February 20, 2025 • 42 mins
Day of Events: February 20, 2024
Brief journal entry about representing my industry at a career fair but the bulk of it goes on to explain how one man's arrogance ultimately got him fired but a trip to Disney and Universal Studios protected him (and therefore US!) for a little while...
Scarlett Davis
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I told you I'd spill the tea andI'd keep it real.
That's what I'm doing and that'swhat I'm still doing.
So here we go.
It's me, Scarlett Davis, thefuture single lady.
This is my story of how Isometimes clawed my way through
the divorce and why.
I wanted a divorce.
How it affected me, sometimes ona day by day basis.
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And just because it starts upone day, doesn't mean it stays
up all day.
And just because it starts downone day, doesn't mean that
things stay down all day.
Get your mind out of the gutter.
I'm talking about emotions andspirit and attitude.
It's fine.
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You can keep your mind in thegutter if you want to.
I personally say that my mindstays in the gutter and that
gutter is about the size of theGrand Canyon.
So if you want your mind to bein the gutter, go right ahead.
Just honestly, it's going to bea while before, uh, well, just
before you see any evidence ofmy mind being in the gutter.
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But that's some of the ups anddowns that come down the road, a
bit.
Right now, this is the beginningof what is, and kind of sets the
tone for what will be, I guess?
Or, I don't know.
It's me, future single lady, andI am not qualified in any way to
give any kind of advice.
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Medical, mental, emotional,spiritual, I'm just talking and
I'm sharing my story.
I hope you enjoy it, or at leastthat you're entertained by it.
That's all I'm asking for.
And if you're not, oh, well,that's okay.
If it's not your cup of tea,this is my tea and I'm the one
who's spilling it.
So enjoy.
Keeping things going now.
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February 20th, 2024.
Up in Adam and Georgia McFadden.
Not sure why that's in my head,but okay.
Slept in, woke up fantasizingabout my future sexually
satisfied adventures.
Big smiley face.
I'm so very looking forward tothat.
Ah, smiley face.
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Slept in because I'm not goingto work until son goes off to
MEPS.
Just decided this second heneeds a good breakfast, so I'm
taking him out.
727, 733, these are just numbersand signs that I wanted to
research these angel numbers.
Son agreed to breakfast.
Daughter said no, that she wasskipping practice, but has
finally requested a chocolatedonut with sprinkles.
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Smiley face! Trait of the dayfrom best future me is
productivity and generous loveto all, I think.
Smiley face.
Looking forward to this.
Also, I have noted that husbandHas been significantly kinder
and sweeter to the kids sincethis all went down.
Makes me wonder if I should havedone this a long time ago.
But the answer is no,resoundingly.
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The kids weren't ready.
His job situation.
Roll there.
I've decided to keep myself inalignment with my sole purpose
for a long time, and I've beendoing quite well at it.
All for the greatest good, so Iknow this is the perfect timing.
I'm so glad, happy, andrelieved! Exclamation mark.
I look forward to sendingtemporary orders to the lawyer
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today and filing taking placetoday so I will feel the relief
of it done, smiley face.
My jacket still smells like catpee, noticed it when the sun was
shining on it on the way backfrom Mathis yesterday, sad face.
Still don't, still don't recallany dreams lately.
Think I fell asleep around 10,woke up at 12, 1209 to turn off
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the TV and put headphones on.
Angel number 5.
Explore my creativity,blessings, etc.
205.
It even said in the description,ever been going down the road
and see 205 on your odometer?
Jaw drop.
Uh, yeah, that literally justhappened.
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I need to shop for an outfit formy friend's wedding on Friday.
Gift will be 50 cash.
Just easier.
I'm so excited.
Looking forward to gettingthings done! Double exclamation
mark.
So that was my journal entry forthat day.
Not a long one.
You see, this is not the firsttime that I've said that, that
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the husband started behavingnicer to the children and
Because he was behaving sonicely and it was such a
difference between how he hadbeen Behaving towards them that
I couldn't help but wondershould I have done this a long
time ago?
So that he would be nicer tothem, but I know that no one was
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truly ready for that and trulyIn 2017, so seven years earlier,
six, well, it's 2024 when ithappened.
Yes.
So seven years earlier, we hadactually called it quits.
His daughter was living with usand she was manipulating us in
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the worst possible ways.
And she also had his familyhelping her with that.
And our family, our householdhad gone through three deaths in
three months.
And we were still just sospiraling from all of that, and
then plus all of her drama.
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And that's another story foranother day.
I'll add it to the list.
But there was a lot going on.
And the job situation that I hadreferred to, he had gotten
himself fired.
His arrogance got him fired.
And he had been with thiscompany for, I think, 12 years.
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And there were some deceptivepractices going on.
And In a nutshell, a lot of theemployees, the old, the old
employers wanted their companyback, who they sold it to,
didn't want to sell.
And so they started playinghardball and were taking the
best employees.
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Thankfully, oh man, who wouldhave ever thought that a trip to
Orlando would save somebodytheir job, but that's exactly
what happened in this case.
So there was, there was a massexodus.
People leaving the company,going to the new company that
the old owners had created andMy husband didn't receive his
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offer letter from them becausewe were on vacation.
We were half a country away, andthey were being respectful of
the fact that we were onvacation and they weren't going
to drop a bombshell like that onhim while we were supposed to be
enjoying ourselves at a hugeexpensive resort.
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On the way back though, somebodydid drop the ball, or did, uh,
Drop the ball on him and toldhim, and there's, they said,
man, the only reason you haven'tgotten your offer letter yet is
because you know, this and thisand that.
Well, the shit hit the fanbefore then basically the
company that they worked for, Idon't know if all of this was
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going on right then, but we'll,we'll just say there was cease
and desist orders and there wasconfiscation of laptops and cell
phones.
And stuff like that.
And my husband kept his job fora while longer and he was not
involved in a lawsuit againstthe people who left.
And because he didn't leave, hewasn't involved in that lawsuit.
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So, whew! Uh, thank you Disneyand Universal because that, that
kept us from being in thatsituation because he would have
been right in the middle of it.
Uh, now what did get him firedis, as all those people were
being sued, well one, thecompany found As they were going
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through one of the employeesemails on the laptop, they found
an email from my husband thathad some proprietary
information.
I think it was a list ofcustomers or something like
that.
And that's how they were able toclamp down on my husband.
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And basically their attitudewas.
We can't go after that afterthey interviewed him about this
whole thing and he he knew hewas getting the axe right then
and So of course he went in withall kinds of bravado and had his
story prepared for how thingshappened And now I will tell you
he knew full well what he wasdoing He was hooking his buddy
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up because they were all gonnabe doing this this stuff
together, but he told them thatHe goes, I, you know, I didn't
think anything about it, youknow, when, when he asked me for
this information, you know, Ijust was thinking about my
coworker, my buddy, whatever, soI emailed it to him.
He said, but in hindsight, hesaid if I had it all to do all
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over again, he said I'd do thesame.
Jaw drop, needle scratch, what?
You're talking to humanresources and your bosses and
everybody else knowing thatother people are getting sued
for this stuff, but you'retelling them, Oh, I'd do it all
over again.
Instead of just sticking with,with your bullshit lie about,
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Oh, it didn't occur to me thisand that, whatever, blah, blah,
blah.
I'm so sorry.
Oh no.
You got to put in some bullshitbravado.
I'd do it all over again.
Fucker.
Your paycheck pays the bills andyou got people depending on you.
But.
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I didn't know until after I saidI didn't want to be married to
him, that I was married to anarcissist.
And the whole thing about anarcissist, the, the whole, the
whole name, Narcissist, comesfrom Narcissus, from ancient
Greek.
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Who loved himself so much, hespent all his time gazing at his
reflection in a pool of waterbecause he was so gorgeous and
so beautiful.
Who could want, who couldn'tpossibly want to be with him?
He was so amazing and sogorgeous.
Everybody should want him.
Everybody should want to be him.
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And that is narcissisticbehavior.
There are all kinds of differentclassifications.
of narcissist and everyoneengages in some type of
behavior, some type ofnarcissistic behavior at some
point in time, but typically ifyou're even asking whether or
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not you're a narcissist, thatkind of pretty much disqualifies
you from being there because ifyou actually care enough to ask
and I, I can say these thingsbecause you will find out if you
continue on that I actually didthe research on this so you can
go down that rabbit hole withme.
So that I'm not just doing somearmchair psychology, even though
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it might still fall into thatcategory because I'm not a
psychologist.
I'm not a, a trainedprofessional in any of that, but
according to everything in it'syeah, maladaptive narcissist.
So he got fired because thecompany said, Even though people
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fought for him and said, this isbullshit.
This is crazy.
You've heard his thing.
He doesn't deserve to get fired.
La la la.
And they said, well, we can't beliterally spending millions
suing these other people fordebilitating our business and
let him get off scot free and wecan't just give him a slap on
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the wrist.
He's got to be fired.
So he got fired.
Thankfully he was well known inhis industry.
Finding another job wasn't anissue and I was just debating
over whether or not to go moreinto that And you know what?
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I will go ahead and say this.
So you remember how I said thathis mother Knew important things
before I did Guess who wasliterally the last person to
find out that her husband hadbeen fired even my children Knew
before I did Yeah, let that sinkin for a minute My children who
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were either 16 and 17 or 15 and16 at the time They knew That
their dad had been fired hoursbefore their mother did Number
one that is not fair or right toput that kind of pressure on
children Just not cool.
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I guess number one really shouldhave been What we all know.
The wife should have knownfirst.
His thing was that I was atwork, and he had to handle
business, and he didn't want todisturb me at work.
Okay, I get that, I understandthat, I appreciate that.
But there is certain respectthat should be shown to the
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person you're putting your dickinside of.
I'll just be, be foul and bluntlike that.
The person you're putting it inought to have some kind of idea
of what the hell's going on,right?
I appreciate that.
Oh no, but you go running tomommy first.
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Mm.
Mm hmm.
And again, that's kind of anunderscoring thing with our
relationship.
That was the kind of value thatmy husband put in his wife.
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Okay, so the way that whole witthing went down, I got home and
he needed to talk.
We were outside by our trucksand, and he's telling me that
he's got to talk to me and hegoes through this spiel and he
tells me and I said, okay, Okay.
I said, well, I know that youwill never allow it to be called
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into question whether or not youare adequately providing for
your family.
His jaw dropped.
And I said, so my question toyou is what do I need to do to
support you through thissituation?
And he's continuing to stare atme.
And I said, the bills are due todraft out on this Friday and
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there's money in the account forthat.
Or you should be getting orwhatever.
And I said, do I need to stopanything?
But I said, because if I need tostop anything, I need to do it
now before things electronicallyare going on, on the bank's side
of things.
And I tell him about, and he wastelling me about how people were
instantly that there's oneperson in particular who was
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prepared to give him 20, 000.
He's like, oh man, I know you'regood for it.
I'll give you a 20, 000 checkright now.
Scarlett's got us all taken careof with money.
You know, she does all this DaveRamsey stuff and you know, la la
la on and on like this, and Itold him, I said, well, thank
you.
I said, but with regards tothat, number one, we paid cash
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for that car that we bought forour son and we used family funds
on that that still haven't beenreplenished and.
This and that so basically Igave him a quick rundown of
where we stood financially andit's not as good as he thought
Thought things were and I saidwe probably have enough money in
the bank, especially with thecheck that should be coming in
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Which should include some ofyour commission that we should
be good for for about anothermonth and beyond that I can't
really Make any promises aboutanything and he said, okay He
goes well just so you know I hadyou know I had multiple people
offering me money on the spotone guy One person was offering
me twenty thousand dollarsbecause he knows i'm good for it
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And I was like, that's great.
That's wonderful.
I said, but I need to know whatI need to do to support whatever
it is that you're, you're doing.
Cause I know you already havethings going on.
And I will, I will tell youthat, um, I'm not being
grandiose about him at all.
There was a point in, in, in ourlives when it averaged to out to
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about once a month, somebodywould approach him out of the
blue with a job offer.
You know, sometimes it might betwo in one month and then, you
know, maybe six, eight weekslater, there would be another
job offer.
Like, Hey.
So and so's got or I got thisthing going on now.
I want you to come work for me.
I know I'm good I'm good where Iam and The place that he was
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getting fired from or had justgotten fired from at this point
They he had actually he knewthat he had been on their radar
for about a year because they'dbeen speaking to him off and On
for about a year He found outafter he got hired on that it
had actually been two years thatthey had been scouting him He
just didn't know it.
He's good.
He's good at what he does.
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He's You He's just also anasshole.
He's really good at being anasshole, too.
And with the more power that hegot, the more it went to his
head, and he thought he couldn'tbe touched.
And, basically, he's been takendown a few rungs since then.
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I don't know all the details.
Um, this, the one I'm tellingyou now is probably the one that
I have the most details on, andeven that is, well, there's some
questionable stuff.
So, his arrogance, I don't know.
Cost him his job and one yearbefore I'm just gonna go ahead
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and say we drive Toyota Tundrasand We were each on our second
one.
His was only two years old.
Mine was four years old he wasjust itching to get a new one
this man could spend money likenobody's business and He did a
lot of traveling for work and itwas something that he really
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bragged about a lot And this oneparticular trip, he was going to
be up at the San Angelo branch.
And then I think he was going tobe shooting on to maybe Dallas
or something?
I don't recall.
But, so he was up there.
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He was going to um, go on overto Abilene and stay with my
family there.
And then the kids and I weregoing to drive up.
I was so tired.
I think I had taken my daughterto, taken her to the bus that
morning.
It was a Friday morning for thetrack meet.
For And so six o'clock in themorning, whatever time it was,
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that I'm dropping her off at theschool.
I have a full day of work andthen it's homecoming that night.
And so my daughter goes with herfriends and the dance is over
about midnight and I'm there topick her up, and they go to
IHOP, so I take her to IHOP, shegoes in with her friends, I sit
in the parking lot while they dowhatever, and then finally she
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comes, comes back out, and we gohome, get in bed, crash for, for
a few hours, and then 530 in themorning we're, we're on the road
again to go drive the 400 milesto Abilene.
I was so tired.
I had driven for about, I don'tthink it had even been an hour,
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and I told my babies, Hey guys,I'm gonna pull over here on the
side of the road.
Everything is okay.
I'm just very tired and Thedoors are gonna be locked and
everything else, but I just needto close my eyes for about 15
minutes But everything's okay.
I said, okay mom, so That's howtired I was That I was trying to
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be responsible and then therewas another time That I had to
pull over on the side of theroad like that that there was
just only so much sitting thereThat I could do That you know
just wasn't making me sleepy.
So needless to say by the time Ihad completed the 400 miles To
Abilene whenever I pulled in Iwas just looking forward to
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getting my truck parked andgetting things out and getting
getting my ass inside And justand hitting the hay the idea was
to get there early on saturdaysince we didn't get to leave on
friday And get as much time withfamily as we could but it just I
was stretching myself way toothin Well turns out that as I
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was focusing on pulling into thedriveway At the back of the
house, I wasn't paying attentionto the driveway at the front of
the house, which held a brandnew Toyota Tundra, because guess
what my husband did?
So even though this was 20, 20and they were the, there were
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the 2021 models, post COVID,this is the one place that still
had some Toyota Tundras, some2021s, which was the last year
that they made the eightcylinder that things were not,
uh, EV and, and all of that.
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And it was not the new bodystyle, which the new body style
we weren't as fond of.
We liked the older one.
So he went and bought a fuckingtruck.
And of course he's telling methey have red ones too.
They have three of them.
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And of course he needed me to goup there to sign off on it
because he couldn't trade in hisold vehicle without my
signature.
But that one he managed topurchase on his own without my
signature.
So.
One, I kind of see things kindof gearing up here.
It's like everything is suddenlyin his name.
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I saw the writing on the wall,too.
And if you think that this isn'ta guy who plans for the long
game, you are sadly mistaken.
In a nutshell, I wound upgetting a new truck, too.
And, mine was four years old,and even though it was, it was
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one year from being paid off,this, and I had very low mileage
on my truck.
Uh, it was going to be the lasttime that they had these
vehicles.
So it was kind of, kind of a door die.
It's, it was a want, not a need.
And I was kind of pushed into ita little bit.
I can't say that I totallyregret it, but fast forward one
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year and in October of 2022, heand I are leaning on the
tailgate of his truck, uh, orno, on, on the tailgate of my
truck.
And as we're having thisconversation, I said, the crazy
thing is I said, If we hadn'tbought these vehicles, I said
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mine would be paid off rightnow.
That could also mind you, histruck was paid for and his
insurance was paid for with acompany allowance.
I said, now that's a bill thatwe have to take over.
And I said, and if we hadn'tbought two new vehicles last
year, mine would have been paidoff this month, if not before
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then.
And so we could just easilytransfer, you know, the payments
over and keep the bills thesame.
He said, I know, I know.
He was very apologetic becauseyet again, his extreme spending
had gotten us in trouble.
He got another job quickly.
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And for somebody who deals withmoney all the time, he is so
stupid with money.
He thought he was making moremoney and it was a better
situation.
And I told him after he hadaccepted it, I told him, I said,
you should have consulted withme first.
I said, because I could havetold you what was more money and
what wasn't.
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And what you have agreed to isactually in effect, less money.
Okay.
You have downgraded usfinancially, again.
And I really wish that you hadspoken to me before you just
assumed that you had everythingfigured out.
I'm the one who handles thefinances.
I know where the money comesfrom and I know where it goes.
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And you didn't consider all ofthe variables.
So, what happened was our familyoperated at a deficit for over a
year.
And it was about a 1500 deficitevery month.
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He was, he had opened up abranch locally for, for this new
company and it took some time toget going.
And of course there was a lot ofcommission that was due, but
there was, the commission onlycomes after operating expenses
are paid and when you're openingsomething completely new and
there's a lot of equipment andshelves and office supplies and
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everything else to buy.
We were just getting to a point.
where commissions were about tobe made.
There was one that he had justmade that we should have had the
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payment of it.
And it was over a hundredthousand dollars.
And it was the first of three orfour sizable commissions like
that with that amount of money,it would have paid off the
house.
The debate was because we'dmanaged to get my truck paid
off.
The debate was pay off his truckand then put the rest of the
house or pay off the house andthen.
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Pay off the truck.
And in what order do we dothese?
Hmm.
You know, and of course, creditcard comes first.
Nice, nice problem to have,right?
Well, that never got to takeplace.
And we'll just have to go intothat later.
So, whenever I talk about thesethings about his job situation
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and I literally write in there,I roll, you know, because it's
just, it's stupid.
It's how his, his arrogance gotus into things.
I didn't address in here that Ihad found an attorney and, or it
was one that another attorneyrecommended to me and it was,
she was charging a flat fee.
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Her legal assistant, herparalegal was, was very nice.
And.
These people were verycommunicative and I was very
happy about that.
They told me what the processwere and and all that there was
The fee that I had to pay thiswas this was the first 6, 500
that I paid out and that wouldtake care of everything up to
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temporary orders So in case youhaven't gotten a divorce before
in San Patricio County in Texas,the process is very very Number
one, whoever files for divorce,they have to attach to the
petition for divorce standardorders.
So the standard orders are whatall the judges in the district
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have signed off on.
I guess I'm saying that rightbecause there's like five, five
judges signatures on there, butthey're, they're all things
that, that they agree upon thatIf there are children involved,
nobody gets, basically there'scertain behaviors that, that
people are not allowed, thehusband and wife are not allowed
to engage in, including talkingto the minor children about the
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process or are talking in frontof them about the processes.
Well, this is needless to say,this was something that was
completely ignored on someone'spart, not mine.
That will come up later.
Also, money and bills.
You cannot interrupt how thingsare being paid.
Bills still have to be paid.
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Can't change anything.
Can't change the cable.
Can't change the internet.
Can't change anything.
Bills have to be paid.
Period.
End of story.
So those are standard orders.
Then you go to court fortemporary orders and that's
where basically each partyagrees upon Okay, for the
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interim.
During this time, until thedivorce is settled, this is how
we agree things are going to be.
So, that's temporary orders, andactually, the very first episode
of this, that's where, where youfound me.
It was the night before we wentto court for temporary orders,
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and I had just had a very notgood phone call with my
attorney.
And I was scared as hell becauseeven though children typically
stay with their mama, especiallyin the state of Texas, you don't
take children away from theirmom.
And my children were old enoughto speak for themselves.
And he had already beguntwisting their minds.
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He had already been isolatingthem, especially our daughter.
So people who he often routinelyreferred to as fucking cunts and
About whom he said, my life willbe so much better when that
bitch is dead.
His mother, his sister, hisoldest daughter.
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He would suddenly get reallyfriendly with these people and
take my daughter out of town fora weekend with them.
And guess what was discussed?
Mm hmm.
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A lot of subterfuge, a lot ofbrainwashing, manipulation.
Whatever name you want to put onit.
So these are just some of thethings that are yet to come.
Mm hmm.
Oh, suddenly during all of this,we had a cat that decided to
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start peeing on things, and wehad some stuff, we tried some
products that got the cat, thesmell of cat urine out, well,
and my jacket was one of thosethings, and Turns out that
whenever that jacket is layingover your lap and the sun is
shining through the window onit, they know that it will still
bring that, that ammonia smellout.
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So, that jacket was, uh, notlong for this world.
Anyway, um, still not having anydreams lately that I can recall.
Angel signs.
Oh, and, and, um, So, I knowit's exceedingly funny, at least
for some, that here I was,happily beginning a divorce.
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And going to celebrate myfriend's wedding.
It was a beautiful wedding, bythe way.
Uh, and this is exactly what Imean about ups and downs and all
arounds.
The things that you don'texpect.
The way things can be sotwisted.
It's like a rollercoaster.
You never know what to expect.
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First it's one thing, and thenit's another, and then surprise!
Something else.
This is my journey.
Thank you for, for joining me onit.
I mentioned a couple of numbershere and I note them down
because I am interested in whatthey have to say, what they mean
to me, what their message is.
So angel numbers, I, I justGoogle, but my favorite website
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is sacred scribes.
So I'm just going to kind of runthrough this.
This website goes a little bitmore in depth.
So I'm just going to run throughand kind of gloss over some of
this to give the gist and alsophotos of this will be in the
show notes on my Facebook page.
Future single lady.
So angel number 727 according tothe sacred scribes Number 727 is
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a blend of the attributes ofnumber 7 and the vibrations of
number 2 with number 7 appearingtwice Amplifying its influences
the mystical mystical number isthe number of feelings and
emotions spiritual awakening anddevelopment persistence of
purpose and determinationdiscernment and Positive
intentions, introspection, andinner wisdom, empathic and
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psychic abilities.
Higher learning and research.
Number two is associated withbalance, harmony, duality,
peace, adaptability, diplomacy,receptivity, and love.
Charm, understanding, mediation,and cooperation.
Consideration, faith, and trust.
Your life purpose, support, andencouragement.
Angel number 727 is anindication that positive news
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will enter your life in the verynear future.
This may be something you'vebeen waiting to hear for some
time.
Take this new information to useit to your advantage and for the
benefit of others.
Angel number 727 is also animportant message from the
angels to get on with livingyour personal truth.
You are being encouraged toserve your life purpose and soul
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mission with passion andpersistence.
There you go.
Knowing within that you are onthe right path.
The angels encourage you tocontinue your current path.
Thank you, I received that.
Angel number 727 is a message tocontinue listening to your inner
wisdom and the guidance from theangels regarding the next steps
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along your spiritual path.
Be still.
Listen to your higher self andpay attention to the revelations
you receive intuitively.
Look out for signs,synchronicities, and omens that
take the role of your gutfeelings or inner knowing.
Maintain a positive attitude andoutlook and know that you are
well blessed by the angelic andspiritual realms.
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Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I receive that.
All right, the other, here itis, the other angel number that
popped up that morning was 733,and I'll try to gloss over this
one.
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It's a blend of the energies ofthe number 7 and the vibrations
of number 3, with 3 appearingtwice, doubling its influences.
Number 33 is also a masternumber, bringing extra
vibrations into the mix.
Number seven is the number ofspiritual awakening and the
development understanding of theself and others There goes on
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this introspection esotericmystical empathic and psychic
abilities persistence of purposeand determination And on number
three is related to growth andexpansion spontaneity broad
mindedness optimism joy andenthusiasm natural talent and
skills creativity manifestingyour desires Self expression and
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communication.
It's also the number associatedwith the Ascended Masters.
Ascended Masters are like Jesusand Gandhi.
Master number 33 represents thehealer, compassion, blessings,
honesty, discipline, bravery,and courage.
This makes the number 733 apowerfully spiritual vibration.
I received that.
Thank you.
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It indicates that you're beingfully supported, surrounded, and
loved by the angels and higherbeings of the spiritual realms.
It suggests that you have toiledlong and hard on your spiritual
path and your angels want you toknow that you have successfully
manifested prosperity andabundance in your life.
Amen.
I receive that.
Thank you.
Be open to receiving your wellearned rewards and be grateful
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for your blessings.
Amen.
Always be grateful.
It's a message of love andsupport and encouragement.
Indulge in a hobby or interest.
The nat, uh, allow your naturalcreativity to express the beauty
within you, express your truthsand all that you do and know
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that your life path is one ofserving and teaching others and
living your life as a positiveexamples for others.
Amen.
That is why I am here right now.
I am living my truth.
I am speaking my truth.
I am sharing my story.
And if I reach even one person.
One person and make their lifeeven an inkling better Maybe
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even inspire them in some way.
I have done my job I'd love toreach more I'd love to I would
help I would love to help changethis world to create a network
of Lighthouses that reaches outand shines light from one person
to another to another to anotherand illuminate the darkness So
that there is no more darkness Iwould love that, but if I only
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reach one person, I'm ecstatic.
So, those are angel numbersexplained, and Joanne, is it
Joanne?
From Sacred Scribes.
Yes, Joanne.
Amazing.
I love all of her stuff.
I, I click on hers all the timeand because, especially because
I know that there is not a lotof ads.
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You don't have to scroll through15 pages to get one paragraph
worth of information like someof the, the other sites do.
So that's my deal.
Hope you enjoy.
I hope you're inspired to, tolook for other signs and, and
see.
I think of, there's a moviewith, what's that guy, Matthew,
something or other from friends.
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Excuse me, and he's in thatmovie, uh, Fool's Rush In is the
movie.
And, oh, that other famousactress.
Anyway, they, they rush in and,so she believes in signs.
She's very spiritual andeverything, and he doesn't
believe in any of that crap.
But she says signs areeverywhere.
And, uh, When it's at the end ofthe movie, or near the end of
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the movie, and they areseparate, whatever, and he's
constantly thinking about her.
Then he's opened up, and he isseeing signs everywhere.
The little girl named Isabel,which is his wife's name.
And pictures of the GrandCanyon, and all of these other
things.
There are signs everywhere, andhe's finally opened to them.
So I love that.
And I love that these angelnumbers affirmed what I was
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already doing.
What I was already feeling.
Because, let's face it, we allneed some confirmation sometimes
that we're on the right track.
It's kind of like driving downthe highway and seeing, yes, you
are still on Route 44, which isgreat because Route 44 is where
you wanted to be.
Yeah, that's all it is.
And sometimes, the signs willsay, hey, guess what, there's a
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turn coming up.
Get ready.
So, that's my story and I'msticking to it.
And I hope you stick around forsome more.
And I would really love it forus to connect.
I would love for you to reachout to me.
Email me, futuresinglelady atgmail dot com.
Or reach out to me on myFacebook page and you can send
me a private message in that waytoo.
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I want to know what's going onin your world.
I'd like to know how thisresonates with you.
Have you been triggered yet byanything that I've said?
Do you think that I'm just awasteful, whiny, hiney,
complaining bitch?
That's okay.
I prefer to be approachedrespectfully.
But whatever your opinion is ofme, that's okay.
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I'm not here to pleaseeverybody.
I used to be a people pleaser.
I like it when people are happy,but it is not my job to make
people happy.
And in this case, I'm not tryingto make somebody happy, I'm just
telling my story.
Because I think it might helpsomebody.
I think it might help somebodyfigure out that they're not
crazy for thinking the thingsthat they think.
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It might help somebody to knowthat they're not alone.
I will tell you that narcissismis on the rise according to the
research that I've done, thatit's doubled in the last few
decades.
So there's a lot more out of itout there to deal with.
And I feel like that there maybe somebody out there who, maybe
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they have a friend going throughsomething similar to what I am.
And maybe this will help themunderstand what their friend is
going through.
And I'm not gonna lie, it wouldbe nice if one of these days my
children took the time to hearmy side of things.
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Anyway, this is my story.
I hope you stick around for somemore, and even better cherry on
the cake would be if you reachedout to me, because I'd love to
hear from you.
And when you get a response,it's from me.
There's no one else doing thisstuff.
This is all me.
There's no fancy schmancy setup.
This is me doing, doing therecording, the editing.
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The publishing.
That's why it's not all perfectand polished.
It's real, it's authentic.
So, it's me, responding to you.
Okay?
And you can reach me directly atfuturesinglelady at gmail dot
com, or you can go to myFacebook page, Future Single
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Lady, and that's where the shownotes are going to be.
I will be posting pictures of myjournal so you can actually read
my writing.
And I gotta edit it first,though I gotta take the pictures
and I gotta scribble out namesbecause I'm trying to keep this,
well I'm talking about thesituation, not the individual
person.
So I'm trying not to name anynames.
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So, if you're afraid that you'regonna be named, just breathe a
little easier.
And that's my story up to themoment.
There's a lot more to come.
Believe me, there's a lot moreto come.
I hope you enjoy it and I hopeyou look forward to it.
I told you I'd spill the tea andI'd keep it real.
That's what I'm doing and that'swhat I'm still doing.
So here we go.
It's me, Scarlett Davis, thefuture single lady.
This is my story of how Isometimes clawed my way through
the divorce and why.
I wanted a divorce.
How it affected me, sometimes ona day by day basis.
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And just because it starts upone day, doesn't mean it stays
up all day.
And just because it starts downone day, doesn't mean that
things stay down all day.
Get your mind out of the gutter.
I'm talking about emotions andspirit and attitude.
It's fine.
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You can keep your mind in thegutter if you want to.
I personally say that my mindstays in the gutter and that
gutter is about the size of theGrand Canyon.
So if you want your mind to bein the gutter, go right ahead.
Just honestly, it's going to bea while before, uh, well, just
before you see any evidence ofmy mind being in the gutter.
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But that's some of the ups anddowns that come down the road, a
bit.
Right now, this is the beginningof what is, and kind of sets the
tone for what will be, I guess?
Or, I don't know.
It's me, future single lady, andI am not qualified in any way to
give any kind of advice.
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Medical, mental, emotional,spiritual, I'm just talking and
I'm sharing my story.
I hope you enjoy it, or at leastthat you're entertained by it.
That's all I'm asking for.
And if you're not, oh, well,that's okay.
If it's not your cup of tea,this is my tea and I'm the one
who's spilling it.
So enjoy.
Keeping things going now.
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February 20th, 2024.
Up in Adam and Georgia McFadden.
Not sure why that's in my head,but okay.
Slept in, woke up fantasizingabout my future sexually
satisfied adventures.
Big smiley face.
I'm so very looking forward tothat.
Ah, smiley face.
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Slept in because I'm not goingto work until son goes off to
MEPS.
Just decided this second heneeds a good breakfast, so I'm
taking him out.
727, 733, these are just numbersand signs that I wanted to
research these angel numbers.
Son agreed to breakfast.
Daughter said no, that she wasskipping practice, but has
finally requested a chocolatedonut with sprinkles.
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Smiley face! Trait of the dayfrom best future me is
productivity and generous loveto all, I think.
Smiley face.
Looking forward to this.
Also, I have noted that husbandHas been significantly kinder
and sweeter to the kids sincethis all went down.
Makes me wonder if I should havedone this a long time ago.
But the answer is no,resoundingly.
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The kids weren't ready.
His job situation.
Roll there.
I've decided to keep myself inalignment with my sole purpose
for a long time, and I've beendoing quite well at it.
All for the greatest good, so Iknow this is the perfect timing.
I'm so glad, happy, andrelieved! Exclamation mark.
I look forward to sendingtemporary orders to the lawyer
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today and filing taking placetoday so I will feel the relief
of it done, smiley face.
My jacket still smells like catpee, noticed it when the sun was
shining on it on the way backfrom Mathis yesterday, sad face.
Still don't, still don't recallany dreams lately.
Think I fell asleep around 10,woke up at 12, 1209 to turn off
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the TV and put headphones on.
Angel number 5.
Explore my creativity,blessings, etc.
205.
It even said in the description,ever been going down the road
and see 205 on your odometer?
Jaw drop.
Uh, yeah, that literally justhappened.
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I need to shop for an outfit formy friend's wedding on Friday.
Gift will be 50 cash.
Just easier.
I'm so excited.
Looking forward to gettingthings done! Double exclamation
mark.
So that was my journal entry forthat day.
Not a long one.
You see, this is not the firsttime that I've said that, that
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the husband started behavingnicer to the children and
Because he was behaving sonicely and it was such a
difference between how he hadbeen Behaving towards them that
I couldn't help but wondershould I have done this a long
time ago?
So that he would be nicer tothem, but I know that no one was
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truly ready for that and trulyIn 2017, so seven years earlier,
six, well, it's 2024 when ithappened.
Yes.
So seven years earlier, we hadactually called it quits.
His daughter was living with usand she was manipulating us in
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the worst possible ways.
And she also had his familyhelping her with that.
And our family, our householdhad gone through three deaths in
three months.
And we were still just sospiraling from all of that, and
then plus all of her drama.
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And that's another story foranother day.
I'll add it to the list.
But there was a lot going on.
And the job situation that I hadreferred to, he had gotten
himself fired.
His arrogance got him fired.
And he had been with thiscompany for, I think, 12 years.
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And there were some deceptivepractices going on.
And In a nutshell, a lot of theemployees, the old, the old
employers wanted their companyback, who they sold it to,
didn't want to sell.
And so they started playinghardball and were taking the
best employees.
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Thankfully, oh man, who wouldhave ever thought that a trip to
Orlando would save somebodytheir job, but that's exactly
what happened in this case.
So there was, there was a massexodus.
People leaving the company,going to the new company that
the old owners had created andMy husband didn't receive his
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offer letter from them becausewe were on vacation.
We were half a country away, andthey were being respectful of
the fact that we were onvacation and they weren't going
to drop a bombshell like that onhim while we were supposed to be
enjoying ourselves at a hugeexpensive resort.
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On the way back though, somebodydid drop the ball, or did, uh,
Drop the ball on him and toldhim, and there's, they said,
man, the only reason you haven'tgotten your offer letter yet is
because you know, this and thisand that.
Well, the shit hit the fanbefore then basically the
company that they worked for, Idon't know if all of this was
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going on right then, but we'll,we'll just say there was cease
and desist orders and there wasconfiscation of laptops and cell
phones.
And stuff like that.
And my husband kept his job fora while longer and he was not
involved in a lawsuit againstthe people who left.
And because he didn't leave, hewasn't involved in that lawsuit.
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So, whew! Uh, thank you Disneyand Universal because that, that
kept us from being in thatsituation because he would have
been right in the middle of it.
Uh, now what did get him firedis, as all those people were
being sued, well one, thecompany found As they were going
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through one of the employeesemails on the laptop, they found
an email from my husband thathad some proprietary
information.
I think it was a list ofcustomers or something like
that.
And that's how they were able toclamp down on my husband.
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And basically their attitudewas.
We can't go after that afterthey interviewed him about this
whole thing and he he knew hewas getting the axe right then
and So of course he went in withall kinds of bravado and had his
story prepared for how thingshappened And now I will tell you
he knew full well what he wasdoing He was hooking his buddy
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up because they were all gonnabe doing this this stuff
together, but he told them thatHe goes, I, you know, I didn't
think anything about it, youknow, when, when he asked me for
this information, you know, Ijust was thinking about my
coworker, my buddy, whatever, soI emailed it to him.
He said, but in hindsight, hesaid if I had it all to do all
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over again, he said I'd do thesame.
Jaw drop, needle scratch, what?
You're talking to humanresources and your bosses and
everybody else knowing thatother people are getting sued
for this stuff, but you'retelling them, Oh, I'd do it all
over again.
Instead of just sticking with,with your bullshit lie about,
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Oh, it didn't occur to me thisand that, whatever, blah, blah,
blah.
I'm so sorry.
Oh no.
You got to put in some bullshitbravado.
I'd do it all over again.
Fucker.
Your paycheck pays the bills andyou got people depending on you.
But.
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I didn't know until after I saidI didn't want to be married to
him, that I was married to anarcissist.
And the whole thing about anarcissist, the, the whole, the
whole name, Narcissist, comesfrom Narcissus, from ancient
Greek.
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Who loved himself so much, hespent all his time gazing at his
reflection in a pool of waterbecause he was so gorgeous and
so beautiful.
Who could want, who couldn'tpossibly want to be with him?
He was so amazing and sogorgeous.
Everybody should want him.
Everybody should want to be him.
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And that is narcissisticbehavior.
There are all kinds of differentclassifications.
of narcissist and everyoneengages in some type of
behavior, some type ofnarcissistic behavior at some
point in time, but typically ifyou're even asking whether or
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not you're a narcissist, thatkind of pretty much disqualifies
you from being there because ifyou actually care enough to ask
and I, I can say these thingsbecause you will find out if you
continue on that I actually didthe research on this so you can
go down that rabbit hole withme.
So that I'm not just doing somearmchair psychology, even though
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it might still fall into thatcategory because I'm not a
psychologist.
I'm not a, a trainedprofessional in any of that, but
according to everything in it'syeah, maladaptive narcissist.
So he got fired because thecompany said, Even though people
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fought for him and said, this isbullshit.
This is crazy.
You've heard his thing.
He doesn't deserve to get fired.
La la la.
And they said, well, we can't beliterally spending millions
suing these other people fordebilitating our business and
let him get off scot free and wecan't just give him a slap on
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the wrist.
He's got to be fired.
So he got fired.
Thankfully he was well known inhis industry.
Finding another job wasn't anissue and I was just debating
over whether or not to go moreinto that And you know what?
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I will go ahead and say this.
So you remember how I said thathis mother Knew important things
before I did Guess who wasliterally the last person to
find out that her husband hadbeen fired even my children Knew
before I did Yeah, let that sinkin for a minute My children who
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were either 16 and 17 or 15 and16 at the time They knew That
their dad had been fired hoursbefore their mother did Number
one that is not fair or right toput that kind of pressure on
children Just not cool.
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I guess number one really shouldhave been What we all know.
The wife should have knownfirst.
His thing was that I was atwork, and he had to handle
business, and he didn't want todisturb me at work.
Okay, I get that, I understandthat, I appreciate that.
But there is certain respectthat should be shown to the
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person you're putting your dickinside of.
I'll just be, be foul and bluntlike that.
The person you're putting it inought to have some kind of idea
of what the hell's going on,right?
I appreciate that.
Oh no, but you go running tomommy first.
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Mm.
Mm hmm.
And again, that's kind of anunderscoring thing with our
relationship.
That was the kind of value thatmy husband put in his wife.
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Okay, so the way that whole witthing went down, I got home and
he needed to talk.
We were outside by our trucksand, and he's telling me that
he's got to talk to me and hegoes through this spiel and he
tells me and I said, okay, Okay.
I said, well, I know that youwill never allow it to be called
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into question whether or not youare adequately providing for
your family.
His jaw dropped.
And I said, so my question toyou is what do I need to do to
support you through thissituation?
And he's continuing to stare atme.
And I said, the bills are due todraft out on this Friday and
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there's money in the account forthat.
Or you should be getting orwhatever.
And I said, do I need to stopanything?
But I said, because if I need tostop anything, I need to do it
now before things electronicallyare going on, on the bank's side
of things.
And I tell him about, and he wastelling me about how people were
instantly that there's oneperson in particular who was
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prepared to give him 20, 000.
He's like, oh man, I know you'regood for it.
I'll give you a 20, 000 checkright now.
Scarlett's got us all taken careof with money.
You know, she does all this DaveRamsey stuff and you know, la la
la on and on like this, and Itold him, I said, well, thank
you.
I said, but with regards tothat, number one, we paid cash
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for that car that we bought forour son and we used family funds
on that that still haven't beenreplenished and.
This and that so basically Igave him a quick rundown of
where we stood financially andit's not as good as he thought
Thought things were and I saidwe probably have enough money in
the bank, especially with thecheck that should be coming in
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Which should include some ofyour commission that we should
be good for for about anothermonth and beyond that I can't
really Make any promises aboutanything and he said, okay He
goes well just so you know I hadyou know I had multiple people
offering me money on the spotone guy One person was offering
me twenty thousand dollarsbecause he knows i'm good for it
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And I was like, that's great.
That's wonderful.
I said, but I need to know whatI need to do to support whatever
it is that you're, you're doing.
Cause I know you already havethings going on.
And I will, I will tell youthat, um, I'm not being
grandiose about him at all.
There was a point in, in, in ourlives when it averaged to out to
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about once a month, somebodywould approach him out of the
blue with a job offer.
You know, sometimes it might betwo in one month and then, you
know, maybe six, eight weekslater, there would be another
job offer.
Like, Hey.
So and so's got or I got thisthing going on now.
I want you to come work for me.
I know I'm good I'm good where Iam and The place that he was
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getting fired from or had justgotten fired from at this point
They he had actually he knewthat he had been on their radar
for about a year because they'dbeen speaking to him off and On
for about a year He found outafter he got hired on that it
had actually been two years thatthey had been scouting him He
just didn't know it.
He's good.
He's good at what he does.
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He's You He's just also anasshole.
He's really good at being anasshole, too.
And with the more power that hegot, the more it went to his
head, and he thought he couldn'tbe touched.
And, basically, he's been takendown a few rungs since then.
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I don't know all the details.
Um, this, the one I'm tellingyou now is probably the one that
I have the most details on, andeven that is, well, there's some
questionable stuff.
So, his arrogance, I don't know.
Cost him his job and one yearbefore I'm just gonna go ahead
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and say we drive Toyota Tundrasand We were each on our second
one.
His was only two years old.
Mine was four years old he wasjust itching to get a new one
this man could spend money likenobody's business and He did a
lot of traveling for work and itwas something that he really
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bragged about a lot And this oneparticular trip, he was going to
be up at the San Angelo branch.
And then I think he was going tobe shooting on to maybe Dallas
or something?
I don't recall.
But, so he was up there.
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He was going to um, go on overto Abilene and stay with my
family there.
And then the kids and I weregoing to drive up.
I was so tired.
I think I had taken my daughterto, taken her to the bus that
morning.
It was a Friday morning for thetrack meet.
For And so six o'clock in themorning, whatever time it was,
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that I'm dropping her off at theschool.
I have a full day of work andthen it's homecoming that night.
And so my daughter goes with herfriends and the dance is over
about midnight and I'm there topick her up, and they go to
IHOP, so I take her to IHOP, shegoes in with her friends, I sit
in the parking lot while they dowhatever, and then finally she
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comes, comes back out, and we gohome, get in bed, crash for, for
a few hours, and then 530 in themorning we're, we're on the road
again to go drive the 400 milesto Abilene.
I was so tired.
I had driven for about, I don'tthink it had even been an hour,
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and I told my babies, Hey guys,I'm gonna pull over here on the
side of the road.
Everything is okay.
I'm just very tired and Thedoors are gonna be locked and
everything else, but I just needto close my eyes for about 15
minutes But everything's okay.
I said, okay mom, so That's howtired I was That I was trying to
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be responsible and then therewas another time That I had to
pull over on the side of theroad like that that there was
just only so much sitting thereThat I could do That you know
just wasn't making me sleepy.
So needless to say by the time Ihad completed the 400 miles To
Abilene whenever I pulled in Iwas just looking forward to
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getting my truck parked andgetting things out and getting
getting my ass inside And justand hitting the hay the idea was
to get there early on saturdaysince we didn't get to leave on
friday And get as much time withfamily as we could but it just I
was stretching myself way toothin Well turns out that as I
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was focusing on pulling into thedriveway At the back of the
house, I wasn't paying attentionto the driveway at the front of
the house, which held a brandnew Toyota Tundra, because guess
what my husband did?
So even though this was 20, 20and they were the, there were
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the 2021 models, post COVID,this is the one place that still
had some Toyota Tundras, some2021s, which was the last year
that they made the eightcylinder that things were not,
uh, EV and, and all of that.
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And it was not the new bodystyle, which the new body style
we weren't as fond of.
We liked the older one.
So he went and bought a fuckingtruck.
And of course he's telling methey have red ones too.
They have three of them.
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And of course he needed me to goup there to sign off on it
because he couldn't trade in hisold vehicle without my
signature.
But that one he managed topurchase on his own without my
signature.
So.
One, I kind of see things kindof gearing up here.
It's like everything is suddenlyin his name.
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I saw the writing on the wall,too.
And if you think that this isn'ta guy who plans for the long
game, you are sadly mistaken.
In a nutshell, I wound upgetting a new truck, too.
And, mine was four years old,and even though it was, it was
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one year from being paid off,this, and I had very low mileage
on my truck.
Uh, it was going to be the lasttime that they had these
vehicles.
So it was kind of, kind of a door die.
It's, it was a want, not a need.
And I was kind of pushed into ita little bit.
I can't say that I totallyregret it, but fast forward one
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year and in October of 2022, heand I are leaning on the
tailgate of his truck, uh, orno, on, on the tailgate of my
truck.
And as we're having thisconversation, I said, the crazy
thing is I said, If we hadn'tbought these vehicles, I said
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mine would be paid off rightnow.
That could also mind you, histruck was paid for and his
insurance was paid for with acompany allowance.
I said, now that's a bill thatwe have to take over.
And I said, and if we hadn'tbought two new vehicles last
year, mine would have been paidoff this month, if not before
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then.
And so we could just easilytransfer, you know, the payments
over and keep the bills thesame.
He said, I know, I know.
He was very apologetic becauseyet again, his extreme spending
had gotten us in trouble.
He got another job quickly.
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And for somebody who deals withmoney all the time, he is so
stupid with money.
He thought he was making moremoney and it was a better
situation.
And I told him after he hadaccepted it, I told him, I said,
you should have consulted withme first.
I said, because I could havetold you what was more money and
what wasn't.
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And what you have agreed to isactually in effect, less money.
Okay.
You have downgraded usfinancially, again.
And I really wish that you hadspoken to me before you just
assumed that you had everythingfigured out.
I'm the one who handles thefinances.
I know where the money comesfrom and I know where it goes.
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And you didn't consider all ofthe variables.
So, what happened was our familyoperated at a deficit for over a
year.
And it was about a 1500 deficitevery month.
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He was, he had opened up abranch locally for, for this new
company and it took some time toget going.
And of course there was a lot ofcommission that was due, but
there was, the commission onlycomes after operating expenses
are paid and when you're openingsomething completely new and
there's a lot of equipment andshelves and office supplies and
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everything else to buy.
We were just getting to a point.
where commissions were about tobe made.
There was one that he had justmade that we should have had the
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payment of it.
And it was over a hundredthousand dollars.
And it was the first of three orfour sizable commissions like
that with that amount of money,it would have paid off the
house.
The debate was because we'dmanaged to get my truck paid
off.
The debate was pay off his truckand then put the rest of the
house or pay off the house andthen.
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Pay off the truck.
And in what order do we dothese?
Hmm.
You know, and of course, creditcard comes first.
Nice, nice problem to have,right?
Well, that never got to takeplace.
And we'll just have to go intothat later.
So, whenever I talk about thesethings about his job situation
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and I literally write in there,I roll, you know, because it's
just, it's stupid.
It's how his, his arrogance gotus into things.
I didn't address in here that Ihad found an attorney and, or it
was one that another attorneyrecommended to me and it was,
she was charging a flat fee.
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Her legal assistant, herparalegal was, was very nice.
And.
These people were verycommunicative and I was very
happy about that.
They told me what the processwere and and all that there was
The fee that I had to pay thiswas this was the first 6, 500
that I paid out and that wouldtake care of everything up to
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temporary orders So in case youhaven't gotten a divorce before
in San Patricio County in Texas,the process is very very Number
one, whoever files for divorce,they have to attach to the
petition for divorce standardorders.
So the standard orders are whatall the judges in the district
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have signed off on.
I guess I'm saying that rightbecause there's like five, five
judges signatures on there, butthey're, they're all things
that, that they agree upon thatIf there are children involved,
nobody gets, basically there'scertain behaviors that, that
people are not allowed, thehusband and wife are not allowed
to engage in, including talkingto the minor children about the
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process or are talking in frontof them about the processes.
Well, this is needless to say,this was something that was
completely ignored on someone'spart, not mine.
That will come up later.
Also, money and bills.
You cannot interrupt how thingsare being paid.
Bills still have to be paid.
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Can't change anything.
Can't change the cable.
Can't change the internet.
Can't change anything.
Bills have to be paid.
Period.
End of story.
So those are standard orders.
Then you go to court fortemporary orders and that's
where basically each partyagrees upon Okay, for the
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interim.
During this time, until thedivorce is settled, this is how
we agree things are going to be.
So, that's temporary orders, andactually, the very first episode
of this, that's where, where youfound me.
It was the night before we wentto court for temporary orders,
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and I had just had a very notgood phone call with my
attorney.
And I was scared as hell becauseeven though children typically
stay with their mama, especiallyin the state of Texas, you don't
take children away from theirmom.
And my children were old enoughto speak for themselves.
And he had already beguntwisting their minds.
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He had already been isolatingthem, especially our daughter.
So people who he often routinelyreferred to as fucking cunts and
About whom he said, my life willbe so much better when that
bitch is dead.
His mother, his sister, hisoldest daughter.
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He would suddenly get reallyfriendly with these people and
take my daughter out of town fora weekend with them.
And guess what was discussed?
Mm hmm.
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A lot of subterfuge, a lot ofbrainwashing, manipulation.
Whatever name you want to put onit.
So these are just some of thethings that are yet to come.
Mm hmm.
Oh, suddenly during all of this,we had a cat that decided to
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start peeing on things, and wehad some stuff, we tried some
products that got the cat, thesmell of cat urine out, well,
and my jacket was one of thosethings, and Turns out that
whenever that jacket is layingover your lap and the sun is
shining through the window onit, they know that it will still
bring that, that ammonia smellout.
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So, that jacket was, uh, notlong for this world.
Anyway, um, still not having anydreams lately that I can recall.
Angel signs.
Oh, and, and, um, So, I knowit's exceedingly funny, at least
for some, that here I was,happily beginning a divorce.
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And going to celebrate myfriend's wedding.
It was a beautiful wedding, bythe way.
Uh, and this is exactly what Imean about ups and downs and all
arounds.
The things that you don'texpect.
The way things can be sotwisted.
It's like a rollercoaster.
You never know what to expect.
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First it's one thing, and thenit's another, and then surprise!
Something else.
This is my journey.
Thank you for, for joining me onit.
I mentioned a couple of numbershere and I note them down
because I am interested in whatthey have to say, what they mean
to me, what their message is.
So angel numbers, I, I justGoogle, but my favorite website
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is sacred scribes.
So I'm just going to kind of runthrough this.
This website goes a little bitmore in depth.
So I'm just going to run throughand kind of gloss over some of
this to give the gist and alsophotos of this will be in the
show notes on my Facebook page.
Future single lady.
So angel number 727 according tothe sacred scribes Number 727 is
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a blend of the attributes ofnumber 7 and the vibrations of
number 2 with number 7 appearingtwice Amplifying its influences
the mystical mystical number isthe number of feelings and
emotions spiritual awakening anddevelopment persistence of
purpose and determinationdiscernment and Positive
intentions, introspection, andinner wisdom, empathic and
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psychic abilities.
Higher learning and research.
Number two is associated withbalance, harmony, duality,
peace, adaptability, diplomacy,receptivity, and love.
Charm, understanding, mediation,and cooperation.
Consideration, faith, and trust.
Your life purpose, support, andencouragement.
Angel number 727 is anindication that positive news
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will enter your life in the verynear future.
This may be something you'vebeen waiting to hear for some
time.
Take this new information to useit to your advantage and for the
benefit of others.
Angel number 727 is also animportant message from the
angels to get on with livingyour personal truth.
You are being encouraged toserve your life purpose and soul
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mission with passion andpersistence.
There you go.
Knowing within that you are onthe right path.
The angels encourage you tocontinue your current path.
Thank you, I received that.
Angel number 727 is a message tocontinue listening to your inner
wisdom and the guidance from theangels regarding the next steps
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along your spiritual path.
Be still.
Listen to your higher self andpay attention to the revelations
you receive intuitively.
Look out for signs,synchronicities, and omens that
take the role of your gutfeelings or inner knowing.
Maintain a positive attitude andoutlook and know that you are
well blessed by the angelic andspiritual realms.
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Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I receive that.
All right, the other, here itis, the other angel number that
popped up that morning was 733,and I'll try to gloss over this
one.
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It's a blend of the energies ofthe number 7 and the vibrations
of number 3, with 3 appearingtwice, doubling its influences.
Number 33 is also a masternumber, bringing extra
vibrations into the mix.
Number seven is the number ofspiritual awakening and the
development understanding of theself and others There goes on
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this introspection esotericmystical empathic and psychic
abilities persistence of purposeand determination And on number
three is related to growth andexpansion spontaneity broad
mindedness optimism joy andenthusiasm natural talent and
skills creativity manifestingyour desires Self expression and
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communication.
It's also the number associatedwith the Ascended Masters.
Ascended Masters are like Jesusand Gandhi.
Master number 33 represents thehealer, compassion, blessings,
honesty, discipline, bravery,and courage.
This makes the number 733 apowerfully spiritual vibration.
I received that.
Thank you.
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It indicates that you're beingfully supported, surrounded, and
loved by the angels and higherbeings of the spiritual realms.
It suggests that you have toiledlong and hard on your spiritual
path and your angels want you toknow that you have successfully
manifested prosperity andabundance in your life.
Amen.
I receive that.
Thank you.
Be open to receiving your wellearned rewards and be grateful
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for your blessings.
Amen.
Always be grateful.
It's a message of love andsupport and encouragement.
Indulge in a hobby or interest.
The nat, uh, allow your naturalcreativity to express the beauty
within you, express your truthsand all that you do and know
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that your life path is one ofserving and teaching others and
living your life as a positiveexamples for others.
Amen.
That is why I am here right now.
I am living my truth.
I am speaking my truth.
I am sharing my story.
And if I reach even one person.
One person and make their lifeeven an inkling better Maybe
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even inspire them in some way.
I have done my job I'd love toreach more I'd love to I would
help I would love to help changethis world to create a network
of Lighthouses that reaches outand shines light from one person
to another to another to anotherand illuminate the darkness So
that there is no more darkness Iwould love that, but if I only
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reach one person, I'm ecstatic.
So, those are angel numbersexplained, and Joanne, is it
Joanne?
From Sacred Scribes.
Yes, Joanne.
Amazing.
I love all of her stuff.
I, I click on hers all the timeand because, especially because
I know that there is not a lotof ads.
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You don't have to scroll through15 pages to get one paragraph
worth of information like someof the, the other sites do.
So that's my deal.
Hope you enjoy.
I hope you're inspired to, tolook for other signs and, and
see.
I think of, there's a moviewith, what's that guy, Matthew,
something or other from friends.
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Excuse me, and he's in thatmovie, uh, Fool's Rush In is the
movie.
And, oh, that other famousactress.
Anyway, they, they rush in and,so she believes in signs.
She's very spiritual andeverything, and he doesn't
believe in any of that crap.
But she says signs areeverywhere.
And, uh, When it's at the end ofthe movie, or near the end of
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the movie, and they areseparate, whatever, and he's
constantly thinking about her.
Then he's opened up, and he isseeing signs everywhere.
The little girl named Isabel,which is his wife's name.
And pictures of the GrandCanyon, and all of these other
things.
There are signs everywhere, andhe's finally opened to them.
So I love that.
And I love that these angelnumbers affirmed what I was
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already doing.
What I was already feeling.
Because, let's face it, we allneed some confirmation sometimes
that we're on the right track.
It's kind of like driving downthe highway and seeing, yes, you
are still on Route 44, which isgreat because Route 44 is where
you wanted to be.
Yeah, that's all it is.
And sometimes, the signs willsay, hey, guess what, there's a
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turn coming up.
Get ready.
So, that's my story and I'msticking to it.
And I hope you stick around forsome more.
And I would really love it forus to connect.
I would love for you to reachout to me.
Email me, futuresinglelady atgmail dot com.
Or reach out to me on myFacebook page and you can send
me a private message in that waytoo.
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I want to know what's going onin your world.
I'd like to know how thisresonates with you.
Have you been triggered yet byanything that I've said?
Do you think that I'm just awasteful, whiny, hiney,
complaining bitch?
That's okay.
I prefer to be approachedrespectfully.
But whatever your opinion is ofme, that's okay.
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I'm not here to pleaseeverybody.
I used to be a people pleaser.
I like it when people are happy,but it is not my job to make
people happy.
And in this case, I'm not tryingto make somebody happy, I'm just
telling my story.
Because I think it might helpsomebody.
I think it might help somebodyfigure out that they're not
crazy for thinking the thingsthat they think.
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It might help somebody to knowthat they're not alone.
I will tell you that narcissismis on the rise according to the
research that I've done, thatit's doubled in the last few
decades.
So there's a lot more out of itout there to deal with.
And I feel like that there maybe somebody out there who, maybe
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they have a friend going throughsomething similar to what I am.
And maybe this will help themunderstand what their friend is
going through.
And I'm not gonna lie, it wouldbe nice if one of these days my
children took the time to hearmy side of things.
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Anyway, this is my story.
I hope you stick around for somemore, and even better cherry on
the cake would be if you reachedout to me, because I'd love to
hear from you.
And when you get a response,it's from me.
There's no one else doing thisstuff.
This is all me.
There's no fancy schmancy setup.
This is me doing, doing therecording, the editing.
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The publishing.
That's why it's not all perfectand polished.
It's real, it's authentic.
So, it's me, responding to you.
Okay?
And you can reach me directly atfuturesinglelady at gmail dot
com, or you can go to myFacebook page, Future Single
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Lady, and that's where the shownotes are going to be.
I will be posting pictures of myjournal so you can actually read
my writing.
And I gotta edit it first,though I gotta take the pictures
and I gotta scribble out namesbecause I'm trying to keep this,
well I'm talking about thesituation, not the individual
person.
So I'm trying not to name anynames.
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So, if you're afraid that you'regonna be named, just breathe a
little easier.
And that's my story up to themoment.
There's a lot more to come.
Believe me, there's a lot moreto come.
I hope you enjoy it and I hopeyou look forward to it.
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