April 22, 2025 • 51 mins
Bloated, burnt out, and still not pooping—even though you're doing everything "right"? This episode is your gut check.
We’re not talking fiber hacks or TikTok smoothies. We’re talking the real reason your gut is inflamed, your metabolism is sluggish, and your body is holding onto waste, weight, and wounds—because in survival mode, letting go feels unsafe.
Inside this episode, Lauren Michelle Jewel unpacks:
- The root causes of constipation, candida, and hormonal chaos
- How trauma and nervous system dysregulation disrupt digestion
- The gut-brain connection and science of Psycho-Neuroimmunology
- What “spiritual constipation” really means
- A client case study (Lexi) who healed from the inside out
- Plus: Lauren’s $1,000 ER poop story that changed everything
Because your gut isn’t broken—it’s holding onto what you haven’t felt safe enough to release.
🌀 This episode dives into:
• Gut health, boundaries & emotional suppression
• Constipation, trauma, and nervous system freeze
• Metabolism, inflammation & chronic stress
• Somatic healing, identity evolution, and true integration
🎧 Listen if you're ready to:
→ Understand the emotional roots of your gut issues
→ Break free from perfectionism, people-pleasing, and control
→ Stop outsourcing your healing and start embodying it
→ Let go of the weight (physical + emotional) you’ve been carrying for years
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• Get the Body Love Blueprint for Somatic + Emotional Integration
• Apply for the 6-Month 1:1 Total Body Rewiring Immersion
• DM Lauren “REWIRE” on Instagram @laurenmichellejewel
Let this episode be your permission slip to stop micromanaging your body and finally start partnering with it.
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if you're bloated, anxious,exhausted, and can't remember
the last time you pooped.
This episode isn't justrelatable.
It's your biologicalintervention because your gut,
she's not just holding ontofood, she's holding onto fear,
control, grief, rage, andemotional contracts.
You didn't even remembersigning.
(00:25):
This is not about probiotics,smoothies, or green juice.
Influencers whispering aboutfiber on TikTok.
This is about the real reason.
Your gut is inflamed, yourhormones are chaotic, and your
body is burning out on thedaily.
It's because you've been holdingit all in.
The truth, the sadness, the no,you never said the identity you
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outgrew, but never got to brew.
Today we're breaking the silenceon what your gut's been
screaming through your symptomsand why healing doesn't start
with another protocol.
It starts with learning how tolet go of everything you've been
gripping onto just to survivebecause the body keeps the
score, but your gut girl, shekeeps the receipts.
(01:10):
So let's dive in.
Welcome to Embody this, the NOBS Healing podcast for women who
are done playing small.
I'm Lauren Michelle Jewel, asingle sober business owning
badass who's been humbled ashell.
By healing.
I'm not someone who's just livedit.
I've studied it, coached it, andhelped women walk through it for
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over seven years, specializingin mind, body health, gut brain
science, and nervous systemhealing.
I work with women who've triedit all.
The therapy, the diets,supplements, self-help books,
but still feel disconnected fromtheir bodies, their health and
their truth.
Because here's the thing,healing isn't a trend.
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It's not an aesthetic, it's notan identity.
Healing is embodied.
And let me be so real with you,it's hard as fuck and it's also
rewarding as fuck.
I've walked through the issuesthat made me feel like a
stranger in my own body.
Nervous system crashes that leftme wired and exhausted and
identity breakups that shatteredeverything I knew about myself.
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And what I've realized is, isthat modern healing models are
failing us.
Everything is compartmentalized.
Go to therapy.
They say, take the supplements,do the inner work, but no one
teaches us how to actuallyintegrate it.
This show is for you if you'reready to rethink healing.
It's not about being perfect.
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It's not about being a wellnessinfluencer, and it's not about
having a PhD in biohacking.
It's about undoing, unlearning,and finally, coming home to
yourself.
Quick disclaimer, this podcastis for educational purposes
only.
It's here to expand your mind,challenge your old narratives,
and empower you with knowledge.
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It is not a replacement formedical advice.
Always consult a professionalwhen making health decisions.
If I had a dollar for everywoman who told me she doesn't
poop every day, I'd be rollingin it.
And I don't mean cash, I meanbacked up, rage control and
undigested grief.
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Because let's be so real.
We've normalized, not pooping,like it's some quirky feminine
trait.
Girls don't poop, they say, andhonestly, a lot of us don't.
Not because we're delicatelittle flowers, but because
we're spiritually constipated ashell.
We're gripping so tight to whowe think we have to be.
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You know, the strong one, thesilent one, the I'm fine.
One that our bodies areliterally like, cool, cool.
I'll just hold everything in.
And I am not talking aboutmissing a bowel movement every
once in a while.
I'm talking about the epidemicof high achieving, emotionally
constipated women walking aroundwith bloated bellies, foggy
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brains, inflamed skin anxiety,hormonal hell, and a gut that
hasn't felt safe in years.
See, statistically one in fourwomen have chronic constipation.
Scientifically, we know gutissues are directly linked to
anxiety, trauma, immunedysfunction, hormonal chaos, and
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even how you think.
But culturally, we're stilltelling women to take magnesium
and drink celery juice insteadof asking, what the hell are you
holding in?
So let's name it, you're notconstipated because you need
more fiber.
You're constipated because yournervous system doesn't feel safe
enough to let go.
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Of the grief, the rage, thecontrol, the expired identities
and emotional contracts younever got to rewrite.
This isn't about bowelmovements.
This is about body wisdom.
This episode is a gut levelexorcism of everything you've
been told about constipation,healing, and control.
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We're not here to sell you asupplement stack, even though I
got some pretty good ones.
We're here to decode why yourbody's been gripping so damn
hard.
In the first place, you'll learnwhy your nervous system and
immune system are running yourdigestion.
How emotional shutdown shows upas physical symptoms.
What spiritual constipationactually means and how to
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release it.
And the science of psychoneuroimmunology, gut brain
healing and identity evolution.
'cause your gut, she's not justdigesting food, she's digesting
your life.
The shame you swallowed, theboundaries you never set, and
the version of you who alwayshad to hold it together.
This is not about perfection.
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This is about permission.
Permission to feel, to release,to stop performing wellness, and
to actually come home to yourbody.
Because healing doesn't start inyour fridge.
It starts in your fascia.
And this episode, we'll show youwhy.
All right, y'all.
Let me tell you about the time Ihad to go to the ER because I
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was literally full of shit.
Okay?
So it's 2018.
And remember, I'm an activeaddiction.
I'm dating a boyfriend of sevenyears.
We're highly codependent.
And I was living on Pop-Tartsand basically gallon sized root
beer floats every single night.
That's all I ate.
I didn't eat anything else otherthan that.
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And yes, I said gallons.
You know those like absurdcoffee thermos you get at the
truck stops?
Yeah, that was me.
Filled with root beer, floatsice cream and root beer.
It was my have to have everysingle night now, add in no
sleep, and a boatload of pillsand partying like I was allergic
to peace.
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Well, surprise, I hadn't poopedin two weeks.
So at this point, because it wastwo weeks of not being able to
go to the bathroom, I tried touse the liquid magnesium.
So that basically takes all the,uh, liquid and the hydration and
water in your body, and itemergency evacuates you, right?
It's supposed to work.
It works 10 outta 10 times.
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Well, this time it didn't.
So at this point my back hadgone numb.
Like my lower spine was like,nah, nah.
And I could feel the pressureand it was starting to cause me
pain.
So the problem was, was that bythe time I could feel this,
because I was so numb because ofthe medications I was on, I was
working for my father.
And my father was done with me,right?
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He was tired of my bs, this,this is later in my addiction.
I was very codependent with myboyfriend, but also with him.
And I was working for him to payoff some debt that I had.
So I remember going up to him,showing up to work late, of
course, right on brand andsaying, Hey dad.
So like I can't sit or standbecause my back and tailbone are
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numb because I haven't pooped intwo weeks.
Um, I don't know if I can worktoday.
And of course dad being deadlooks at me and he's like, I
really don't care, Lauren.
You owe me money.
Nice try.
So I tried to work it out.
I really did.
I tried to sit down and Icouldn't.
So I called my sister who's anurse, right?
And I tell her what's going on?
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And she's like, girl.
Get your ass to the hospitalright now.
Go to a patient first.
Just go there.
This is a problem.
This is how your mother died.
She wasn't able to go to thebathroom.
Go now.
Now I'm all nonchalant aboutthis.
I'm like, hell yeah, I don'thave to work.
Come on, call my boyfriend.
He picks me up and we head onover to Annapolis, which is like
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45 minutes away, like, we'regoing to get a latte, right?
I'm like, I'll BRBI gotta go,uh, you know, have them help me
take a shit.
Right?
So obscene again, this wasanother time, it was a different
life for me.
Go in there and I tell themwhat's going on and I don't even
get pulled back into the room.
They're literally like, ma'am.
We're gonna need you to go tothe ER immediately.
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You could die.
And I was like.
What?
I could die.
What do you mean I could die?
And the reason is, is becausewhen you are filled up like this
and you haven't gone to thebathroom, we are usually just
literally full of shit.
Now the problem is, is when wehave a blockage like this,
because I taken the magnesium,it was a clear sign, there was a
blockage, we can rupture, andthen it can cause a toxic
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overload and it can kill us.
So I literally was at the chanceof possibly dying, considering
my back was going numb.
So.
At this point, my boyfrienddrives me over to the ER and I
walk in.
I am expecting to be at the ERfor hours, but guess what?
This is how I knew it was a bigdeal.
They pulled me in no weight atall.
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So cool.
Cool.
Right?
I wasn't in my right mind.
Head on in there, get seen by adoctor immediately.
She's asking me questions.
I tell her I'm on prescriptionOxy.
And at this point in this storytimeline, I was on eight pills a
day, prescribed by my primarydoctor.
Now, was I taking more?
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Hell yeah.
Was I doing other things?
Hell yeah.
It was fucking insane.
But this was a.
Immediate cause of that, right?
These medications cause issueswith digestion, it slows down
our digestion, all of thesethings.
So she immediately preps me forevaluation.
And what evaluation means is sheputs on a glove and she asks me
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to pull my pants down and tellsme to.
Bend over, right?
My boyfriend's sitting rightnext to me, so at this point he
thinks this is like foreplay.
He's loving it.
I bend over, she does theevaluation very, very, very
uncomfortable and completelyjust not what I've had in mind.
And she looks at me and says,wow, you are full of shit.
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I mean, then we already knowthat, right?
So when she does thisevaluation, it obviously makes
me feel like I have to go to thebathroom.
And I'm like, all right, here wego.
That's all we needed to do.
Woo hoo.
But of course, literally nothinghappened.
It was like a pebble.
And if anybody's ever had thepebble poops, you know how that
feels.
It is the worst.
So she tells me we're doing thewhole shebang.
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We're gonna take an x-ray to seehow much you're full of shit.
We're gonna do an IV enema,we're gonna do a manual enema
and we'll see however you needto get the shit out.
We will make sure it happens.
I'm like, what is going on rightnow?
Okay, this is not gonna be fun.
Meanwhile.
I am sitting there waiting inthe room to be taken back to get
an x-ray and she comes in thedoctor and she's like, Lauren, I
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have good news.
I was speaking with a doctorfriend of mine who specializes
with people who take opiates andthere's a new medication now
that actually is being used forpeople who take opiates by
prescription that will help youuse the bathroom and relieve the
constipation.
Cool.
Cool.
Right?
Yeah.
Yeah.
I said, okay, cool.
Great.
Thinking it would be a pill.
Very easy solution.
Wham, bam outta there.
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Nope.
She pulls out the needle andshe's like, I'm gonna need you
to lift your shirt up and I'mgoing to give you a shot in your
belly.
Well, well, well, let me tellyou what happened next.
She gives it to me and withintwo seconds I just remember a
flush feeling.
Sweat starts pouring down mybody, I look at her and
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literally yell, I need to go.
Now.
And I realize I'm not in a roomwhere there's a bathroom.
There's literally no bathroom.
I'm behind a sheet in a sharedER pod, so she hands me a pan
and I proceed to destroy threeof those bad boys.
I'm sweating.
Crying It smells like somethingdied and was reincarnated just
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to die again.
Like y'all.
I was not.
Well, I was holding on for dearfucking life, and this is the
funniest story to ever tellbecause not only was I dying mid
bracing the bowls and handingthem over to the doctor at this
point, my boyfriend decides tocome in and of course I'm like,
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what the fuck are you doinghere?
It's very chaotic.
Tell him to get the fuck outtahere.
Right.
You know what I mean?
Like what is he doing?
Okay?
He just looks at me like a.
Scared deer doesn't know what todo.
He is like, oh my God, I'msweating, crying, all these
things.
And then he gets out and ofcourse the x-ray tion comes in
because I was supposed to getthe x-ray.
That was a complete fail.
Looked at him.
I was like, what the fuck?
Can you please leave?
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Give me some goddamn privacy.
I'm holding on for deer life,right.
So as I am holding on for dearlife, the funniest thing
happens.
I guess because I'm in a shadedroom.
Everyone around here can smellit.
I mean, it is being broadcastedacross the entire ER room.
I honestly feel bad.
I should be sued, and at thispoint I start to hear, hear,
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cheering, clapping.
It was a slow clap like.
Woo hoo.
You did it, girl.
It was all the nurses andwhoever else was in there,
because I was definitely lettingthem know, telling me, good job,
you did it.
You took a shit and you didn'tdie.
Like I just won the damn SuperBowl.
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Fast forward to months later,I'm sober working on my credit.
And guess what shows up?
It's a medical bill from that ERvisit.
Thousand dollars.
$1,000 to take a shit in a panbehind a sheet.
Tell me, healing isn't humbling.
Now, here's the kicker.
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Even after getting sober, eatingwell, working out, doing all the
things, I was still constipated.
I had all the right supplements.
I had the magnesium, the herbs,the gut powders, and nothing was
changing.
Because the blockage was neverjust physical, it was emotional,
and I was still holding on tothe grief, to the control, to
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the rage, and I was way tooafraid to express it.
See the people pleasing and thegripping so tight to who I
thought I had to be.
That was my body's way ofliterally saying I could not
release it.
I see this in my clients everydamn day.
Women who are emotionallyconstipated, suppressing their
truth.
Swallowing their boundaries,overachieving their way into
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burnout and wondering why theirgut is a disaster.
The science backs us up.
When your drainage pathways areblocked, your lymph backs up and
your liver gets sluggish, yourhormones recirculate and your
nervous system gets stuck insurvival mode.
You can't supplement your wayoutta that.
So what we might think is justconstipation actually is a
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massive indicator that we aregoing to have issues not only
with metabolism, but withthyroid health, with our mental
health, with anxiety, so manydifferent things start showing
up.
It's a trickle down effect.
So I always say when I'm workingwith clients, if your drainage
pathways are not open, we willnot begin any type of protocol
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that has to do with.
Losing weight because they bothhave to coincide with each
other.
So think of it like this.
My body was a clenched fist andit was gripping so tightly to
control that it forgot how toopen and release.
Your colon isn't just storingfood, it's storing what you
haven't emotionally processed,the stories you never finished
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the truth you never told, andthe rage you swallowed with a
smile.
So ask yourself, what am Iafraid to let go of?
What emotions am I suppressing?
Where in my life am I grippingway too tightly because your
body will let go when you do.
We just need to learn to allowthat to happen.
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So, yeah, my a thousand dollarsshit was unforgettable.
But here's the thing that reallycracked me open.
It wasn't the ER trip.
It wasn't the pan behind thesheet.
It wasn't even the mortifyingapplause from the nurses.
It was the realization that evenafter I got sober, cleaned up my
diet, hit the gym, and stockedup my cabinet with every gut
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supplement known to Instagram, Istill wasn't pooping because
what I really needed to release.
Wasn't in my colon, it was in mynervous system.
You know, the control, theoverachieving, the swallowed
truth, the good girl performanceI'd been running since
childhood, and that my love iswhere we enter survival mode
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because chronic constipation,mystery inflammation, the skin
issues, the mood swings, the gutthat refuses to cooperate.
They're not random.
They are biological responses toemotional overload.
So let's zoom out.
Let's get nerdy and grounded,and let's decode what's actually
going on in your body when itfeels too dangerous to let go.
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So science time, but let's makeit sexy and let's talk about
psycho neuroimmunology.
This is the study of how yourthoughts, emotions, nervous
system, and immune system areall interwoven.
When your body perceives athreat, whether emotional,
physical, or energetic, itactivates your HPA axis, your
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hypothalamus pituitary adrenalglands, and this kicks off a
cortisol storm.
Your body reroutes blood awayfrom digestion and flames your
tissues and locks everythingdown to protect you.
Now add in the gut brain accessthat two-way communication
highway between your entericnervous system, AKA, your gut
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brain, and your central nervoussystem.
Your vagus nerve is the literalbridge between your belly and
your brain.
So when you're in chronicstress.
That bridge gets flooded andyour digestion slows.
Your gut lining breaks down,your microbiome goes rogue, and
your immune system getsoveractive, confused, and
inflamed.
And this is why trauma,perfectionism, people pleasing
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and emotional shutdown, show upas bloating, constipation, food
sensitivities, skin issues,hormonal chaos, and those
mystery symptoms.
Doctors just can't explain.
It is not in your head.
It's in your wiring.
It's in your immune response,it's in your gut.
And it's all connected.
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This is root cause healing.
Not find the perfect supplementroot cause, but reprogram your
system for safety and digestion.
Root cause.
Now your gut is basically yoursecond brain cough.
Cough.
It's the real brain.
It's lined with over 500 millionnerve cells and about a hundred
million neurons, and it talks toyour actual brain through your
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vagus nerve, AKA, your body'semotional hotline.
This isn't some woowoo concept.
This is backed by real research.
Your gut feels before your braineven registers what's happening.
And when you're in fight orflight, your digestion isn't a
priority.
Your body shuts that system downfaster than that X who got
blocked.
See, blood gets rerouted awayfrom your gut.
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Gut lining starts to break down.
Your stomach acid goes haywire,and your microbiome gets tossed
into chaos, and inflammationstarts throwing a little house
party.
When your nervous systemperceives danger, your gut goes
into lockdown like a cityclosing its gates during an
invasion.
Translation.
Constipation is a survivalstrategy.
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It's your body's way of saying,we're not safe to let go Now.
The same way you clinging to anold relationship, a job you hate
or an illusion of control, yourcolon is gripping too, because
letting go would mean trusting,surrendering, being vulnerable,
and your system's not down forthat.
Yet I see this with my highachieving, high functioning
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people, pleasing clients everydamn day.
Their digestion's wrecked.
Their sleep is trash, theirhormones are fried, and they're
wondering if maybe they justneed more magnesium.
Girl.
No, we do not need to overdoseon magnesium.
I've been there, I've done it,but I promise you that is a
solution, but it doesn'tactually get to the root.
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You need emotional safety.
So something that reallyresonated with me was a saying
that you can only digest yourfood as much as you can digest
your life, and you can onlydigest your life as much as you
can digest your food.
So if you can't emotionallyprocess an experience, your gut
will physically hold onto it.
So let me break this down foryou.
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I learned this through the NeoEmotional Release Institute.
Now, the stomach, that is themental critic of your body.
It doesn't just break down food,it breaks down your beliefs,
your self-worth, your innerdialogue.
Chronic stomach issues meansthat there's shame, there's
self-judgment.
That's your nervous systemsaying, I can't process this
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reality.
Then when we move on to thesmall intestine, this is where
nutrients get absorbed, but alsowhere you absorb life.
If you grew up constantly tryingto earn love, meet unmet needs,
or walk on eggshells, your smallintestine remembers it's
literally coated with your earlyimprint of, am I allowed to
receive?
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Okay.
Then moving to the largeintestine.
This baby is all about release,but here's the kicker.
If you never learned how to letgo emotionally, do not be
surprised when your body mimicsthat pattern.
Your colon is like, excuse me, Iam not done processing that
breakup from 2016.
So, no ma'am, we are not poopingtoday.
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And here's where identityhijacks the whole system.
When your nervous system hasbeen shaped by trauma
abandonment or being forced togrow up too fast, you don't just
cope.
You become the coping.
You build an identity aroundcontrol, around competence,
around keeping your shittogether while your insides are
screaming.
You become the high achievingperfectionist, the emotionally
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fluent fixer, the ride or diepeacekeeper who always answers
the phone but never answers herown needs in your gut.
She clocks it all because she'snot here for the performance.
She doesn't care how totogether.
You look on paper, she's tunedinto one thing only, and that
is, are we safe?
See your digestion doesn'trespond to your to-do list.
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It responds to your truth.
So if you're always the strongone, the one who gets shit done,
but literally can't take a shit,that's not a coincidence.
That is a somatic rebellion.
You don't have constipation.
What we have is a spiritualconstipation, a spiritual
deficit.
It is your body's way of saying,I cannot move forward until you
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stop pretending you're fine.
The moment your inner worldbecomes unsafe, your gut steps
in as the bodyguard.
She's like, cool.
We're not safe enough to let go.
Got it.
I'll store it all.
And the grief it packs into thelungs and large attest, the rage
that gets stored in the liver,the fear that's wrapped up in
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your fascia and the unspokentruth, it's lodged in your gut.
And that's how you end upcarrying energetic weight that
no amount of green powder canfix.
Think of it like this.
Your gut is your emotionalinbox, and if you've never
cleared out the spam, AKA, yoursuppressed feelings, outdated
roles and emotional contracts,you'll never get to the stuff
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that matters.
So no healing your gut isn'tabout adding more supplements,
celery juice, or following thatinfluencer who talks about fiber
like its religion, it's aboutsubtraction.
Stripping away everything you'vebeen holding onto just to
survive.
Because if your bloating,burnout, and constipation keeps
coming back, despite doing allthe right quote unquote things,
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your body's not broken.
It's fucking brilliant.
It's not about what you'reputting in it.
It's about what you haven't letout.
Your gut isn't resisting.
She's just waiting for safety.
So now that we've unpacked howsurvival mode shuts down your
gut, let's talk about theunspoken trigger that's keeping
you there.
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It's not just trauma, it's whatyou had to become because of the
trauma.
It's how you were conditioned tocope.
You didn't just learn tooverride your gut feelings.
You learn to override yourboundaries, and that's where
things get real somatic, realfast.
Because your gut lining, it'snot just physical, it's
energetic.
And if your emotional firewallhas been down since childhood,
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your gut lining is like, betlet's leak everything.
So let's go there.
Let's talk about boundaries, notthe cute kind you journal about
and ignore.
I mean, the kind that you tellyour body.
We're safe now.
You don't have to hold it all.
Because the thing that nobodytells you in the wellness
culture is that your emotionalboundaries are mirrored in your
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gut, one for one as within, sowithin when you're emotionally
porous, your gut lining becomesphysically porous too.
When you say yes to whatviolates you, your immune system
starts to glitch, and when youswallow your truth, your colon
says, bet I'll hold onto it.
Think of your gut lining like asecurity system.
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When your emotional boundariesare weak, everything leaks in
causing chaos inside.
So this is known as leaky gut.
That's emotional permeability.
You're absorbing other people'sprojections, guilt, shame,
stress, and your body isinflamed because your
self-protection is offline.
So leaky gut is intestinal andpermeability and it will show up
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through severe symptoms, which Ihighly recommend you looking up.
And it was also spoken about inthe last episode where Vaughn,
who's the beautiful breathworkteacher, shared that her leaky
gut was hurt.
Initiation into her healingbecause she had areas in her
life where she was not beinghonest with herself, and she was
being porous with listening towhat she truly desired.
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Next one up is constipation.
The darling of the show today,see, that's usually linked to
emotional shutdown where yourbody's like, Nope, not letting
anything go.
Not safe yet.
And I see this over and overagain.
Clients who eat perfectly, theyjuice, they meditate, they
supplement like pros, but theirgut, it's still wrecked.
And they're wondering why.
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It's because the problem isn'tjust on their plate.
It's in your relationships.
It's in the job that they hate,but won't leave.
It's in the way they or you keepabsorbing guilt that's not
yours.
Faking peace when they'reburning inside, saying, I'm fine
when they're anything but.
And I know you can relate tothis because this is super
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common, and just because it'scommon doesn't mean it's normal
nor acceptable.
Gut health isn't just aboutfood, it's about energetic
consent.
So every time you betray yourtruth, your gut takes a hit.
Every time you don't speak up,your gut internalizes it.
Every time you stay silent tokeep the peace, your gut starts
a war inside of you.
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Because boundaries aren't justsome self-help buzzword.
They are gut medicine every, no,you say to what drains you and
every yes you give to what trulynourishes you.
Every time you choose rest overproving stillness, over pushing
truth of, or politeness, you'reliterally restoring your gut
lining.
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Setting boundaries is likeputting up a no trespassing sign
on your gut.
It tells your body that you aresafe.
Now you do not have to hold onanymore, so let's go even deeper
tight gut junctions equalstrong, energetic boundaries.
So your small intestine isn'tjust about absorbing nutrients,
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it's about absorbing your senseof self.
If you don't know who you arewithout performing, fixing or
fawning, you're gonna beinflamed, anxious, reactive, and
exhausted.
So your gut is your firstboundary.
It's your primal protector.
When you override that instinctfor the sake of being liked,
chosen or validated, you'resending your body one message.
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It's not safe to be me.
And your gut listens.
So think about it.
What's the first thing when youenter something into your body?
It goes straight to the gut.
That is the first area that yourbody is accepting information
in.
So the shift is, is that guthealing isn't about adding more
powders.
It's about subtracting people,patterns and performances that
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keep you in a chronic stressloop.
It's about re-parenting the partof you that never felt safe to
say no.
Because when you reclaim your noooh girl, your gut stops bracing
for impact.
And when you stop leakingenergy, your gut stops leaking
too, leaky gut, also means leakybrain, which means that your
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brain will haveneuroinflammation.
So when you stop shrinking tofit others' people's comfort,
your digestion will finallyexpand.
So just remember, yourboundaries aren't selfish,
they're cellular.
They are the blueprint of yourgut brain healing.
But here's the million dollarquestion.
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What happens when your gut'sbeen your boundary for too long?
When your digestion has beensilently saying no on your
behalf because your mouth neverdid.
When your colon is carrying yourgrief, your rage, your silence
because your nervous systemnever felt safe enough to let it
out, that's when your body hitsburnout.
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Not because you're doing toomuch, but because you're holding
too much.
So let's set the recordstraight.
Burnout isn't a productivityissue, it's a protection
response.
You've been holding your breath,holding your rage, holding your,
I'm fine holding youroverachiever mask like your life
depends on it.
And guess what?
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Your body noticed and she'stired as hell.
This is where your metabolismgoes.
Let's thrive to let's survive.
Not because you're broken, butbecause you're brilliant,
because your body is conserving,protecting, bracing.
You're not gaining weightinflamed or exhausted because
you're lazy.
You're there because yournervous system has been
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sprinting a marathon with nofinish line and no water break.
Metabolism isn't just aboutcalories.
It's about whether your cellsfeel safe enough to spend
energy, and when your bodydoesn't feel safe, she doesn't
burn.
She hoards fat, water, emotions,trauma, shame, and unspoken
truths.
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It's like trying to unclog adrain by pouring more water on
top.
The blockage, it's not thewater, it's what stuck deep
inside.
So here's the science.
Chronic stress equals constantcortisol and cortisol
dysregulation, disregulates yourblood sugar tanks, your thyroid
depletes your progesterone,inflames your gut, and slams the
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brake on your metabolism.
So you go from burning fuel toliterally burning out.
The translation for this is thatyou're not bad at dieting,
you're just too stressed todigest, too dysregulated to
detox, and too depleted to burnfat.
Your metabolism doesn't want acalorie deficit.
It wants nervous system safety.
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It wants to finely exhale.
It wants to rest without guilt,and it wants to stop feeling
like it has to hustle to stayalive.
And here's the kicker.
Your emotional body plays amassive role in whether your
metabolism is online or offline.
If you're always bracing, you'llburn out.
If you're always proving, you'llplateau.
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If you're always pleasing,you'll store it.
Weight, shame, resentment,trauma, all of it.
And you know what else tanksyour metabolism.
Unprocessed emotions, becauserepressed emotions equal
inflammation, and inflammationequals hormonal chaos.
And hormonal chaos that equalsmetabolic freeze.
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This is the weight lossresistance no one talks about.
You're not just holding onphysical weight, you're holding
emotional weight, trauma weight,caregiver weight.
I never got to fall apartweight.
So if your body is holding on,ask yourself, what am I carrying
that is not mine?
What have I been holding in thatnever got to express?
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Where in my life does weightfeel like protection?
Because here's the realest shitI'll say today.
Emotional safety equalsmetabolic activation.
When your body feels safe, itstops bracing.
When your body stops bracing, itstarts burning.
Not just fat, but the patterns,the fear, the false identity.
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You don't need to shrink.
You need to regulate.
You need to release, you need tostore.
You need to restore your senseof enoughness.
Your metabolism isn't yourenemy.
It's your barometer of how safe,supported, and self-expressed
you really are.
So let's zoom out for a second.
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If your metabolism is tanked,your gut is inflamed, your sleep
is wrecked, and your hormonesare riding a rollercoaster from
hell, it's not because you'reundisciplined.
It's not because you're nottrying hard enough, it's because
your body is trying to protectyou.
But here's the kicker.
If your nervous system stillthinks you're in a war zone,
it's not gonna let you thrive.
It's going to focus on onething, survival.
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See, you can't outs supplementthat.
You can't coal plunge your wayout of that, and you can't fix
it with more control.
This is where we have to stopasking, well, more can I do?
And start asking what does mybody need to feel safe enough to
let go?
And here's what they don't tellyou.
In mainstream wellness, you caneat perfectly.
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You can take all the probiotics,you can track your macros.
You can do the cold plunges, andjournal your heart out under the
full moon and still be bloated,anxious, exhausted, inflamed,
and constipated as hell.
Because your body isn'tresponding to your intellect, it
is responding to your safety.
You are not a machine to beoptimized.
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You are a living, breathing,intelligent system that's
begging to be loved back intorhythm.
So think of constipation andmetabolic resistance like a
loading screen.
Your body is buffering, decidingif it's safe to move forward.
So if you've been doingeverything right and still feel
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stuck, it's not about whatyou're doing, it's about how
your nervous system isexperiencing what you're doing.
This is where we leave surfacelevel health behind, and we
enter the deep waters of rootcause healing, where somatics,
subconscious reprogramming, andemotional safety collide.
'cause your gut doesn't justdigest food, it digests your
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life.
And this pattern started beforeyou were even born.
From the moment you were in thewomb, your nervous system was
learning.
Am I safe to express?
Is love conditional?
What do I need to stayconnected?
If your early environment wasfull of chaos, criticism or
emotional absence, your bodylearned that the only way to
survive was to suppress.
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And that suppression didn't justshape your personality, it
shaped your digestion.
Because when you're suppressedyour truth, your body suppresses
its rhythm.
And when you abandon your needs,your gut abandons, motility.
And when you fear being toomuch, your body literally holds
it all in.
You didn't just learn to silenceyour emotions.
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You learned to silence yourinstincts, to override your gut,
to make yourself digestible toeveryone else while your actual
digestion shuts down.
And this is where your gut andyour identity collide because
your subconscious beliefs aren'tjust mental.
Their somatic, they live in yourfascia, your gut lining, your
posture, your hormone cycles,your microbiome.
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And they dictate what your bodyholds, what it lets go of, and
how safe it feels to existwithout performance.
So your symptoms are not random.
They are encrypted messages fromthe subconscious.
Your body is saying, there issomething I need to feel.
So what does Real Healingrequire?
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Well, it's not anotherelimination diet.
It's not another greens powder.
It's not trying to biohack yourtrauma.
It's creating the conditionswhere your body finally feels
safe to release what has beenprotecting you from all along.
And here's how we do that, bymaking space for the emotions
that never got witnessed.
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By evolving your identity fromthe one who survives, to the one
who sovereignly thrives bycombining targeted nutrition,
nervous system regulation,somatic healing, and
subconscious integration.
This is not just think positive.
This is not just eat clean.
This is root call healing.
That means you need safety todigest, you need the right
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nutrients and microbiomebalance.
You need movement, rhythm, andflow.
And if one of those is offhealing stalls.
So we stopped choosing betweenits trauma or its nutrition and
we reintegrate it all.
We realize your gut isn't justwhere food is broken down.
It's where your emotionalreality, your childhood
programming, and your outdatedidentities are digested and
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transformed.
And healing means.
Finally giving your bodypermission to digest the past,
integrate the present, andbecome the woman you are always
meant to be.
Fully nourished, emotionallysovereign, and deeply safe in
her skin.
'cause when your body feelssafe, it's like unclenching a
fist, it naturally opens,softens, and it lets goes, And
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that's what healing actuallyrequires.
Somatic safety, emotionalsovereignty, identity evolution,
functional nourishment, and awillingness to stop pushing and
start listening.
Because when your body feelssafe, it doesn't need to be
forced.
It lets go of waste of theweight of the wound, of the
pressure of the performance, andthat my love is when the real
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digestion begins.
Don't take it from me.
I wanna share with you a clientcase study, a client that I've
worked with for the past sixmonths named Lexi.
I'm gonna go through how Iworked with her, what it looked
like, and how her constipation,her skin issues were even
connected to candida, but evendeeper, it was connected to her
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nervous system state, emotionalimprints in her environment.
So let's go deeper, because itwasn't just about symptoms, it
was about survival modemasquerading as wellness.
See, when Lexi first came to me,she was already doing everything
right on paper.
She was eating clean, taking thesupplements, living that
crunchy, anti-inflammatorylifestyle, and yet her body was
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still waving the red flag.
Constipation that made her feelstuck and bloated.
24 7 skin flares that popped upoutta nowhere.
Candida that refused to die nomatter how healthy she ate.
And this really had her askingwhat gives, right?
And that's where most peoplestop.
They throw another supplement atit, swap oat milk for raw milk.
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Blame gluten.
But that's not healing.
That's micromanaging.
So here's how we actually workthrough it in phases.
Now, phase one is all aboutestablishing physiological and
emotional safety.
Before we even touch Candidaprotocols or gut supplements, we
focused on creating safetybecause let's be honest, if your
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body doesn't feel safe, it's notgonna let go.
Period.
So we started with mineralbalancing to help stabilize our
nervous system and reduce thatchronic stress signal pulsing
through our cells.
We opened up our drainagepathways, liver, lymph bowels,
because if you can't eliminate,it will recirculate and we can't
detox when you can't drain.
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alongside of that, we began theneuro identity Evolution
framework.
this wasn't just mindset fluff.
It was about identifyingadaptive survival patterns that
she'd been living in fordecades.
Unpacking resistance, not assabotage, but as protection and
looking at limiting beliefs andcould it in her nervous system,
not just her mind.
We integrated somatic practices,lymphatic simulation and
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emotional tracking, so she couldstart feeling what her body was
actually holding, not justtreating what was flaring.
Phase two was all about targetedcandida and digestive support.
So once the body had some safetyand drainage capacity, then we
got strategic.
We zeroed in on candida, but notfrom a kill it with fire
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perspective, but more supportingher gut tearing, while making
targeted nutritional adjustmentsthat didn't involve starvation
or fear.
We discovered that she had lowstomach acid, which was not a
random cork.
It was actually a direct resultof being stuck in freeze,
because when your nervous systemis shut down, digestion
literally slows to a halt.
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There's no fire in the bellybecause your body thinks it's
playing dead.
Makes sense, right?
So we focused on rebuilding herstomach acid, enzyme production,
And gut motility.
And this helped not just withthe candida, but with energy
focus and her ability toactually absorb the nutrients
from her already clean diet.
And here's the part that no onetells you.
Her body was producing glucosefrom the stress response alone.
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So Even though she wasn't eatingsugar, her cortisol driven
physiology was flooding hersystem with it.
That internal sugar spike wasfeeding the candida just as much
as any cupcake would.
that's why her clean diet wasn'tcutting it.
So here's the key.
You use targeted supplements toclear out the candida.
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Yes.
That's great.
You clean up your diet.
Yes, that's great.
But until you work on theenergetic and the nervous system
body, you will constantly resetback.
To your automatic programs.
So what we did was we targetedeach separate system,
identifying and shifting hermindset and her nervous system
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imprints while targeting withsupplements and nutrition.
Now, phase three was all aboutrebuilding and re-patterning.
So after the candida cleared anddigestion was finally back
online, we entered what I callthe real work, which is
integration.
We focused on rebuilding themicrobiome, replenishing
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nutrients, and restoring thebody's baseline for safety.
But we didn't stop there.
See, this is where we got intothe emotional body, the stories,
the shame, the perfectionism,the hidden fear of feeling.
Because if your nervous systemdoesn't trust your emotions, it
won't let your body rest.
And if your mind is stillrunning survival scripts, like,
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if I slow down, I'll fall apart.
Guess what?
Your gut hears that loud andclear.
So we worked on identifying thecore emotional narratives that
she was carrying, releasing thesurvival contract she'd made
with herself to stay in controland re-patterning her nervous
system to recognize stillness assafety and not threatening.
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Another key thing here was herenvironment, so we identified
where there were stressors inher environment, maybe where she
was people pleasing, playing alittle Marty Dom, a little bit
of adapting and kind of editingand auditing her personality and
her emotions to kind of keep thepeace.
And that's where everythingstarted to click.
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But this also meant that she hadto be willing to do this work,
willing to get honest withherself.
Now, not only does she havebetter poops and clearer skin,
but she has true regulation.
Her sense of self changed, hercapacity for present expanded,
and she stopped outsourcing hersafety to her diet, her
supplements or her performance,and started to source it from
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within.
Lexi didn't just heal her gut,she reclaimed her body's
language, And that's what thiswork is all about.
This is not about chasingsymptoms, but actually
translating them into truth.
So if you're nodding along like,holy shit, that's me.
I want you to know that you'renot broken.
Your symptoms aren't setbacks.
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They are sacred initiations,right?
You've done the work, themindset shifts, the journaling,
the therapy, the protocols, thereiki, the green powders, and
gratitude.
You know healing.
You're spiritual, you'reself-aware.
Maybe you even teach this work.
But lately, the symptoms arecreeping in again, the bloating,
the burnout, the brain fog, theemotional swings, the sleep
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disruptions, the hormone chaos.
Your body feels like she'sbacktracking, even though you're
doing everything right.
Here's what no one ever toldyou.
This isn't regression.
It's a revelation.
Your body finally feels safeenough to speak, and she's
asking you to stop performingyour healing and actually embody
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it.
This is your initiation.
This isn't about fixing you.
It's about meeting the versionof you who's been trying to
emerge beneath the layers ofoverworking, overgiving, and
overdoing healing.
You've outgrown the oldidentities, the hustler, the
achiever, the one whounderstands emotion, but still
can't really let herself fullyfeel.
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You've outgrown the copingmechanisms that once saved you,
but now sabotage your expansionand you're ready to heal your
gut without obsessing over food.
Ready to regulate your nervoussystem in a way that feels safe,
not forced.
You're ready to reclaim yourcentral, spiritual sovereign
identity, and you're ready toshift your physiology and your
personality.
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You want and desire to let yourbody lead and finally trust what
it's saying.
If you're ready to stopmicromanaging your body and
start partnering with it.
My six month one-on-one totalbody rewiring immersion is where
that journey begins.
This is where physiology meetspsychology, where the nervous
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system meets soul and where yourbody becomes your channel, not a
burden.
Designed to reconnect you toyour gut, your voice, and your
truth.
Within this commitment, you getbiweekly, 90 minute private
coaching and somatic integrationsessions, custom functional
health blueprint, so guthormones, blood sugar, cortisol,
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circadian rhythm, and nervoussystem support.
I provide targeted supplementsand nutritional strategy so
there's no overwhelmed and onlywhat's aligned.
You'll get voice, text accessfor ongoing support, emotional
processing, and real timereflection, along with the neuro
identity evolution frameworkwhere subconscious patterning,
survival, physiology, andidentity healing intersect along
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with spiritual angering andintuitive channeling when deeper
soul guidance is required.
This is for the woman who hasdone the work but still feels
like something's off, isnavigating a messy middle of
relationships of business, ofidentity.
For the woman who knows she'snot broken, but still just
doesn't feel quite free, iswatching her body speak louder,
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the more she slows down iscraving a mentor who speaks the
language of biology and spiritand wants her healing to feel
holy, embodied, and real.
So here's the thing.
You can know all of this.
You can understand the science.
You can intellectualize themetaphors.
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You can highlight every quote inthis episode and send it to your
group chat like, oh my God, thisis me.
But until your body feels safe,until your nervous system knows
the difference between a patternand a real threat, until your
inner child trusts that she's nolonger alone in her survival
story, nothing shifts.
Not your gut, not your weight,not your cycles, not your
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symptoms, not your self trust.
'cause healing doesn't happenthrough more knowledge.
It happens through embodiedintegration.
So let this be your reminder.
Your body isn't constipated byaccident.
It's holding onto what you areafraid to release old
identities, outdated survivalpatterns and unspoken truth.
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Your gut is not broken.
She's brilliant.
She's your inbox, and if younever clear out that spam, a k,
a, the suppressed emotions,trauma loops, and control
patterns, then the stuff thatreally matters, like nutrients,
joy, safety, freedom, it nevergets digested.
So if this episode hit you inthe gut literally, and you're
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ready to stop managing symptomsand start transforming from the
root, I want to invite you towork with me inside my
one-on-one private coachingcontainer.
This isn't coaching.
This is a cellular reclamation.
You will not leave thiscontainer the same woman who
entered because the symptomsyou're experiencing right now.
They're not your body breakingdown.
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This is your breakthrough.
'cause it's not just about foodor just feelings.
This is about freedom in yourbody, in your mind, in your
entire way of being.
So dm me rewire on Instagram, orclick the link in the show notes
to apply.
And if you're just gettingstarted, don't forget to
download my Ultimate Gut HealingGuide or Body Love Blueprint,
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which is also linked in the shownotes.
This is packed with tangibletools to begin regulating your
gut brain connection today,because your gut, she's not just
digesting your food, she isdigesting your life and your
brain well.
She's listening and she'slearning from every choice you
make.
So choose presence, choose rest,choose emotional sovereignty,
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and most of all, choose to comehome to yourself.
Spiritual constipation in aspiritual deficit simply means a
deficit in connection with self,and the fastest way to disease
is to be disconnected from yourbody.
You're not broken, you're justholding onto what hasn't felt
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safe to let go of until now.
So choose today to reconnectwith your body.
Say hello, feel the sensations,learn the language of your body.
I'll see you in the nextepisode.
And until then, trust your gut.
She knows the way.
if you're bloated, anxious,exhausted, and can't remember
the last time you pooped.
This episode isn't justrelatable.
It's your biologicalintervention because your gut,
she's not just holding ontofood, she's holding onto fear,
control, grief, rage, andemotional contracts.
You didn't even remembersigning.
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This is not about probiotics,smoothies, or green juice.
Influencers whispering aboutfiber on TikTok.
This is about the real reason.
Your gut is inflamed, yourhormones are chaotic, and your
body is burning out on thedaily.
It's because you've been holdingit all in.
The truth, the sadness, the no,you never said the identity you
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outgrew, but never got to brew.
Today we're breaking the silenceon what your gut's been
screaming through your symptomsand why healing doesn't start
with another protocol.
It starts with learning how tolet go of everything you've been
gripping onto just to survivebecause the body keeps the
score, but your gut girl, shekeeps the receipts.
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So let's dive in.
Welcome to Embody this, the NOBS Healing podcast for women who
are done playing small.
I'm Lauren Michelle Jewel, asingle sober business owning
badass who's been humbled ashell.
By healing.
I'm not someone who's just livedit.
I've studied it, coached it, andhelped women walk through it for
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over seven years, specializingin mind, body health, gut brain
science, and nervous systemhealing.
I work with women who've triedit all.
The therapy, the diets,supplements, self-help books,
but still feel disconnected fromtheir bodies, their health and
their truth.
Because here's the thing,healing isn't a trend.
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It's not an aesthetic, it's notan identity.
Healing is embodied.
And let me be so real with you,it's hard as fuck and it's also
rewarding as fuck.
I've walked through the issuesthat made me feel like a
stranger in my own body.
Nervous system crashes that leftme wired and exhausted and
identity breakups that shatteredeverything I knew about myself.
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And what I've realized is, isthat modern healing models are
failing us.
Everything is compartmentalized.
Go to therapy.
They say, take the supplements,do the inner work, but no one
teaches us how to actuallyintegrate it.
This show is for you if you'reready to rethink healing.
It's not about being perfect.
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It's not about being a wellnessinfluencer, and it's not about
having a PhD in biohacking.
It's about undoing, unlearning,and finally, coming home to
yourself.
Quick disclaimer, this podcastis for educational purposes
only.
It's here to expand your mind,challenge your old narratives,
and empower you with knowledge.
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It is not a replacement formedical advice.
Always consult a professionalwhen making health decisions.
If I had a dollar for everywoman who told me she doesn't
poop every day, I'd be rollingin it.
And I don't mean cash, I meanbacked up, rage control and
undigested grief.
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Because let's be so real.
We've normalized, not pooping,like it's some quirky feminine
trait.
Girls don't poop, they say, andhonestly, a lot of us don't.
Not because we're delicatelittle flowers, but because
we're spiritually constipated ashell.
We're gripping so tight to whowe think we have to be.
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You know, the strong one, thesilent one, the I'm fine.
One that our bodies areliterally like, cool, cool.
I'll just hold everything in.
And I am not talking aboutmissing a bowel movement every
once in a while.
I'm talking about the epidemicof high achieving, emotionally
constipated women walking aroundwith bloated bellies, foggy
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brains, inflamed skin anxiety,hormonal hell, and a gut that
hasn't felt safe in years.
See, statistically one in fourwomen have chronic constipation.
Scientifically, we know gutissues are directly linked to
anxiety, trauma, immunedysfunction, hormonal chaos, and
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even how you think.
But culturally, we're stilltelling women to take magnesium
and drink celery juice insteadof asking, what the hell are you
holding in?
So let's name it, you're notconstipated because you need
more fiber.
You're constipated because yournervous system doesn't feel safe
enough to let go.
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Of the grief, the rage, thecontrol, the expired identities
and emotional contracts younever got to rewrite.
This isn't about bowelmovements.
This is about body wisdom.
This episode is a gut levelexorcism of everything you've
been told about constipation,healing, and control.
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We're not here to sell you asupplement stack, even though I
got some pretty good ones.
We're here to decode why yourbody's been gripping so damn
hard.
In the first place, you'll learnwhy your nervous system and
immune system are running yourdigestion.
How emotional shutdown shows upas physical symptoms.
What spiritual constipationactually means and how to
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release it.
And the science of psychoneuroimmunology, gut brain
healing and identity evolution.
'cause your gut, she's not justdigesting food, she's digesting
your life.
The shame you swallowed, theboundaries you never set, and
the version of you who alwayshad to hold it together.
This is not about perfection.
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This is about permission.
Permission to feel, to release,to stop performing wellness, and
to actually come home to yourbody.
Because healing doesn't start inyour fridge.
It starts in your fascia.
And this episode, we'll show youwhy.
All right, y'all.
Let me tell you about the time Ihad to go to the ER because I
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was literally full of shit.
Okay?
So it's 2018.
And remember, I'm an activeaddiction.
I'm dating a boyfriend of sevenyears.
We're highly codependent.
And I was living on Pop-Tartsand basically gallon sized root
beer floats every single night.
That's all I ate.
I didn't eat anything else otherthan that.
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And yes, I said gallons.
You know those like absurdcoffee thermos you get at the
truck stops?
Yeah, that was me.
Filled with root beer, floatsice cream and root beer.
It was my have to have everysingle night now, add in no
sleep, and a boatload of pillsand partying like I was allergic
to peace.
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Well, surprise, I hadn't poopedin two weeks.
So at this point, because it wastwo weeks of not being able to
go to the bathroom, I tried touse the liquid magnesium.
So that basically takes all the,uh, liquid and the hydration and
water in your body, and itemergency evacuates you, right?
It's supposed to work.
It works 10 outta 10 times.
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Well, this time it didn't.
So at this point my back hadgone numb.
Like my lower spine was like,nah, nah.
And I could feel the pressureand it was starting to cause me
pain.
So the problem was, was that bythe time I could feel this,
because I was so numb because ofthe medications I was on, I was
working for my father.
And my father was done with me,right?
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He was tired of my bs, this,this is later in my addiction.
I was very codependent with myboyfriend, but also with him.
And I was working for him to payoff some debt that I had.
So I remember going up to him,showing up to work late, of
course, right on brand andsaying, Hey dad.
So like I can't sit or standbecause my back and tailbone are
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numb because I haven't pooped intwo weeks.
Um, I don't know if I can worktoday.
And of course dad being deadlooks at me and he's like, I
really don't care, Lauren.
You owe me money.
Nice try.
So I tried to work it out.
I really did.
I tried to sit down and Icouldn't.
So I called my sister who's anurse, right?
And I tell her what's going on?
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And she's like, girl.
Get your ass to the hospitalright now.
Go to a patient first.
Just go there.
This is a problem.
This is how your mother died.
She wasn't able to go to thebathroom.
Go now.
Now I'm all nonchalant aboutthis.
I'm like, hell yeah, I don'thave to work.
Come on, call my boyfriend.
He picks me up and we head onover to Annapolis, which is like
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45 minutes away, like, we'regoing to get a latte, right?
I'm like, I'll BRBI gotta go,uh, you know, have them help me
take a shit.
Right?
So obscene again, this wasanother time, it was a different
life for me.
Go in there and I tell themwhat's going on and I don't even
get pulled back into the room.
They're literally like, ma'am.
We're gonna need you to go tothe ER immediately.
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You could die.
And I was like.
What?
I could die.
What do you mean I could die?
And the reason is, is becausewhen you are filled up like this
and you haven't gone to thebathroom, we are usually just
literally full of shit.
Now the problem is, is when wehave a blockage like this,
because I taken the magnesium,it was a clear sign, there was a
blockage, we can rupture, andthen it can cause a toxic
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overload and it can kill us.
So I literally was at the chanceof possibly dying, considering
my back was going numb.
So.
At this point, my boyfrienddrives me over to the ER and I
walk in.
I am expecting to be at the ERfor hours, but guess what?
This is how I knew it was a bigdeal.
They pulled me in no weight atall.
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So cool.
Cool.
Right?
I wasn't in my right mind.
Head on in there, get seen by adoctor immediately.
She's asking me questions.
I tell her I'm on prescriptionOxy.
And at this point in this storytimeline, I was on eight pills a
day, prescribed by my primarydoctor.
Now, was I taking more?
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Hell yeah.
Was I doing other things?
Hell yeah.
It was fucking insane.
But this was a.
Immediate cause of that, right?
These medications cause issueswith digestion, it slows down
our digestion, all of thesethings.
So she immediately preps me forevaluation.
And what evaluation means is sheputs on a glove and she asks me
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to pull my pants down and tellsme to.
Bend over, right?
My boyfriend's sitting rightnext to me, so at this point he
thinks this is like foreplay.
He's loving it.
I bend over, she does theevaluation very, very, very
uncomfortable and completelyjust not what I've had in mind.
And she looks at me and says,wow, you are full of shit.
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I mean, then we already knowthat, right?
So when she does thisevaluation, it obviously makes
me feel like I have to go to thebathroom.
And I'm like, all right, here wego.
That's all we needed to do.
Woo hoo.
But of course, literally nothinghappened.
It was like a pebble.
And if anybody's ever had thepebble poops, you know how that
feels.
It is the worst.
So she tells me we're doing thewhole shebang.
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We're gonna take an x-ray to seehow much you're full of shit.
We're gonna do an IV enema,we're gonna do a manual enema
and we'll see however you needto get the shit out.
We will make sure it happens.
I'm like, what is going on rightnow?
Okay, this is not gonna be fun.
Meanwhile.
I am sitting there waiting inthe room to be taken back to get
an x-ray and she comes in thedoctor and she's like, Lauren, I
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have good news.
I was speaking with a doctorfriend of mine who specializes
with people who take opiates andthere's a new medication now
that actually is being used forpeople who take opiates by
prescription that will help youuse the bathroom and relieve the
constipation.
Cool.
Cool.
Right?
Yeah.
Yeah.
I said, okay, cool.
Great.
Thinking it would be a pill.
Very easy solution.
Wham, bam outta there.
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Nope.
She pulls out the needle andshe's like, I'm gonna need you
to lift your shirt up and I'mgoing to give you a shot in your
belly.
Well, well, well, let me tellyou what happened next.
She gives it to me and withintwo seconds I just remember a
flush feeling.
Sweat starts pouring down mybody, I look at her and
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literally yell, I need to go.
Now.
And I realize I'm not in a roomwhere there's a bathroom.
There's literally no bathroom.
I'm behind a sheet in a sharedER pod, so she hands me a pan
and I proceed to destroy threeof those bad boys.
I'm sweating.
Crying It smells like somethingdied and was reincarnated just
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to die again.
Like y'all.
I was not.
Well, I was holding on for dearfucking life, and this is the
funniest story to ever tellbecause not only was I dying mid
bracing the bowls and handingthem over to the doctor at this
point, my boyfriend decides tocome in and of course I'm like,
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what the fuck are you doinghere?
It's very chaotic.
Tell him to get the fuck outtahere.
Right.
You know what I mean?
Like what is he doing?
Okay?
He just looks at me like a.
Scared deer doesn't know what todo.
He is like, oh my God, I'msweating, crying, all these
things.
And then he gets out and ofcourse the x-ray tion comes in
because I was supposed to getthe x-ray.
That was a complete fail.
Looked at him.
I was like, what the fuck?
Can you please leave?
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Give me some goddamn privacy.
I'm holding on for deer life,right.
So as I am holding on for dearlife, the funniest thing
happens.
I guess because I'm in a shadedroom.
Everyone around here can smellit.
I mean, it is being broadcastedacross the entire ER room.
I honestly feel bad.
I should be sued, and at thispoint I start to hear, hear,
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cheering, clapping.
It was a slow clap like.
Woo hoo.
You did it, girl.
It was all the nurses andwhoever else was in there,
because I was definitely lettingthem know, telling me, good job,
you did it.
You took a shit and you didn'tdie.
Like I just won the damn SuperBowl.
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Fast forward to months later,I'm sober working on my credit.
And guess what shows up?
It's a medical bill from that ERvisit.
Thousand dollars.
$1,000 to take a shit in a panbehind a sheet.
Tell me, healing isn't humbling.
Now, here's the kicker.
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Even after getting sober, eatingwell, working out, doing all the
things, I was still constipated.
I had all the right supplements.
I had the magnesium, the herbs,the gut powders, and nothing was
changing.
Because the blockage was neverjust physical, it was emotional,
and I was still holding on tothe grief, to the control, to
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the rage, and I was way tooafraid to express it.
See the people pleasing and thegripping so tight to who I
thought I had to be.
That was my body's way ofliterally saying I could not
release it.
I see this in my clients everydamn day.
Women who are emotionallyconstipated, suppressing their
truth.
Swallowing their boundaries,overachieving their way into
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burnout and wondering why theirgut is a disaster.
The science backs us up.
When your drainage pathways areblocked, your lymph backs up and
your liver gets sluggish, yourhormones recirculate and your
nervous system gets stuck insurvival mode.
You can't supplement your wayoutta that.
So what we might think is justconstipation actually is a
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massive indicator that we aregoing to have issues not only
with metabolism, but withthyroid health, with our mental
health, with anxiety, so manydifferent things start showing
up.
It's a trickle down effect.
So I always say when I'm workingwith clients, if your drainage
pathways are not open, we willnot begin any type of protocol
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that has to do with.
Losing weight because they bothhave to coincide with each
other.
So think of it like this.
My body was a clenched fist andit was gripping so tightly to
control that it forgot how toopen and release.
Your colon isn't just storingfood, it's storing what you
haven't emotionally processed,the stories you never finished
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the truth you never told, andthe rage you swallowed with a
smile.
So ask yourself, what am Iafraid to let go of?
What emotions am I suppressing?
Where in my life am I grippingway too tightly because your
body will let go when you do.
We just need to learn to allowthat to happen.
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So, yeah, my a thousand dollarsshit was unforgettable.
But here's the thing that reallycracked me open.
It wasn't the ER trip.
It wasn't the pan behind thesheet.
It wasn't even the mortifyingapplause from the nurses.
It was the realization that evenafter I got sober, cleaned up my
diet, hit the gym, and stockedup my cabinet with every gut
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supplement known to Instagram, Istill wasn't pooping because
what I really needed to release.
Wasn't in my colon, it was in mynervous system.
You know, the control, theoverachieving, the swallowed
truth, the good girl performanceI'd been running since
childhood, and that my love iswhere we enter survival mode
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because chronic constipation,mystery inflammation, the skin
issues, the mood swings, the gutthat refuses to cooperate.
They're not random.
They are biological responses toemotional overload.
So let's zoom out.
Let's get nerdy and grounded,and let's decode what's actually
going on in your body when itfeels too dangerous to let go.
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So science time, but let's makeit sexy and let's talk about
psycho neuroimmunology.
This is the study of how yourthoughts, emotions, nervous
system, and immune system areall interwoven.
When your body perceives athreat, whether emotional,
physical, or energetic, itactivates your HPA axis, your
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hypothalamus pituitary adrenalglands, and this kicks off a
cortisol storm.
Your body reroutes blood awayfrom digestion and flames your
tissues and locks everythingdown to protect you.
Now add in the gut brain accessthat two-way communication
highway between your entericnervous system, AKA, your gut
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brain, and your central nervoussystem.
Your vagus nerve is the literalbridge between your belly and
your brain.
So when you're in chronicstress.
That bridge gets flooded andyour digestion slows.
Your gut lining breaks down,your microbiome goes rogue, and
your immune system getsoveractive, confused, and
inflamed.
And this is why trauma,perfectionism, people pleasing
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and emotional shutdown, show upas bloating, constipation, food
sensitivities, skin issues,hormonal chaos, and those
mystery symptoms.
Doctors just can't explain.
It is not in your head.
It's in your wiring.
It's in your immune response,it's in your gut.
And it's all connected.
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This is root cause healing.
Not find the perfect supplementroot cause, but reprogram your
system for safety and digestion.
Root cause.
Now your gut is basically yoursecond brain cough.
Cough.
It's the real brain.
It's lined with over 500 millionnerve cells and about a hundred
million neurons, and it talks toyour actual brain through your
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vagus nerve, AKA, your body'semotional hotline.
This isn't some woowoo concept.
This is backed by real research.
Your gut feels before your braineven registers what's happening.
And when you're in fight orflight, your digestion isn't a
priority.
Your body shuts that system downfaster than that X who got
blocked.
See, blood gets rerouted awayfrom your gut.
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Gut lining starts to break down.
Your stomach acid goes haywire,and your microbiome gets tossed
into chaos, and inflammationstarts throwing a little house
party.
When your nervous systemperceives danger, your gut goes
into lockdown like a cityclosing its gates during an
invasion.
Translation.
Constipation is a survivalstrategy.
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It's your body's way of saying,we're not safe to let go Now.
The same way you clinging to anold relationship, a job you hate
or an illusion of control, yourcolon is gripping too, because
letting go would mean trusting,surrendering, being vulnerable,
and your system's not down forthat.
Yet I see this with my highachieving, high functioning
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people, pleasing clients everydamn day.
Their digestion's wrecked.
Their sleep is trash, theirhormones are fried, and they're
wondering if maybe they justneed more magnesium.
Girl.
No, we do not need to overdoseon magnesium.
I've been there, I've done it,but I promise you that is a
solution, but it doesn'tactually get to the root.
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You need emotional safety.
So something that reallyresonated with me was a saying
that you can only digest yourfood as much as you can digest
your life, and you can onlydigest your life as much as you
can digest your food.
So if you can't emotionallyprocess an experience, your gut
will physically hold onto it.
So let me break this down foryou.
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I learned this through the NeoEmotional Release Institute.
Now, the stomach, that is themental critic of your body.
It doesn't just break down food,it breaks down your beliefs,
your self-worth, your innerdialogue.
Chronic stomach issues meansthat there's shame, there's
self-judgment.
That's your nervous systemsaying, I can't process this
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reality.
Then when we move on to thesmall intestine, this is where
nutrients get absorbed, but alsowhere you absorb life.
If you grew up constantly tryingto earn love, meet unmet needs,
or walk on eggshells, your smallintestine remembers it's
literally coated with your earlyimprint of, am I allowed to
receive?
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Okay.
Then moving to the largeintestine.
This baby is all about release,but here's the kicker.
If you never learned how to letgo emotionally, do not be
surprised when your body mimicsthat pattern.
Your colon is like, excuse me, Iam not done processing that
breakup from 2016.
So, no ma'am, we are not poopingtoday.
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And here's where identityhijacks the whole system.
When your nervous system hasbeen shaped by trauma
abandonment or being forced togrow up too fast, you don't just
cope.
You become the coping.
You build an identity aroundcontrol, around competence,
around keeping your shittogether while your insides are
screaming.
You become the high achievingperfectionist, the emotionally
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fluent fixer, the ride or diepeacekeeper who always answers
the phone but never answers herown needs in your gut.
She clocks it all because she'snot here for the performance.
She doesn't care how totogether.
You look on paper, she's tunedinto one thing only, and that
is, are we safe?
See your digestion doesn'trespond to your to-do list.
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It responds to your truth.
So if you're always the strongone, the one who gets shit done,
but literally can't take a shit,that's not a coincidence.
That is a somatic rebellion.
You don't have constipation.
What we have is a spiritualconstipation, a spiritual
deficit.
It is your body's way of saying,I cannot move forward until you
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stop pretending you're fine.
The moment your inner worldbecomes unsafe, your gut steps
in as the bodyguard.
She's like, cool.
We're not safe enough to let go.
Got it.
I'll store it all.
And the grief it packs into thelungs and large attest, the rage
that gets stored in the liver,the fear that's wrapped up in
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your fascia and the unspokentruth, it's lodged in your gut.
And that's how you end upcarrying energetic weight that
no amount of green powder canfix.
Think of it like this.
Your gut is your emotionalinbox, and if you've never
cleared out the spam, AKA, yoursuppressed feelings, outdated
roles and emotional contracts,you'll never get to the stuff
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that matters.
So no healing your gut isn'tabout adding more supplements,
celery juice, or following thatinfluencer who talks about fiber
like its religion, it's aboutsubtraction.
Stripping away everything you'vebeen holding onto just to
survive.
Because if your bloating,burnout, and constipation keeps
coming back, despite doing allthe right quote unquote things,
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your body's not broken.
It's fucking brilliant.
It's not about what you'reputting in it.
It's about what you haven't letout.
Your gut isn't resisting.
She's just waiting for safety.
So now that we've unpacked howsurvival mode shuts down your
gut, let's talk about theunspoken trigger that's keeping
you there.
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It's not just trauma, it's whatyou had to become because of the
trauma.
It's how you were conditioned tocope.
You didn't just learn tooverride your gut feelings.
You learn to override yourboundaries, and that's where
things get real somatic, realfast.
Because your gut lining, it'snot just physical, it's
energetic.
And if your emotional firewallhas been down since childhood,
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your gut lining is like, betlet's leak everything.
So let's go there.
Let's talk about boundaries, notthe cute kind you journal about
and ignore.
I mean, the kind that you tellyour body.
We're safe now.
You don't have to hold it all.
Because the thing that nobodytells you in the wellness
culture is that your emotionalboundaries are mirrored in your
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gut, one for one as within, sowithin when you're emotionally
porous, your gut lining becomesphysically porous too.
When you say yes to whatviolates you, your immune system
starts to glitch, and when youswallow your truth, your colon
says, bet I'll hold onto it.
Think of your gut lining like asecurity system.
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When your emotional boundariesare weak, everything leaks in
causing chaos inside.
So this is known as leaky gut.
That's emotional permeability.
You're absorbing other people'sprojections, guilt, shame,
stress, and your body isinflamed because your
self-protection is offline.
So leaky gut is intestinal andpermeability and it will show up
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through severe symptoms, which Ihighly recommend you looking up.
And it was also spoken about inthe last episode where Vaughn,
who's the beautiful breathworkteacher, shared that her leaky
gut was hurt.
Initiation into her healingbecause she had areas in her
life where she was not beinghonest with herself, and she was
being porous with listening towhat she truly desired.
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Next one up is constipation.
The darling of the show today,see, that's usually linked to
emotional shutdown where yourbody's like, Nope, not letting
anything go.
Not safe yet.
And I see this over and overagain.
Clients who eat perfectly, theyjuice, they meditate, they
supplement like pros, but theirgut, it's still wrecked.
And they're wondering why.
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It's because the problem isn'tjust on their plate.
It's in your relationships.
It's in the job that they hate,but won't leave.
It's in the way they or you keepabsorbing guilt that's not
yours.
Faking peace when they'reburning inside, saying, I'm fine
when they're anything but.
And I know you can relate tothis because this is super
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common, and just because it'scommon doesn't mean it's normal
nor acceptable.
Gut health isn't just aboutfood, it's about energetic
consent.
So every time you betray yourtruth, your gut takes a hit.
Every time you don't speak up,your gut internalizes it.
Every time you stay silent tokeep the peace, your gut starts
a war inside of you.
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Because boundaries aren't justsome self-help buzzword.
They are gut medicine every, no,you say to what drains you and
every yes you give to what trulynourishes you.
Every time you choose rest overproving stillness, over pushing
truth of, or politeness, you'reliterally restoring your gut
lining.
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Setting boundaries is likeputting up a no trespassing sign
on your gut.
It tells your body that you aresafe.
Now you do not have to hold onanymore, so let's go even deeper
tight gut junctions equalstrong, energetic boundaries.
So your small intestine isn'tjust about absorbing nutrients,
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it's about absorbing your senseof self.
If you don't know who you arewithout performing, fixing or
fawning, you're gonna beinflamed, anxious, reactive, and
exhausted.
So your gut is your firstboundary.
It's your primal protector.
When you override that instinctfor the sake of being liked,
chosen or validated, you'resending your body one message.
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It's not safe to be me.
And your gut listens.
So think about it.
What's the first thing when youenter something into your body?
It goes straight to the gut.
That is the first area that yourbody is accepting information
in.
So the shift is, is that guthealing isn't about adding more
powders.
It's about subtracting people,patterns and performances that
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keep you in a chronic stressloop.
It's about re-parenting the partof you that never felt safe to
say no.
Because when you reclaim your noooh girl, your gut stops bracing
for impact.
And when you stop leakingenergy, your gut stops leaking
too, leaky gut, also means leakybrain, which means that your
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brain will haveneuroinflammation.
So when you stop shrinking tofit others' people's comfort,
your digestion will finallyexpand.
So just remember, yourboundaries aren't selfish,
they're cellular.
They are the blueprint of yourgut brain healing.
But here's the million dollarquestion.
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What happens when your gut'sbeen your boundary for too long?
When your digestion has beensilently saying no on your
behalf because your mouth neverdid.
When your colon is carrying yourgrief, your rage, your silence
because your nervous systemnever felt safe enough to let it
out, that's when your body hitsburnout.
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Not because you're doing toomuch, but because you're holding
too much.
So let's set the recordstraight.
Burnout isn't a productivityissue, it's a protection
response.
You've been holding your breath,holding your rage, holding your,
I'm fine holding youroverachiever mask like your life
depends on it.
And guess what?
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Your body noticed and she'stired as hell.
This is where your metabolismgoes.
Let's thrive to let's survive.
Not because you're broken, butbecause you're brilliant,
because your body is conserving,protecting, bracing.
You're not gaining weightinflamed or exhausted because
you're lazy.
You're there because yournervous system has been
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sprinting a marathon with nofinish line and no water break.
Metabolism isn't just aboutcalories.
It's about whether your cellsfeel safe enough to spend
energy, and when your bodydoesn't feel safe, she doesn't
burn.
She hoards fat, water, emotions,trauma, shame, and unspoken
truths.
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It's like trying to unclog adrain by pouring more water on
top.
The blockage, it's not thewater, it's what stuck deep
inside.
So here's the science.
Chronic stress equals constantcortisol and cortisol
dysregulation, disregulates yourblood sugar tanks, your thyroid
depletes your progesterone,inflames your gut, and slams the
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brake on your metabolism.
So you go from burning fuel toliterally burning out.
The translation for this is thatyou're not bad at dieting,
you're just too stressed todigest, too dysregulated to
detox, and too depleted to burnfat.
Your metabolism doesn't want acalorie deficit.
It wants nervous system safety.
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It wants to finely exhale.
It wants to rest without guilt,and it wants to stop feeling
like it has to hustle to stayalive.
And here's the kicker.
Your emotional body plays amassive role in whether your
metabolism is online or offline.
If you're always bracing, you'llburn out.
If you're always proving, you'llplateau.
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If you're always pleasing,you'll store it.
Weight, shame, resentment,trauma, all of it.
And you know what else tanksyour metabolism.
Unprocessed emotions, becauserepressed emotions equal
inflammation, and inflammationequals hormonal chaos.
And hormonal chaos that equalsmetabolic freeze.
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This is the weight lossresistance no one talks about.
You're not just holding onphysical weight, you're holding
emotional weight, trauma weight,caregiver weight.
I never got to fall apartweight.
So if your body is holding on,ask yourself, what am I carrying
that is not mine?
What have I been holding in thatnever got to express?
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Where in my life does weightfeel like protection?
Because here's the realest shitI'll say today.
Emotional safety equalsmetabolic activation.
When your body feels safe, itstops bracing.
When your body stops bracing, itstarts burning.
Not just fat, but the patterns,the fear, the false identity.
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You don't need to shrink.
You need to regulate.
You need to release, you need tostore.
You need to restore your senseof enoughness.
Your metabolism isn't yourenemy.
It's your barometer of how safe,supported, and self-expressed
you really are.
So let's zoom out for a second.
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If your metabolism is tanked,your gut is inflamed, your sleep
is wrecked, and your hormonesare riding a rollercoaster from
hell, it's not because you'reundisciplined.
It's not because you're nottrying hard enough, it's because
your body is trying to protectyou.
But here's the kicker.
If your nervous system stillthinks you're in a war zone,
it's not gonna let you thrive.
It's going to focus on onething, survival.
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See, you can't outs supplementthat.
You can't coal plunge your wayout of that, and you can't fix
it with more control.
This is where we have to stopasking, well, more can I do?
And start asking what does mybody need to feel safe enough to
let go?
And here's what they don't tellyou.
In mainstream wellness, you caneat perfectly.
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You can take all the probiotics,you can track your macros.
You can do the cold plunges, andjournal your heart out under the
full moon and still be bloated,anxious, exhausted, inflamed,
and constipated as hell.
Because your body isn'tresponding to your intellect, it
is responding to your safety.
You are not a machine to beoptimized.
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You are a living, breathing,intelligent system that's
begging to be loved back intorhythm.
So think of constipation andmetabolic resistance like a
loading screen.
Your body is buffering, decidingif it's safe to move forward.
So if you've been doingeverything right and still feel
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stuck, it's not about whatyou're doing, it's about how
your nervous system isexperiencing what you're doing.
This is where we leave surfacelevel health behind, and we
enter the deep waters of rootcause healing, where somatics,
subconscious reprogramming, andemotional safety collide.
'cause your gut doesn't justdigest food, it digests your
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life.
And this pattern started beforeyou were even born.
From the moment you were in thewomb, your nervous system was
learning.
Am I safe to express?
Is love conditional?
What do I need to stayconnected?
If your early environment wasfull of chaos, criticism or
emotional absence, your bodylearned that the only way to
survive was to suppress.
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And that suppression didn't justshape your personality, it
shaped your digestion.
Because when you're suppressedyour truth, your body suppresses
its rhythm.
And when you abandon your needs,your gut abandons, motility.
And when you fear being toomuch, your body literally holds
it all in.
You didn't just learn to silenceyour emotions.
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You learned to silence yourinstincts, to override your gut,
to make yourself digestible toeveryone else while your actual
digestion shuts down.
And this is where your gut andyour identity collide because
your subconscious beliefs aren'tjust mental.
Their somatic, they live in yourfascia, your gut lining, your
posture, your hormone cycles,your microbiome.
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And they dictate what your bodyholds, what it lets go of, and
how safe it feels to existwithout performance.
So your symptoms are not random.
They are encrypted messages fromthe subconscious.
Your body is saying, there issomething I need to feel.
So what does Real Healingrequire?
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Well, it's not anotherelimination diet.
It's not another greens powder.
It's not trying to biohack yourtrauma.
It's creating the conditionswhere your body finally feels
safe to release what has beenprotecting you from all along.
And here's how we do that, bymaking space for the emotions
that never got witnessed.
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By evolving your identity fromthe one who survives, to the one
who sovereignly thrives bycombining targeted nutrition,
nervous system regulation,somatic healing, and
subconscious integration.
This is not just think positive.
This is not just eat clean.
This is root call healing.
That means you need safety todigest, you need the right
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nutrients and microbiomebalance.
You need movement, rhythm, andflow.
And if one of those is offhealing stalls.
So we stopped choosing betweenits trauma or its nutrition and
we reintegrate it all.
We realize your gut isn't justwhere food is broken down.
It's where your emotionalreality, your childhood
programming, and your outdatedidentities are digested and
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transformed.
And healing means.
Finally giving your bodypermission to digest the past,
integrate the present, andbecome the woman you are always
meant to be.
Fully nourished, emotionallysovereign, and deeply safe in
her skin.
'cause when your body feelssafe, it's like unclenching a
fist, it naturally opens,softens, and it lets goes, And
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that's what healing actuallyrequires.
Somatic safety, emotionalsovereignty, identity evolution,
functional nourishment, and awillingness to stop pushing and
start listening.
Because when your body feelssafe, it doesn't need to be
forced.
It lets go of waste of theweight of the wound, of the
pressure of the performance, andthat my love is when the real
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digestion begins.
Don't take it from me.
I wanna share with you a clientcase study, a client that I've
worked with for the past sixmonths named Lexi.
I'm gonna go through how Iworked with her, what it looked
like, and how her constipation,her skin issues were even
connected to candida, but evendeeper, it was connected to her
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nervous system state, emotionalimprints in her environment.
So let's go deeper, because itwasn't just about symptoms, it
was about survival modemasquerading as wellness.
See, when Lexi first came to me,she was already doing everything
right on paper.
She was eating clean, taking thesupplements, living that
crunchy, anti-inflammatorylifestyle, and yet her body was
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still waving the red flag.
Constipation that made her feelstuck and bloated.
24 7 skin flares that popped upoutta nowhere.
Candida that refused to die nomatter how healthy she ate.
And this really had her askingwhat gives, right?
And that's where most peoplestop.
They throw another supplement atit, swap oat milk for raw milk.
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Blame gluten.
But that's not healing.
That's micromanaging.
So here's how we actually workthrough it in phases.
Now, phase one is all aboutestablishing physiological and
emotional safety.
Before we even touch Candidaprotocols or gut supplements, we
focused on creating safetybecause let's be honest, if your
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body doesn't feel safe, it's notgonna let go.
Period.
So we started with mineralbalancing to help stabilize our
nervous system and reduce thatchronic stress signal pulsing
through our cells.
We opened up our drainagepathways, liver, lymph bowels,
because if you can't eliminate,it will recirculate and we can't
detox when you can't drain.
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alongside of that, we began theneuro identity Evolution
framework.
this wasn't just mindset fluff.
It was about identifyingadaptive survival patterns that
she'd been living in fordecades.
Unpacking resistance, not assabotage, but as protection and
looking at limiting beliefs andcould it in her nervous system,
not just her mind.
We integrated somatic practices,lymphatic simulation and
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emotional tracking, so she couldstart feeling what her body was
actually holding, not justtreating what was flaring.
Phase two was all about targetedcandida and digestive support.
So once the body had some safetyand drainage capacity, then we
got strategic.
We zeroed in on candida, but notfrom a kill it with fire
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perspective, but more supportingher gut tearing, while making
targeted nutritional adjustmentsthat didn't involve starvation
or fear.
We discovered that she had lowstomach acid, which was not a
random cork.
It was actually a direct resultof being stuck in freeze,
because when your nervous systemis shut down, digestion
literally slows to a halt.
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There's no fire in the bellybecause your body thinks it's
playing dead.
Makes sense, right?
So we focused on rebuilding herstomach acid, enzyme production,
And gut motility.
And this helped not just withthe candida, but with energy
focus and her ability toactually absorb the nutrients
from her already clean diet.
And here's the part that no onetells you.
Her body was producing glucosefrom the stress response alone.
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So Even though she wasn't eatingsugar, her cortisol driven
physiology was flooding hersystem with it.
That internal sugar spike wasfeeding the candida just as much
as any cupcake would.
that's why her clean diet wasn'tcutting it.
So here's the key.
You use targeted supplements toclear out the candida.
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Yes.
That's great.
You clean up your diet.
Yes, that's great.
But until you work on theenergetic and the nervous system
body, you will constantly resetback.
To your automatic programs.
So what we did was we targetedeach separate system,
identifying and shifting hermindset and her nervous system
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imprints while targeting withsupplements and nutrition.
Now, phase three was all aboutrebuilding and re-patterning.
So after the candida cleared anddigestion was finally back
online, we entered what I callthe real work, which is
integration.
We focused on rebuilding themicrobiome, replenishing
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nutrients, and restoring thebody's baseline for safety.
But we didn't stop there.
See, this is where we got intothe emotional body, the stories,
the shame, the perfectionism,the hidden fear of feeling.
Because if your nervous systemdoesn't trust your emotions, it
won't let your body rest.
And if your mind is stillrunning survival scripts, like,
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if I slow down, I'll fall apart.
Guess what?
Your gut hears that loud andclear.
So we worked on identifying thecore emotional narratives that
she was carrying, releasing thesurvival contract she'd made
with herself to stay in controland re-patterning her nervous
system to recognize stillness assafety and not threatening.
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Another key thing here was herenvironment, so we identified
where there were stressors inher environment, maybe where she
was people pleasing, playing alittle Marty Dom, a little bit
of adapting and kind of editingand auditing her personality and
her emotions to kind of keep thepeace.
And that's where everythingstarted to click.
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But this also meant that she hadto be willing to do this work,
willing to get honest withherself.
Now, not only does she havebetter poops and clearer skin,
but she has true regulation.
Her sense of self changed, hercapacity for present expanded,
and she stopped outsourcing hersafety to her diet, her
supplements or her performance,and started to source it from
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within.
Lexi didn't just heal her gut,she reclaimed her body's
language, And that's what thiswork is all about.
This is not about chasingsymptoms, but actually
translating them into truth.
So if you're nodding along like,holy shit, that's me.
I want you to know that you'renot broken.
Your symptoms aren't setbacks.
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They are sacred initiations,right?
You've done the work, themindset shifts, the journaling,
the therapy, the protocols, thereiki, the green powders, and
gratitude.
You know healing.
You're spiritual, you'reself-aware.
Maybe you even teach this work.
But lately, the symptoms arecreeping in again, the bloating,
the burnout, the brain fog, theemotional swings, the sleep
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disruptions, the hormone chaos.
Your body feels like she'sbacktracking, even though you're
doing everything right.
Here's what no one ever toldyou.
This isn't regression.
It's a revelation.
Your body finally feels safeenough to speak, and she's
asking you to stop performingyour healing and actually embody
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it.
This is your initiation.
This isn't about fixing you.
It's about meeting the versionof you who's been trying to
emerge beneath the layers ofoverworking, overgiving, and
overdoing healing.
You've outgrown the oldidentities, the hustler, the
achiever, the one whounderstands emotion, but still
can't really let herself fullyfeel.
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You've outgrown the copingmechanisms that once saved you,
but now sabotage your expansionand you're ready to heal your
gut without obsessing over food.
Ready to regulate your nervoussystem in a way that feels safe,
not forced.
You're ready to reclaim yourcentral, spiritual sovereign
identity, and you're ready toshift your physiology and your
personality.
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You want and desire to let yourbody lead and finally trust what
it's saying.
If you're ready to stopmicromanaging your body and
start partnering with it.
My six month one-on-one totalbody rewiring immersion is where
that journey begins.
This is where physiology meetspsychology, where the nervous
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system meets soul and where yourbody becomes your channel, not a
burden.
Designed to reconnect you toyour gut, your voice, and your
truth.
Within this commitment, you getbiweekly, 90 minute private
coaching and somatic integrationsessions, custom functional
health blueprint, so guthormones, blood sugar, cortisol,
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circadian rhythm, and nervoussystem support.
I provide targeted supplementsand nutritional strategy so
there's no overwhelmed and onlywhat's aligned.
You'll get voice, text accessfor ongoing support, emotional
processing, and real timereflection, along with the neuro
identity evolution frameworkwhere subconscious patterning,
survival, physiology, andidentity healing intersect along
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with spiritual angering andintuitive channeling when deeper
soul guidance is required.
This is for the woman who hasdone the work but still feels
like something's off, isnavigating a messy middle of
relationships of business, ofidentity.
For the woman who knows she'snot broken, but still just
doesn't feel quite free, iswatching her body speak louder,
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the more she slows down iscraving a mentor who speaks the
language of biology and spiritand wants her healing to feel
holy, embodied, and real.
So here's the thing.
You can know all of this.
You can understand the science.
You can intellectualize themetaphors.
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You can highlight every quote inthis episode and send it to your
group chat like, oh my God, thisis me.
But until your body feels safe,until your nervous system knows
the difference between a patternand a real threat, until your
inner child trusts that she's nolonger alone in her survival
story, nothing shifts.
Not your gut, not your weight,not your cycles, not your
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symptoms, not your self trust.
'cause healing doesn't happenthrough more knowledge.
It happens through embodiedintegration.
So let this be your reminder.
Your body isn't constipated byaccident.
It's holding onto what you areafraid to release old
identities, outdated survivalpatterns and unspoken truth.
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Your gut is not broken.
She's brilliant.
She's your inbox, and if younever clear out that spam, a k,
a, the suppressed emotions,trauma loops, and control
patterns, then the stuff thatreally matters, like nutrients,
joy, safety, freedom, it nevergets digested.
So if this episode hit you inthe gut literally, and you're
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ready to stop managing symptomsand start transforming from the
root, I want to invite you towork with me inside my
one-on-one private coachingcontainer.
This isn't coaching.
This is a cellular reclamation.
You will not leave thiscontainer the same woman who
entered because the symptomsyou're experiencing right now.
They're not your body breakingdown.
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This is your breakthrough.
'cause it's not just about foodor just feelings.
This is about freedom in yourbody, in your mind, in your
entire way of being.
So dm me rewire on Instagram, orclick the link in the show notes
to apply.
And if you're just gettingstarted, don't forget to
download my Ultimate Gut HealingGuide or Body Love Blueprint,
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which is also linked in the shownotes.
This is packed with tangibletools to begin regulating your
gut brain connection today,because your gut, she's not just
digesting your food, she isdigesting your life and your
brain well.
She's listening and she'slearning from every choice you
make.
So choose presence, choose rest,choose emotional sovereignty,
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and most of all, choose to comehome to yourself.
Spiritual constipation in aspiritual deficit simply means a
deficit in connection with self,and the fastest way to disease
is to be disconnected from yourbody.
You're not broken, you're justholding onto what hasn't felt
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safe to let go of until now.
So choose today to reconnectwith your body.
Say hello, feel the sensations,learn the language of your body.
I'll see you in the nextepisode.
And until then, trust your gut.
She knows the way.
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