Self Care and my OWN wellbeing over all else. It starts with me. If I am well, the house is well, it's like a freaking Disney movie! LOL!
Enjoy! Here are some links that I mentioned:
Supply Life food intolerance test
Hey! I'm Rachel! I am a qualified Holistic Life Coach and Mind Body Practitioner, Embodiment Coach, Yoga 500hrs (plus lots more extra yoga quals). I'm also an award winning content creator and have 20 years' experience in digital. I'm a mum of 3 kids and I live in the Peak District - oh and I have ADHD and I am sober. My passion is helping midlife women turn meltdown into magic!
Offerings:
My luxury retreat for midlife women! (free workshop in the pop up too)
Book a coaching taster spot with me half price
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Rachel Brady's video (00:00):
Conscious but Grounded is a podcast about
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spirituality, high vibe livingin the real world.
I ask questions like, how do weconnect to the magic?
The spirit, the source, theuniverse, but with our feet
firmly planted on the ground.
How do we show up in a consciousway and harness that to make
big, paradigm busting change inthe day to day of our lives?
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I'm Rachel Brady, mum of three,yoga teacher and embodiment
coach.
This is the place where I'll bereflecting and exploring big,
deep questions, all with a pinchof self deprecation, a few
proper lols, and a lot of reallife.
Join me.
Hello, welcome to Conscious ButGrounded.
So Conscious, but Grounded is apodcast all about spirituality
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in real life and kind of likehow can we have a holistic and
spiritual view on like what'shappening right now.
So this is the first episode ofseason two.
I'm so excited to be recordingthis.
I'm in the car.
I was like, oh, for season two,I'm gonna record at my desk and
it's gonna be much more plannedand organized.
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But the reality of my life isI'm like super ridiculously
busy.
Like when people realize all thethings that I'm doing, they're
like, I don't understand.
And I have to say it's an A DHDsuperpower, but I also do kind
of have to stop and chill everyonce in a while.
Okay, so that aside.
I know exactly what I'm gonnatalk about and I know the
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subject so well.
I don't need to sit down andplan it.
That's the thing I will do.
Somewhere I sit down and it'slike maybe more workshopy feel.
But suffice to say that seasontwo is all gonna be for you, the
midlife woman.
Now, when I say midlife, who amI talking about?
What I love about this categoryof midlife is like it's quite
big.
Like if you actually ask trackGBT, it's like late thirties to
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like mid sixties.
But honestly like if you're 30listening to this and you
relate, awesome.
If you're 17 listening to this,awesome, like, let's not get too
hung up on that shit.
So I find myself in midlife andgoing through the shit all the
time and really making sense ofit, and that's been my greatest
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life lesson.
And they always say, you know,teach what you, you know, teach
and pass on your wisdom fromyour struggles.
That's, that's what mostpeople's Dharma is actually.
And dharma is a yogic term forlife purpose.
So in season one, I was verymuch.
Finding my feet.
I was very much like, fuck,let's just do this.
Just do this.
Just to start and had my title.
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I knew it was gonna beconscious, but grounded, and I
just ended up talking about myspirituality, my spiritual
struggles, what I was goingthrough at that moment in time.
So a lot of it is aboutneurodivergence and my youngest
son's autism diagnosis and whatthat meant for me.
There's a lot of that going on,a lot of processing of that.
And then at the end, I realizedwho I really wanted to focus on
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working with in my work, in my.
Retreats in my yoga workshops,in my content, and in my
coaching is midlife women.
It's like, that's what I know.
Like that's the subject I know.
And it's not just midlife women.
It's like peop midlife people,uh, who are at like maximum
output.
Like maybe they've got agingparents, maybe they've got
teenagers or toddlers, you know,the range can be so wide or like
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grown up kids and, and they'relike at the peak of their
career, but also having the, thereal tough hormonal shifts.
Like it's a lot and I think somany of us have become isolated
and unsupported.
And so yeah, in my season onewas all about me just like
talking, channeling, finding myfeet, and I like to pull that
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season experiment.
And now this season, season twois called emergence, and it's
all about the midlife emergenceand it's all about how can I
help you?
Not that I'm a fricking gurulike you, you are the guru,
right?
That's the saying.
But it's.
So true.
Like, you know, it, all of this,you just need help excavating
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and guiding and being supported.
Like that's, it's not aweakness.
Like we need to be supported.
We can't do this thing alone.
Um, and we all have to walk eachother home.
Like that's a spiritual saying,like, we're just walking each
other home and, and it's sotrue.
So what I wanted to talk abouttoday, midlife woman, and please
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don't press stop if you arelike, I'm not a midlife woman,
just keep listening'cause it'llbe really useful advice for.
Anyone really, um, is how I, assomebody who's been on this
journey for a while now, and Ido call myself an expert in
self-care, I am a self-careexpert.
I scaffold my week around myself-care, around my routines.
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My day is scaffolded around myroutines, my spiritual
practices, and there is not aday that goes by where I don't
do at least one thing formyself.
Um, normally four or five thingsfor myself and I scatter
appointments throughout the weekthat are more kind of healing
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appointments and I'm alwaysworking with one person, at
least at the minute.
I'm working with my businessslash uh, spiritual coach,
Karen.
I'm gonna have her on soon.
We had to reschedule a couple ofpotential podcast talks.
She has the most incrediblestory.
Breast cancer survivor.
Incredible woman.
Incredible, incredible.
You're gonna love her.
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So.
Um, I'm working with her at theminute.
She's holding me accountable inmy business.
She knows me very well.
She keeps me focused.
Um, and I'm, I've, you know,yesterday I went for Shiatsu,
uh, on Friday I'm going for somekinesiology.
So shiatsu is a form of likeJapanese kind of energy
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medicine.
It's not really massage.
People call it massage.
It's not really, uh, and I havethat fairly.
Not fairly regularly.
Might be a stretch, but I've hada few sessions and I'm trying to
book in at the minute, everycouple of weeks.
And what she does in thoseshiatsu sessions.
This is a total digression.
If you're new around here, thisis what I do.
But anyway, I really loveShiatsu.
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It's traditional Chinesemedicine, so in Chinese medicine
we have meridians, which arethese energy channels throughout
the body.
And she acts who basicallybalances those energy channels
and she can pick up things thatare happening in my body.
She could pick up, for example,my left lower back degenerative
disc.
She could feel like loads oftension around the so off on
that side.
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And um, yeah, she just kind, I'mlike, this is what's going on in
my life right now.
And she just goes, right, thisis what you need today.
Anyway, I digress that chatsoon.
Um, and then kinesiology.
I've never had it before, butit's, I, I dunno that much about
it actually.
I think it's similar.
Like an energy medicine wherethey feel into your body.
And like what I want through mypractices that I'm getting at
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the minute is I want support.
And I love things that are like,okay, this is going on in your
life.
This is where it's showing up inyour body.
Let's heal.
Let's heal that space.
Let's, let's unblock that energybecause I'm very active in my
business and my life right now,and I don't need that shit
hanging around.
I want it to be lifted.
I want to, I'm doing the work inevery respect.
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Uh, yeah, that was a massivedigression, but suffice to say.
Eight.
It's an example, right, of like,I'm having two like specialist
appointments and I'm workingwith someone this week, three
days a week.
Um, and on a more kind ofday-to-day level, I walk my dogs
every day.
Not just because they need awalk, but because it's really
good for me to get out innature.
So this morning I've jumped inthe car and gone to the gym.
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I'm going to the gym.
Another example, right?
Like, so I'm committing to threedays at the gym a week, even
though it's half an hour'sdrive.
Normally I'll take my laptop anddo some work thereafter.
But today I'm not.
I'm gonna get back and walk thedogs.
And so what I do like at thestart of the week is like I'll
scaffold my week out.
So I've got a work and wellbeingplanner where I first started to
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do this a few years ago, someonegave me a template, a coach
actually, she gave me a templateand I tweaked it and I was like,
I wanna include, she was like,this is a wellbeing planet.
And I was like, well, I alsowanna put my work in there and,
and so I tweaked it and made itmy own and I'll.
I'll pop that template below.
Um, and you don't have to usethe template.
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You can just think, you know inyour diary.
Okay, I put my wellbeing infirst.
This is what surprises people.
You put your wellbeing in first,so you write every day.
I meditate every morning.
Does it matter if you miss one?
I miss one this morning.
No it doesn't because shithappens.
I was up in the night with Stan,he still sleeps with me and he
was sweaty and like pulling allthe covers.
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So I woke up and got annoyedwith him and we both woke up.
So I turned my 6:00 AM.
Arm off, and I ended up gettingup by seven, so I missed my
morning meditation.
I'll do it later.
It's fine.
You have to have flexibility andcompassion around these
wellbeing practices or elsethey're not wellbeing practices,
right?
They're like a punishmentschedule.
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Um, so I got up this morning andsaid I had a really lovely
healthy back breakfast.
I'm following a kind ofAyurvedic principle in my eating
at the minute.
I'm, I'm honoring the fact thatI did a food intolerance test
recently.
I'll post that below as well.
From a company called SupplyLife, a hundred quid, pretty
much, roughly a bit more, uh,for an intolerance test.
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I on holiday.
Did I honor it?
No.
Did I?
Hell, I was eat, you know, thisintolerance test has come up
that I'm intolerant to milk,yeast potatoes and egg whites.
And I got on holiday in Spain.
We've just, we've just had halfterm here and I was like, you
know, we picked up some foodfrom the garage on the way to
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the house, and I was like.
This is gonna be so hard outhere, like, and I was so focused
on not drinking because Spainhas a lot of drinking memories
for me.
I was like, sack this, I'mgonna, and I just like proper,
like, honestly, it was actuallyquite funny.
My mom was like, oh, I thoughtyou weren't eating potatoes and
bread and milk or stuff.
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I was like, yeah, I'm gonna givemyself a break.
Like whilst I still.
A piece of cheese and a handfulof crispers.
And I go, so it is like giveyourself grace, right?
Um, but now we're back.
I'm like, right, refocus.
Like it's easy for me to do thoto, to avoid those foods at home
where I've got a, a well-stockedfridge and cupboards and you
know, all the things I need.
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So that's self-care too, right?
So yeah, you scaffold your weekaround it.
So what are your self-carenon-negotiables.
Okay.
I want you to put three intoyour day.
Not one, okay?
That's not.
Enough, I want you to put threeand they can be drink water.
And so I really think it's worthgetting one of those bottles or
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a Stanley Cup or something likethat.
Treat yourself.
They make a hell of a differenceto me.
Or even if it's just like amason jar.
Fill it up with water, ideallydrink two.
But to be honest, one of thoseis probably an improvement in
where you're at now.
And it could also be one of yourself-care, non, non-negotiables
could be, I eat five fruit andveg, so it doesn't have to be
that hard guys.
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It can be, the third one can beI walk in nature.
Okay, so maybe you, maybe youget off the bus before a certain
couple of stops and walk througha park to work.
Maybe you do 10,000 steps a dayinstead.
Um.
Three self-care,non-negotiables.
Maybe you do a YouTube yogaevery day, even if it's a short
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one.
Like I always find, um, aim forthree.
And then on the days whereyou're like doing it, you're
smashing outta the park.
You'll get three.
On the days where you're reallyfucking struggling, you'll get
one.
And on the days, most of'em,you'll probably end up doing
two.
Right?
It's like how my Vedicmeditation teacher says that we
have to do two 20 minutemeditations a day.
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On the days where I'm smashingit, I do two meditations.
The day.
And actually that's most of thetime.
But like there were also a hellof a lot of times where I just
do one.
And there are also some timeswhere I don't do any the most
important thing.
And this is such a lesson andsuch a thorough, uh, a through
line, sorry.
In my work coffee sip.
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Sorry.
Um, is, it doesn't matter if youfuck up, it doesn't matter if
you slip, like with sobriety,like with everything.
Don't throw the baby with thebath water.
I hate that saying, I always useit, but I hate it.
Don't just give up because you.
I had one shit.
Day two, shit.
Days three, shit.
Days four, shit days.
You know, my, um, one of mypartners or group, uh, fellow
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group members in the meditationgroup that were in, you know,
she had a few days recentlywhere she didn't do anything.
She was just feeling it.
She was just, and it's like, itdoesn't matter.
Get back on.
What actually happens is, likewe were discussing in the group,
you will find if you have aweek, right?
Where, say, say you're doingthis, say you're doing three
self-care negotiables, and you,you're smashing it for like a
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month.
Like all these things, there areperiods when you're like, eh,
and something happens and youdon't do it for a week, you will
then start to notice, oh, I feelreally irritable.
Oh, I feel really like agitated.
Like, oh, I feel, and you'llstart to collect data points
from your crappy week.
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So don't see, oh, I, I had ashitty day, or I didn't do it
for a day, or two days or threedays.
Don't see that as a failure.
It's all data points.
It's all learning.
This is a problem.
Practice is not perfection.
I mean, if you do all of thisperfect first time, like massive
credit to you, but like the vastmajority of people don't.
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Okay.
Um, and that's okay.
Like, we are humans.
We are just humans.
We're just silly, flawed humans.
Okay?
And it really annoys me.
And, but I'm guilty of it too,how we kind of so hard on
ourselves about like, oh, Ijoined a gym and I've only been
a couple of times.
I'm like, I'm like, well, don't,don't give up, like go this
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week.
Um, and it's better to do thatone workout than absolutely
nothing.
Like just keep, keep havingself-compassion.
So let's go back to the, thebasic strategy.
At the core of this episode, Iwant you to scaffold your week
around your wellbeing.
So you get your, I love forGoogle Calendar, by the way.
I use Google Calendar.
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Or you could use your Outlook onyour iPhone or whatever,
whatever, whatever, whatever,whatever works for you.
I've also.
Got a pen and paper planner thatI write stuff down on.
I mean, do I always look at itand refer to it?
No, but the process of writingit down at the start of the week
helps me go like, right, I'vegot like a busy week here, so
yeah, this, this, this.
Okay.
Yeah.
Must remember to meet her onThursday.
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Okay.
Yeah.
Need to move that.
Oh look, I've got to do that.
Okay.
So you schedule in, you've gotyour three self-care
non-negotiables.
You don't even need to writethose down, but you can if you
want.
I, I sometimes do diarize themjust to ping at like 6:00 AM
It'll be like.
Meditate, 6:00 AM and 2:00 PM Itry and do mine and then it'll
be like dog walk at nine 30normally.
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Or if I don't do it at nine 30,I do it in the afternoon.
And then, so for example, I'mgonna give you an example.
One thing that's dropped offmassively for me recently is my
Asana practice, my yogapractice.
But it's like my coach says tome yesterday, you've got so many
practices that you've almost gottoo many.
And so that's true too.
Like it's awesome to be doingall of this self care work, but
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give yourself a break.
Know that there's only so manyhours.
In the day, you are also likelywork, you know, or have a
business.
You're also probably a mom ifyou're listening to this, you
know, I've got three kids all atdifferent ages.
It's a lot.
Like my shiatsu lady yesterdaywas like, yeah, like you've got
a lot on like, I dunno howyou're doing it all.
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And I'm like a DHD, like I just,I like spinning plates I guess.
Um, okay, so we're scaffold inour week.
We've got our self-carenon-negotiables.
I want you to lay out your weekand go.
Right.
I'm at the gym Monday,Wednesday, Friday.
They're my days, right?
Just to give you that example,and then you're like, okay, so
maybe once a month you go for amassage, right?
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Maybe you are doing, you know,yoga with Adrian on YouTube, uh,
every Sunday evening every day,whatever works for you.
Just make sure you're doingregular three self, self-care,
non-negotiables.
That's actually called a spirit,a sader in spirituality.
It's called a sader.
You do.
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Three spiritual practices, andthat can be walking nature, it
can be meditate, it can beanything.
It can be journaling,journaling's, lovely.
It could be pulling an Oraclecard.
So I really strongly suggesthaving a morning and an evening
practice.
So my morning practice normallywould be to meditate, and if I
have time and I've got theenergy, I'll pull a card.
I might move my body a littlebit.
I will always have a kickout atsome point in the day.
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And then I will try to do yoga.
I end up doing it quitesporadically, just throughout
the week here and there.
I go to the gym three times aweek.
Like I say, but that's a newaddition as well.
So then I want you, once you'vegot your self-care practices all
mapped out and you've got acouple of more in depth things,
so oh, I'm gonna go to that yogaworkshop.
Like I'm posting the yogaworkshop on Sunday locally.
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I want you to have some more indepth things thrown in there.
And then I also want you toconsider working with someone.
It doesn't have to be me, butyou can choose me if you like.
I'm offering like a half priceembodiment, coaching taster
session at the minute, andthat's just like as an intro
and.
If you like it, and if we vibeand if we're like getting shit
done, then it's like we can talkabout working together after
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that as well.
Um, also, do you know, do youknow guys that you can actually
get free therapy on the NHS?
So depending on where you live,you can self-refer.
So just Google self-refertherapy.
NHS, it's very, very easy to getit sorted.
I've had it before free.
Um, so I want you to considerwhat is the shit that is showing
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up for you and how can you healit?
It.
And if you're not sure, pleasebook in with me and we can
explore that.
So whether it's chronic pain,whether it's perimenopause, I
want you to just take thismoment right now to come outta
victim consciousness and to getproactive to think how can I
actually improve my life?
Right now?
What is it that keeps coming upis it's in childhood trauma that
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you need EMDR therapy.
Like I say, self refer on theNHS.
Is it sobriety?
Are you like self-medicating?
Join sober mom collective.
That's my sober.
A community that I'm in, I don'trun it.
I'm in it.
Just to be clear on that, um, Iwill post these links below.
This is what I'm referringpeople to at the minute who are
contacting me about their soberjourney.
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Uh, she recovers equally anamazing organization.
They have free meetups.
Um, just start to get that.
It's scaffolding, isn't it?
It's starting to get thatsupport network scaffolded in
and literally you need thosethree self-care non-negotiables.
You need to go to the doctor toget your bloods done.
You need to think, am I on hrt?
T is it the time?
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Uh, do I need my meds adjusting?
Whatever, whatever.
Guys, I'm not anti-Westernmedicine at all.
I'm on HRT.
I still take an antidepressantfrom five years ago that I've
still not managed to taper offfully.
Uh, I don't have any shame inthat.
Like, you know, life's full onand like shit happens and it's
like, how are we best showing upin a responsible way to like put
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our best foot forward, you know?
Um, but what I wanna say is thisis your responsible.
You can't.
Well, I mean you can,'cause Ido.
You can get irritable, you canget angry, you can get annoyed.
But ultimately it's like how areyou showing up in the world?
What can you do to keep yourside of the street clean?
How?
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How can you put up boundarieswith people?
How can you take a little bitoff your to-do list?
You know, if you are a peoplepleaser or if you are
codependent and you keep sayingyes to people all the time and
overgiving, who is it gonnaaffect?
It's gonna affect you.
Who's that gonna affect?
Gonna affect your family.
So it is time to start saying noto things unless they light you
up.
Of course, it's time to get yourass to the gym or out on a
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nature walk or climbing or yoga,whatever it is, time to start
getting other connections withwomen in a similar position.
It's time to start getting acoach.
It's time to start referringfor, you know, psychotherapy.
It's just time, it's, it is timeto stop the excuses.
It's time to work on yourhealth, your vitality.
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Your spirituality is time tostart getting connected with the
awe of life.
Like booking a trip, go on aretreat.
Hell, I've got one coming up inNovember.
It's called the Embodied Queen.
Um, we are working onreparenting, which is in a
child, work with my good friendand co-hosts Veba Tran.
We actually have a free workshopat my website right now.
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If you go to rachel brady.comyes, I've changed my URL, but
you'll still find my website ifyou type in Rachel Brady
yoga.com and.
A popup will come up, uh, forthe free embodiment and
reparenting workshop.
There's a little introductorychat and then about 15 minutes
in, we have the practice.
Go and do it.
It's free.
Guys, that is like a freetherapy session by two
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facilitators that really knowwhat they're doing and one of
them is me.
Okay.
Blowing my own trumpet.
So I'm gonna leave it therebecause I'm approaching
Sheffield, which is where my gymis.
Um, yeah.
One thing I want you to takeaway from this is just to sit
down for five minutes now andscaffold.
Start scaffolding in what is myself care?
Where do I need support?
And if you do wanna book in withme in my Instagram linking bio,
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uh, there is a slot in there.
I've not actually put it on mywebsite yet.
There's a little button in therewhere you can just directly book
in for one hour coaching sessionwith me.
It's an embodiment coachingsession.
It's 55 pounds for yourintroductory one.
Uh, yeah, just go for it.
You've got nothing to lose andeverything to gain.
And that is all I love you.
Please rate and review thispodcast.
It really helps me.
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Uh.
Get picked up by the algorithmand yeah, just reach out
anytime.
Hello at Rachel Brady Yoga.
All my Instagram is now atRachel Bridget Brady.
I changed that too just to myname.
'cause I think when it was yogabefore people thought yoga was
all I was doing.
Yoga runs through everythingthat I do, guys.
Everything that I do, I'm ayogi, but um, there is more to
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my work than the yogic practiceitself, and that's why I wanted
to reflect with my little namechange there.
So I hope you'll be stayingtuned for more to come on.
This season two, which is allabout midlife emergence.
I'm gonna cover every singlepart of midlife, all the
struggles, all the shit, and I'mgonna have some amazing midlife
guests on that have reallyovercome some serious shit in
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their lives to turn, melt downinto magic.
That's all.
Love you.
Bye.
Conscious but Grounded is a podcast about
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spirituality, high vibe livingin the real world.
I ask questions like, how do weconnect to the magic?
The spirit, the source, theuniverse, but with our feet
firmly planted on the ground.
How do we show up in a consciousway and harness that to make
big, paradigm busting change inthe day to day of our lives?
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I'm Rachel Brady, mum of three,yoga teacher and embodiment
coach.
This is the place where I'll bereflecting and exploring big,
deep questions, all with a pinchof self deprecation, a few
proper lols, and a lot of reallife.
Join me.
Hello, welcome to Conscious ButGrounded.
So Conscious, but Grounded is apodcast all about spirituality
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in real life and kind of likehow can we have a holistic and
spiritual view on like what'shappening right now.
So this is the first episode ofseason two.
I'm so excited to be recordingthis.
I'm in the car.
I was like, oh, for season two,I'm gonna record at my desk and
it's gonna be much more plannedand organized.
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But the reality of my life isI'm like super ridiculously
busy.
Like when people realize all thethings that I'm doing, they're
like, I don't understand.
And I have to say it's an A DHDsuperpower, but I also do kind
of have to stop and chill everyonce in a while.
Okay, so that aside.
I know exactly what I'm gonnatalk about and I know the
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subject so well.
I don't need to sit down andplan it.
That's the thing I will do.
Somewhere I sit down and it'slike maybe more workshopy feel.
But suffice to say that seasontwo is all gonna be for you, the
midlife woman.
Now, when I say midlife, who amI talking about?
What I love about this categoryof midlife is like it's quite
big.
Like if you actually ask trackGBT, it's like late thirties to
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like mid sixties.
But honestly like if you're 30listening to this and you
relate, awesome.
If you're 17 listening to this,awesome, like, let's not get too
hung up on that shit.
So I find myself in midlife andgoing through the shit all the
time and really making sense ofit, and that's been my greatest
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life lesson.
And they always say, you know,teach what you, you know, teach
and pass on your wisdom fromyour struggles.
That's, that's what mostpeople's Dharma is actually.
And dharma is a yogic term forlife purpose.
So in season one, I was verymuch.
Finding my feet.
I was very much like, fuck,let's just do this.
Just do this.
Just to start and had my title.
(02:32):
I knew it was gonna beconscious, but grounded, and I
just ended up talking about myspirituality, my spiritual
struggles, what I was goingthrough at that moment in time.
So a lot of it is aboutneurodivergence and my youngest
son's autism diagnosis and whatthat meant for me.
There's a lot of that going on,a lot of processing of that.
And then at the end, I realizedwho I really wanted to focus on
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working with in my work, in my.
Retreats in my yoga workshops,in my content, and in my
coaching is midlife women.
It's like, that's what I know.
Like that's the subject I know.
And it's not just midlife women.
It's like peop midlife people,uh, who are at like maximum
output.
Like maybe they've got agingparents, maybe they've got
teenagers or toddlers, you know,the range can be so wide or like
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grown up kids and, and they'relike at the peak of their
career, but also having the, thereal tough hormonal shifts.
Like it's a lot and I think somany of us have become isolated
and unsupported.
And so yeah, in my season onewas all about me just like
talking, channeling, finding myfeet, and I like to pull that
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season experiment.
And now this season, season twois called emergence, and it's
all about the midlife emergenceand it's all about how can I
help you?
Not that I'm a fricking gurulike you, you are the guru,
right?
That's the saying.
But it's.
So true.
Like, you know, it, all of this,you just need help excavating
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and guiding and being supported.
Like that's, it's not aweakness.
Like we need to be supported.
We can't do this thing alone.
Um, and we all have to walk eachother home.
Like that's a spiritual saying,like, we're just walking each
other home and, and it's sotrue.
So what I wanted to talk abouttoday, midlife woman, and please
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don't press stop if you arelike, I'm not a midlife woman,
just keep listening'cause it'llbe really useful advice for.
Anyone really, um, is how I, assomebody who's been on this
journey for a while now, and Ido call myself an expert in
self-care, I am a self-careexpert.
I scaffold my week around myself-care, around my routines.
(04:43):
My day is scaffolded around myroutines, my spiritual
practices, and there is not aday that goes by where I don't
do at least one thing formyself.
Um, normally four or five thingsfor myself and I scatter
appointments throughout the weekthat are more kind of healing
(05:04):
appointments and I'm alwaysworking with one person, at
least at the minute.
I'm working with my businessslash uh, spiritual coach,
Karen.
I'm gonna have her on soon.
We had to reschedule a couple ofpotential podcast talks.
She has the most incrediblestory.
Breast cancer survivor.
Incredible woman.
Incredible, incredible.
You're gonna love her.
(05:24):
So.
Um, I'm working with her at theminute.
She's holding me accountable inmy business.
She knows me very well.
She keeps me focused.
Um, and I'm, I've, you know,yesterday I went for Shiatsu,
uh, on Friday I'm going for somekinesiology.
So shiatsu is a form of likeJapanese kind of energy
(05:44):
medicine.
It's not really massage.
People call it massage.
It's not really, uh, and I havethat fairly.
Not fairly regularly.
Might be a stretch, but I've hada few sessions and I'm trying to
book in at the minute, everycouple of weeks.
And what she does in thoseshiatsu sessions.
This is a total digression.
If you're new around here, thisis what I do.
But anyway, I really loveShiatsu.
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It's traditional Chinesemedicine, so in Chinese medicine
we have meridians, which arethese energy channels throughout
the body.
And she acts who basicallybalances those energy channels
and she can pick up things thatare happening in my body.
She could pick up, for example,my left lower back degenerative
disc.
She could feel like loads oftension around the so off on
that side.
(06:25):
And um, yeah, she just kind, I'mlike, this is what's going on in
my life right now.
And she just goes, right, thisis what you need today.
Anyway, I digress that chatsoon.
Um, and then kinesiology.
I've never had it before, butit's, I, I dunno that much about
it actually.
I think it's similar.
Like an energy medicine wherethey feel into your body.
And like what I want through mypractices that I'm getting at
(06:47):
the minute is I want support.
And I love things that are like,okay, this is going on in your
life.
This is where it's showing up inyour body.
Let's heal.
Let's heal that space.
Let's, let's unblock that energybecause I'm very active in my
business and my life right now,and I don't need that shit
hanging around.
I want it to be lifted.
I want to, I'm doing the work inevery respect.
(07:08):
Uh, yeah, that was a massivedigression, but suffice to say.
Eight.
It's an example, right, of like,I'm having two like specialist
appointments and I'm workingwith someone this week, three
days a week.
Um, and on a more kind ofday-to-day level, I walk my dogs
every day.
Not just because they need awalk, but because it's really
good for me to get out innature.
So this morning I've jumped inthe car and gone to the gym.
(07:31):
I'm going to the gym.
Another example, right?
Like, so I'm committing to threedays at the gym a week, even
though it's half an hour'sdrive.
Normally I'll take my laptop anddo some work thereafter.
But today I'm not.
I'm gonna get back and walk thedogs.
And so what I do like at thestart of the week is like I'll
scaffold my week out.
So I've got a work and wellbeingplanner where I first started to
(07:53):
do this a few years ago, someonegave me a template, a coach
actually, she gave me a templateand I tweaked it and I was like,
I wanna include, she was like,this is a wellbeing planet.
And I was like, well, I alsowanna put my work in there and,
and so I tweaked it and made itmy own and I'll.
I'll pop that template below.
Um, and you don't have to usethe template.
(08:15):
You can just think, you know inyour diary.
Okay, I put my wellbeing infirst.
This is what surprises people.
You put your wellbeing in first,so you write every day.
I meditate every morning.
Does it matter if you miss one?
I miss one this morning.
No it doesn't because shithappens.
I was up in the night with Stan,he still sleeps with me and he
was sweaty and like pulling allthe covers.
(08:35):
So I woke up and got annoyedwith him and we both woke up.
So I turned my 6:00 AM.
Arm off, and I ended up gettingup by seven, so I missed my
morning meditation.
I'll do it later.
It's fine.
You have to have flexibility andcompassion around these
wellbeing practices or elsethey're not wellbeing practices,
right?
They're like a punishmentschedule.
(08:56):
Um, so I got up this morning andsaid I had a really lovely
healthy back breakfast.
I'm following a kind ofAyurvedic principle in my eating
at the minute.
I'm, I'm honoring the fact thatI did a food intolerance test
recently.
I'll post that below as well.
From a company called SupplyLife, a hundred quid, pretty
much, roughly a bit more, uh,for an intolerance test.
(09:18):
I on holiday.
Did I honor it?
No.
Did I?
Hell, I was eat, you know, thisintolerance test has come up
that I'm intolerant to milk,yeast potatoes and egg whites.
And I got on holiday in Spain.
We've just, we've just had halfterm here and I was like, you
know, we picked up some foodfrom the garage on the way to
(09:39):
the house, and I was like.
This is gonna be so hard outhere, like, and I was so focused
on not drinking because Spainhas a lot of drinking memories
for me.
I was like, sack this, I'mgonna, and I just like proper,
like, honestly, it was actuallyquite funny.
My mom was like, oh, I thoughtyou weren't eating potatoes and
bread and milk or stuff.
(10:00):
I was like, yeah, I'm gonna givemyself a break.
Like whilst I still.
A piece of cheese and a handfulof crispers.
And I go, so it is like giveyourself grace, right?
Um, but now we're back.
I'm like, right, refocus.
Like it's easy for me to do thoto, to avoid those foods at home
where I've got a, a well-stockedfridge and cupboards and you
know, all the things I need.
(10:20):
So that's self-care too, right?
So yeah, you scaffold your weekaround it.
So what are your self-carenon-negotiables.
Okay.
I want you to put three intoyour day.
Not one, okay?
That's not.
Enough, I want you to put threeand they can be drink water.
And so I really think it's worthgetting one of those bottles or
(10:41):
a Stanley Cup or something likethat.
Treat yourself.
They make a hell of a differenceto me.
Or even if it's just like amason jar.
Fill it up with water, ideallydrink two.
But to be honest, one of thoseis probably an improvement in
where you're at now.
And it could also be one of yourself-care, non, non-negotiables
could be, I eat five fruit andveg, so it doesn't have to be
that hard guys.
(11:02):
It can be, the third one can beI walk in nature.
Okay, so maybe you, maybe youget off the bus before a certain
couple of stops and walk througha park to work.
Maybe you do 10,000 steps a dayinstead.
Um.
Three self-care,non-negotiables.
Maybe you do a YouTube yogaevery day, even if it's a short
(11:22):
one.
Like I always find, um, aim forthree.
And then on the days whereyou're like doing it, you're
smashing outta the park.
You'll get three.
On the days where you're reallyfucking struggling, you'll get
one.
And on the days, most of'em,you'll probably end up doing
two.
Right?
It's like how my Vedicmeditation teacher says that we
have to do two 20 minutemeditations a day.
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On the days where I'm smashingit, I do two meditations.
The day.
And actually that's most of thetime.
But like there were also a hellof a lot of times where I just
do one.
And there are also some timeswhere I don't do any the most
important thing.
And this is such a lesson andsuch a thorough, uh, a through
line, sorry.
In my work coffee sip.
(12:05):
Sorry.
Um, is, it doesn't matter if youfuck up, it doesn't matter if
you slip, like with sobriety,like with everything.
Don't throw the baby with thebath water.
I hate that saying, I always useit, but I hate it.
Don't just give up because you.
I had one shit.
Day two, shit.
Days three, shit.
Days four, shit days.
You know, my, um, one of mypartners or group, uh, fellow
(12:29):
group members in the meditationgroup that were in, you know,
she had a few days recentlywhere she didn't do anything.
She was just feeling it.
She was just, and it's like, itdoesn't matter.
Get back on.
What actually happens is, likewe were discussing in the group,
you will find if you have aweek, right?
Where, say, say you're doingthis, say you're doing three
self-care negotiables, and you,you're smashing it for like a
(12:50):
month.
Like all these things, there areperiods when you're like, eh,
and something happens and youdon't do it for a week, you will
then start to notice, oh, I feelreally irritable.
Oh, I feel really like agitated.
Like, oh, I feel, and you'llstart to collect data points
from your crappy week.
(13:10):
So don't see, oh, I, I had ashitty day, or I didn't do it
for a day, or two days or threedays.
Don't see that as a failure.
It's all data points.
It's all learning.
This is a problem.
Practice is not perfection.
I mean, if you do all of thisperfect first time, like massive
credit to you, but like the vastmajority of people don't.
(13:33):
Okay.
Um, and that's okay.
Like, we are humans.
We are just humans.
We're just silly, flawed humans.
Okay?
And it really annoys me.
And, but I'm guilty of it too,how we kind of so hard on
ourselves about like, oh, Ijoined a gym and I've only been
a couple of times.
I'm like, I'm like, well, don't,don't give up, like go this
(13:54):
week.
Um, and it's better to do thatone workout than absolutely
nothing.
Like just keep, keep havingself-compassion.
So let's go back to the, thebasic strategy.
At the core of this episode, Iwant you to scaffold your week
around your wellbeing.
So you get your, I love forGoogle Calendar, by the way.
I use Google Calendar.
(14:15):
Or you could use your Outlook onyour iPhone or whatever,
whatever, whatever, whatever,whatever works for you.
I've also.
Got a pen and paper planner thatI write stuff down on.
I mean, do I always look at itand refer to it?
No, but the process of writingit down at the start of the week
helps me go like, right, I'vegot like a busy week here, so
yeah, this, this, this.
Okay.
Yeah.
Must remember to meet her onThursday.
(14:35):
Okay.
Yeah.
Need to move that.
Oh look, I've got to do that.
Okay.
So you schedule in, you've gotyour three self-care
non-negotiables.
You don't even need to writethose down, but you can if you
want.
I, I sometimes do diarize themjust to ping at like 6:00 AM
It'll be like.
Meditate, 6:00 AM and 2:00 PM Itry and do mine and then it'll
be like dog walk at nine 30normally.
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Or if I don't do it at nine 30,I do it in the afternoon.
And then, so for example, I'mgonna give you an example.
One thing that's dropped offmassively for me recently is my
Asana practice, my yogapractice.
But it's like my coach says tome yesterday, you've got so many
practices that you've almost gottoo many.
And so that's true too.
Like it's awesome to be doingall of this self care work, but
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give yourself a break.
Know that there's only so manyhours.
In the day, you are also likelywork, you know, or have a
business.
You're also probably a mom ifyou're listening to this, you
know, I've got three kids all atdifferent ages.
It's a lot.
Like my shiatsu lady yesterdaywas like, yeah, like you've got
a lot on like, I dunno howyou're doing it all.
(15:38):
And I'm like a DHD, like I just,I like spinning plates I guess.
Um, okay, so we're scaffold inour week.
We've got our self-carenon-negotiables.
I want you to lay out your weekand go.
Right.
I'm at the gym Monday,Wednesday, Friday.
They're my days, right?
Just to give you that example,and then you're like, okay, so
maybe once a month you go for amassage, right?
(16:00):
Maybe you are doing, you know,yoga with Adrian on YouTube, uh,
every Sunday evening every day,whatever works for you.
Just make sure you're doingregular three self, self-care,
non-negotiables.
That's actually called a spirit,a sader in spirituality.
It's called a sader.
You do.
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Three spiritual practices, andthat can be walking nature, it
can be meditate, it can beanything.
It can be journaling,journaling's, lovely.
It could be pulling an Oraclecard.
So I really strongly suggesthaving a morning and an evening
practice.
So my morning practice normallywould be to meditate, and if I
have time and I've got theenergy, I'll pull a card.
I might move my body a littlebit.
I will always have a kickout atsome point in the day.
(16:44):
And then I will try to do yoga.
I end up doing it quitesporadically, just throughout
the week here and there.
I go to the gym three times aweek.
Like I say, but that's a newaddition as well.
So then I want you, once you'vegot your self-care practices all
mapped out and you've got acouple of more in depth things,
so oh, I'm gonna go to that yogaworkshop.
Like I'm posting the yogaworkshop on Sunday locally.
(17:05):
I want you to have some more indepth things thrown in there.
And then I also want you toconsider working with someone.
It doesn't have to be me, butyou can choose me if you like.
I'm offering like a half priceembodiment, coaching taster
session at the minute, andthat's just like as an intro
and.
If you like it, and if we vibeand if we're like getting shit
done, then it's like we can talkabout working together after
(17:27):
that as well.
Um, also, do you know, do youknow guys that you can actually
get free therapy on the NHS?
So depending on where you live,you can self-refer.
So just Google self-refertherapy.
NHS, it's very, very easy to getit sorted.
I've had it before free.
Um, so I want you to considerwhat is the shit that is showing
(17:49):
up for you and how can you healit?
It.
And if you're not sure, pleasebook in with me and we can
explore that.
So whether it's chronic pain,whether it's perimenopause, I
want you to just take thismoment right now to come outta
victim consciousness and to getproactive to think how can I
actually improve my life?
Right now?
What is it that keeps coming upis it's in childhood trauma that
(18:10):
you need EMDR therapy.
Like I say, self refer on theNHS.
Is it sobriety?
Are you like self-medicating?
Join sober mom collective.
That's my sober.
A community that I'm in, I don'trun it.
I'm in it.
Just to be clear on that, um, Iwill post these links below.
This is what I'm referringpeople to at the minute who are
contacting me about their soberjourney.
(18:31):
Uh, she recovers equally anamazing organization.
They have free meetups.
Um, just start to get that.
It's scaffolding, isn't it?
It's starting to get thatsupport network scaffolded in
and literally you need thosethree self-care non-negotiables.
You need to go to the doctor toget your bloods done.
You need to think, am I on hrt?
T is it the time?
(18:52):
Uh, do I need my meds adjusting?
Whatever, whatever.
Guys, I'm not anti-Westernmedicine at all.
I'm on HRT.
I still take an antidepressantfrom five years ago that I've
still not managed to taper offfully.
Uh, I don't have any shame inthat.
Like, you know, life's full onand like shit happens and it's
like, how are we best showing upin a responsible way to like put
(19:15):
our best foot forward, you know?
Um, but what I wanna say is thisis your responsible.
You can't.
Well, I mean you can,'cause Ido.
You can get irritable, you canget angry, you can get annoyed.
But ultimately it's like how areyou showing up in the world?
What can you do to keep yourside of the street clean?
How?
(19:36):
How can you put up boundarieswith people?
How can you take a little bitoff your to-do list?
You know, if you are a peoplepleaser or if you are
codependent and you keep sayingyes to people all the time and
overgiving, who is it gonnaaffect?
It's gonna affect you.
Who's that gonna affect?
Gonna affect your family.
So it is time to start saying noto things unless they light you
up.
Of course, it's time to get yourass to the gym or out on a
(20:00):
nature walk or climbing or yoga,whatever it is, time to start
getting other connections withwomen in a similar position.
It's time to start getting acoach.
It's time to start referringfor, you know, psychotherapy.
It's just time, it's, it is timeto stop the excuses.
It's time to work on yourhealth, your vitality.
(20:21):
Your spirituality is time tostart getting connected with the
awe of life.
Like booking a trip, go on aretreat.
Hell, I've got one coming up inNovember.
It's called the Embodied Queen.
Um, we are working onreparenting, which is in a
child, work with my good friendand co-hosts Veba Tran.
We actually have a free workshopat my website right now.
(20:43):
If you go to rachel brady.comyes, I've changed my URL, but
you'll still find my website ifyou type in Rachel Brady
yoga.com and.
A popup will come up, uh, forthe free embodiment and
reparenting workshop.
There's a little introductorychat and then about 15 minutes
in, we have the practice.
Go and do it.
It's free.
Guys, that is like a freetherapy session by two
(21:06):
facilitators that really knowwhat they're doing and one of
them is me.
Okay.
Blowing my own trumpet.
So I'm gonna leave it therebecause I'm approaching
Sheffield, which is where my gymis.
Um, yeah.
One thing I want you to takeaway from this is just to sit
down for five minutes now andscaffold.
Start scaffolding in what is myself care?
Where do I need support?
And if you do wanna book in withme in my Instagram linking bio,
(21:29):
uh, there is a slot in there.
I've not actually put it on mywebsite yet.
There's a little button in therewhere you can just directly book
in for one hour coaching sessionwith me.
It's an embodiment coachingsession.
It's 55 pounds for yourintroductory one.
Uh, yeah, just go for it.
You've got nothing to lose andeverything to gain.
And that is all I love you.
Please rate and review thispodcast.
It really helps me.
(21:50):
Uh.
Get picked up by the algorithmand yeah, just reach out
anytime.
Hello at Rachel Brady Yoga.
All my Instagram is now atRachel Bridget Brady.
I changed that too just to myname.
'cause I think when it was yogabefore people thought yoga was
all I was doing.
Yoga runs through everythingthat I do, guys.
Everything that I do, I'm ayogi, but um, there is more to
(22:12):
my work than the yogic practiceitself, and that's why I wanted
to reflect with my little namechange there.
So I hope you'll be stayingtuned for more to come on.
This season two, which is allabout midlife emergence.
I'm gonna cover every singlepart of midlife, all the
struggles, all the shit, and I'mgonna have some amazing midlife
guests on that have reallyovercome some serious shit in
(22:33):
their lives to turn, melt downinto magic.
That's all.
Love you.
Bye.
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