In this episode, we’re exploring the four roles we often adopt in dysfunctional families — the Hero, the Scapegoat (Rebel), the Lost Child (Invisible One), and the Mascot (Jester) — and how these survival strategies shape who we become as adults.
You’ll learn how each role affects your:
• Romantic relationships
• Career choices
• Relationship with money
• Sense of self-worth
I also share how to recognize your own role, why it’s not your fault, and what healing can look like — whether that means softening the role, outgrowing it, or learning to reclaim the parts of yourself that were never allowed to fully exist.
Even if you don’t think you grew up in a dysfunctional family, you might be surprised by how much of this resonates.
This episode is for anyone ready to understand themselves better and take the first step toward deeper healing and emotional freedom.
Here’s a list of the books I promised in this episode:
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Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
by Lindsay C. Gibson -
It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle
by Mark Wolynn -
Surviving the Toxic Family: Taking Yourself Out of the Equation and Taking Your Life Back from Your Dysfunctional Family
by Marina Williams -
Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma
by Dr. Mariel Buqué -
Reparenting Your Wounded Inner Child: Explore Childhood and Intergenerational Trauma to Break Destructive Patterns, Build Emotional Strength, and Achieve Personal Growth with 7 Empowering Steps
by Leigh W. Carr
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