April 8, 2025 • 38 mins
Why does rest feel unsafe, even when you're exhausted? In this powerful episode, Lauren Michelle Jewel unpacks the deeper truth behind burnout, high-functioning freeze, and why slowing down can feel like you're dying inside. If you're a woman who's done all the "right" things—rest days, journaling, nervous system work—but still feel stuck, this one's for you.
You'll learn:
- Why high-achieving women associate stillness with danger (hint: it's not laziness—it's survival).
- How burnout isn’t just mental—it's a full-body biochemical collapse.
- The real reason rest triggers panic, guilt, and shame.
- What your nervous system is protecting you from (and how to safely rewire it).
- How to restore true safety in the body using rhythm, nourishment, and emotional expression.
This episode bridges trauma, biology, and embodiment—so you can finally stop performing "healing" and start embodying it.
💡 Spoiler alert: you’re not broken. Your body is brilliant, and it's time to work with it—not against it.
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(00:01):
Let me ask you something.
What if your exhaustion isn'tfrom doing too much, but from
being too much for too long?
What if the reason you can'tslow down isn't because you're
broken?
But because your nervous systemonly knows how to survive by
staying busy, I used to think Ijust needed a better routine,
(00:24):
more rest days, a self-carecalendar, a reset weekend, but
rest didn't work because everytime I tried to slow down, I
felt like I was dying.
My brain would spiral, my bodywould buzz, and the silence, the
stillness, it felt like a trap.
I wasn't just burnt out.
(00:45):
I was frozen living in a bodythat didn't know how to feel
safe unless it was provingsomething.
And I see this in my clients, myfriends, my community, every
damn day.
Women who are doing all theright things, but still feel
like their body is betrayingthem.
But it's not betrayal, it'sprotection.
(01:08):
You are not stuck because you'relazy.
You're farthest from lazy.
You're stuck because yournervous system was never taught
how to come down, and that'swhat we're unpacking today.
Let's talk about why rest feelslike death and how to finally
start healing the loop thatkeeps pulling you back into
overdrive.
(01:31):
Welcome to Embody this.
The no BS Healing podcast forwomen who are done performing
overgiving and calling itwellness.
If you're in your thirties orbeyond and you've been through
it, the gut stuff, the burnout,the anxiety, the shame spiral of
why do I keep ending up here?
You're in the right place, girl.
(01:51):
I'm your host Lauren MichelleJewel, a sober single business
owning badass who has beenhumbled as hell by healing.
But I'm not just someone who'slived it.
I've coached it, studied it, andwalked alongside hundreds of
women as they unhooked fromsurvival mode and remember how
to come home to their bodies.
I specialize in the gut-brainconnection, personalized
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nutrition, nervous systemregulation, emotional healing,
and identity evolution, becausehere's the truth.
You can take all thesupplements, you can do all the
therapy, you can rest journal,meditate, and eat the damn chia
pudding.
But if your nervous system stillbelieves that rest equals
danger, none of it will land.
(02:34):
Because healing isn't aboutdoing less, it's about feeling
more.
This podcast exists to help yourebuild safety inside your body
so you can stop living in a loopof burnout.
And finally, trust yourselfagain.
Quick note.
This show is for educational andempowerment purposes only.
It's not a replacement fortherapy or medical care.
(02:57):
Always consult a trustedprovider when making decisions
about your health.
And if this episode lands,follow the show rate and review
and share it with a friend who'sstuck in the same cycle you're
healing from.
Alright, let's drop in.
Let's go back to the beginning.
Not of your stress, but of yourwiring.
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Because burnout, freeze, andtrauma loops, they don't just
come from doing too much.
They come from learning tooearly.
That rest was a risk.
Let me explain.
If you were the girl who held itall together, the responsible
one, the achiever, thecaretaker, the fixer, then your
nervous system adapted aroundthat identity.
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So you learned that beingproductive made you valuable,
that staying busy kept you safe.
That collapsing wasn't an optionbecause no one was coming to
catch you, so you kept going.
You became reliable, highfunctioning, independent as
hell.
You built a life on competenceand performance and doing the
most, but underneath all ofthat, you never learned how to
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come down.
You were wired to keep moving,not because you were ambitious,
but because your nervous systemonly knows how to survive by
staying on, and now even whenyour life is different, even
when your body is safe, evenwhen you try to rest, the same
wiring is running the show.
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This is the real reason you feellike rest equals falling behind.
Like stillness equalsvulnerability.
Like your worth disappears themoment you stop performing.
This isn't about timemanagement.
This isn't about being bad atrest.
This is a nervous system loopthat started the moment you
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learn that safety equals doing,and unless we rewire it, it will
keep showing up.
No matter how many yoga classesor nervous system memes you
scroll through.
So today I'm gonna show you howto stop managing your symptoms
and start understanding thestory your nervous system is
still living in.
So let's break the cycle andlet's come home to our body.
(05:13):
So now we're wired for survival.
You were trained on a body levelto associate doing with safety
and stillness, with danger.
And that wiring, it didn't stayemotional, it became biological.
Let's talk about what's actuallyhappening inside your body now
that the patterns running onautopilot.
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You wake up already anxious, youskip breakfast, grab coffee, and
head straight into overdrive.
You crush your to-do list, butyour brain's still buzzing.
And even when your body begs youto stop, you probably keep going
because if you were to stop,well, the feelings might come up
and that still feels like thebigger threat right now.
(05:54):
You're not just stressed.
I need you to hear me.
You are looping the chronicstress equals elevated cortisol,
and your body stays in fight orflight mode, pumping out stress
hormones to keep you alive, butthere's no actual bear chasing
you.
It's just the calendar full ofshit.
You can't say no to.
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An elevated cortisol equalsdopamine depletion.
So your reward and pleasuresystem gets fried.
You start chasing more just tofeel anything.
And that's why the scroll hits.
That's why rest feels boring.
That's why you crave chaos,drama pressure, because it feels
familiar.
And when we have dopaminedepletion, well, we become
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addicted to intensity.
So you unconsciously becomeaddicted to stress hormones, and
being addicted to intensitymeans that your dopamine's gonna
get depleted.
And this can be identified bynoticing if you don't know how
to just be, or that you reachfor stimulation constantly, like
phone, your food, noise,numbing, whatever the next steps
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are, right?
Stillness just doesn't registeras safe.
It registers as a threat.
So now you're either spiralingin overdrive, frozen, and shut
down or bouncing between thetwo, like it's your full time
fucking job.
The loop ends up becoming youridentity.
You call it ambition, but it'sactually a survival.
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You call it motivation, but it'sreally fear, and you call it
resilience, but it's emotionalsuppression in a productivity
costume.
And here's what's worse.
You start thinking, maybe I justneed to try harder.
Maybe I'm just bad at relaxing.
Maybe this is just who I am.
(07:41):
No, babe.
This isn't your personality.
It's your physiology.
So when your nervous system isdysregulated, I need you to hear
me.
Every other system in your bodypays the price.
For example, your gut, it'sprobably wrecked because low
vagal tone equals poor motility.
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Low stomach acid equalsbloating, indigestion and
nutrient mal absorption.
Leaky gut, well that equalssystematic inflammation, and
that leads to also braininflammation.
You could show signs of IBSconstipation, sugar craving,
skin issues, hormonerecirculation, which is just
toxin overload, and these areall symptoms of.
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What happens when we stay inthis dysregulated state?
And let me guess your hormones.
Are they chaotic?
Do you have cortisol dominance,which also equals estrogen
dominance Has your progesteronedropped, mood swings?
Anxiety.
PMS, insomnia.
How about that?
Fatigue, weight gain, and cold.
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Hands and feet.
That's your thyroid.
Or do you see blood sugarcrashes, PCOS or pre-diabetes
within your system?
'cause that is from the insulinresistance it caused in your
immune system.
I bet you that's suppressed too.
If you're somebody who catcheseverything that goes around, or
you have chronic skin flare-ups,or maybe you've even developed
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an autoimmune symptom or.
Flare pattern.
This is because it affects theimmune system.
And don't forget about your moodand sleep.
It's probably shredded.
See when we cannot feel pleasureor.
We feel anxiety, depression, andOCD tendencies.
This is because thisdysregulation leads to low
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dopamine and low serotonin, andit also is a big key player in
why our GABA is so low.
So GABA is our Let's Chill Outneurotransmitter.
And if you have low GABA or nogaba, it's going to lead to you
not being able to shut yourbrain off at night.
And if you wake up.
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Tired, but you go to bed wired.
Again, this is another sign ofdysregulation within the nervous
system, and it doesn't stopthere.
This also becomes chronictension in migraines, low
libido, exhaustion.
You can't shake constant urgencyand inner chaos.
A body that looks fine, butfeels like hell.
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And this is key because this wasme.
So when you say I'm tired butwired, I feel inflamed all the
time.
I am doing everything right andI still feel like shit.
It is not random and it is not alack of willpower.
It is your nervous systemleading your body and your body
doing everything it can to keepyou safe, even at the cost of
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your health.
So let me say it louder.
For the women in the free state,your brain is not broken, your
symptoms are not made up.
Your body is not failing you.
It is protecting you, but it'susing an outdated map.
One that is built in survival,not safety, and unless we give
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it a new signal through rhythm,nourishment, and capacity
building, it will keep looping.
So you're not stuck becauseyou're not trying hard enough.
You're stuck because yournervous system was never taught
how to feel safe doing less.
So let me tell you about a timeI thought I was resting.
(11:17):
It was a Sunday.
I cleared the calendar.
No clients, no calls, justspace, right?
I even wrote it in all caps.
Do nothing rest.
Full reset, cue, right?
I lit the candle.
I made the hot cow cow.
I put on the playlist thatpractically whispers.
Relax, dammit.
(11:37):
I had my journal.
I had some essential oils.
I was ready to rest, but mybody, it was still in full-blown
panic mode.
My legs would not stop bouncing.
My chest was tight and my brainwas cycling through a thousand
tabs.
So what did I do?
Well, obviously I opened TikTokand then I scrolled for three
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hours.
I compared, I dissociated and Inumbed down.
And afterwards, I remember Ifelt guilty for not resting
right?
Like, what does that even mean?
Like I literally guilt tripmyself for doing it wrong.
Here's the truth.
Rest isn't rest.
If your nervous system stillthinks you're in danger, you
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can't fake safety and you can'tperform your way into peace.
We say we're resting, but reallywe're just unplugging while
still guilt tripping ourselves.
We cancel the plans, but we beatourselves up for not being
productive.
We take a bath, but we scrollthe whole time.
We do breath work, but we use itto avoid grief instead of
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feeling, we say we're doingnervous system work, but we're
still chasing peace the sameway.
We chase validation by doing, bycontrolling and by strategizing
our way out of the discomfort.
Performative rest is whathappens when we treat healing
like a task list instead of away of being.
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It's what happens when ourfreeze response puts on a face
max and calls it self-care.
It's what happens when we bypassthe body and we try to earn our
way into stillness instead oflearning how to fucking feel it.
Boom.
So if you've ever found yourselfsaying, I'm doing all the right
things, but nothing's landing,I'm trying to rest, but I still
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feel like I'm failing.
I took the day off, but I feelmore drained than before.
You are not broken.
You are just still performingbecause a part of you that
learns survival equals movement,hasn't been told that the war is
over.
The cost of living in survivalwhile calling it healing means
that you don't exhale.
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You just collapse.
You don't restore, you numb, youdon't rest.
You dissociate and you don'tfeel you perform.
What looks like feeling and thecost is, is that you never
actually experience what yourbody is craving.
A true exhale, true softness,true safety.
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You stay stuck in what I callhigh functioning freeze.
See, you're doing life butyou're not in it.
And the more that you try tobuild your healing on top of a
foundation wired for survival,the more resistance you'll hit,
the more symptoms will pop up,and the more it will feel like
you're taking one step forward.
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And five steps back.
And it's not because you'reself-sabotaging yourself, it's
because your body literallycannot register slowness,
softness, or stillness as safe.
See, I want you to think of yournervous system like a computer,
but your cells, they're theprogram.
And that program was writtenwhen you were young, when your
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body was learning what safe andnormal felt like.
And so if you grew up in chaoson unpredictability or emotional
shutdown, your cells got themessage.
Safety equals stress.
Safety equals busyness.
Safety equals overachieving.
Safety equals not fuckingfeeling.
And now, even though your adultbrain is saying, can we please
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just slow down?
Let's rest.
Let's breathe.
Your body is literally likemayday mayday.
She's slowing down.
We don't know this place.
This is not familiar.
This is not safe.
And what happens next?
Well, they start calling theirboys and they cue the anxiety,
cue the racing thoughts.
Cue the intrusive.
You're falling behind messages.
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Cue the shame spiral thatconvinces you that you're not
doing enough.
And this is happening becauseyour nervous system is trying to
return you to its baseline.
Your cells are working so hardto get you back there, and
anything outside of thatbaseline, no matter how healthy,
nourishing or peaceful it is,triggers the biological fear
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response.
This is why habit change doesn'tstick.
This is why you can journal,meditate, take the supplements,
change the behavior, but if yournervous system baseline does not
shift, you'll always snap backto what is familiar, even if
what's familiar is breaking you.
So if you've ever wondered, whydoes slowing down make me panic,
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and why do I feel worse when Itry to rest?
It's not because you're broken,my girl, I'm gonna say this over
and over and over again.
It's because your body is wiredto see rest as a threat.
And healing requires you togently rewire that truth, but
not bulldoze over it.
And that's exactly where we'regoing next.
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Alright, so before we move intowhat to do about it, I need to
take you one layer deeperbecause this right here is where
the real healing begins.
So you've heard me talk abouttrauma, freeze, and survival
mode, but what we don't talkabout enough is why your nervous
system ended up there in thefirst place.
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And no, it's not just stress orburnout or being a
perfectionist.
Those are actually symptoms.
Interestingly enough, the rootof it is usually this.
Somewhere along the way, beingyour full self didn't feel safe,
so being authentic was unsafe.
You learn that expressing yourneeds got you in trouble, that
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being too loud, messy, angry.
Sensitive, or too much wasdangerous.
That asking for help got youignored or rejected.
And so what did you do?
You adapted, you shrunk, youperformed.
You became the achiever, thegood girl, the caretaker, the
hyper independent one, becausethat's what kept you attached.
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That's what kept you alive.
That's what made you lovable.
That's what kept you emotionallysafe, even if it meant
abandoning your own truth in theprocess.
And over time, the pattern ofself suppression became your
nervous system.
Baseline.
You learn to survive by holdingyour breath, by never resting,
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by reading the room, instead ofreading your own needs, by
chasing perfection instead ofhonoring presence.
And here's the hard truth.
The longer you suppress yourtruth, the louder your body has
to scream.
That's why so many of us,especially women, are stuck in
patterns of dysregulation.
Not because we're broken, butbecause our authenticity was
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never safe.
So our nervous system learned toequate rest with punishment,
expression with rejection,stillness, with shame, and
receiving with risk.
But here's the part I want youto remember, the roots of our
life experience limit our growthin the world, but the deeper the
roots, the taller we grow, andas my mentor Tracy Lit always
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says, who you've been has zeroindication of who you are
capable of becoming.
You are not stuck because youfailed.
You are stuck because youlearned to survive by
disconnecting from your truth.
But survival isn't your foreverhome.
And as we move into thesolution, we're not just healing
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your body, we are reclaimingyour self-expression.
We're making your truth safeagain inside your own skin.
So let's talk about how we dothat.
Okay, so let's break downsomething nobody tells you about
burnout, especially if you're ahigh functioning woman who's
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been stuck in freeze, but stillshowing up and doing all the
things.
Yeah, no.
You know that wired but tiredfeeling.
We've spoken about it plenty oftimes today, where your body is
exhausted, but your brain isbuzzing.
You can't sleep, you can't sitstill, you can't think straight,
but also you feel totally numb.
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That's not just stress, that'sbiochemical collapse.
See, when your nervous system isstuck in chronic stress or
freeze, your body goes intoconservation mode.
It slows digestion, it shutsdown nutrient absorption, and it
burns through minerals andvitamin like wildfire, which
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means you eat healthy, butyou're still inflamed and
bloated.
You're taking all the rightsupplements, but nothing's
landing.
You feel more sensitive, morereactive, more moody, and more
disconnected because your bodyis literally running on fumes.
So let me say that again.
Burnout is not just emotionalfatigue.
It is a metabolic depletion, andhere's how it becomes a vicious
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loop.
So stress shuts down digestion,so your gut can absorb nutrients
properly.
Then your body gets depleted ofmagnesium.
B six, zinc, C, D, E, all thetank, right?
Then you stop producing enoughneurotransmitters like your
dopamine and serotonin, whichall drop.
They're all created in the gut.
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And then your nervous systembecomes more reactive and less
resilient, and suddenly you'reping ponging between burnout,
anxiety, depression, rage,freeze, and fatigue, all while
still trying to do the work allwhile your body's screaming.
Hello, I don't feel safe.
Now, let's make it real andpaint the picture for you.
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Here's what a typical burnoutbreakfast looks like for a high
achieving woman that may be infreeze mode.
So of course, you have coffee onan empty stomach, no protein, no
fats, no fiber.
You're scrolling through emailsor maybe TikTok before you even
take a breath, and then twohours later, anxiety, racing
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thoughts, blood sugar crash,brain fog, craving sugar, and
wondering why you're so tiredand wired all at the same time.
This right here, that's not justa bad habit.
It's trauma reenactment on abiochemical level because what
happens when you spike cortisolfirst thing in the morning
without feeding your body safetythrough food?
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You activate your stressresponse, your blood sugar
crashes, your body panics, youoverride your hunger cues, and
then your nervous system goesinto freeze or overdrive.
And suddenly you're dealing withchronic inflammation, gut
dysfunction, like bloating,constipation, IBS, hormonal
chaos, likeP-M-S-P-M-D-D-P-C-O-S, sleep
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disruption and insomnia, or lowlibido, low dopamine, low
motivation, adrenal fatigue, andthat I can't keep up any more
feeling.
So it's not a mindset issue.
This is a nervous systembreakdown being lived out
through your metabolism, yourhormones, your gut, and your
energy.
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And that's why if you're doingall the right things, but you
still feel like shit, it's not'cause you're lazy.
It's not because you're broken.
It's because your body neverlearned how to stop surviving
long enough to receivenourishment.
So what do we do about it?
Well, that's where nervoussystem restoration comes in.
So let's talk about how werebuild that safety step by step
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through rhythm, nourishment, andcapacity.
So now you understand the loop.
Okay?
You know that your nervoussystem didn't randomly break one
day it adapted.
It learned to survive chaos onunpredictability, pressure, and
perfectionism by never stopping.
But now that you're no longer insurvival, the question becomes.
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How do I actually start to feelsafe in stillness when my whole
body still believes stillnessequals threat?
And here's the truth, I need youto tattoo on your freaking soul.
You cannot hustle your way intorest or safety.
You cannot positive think yourway out of dysregulation, and
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you cannot fake softness whenyour biology is screaming for
safety.
You have to restore safety atthe level of your dysregulation
and where it originated, not inyour thoughts, but in your
nervous system, in yourbiochemistry and your body's
sense of timing, rhythm andinternal truth.
So how do we do that?
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Well, let me walk you throughthe embodied nervous system
framework that I teach, which isa roadmap to bring your body out
of protection and back intopresence.
Phase one is all about rhythm,because chaos is not the vibe,
and your nervous system doesn'ttrust you yet, so you have to
reteach it.
What safe rhythm feels like?
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So this starts with circadianrhythm because your biology is
wired to follow the sun, andwhen you're stuck in burnout or
freeze, your internal clock istotally scrambled.
So before your phone, beforeyour to-do list, get outside.
Even if it's cloudy, even ifit's just for two minutes, I
want to let your nervous systemsink with nature's rhythm.
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So morning, sunlight andgrounding is so, so important.
Try to aim for about 20 minutesa day, but getting sunlight in
your eyes in the morning rightwhen you wake up is key.
It's gonna help your bodyproduce serotonin, get the
vitamin D, and also startproducing melatonin for
nighttime.
Then sunset and midday walks arereally important because the sun
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is really your greatest nervoussystem regulator.
A walk after lunch or walkingthe sky change at night,
literally resets cortisol andmelatonin.
And then at evening, like aroundevening time, you wanna turn off
all overhead lights.
And get some blue blockingglasses for nighttime.
Use red bulbs, candles, saltlamps.
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Dim the world and reclaim theconcept of the cave, right?
It's not really about aesthetic.
It's more so for your biology.
This is gonna help your body getthe cue that it's time for
bedtime.
And if you think back in theolden days, like we'd be in
front of a fire, so our biologyis wired this way, so dimming
the lights, getting red bulbs.
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Candles, salt lamps, whatever itis, use those at nighttime.
Get some blue blocking glassesand use those before you go to
bed.
And just don't look at yourphone at least 30 minutes before
bed because it's gonna, the bluelight causes your cortisol to
spike and then that lowers yourmelatonin and you won't be able
to fall asleep.
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So when your body knows whattime it is, it knows it can
rest.
Phase two is all aboutnourishment.
Because you can't regulatewithout resources.
Now, burnout isn't justemotional, it's biochemical
bankruptcy.
So when you've been living in afight or freeze for years, your
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body has burned through keynutrients like magnesium, which
is great for calm and musclerelaxation.
It's ran through zinc, which isgreat for immunity and
cognition.
It's ran through your Bvitamins, which is great for
energy and yourneurotransmitters, and then it
also clears out glutathione.
I don't know if I'm saying thatright, but it's amazing for
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detox and repair, and thisexplains why high functioning
women in freeze can feel wired,but tired, inflamed, moody, and
disconnected.
And it's because you'reliterally running on fumes.
You're not just tired, you areundernourished at a cellular
level.
So before coffee, I want you toeat.
We do not wanna have caffeine onan empty stomach because it
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equals cortisol spikes, bloodsugar crashes, nervous system
panic.
And a lot of times this happensall before 9:00 AM.
So instead what we can do is sipsome tulsi tea or holy basil tea
or adaptogens, any type ofadaptogenic.
Tea is amazing while making areal breakfast, right?
So we wanna choose nourishmentover stimulation.
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In your meals, you want them tobe at least 25 to 40 grams of
protein with healthy fats.
Carbs, yes carbs.
They're nervous system food.
That's what we love for energyand fiber.
Because food isn't just fuel.
It's a signal, it's a message,it's a Hey body, you're safe.
You have what you need.
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Our body is made up of all thenutrients that we take in.
So the lower quality of foodthat we eat, the lower level of
thoughts that we're gonna have,the lower level of health that
we're gonna have, it all plays apart.
And your mental health is yourmetabolic health.
Next, we wanna make sure that wereplenish our minerals, so we
can do this through adrenalcocktails.
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Chronic stress depletes sodium,potassium, and magnesium, and
many a times.
Burnt out Women are women whoare mineral depleted.
So there's a really basic recipethat I love.
Um, you can do half a cup of oj,one fourth teaspoon of cream of
tartar, one fourth teaspoon ofsea salt.
Two tablespoons of coconut milkand a scoop of collagen, which
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is optional, but it's alwaysgreat to edit in.
And your minerals will bereplenished from just having
that in the morning.
And you wanna think of them aslike your spark plugs of your
nervous system.
So if they're drained, no amountof mindset work will land.
So you can do the adrenalcocktail or you can get some
electrolytes.
Uh, I have it every single day.
They're so important and youwill notice a massive
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difference.
Phase three is detox andexpression.
Because healing isn't aboutdoing less, it's about feeling
more.
So this is where we stopsuppressing and we start
releasing because you know whatcauses chronic inflammation and
nervous system chaos.
Well, it's not just toxins, butit's also unfelt emotions
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suppressed authenticity andtraumatized tissues.
So the opposite of nervoussystem dysregulation is not
calm, it's actuallyself-expression.
So one of the ways that we cando this for a daily detox for
excess estrogen and bacteriathat messes with your gut
brainin access is doing a rawcarrot salad Really.
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I'm serious.
It's super cheap.
It's simple and it's powerful asfuck.
So just a raw carrot salad willhelp with detoxing, excess
estrogen, and bacteria, and itwill help with your gut.
You can also do dry brushing andCastro oil packs.
This is gonna help you move thelymphatic system, which is
extremely important.
We're gonna clear the debris ofsurvival mode within your body.
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If your lymphatic system is notmoving properly, you will tell
your fascia and your body willfeel.
Sore.
You'll have poor detoxificationand poor drainage.
And when we have all of that,that backs up into all the areas
of our body and our mind.
So we wanna support our fasciaand liver as they let go of
stored stress.
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We also wanna do magnesium bathsand ginger tea.
So we restore our minerals, openour pores, let your system
exhale.
Hot water helps release freezefrom the body, so add baking
soda or apple cider vinegar fornext level clearing.
And an emotional hygienepractice that you can do every
night is ask yourself, whatemotion did I not express today?
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Right?
Let it move.
Allow yourself to cry.
Allow yourself to shake, screaminto a pillow, into your arm.
Dance it out.
Don't overthink it.
Just express.
See, emotions are not for themind.
A lot of people get this mixedup.
We.
Over rationalize our emotions.
We think about our emotions, weinternalize our emotions, but
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the truth is, emotions are forthe body.
Thoughts are for the mind, butthoughts create emotions.
So many of us have neveractually been taught how to feel
emotion.
We think we know how to feelthem, but we're actually in a
loop and we're in a nervoussystem loop that's keeping us in
a dysregulation and low levelemotions that we have not yet
released.
So speaking of somatic tools,because your body deserves to be
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heard.
For one minute a day, I want youto start somatic tracking.
So somatic just means soma,which means body.
So I want you to drop in, nodistractions, no fixing, just
noticing.
I want you to set a one minutetimer, close your eyes and
notice your body.
So maybe you notice that yourchest feels tight, maybe your
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belly is buzzing.
You're not here to change it.
I just want you to become awareand to listen to what your body
is saying and breathe into it.
What is my body saying to me?
We have to become bodyilliterate before we can even
make any changes that are goingon with ourselves.
A lot of times we don't knowwhat we need because we don't
really know how to feel whatwe're feeling.
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Nervous system anchoring.
So put your back against thewall, feet grounded, and then
inhale for four.
And exhale for eight.
Repeat that five times and ask,do I feel a little more here?
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Do I feel present?
Allow yourself to take sometime, close your eyes, close
down the chaos around you.
You can also do alternativenostril breathing that I
absolutely love, and again, I'mjust reiterating circadian trust
is huge here.
So focusing on getting light inthe morning, screens off at
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night.
Predictable meals.
Make sure you're nourishingyourself not having caffeine
right away on an empty stomachand focusing on getting
consistent rest.
Your body doesn't needpunishment, it needs pattern, it
needs trust.
You cannot build a life of easeon a foundation of survival.
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Your nervous system has donesuch an amazing job keeping you
alive.
I really want you to think aboutthis.
Everything that it's beenholding for you, all the things
that you've just stuffed downinto it, it's time to teach it
how to live.
Now, you don't need anotherprotocol.
You don't need another five steptrick on TikTok.
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You need restoration.
You need rhythm, nourishment,safety expression.
One step, one moment withyourself and one signal at a
time.
Let your body know you're safe.
Now you can soften here.
This is really a re-parenting, areconnection.
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The true root of most diseasesis disconnection from the body.
So right here, we are softeninginto ourselves.
We're saying Hello body.
Hi body.
I love you body.
Thank you, body.
Thank you for breathing for me.
Thank you for keeping me alive.
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Thank you for holding all thosethings.
You're safe now though.
You don't need to do thatanymore.
There's a lot of inner childwork that goes into this that I
work with my clients on.
So if you're still here, ifyou're still listening, first of
all, breathe, let your shouldersdrop.
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UNC unclench your jaw.
Exhale the pressure and let yourbody arrive right here, right
now, because we just unpacked alot.
It wasn't just information, itwas a fucking reclamation.
Today we cracked open what noone tells you about why rest
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feels like a threat, not areward.
How burnout, trauma responses,and low level freeze aren't
personal failures.
They are truly adaptations andintelligence of your body while
your nervous system has beenstuck in survival while you're
trying to heal, and what toactually do about it from the
inside out.
So here's what I want you toknow, and I've told you this 5
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million billion times, and I'mgonna say it again.
You are not lazy, you are notbroken.
You are not failing at healing.
You are a woman who learned tosurvive in a world that praised
your performance, but nevertaught you how to rest.
But guess what?
You don't live there anymore andyour body deserves to know that
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it's time to.
It's time to stop outsourcingyour safety and start rebuilding
it in real time through rhythm,nourishment, and nervous system
Love.
You don't need moreproductivity.
You need more permission.
You don't need to fix yourself.
You need to feel more.
You don't need another wellnessroutine.
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You need restoration andself-trust.
alright, come on and join myprivate Facebook group, the
Embody This Collective, it'sintimate, it's free, and it's
filled with women just like youdoing the real raw work of
healing their nervous system andcoming home to themselves.
Drop a post, tell me whatlanded.
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Ask a question or just say hi.
I love to hear what came up foryou during this episode, and I'd
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if you wanna go deeper, grabBody Love blueprint.
It's in the show notes and it isa five day full body nervous
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more aligned with what it isthat you need.
And listen, you deserve a lifethat doesn't feel like one long
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recovery cycle, a life thatdoesn't require you to earn your
rest.
You are safe to pause.
You are safe to exhale.
You are safe to rebuild yourlife from a place of softness,
not survival.
Until then, soften, slow down.
And remember, you are nevermeant to heal in high speed,
hustle mode.
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You were meant to come alive, torest, to feel, to reclaim the
version of you that doesn't justsurvive, but actually belongs in
her own body.
Let's embody this together.
Until next time,
Let me ask you something.
What if your exhaustion isn'tfrom doing too much, but from
being too much for too long?
What if the reason you can'tslow down isn't because you're
broken?
But because your nervous systemonly knows how to survive by
staying busy, I used to think Ijust needed a better routine,
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more rest days, a self-carecalendar, a reset weekend, but
rest didn't work because everytime I tried to slow down, I
felt like I was dying.
My brain would spiral, my bodywould buzz, and the silence, the
stillness, it felt like a trap.
I wasn't just burnt out.
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I was frozen living in a bodythat didn't know how to feel
safe unless it was provingsomething.
And I see this in my clients, myfriends, my community, every
damn day.
Women who are doing all theright things, but still feel
like their body is betrayingthem.
But it's not betrayal, it'sprotection.
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You are not stuck because you'relazy.
You're farthest from lazy.
You're stuck because yournervous system was never taught
how to come down, and that'swhat we're unpacking today.
Let's talk about why rest feelslike death and how to finally
start healing the loop thatkeeps pulling you back into
overdrive.
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Welcome to Embody this.
The no BS Healing podcast forwomen who are done performing
overgiving and calling itwellness.
If you're in your thirties orbeyond and you've been through
it, the gut stuff, the burnout,the anxiety, the shame spiral of
why do I keep ending up here?
You're in the right place, girl.
(01:51):
I'm your host Lauren MichelleJewel, a sober single business
owning badass who has beenhumbled as hell by healing.
But I'm not just someone who'slived it.
I've coached it, studied it, andwalked alongside hundreds of
women as they unhooked fromsurvival mode and remember how
to come home to their bodies.
I specialize in the gut-brainconnection, personalized
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nutrition, nervous systemregulation, emotional healing,
and identity evolution, becausehere's the truth.
You can take all thesupplements, you can do all the
therapy, you can rest journal,meditate, and eat the damn chia
pudding.
But if your nervous system stillbelieves that rest equals
danger, none of it will land.
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Because healing isn't aboutdoing less, it's about feeling
more.
This podcast exists to help yourebuild safety inside your body
so you can stop living in a loopof burnout.
And finally, trust yourselfagain.
Quick note.
This show is for educational andempowerment purposes only.
It's not a replacement fortherapy or medical care.
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Always consult a trustedprovider when making decisions
about your health.
And if this episode lands,follow the show rate and review
and share it with a friend who'sstuck in the same cycle you're
healing from.
Alright, let's drop in.
Let's go back to the beginning.
Not of your stress, but of yourwiring.
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Because burnout, freeze, andtrauma loops, they don't just
come from doing too much.
They come from learning tooearly.
That rest was a risk.
Let me explain.
If you were the girl who held itall together, the responsible
one, the achiever, thecaretaker, the fixer, then your
nervous system adapted aroundthat identity.
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So you learned that beingproductive made you valuable,
that staying busy kept you safe.
That collapsing wasn't an optionbecause no one was coming to
catch you, so you kept going.
You became reliable, highfunctioning, independent as
hell.
You built a life on competenceand performance and doing the
most, but underneath all ofthat, you never learned how to
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come down.
You were wired to keep moving,not because you were ambitious,
but because your nervous systemonly knows how to survive by
staying on, and now even whenyour life is different, even
when your body is safe, evenwhen you try to rest, the same
wiring is running the show.
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This is the real reason you feellike rest equals falling behind.
Like stillness equalsvulnerability.
Like your worth disappears themoment you stop performing.
This isn't about timemanagement.
This isn't about being bad atrest.
This is a nervous system loopthat started the moment you
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learn that safety equals doing,and unless we rewire it, it will
keep showing up.
No matter how many yoga classesor nervous system memes you
scroll through.
So today I'm gonna show you howto stop managing your symptoms
and start understanding thestory your nervous system is
still living in.
So let's break the cycle andlet's come home to our body.
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So now we're wired for survival.
You were trained on a body levelto associate doing with safety
and stillness, with danger.
And that wiring, it didn't stayemotional, it became biological.
Let's talk about what's actuallyhappening inside your body now
that the patterns running onautopilot.
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You wake up already anxious, youskip breakfast, grab coffee, and
head straight into overdrive.
You crush your to-do list, butyour brain's still buzzing.
And even when your body begs youto stop, you probably keep going
because if you were to stop,well, the feelings might come up
and that still feels like thebigger threat right now.
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You're not just stressed.
I need you to hear me.
You are looping the chronicstress equals elevated cortisol,
and your body stays in fight orflight mode, pumping out stress
hormones to keep you alive, butthere's no actual bear chasing
you.
It's just the calendar full ofshit.
You can't say no to.
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An elevated cortisol equalsdopamine depletion.
So your reward and pleasuresystem gets fried.
You start chasing more just tofeel anything.
And that's why the scroll hits.
That's why rest feels boring.
That's why you crave chaos,drama pressure, because it feels
familiar.
And when we have dopaminedepletion, well, we become
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addicted to intensity.
So you unconsciously becomeaddicted to stress hormones, and
being addicted to intensitymeans that your dopamine's gonna
get depleted.
And this can be identified bynoticing if you don't know how
to just be, or that you reachfor stimulation constantly, like
phone, your food, noise,numbing, whatever the next steps
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are, right?
Stillness just doesn't registeras safe.
It registers as a threat.
So now you're either spiralingin overdrive, frozen, and shut
down or bouncing between thetwo, like it's your full time
fucking job.
The loop ends up becoming youridentity.
You call it ambition, but it'sactually a survival.
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You call it motivation, but it'sreally fear, and you call it
resilience, but it's emotionalsuppression in a productivity
costume.
And here's what's worse.
You start thinking, maybe I justneed to try harder.
Maybe I'm just bad at relaxing.
Maybe this is just who I am.
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No, babe.
This isn't your personality.
It's your physiology.
So when your nervous system isdysregulated, I need you to hear
me.
Every other system in your bodypays the price.
For example, your gut, it'sprobably wrecked because low
vagal tone equals poor motility.
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Low stomach acid equalsbloating, indigestion and
nutrient mal absorption.
Leaky gut, well that equalssystematic inflammation, and
that leads to also braininflammation.
You could show signs of IBSconstipation, sugar craving,
skin issues, hormonerecirculation, which is just
toxin overload, and these areall symptoms of.
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What happens when we stay inthis dysregulated state?
And let me guess your hormones.
Are they chaotic?
Do you have cortisol dominance,which also equals estrogen
dominance Has your progesteronedropped, mood swings?
Anxiety.
PMS, insomnia.
How about that?
Fatigue, weight gain, and cold.
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Hands and feet.
That's your thyroid.
Or do you see blood sugarcrashes, PCOS or pre-diabetes
within your system?
'cause that is from the insulinresistance it caused in your
immune system.
I bet you that's suppressed too.
If you're somebody who catcheseverything that goes around, or
you have chronic skin flare-ups,or maybe you've even developed
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an autoimmune symptom or.
Flare pattern.
This is because it affects theimmune system.
And don't forget about your moodand sleep.
It's probably shredded.
See when we cannot feel pleasureor.
We feel anxiety, depression, andOCD tendencies.
This is because thisdysregulation leads to low
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dopamine and low serotonin, andit also is a big key player in
why our GABA is so low.
So GABA is our Let's Chill Outneurotransmitter.
And if you have low GABA or nogaba, it's going to lead to you
not being able to shut yourbrain off at night.
And if you wake up.
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Tired, but you go to bed wired.
Again, this is another sign ofdysregulation within the nervous
system, and it doesn't stopthere.
This also becomes chronictension in migraines, low
libido, exhaustion.
You can't shake constant urgencyand inner chaos.
A body that looks fine, butfeels like hell.
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And this is key because this wasme.
So when you say I'm tired butwired, I feel inflamed all the
time.
I am doing everything right andI still feel like shit.
It is not random and it is not alack of willpower.
It is your nervous systemleading your body and your body
doing everything it can to keepyou safe, even at the cost of
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your health.
So let me say it louder.
For the women in the free state,your brain is not broken, your
symptoms are not made up.
Your body is not failing you.
It is protecting you, but it'susing an outdated map.
One that is built in survival,not safety, and unless we give
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it a new signal through rhythm,nourishment, and capacity
building, it will keep looping.
So you're not stuck becauseyou're not trying hard enough.
You're stuck because yournervous system was never taught
how to feel safe doing less.
So let me tell you about a timeI thought I was resting.
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It was a Sunday.
I cleared the calendar.
No clients, no calls, justspace, right?
I even wrote it in all caps.
Do nothing rest.
Full reset, cue, right?
I lit the candle.
I made the hot cow cow.
I put on the playlist thatpractically whispers.
Relax, dammit.
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I had my journal.
I had some essential oils.
I was ready to rest, but mybody, it was still in full-blown
panic mode.
My legs would not stop bouncing.
My chest was tight and my brainwas cycling through a thousand
tabs.
So what did I do?
Well, obviously I opened TikTokand then I scrolled for three
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hours.
I compared, I dissociated and Inumbed down.
And afterwards, I remember Ifelt guilty for not resting
right?
Like, what does that even mean?
Like I literally guilt tripmyself for doing it wrong.
Here's the truth.
Rest isn't rest.
If your nervous system stillthinks you're in danger, you
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can't fake safety and you can'tperform your way into peace.
We say we're resting, but reallywe're just unplugging while
still guilt tripping ourselves.
We cancel the plans, but we beatourselves up for not being
productive.
We take a bath, but we scrollthe whole time.
We do breath work, but we use itto avoid grief instead of
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feeling, we say we're doingnervous system work, but we're
still chasing peace the sameway.
We chase validation by doing, bycontrolling and by strategizing
our way out of the discomfort.
Performative rest is whathappens when we treat healing
like a task list instead of away of being.
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It's what happens when ourfreeze response puts on a face
max and calls it self-care.
It's what happens when we bypassthe body and we try to earn our
way into stillness instead oflearning how to fucking feel it.
Boom.
So if you've ever found yourselfsaying, I'm doing all the right
things, but nothing's landing,I'm trying to rest, but I still
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feel like I'm failing.
I took the day off, but I feelmore drained than before.
You are not broken.
You are just still performingbecause a part of you that
learns survival equals movement,hasn't been told that the war is
over.
The cost of living in survivalwhile calling it healing means
that you don't exhale.
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You just collapse.
You don't restore, you numb, youdon't rest.
You dissociate and you don'tfeel you perform.
What looks like feeling and thecost is, is that you never
actually experience what yourbody is craving.
A true exhale, true softness,true safety.
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You stay stuck in what I callhigh functioning freeze.
See, you're doing life butyou're not in it.
And the more that you try tobuild your healing on top of a
foundation wired for survival,the more resistance you'll hit,
the more symptoms will pop up,and the more it will feel like
you're taking one step forward.
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And five steps back.
And it's not because you'reself-sabotaging yourself, it's
because your body literallycannot register slowness,
softness, or stillness as safe.
See, I want you to think of yournervous system like a computer,
but your cells, they're theprogram.
And that program was writtenwhen you were young, when your
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body was learning what safe andnormal felt like.
And so if you grew up in chaoson unpredictability or emotional
shutdown, your cells got themessage.
Safety equals stress.
Safety equals busyness.
Safety equals overachieving.
Safety equals not fuckingfeeling.
And now, even though your adultbrain is saying, can we please
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just slow down?
Let's rest.
Let's breathe.
Your body is literally likemayday mayday.
She's slowing down.
We don't know this place.
This is not familiar.
This is not safe.
And what happens next?
Well, they start calling theirboys and they cue the anxiety,
cue the racing thoughts.
Cue the intrusive.
You're falling behind messages.
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Cue the shame spiral thatconvinces you that you're not
doing enough.
And this is happening becauseyour nervous system is trying to
return you to its baseline.
Your cells are working so hardto get you back there, and
anything outside of thatbaseline, no matter how healthy,
nourishing or peaceful it is,triggers the biological fear
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response.
This is why habit change doesn'tstick.
This is why you can journal,meditate, take the supplements,
change the behavior, but if yournervous system baseline does not
shift, you'll always snap backto what is familiar, even if
what's familiar is breaking you.
So if you've ever wondered, whydoes slowing down make me panic,
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and why do I feel worse when Itry to rest?
It's not because you're broken,my girl, I'm gonna say this over
and over and over again.
It's because your body is wiredto see rest as a threat.
And healing requires you togently rewire that truth, but
not bulldoze over it.
And that's exactly where we'regoing next.
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Alright, so before we move intowhat to do about it, I need to
take you one layer deeperbecause this right here is where
the real healing begins.
So you've heard me talk abouttrauma, freeze, and survival
mode, but what we don't talkabout enough is why your nervous
system ended up there in thefirst place.
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And no, it's not just stress orburnout or being a
perfectionist.
Those are actually symptoms.
Interestingly enough, the rootof it is usually this.
Somewhere along the way, beingyour full self didn't feel safe,
so being authentic was unsafe.
You learn that expressing yourneeds got you in trouble, that
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being too loud, messy, angry.
Sensitive, or too much wasdangerous.
That asking for help got youignored or rejected.
And so what did you do?
You adapted, you shrunk, youperformed.
You became the achiever, thegood girl, the caretaker, the
hyper independent one, becausethat's what kept you attached.
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That's what kept you alive.
That's what made you lovable.
That's what kept you emotionallysafe, even if it meant
abandoning your own truth in theprocess.
And over time, the pattern ofself suppression became your
nervous system.
Baseline.
You learn to survive by holdingyour breath, by never resting,
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by reading the room, instead ofreading your own needs, by
chasing perfection instead ofhonoring presence.
And here's the hard truth.
The longer you suppress yourtruth, the louder your body has
to scream.
That's why so many of us,especially women, are stuck in
patterns of dysregulation.
Not because we're broken, butbecause our authenticity was
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never safe.
So our nervous system learned toequate rest with punishment,
expression with rejection,stillness, with shame, and
receiving with risk.
But here's the part I want youto remember, the roots of our
life experience limit our growthin the world, but the deeper the
roots, the taller we grow, andas my mentor Tracy Lit always
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says, who you've been has zeroindication of who you are
capable of becoming.
You are not stuck because youfailed.
You are stuck because youlearned to survive by
disconnecting from your truth.
But survival isn't your foreverhome.
And as we move into thesolution, we're not just healing
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your body, we are reclaimingyour self-expression.
We're making your truth safeagain inside your own skin.
So let's talk about how we dothat.
Okay, so let's break downsomething nobody tells you about
burnout, especially if you're ahigh functioning woman who's
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been stuck in freeze, but stillshowing up and doing all the
things.
Yeah, no.
You know that wired but tiredfeeling.
We've spoken about it plenty oftimes today, where your body is
exhausted, but your brain isbuzzing.
You can't sleep, you can't sitstill, you can't think straight,
but also you feel totally numb.
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That's not just stress, that'sbiochemical collapse.
See, when your nervous system isstuck in chronic stress or
freeze, your body goes intoconservation mode.
It slows digestion, it shutsdown nutrient absorption, and it
burns through minerals andvitamin like wildfire, which
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means you eat healthy, butyou're still inflamed and
bloated.
You're taking all the rightsupplements, but nothing's
landing.
You feel more sensitive, morereactive, more moody, and more
disconnected because your bodyis literally running on fumes.
So let me say that again.
Burnout is not just emotionalfatigue.
It is a metabolic depletion, andhere's how it becomes a vicious
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loop.
So stress shuts down digestion,so your gut can absorb nutrients
properly.
Then your body gets depleted ofmagnesium.
B six, zinc, C, D, E, all thetank, right?
Then you stop producing enoughneurotransmitters like your
dopamine and serotonin, whichall drop.
They're all created in the gut.
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And then your nervous systembecomes more reactive and less
resilient, and suddenly you'reping ponging between burnout,
anxiety, depression, rage,freeze, and fatigue, all while
still trying to do the work allwhile your body's screaming.
Hello, I don't feel safe.
Now, let's make it real andpaint the picture for you.
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Here's what a typical burnoutbreakfast looks like for a high
achieving woman that may be infreeze mode.
So of course, you have coffee onan empty stomach, no protein, no
fats, no fiber.
You're scrolling through emailsor maybe TikTok before you even
take a breath, and then twohours later, anxiety, racing
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thoughts, blood sugar crash,brain fog, craving sugar, and
wondering why you're so tiredand wired all at the same time.
This right here, that's not justa bad habit.
It's trauma reenactment on abiochemical level because what
happens when you spike cortisolfirst thing in the morning
without feeding your body safetythrough food?
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You activate your stressresponse, your blood sugar
crashes, your body panics, youoverride your hunger cues, and
then your nervous system goesinto freeze or overdrive.
And suddenly you're dealing withchronic inflammation, gut
dysfunction, like bloating,constipation, IBS, hormonal
chaos, likeP-M-S-P-M-D-D-P-C-O-S, sleep
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disruption and insomnia, or lowlibido, low dopamine, low
motivation, adrenal fatigue, andthat I can't keep up any more
feeling.
So it's not a mindset issue.
This is a nervous systembreakdown being lived out
through your metabolism, yourhormones, your gut, and your
energy.
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And that's why if you're doingall the right things, but you
still feel like shit, it's not'cause you're lazy.
It's not because you're broken.
It's because your body neverlearned how to stop surviving
long enough to receivenourishment.
So what do we do about it?
Well, that's where nervoussystem restoration comes in.
So let's talk about how werebuild that safety step by step
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through rhythm, nourishment, andcapacity.
So now you understand the loop.
Okay?
You know that your nervoussystem didn't randomly break one
day it adapted.
It learned to survive chaos onunpredictability, pressure, and
perfectionism by never stopping.
But now that you're no longer insurvival, the question becomes.
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How do I actually start to feelsafe in stillness when my whole
body still believes stillnessequals threat?
And here's the truth, I need youto tattoo on your freaking soul.
You cannot hustle your way intorest or safety.
You cannot positive think yourway out of dysregulation, and
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you cannot fake softness whenyour biology is screaming for
safety.
You have to restore safety atthe level of your dysregulation
and where it originated, not inyour thoughts, but in your
nervous system, in yourbiochemistry and your body's
sense of timing, rhythm andinternal truth.
So how do we do that?
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Well, let me walk you throughthe embodied nervous system
framework that I teach, which isa roadmap to bring your body out
of protection and back intopresence.
Phase one is all about rhythm,because chaos is not the vibe,
and your nervous system doesn'ttrust you yet, so you have to
reteach it.
What safe rhythm feels like?
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So this starts with circadianrhythm because your biology is
wired to follow the sun, andwhen you're stuck in burnout or
freeze, your internal clock istotally scrambled.
So before your phone, beforeyour to-do list, get outside.
Even if it's cloudy, even ifit's just for two minutes, I
want to let your nervous systemsink with nature's rhythm.
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So morning, sunlight andgrounding is so, so important.
Try to aim for about 20 minutesa day, but getting sunlight in
your eyes in the morning rightwhen you wake up is key.
It's gonna help your bodyproduce serotonin, get the
vitamin D, and also startproducing melatonin for
nighttime.
Then sunset and midday walks arereally important because the sun
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is really your greatest nervoussystem regulator.
A walk after lunch or walkingthe sky change at night,
literally resets cortisol andmelatonin.
And then at evening, like aroundevening time, you wanna turn off
all overhead lights.
And get some blue blockingglasses for nighttime.
Use red bulbs, candles, saltlamps.
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Dim the world and reclaim theconcept of the cave, right?
It's not really about aesthetic.
It's more so for your biology.
This is gonna help your body getthe cue that it's time for
bedtime.
And if you think back in theolden days, like we'd be in
front of a fire, so our biologyis wired this way, so dimming
the lights, getting red bulbs.
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Candles, salt lamps, whatever itis, use those at nighttime.
Get some blue blocking glassesand use those before you go to
bed.
And just don't look at yourphone at least 30 minutes before
bed because it's gonna, the bluelight causes your cortisol to
spike and then that lowers yourmelatonin and you won't be able
to fall asleep.
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So when your body knows whattime it is, it knows it can
rest.
Phase two is all aboutnourishment.
Because you can't regulatewithout resources.
Now, burnout isn't justemotional, it's biochemical
bankruptcy.
So when you've been living in afight or freeze for years, your
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body has burned through keynutrients like magnesium, which
is great for calm and musclerelaxation.
It's ran through zinc, which isgreat for immunity and
cognition.
It's ran through your Bvitamins, which is great for
energy and yourneurotransmitters, and then it
also clears out glutathione.
I don't know if I'm saying thatright, but it's amazing for
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detox and repair, and thisexplains why high functioning
women in freeze can feel wired,but tired, inflamed, moody, and
disconnected.
And it's because you'reliterally running on fumes.
You're not just tired, you areundernourished at a cellular
level.
So before coffee, I want you toeat.
We do not wanna have caffeine onan empty stomach because it
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equals cortisol spikes, bloodsugar crashes, nervous system
panic.
And a lot of times this happensall before 9:00 AM.
So instead what we can do is sipsome tulsi tea or holy basil tea
or adaptogens, any type ofadaptogenic.
Tea is amazing while making areal breakfast, right?
So we wanna choose nourishmentover stimulation.
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In your meals, you want them tobe at least 25 to 40 grams of
protein with healthy fats.
Carbs, yes carbs.
They're nervous system food.
That's what we love for energyand fiber.
Because food isn't just fuel.
It's a signal, it's a message,it's a Hey body, you're safe.
You have what you need.
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Our body is made up of all thenutrients that we take in.
So the lower quality of foodthat we eat, the lower level of
thoughts that we're gonna have,the lower level of health that
we're gonna have, it all plays apart.
And your mental health is yourmetabolic health.
Next, we wanna make sure that wereplenish our minerals, so we
can do this through adrenalcocktails.
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Chronic stress depletes sodium,potassium, and magnesium, and
many a times.
Burnt out Women are women whoare mineral depleted.
So there's a really basic recipethat I love.
Um, you can do half a cup of oj,one fourth teaspoon of cream of
tartar, one fourth teaspoon ofsea salt.
Two tablespoons of coconut milkand a scoop of collagen, which
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is optional, but it's alwaysgreat to edit in.
And your minerals will bereplenished from just having
that in the morning.
And you wanna think of them aslike your spark plugs of your
nervous system.
So if they're drained, no amountof mindset work will land.
So you can do the adrenalcocktail or you can get some
electrolytes.
Uh, I have it every single day.
They're so important and youwill notice a massive
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difference.
Phase three is detox andexpression.
Because healing isn't aboutdoing less, it's about feeling
more.
So this is where we stopsuppressing and we start
releasing because you know whatcauses chronic inflammation and
nervous system chaos.
Well, it's not just toxins, butit's also unfelt emotions
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suppressed authenticity andtraumatized tissues.
So the opposite of nervoussystem dysregulation is not
calm, it's actuallyself-expression.
So one of the ways that we cando this for a daily detox for
excess estrogen and bacteriathat messes with your gut
brainin access is doing a rawcarrot salad Really.
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I'm serious.
It's super cheap.
It's simple and it's powerful asfuck.
So just a raw carrot salad willhelp with detoxing, excess
estrogen, and bacteria, and itwill help with your gut.
You can also do dry brushing andCastro oil packs.
This is gonna help you move thelymphatic system, which is
extremely important.
We're gonna clear the debris ofsurvival mode within your body.
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If your lymphatic system is notmoving properly, you will tell
your fascia and your body willfeel.
Sore.
You'll have poor detoxificationand poor drainage.
And when we have all of that,that backs up into all the areas
of our body and our mind.
So we wanna support our fasciaand liver as they let go of
stored stress.
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We also wanna do magnesium bathsand ginger tea.
So we restore our minerals, openour pores, let your system
exhale.
Hot water helps release freezefrom the body, so add baking
soda or apple cider vinegar fornext level clearing.
And an emotional hygienepractice that you can do every
night is ask yourself, whatemotion did I not express today?
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Right?
Let it move.
Allow yourself to cry.
Allow yourself to shake, screaminto a pillow, into your arm.
Dance it out.
Don't overthink it.
Just express.
See, emotions are not for themind.
A lot of people get this mixedup.
We.
Over rationalize our emotions.
We think about our emotions, weinternalize our emotions, but
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the truth is, emotions are forthe body.
Thoughts are for the mind, butthoughts create emotions.
So many of us have neveractually been taught how to feel
emotion.
We think we know how to feelthem, but we're actually in a
loop and we're in a nervoussystem loop that's keeping us in
a dysregulation and low levelemotions that we have not yet
released.
So speaking of somatic tools,because your body deserves to be
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heard.
For one minute a day, I want youto start somatic tracking.
So somatic just means soma,which means body.
So I want you to drop in, nodistractions, no fixing, just
noticing.
I want you to set a one minutetimer, close your eyes and
notice your body.
So maybe you notice that yourchest feels tight, maybe your
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belly is buzzing.
You're not here to change it.
I just want you to become awareand to listen to what your body
is saying and breathe into it.
What is my body saying to me?
We have to become bodyilliterate before we can even
make any changes that are goingon with ourselves.
A lot of times we don't knowwhat we need because we don't
really know how to feel whatwe're feeling.
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Nervous system anchoring.
So put your back against thewall, feet grounded, and then
inhale for four.
And exhale for eight.
Repeat that five times and ask,do I feel a little more here?
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Do I feel present?
Allow yourself to take sometime, close your eyes, close
down the chaos around you.
You can also do alternativenostril breathing that I
absolutely love, and again, I'mjust reiterating circadian trust
is huge here.
So focusing on getting light inthe morning, screens off at
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night.
Predictable meals.
Make sure you're nourishingyourself not having caffeine
right away on an empty stomachand focusing on getting
consistent rest.
Your body doesn't needpunishment, it needs pattern, it
needs trust.
You cannot build a life of easeon a foundation of survival.
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Your nervous system has donesuch an amazing job keeping you
alive.
I really want you to think aboutthis.
Everything that it's beenholding for you, all the things
that you've just stuffed downinto it, it's time to teach it
how to live.
Now, you don't need anotherprotocol.
You don't need another five steptrick on TikTok.
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You need restoration.
You need rhythm, nourishment,safety expression.
One step, one moment withyourself and one signal at a
time.
Let your body know you're safe.
Now you can soften here.
This is really a re-parenting, areconnection.
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The true root of most diseasesis disconnection from the body.
So right here, we are softeninginto ourselves.
We're saying Hello body.
Hi body.
I love you body.
Thank you, body.
Thank you for breathing for me.
Thank you for keeping me alive.
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Thank you for holding all thosethings.
You're safe now though.
You don't need to do thatanymore.
There's a lot of inner childwork that goes into this that I
work with my clients on.
So if you're still here, ifyou're still listening, first of
all, breathe, let your shouldersdrop.
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UNC unclench your jaw.
Exhale the pressure and let yourbody arrive right here, right
now, because we just unpacked alot.
It wasn't just information, itwas a fucking reclamation.
Today we cracked open what noone tells you about why rest
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feels like a threat, not areward.
How burnout, trauma responses,and low level freeze aren't
personal failures.
They are truly adaptations andintelligence of your body while
your nervous system has beenstuck in survival while you're
trying to heal, and what toactually do about it from the
inside out.
So here's what I want you toknow, and I've told you this 5
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million billion times, and I'mgonna say it again.
You are not lazy, you are notbroken.
You are not failing at healing.
You are a woman who learned tosurvive in a world that praised
your performance, but nevertaught you how to rest.
But guess what?
You don't live there anymore andyour body deserves to know that
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it's time to.
It's time to stop outsourcingyour safety and start rebuilding
it in real time through rhythm,nourishment, and nervous system
Love.
You don't need moreproductivity.
You need more permission.
You don't need to fix yourself.
You need to feel more.
You don't need another wellnessroutine.
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You need restoration andself-trust.
alright, come on and join myprivate Facebook group, the
Embody This Collective, it'sintimate, it's free, and it's
filled with women just like youdoing the real raw work of
healing their nervous system andcoming home to themselves.
Drop a post, tell me whatlanded.
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Ask a question or just say hi.
I love to hear what came up foryou during this episode, and I'd
love to meet you.
if you wanna go deeper, grabBody Love blueprint.
It's in the show notes and it isa five day full body nervous
system reset for you to start toidentify what's going on
mentally, emotionally, andphysically.
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This comes with a workbook andfive hours of beautiful work
with me and all the otherbeautiful women who have joined
me for Body Love Blueprint.
And if you want somethingsimpler, simply DM me the word
freeze on Instagram, and I'llsend over something that may be
more aligned with what it isthat you need.
And listen, you deserve a lifethat doesn't feel like one long
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recovery cycle, a life thatdoesn't require you to earn your
rest.
You are safe to pause.
You are safe to exhale.
You are safe to rebuild yourlife from a place of softness,
not survival.
Until then, soften, slow down.
And remember, you are nevermeant to heal in high speed,
hustle mode.
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You were meant to come alive, torest, to feel, to reclaim the
version of you that doesn't justsurvive, but actually belongs in
her own body.
Let's embody this together.
Until next time,
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