Today's show answers a listener question specific to how monogamous coupled-up folks can best prepare for, talk about and have fun with threesomes! We discuss how common this fantasy is, and how important it is to actually start at the level of fantasy when bringing new ideas into the sexual repertoire, including some fun role-play to try before a real third person ever enters the mix. We also discuss how to set healthful and ethical expectations going into a threesome, as well as how to avoid being a dreaded "unicorn hunter" or a coupled-up duo forgetting about the three dimensional humanity of whatever hottie you are inviting in to play with you and your main squeeze. We also talk about how to process and debrief after a threesome, for maximum happiness, safety and personal growth.
Tink in particular was full of helpful information today and these were the resources discussed:
1. The Jealousy workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola
https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-jealousy-workbook-exercises-and-insights-for-managing-open-relationships-kathy-labriola/10876982?ean=9780937609637&utm_source=google&utm_medium=pmax&utm_campaign=gift_cards&utm_content=6443417794&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=16235479093&gbraid=0AAAAACfld41q1efegyTL4pBV4g2U6xsUZ&gclid=CjwKCAjwx8nCBhAwEiwA_z__018LQcrfM4JdAJyy-oBfpNYjRoLcHDx9RwT1JGhozy0nnMQdJOT1fBoCJhEQAvD_BwE
2. Polysecure by Jessica Fern
https://bookshop.org/p/books/polysecure-attachment-trauma-and-consensual-nonmonogamy-jessica-fern/14490932?ean=9781944934989&next=t
3. The anxious person's guide to non monogamy: Your guide to open relationships, polyamory and letting go by Lola Phoenix
4. Uber lube
https://uberlube.com/blogs/news/choosing-a-correct-lubricant?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22667438048&gbraid=0AAAAA-HHDPj3cpWDVceBt4Mdzo7_QZd5E&gclid=CjwKCAjwx8nCBhAwEiwA_z__051YvQ4Rdqcl1pPKcWiIrRMOhdL2XKyF00Pgv6FykMmNr9ETU1CDERoC1bkQAvD_BwE
5. Ethical porn sites
https://lustery.com/
https://www.bellesa.co/
6. Dipsea stories
https://www.dipseastories.com/
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