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What you gonna do today?
What am I gonna do today?
What does life have in store forme?
You never know what the story'sgonna be.
I never know what the story'sgonna be.
Life is as it comes to me day byday, moment by moment.
This is just a chronicle of mylife and what I'm going through
as I decided to make a hugemajor shift in my life.
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I hope you find it entertainingbecause That's all it's here
for.
It's entertainment purposesonly.
I'm Scarlett Davis.
I'm the future single lady andthis is the chronicle of my life
as I declare my desire forfreedom from the man that I'd
been with for 20 years.
I hope you find it enjoying.
I'm not giving any advice on anytopic about anything.
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This is just the chronicles ofmy experience and my
perspectives on that.
So thanks for being here.
I hope you find it enjoying.
Enjoyable.
February 25th, 2024.
Some of this I'm gonna, I'mgonna say and some of it I'm
gonna kind of gloss over becauseit's, some of it's a little
detailed that doesn't reallymatter to you.
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It's just the idea of what'sgoing on and whatever.
Thought about journaling lastnight, but let myself off Happy
Face.
Daughter got in late.
I called around eight 30 or soto find out that they were just
getting to the school long day.
She didn't do well and wasupset.
Husband texted her to come tohim so that, so she did that
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first and I heard a lot of what,what she said.
Then she came to me.
And my insight and delivery gaveher a different perspective and
it cheered her up and includinglaughing.
Smiley face.
Husband's TV went silent duringthis time.
Happy face.
She went to sleep happier.
Happy face.
I'm going to insert somecommentary here.
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My children were taught by theirfather that whatever he said had
to come first.
It, it, Basically, he alwaysinsisted on being heard first,
or most importantly, or the mostloudly, or whatever.
So, I know that this waspremeditated in planning on his
part, that he had reached out toher, and whether it was he, that
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he wanted to develop the habitin her, Or for her to see him as
the person who cared the most orto get a dig in at me that she
went to him first Because hereached out first or whatever
blah blah blah Um, or maybe allof the above which was probably
most likely the case.
He would do these kinds ofthings So and his the room that
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he was in which was a spare roomwas the door The doors are
completely right across the hallfrom each other basically his
room and my room and The mainbathroom that he used and the
master bathroom that I usedwere, were basically perfect
mirrors of each other.
The only differences being thatmy room had two windows and his
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only had one and the closets aredifferent.
Other than that, and the size ofthe rooms, they're a total
mirror of each other.
So as was often the case, my wayof presenting things or my
perspective on things is morelight hearted and I don't see my
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job as to fluff up my childrenwith false niceness or anything
like that, but just to provide adifferent insight to things, so
that people don't look at thingsin such a dreary manner.
Because our perspective createsour world, and it's funny that
I'm saying this because therewas a reel that came across my
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stuff today that I was remindedof that it was Dr.
I think it's Emoto, which Ithink it's funny that his name
sounds very much like emotion,or spelled like that, that he
proved back in 1994 to his, sothis, we're talking about over
30 years ago, that our wordsliterally change the world
around us.
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The experiment being that he hadhis students speak to jars of
water.
One of them received negativewords and thoughts and emotions.
Transcribed and another onereceived positive words,
thoughts, and emotions.
The jars of water were frozenand then when the water was
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examined later on, thecrystalline structure of each of
these jars was different.
The one with the negative wordswas very chaotic and the one
with the the nice words wasbeautiful, incredible, and our
bodies are 80 percent water.
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Think about that.
80 percent water.
I also, it occurs to me justthis very second, about, so if
I'm a positive Pollyanna,spreading niceness and joy
wherever I go, a lighterdisposition, glowing, all of
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these terms that we use todescribe people who have a
happier disposition, basicallyemitting light, the way light
refracts through crystals, andthis even happens in the movie
Pollyanna, Where light is shownthrough a crystal, creating
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rainbows that people enjoy andcreating further joy and
happiness is that's what, isthat what is happening inside of
our bodies?
And for the negative wordsthat's causing the chaos and the
disruption in the crystallinestructure, is that what creates
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darkness?
Things that break up, that.
that, um, things that block thecreation and or the reflection
of beautiful light.
Is that what's going on?
Basically what happens here is Ilook for the goodness in things
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and I share the goodness inthings and whatever it was that
I said to my daughter, itrealigned her.
So, where her father wasconsoling, presumably in the
best way that he could be, abouthow she felt about her
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performance at her meet.
It consoled her, yes.
Thankfully, it was a good thingthat she went to him first,
because I got to put the icingon the cake.
I got to make things better.
I got to make things yummy forher.
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So, while it was hurtful in thebeginning, it didn't succeed in
the end.
My daughter was happier.
She wound up laughing and shewent to bed happier because
things had been reframed for herto see in a different way.
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I like that his TV went silentwhile I was speaking to her and
while she was speaking to mebecause that tells me that The
probability is extremely highthat he was listening to our
conversation.
Maybe he learned something, andif he did, and he imitated how I
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do things, great.
Because even if it is animitation, and it's not the
truest thing, fake it till youmake it, right?
So, that would be great.
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Next thing was basically one ofmy clients had come in and she,
uh, she was known for selling alot of jewelry or whatever.
She brought in a bunch of stuffand I sold, I, she gave me
something, I bought somethingand She brought some stuff in,
gave me some stuff, and, uh, Ikept it and I, and I sold some
to, to some of my, my, myclients and friends.
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And so, and here I'll put tothese people, I sold 165 and
then I think that that makes 280total.
Happy face.
Nice to have a friend.
I have a jury duty on Tuesday.
Oh, and the husband texted tosee if I needed anything from
the store.
Nice.
I told him that the cats wouldneed food, uh, before the week
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was out, that they had enoughfor this week.
And I could help right now, butI didn't know what will what the
future held, etc So he wentahead and got four bags of the
correct stuff and i'm gonna goahead and have some commentary
here He sent me a picture ofsome stuff that we used to use
and we didn't anymore.
I I would get some I gotmultiple kinds of cat food, same
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brand, but they had differentfocuses and I would mix it
together.
So the thing was that I hadlearned a long time ago, way
before I ever met my husband,that it was very important to
not just switch up a dog orcat's food, that they had to be
adjusted a little bit.
We'll, this is the post COVIDera and.
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There were a lot more supplychain issues and disruptions and
stuff, so I felt it pertinent tohave a continual mix of stuff so
that it was more easilyacceptable by our, our cats so
that their, their stomachsweren't disrupted, their
digestive system didn't haveissues and therefore give us
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issues.
So, he put back the stuff thatwe, that we used to use, and
then he got four bags of thecorrect stuff, so that was nice.
Not only that, that he reachedout to me to see if I needed
anything, but also he providedfor what was needed for the
household, and that he got whatI recommended.
This was a really nice teamworkeffort, and I was, and continue
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to be extremely appreciative ofthat.
And it was a very clearindicator to me that we could
work together and we could do itwell.
So, that was great.
Happy face was all over theplace.
Dinner with friends didn't taketoo long.
He was home around 8.
Which is funny because heusually always got home a lot
later than that.
Anyway.
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This morning I remembered that,uh, it was Sunday and that I
wanted to make chocolate gravyfor the kids.
Turns out my recipe in the bookwas totally not right, but their
dad corrected me from the road.
Happy face.
Again, spirit of cooperationhere.
He was going out of, out of townfor, um, he was going to the
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ranch.
In the beginning when this firststarted, he actually probably
spent I'm gonna say like 14 outof 18 days gone something like
that.
He was gone a lot So hecorrected the recipe from the
road and it turned out well sonwas very happy when he smelled
it happy face I hope thismessage is that the kids will
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still get good food for momhappy face and family favorites
happy face And then I go ontalking about how Basically my
battle with the cat pee with mybed smelling like cat pee and
it's like what the heck is thisissue?
Well, then I figured it out thecat peed on my spot So we had
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had an issue with a cat peeingone time on the bed And we've
done some things to to alleviatethe issue But what I learned is
it happened again So I'm gonnago ahead and if I document this
later, uh, that's fine.
I'm gonna go ahead and spoil itnow so in this first week and a
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half of me asking for a divorceand the husband being at home
and consistently Living in thespare room not just getting up
in the middle of the night andgoing in there or whatever The
cat threw a fit and I think thecat thought that I had kicked
him out And was literally pissedoff at me.
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So it pissed on the bed.
Meanwhile, I'd been doing allthese things, these protective
measures, trying to put, youknow, towels and chemicals and
everything, whatever, just all,all these things to just, yeah.
And I realized this was not anold issue.
This was a new issue.
Holy fricking cow.
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Also, this was not the onlyplace that this happened.
There was, there was a smellnear the front door and I
thought it was the outside cats,uh, but I, I realized that the,
the, the doormat or whatever itis coming in the house had cat
pee on it.
So in addition to all theseother things that I have going
on, I'm suddenly battling amisbehaving cat.
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So that's just documentation ofmy issue.
Daughter requested a sushi datebefore going to work.
So, lol, minimal work on myroom, but all is still great.
More documentation about thebed.
I don't want to keep my doorclosed like husband does, but it
may be necessary because Ididn't even know that this thing
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had happened.
And it's been at least a fewdays since it did happen.
Question is, what made thehusband be suspicious enough to
start keeping his room closed?
Did something happen?
Did he see the corona?
Did he see the cat come in hereand do it?
That's a really suspiciousthing.
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And When I take into accountthings that happened over the
next few months, it really makesme wonder.
What did he see and what did heknow that made him decide to
protect his room from the cat?
Because he kept his door closedevery day.
He made it known that if hewasn't there, he wanted his door
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closed so that the cat wouldn'tgo in there.
Why?
He loved that cat.
That was his cat.
Hmm And then I just go on to saythat things about Wednesday
should be a good a good day asfar as having a lot Of money to
deposit for my son and I neededto deposit cashier's checks and
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see if I could do that mobily inthe future I Need to cook
tomorrow.
So I'll have lunch on Tuesdayfor jury duty and son has dinner
before work Don't know if it'llbe tonight or tomorrow that I
cook Basically, I'm justplanning food stuff to make sure
that everybody is taken care ofbecause it's me providing for
the children and that's it.
Vision board, bed, papers, legalresponse, Heller VIP videos,
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Facebook, excited to get thingsdone, happy face.
I have a list of numbers herethat are all these double
numbers and repeating patternsand everything that just it's
incredible.
I need to deposit cash forgasoline.
Double numbers and doubleletters.
Uh, for the whole day and half,half, dozens daily, I give,
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basically I'm just noting that Iam overwhelmed with all of these
signs, even if I don't know whatthey mean.
And that I have dozens of themdaily.
And these are just a few that Iwrote down.
Um, I, I have a list of thingsthat I need, I need a homework,
I Homework book and this is whatactually what I call my
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happiness homework, which wasstuff for the divorce and a
Notebook just for me to do thisthat I need to contact USAA
become a member and below allthis stuff More stuff about the
bed how I'm going to handle thatSon, and I want to do something
together.
Happy face looking forward tothat.
Happy face also, I robot What amI to get out of this?
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I've been called to it for along time and it's on TV.
Now, what do I see here?
Feel or basically this movie andthis, this happens with me a
lot.
There'll be a movie or song orsomething like that that just
keeps popping up.
And somewhere in there, there'sa message for me, a reminder of
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something.
And I robot had been popping up.
A lot in my, in my mind and justthings around me.
Well, it was on TV right then.
And this is, this is somethingthat happens a lot.
This is one of thesynchronicities.
And so I was wondering, what isit that I'm supposed to get out
of this?
Well, I, I wound up not watchingit.
So, I, I don't know what I wassupposed to get out of that.
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I do think about that movieoften though.
And just some of the, some ofthe things that I feel like
sometimes are warnings orguidance.
But that's some of the stuffgoing on now.
I, as I look ahead just a littlebit, I see that, that the next
day I did not do a journalentry.
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But I've also been thinkingthat, I'm documenting this stuff
about, about how and why ourmarriage has ended.
And, but I feel like it's alsoimportant to document a little
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bit about how things were in thebeginning.
And I don't know, maybe, maybethat'll be a thing for tomorrow.
I don't know.
We will see.
Do you have any questions, myfriend?
This I am concerned, uh, well, Iam acknowledging all through
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this that I was sleeping on abed, thankfully a king sized
one, so there was plenty ofroom.
But it was a permanently damagedbed that I was trying really
hard to save our investment in,and to protect, and It just
wasn't working out that way.
So even though there was amattress protector on there that
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was supposed to be high qualityand blah, blah, blah, blah,
blah, blah, blah.
It just didn't work the way itwas supposed to, sadly enough.
And these were the things that Ihad to deal with.
And of course I say that itsmelled really bad of cat urine
and, Supposedly women's nosesare more sensitive and I
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particularly just have adistinct aversion to, to this.
It doesn't matter.
Um, I may be a fool.
I may have been crazy for tryingto fix something that couldn't
be fixed, which I've realizedCould also be Said for my
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marriage.
I guess I'm a person who doesn'tgive up until I have made sure
that I have tried hard enoughthat I feel that it's okay to
give up.
That I guess I try hard enoughuntil I know for certain that
yes, it is definitely time togive up.
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I guess that's a recurring themein my life.
Thank you for helping me havethat vision and that
understanding.
of myself.
Regardless, I um, I feel likeyou have some questions and I'd
like to know what they are sothat I can, I can address them.
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Cause I'd like to do that.
I'd like to help you with yourstuff and to pray for you too.
So please give me some guidanceon what it is that you'd like
help with.
You know how to reach me.
And I look forward to chattingwith you.
Okay?
Talk to you soon.
Mhm.
Wow, so that's the story for theday.
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I'm curious what you think aboutit.
Are you stay willing to stay andlisten to some more?
Because as always, there's a lotmore.
I'm glad that you're here.
I don't know what your reasonsare for being here unless you
take the time to tell me.
I hope you do reach out and tellme that you tell me your story
and how life is affecting you,how this podcast and how my
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story is affecting you, becauseI really want to know.
So I hope you reach out and tellme future single lady.
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Thanks for being here, myfriend.