February 25, 2025 • 16 mins
Date of Events: February 24, 2024 02242024
A beautiful bride, wedding and location, Hope for my family unit being in cooperation, a track meet and a brunch, cat pee and laundry, continuing education and an extensive "to do" list
Scarlett Davis
Facebook: Future Single Lady
email: FutureSingleLady@gmail.com
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(00:01):
What is it about someone else'sdrama that gets us so on the
edge of our seats?
Why is it that we want tolisten, that we feel sometimes
so emotionally or, um,illogically sometimes invested
in the outcome of somebodyelse's situation?
(00:27):
Are we living vicariouslythrough them?
Are we saying, Oh, dear God,thank you that that's not my
life and showing gratitude forwhat is our life?
Are we saying, Oh, wow, thatwould be a really amazing thing
to do or be or experience.
(00:47):
I wish I could do that.
I would love it if that were mylife.
All of these differentcomparisons and things and
reasons that, that we do, whydo, why do we really do it?
I realized that it's not alwaysthe same reason, not for every
person and not for everysituation.
(01:08):
I don't know why you're herelistening to mine, but I, I'm so
glad that you are.
This is my life as the futuresingle lady.
I'm Scarlett Davis and this isthe chronicle of my life over
the past year and for howeverlong it continues for me
claiming my freedom for meclaiming the life that I want
(01:30):
and for setting my boundariesand deciding what I will and
will not have in my life forwhat I'm willing to tolerate and
what I'm not.
I'm the future single lady.
This podcast, I hope you find itentertaining because Well, it's
really just for entertainmentpurposes only.
I'm not qualified to give anyadvice about anything and any,
(01:52):
well, I am qualified to giveadvice about some things, but
that's not really what we'retalking about here.
So as far as you're concerned,I'm not giving any advice.
I'm just telling a story.
So if you follow anything that Ido, if you do anything that I
say or anything that I said Idid, I have no liability on
(02:13):
anything because your life isyours, my life is mine, and this
is just my story.
Thanks for listening, and thanksfor hanging out, my friend.
February 24th, 2024.
This is a little bit of a longone.
My friend's wedding.
Wow.
(02:33):
She was gorgeous.
I couldn't help but cry.
I tried not to blubber.
Thinking of how much she hasalways wanted to start a family
and her high standards.
So happy for her.
From her dude to her husband.
Smiley face.
She, whenever she was dating,she didn't ever know what label
(02:53):
to put on a guy.
Boyfriend or what have youbecause people have certain
thoughts and energies attachedto certain labels.
So she would just call him herdude My dude, I always thought
that was cute and funny All thekids running around were an
absolute delight Happy faceemoji, heart sign emoji.
I give thanks and praise for hercousin, for her cousin's wife.
(03:18):
She did like I do and pulled meinto the conversation.
It made me feel welcome and athome.
Many of her family did a 97 yearold man and his wife, a great
aunt in her eighties.
I pray for her daughter, and herfuture accomplishments.
And also her cousin's mother,all absolutely wonderful people.
(03:39):
The bartender did a great joband totally worth the 20 tip.
Double tequila, pineapple, andgrenadine.
Happy face.
Cake was delicious.
The drive home was nice andchill, all relaxing.
I managed to get a dress outfitless than two hours before the
wedding and was surprised howmany random compliments I got.
(04:00):
Nice! Before I left for thewedding, husband gave me three
cashier's checks for the billsin my name.
He declined to go to breakfastthe next day with my son and I
and, and my family after ourdaughter's race.
Son later said that he wasn'tgoing with me either so he could
sleep.
Sad, but I get it.
(04:21):
Hoping he'll still come tobrunch.
I dreamed a little last nightsomething about husband coming
up to me and proposing that heand That or that we both take
his truck to conserve gasExclamation mark and heart
sunshine emoji.
Even my dreams are manifesting achange of heart for him Thank
(04:41):
you, Lord.
I Think I'm gonna stop sayingwhat all kind of emojis that I
have cuz like the heart sunshineone and the star blast and next
Whatever.
I don't know if I'm gonna keepsaying those those things or
not, but I I Love you put thesethings all through my journal
because These are exemplifyinghow I feel and these are my own
kind of little emojis that Iwrite out for myself Trait of
(05:03):
the day relaxed yet productivegood because I have two loads of
laundry to do and my sheets needwashing bad Lord, please help me
get rid of the cat pee smellhelp my Bed have whatever
minimal scent it has to be to bepleasantly fragrant I'm, so
looking forward to my daughter'srace.
Oh, lol By the way now Husbandcares about his health and is
(05:27):
walking 20 000 steps a day andhe's making his bed Double
question mark lol Excellent forhim happy face.
I'm looking forward tostretching and yoga daily now
that I have organized floorspaced God, I have tons of
papers around this room thatneed sorting.
Please help.
And stuff to sell, that needs,that needs to be a priority.
(05:50):
Can I get husband to store and,or get rid of this mattress so I
can use the one my friend hasfor me and have greater floor
space?
Things I'd like to accomplish byMonday at 11am.
Papers permanently sorted.
Vision board completed, alllaundry done and put away
properly, combs cleaned, andresponse given to attorney, and
(06:11):
husband having a change of heartthat shifts towards peace.
Happy face.
And Bellieu and Heller workcaught up, especially made to do
this.
Probably can do that during juryduty lunch.
Happy face.
Hope we can get a MEPS datesoon.
God my son's life and future arein your hands.
Please help.
I know that you will you do andI have faith I just feel obliged
(06:35):
to ask happy face.
I know you got this So, pleasesee oh, I'm so proud to see my
son working on plan B a littlebit of explanations here I think
my friend's wedding is prettyself explanatory But so
obviously I was attending thisthis wedding alone And it was
(06:55):
so, one, the venue was amazing.
I was so completely just wowedby this, this venue.
It's, and it's not what youwould expect.
Maybe I'll put a link to itsomewhere or I have some
pictures or something.
I don't know.
Anyway, it was amazing howwelcoming her family was.
(07:16):
And how quick they were to, tochat and just, it was just, it
was wonderful.
I like that.
I put in here the recipe for thedrink that I had.
I think I had like three ofthese.
So double tequila, uh, pineappleand grenadine on top.
Yes.
Thank you.
That was, that was good.
I love that I put in here thateven my dreams were manifesting
(07:39):
things for me, for the person Iwas divorcing to, to, to.
Be nice and kind and have achange of heart.
My daughter had a track meet andI can't remember if it was in
the town where my mother livedor if it was in our town.
I don't recall.
I was a little sad that my, myfuture ex husband and my son
(08:05):
didn't, didn't want to dothings.
But that's, that's okay.
I'm glad that the invitation wasthere.
And That my family was stillwilling to be nice and kind and
pleasant and to do things forthe greater good So better that
the that the offer was there Anddeclined then for it never to
(08:26):
existed to, to begin with.
And so I'm grateful for that.
It's embarrassing to talk aboutthat half of my bed smelt like
cat pee.
And I don't know if I cover thislater on, but I'm going to go
ahead and, Oh no, I address ittomorrow.
(08:49):
I think I do as I'm kind of, I'mkind of glancing, glancing head
ahead.
Anyway, we will just say that Ifound out why it, uh, there were
such issues.
Um, I'm really grateful forthat, that at some point my bed
was replaced.
That me standing up for myselfcreated a better situation for
(09:14):
myself.
That it caused people to fall inline because I set my
boundaries.
A lot of things to do.
Oh, I had really highexpectations for the things that
I would like to get done.
Uh, Bellieu is John Bellieu.
The, I think I told you aboutthe, the sound therapy at the,
(09:37):
with tuning forks and Heller isCathy Heller.
With the Boldly Abundantprogram, and the Made to Do This
was also her program.
It's obvious that I pray a lot,and that I focus on the good.
And, the reminder of the littlething that I created for myself.
(09:59):
I'm a positive Pollyanna, I fartsunshine and spit rainbows, or
whatever it was that I said.
I just, even as I go through myday and I talk to people, I've
realized just how much thatreally is me.
And I can't, I can't help butwonder if, if some, some skilled
person out there is going todraw a cartoon of a happy, a
(10:27):
happy woman farting rainbows andspitting sunshine or whatever it
is.
This, uh, this causes me tochuckle.
This is what goes on in my mindon a daily basis.
I, as I read through thesejournals, I'm really grateful
that things have happenedexactly the way that they have,
(10:48):
because it is, it is nice to bereminded of some of these really
pleasant things that even thoughit was just one year ago, that I
had forgotten it, it wasn't asimportant or it was, it was, um,
shadowed.
overshadowed by the other goingson.
So it's nice to see these, thesenice things in here to see signs
(11:11):
of cooperation and justblessings.
And it also reminds me of thethings that I continue to pray
about all for the greatest good,because man, my, my prayers are
unceasing.
I love everyone and everything.
(11:32):
I believe that every issue is anopportunity.
And basically an opportunity forgrowth.
And I pray that everyone meetsall of their opportunities.
Uh, how do I say this?
That everyone meets theiropportunities with a good
(11:55):
mindset.
And, um, basically I wanteverybody to effectively and
efficiently learn and apply andapply.
What, whatever it is that wehave to learn so that we can all
advance at an exponential rateand that advancement I believe
(12:21):
to be something towards, towardslight, towards higher vibration,
towards goodness, towards justamazing, wonderful, incredible
things.
And wouldn't it be amazing if weall got there at light speed?
Wouldn't it?
Why not push the easy button andmake that happen?
(12:44):
I believe that the way we pushthat easy button is by loving
each other and lifting eachother up.
I believe that every person herewho is an obstacle is actually
an opportunity and they are hereby divine planning to help me.
(13:12):
Can any of us actually say thatwe would ever learn that 2 plus
2 equals 4 if we didn't havesomebody there to teach us?
That's, I know that that's avery simplistic attitude and
mindset, but I really think thatit is that simple.
(13:34):
Would I have ever learned thePythagorean theorem if there
wasn't somebody there to teachme?
Pretty sure that would not havehappened.
It's possible, everything existsas possibility.
But whether it's probable, Idon't think so.
Very, very, very extremely,almost nil possibility or
(14:00):
probability.
So that's the mindset for, well,that's always my mindset, but
that's the thought process fortoday.
the things that I jotted downthis day, one year ago.
Tell me what you think.
What are your thoughts?
(14:23):
Are you thinking about, or doyou know someone who you, who
you might get to draw thatpicture for me?
Have a positive Pollyanna.
I would love to see that.
I would love to hear what you'rethinking.
Please send me an email or reachout to me on the socials.
(14:44):
future single lady at gmail.
com or future single ladyFacebook page Hopefully with
more to come soon.
I love you, my friend, and I'mso excited that you are here and
Some of the answers to some ofthe questions that I have asked
today Are coming soon, maybe ofmaybe even as early as tomorrow.
(15:08):
So that's my story for today.
It won't always be that way.
Good, bad, or indifferent, it'salways going to change.
That's what we call progress,right?
If life were to stay the sameevery day, day in and day out,
well, that's a great recipe forstagnation.
(15:28):
And these waters are notstagnant.
These, these waters aresometimes turbulent, torrential.
and just straight up crazy.
So this is me.
This is my story.
Thanks for staying and hangingout to listen to it.
(15:49):
Today will be a different dayand the day after that will be
another day.
Every day is different and Ilook forward to each and every
one of those days.
I hope you do too.
As always, I can be reached byemail at futuresinglelady at
gmail.
com, and I also have a Facebookpage, Future Single Lady.
(16:10):
That's it.
This is my story.
I'm the one who's telling it,and I'd love to connect with
you.
I'd love to hear what your storyis.
Thank you.
Love you Love you
What is it about someone else'sdrama that gets us so on the
edge of our seats?
Why is it that we want tolisten, that we feel sometimes
so emotionally or, um,illogically sometimes invested
in the outcome of somebodyelse's situation?
(00:27):
Are we living vicariouslythrough them?
Are we saying, Oh, dear God,thank you that that's not my
life and showing gratitude forwhat is our life?
Are we saying, Oh, wow, thatwould be a really amazing thing
to do or be or experience.
(00:47):
I wish I could do that.
I would love it if that were mylife.
All of these differentcomparisons and things and
reasons that, that we do, whydo, why do we really do it?
I realized that it's not alwaysthe same reason, not for every
person and not for everysituation.
(01:08):
I don't know why you're herelistening to mine, but I, I'm so
glad that you are.
This is my life as the futuresingle lady.
I'm Scarlett Davis and this isthe chronicle of my life over
the past year and for howeverlong it continues for me
claiming my freedom for meclaiming the life that I want
(01:30):
and for setting my boundariesand deciding what I will and
will not have in my life forwhat I'm willing to tolerate and
what I'm not.
I'm the future single lady.
This podcast, I hope you find itentertaining because Well, it's
really just for entertainmentpurposes only.
I'm not qualified to give anyadvice about anything and any,
(01:52):
well, I am qualified to giveadvice about some things, but
that's not really what we'retalking about here.
So as far as you're concerned,I'm not giving any advice.
I'm just telling a story.
So if you follow anything that Ido, if you do anything that I
say or anything that I said Idid, I have no liability on
(02:13):
anything because your life isyours, my life is mine, and this
is just my story.
Thanks for listening, and thanksfor hanging out, my friend.
February 24th, 2024.
This is a little bit of a longone.
My friend's wedding.
Wow.
(02:33):
She was gorgeous.
I couldn't help but cry.
I tried not to blubber.
Thinking of how much she hasalways wanted to start a family
and her high standards.
So happy for her.
From her dude to her husband.
Smiley face.
She, whenever she was dating,she didn't ever know what label
(02:53):
to put on a guy.
Boyfriend or what have youbecause people have certain
thoughts and energies attachedto certain labels.
So she would just call him herdude My dude, I always thought
that was cute and funny All thekids running around were an
absolute delight Happy faceemoji, heart sign emoji.
I give thanks and praise for hercousin, for her cousin's wife.
(03:18):
She did like I do and pulled meinto the conversation.
It made me feel welcome and athome.
Many of her family did a 97 yearold man and his wife, a great
aunt in her eighties.
I pray for her daughter, and herfuture accomplishments.
And also her cousin's mother,all absolutely wonderful people.
(03:39):
The bartender did a great joband totally worth the 20 tip.
Double tequila, pineapple, andgrenadine.
Happy face.
Cake was delicious.
The drive home was nice andchill, all relaxing.
I managed to get a dress outfitless than two hours before the
wedding and was surprised howmany random compliments I got.
(04:00):
Nice! Before I left for thewedding, husband gave me three
cashier's checks for the billsin my name.
He declined to go to breakfastthe next day with my son and I
and, and my family after ourdaughter's race.
Son later said that he wasn'tgoing with me either so he could
sleep.
Sad, but I get it.
(04:21):
Hoping he'll still come tobrunch.
I dreamed a little last nightsomething about husband coming
up to me and proposing that heand That or that we both take
his truck to conserve gasExclamation mark and heart
sunshine emoji.
Even my dreams are manifesting achange of heart for him Thank
(04:41):
you, Lord.
I Think I'm gonna stop sayingwhat all kind of emojis that I
have cuz like the heart sunshineone and the star blast and next
Whatever.
I don't know if I'm gonna keepsaying those those things or
not, but I I Love you put thesethings all through my journal
because These are exemplifyinghow I feel and these are my own
kind of little emojis that Iwrite out for myself Trait of
(05:03):
the day relaxed yet productivegood because I have two loads of
laundry to do and my sheets needwashing bad Lord, please help me
get rid of the cat pee smellhelp my Bed have whatever
minimal scent it has to be to bepleasantly fragrant I'm, so
looking forward to my daughter'srace.
Oh, lol By the way now Husbandcares about his health and is
(05:27):
walking 20 000 steps a day andhe's making his bed Double
question mark lol Excellent forhim happy face.
I'm looking forward tostretching and yoga daily now
that I have organized floorspaced God, I have tons of
papers around this room thatneed sorting.
Please help.
And stuff to sell, that needs,that needs to be a priority.
(05:50):
Can I get husband to store and,or get rid of this mattress so I
can use the one my friend hasfor me and have greater floor
space?
Things I'd like to accomplish byMonday at 11am.
Papers permanently sorted.
Vision board completed, alllaundry done and put away
properly, combs cleaned, andresponse given to attorney, and
(06:11):
husband having a change of heartthat shifts towards peace.
Happy face.
And Bellieu and Heller workcaught up, especially made to do
this.
Probably can do that during juryduty lunch.
Happy face.
Hope we can get a MEPS datesoon.
God my son's life and future arein your hands.
Please help.
I know that you will you do andI have faith I just feel obliged
(06:35):
to ask happy face.
I know you got this So, pleasesee oh, I'm so proud to see my
son working on plan B a littlebit of explanations here I think
my friend's wedding is prettyself explanatory But so
obviously I was attending thisthis wedding alone And it was
(06:55):
so, one, the venue was amazing.
I was so completely just wowedby this, this venue.
It's, and it's not what youwould expect.
Maybe I'll put a link to itsomewhere or I have some
pictures or something.
I don't know.
Anyway, it was amazing howwelcoming her family was.
(07:16):
And how quick they were to, tochat and just, it was just, it
was wonderful.
I like that.
I put in here the recipe for thedrink that I had.
I think I had like three ofthese.
So double tequila, uh, pineappleand grenadine on top.
Yes.
Thank you.
That was, that was good.
I love that I put in here thateven my dreams were manifesting
(07:39):
things for me, for the person Iwas divorcing to, to, to.
Be nice and kind and have achange of heart.
My daughter had a track meet andI can't remember if it was in
the town where my mother livedor if it was in our town.
I don't recall.
I was a little sad that my, myfuture ex husband and my son
(08:05):
didn't, didn't want to dothings.
But that's, that's okay.
I'm glad that the invitation wasthere.
And That my family was stillwilling to be nice and kind and
pleasant and to do things forthe greater good So better that
the that the offer was there Anddeclined then for it never to
(08:26):
existed to, to begin with.
And so I'm grateful for that.
It's embarrassing to talk aboutthat half of my bed smelt like
cat pee.
And I don't know if I cover thislater on, but I'm going to go
ahead and, Oh no, I address ittomorrow.
(08:49):
I think I do as I'm kind of, I'mkind of glancing, glancing head
ahead.
Anyway, we will just say that Ifound out why it, uh, there were
such issues.
Um, I'm really grateful forthat, that at some point my bed
was replaced.
That me standing up for myselfcreated a better situation for
(09:14):
myself.
That it caused people to fall inline because I set my
boundaries.
A lot of things to do.
Oh, I had really highexpectations for the things that
I would like to get done.
Uh, Bellieu is John Bellieu.
The, I think I told you aboutthe, the sound therapy at the,
(09:37):
with tuning forks and Heller isCathy Heller.
With the Boldly Abundantprogram, and the Made to Do This
was also her program.
It's obvious that I pray a lot,and that I focus on the good.
And, the reminder of the littlething that I created for myself.
(09:59):
I'm a positive Pollyanna, I fartsunshine and spit rainbows, or
whatever it was that I said.
I just, even as I go through myday and I talk to people, I've
realized just how much thatreally is me.
And I can't, I can't help butwonder if, if some, some skilled
person out there is going todraw a cartoon of a happy, a
(10:27):
happy woman farting rainbows andspitting sunshine or whatever it
is.
This, uh, this causes me tochuckle.
This is what goes on in my mindon a daily basis.
I, as I read through thesejournals, I'm really grateful
that things have happenedexactly the way that they have,
(10:48):
because it is, it is nice to bereminded of some of these really
pleasant things that even thoughit was just one year ago, that I
had forgotten it, it wasn't asimportant or it was, it was, um,
shadowed.
overshadowed by the other goingson.
So it's nice to see these, thesenice things in here to see signs
(11:11):
of cooperation and justblessings.
And it also reminds me of thethings that I continue to pray
about all for the greatest good,because man, my, my prayers are
unceasing.
I love everyone and everything.
(11:32):
I believe that every issue is anopportunity.
And basically an opportunity forgrowth.
And I pray that everyone meetsall of their opportunities.
Uh, how do I say this?
That everyone meets theiropportunities with a good
(11:55):
mindset.
And, um, basically I wanteverybody to effectively and
efficiently learn and apply andapply.
What, whatever it is that wehave to learn so that we can all
advance at an exponential rateand that advancement I believe
(12:21):
to be something towards, towardslight, towards higher vibration,
towards goodness, towards justamazing, wonderful, incredible
things.
And wouldn't it be amazing if weall got there at light speed?
Wouldn't it?
Why not push the easy button andmake that happen?
(12:44):
I believe that the way we pushthat easy button is by loving
each other and lifting eachother up.
I believe that every person herewho is an obstacle is actually
an opportunity and they are hereby divine planning to help me.
(13:12):
Can any of us actually say thatwe would ever learn that 2 plus
2 equals 4 if we didn't havesomebody there to teach us?
That's, I know that that's avery simplistic attitude and
mindset, but I really think thatit is that simple.
(13:34):
Would I have ever learned thePythagorean theorem if there
wasn't somebody there to teachme?
Pretty sure that would not havehappened.
It's possible, everything existsas possibility.
But whether it's probable, Idon't think so.
Very, very, very extremely,almost nil possibility or
(14:00):
probability.
So that's the mindset for, well,that's always my mindset, but
that's the thought process fortoday.
the things that I jotted downthis day, one year ago.
Tell me what you think.
What are your thoughts?
(14:23):
Are you thinking about, or doyou know someone who you, who
you might get to draw thatpicture for me?
Have a positive Pollyanna.
I would love to see that.
I would love to hear what you'rethinking.
Please send me an email or reachout to me on the socials.
(14:44):
future single lady at gmail.
com or future single ladyFacebook page Hopefully with
more to come soon.
I love you, my friend, and I'mso excited that you are here and
Some of the answers to some ofthe questions that I have asked
today Are coming soon, maybe ofmaybe even as early as tomorrow.
(15:08):
So that's my story for today.
It won't always be that way.
Good, bad, or indifferent, it'salways going to change.
That's what we call progress,right?
If life were to stay the sameevery day, day in and day out,
well, that's a great recipe forstagnation.
(15:28):
And these waters are notstagnant.
These, these waters aresometimes turbulent, torrential.
and just straight up crazy.
So this is me.
This is my story.
Thanks for staying and hangingout to listen to it.
(15:49):
Today will be a different dayand the day after that will be
another day.
Every day is different and Ilook forward to each and every
one of those days.
I hope you do too.
As always, I can be reached byemail at futuresinglelady at
gmail.
com, and I also have a Facebookpage, Future Single Lady.
(16:10):
That's it.
This is my story.
I'm the one who's telling it,and I'd love to connect with
you.
I'd love to hear what your storyis.
Thank you.
Love you Love you
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