Feeling tired no matter how much you sleep? Running on caffeine, cortisol, and constant pressure to "do more"?
This episode is your wake-up call — not because you're broken, but because your nervous system has been performing worth like a full-time job.
In this powerful deep-dive, Lauren unpacks the Burnout Pillar and its three survival-based archetypes:
- 🔥 The Exhausted Visionary (a.k.a. the Sleepless Entrepreneur)
- 🔥 The Perfectionist High Achiever
- 🔥 The Overcommitted Achiever
We’re breaking down:
- How your nervous system mistakes productivity for safety
- Why your supplements aren’t working (hint: your body doesn’t trust rest)
- The real root cause of your fatigue, inflammation, hormone chaos, and emotional shutdown
- The identity loops and core wounds keeping you in cycles of burnout
- How to shift from performing healing to actually embodying it
This episode explores fight, flight, freeze, and fawn survival patterns in high-functioning women — and how they’re quietly destroying your health while the world claps for your exhaustion.
You’ll also meet:
💥 Caitlyn, a real-life client case study who went from hustling through migraines and missed moments to finally resting without guilt
💥 The hidden Wellness Limiters & Levers keeping you stuck — and the nervous system rewiring tools that set you free
💥 The 4-Part EMBODIED Framework to help you shift from stress-driven to soul-led
This episode is for you if:
- You wake up tired and still push through
- You feel guilty when you rest and anxious when you don’t
- You’ve tried all the healing protocols… but nothing sticks
- You’re ready to stop chasing health and start receiving it
💡 What You’ll Learn:
- Why exhaustion isn’t a mindset problem — it’s a nervous system adaptation
- How core emotional wounds drive gut issues, hormone imbalances, and burnout
- Why healing won’t land if your identity is still wired for survival
- How to interrupt the trauma patterns that masquerade as discipline and ambition
- Real tools to start unhooking your worth from productivity
Next week: We explore The Self-Sacrificer Pillar — for the woman who disappears into everyone else’s needs but secretly longs to come home to herself.
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Let's start with the truth.
Your body already knows you'renot exhausted because you're
broken.
You're exhausted because you'vebeen performing worthiness like
a full-time job.
Somewhere along the line, youwere taught productivity equals
value.
Hustle equals safety, andperfection equals love.
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And now.
Even when your body whispers,please rest.
Your brain fires back with aprotein shake and a to-do list.
You might call it ambition.
You might think you're justwired this way, but this isn't
your personality, it's yourphysiology.
This episode is for the womanwho wakes up tired and still
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powers through crashesmid-afternoon, but scrolls
instead of rest.
It feels guilty when she slowsdown and anxious when she
doesn't.
Because you've been living in abody that thinks slowing down is
dangerous.
You've normalized exhaustionbecause hyper vigilance got you
here.
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And here's the hardest part.
The world claps for yourburnout.
They call you motivated,reliable, successful, but you're
not thriving.
You're bracing.
So if you've ever said, I justneed to get through this week,
or I'll rest after this launch,I want you to pause because
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today we're going beneath thechecklist.
We're talking about the burnoutpillar.
The archetype over theoverworked and under rested.
The woman who's exhausted,disconnected, and still trying
harder.
And I'm here to show you it'snot about effort.
It's about nervous system thatnever learned how to exhale.
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Now let's get into it.
Welcome to Embody this, the NOBS Healing podcast for women who
are done playing small.
I'm Lauren Michelle Jewel, asingle sober business owning
badass who has been humbled ashell by healing.
But I'm not just someone who'slived it.
I've studied it, coached it, andhelped women walk through it for
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over seven years in mind, bodyhealth, gut brain science, and
nervous system healing.
I've worked with women who havetried everything, therapy,
diets, supplements, self-helpwork, but still feel
disconnected from their bodies,their health, and their truth.
Because here's the thing,healing isn't a trend.
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It's not aesthetic.
It's not an identity.
Healing is embodied, and let mebe real with you, it's hard as
fuck and it's also rewarding asfuck.
I know because I've lived it.
And along the way I realizedsomething.
Modern healing methods arefailing us.
Everything is compartmentalized.
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Go to therapy.
They say, take the supplements,do the inner work, but no one
teaches you how to actuallyintegrate it.
All this show is for you ifyou're ready to rethink healing.
It's not about being perfect,being a wellness influencer or
having a PhD in biohacking.
It's about undoing, unlearning,and finally coming home to
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yourself.
Quick disclaimer, this podcastis for educational purposes
only.
It's here to expand your mind,challenge old narratives, and
empower you with knowledge.
It's not a replacement formedical advice.
Always consult a professionalwhen making health decisions.
If this episode hits home,follow the share, rate it,
review it, share it with someonewho needs to hear it, because
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you never know whose life youmight change.
Now let's fucking go.
So let's zoom out before we zoomin.
Across every single archetype inthis series, there's one formula
I need you to hear, not withjust your mind, but with your
body.
This is the formula that equalsyour current state of health.
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First, we're gonna add thestress of your current life
circumstances, which is the typeof stress that your system is
least adapted to deal with.
This may be your job, animbalanced microbiome, being a
new mom, financial insecurityover consuming processed foods,
lack of sleep, lack of purpose,lack of joy, being in a toxic
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relationship, too much bluelight over under exercising, and
plus more.
Then we add that into your.
Core emotional wound, which istrauma, and these are the
dysfunctions that you strugglemost to compensate for.
So your core wound is where yourbiggest triggers come from, your
biggest stress load and yourbiggest toxicity.
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Your core wound is a deep seatedemotional injury that is often
formed in childhood, but it canalso be passed down through
epigenetics.
So a variety of factors such asabandonment, neglect, or trauma
can cause these core wounds.
They can also be caused by moresubtle experiences, such as
feeling unloved or unaccepted byone's parents or caregivers.
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And they shape our sense of selfand our overall look on life in
reality.
They shape our nervous system.
And when you understand this,you can understand that core
wounds lead to emotional andphysical and behavioral
spiritual problems that lead toour body into heavy amounts of
stress and dysregulation.
So our system starts to getbogged down as we live through
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the inauthentic expressions ofour being.
Some examples of these corewounds would be, I'm not enough,
I am defective.
I don't measure up.
I am helpless, powerless.
I am undesirable.
I am unloved.
I'm unworthy.
I'm a disappointment In eachcore wound, you experience
connects to our meridian nervoussystem and organ systems.
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As our core wounds stayunprocessed, this fear of our
true, authentic emotionalexpression creates nerve
impulses that keep us in nervoussystem dysregulation.
Essentially, it's a loss ofself, and when we don't feel
safe to be who we truly are, wedon't feel safe to express our
true emotions.
Those two together, your corewound plus your current state of
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health equals your healthsymptoms or your state of
disease.
When you can view your health.
This way, you can understandthat health is about
adaptability.
And when our toxic stress loadbecomes too much, the body
starts to compensate.
This is a disconnection from ourmost authentic self.
It's a suppression, it's a bigpocket of density and energy,
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and the compensation is yoursymptoms or disease.
So your core wound is your earlytrauma and emotional blueprint.
Add that in with your currentchronic stress, your nervous
system, and your healthpatterns.
This all equals your currentsymptoms and identity loop
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translation.
Well, your symptoms aren'trandom.
They're patterned, they'rerehearsed, they're intelligent
responses to a system that's hadto survive, not thrive.
And while your symptoms might bebloating, fatigue, anxiety, or
burnout, the root underneaththis is the same.
It is chronic activation of theHBA access sympathetic
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dominance.
A biology addicted to provingher safety through performance.
This is the burnout pillar, theoverworked and under sted woman
whose nervous system equatesproductivity with permission to
exist.
I think that we can all relateto this, and here's the kicker,
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even within that umbrella, notall burnout looks the same.
Okay, so there are threesurvival expressions I see again
and again.
Same for wound, differentflavor, different biology, and
different emotionalundercurrents.
So let's meet'em.
The first one is the exhaustedvisionary, also known as a
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sleepless entrepreneur.
She's the woman who genuinelyloves to work.
She's passionate, creative,vision driven, but also she's
wired and tired.
She's waking up at 7:00 AMgroggy and already mentally on
call.
She's eating breakfast at noon,if at all.
Her best ideas hit at 11:00 PMwhen her body's begging for
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sleep, and she's built anidentity around being on, and
the thought of slowing downfeels like falling behind.
Listen, her biology, it's fried.
Cortisol dominance, which equalsmelatonin crash.
Circadian rhythm is hijackedcaffeine, sugar, blood sugar
rollercoaster.
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There's gut inflammation thatflares during rest days, but she
doesn't need another planner orsleep supplement.
She needs to rebuild, trust andstillness to grieve the version
of herself that only felt safewhen she was in motion.
Then there's the perfectionist,high achiever.
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This one, you'll spot her by herjaw.
It's clenched, braced, holdingit all together.
Usually the jaw is tight and soare the shoulders.
She complains about her neckbeing tight all the time.
She has to have her shittogether on paper Color coded
calendar, flawless execution.
A three month supply ofmagnesium.
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But beneath the polish istension, irritability, and a gut
that hasn't relaxed since 2006.
This isn't just a type A energy,it's a nervous system locked in
functional freeze where herbrain is speeding, but her body
is shut down.
PMS is like clockwork rage,hormonal crashes after launches,
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digestive shutdown despite theclean eating perfection as an.
Aesthetic for shame.
In reality, perfection is justan aesthetic for shame.
Underneath it all is a buriedscream, saying nothing I do is
enough.
This isn't about ambition.
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It's about a body that was neverallowed to soften, so it learned
to over-function in silence.
And then the third one is theover committed achiever, or we
can call her the career careerchaser, whichever floats your
boat.
But her life is a spreadsheet ofobligations, color coded sync to
three calendars.
If she stopped moving, she mighthave to fuel.
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She's sarcastic, but she doesn'tstop moving because she doesn't
want to.
She says yes before she hearsthe whole sentence.
She crosses the finish line andfinds another one.
But here's the thing.
She's numb, she's disconnected,and she's running on autopilot
with a smile and a schedule.
Her body, it's stuck insympathetic dorsal loop.
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I.
She pushes until she collapse,and then she crashes some GR and
then she does it all over again.
She struggles with midsection,weight gain, constipation,
reflux, metabolic dysfunction,low libido.
Her thyroid is a mess, and hersleep is either non-existent or
it's all she wants to do.
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She doesn't need a time blockingapp.
She needs to unhook her worthfrom output because she's
actually chasing.
A sense of being enough.
Each of these women think thatshe's, the problem thing is,
she's not, she's just spent herlife surviving a system that
never taught her how to feelsafe resting.
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So instead, she performs, sheover functions.
She ignores her symptoms untilthey scream.
But what if the exhaustion isn'tfailure?
What if it's feedback?
So let's look deeper.
I wanna ground this into yourbody for a second, because
burnout, it's not just a busycalendar, right?
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We hear the word so much andit's so overused.
It's not just doing too much.
Burnout is a biology that isadapted to live and overdrive
because somewhere along the way,the body learned that rest was
dangerous, that softening wouldcost you something.
So it starts as a whisper.
Right fatigue here, a skipperiod there.
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But over time it snowballs intoa full blown identity.
One that says, I just have a loton my plate.
I function better when I'm busy.
This is just how I'm wired.
No, this isn't your personality.
This is a protection pattern,and depending on the flavor of
your burnout, that protectionlives in a specific nervous
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system state.
So I wanna break that down.
For the sleepless entrepreneur,or the exhausted visionary, we
are living in sympatheticoverdrive.
So this is the woman whose bodyliterally cannot turn off.
She crashes at 3:00 PM but iswired by 11.
She's lying in bed, scrollinghealth tips at night, adding
another supplement to her cartbecause she can't afford another
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off day.
So what's happening here is thather cortisol is high, her
melatonin is low, and hercircadian rhythm is hijacked by
her stress chemistry.
So when her brain wants to rest,her biology says, yeah, nope.
Still unsafe.
And this is what we callsympathetic dominance, fight or
flight, running the show.
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She might be resting her body,but her system is still scanning
for a threat.
And that's why sleep doesn'tfeel restorative.
That's why digestion shuts down.
That's why her nervous systemdoesn't trust stillness.
Even when she wants to slowdown.
It's not that she can't sleep,it's that her body thinks
survival depends on stayingawake.
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And then when we look at theperfectionist, high achiever,
well, she's in functionalfreeze.
And this one's tricky becausefrom the outside she looks calm,
controlled, even productive, butinside her system is locked in
freeze.
She's overthinking every move.
Her breath is shallow, her jaw,her gut, her pelvic floor, it's
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braced like they're holding theweight of the world.
She's not in chaos.
She's in shutdown with aperformance filter on top.
And what's wild is, is thatshe's still doing, but her
biology is frozen.
This is what we call functionalfreeze, where the nervous system
is overwhelmed, but the mindkeeps driving and that's why
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she's inflamed.
Despite eating perfectly, whyher periods are brutal.
Her digestion unpredictable, andher shoulders are rock fucking
solid.
Underneath her structure isterror.
The kind of terror that says, ifI mess this up, I will lose
everything.
But she's never called itterror.
She calls it discipline.
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And then when we look at theover committed achiever or the
career chaser, she's insympathetic dorsal loop.
This woman is the queen ofpushing through her emails
before breakfast.
Client calls during lunch, alaundry at 10:00 PM with a
podcast on speed.
Two times faster because evenrest has to be productive.
Right?
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And until she crashes.
This is the sympathetic dorsalloop.
You push crash, guilt, push.
Again, it's a nervous system,toggling between high alert and
total shutdown, and that's whyshe's bloated even when she
skips meals, her libido is goneand her sleep is either
non-existent or 12 hours of comaand still tired.
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See, her vagus nerve iscompletely offline.
Her metabolism is stalled, andher immune system is whispering.
We cannot keep doing this.
But she keeps going becauseslowing down doesn't feel like
rest.
It feels like failure.
So here's what I need you toknow.
Every single one of these womenhas thought she was just lazy or
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just undisciplined or toosensitive.
I've heard it all.
They all come to me telling methese things, but it's not
laziness.
This is biology.
This is a nervous system thatnever got the message that you
are safe now.
And until that message lands thesymptoms, they're gonna keep
showing up because they'retrying to wave a red flag to let
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you know, not because you'rebroken, but because your body is
brilliant.
And I've said this over and overagain in all my podcasts.
Your body will adapt to theprogram it is running, so it's
bracing, it's protecting, andit's waiting for you to stop
fighting it and start listeningto it.
And that's what we're doingnext, because you can't change
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what you're still performing.
So let's dive into identity.
If your identity is built onbeing the strong one, the
reliable one, the get shit done,one, then slowing down, well,
it's not just uncomfortable,it's threatening because rest
doesn't just mean rest.
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Stillness doesn't just meanstillness.
Stillness means meeting yourselfand for the most high achieving
women, that's the scariest part.
It's not just the deadlines,it's not the to-do list.
It's the silence.
Because in the silence,everything your nervous system
has been avoiding starts torise.
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The grief, the resentment, therage, the loneliness, it shows
up.
Uniquely for each archetype.
So the sleepless entrepreneur inthe exhausted visionary, she's
not just addicted to caffeine,she's addicted to forward
motion, right?
Because stomping would mean thatfeelings come up, and those are
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the ones that say, if I slowdown, I'll fall behind.
If I don't stay visible, I'll beforgotten.
But underneath that, there's adeep unspoken fear that if I
stop performing, I'll lose myworth.
So she keeps going, laptop,open, mind racing, body
unraveling.
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But the truth is that shedoesn't trust rest because she's
never been shown that she's safewithout the hustle.
And for the perfectionist, highachiever for the outside, she's
polished, she's precise, she'sperfect.
But inside she's holding it alltogether with a clenched jaw and
a braced gut.
And underneath all that controlis fucking rage.
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Rage that no one sees how hardshe's trying, rage that she's
always has to keep it together.
Rage that if she just letsherself soften, everything might
collapse and woven through thatrage is grief.
Grief for the little girl whoonly felt love when she got it
right, who equated approval withachievement, who still doesn't
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know how to rest without guilt?
That's not discipline.
That's a defense.
And then when we look at theover committed achiever, well,
she says yes before the questionis finished.
She shows up, she handles it.
She delivers.
And to a lot of people insociety that's respected.
But when you ask her how shefeels, she doesn't know because
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for her identity is productivityand her nervous system has been
trained to believe that beingneeded equals loved.
And so she disappears into otherpeople's needs even when it's
costing her her health, her joy,her sense of self.
So what she's really carrying isactually resentment.
So much fucking resentment forhow often she's been there for
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others while no one ever showedup for her.
And beneath that well, it's aquiet, aching type of
loneliness.
It's the kind that you feel evenin a crowded room, honestly,
especially in a crowded room,because you can be surrounded by
people and still feel invisiblewhen you've abandoned yourself.
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This is why identity work isn'tjust a bonus in healing.
It is the core because you cantake the supplements, you can
drink the bone broth, you can dothe red light therapy and still
feel like shit.
Why?
Well, because your nervoussystem doesn't heal when it
feels unsafe, and the biggestthreat to safety is a self that
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you're still pretending to be.
So here's the truth bomb.
You don't need a new protocol.
You need a permission slip togrieve the version of you who
survived by doing to feel thefeelings that you were too busy
to feel, to stop performinghealing, and actually let it
land.
Because the moment that you stopoutsourcing your worth to what
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you do, that's the moment yourbody starts remembering who you
are.
And that my love is where thereal healing begins.
So where do we go from here?
Because maybe right now you'resitting with this pit in your
stomach, a mixture of relief andgrief, like someone finally
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named what you've been carrying.
But now that's.
It's in the light.
It's just kinda like you can'tunsee it.
And I get it because when Ifirst started to notice this
pattern in myself, I too was alittle excited and also a little
insulted, right?
Because how abrasive of you toget all up in my business,
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right?
You don't owe me, but I wastalking to myself.
And my ego wanted to protect me,and it wanted to deny, and it
wanted to tell me that, no,that's not me.
When all the facts were right onpaper.
Right?
The truth is, is that whenyou've been performing for
safety your whole life, the ideaof not performing can feelter
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terrifying, like pulling theplug on the only power source
you've ever known.
But here's the truth.
You don't regulate a nervoussystem by muscling your way into
stillness.
You regulate it by creatingconditions for safety, because
if your body has spent decadesin a performance loop, which
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most of us have, or we're wiredfor cortisol, for urgency, for
over-functioning, we're addictedto adrenaline, we're addicted to
the drama, we're addicted to notever getting what we want.
If we're addicted to the pain,we're addicted to the hard, then
rest won't feel safe at first.
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It's going to feel foreign,vulnerable, maybe even
dangerous.
We'll see this in relationshipsand we'll see this in a
relationship to ourself.
It's not a flaw, it's justbiology, and that's why healing
from burnout, like real healingdoesn't start with doing more.
It starts with doing itdifferently.
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So when women come to me and saythat I've tried everything, the
adaptogens, the hormonal panels,the clean eating, the sleep
hygiene, and saying that they'vegotten better for a little
while, but then the symptomscame back, my response is always
the same.
It's because you're trying toheal a survival, survival-based
body with performance-basedtools, and you're biohacking
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your way through burnout, butyour body doesn't want hacks.
It wants to feel safe.
And safety isn't built throughprotocols.
It's built through presence.
So here's what I teach inside myembodied framework, which I
apply through my Embodiedprogram, along with my
one-on-one clients.
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And yes, we work with thebiology.
We look at gut health hormones,blood sugar, drainage pathways,
but we also look at your beliefsbecause if your inner narrative
still sounds like I'm onlyworthy when I'm productive and
that I have to earn my rest, orthat healing has to be hard to
be effective, then your body'sgonna keep bracing.
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It's gonna keep blocking andit's gonna keep filtering every
well-intentioned supplementthrough a survival lens.
So you'll eat the perfect antiinflammatory meal, but digest it
through a clenched jaw and ashutdown vagus nerve.
You'll meditate daily, butyou'll still wake up exhausted
because your adrenals don'ttrust the calm.
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Right.
Your body will continuouslyrebound back to the survival
program that is running it untilwe reprogram the body.
And this is why we work layer bylayer.
We map out your nervous systempatterns.
We re-pattern your identity andwe re-regulate, release and
rebuild because your nervoussystem won't fully heal if your
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gut is inflamed and your gutwon't fully heal if your nervous
system is still in fight orflight.
It's a both.
And so this is where healingbecomes sustainable, and this is
when the doing softens and thebeing becomes enough.
Because you don't need a betterprotocol.
You need a better relationshipwith your body.
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You don't need more hustle, youjust need more honesty.
And that starts with one bravequestion.
What if I didn't have to earn myhealing?
I want you to sit with that,breathe into it and let it land.
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Because when your body finallybelieves that it's safe to
receive, that's when thesymptoms begin to melt.
That's when energy returns andthat's when healing stops being
something you chase and itbecomes something you embody.
Now we've peeled back a goodamount of layers of burnout, all
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the survival patterns andidentity loops.
I wanna show you what itactually looks like to heal from
the root, because this is thepart of healing that no one's
taught you.
Not in therapy, not in yourwellness protocols, not in your
clean eating cookbooks.
And it's not your fault.
It's just most healing modelsare designed to treat the
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surface, not the source.
But here, you know me, we embodythis and it's no bs.
We do it differently.
So inside my framework, we blendthe science of nervous system
repair with soul of identityre-patterning.
We work with your gut, yourhormones, your energy, but we
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also work with the subconsciousbeliefs, keeping you braced and
survival, and at the core ofwhat it is, is what I call the
neuro identity evolutionmethodology.
Because the woman your body iswaiting to become, she doesn't
hustle for health, she doesn'tmicromanage symptoms, and she
knows how to listen, how tolead, how to live inside a body
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that feels like home.
So let me walk you through thefour layers that we work with.
Each one helping you shift fromfixing to feeling safe to
receive.
Layer one is the root cause,right?
The deep inner work.
So we're gonna skip the surfacelevel hacks.
You've done the celery juice,the biohacks, the somatic Sunday
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routines, and still you feellike something's missing.
Why?
Well, it's because what you'refeeling in your body today
started long before thebloating, the burnout, or the
brain fog showed up.
It started with the emotionalblueprint.
The moment that you learned restwas lazy.
The perfection got you.
Love that.
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Being easygoing kept you peace,and that's what your nervous
system built itself around, andthat's why your body has been
responding to this this wholetime.
So when a client comes to mesaying, I'm doing everything
right and still feeling off,well, I help her find the first
time her body felt that waybecause the body never forgets.
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It holds on to moments thatyou've long left behind until
you learn how to meet them.
And so we don't rush this part.
We sit with what rises and wemeet the inner child, the
protector part, the performerinside you, not to fix them, but
to really free them.
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Healing begins when you stop bypassing those patterns, so the
next time you feel overwhelmed,I invite you to pause.
Notice what's coming up.
Ask when was the first time Ifelt this way and sit with it.
Right?
Don't run.
This is the work.
Sitting with what rises withoutjudgment and meeting the younger
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version of you with compassion.
Healing isn't about fixingwhat's broken, it's about
uncovering the parts of you thatwere never broken to begin with.
The next level is reallymastering the mind body
connection.
So here's the thing, most womenare stuck in their heads and
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they're disconnected from theirbodies.
They try to heal by thinking theway out of burnout, chronic
symptoms or anxiety, but themind isn't the enemy.
It's the tool.
Your nervous system is theswitchboard.
So it controls how you digestyour food, regulates your
hormones, and managesinflammation.
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So when your body feels unsafe,even subconsciously, the nervous
system flips into survival mode.
So symptoms are simply thebody's waving a red flag.
So healing isn't about addingmore protocols, it's about
teaching the body safety again.
So.
Let me remind you, your bodyknows how to heal.
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It's programmed too, but if yoursubconscious patterns are
running the show, your body willstay in overdrive, and that's
why reconnecting to your bodythrough somatic practices and
nervous system regulation andemotional release is key.
So you can smart small withseven minutes of breath work
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before your day begins, doing afour by seven by eight breath
work pattern.
Breathing in through your nose,through four, holding for seven,
and releasing with eight secondsthrough the mouth.
You can apply three pauses inyour day and feel your feet on
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the ground and breathe deeply.
Check in with yourself.
What were you thinking about?
Were you on autopilot?
Because it doesn't really haveanything to do with whether or
not you're meditating in themorning and drinking your green
juice at night and writing agratitude list later.
What are you doing the other 20hours of your day, 14 hours of
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your day, whatever.
And allowing yourself to checkin with nature, even if it's
just standing barefoot in thegrass.
These moments, making sure thatyou are not going offline all of
the time is what actually makesthe greatest shift.
Checking in with yourself beforeyou're eating, regulating your
nervous system, before you eat,while you eat, and after you eat
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these micro moments, reset thenervous system and they send the
message that I am safe.
They play the story for themacro.
You cannot outthink your way tohealth, but you can feel your
way there.
The next one up is shifting yourrelationship with fear.
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This is a huge one.
Because fear isn't the villain,it is the guardian, and this is
something that I dive very deepin with my clients.
It's the whole container,understanding your biology, the
biology of your fear response,and how it shows up within your
body because your biologicalfear response is your biological
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stress response.
And that fear that you feelabout resting and slowing down
or addressing your deeper healthissues, it's not weakness.
It's just your subconscioustrying to protect you.
It's the part of you that'safraid, and it's simply saying,
I remember the last time that welet go and it didn't feel safe.
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But your job isn't to silencethat voice.
It's to think it, because theshift is that fear is the
compass.
It's your green light to go.
Anytime you feel fear, you'restepping outside of your comfort
zone, and you're stepping intothe unknown, which means you're
stepping outside of youridentity and you're building a
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new one.
So every quantum leap in health,business or relationship starts
with trust.
Trusting your body's signals,trusting that you don't have to
hustle to heal and trusting thatslowing down won't cause
everything to fall apart.
And to do that, this brings usto the next step, which is
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embodying her, your future.
You, the person in your vision,the healed, grounded, thriving
version of you that alreadyexists.
I'm not asking you to becomeher, I'm asking you to remember
her to embody her.
Because if you feel disconnectedfrom your health or your body,
here's the question I want youto sit with.
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What would the version of me whofeels whole do in this moment?
Would she say yes to the thingsthat drain her energy?
Would she ignore the exhaustionor would she choose rest?
Would she micromanager healingor would she trust the process?
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Let her lead.
She knows when to pause.
She doesn't chase health.
She aligns with it.
She doesn't look for answersoutside of herself.
She listens inward and you arealready her.
This is just your invitation tolet that part of you take the
wheel.
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So many times I think that thebiggest part of our inability to
heal is actually our lack ofconnection with the divine.
It is the lack of connection toour higher self, right?
She's not some far off fantasy.
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She's already living inside ofyou.
She's just buried under survivalpatterns.
We want to embody her and we cando so by realizing that this
isn't just about healingsymptoms.
It's about returning to theversion of you who never had to
earn rest.
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Who knows that being seendoesn't require being useful.
Who doesn't hustle for health?
She receives it.
And when you live from thatplace, your body stops bracing,
your digestion resets, yourhormones balance, your energy
returns.
And it's not because you'redoing more, but because you're
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finally doing less from a placeof permission.
Now, let me tell you aboutKaitlyn, a client who did this.
See on the outside, she waskilling it.
She was a six-figureentrepreneur, mom of two, master
of the calendar and queen of theto-do list, and she had the
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supplements, the clean diet, theinfrared sauna, which I was very
jealous about.
And she was really doingeverything right, and yet she
woke up exhausted.
She couldn't sleep throughoutthe night.
Her digestion was a mess.
Her body felt like a burden thatshe was dragging through every
day and she had daily migraines.
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Then came the moment that reallycracked it all open.
When she was seeing me beforeshe sat down with me, she told
me the reason why she feltmotivated to reach out to me
wasn't necessarily because ofthe symptoms.
She was kind of managing that,but it was when she missed her
daughter's recital.
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And it wasn't because she didn'tcare, it was because she
literally couldn't stop doing.
She couldn't stop working thatday, and that's when she
realized it was her breakingpoint, because behind the
calendar, the self-care, theendless striving was this belief
that she didn't even realize shewas carrying, which was, if I
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stop moving, I'll lose my value.
And if that sounds familiar,it's because it's related to
this archetype.
So many high performing womenare praised for their
productivity while their nervoussystems are silently burning
out.
We wear exhaustion like a badge.
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We confuse urgency withimportance, and we trade
presence for performance.
And Kaitlyn, she didn't needanother protocol.
She needed permission, right?
She needed the ability to knowthat it is safe to slow down,
that it is safe to take a momentbefore she eats, to take a
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moment when she wakes up, totake a moment to learn what
pleasure feels like in her body,because at this point, she'd
been living neck up, doing,doing, doing.
And the symptoms were her body'sway of saying, help me.
I am not being listened to.
I need you to listen to me.
I am not a productivity machine.
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So when she came to me, wedidn't start with supplements.
We started with her story withthe version of her that learned
to equate love with usefulnessthat believed that she had to
earn presence by overproducingthat didn't trust rest, because
stillness once felt likeabandonment.
And through the neuro identityEvolution framework and my
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embodied framework.
What we did together was weopened up her drainage pathways
so that her body could actuallyrelease instead of retain.
We stabilized her blood sugar tostop the energy crashes and
emotional rollercoasters.
We supported her gut-brainaccess, so her mood and
digestion could stop fightingeach other, and most
importantly, we rewired theinternal voice that said rest is
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lazy, and that doing equalsworth.
But the real breakthrough wasn'ton a lab test, right?
It happened one night when herdaughter, she told me and hugged
on her sleeve and said, mom, canwe bake cookies?
Now, old Kaitlin would've said,maybe later, right?
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Old Kaitlin would've poweredthrough the project and missed
another moment.
But this time she took a breathand she asked what would she do?
The version of her that we hadmapped out together.
And in that moment she realizedit was time to close the laptop
and she walked into the kitchenand she let herself be there.
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Flower flying, laughter, echoingcookies that turned out a little
burnt book, completely perfect.
And it was in that moment, youknow, that she told me for the
first time in years, I didn'tfeel like I had to earn that
joy.
It just was there waiting for meto receive it, and everything
else was still there too.
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I didn't miss out on any work.
It was already there waiting forme, but I felt good by spending
time with my child becausethat's what I really was craving
was that connection, was thatdeep resonance with the people
that I loved.
I never had to earn their love.
I just needed to be present.
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And that's really when I knew asa coach to my client, was that
that healing was landing becauseit wasn't just about balancing
hormones or fixing fatigue orgetting rid of the migraines.
It was about reclaiming momentsthat she used to miss.
And here's the beautiful rippleeffect.
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Her daughter now sees a mom whoisn't just productive, but she
sees a mom who's present.
Who models boundaries, who restswithout guilt, and that's
generational healing.
So if you see yourself inCaitlin's story, if you're tired
of performing your worth, righthustling for health and missing
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the life that's happening in thebackground, I want you to know
something.
You're not lazy, you're notfailing, and you don't have to
wait for your body to collapsebefore you listen.
You just have to choosesomething different, not more
effort, not another protocol,but a different energy entirely.
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So if Kaitlyn's story stirredsomething in you, if it cracked,
open a memory or mirrored yourown exhaustion, you're not
alone.
I totally get it.
And you're not crazy.
You're just running anarchetypal pattern that your
body had to create to feel safe.
But here's the truth, bomb.
Most wellness spaces are notgonna deliver.
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Your symptoms are rooted in yoursurvival strategy and healing.
It's not just about removingwhat's blocking you, it's about
activating what can move youforward.
So I call these limiters andlevers.
So the limiters of thisunconscious survival responses
keeping you stuck, and thelevers are the keys, the micro
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shifts that unlocktransformation in real time.
So let's map these out throughthe archetypes that we explored
today.
So for the exhausted, visionary,sleepless entrepreneur, the
limiter is the flight response,right?
You run on adrenaline andambition.
You chase ideas, clients, andclarity.
Like your nervous system dependson it because it does, and you
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tell yourself, I'll slow downonce I get through this launch.
But that launch never ends.
Right.
Your pattern is the late nightwired energy, the midday crashes
and rebound cortisol.
The gut issues that flare underpressure and a body that
confuses stillness with danger.
But your lever is that rest isyour success strategy.
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Rest is a money-making activity.
So it's not the performativekind with your phone in hand.
I'm talking about the kind whereyour body actually exhales
without guilt.
Your drive isn't the problem,but it needs regulation to
become power, not poison.
So try this.
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I want you to interrupt yoururgency.
Create one.
No do window daily.
So block off time to literallydo absolutely nothing.
And I really want you to watchif this is performative, because
you can do this and be like, ohyeah, I took a day off, but were
you really resting?
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Were you really in your body?
Were you actually present in themoment?
Let your nervous system learnthat slowing down won't cost you
everything.
Now for the perfectionist, yourlimiter is the freeze response.
Again, these are alladaptations.
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So when I say limiter, I don'twant you to think that these are
bad things.
They did everything they need todo to protect you, to keep you
safe, but right now it'slimiting you, right?
So you look composed, organized,impressive, but internally,
you're holding your breath.
You're stuck between should Irest and have I earned it yet?
Right?
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And your pattern ismicromanaging.
Meals, routines, symptoms,obsessing over getting it right,
hormonal chaos beneath polishedhabits, digestive shutdowns and
mental overdrive, and yourlever, it's gonna be celebrating
in completion.
So yeah, I want you to startbefore you feel ready.
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Your gift is precision.
But healing lives in permission.
So I want you to try this.
Leave the dishes undone for onenight, say the messy thing in
therapy, and let someone see youunderbelly, not just in your
high rate reel.
Like, I don't know what you dofor a living, but I want you to
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do it messy or create somethingand then throw it away.
Your body doesn't needperfection.
It needs proof that it's stilllovable in the mess.
So maybe this looks like notcompleting 10,000 steps a day
'cause I see you, girl.
Maybe this means not wearingyour smartwatch to track your
steps.
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Maybe this means not having aplan one day and allowing it to
just flow, not making sure thatyou eat perfectly.
Not making sure that you haveall the supplements, right?
There's so many differentcircumstances that you can let
this be undone and let this bemessy'cause your gift is
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precision.
But you need to give yourselfpermission to flow through this
and start before you're ready.
Now the over committed achiever.
Your limiter is the flightdorsal flip.
So you say yes before your bodyhas time to vote, right?
You juggle everyone else's needsand forget that you have your
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own.
Then you crash hard and theguilt drags you back into
hustle.
So your pattern, it's constantoverwhelm, followed by shutdown,
digestive distress, bloating,slow metabolism, numbness around
joy, pleasure, and boundaries.
Your identity is built onusefulness and worthiness and
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your lever, right?
This is gonna be, boundaries areself rescue, so you're not lazy
when you rest.
You're rewiring your entirelineage, so try this.
Say, I'll get back to youinstead of Yes.
Build pauses between calendarblocks, right?
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Make sure you have time inbetween those.
You do not need to be the yesman.
Notice the part of you thatpanics when you're not busy and
hold her with compassion.
This isn't about balance, it'sabout breaking the contract that
says your exhaustion is whatmakes you valuable.
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So become the person that says,I'll sleep on it.
Give yourself space to come backinto your own energy and figure
out what is yours and what istheirs.
These archetypes are not cages.
They are compasses.
And your body already knows theway home.
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So start with your limiter andmeet it with curiosity.
Then gently choose your leverand commit to one small nervous
system safe action this week,because healing doesn't happen
through force, it happens toremembering what safety feels
like in your cells.
And if you're feeling the shiftfrom this episode, I'm so
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excited for you because it meansthat it's already started.
It means that you're becomingaware.
And in order to change, we mustbecome aware.
So if you saw yourself in thisepisode today, whether in the
wired at midnight, fatigue, theache behind your ambition or the
guilt that creeps in every timeyou think about resting, I want
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you to hear this loud and clear.
I love you.
You are enough.
Your worth is your birthright.
There's nothing left for you todo.
There's nowhere to be.
Your exhaustion isn't acharacter flaw.
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It is your nervous system doingexactly what it was trained to
do, which is survive, and theburnout you're feeling.
It's not because you're doingtoo much, it's because you've
never felt safe doing less.
Let that land.
This isn't your fault, but nowthat you see the pattern, it is
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your opportunity.
Because awareness isn't passive,it's active, and when you can
name the pattern, you can rewirethe path.
So here's your invitation thisweek.
What would it look like to stopchasing health and start
allowing it?
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What's one lever, just one thatyou're ready to pull?
And what belief are you ready tostop outsourcing your worth to
let that live in your body?
Not as pressure, not as a task,but as a felt sense of
possibility.
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Let your healing begin with yourhumanity, not in spite of it.
And if this episode crackssomething open, if you felt seen
named, unraveled in the bestway, then keep walking with me
because next week we're shiftinginto a whole new archetype.
The woman who disappears intoeveryone else's needs, the
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helper, the over giver, the onewho can hold space for everyone
except herself.
Yep.
We're going there.
We're diving into theself-sacrifice pillar.
And trust me, it's gonna stir upsome deep truths and sacred
reclamations.
But until then, be kind to theparts of you that are still
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learning how to rest.
Notice where you brace.
And remember, you're not here toearn your enoughness.
You're here to embody it.
I'll see you next week, and Ican't wait to hear how you like
this episode.
Let's start with the truth.
Your body already knows you'renot exhausted because you're
broken.
You're exhausted because you'vebeen performing worthiness like
a full-time job.
Somewhere along the line, youwere taught productivity equals
value.
Hustle equals safety, andperfection equals love.
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And now.
Even when your body whispers,please rest.
Your brain fires back with aprotein shake and a to-do list.
You might call it ambition.
You might think you're justwired this way, but this isn't
your personality, it's yourphysiology.
This episode is for the womanwho wakes up tired and still
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powers through crashesmid-afternoon, but scrolls
instead of rest.
It feels guilty when she slowsdown and anxious when she
doesn't.
Because you've been living in abody that thinks slowing down is
dangerous.
You've normalized exhaustionbecause hyper vigilance got you
here.
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And here's the hardest part.
The world claps for yourburnout.
They call you motivated,reliable, successful, but you're
not thriving.
You're bracing.
So if you've ever said, I justneed to get through this week,
or I'll rest after this launch,I want you to pause because
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today we're going beneath thechecklist.
We're talking about the burnoutpillar.
The archetype over theoverworked and under rested.
The woman who's exhausted,disconnected, and still trying
harder.
And I'm here to show you it'snot about effort.
It's about nervous system thatnever learned how to exhale.
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Now let's get into it.
Welcome to Embody this, the NOBS Healing podcast for women who
are done playing small.
I'm Lauren Michelle Jewel, asingle sober business owning
badass who has been humbled ashell by healing.
But I'm not just someone who'slived it.
I've studied it, coached it, andhelped women walk through it for
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over seven years in mind, bodyhealth, gut brain science, and
nervous system healing.
I've worked with women who havetried everything, therapy,
diets, supplements, self-helpwork, but still feel
disconnected from their bodies,their health, and their truth.
Because here's the thing,healing isn't a trend.
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It's not aesthetic.
It's not an identity.
Healing is embodied, and let mebe real with you, it's hard as
fuck and it's also rewarding asfuck.
I know because I've lived it.
And along the way I realizedsomething.
Modern healing methods arefailing us.
Everything is compartmentalized.
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Go to therapy.
They say, take the supplements,do the inner work, but no one
teaches you how to actuallyintegrate it.
All this show is for you ifyou're ready to rethink healing.
It's not about being perfect,being a wellness influencer or
having a PhD in biohacking.
It's about undoing, unlearning,and finally coming home to
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yourself.
Quick disclaimer, this podcastis for educational purposes
only.
It's here to expand your mind,challenge old narratives, and
empower you with knowledge.
It's not a replacement formedical advice.
Always consult a professionalwhen making health decisions.
If this episode hits home,follow the share, rate it,
review it, share it with someonewho needs to hear it, because
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you never know whose life youmight change.
Now let's fucking go.
So let's zoom out before we zoomin.
Across every single archetype inthis series, there's one formula
I need you to hear, not withjust your mind, but with your
body.
This is the formula that equalsyour current state of health.
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First, we're gonna add thestress of your current life
circumstances, which is the typeof stress that your system is
least adapted to deal with.
This may be your job, animbalanced microbiome, being a
new mom, financial insecurityover consuming processed foods,
lack of sleep, lack of purpose,lack of joy, being in a toxic
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relationship, too much bluelight over under exercising, and
plus more.
Then we add that into your.
Core emotional wound, which istrauma, and these are the
dysfunctions that you strugglemost to compensate for.
So your core wound is where yourbiggest triggers come from, your
biggest stress load and yourbiggest toxicity.
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Your core wound is a deep seatedemotional injury that is often
formed in childhood, but it canalso be passed down through
epigenetics.
So a variety of factors such asabandonment, neglect, or trauma
can cause these core wounds.
They can also be caused by moresubtle experiences, such as
feeling unloved or unaccepted byone's parents or caregivers.
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And they shape our sense of selfand our overall look on life in
reality.
They shape our nervous system.
And when you understand this,you can understand that core
wounds lead to emotional andphysical and behavioral
spiritual problems that lead toour body into heavy amounts of
stress and dysregulation.
So our system starts to getbogged down as we live through
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the inauthentic expressions ofour being.
Some examples of these corewounds would be, I'm not enough,
I am defective.
I don't measure up.
I am helpless, powerless.
I am undesirable.
I am unloved.
I'm unworthy.
I'm a disappointment In eachcore wound, you experience
connects to our meridian nervoussystem and organ systems.
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As our core wounds stayunprocessed, this fear of our
true, authentic emotionalexpression creates nerve
impulses that keep us in nervoussystem dysregulation.
Essentially, it's a loss ofself, and when we don't feel
safe to be who we truly are, wedon't feel safe to express our
true emotions.
Those two together, your corewound plus your current state of
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health equals your healthsymptoms or your state of
disease.
When you can view your health.
This way, you can understandthat health is about
adaptability.
And when our toxic stress loadbecomes too much, the body
starts to compensate.
This is a disconnection from ourmost authentic self.
It's a suppression, it's a bigpocket of density and energy,
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and the compensation is yoursymptoms or disease.
So your core wound is your earlytrauma and emotional blueprint.
Add that in with your currentchronic stress, your nervous
system, and your healthpatterns.
This all equals your currentsymptoms and identity loop
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translation.
Well, your symptoms aren'trandom.
They're patterned, they'rerehearsed, they're intelligent
responses to a system that's hadto survive, not thrive.
And while your symptoms might bebloating, fatigue, anxiety, or
burnout, the root underneaththis is the same.
It is chronic activation of theHBA access sympathetic
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dominance.
A biology addicted to provingher safety through performance.
This is the burnout pillar, theoverworked and under sted woman
whose nervous system equatesproductivity with permission to
exist.
I think that we can all relateto this, and here's the kicker,
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even within that umbrella, notall burnout looks the same.
Okay, so there are threesurvival expressions I see again
and again.
Same for wound, differentflavor, different biology, and
different emotionalundercurrents.
So let's meet'em.
The first one is the exhaustedvisionary, also known as a
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sleepless entrepreneur.
She's the woman who genuinelyloves to work.
She's passionate, creative,vision driven, but also she's
wired and tired.
She's waking up at 7:00 AMgroggy and already mentally on
call.
She's eating breakfast at noon,if at all.
Her best ideas hit at 11:00 PMwhen her body's begging for
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sleep, and she's built anidentity around being on, and
the thought of slowing downfeels like falling behind.
Listen, her biology, it's fried.
Cortisol dominance, which equalsmelatonin crash.
Circadian rhythm is hijackedcaffeine, sugar, blood sugar
rollercoaster.
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There's gut inflammation thatflares during rest days, but she
doesn't need another planner orsleep supplement.
She needs to rebuild, trust andstillness to grieve the version
of herself that only felt safewhen she was in motion.
Then there's the perfectionist,high achiever.
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This one, you'll spot her by herjaw.
It's clenched, braced, holdingit all together.
Usually the jaw is tight and soare the shoulders.
She complains about her neckbeing tight all the time.
She has to have her shittogether on paper Color coded
calendar, flawless execution.
A three month supply ofmagnesium.
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But beneath the polish istension, irritability, and a gut
that hasn't relaxed since 2006.
This isn't just a type A energy,it's a nervous system locked in
functional freeze where herbrain is speeding, but her body
is shut down.
PMS is like clockwork rage,hormonal crashes after launches,
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digestive shutdown despite theclean eating perfection as an.
Aesthetic for shame.
In reality, perfection is justan aesthetic for shame.
Underneath it all is a buriedscream, saying nothing I do is
enough.
This isn't about ambition.
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It's about a body that was neverallowed to soften, so it learned
to over-function in silence.
And then the third one is theover committed achiever, or we
can call her the career careerchaser, whichever floats your
boat.
But her life is a spreadsheet ofobligations, color coded sync to
three calendars.
If she stopped moving, she mighthave to fuel.
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She's sarcastic, but she doesn'tstop moving because she doesn't
want to.
She says yes before she hearsthe whole sentence.
She crosses the finish line andfinds another one.
But here's the thing.
She's numb, she's disconnected,and she's running on autopilot
with a smile and a schedule.
Her body, it's stuck insympathetic dorsal loop.
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I.
She pushes until she collapse,and then she crashes some GR and
then she does it all over again.
She struggles with midsection,weight gain, constipation,
reflux, metabolic dysfunction,low libido.
Her thyroid is a mess, and hersleep is either non-existent or
it's all she wants to do.
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She doesn't need a time blockingapp.
She needs to unhook her worthfrom output because she's
actually chasing.
A sense of being enough.
Each of these women think thatshe's, the problem thing is,
she's not, she's just spent herlife surviving a system that
never taught her how to feelsafe resting.
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So instead, she performs, sheover functions.
She ignores her symptoms untilthey scream.
But what if the exhaustion isn'tfailure?
What if it's feedback?
So let's look deeper.
I wanna ground this into yourbody for a second, because
burnout, it's not just a busycalendar, right?
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We hear the word so much andit's so overused.
It's not just doing too much.
Burnout is a biology that isadapted to live and overdrive
because somewhere along the way,the body learned that rest was
dangerous, that softening wouldcost you something.
So it starts as a whisper.
Right fatigue here, a skipperiod there.
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But over time it snowballs intoa full blown identity.
One that says, I just have a loton my plate.
I function better when I'm busy.
This is just how I'm wired.
No, this isn't your personality.
This is a protection pattern,and depending on the flavor of
your burnout, that protectionlives in a specific nervous
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system state.
So I wanna break that down.
For the sleepless entrepreneur,or the exhausted visionary, we
are living in sympatheticoverdrive.
So this is the woman whose bodyliterally cannot turn off.
She crashes at 3:00 PM but iswired by 11.
She's lying in bed, scrollinghealth tips at night, adding
another supplement to her cartbecause she can't afford another
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off day.
So what's happening here is thather cortisol is high, her
melatonin is low, and hercircadian rhythm is hijacked by
her stress chemistry.
So when her brain wants to rest,her biology says, yeah, nope.
Still unsafe.
And this is what we callsympathetic dominance, fight or
flight, running the show.
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She might be resting her body,but her system is still scanning
for a threat.
And that's why sleep doesn'tfeel restorative.
That's why digestion shuts down.
That's why her nervous systemdoesn't trust stillness.
Even when she wants to slowdown.
It's not that she can't sleep,it's that her body thinks
survival depends on stayingawake.
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And then when we look at theperfectionist, high achiever,
well, she's in functionalfreeze.
And this one's tricky becausefrom the outside she looks calm,
controlled, even productive, butinside her system is locked in
freeze.
She's overthinking every move.
Her breath is shallow, her jaw,her gut, her pelvic floor, it's
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braced like they're holding theweight of the world.
She's not in chaos.
She's in shutdown with aperformance filter on top.
And what's wild is, is thatshe's still doing, but her
biology is frozen.
This is what we call functionalfreeze, where the nervous system
is overwhelmed, but the mindkeeps driving and that's why
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she's inflamed.
Despite eating perfectly, whyher periods are brutal.
Her digestion unpredictable, andher shoulders are rock fucking
solid.
Underneath her structure isterror.
The kind of terror that says, ifI mess this up, I will lose
everything.
But she's never called itterror.
She calls it discipline.
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And then when we look at theover committed achiever or the
career chaser, she's insympathetic dorsal loop.
This woman is the queen ofpushing through her emails
before breakfast.
Client calls during lunch, alaundry at 10:00 PM with a
podcast on speed.
Two times faster because evenrest has to be productive.
Right?
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And until she crashes.
This is the sympathetic dorsalloop.
You push crash, guilt, push.
Again, it's a nervous system,toggling between high alert and
total shutdown, and that's whyshe's bloated even when she
skips meals, her libido is goneand her sleep is either
non-existent or 12 hours of comaand still tired.
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See, her vagus nerve iscompletely offline.
Her metabolism is stalled, andher immune system is whispering.
We cannot keep doing this.
But she keeps going becauseslowing down doesn't feel like
rest.
It feels like failure.
So here's what I need you toknow.
Every single one of these womenhas thought she was just lazy or
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just undisciplined or toosensitive.
I've heard it all.
They all come to me telling methese things, but it's not
laziness.
This is biology.
This is a nervous system thatnever got the message that you
are safe now.
And until that message lands thesymptoms, they're gonna keep
showing up because they'retrying to wave a red flag to let
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you know, not because you'rebroken, but because your body is
brilliant.
And I've said this over and overagain in all my podcasts.
Your body will adapt to theprogram it is running, so it's
bracing, it's protecting, andit's waiting for you to stop
fighting it and start listeningto it.
And that's what we're doingnext, because you can't change
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what you're still performing.
So let's dive into identity.
If your identity is built onbeing the strong one, the
reliable one, the get shit done,one, then slowing down, well,
it's not just uncomfortable,it's threatening because rest
doesn't just mean rest.
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Stillness doesn't just meanstillness.
Stillness means meeting yourselfand for the most high achieving
women, that's the scariest part.
It's not just the deadlines,it's not the to-do list.
It's the silence.
Because in the silence,everything your nervous system
has been avoiding starts torise.
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The grief, the resentment, therage, the loneliness, it shows
up.
Uniquely for each archetype.
So the sleepless entrepreneur inthe exhausted visionary, she's
not just addicted to caffeine,she's addicted to forward
motion, right?
Because stomping would mean thatfeelings come up, and those are
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the ones that say, if I slowdown, I'll fall behind.
If I don't stay visible, I'll beforgotten.
But underneath that, there's adeep unspoken fear that if I
stop performing, I'll lose myworth.
So she keeps going, laptop,open, mind racing, body
unraveling.
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But the truth is that shedoesn't trust rest because she's
never been shown that she's safewithout the hustle.
And for the perfectionist, highachiever for the outside, she's
polished, she's precise, she'sperfect.
But inside she's holding it alltogether with a clenched jaw and
a braced gut.
And underneath all that controlis fucking rage.
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Rage that no one sees how hardshe's trying, rage that she's
always has to keep it together.
Rage that if she just letsherself soften, everything might
collapse and woven through thatrage is grief.
Grief for the little girl whoonly felt love when she got it
right, who equated approval withachievement, who still doesn't
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know how to rest without guilt?
That's not discipline.
That's a defense.
And then when we look at theover committed achiever, well,
she says yes before the questionis finished.
She shows up, she handles it.
She delivers.
And to a lot of people insociety that's respected.
But when you ask her how shefeels, she doesn't know because
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for her identity is productivityand her nervous system has been
trained to believe that beingneeded equals loved.
And so she disappears into otherpeople's needs even when it's
costing her her health, her joy,her sense of self.
So what she's really carrying isactually resentment.
So much fucking resentment forhow often she's been there for
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others while no one ever showedup for her.
And beneath that well, it's aquiet, aching type of
loneliness.
It's the kind that you feel evenin a crowded room, honestly,
especially in a crowded room,because you can be surrounded by
people and still feel invisiblewhen you've abandoned yourself.
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This is why identity work isn'tjust a bonus in healing.
It is the core because you cantake the supplements, you can
drink the bone broth, you can dothe red light therapy and still
feel like shit.
Why?
Well, because your nervoussystem doesn't heal when it
feels unsafe, and the biggestthreat to safety is a self that
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you're still pretending to be.
So here's the truth bomb.
You don't need a new protocol.
You need a permission slip togrieve the version of you who
survived by doing to feel thefeelings that you were too busy
to feel, to stop performinghealing, and actually let it
land.
Because the moment that you stopoutsourcing your worth to what
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you do, that's the moment yourbody starts remembering who you
are.
And that my love is where thereal healing begins.
So where do we go from here?
Because maybe right now you'resitting with this pit in your
stomach, a mixture of relief andgrief, like someone finally
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named what you've been carrying.
But now that's.
It's in the light.
It's just kinda like you can'tunsee it.
And I get it because when Ifirst started to notice this
pattern in myself, I too was alittle excited and also a little
insulted, right?
Because how abrasive of you toget all up in my business,
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right?
You don't owe me, but I wastalking to myself.
And my ego wanted to protect me,and it wanted to deny, and it
wanted to tell me that, no,that's not me.
When all the facts were right onpaper.
Right?
The truth is, is that whenyou've been performing for
safety your whole life, the ideaof not performing can feelter
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terrifying, like pulling theplug on the only power source
you've ever known.
But here's the truth.
You don't regulate a nervoussystem by muscling your way into
stillness.
You regulate it by creatingconditions for safety, because
if your body has spent decadesin a performance loop, which
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most of us have, or we're wiredfor cortisol, for urgency, for
over-functioning, we're addictedto adrenaline, we're addicted to
the drama, we're addicted to notever getting what we want.
If we're addicted to the pain,we're addicted to the hard, then
rest won't feel safe at first.
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It's going to feel foreign,vulnerable, maybe even
dangerous.
We'll see this in relationshipsand we'll see this in a
relationship to ourself.
It's not a flaw, it's justbiology, and that's why healing
from burnout, like real healingdoesn't start with doing more.
It starts with doing itdifferently.
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So when women come to me and saythat I've tried everything, the
adaptogens, the hormonal panels,the clean eating, the sleep
hygiene, and saying that they'vegotten better for a little
while, but then the symptomscame back, my response is always
the same.
It's because you're trying toheal a survival, survival-based
body with performance-basedtools, and you're biohacking
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your way through burnout, butyour body doesn't want hacks.
It wants to feel safe.
And safety isn't built throughprotocols.
It's built through presence.
So here's what I teach inside myembodied framework, which I
apply through my Embodiedprogram, along with my
one-on-one clients.
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And yes, we work with thebiology.
We look at gut health hormones,blood sugar, drainage pathways,
but we also look at your beliefsbecause if your inner narrative
still sounds like I'm onlyworthy when I'm productive and
that I have to earn my rest, orthat healing has to be hard to
be effective, then your body'sgonna keep bracing.
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It's gonna keep blocking andit's gonna keep filtering every
well-intentioned supplementthrough a survival lens.
So you'll eat the perfect antiinflammatory meal, but digest it
through a clenched jaw and ashutdown vagus nerve.
You'll meditate daily, butyou'll still wake up exhausted
because your adrenals don'ttrust the calm.
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Right.
Your body will continuouslyrebound back to the survival
program that is running it untilwe reprogram the body.
And this is why we work layer bylayer.
We map out your nervous systempatterns.
We re-pattern your identity andwe re-regulate, release and
rebuild because your nervoussystem won't fully heal if your
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gut is inflamed and your gutwon't fully heal if your nervous
system is still in fight orflight.
It's a both.
And so this is where healingbecomes sustainable, and this is
when the doing softens and thebeing becomes enough.
Because you don't need a betterprotocol.
You need a better relationshipwith your body.
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You don't need more hustle, youjust need more honesty.
And that starts with one bravequestion.
What if I didn't have to earn myhealing?
I want you to sit with that,breathe into it and let it land.
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Because when your body finallybelieves that it's safe to
receive, that's when thesymptoms begin to melt.
That's when energy returns andthat's when healing stops being
something you chase and itbecomes something you embody.
Now we've peeled back a goodamount of layers of burnout, all
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the survival patterns andidentity loops.
I wanna show you what itactually looks like to heal from
the root, because this is thepart of healing that no one's
taught you.
Not in therapy, not in yourwellness protocols, not in your
clean eating cookbooks.
And it's not your fault.
It's just most healing modelsare designed to treat the
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surface, not the source.
But here, you know me, we embodythis and it's no bs.
We do it differently.
So inside my framework, we blendthe science of nervous system
repair with soul of identityre-patterning.
We work with your gut, yourhormones, your energy, but we
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also work with the subconsciousbeliefs, keeping you braced and
survival, and at the core ofwhat it is, is what I call the
neuro identity evolutionmethodology.
Because the woman your body iswaiting to become, she doesn't
hustle for health, she doesn'tmicromanage symptoms, and she
knows how to listen, how tolead, how to live inside a body
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that feels like home.
So let me walk you through thefour layers that we work with.
Each one helping you shift fromfixing to feeling safe to
receive.
Layer one is the root cause,right?
The deep inner work.
So we're gonna skip the surfacelevel hacks.
You've done the celery juice,the biohacks, the somatic Sunday
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routines, and still you feellike something's missing.
Why?
Well, it's because what you'refeeling in your body today
started long before thebloating, the burnout, or the
brain fog showed up.
It started with the emotionalblueprint.
The moment that you learned restwas lazy.
The perfection got you.
Love that.
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Being easygoing kept you peace,and that's what your nervous
system built itself around, andthat's why your body has been
responding to this this wholetime.
So when a client comes to mesaying, I'm doing everything
right and still feeling off,well, I help her find the first
time her body felt that waybecause the body never forgets.
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It holds on to moments thatyou've long left behind until
you learn how to meet them.
And so we don't rush this part.
We sit with what rises and wemeet the inner child, the
protector part, the performerinside you, not to fix them, but
to really free them.
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Healing begins when you stop bypassing those patterns, so the
next time you feel overwhelmed,I invite you to pause.
Notice what's coming up.
Ask when was the first time Ifelt this way and sit with it.
Right?
Don't run.
This is the work.
Sitting with what rises withoutjudgment and meeting the younger
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version of you with compassion.
Healing isn't about fixingwhat's broken, it's about
uncovering the parts of you thatwere never broken to begin with.
The next level is reallymastering the mind body
connection.
So here's the thing, most womenare stuck in their heads and
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they're disconnected from theirbodies.
They try to heal by thinking theway out of burnout, chronic
symptoms or anxiety, but themind isn't the enemy.
It's the tool.
Your nervous system is theswitchboard.
So it controls how you digestyour food, regulates your
hormones, and managesinflammation.
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So when your body feels unsafe,even subconsciously, the nervous
system flips into survival mode.
So symptoms are simply thebody's waving a red flag.
So healing isn't about addingmore protocols, it's about
teaching the body safety again.
So.
Let me remind you, your bodyknows how to heal.
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It's programmed too, but if yoursubconscious patterns are
running the show, your body willstay in overdrive, and that's
why reconnecting to your bodythrough somatic practices and
nervous system regulation andemotional release is key.
So you can smart small withseven minutes of breath work
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before your day begins, doing afour by seven by eight breath
work pattern.
Breathing in through your nose,through four, holding for seven,
and releasing with eight secondsthrough the mouth.
You can apply three pauses inyour day and feel your feet on
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the ground and breathe deeply.
Check in with yourself.
What were you thinking about?
Were you on autopilot?
Because it doesn't really haveanything to do with whether or
not you're meditating in themorning and drinking your green
juice at night and writing agratitude list later.
What are you doing the other 20hours of your day, 14 hours of
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your day, whatever.
And allowing yourself to checkin with nature, even if it's
just standing barefoot in thegrass.
These moments, making sure thatyou are not going offline all of
the time is what actually makesthe greatest shift.
Checking in with yourself beforeyou're eating, regulating your
nervous system, before you eat,while you eat, and after you eat
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these micro moments, reset thenervous system and they send the
message that I am safe.
They play the story for themacro.
You cannot outthink your way tohealth, but you can feel your
way there.
The next one up is shifting yourrelationship with fear.
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This is a huge one.
Because fear isn't the villain,it is the guardian, and this is
something that I dive very deepin with my clients.
It's the whole container,understanding your biology, the
biology of your fear response,and how it shows up within your
body because your biologicalfear response is your biological
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stress response.
And that fear that you feelabout resting and slowing down
or addressing your deeper healthissues, it's not weakness.
It's just your subconscioustrying to protect you.
It's the part of you that'safraid, and it's simply saying,
I remember the last time that welet go and it didn't feel safe.
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But your job isn't to silencethat voice.
It's to think it, because theshift is that fear is the
compass.
It's your green light to go.
Anytime you feel fear, you'restepping outside of your comfort
zone, and you're stepping intothe unknown, which means you're
stepping outside of youridentity and you're building a
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new one.
So every quantum leap in health,business or relationship starts
with trust.
Trusting your body's signals,trusting that you don't have to
hustle to heal and trusting thatslowing down won't cause
everything to fall apart.
And to do that, this brings usto the next step, which is
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embodying her, your future.
You, the person in your vision,the healed, grounded, thriving
version of you that alreadyexists.
I'm not asking you to becomeher, I'm asking you to remember
her to embody her.
Because if you feel disconnectedfrom your health or your body,
here's the question I want youto sit with.
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What would the version of me whofeels whole do in this moment?
Would she say yes to the thingsthat drain her energy?
Would she ignore the exhaustionor would she choose rest?
Would she micromanager healingor would she trust the process?
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Let her lead.
She knows when to pause.
She doesn't chase health.
She aligns with it.
She doesn't look for answersoutside of herself.
She listens inward and you arealready her.
This is just your invitation tolet that part of you take the
wheel.
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So many times I think that thebiggest part of our inability to
heal is actually our lack ofconnection with the divine.
It is the lack of connection toour higher self, right?
She's not some far off fantasy.
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She's already living inside ofyou.
She's just buried under survivalpatterns.
We want to embody her and we cando so by realizing that this
isn't just about healingsymptoms.
It's about returning to theversion of you who never had to
earn rest.
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Who knows that being seendoesn't require being useful.
Who doesn't hustle for health?
She receives it.
And when you live from thatplace, your body stops bracing,
your digestion resets, yourhormones balance, your energy
returns.
And it's not because you'redoing more, but because you're
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finally doing less from a placeof permission.
Now, let me tell you aboutKaitlyn, a client who did this.
See on the outside, she waskilling it.
She was a six-figureentrepreneur, mom of two, master
of the calendar and queen of theto-do list, and she had the
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supplements, the clean diet, theinfrared sauna, which I was very
jealous about.
And she was really doingeverything right, and yet she
woke up exhausted.
She couldn't sleep throughoutthe night.
Her digestion was a mess.
Her body felt like a burden thatshe was dragging through every
day and she had daily migraines.
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Then came the moment that reallycracked it all open.
When she was seeing me beforeshe sat down with me, she told
me the reason why she feltmotivated to reach out to me
wasn't necessarily because ofthe symptoms.
She was kind of managing that,but it was when she missed her
daughter's recital.
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And it wasn't because she didn'tcare, it was because she
literally couldn't stop doing.
She couldn't stop working thatday, and that's when she
realized it was her breakingpoint, because behind the
calendar, the self-care, theendless striving was this belief
that she didn't even realize shewas carrying, which was, if I
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stop moving, I'll lose my value.
And if that sounds familiar,it's because it's related to
this archetype.
So many high performing womenare praised for their
productivity while their nervoussystems are silently burning
out.
We wear exhaustion like a badge.
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We confuse urgency withimportance, and we trade
presence for performance.
And Kaitlyn, she didn't needanother protocol.
She needed permission, right?
She needed the ability to knowthat it is safe to slow down,
that it is safe to take a momentbefore she eats, to take a
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moment when she wakes up, totake a moment to learn what
pleasure feels like in her body,because at this point, she'd
been living neck up, doing,doing, doing.
And the symptoms were her body'sway of saying, help me.
I am not being listened to.
I need you to listen to me.
I am not a productivity machine.
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So when she came to me, wedidn't start with supplements.
We started with her story withthe version of her that learned
to equate love with usefulnessthat believed that she had to
earn presence by overproducingthat didn't trust rest, because
stillness once felt likeabandonment.
And through the neuro identityEvolution framework and my
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embodied framework.
What we did together was weopened up her drainage pathways
so that her body could actuallyrelease instead of retain.
We stabilized her blood sugar tostop the energy crashes and
emotional rollercoasters.
We supported her gut-brainaccess, so her mood and
digestion could stop fightingeach other, and most
importantly, we rewired theinternal voice that said rest is
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lazy, and that doing equalsworth.
But the real breakthrough wasn'ton a lab test, right?
It happened one night when herdaughter, she told me and hugged
on her sleeve and said, mom, canwe bake cookies?
Now, old Kaitlin would've said,maybe later, right?
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Old Kaitlin would've poweredthrough the project and missed
another moment.
But this time she took a breathand she asked what would she do?
The version of her that we hadmapped out together.
And in that moment she realizedit was time to close the laptop
and she walked into the kitchenand she let herself be there.
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Flower flying, laughter, echoingcookies that turned out a little
burnt book, completely perfect.
And it was in that moment, youknow, that she told me for the
first time in years, I didn'tfeel like I had to earn that
joy.
It just was there waiting for meto receive it, and everything
else was still there too.
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I didn't miss out on any work.
It was already there waiting forme, but I felt good by spending
time with my child becausethat's what I really was craving
was that connection, was thatdeep resonance with the people
that I loved.
I never had to earn their love.
I just needed to be present.
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And that's really when I knew asa coach to my client, was that
that healing was landing becauseit wasn't just about balancing
hormones or fixing fatigue orgetting rid of the migraines.
It was about reclaiming momentsthat she used to miss.
And here's the beautiful rippleeffect.
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Her daughter now sees a mom whoisn't just productive, but she
sees a mom who's present.
Who models boundaries, who restswithout guilt, and that's
generational healing.
So if you see yourself inCaitlin's story, if you're tired
of performing your worth, righthustling for health and missing
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the life that's happening in thebackground, I want you to know
something.
You're not lazy, you're notfailing, and you don't have to
wait for your body to collapsebefore you listen.
You just have to choosesomething different, not more
effort, not another protocol,but a different energy entirely.
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So if Kaitlyn's story stirredsomething in you, if it cracked,
open a memory or mirrored yourown exhaustion, you're not
alone.
I totally get it.
And you're not crazy.
You're just running anarchetypal pattern that your
body had to create to feel safe.
But here's the truth, bomb.
Most wellness spaces are notgonna deliver.
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Your symptoms are rooted in yoursurvival strategy and healing.
It's not just about removingwhat's blocking you, it's about
activating what can move youforward.
So I call these limiters andlevers.
So the limiters of thisunconscious survival responses
keeping you stuck, and thelevers are the keys, the micro
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shifts that unlocktransformation in real time.
So let's map these out throughthe archetypes that we explored
today.
So for the exhausted, visionary,sleepless entrepreneur, the
limiter is the flight response,right?
You run on adrenaline andambition.
You chase ideas, clients, andclarity.
Like your nervous system dependson it because it does, and you
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tell yourself, I'll slow downonce I get through this launch.
But that launch never ends.
Right.
Your pattern is the late nightwired energy, the midday crashes
and rebound cortisol.
The gut issues that flare underpressure and a body that
confuses stillness with danger.
But your lever is that rest isyour success strategy.
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Rest is a money-making activity.
So it's not the performativekind with your phone in hand.
I'm talking about the kind whereyour body actually exhales
without guilt.
Your drive isn't the problem,but it needs regulation to
become power, not poison.
So try this.
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I want you to interrupt yoururgency.
Create one.
No do window daily.
So block off time to literallydo absolutely nothing.
And I really want you to watchif this is performative, because
you can do this and be like, ohyeah, I took a day off, but were
you really resting?
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Were you really in your body?
Were you actually present in themoment?
Let your nervous system learnthat slowing down won't cost you
everything.
Now for the perfectionist, yourlimiter is the freeze response.
Again, these are alladaptations.
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So when I say limiter, I don'twant you to think that these are
bad things.
They did everything they need todo to protect you, to keep you
safe, but right now it'slimiting you, right?
So you look composed, organized,impressive, but internally,
you're holding your breath.
You're stuck between should Irest and have I earned it yet?
Right?
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And your pattern ismicromanaging.
Meals, routines, symptoms,obsessing over getting it right,
hormonal chaos beneath polishedhabits, digestive shutdowns and
mental overdrive, and yourlever, it's gonna be celebrating
in completion.
So yeah, I want you to startbefore you feel ready.
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Your gift is precision.
But healing lives in permission.
So I want you to try this.
Leave the dishes undone for onenight, say the messy thing in
therapy, and let someone see youunderbelly, not just in your
high rate reel.
Like, I don't know what you dofor a living, but I want you to
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do it messy or create somethingand then throw it away.
Your body doesn't needperfection.
It needs proof that it's stilllovable in the mess.
So maybe this looks like notcompleting 10,000 steps a day
'cause I see you, girl.
Maybe this means not wearingyour smartwatch to track your
steps.
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Maybe this means not having aplan one day and allowing it to
just flow, not making sure thatyou eat perfectly.
Not making sure that you haveall the supplements, right?
There's so many differentcircumstances that you can let
this be undone and let this bemessy'cause your gift is
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precision.
But you need to give yourselfpermission to flow through this
and start before you're ready.
Now the over committed achiever.
Your limiter is the flightdorsal flip.
So you say yes before your bodyhas time to vote, right?
You juggle everyone else's needsand forget that you have your
(45:58):
own.
Then you crash hard and theguilt drags you back into
hustle.
So your pattern, it's constantoverwhelm, followed by shutdown,
digestive distress, bloating,slow metabolism, numbness around
joy, pleasure, and boundaries.
Your identity is built onusefulness and worthiness and
(46:20):
your lever, right?
This is gonna be, boundaries areself rescue, so you're not lazy
when you rest.
You're rewiring your entirelineage, so try this.
Say, I'll get back to youinstead of Yes.
Build pauses between calendarblocks, right?
(46:42):
Make sure you have time inbetween those.
You do not need to be the yesman.
Notice the part of you thatpanics when you're not busy and
hold her with compassion.
This isn't about balance, it'sabout breaking the contract that
says your exhaustion is whatmakes you valuable.
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So become the person that says,I'll sleep on it.
Give yourself space to come backinto your own energy and figure
out what is yours and what istheirs.
These archetypes are not cages.
They are compasses.
And your body already knows theway home.
(47:24):
So start with your limiter andmeet it with curiosity.
Then gently choose your leverand commit to one small nervous
system safe action this week,because healing doesn't happen
through force, it happens toremembering what safety feels
like in your cells.
And if you're feeling the shiftfrom this episode, I'm so
(47:44):
excited for you because it meansthat it's already started.
It means that you're becomingaware.
And in order to change, we mustbecome aware.
So if you saw yourself in thisepisode today, whether in the
wired at midnight, fatigue, theache behind your ambition or the
guilt that creeps in every timeyou think about resting, I want
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you to hear this loud and clear.
I love you.
You are enough.
Your worth is your birthright.
There's nothing left for you todo.
There's nowhere to be.
Your exhaustion isn't acharacter flaw.
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It is your nervous system doingexactly what it was trained to
do, which is survive, and theburnout you're feeling.
It's not because you're doingtoo much, it's because you've
never felt safe doing less.
Let that land.
This isn't your fault, but nowthat you see the pattern, it is
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your opportunity.
Because awareness isn't passive,it's active, and when you can
name the pattern, you can rewirethe path.
So here's your invitation thisweek.
What would it look like to stopchasing health and start
allowing it?
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What's one lever, just one thatyou're ready to pull?
And what belief are you ready tostop outsourcing your worth to
let that live in your body?
Not as pressure, not as a task,but as a felt sense of
possibility.
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Let your healing begin with yourhumanity, not in spite of it.
And if this episode crackssomething open, if you felt seen
named, unraveled in the bestway, then keep walking with me
because next week we're shiftinginto a whole new archetype.
The woman who disappears intoeveryone else's needs, the
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helper, the over giver, the onewho can hold space for everyone
except herself.
Yep.
We're going there.
We're diving into theself-sacrifice pillar.
And trust me, it's gonna stir upsome deep truths and sacred
reclamations.
But until then, be kind to theparts of you that are still
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learning how to rest.
Notice where you brace.
And remember, you're not here toearn your enoughness.
You're here to embody it.
I'll see you next week, and Ican't wait to hear how you like
this episode.
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