February 14, 2025 • 30 mins
Day of Event: February 13, 2024
The day after I declared my desire for freedom and the interactions with the future ex... he already had a lawyer and the deceit was already in full swing and I was just barely getting a taste of it, only just starting to see how the man I'd been with for two decades was turning on me in what would rapidly become full-on hatred.
Scarlett Davis
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Has reality got you down?
Would you rather check intosomebody's reality and see if
it's better or worse than yoursand hopefully get an appropriate
adjustment of attitude?
Great.
Here's the place to be.
I'm Scarlett Davis and this isThe Future Single Lady.
This is documentation of me andmy journey as I declare my
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insistence upon getting adivorce from my husband of
almost 20 years while stillwanting to maintain a family
unit.
Just not married to him anddoing things nicely and
peacefully.
That was the goal.
Takes two to tango though.
Didn't happen that way.
Now it's a year later, and I canshare my chronicle with you.
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So I hope you'll enjoy it.
You'll join me and enjoy theride because it's ups downs.
It's all around and Also, just alittle bit of a disclaimer.
I'm not a doctor.
I'm not a counselor.
Technically, I am a medicallytrained professional, but it's
like the lowest bottom rung onthe totem pole of medical
professionals.
I'm a therapist of massage, butI'm not a counselor.
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I'm not anything else.
I'm not qualified other thanhaving life experience to give
any kind of advice, legaladvice, medical advice, or
anything else, but I can sharemy experience.
And that's If it resonates withyou, if you find it even
remotely entertaining, if ithelps you get through what
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you're getting through or overabove around, whatever it is
that you've gone through, thatyou're going through, that your
friend is going through, who youcare about.
If it helps give you a glimmerof hope and understanding, and
if you just find it comical orwhatever kind of entertainment
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you're looking for.
Then great.
I love you.
I'm glad you're here.
Please enjoy.
Okay, I said I'd do it.
Um, it's late in the day onFebruary the 13th, 2025, and I
am at least for a while gonnatry to keep this stuff day to
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day, um, so that it's a one yearanniversary when the podcast
launches from when the thingactually happened.
So you can keep right up with mein basically real time as how I
was experiencing it.
And Since I didn't startrecording vocals until, until
six weeks in, now I'm having tocatch up, and I'm going off of
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what my journal said, so.
For February the 13th, 2024, Ijournaled twice that day.
In the morning, it was two fullpages, and in the evening, it
was two and a half pages.
Now, I will be pausing forcommentary in here, and some of
this I kind of briefly glossedover yesterday.
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But I figure it's easiest justto go ahead and read it and I
apologize in advance becauseSometimes I can't read my own
writing.
So whether it has to do with myvisual uh, my my eyes my ability
my visual acuity or myhandwriting stuff happens
sometimes and if anything is notclear for how i'm expressing it
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to you, then I do sincerelyapologize for that for that, but
I'm trying to be thoroughwithout Just Whatever.
Let's get started.
So, February 13th, 2024.
WHEW! I did it.
I asked for what I wanted.
A peaceful parting of ways, andit was all calm.
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My husband has promised quote,things will get ugly and I even
marked that out because I rejectthat and Because you find what
you're looking for, so I lookfor a peaceful, mutually
beneficial parting of ways.
He wants me out of the house bythe end of March, and I told him
that I reject that too.
He doesn't think I have anyclaim to the house, let alone
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its current value.
He's wrong.
He's gone through and trashedour picture.
How long did it take him to getit off the, oh, He trashed our
picture, and then I don't knowthe next word, but how long did
it take him to get it off thewall near the ceiling?
He's cut up what I assume to bethe food card and left it by the
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Keurig, where he used myprecious Sumatra blend this
morning.
Ha ha ha ha ha.
God bless him.
Really, I didn't think he'd bethis hurt, and he could only be
this hurt if he actually cared.
And he did say that there hadbeen some small glimmer of hope
and acted as if I had the powerto reconcile, but I didn't see
any possible way we could.
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I'm gonna put a pin in that.
Um, it's quite likely that Um,he may have been more hurt and
upset because it turns out thathe's a narcissist.
Also, he revealed at the end ofthis that he had been planning
something, and he was deviouslyplanning it a year and a half
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from, from that point.
And, um, I think he was just madthat I beat him to the punch.
And, um, When I tell you lateron when we talk about actually
how the conversation went downhis glimmer of hope oh my gosh
You're gonna laugh, you're gonnaroll your eyes, you're gonna be
disgusted.
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It's gonna be an extremereaction.
But, back to the journal.
As expected, my daughter is morein line with my husband, and I
pray beauty on my and herrelationship.
Heck, I pray beauty on all ofour relationships.
I'm so happy and calm, I praythat my son's celebrations are
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not impacted by this.
The concert, the Navy stuff,graduation, all of it.
I, I invoke Durga and Michael.
Michael Archangel Michael forsuccess and protection.
My eyes are swollen, almost shutfrom crying, and sinuses still
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are swollen.
I took Clear Quill to sleep forheadache, sinus and watery, nose
or eyes, and dreamed for thefirst time in a long time
receiving downloads like crazy.
There are definitely.
Things were definitely busybehind the scenes.
I saw an aurora.
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So much.
So much stuff.
Relaxing, healing, probablybased on something my husband
said.
I had a dream about someone whois a leader for me and his kids.
I had totally told him off fordoing something inappropriate.
And the inappropriate thing wasbased on something my husband
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had said.
About my thong.
616 when I started, 838 when Igot in my chair.
616 when I started theconversation telling that I
wanted him, wanted a divorce,and 838 when things were done,
and I was sitting back in mychair.
Angel number meanings, I toldyou these yesterday, but I'm
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gonna go ahead the say themagain.
616, it's time to bring balanceinto your life.
This can mean working to createa safe and welcoming home space,
re addressing your work lifebalance, and making time to
nurture relationships.
Consider personal developmentand practice gratitude and
positivity.
838.
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Believe in yourself and worktoward your goals.
You're on the right path.
If you think positively andtreat others with kindness.
Additionally, you are a reminderto use your material success as
a means to give back and make apositive impact on the world.
Thank you! I drew in a happyface because I draw stuff all
the time.
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Thank you, I receive this!Underscored an exclamation a
lot.
God, please continue to gobefore me and clear the path.
Archangel Michael, pleaseprotect me and my children from
all harm and evil.
Any malfeasance.
Allow them to not be harmed.
I do not, I do not ask that theybe not affected by these actions
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because they may need to growfrom it, but do most
emphatically, I do mostemphatically ask that they stay
safe.
Durga, I invoke you to help usovercome any malfeasance.
I desire a mutually beneficial,peaceful parting of ways as we
continue on as a family unit andhave our individual multitudes
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of success.
He's given me this room andinsists on finding a new
hairdresser, a new hairstylist.
Fine, if that makes him feelbetter, then great.
Drew in a happy face.
I'm just happy that as he said,I'm just happy that I, as he
said, finally grew a pair, lol.
He gave me my Valentine's gift,too, and I truly hope that this
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is a symbol, is symbolic of howthings will be for us.
The Mandalorian baby Grogu withmy voice from it whenever I got
hit with a ricochet BB.
We laughed because it startswith OW and ends with I'm out of
here and as he said it was veryappropriate.
May we always be able to shareand laugh, laugh it out.
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I'm Dondurga Ye Namaha.
Peace, resilience, success.
So mode it be.
Oh, much ringing in the ears.
Like, wow.
Which ringing in the ears is,one interpretation is that that
is, uh, receiving of downloads,which I will be honest, since I
started this the last couple ofdays, the ringing in my ears has
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been absolutely incredible.
Um, I thought it was really coolthat we could laugh about the
whole Valentine's thing and, youknow, I started this process on.
I did not, uh, on February the12th last year because I didn't
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want to ruin Valentine's foranybody.
Uh, which is funny because inall of the legal paperwork, the
legal documentation, he hasfiled everywhere that this all
started on Valentine's Day lastyear.
Just yet another example of whata fucking liar he is.
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Anyway, continuing on.
So this is in the evening onFebruary the 13th.
Oh.
My husband came home while I wastalking to lawyers offices and
getting ready to file.
Had to talk I had to talk withhim in the room.
Sorry, adjusting my glasses.
I had to talk with him in theroom, especially when he's
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emptying the dishwasher.
Mind you, I was sitting at thefucking kitchen table.
But what did he have to do?
His normal thing, where he hasto be all up in everybody else's
business and being a nuisanceand he loves making clanking of
dishes.
So kind of difficult to have aconversation with a lawyer when
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the person you're trying todivorce is in the room.
Narcissistic much?
Anyway, continuing on.
Hard to talk with him in theroom, especially when he's
emptying the dishwasher.
He definitely talked to alawyer.
There was a him and a she,though he won't say who.
Say who?
Because he was told not to?
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Seriously?
Okay, fine.
I'm getting, I'm guessing acertain person, but it doesn't
matter.
I offered him info on the bills,and he was tacky.
I went to my room, and, oh, I'msorry, I went outside to my
truck to make calls withprivacy.
So, of course, he came out to gowalking around the park, and he
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called our son out there withhim.
Thankfully, our son and I hadtalked whenever he came home,
and he had said he wasn't movinganywhere until he ships out.
I agreed, and my daughtershouldn't have to move schools
either.
Evidently, my son told myhusband while they were walking
that I had said that andwhatever else, and it calmed my
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husband down.
My husband says we both have toget appraisers, and that minus
the amount owed, divided ofcourse.
for the house.
I said, of course I said that'swhat it is.
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He's saying that he guesstimatesI'll get 50 to 60, 000 and that
he's not refinancing the house.
So he's kind of trying to tellme that I'm just fucked and I'm
getting nothing.
And so, you know, trying tointimidate me.
Um, I told him my response was,shouldn't be a problem with the
commission checks you'll begetting soon.
The first one was supposed to beover a hundred thousand dollars.
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And he said, that's alldeferred.
I, in, in, That was bullshit.
He said that's all deferred.
Not sure, not sure I believehim.
He was relieved when he heardthat I didn't plan to stay here
after our daughter graduates.
Why would I?
I said, I only stayed herebecause of you.
I never planned to stay.
He wanted to know what I'll doafter and I just said that we'll
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cross that bridge when we getthere.
Actually, whenever, um, he was,he was so relieved whenever I
said I didn't plan on staying inthe area.
He was like, well, that's goodbecause then I won't have to
look at you.
Asshole.
Um, so even though I had alreadyhad a game plan of what I wanted
to do with the next five to tenyears of my life, it's not his,
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not his fucking business.
And I wasn't about to divulgethat.
I'll be nice and friendly andeverything, but he had already
promised me that things weregonna get ugly.
Why would I divulge all of myplans to him?
I just told him we'll cross thatbridge when we get there.
I handle one step at a time.
I looked up alimony in Texas andit's called spousal support and
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currently the lesser of 20percent of gross income or 2,
500.
At least, basically I calculatedI should, should have gotten
like at least 1440, somethinglike that.
I go on to list off the thingsthat what I'm pushing for as far
as assets.
And one of the things is that hewas notorious for emptying out
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IRAs.
and 401ks.
So money that we saved together,that we both budgeted for and
did without, that we did that,he spent willy nilly however he
wanted to because once he gotaccess to it, he treated an IRA,
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multiple times, treated IRAs asif it were a personal savings
account.
But we also paid the taxes on itand we also paid the penalties
on it.
So over 30 percent of that moneywas just straight up gone.
We did without, we sacrificed,we saved.
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It might've come out of hispaycheck and had his name on it,
but we did that.
So I was wanting to leveragethat into him, um, giving me
money for tuition because I wantto be back in Texas A& M
University and College Station.
I want to finish out my doubledegree.
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Um, Okay, so that was a list ofthose things.
Um, he was pushing for me to,yeah, he was pushing for me to
pay bills, and I said I'd payhundreds of dollars less than
the alimony I get.
When I start getting that.
In other words, you start payingme and then I'll start paying
some bills.
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He asked, and of course he wassmart off, smart ing off about
that.
He asked what I wanted to takeas far as furniture and was
surprised when I said I wantedvery little.
But I reminded him that I cameinto the marriage with a paid
off truck, a whole house offurniture, including washer,
dryer, microwave, and otherappliances.
I want the money to replace allof that.
He thought, he thought I'd wantboth beds, which are both king
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size, one of them I came intothe marriage with, the big
refrigerator that my grandmotherbought us, etc.
I said, no, what am I gonna dowith all that?
I don't want that table, youknow, blah blah blah, you know,
it's like, I just, I don't wantit.
And, or, you know, he said thathe didn't want it.
And he complained about thetable and said he'd never wanted
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it from the beginning.
Um, well, you never had anyproblem using it.
I said, okay, then put it out tothe curb.
I don't need anything that big.
He made a comment about, aboutmy daughter.
I said i'd probably take Therewas some very specific furniture
From ikea.
I said i'd probably take theikea stuff or get new if he
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wanted to keep it and So I'mwondering, is that why he wants
to keep it in his room and useit?
Um, Ned said, lol, doesn'tmatter.
He told his best friend and healso told me to tell my family
not to contact him.
He's erased all of theirinformation, uh, all of my, all
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of their, all of their, theirnumbers Facebook, etc.
He basically spent his whole daytrying to erase me from his
life.
Pictures on his phone, etc.
Everything.
I told him I was glad hecouldn't erase our kids.
He's ge Oh, and I even saw onhis phone that he, in his phone,
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he changed my last name to mymaiden name.
Um, which is fine.
I don't give a shit about that.
But, you'll find out 11 monthslater if you keep listening,
some stuff.
Mm hmm.
Oy! Things just keep gettingbetter.
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He's giving me the Aerosmithtickets and only doing shine,
shine down on our son's birthdayif our son wants him there, etc.
He's canceled the hotel on, forthe concert and for our hotel in
Abilene for my cousin's wedding.
Understandable, um, so much fora family pic, too.
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Wasted a lot of time waiting onhim.
Basically, I had been wanting afamily picture for over a year
and a half and he wanted to loseweight first.
And basically I will never havethat family picture now.
I even thought about going andhaving them having it with just
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me and the kids.
But of course that would havebeen some kind of statement.
I'll never have that now.
Um, I can add more informationto that right now, but I'm not
going to.
Will I get happy faces from mykids when we do it?
Basically saying if the kids andI go or am I gonna get truly
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happy faces from them?
Smiles that genuinely go all theway up to their eyes with joy
and laughter.
He offered me the tax refundlast night and today he wants to
separate He wants to fileseparately with him claiming a
kid.
I said, I get both.
I don't trust him and he iseither manipulating me or
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planning to set me up by goingfirst, filing first, and
claiming both kids.
So I have to scramble to filefirst.
Manipulated, but who cares?
It helps, right?
In the end, he offered to gothrough the camping stuff.
I can't think of anything Iwould need or would want from
there.
So, uh, I offered to let himjust video the stuff I have at
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the ranch and probably just tossit all because He's covering his
butt same as with the familyplanner on the family planner I
also would put my work schedulethere on my clients so everybody
could see if I was working ornot and I think that this was
smart of him.
He deleted himself off of it sothat he couldn't have access to
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it.
So that if for some reason therewas a scheduling issue with a
client, he wouldn't receive theblame.
And I thought that that wassmart of him.
Um, the kids seem distant,especially my daughter.
So I'm feeling like an outsider.
I knew it would happen.
I do not enjoy it, but I doenjoy hearing them work together
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on chocolate dipped strawberriesand key lime cheesecake.
My daughter's shins hurt, butshe doesn't want me to work on
them.
Even the outside cats seem alittle iffy.
Guess I'm projecting.
Corona, who is the indoor cat,can you guess when we got him?
Corona is closer than ever.
Flip flop, seesaw, teetertotter.
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It was nice to watch a certainTV show with my husband, even
though he skipped out in theend.
It's possible.
I know it is.
I call it forth.
I'm Dom Dergiyeh Namaha.
I want all of us togetherenjoying Young Sheldon, a TV
show that we watch.
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We all deserve to be happy,don't we?
My son's MEPS, uh, MEPS thing,the big send off, graduation,
family trip, huge commission.
I may, may be missing out.
On all of it, but I I couldn'twait a second longer.
Basically.
I'm acknowledging here thatthere are a lot of things that
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may be happening that I may missout on not just family events,
but financial benefits too,because there were some massive
ones in the pipeline is that,um, I couldn't wait a second
longer, please.
God, I need an excellent lawyerwho takes my case and does it
for free.
I was really concerned aboutmoney.
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Maximum amount on the house, A&M tuition paid, max spousal
support, max furnitureallotment, all expenses paid,
moving, and I went on and onlisting several of the things.
Um, assets that had value,especially when it all added up.
Uh, every expense one couldpossibly think of, please have
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him pay me now and make mehappy.
Uh, that statement was part of aManifestation formula, and I was
trying to use it.
I was trying to use every tool Iknew to help get through this.
My stomach feels not well.
God, I'm trusting you for all ofit.
Good news He didn't disconnectthe satellite TV services.
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It was just really funny timing.
So There was there was one timewhen this was over a decade
earlier, and we were in a reallybad situation with each other
and we were We were arguing andbasically my thing was to walk
away.
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I don't want to, didn't want tostay there and fight and cry
because I'm angry andfrustrated, um, because I was
taught.
Not to cry.
Suck it up.
And, you know, fathers,grandfathers, they, people did
shut that, you shut that shitup, or I'll give you something
to cry for, you know, kind ofthing.
That's what I grew up with.
So I grew up stuffing down myemotions, being taught that I
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didn't have a right to cry, thatI did not have a right to feel
or express my feelings.
and if I'm not going to be ableto do that, then, then I walked
away.
Um, and not from, not from mystepfather or anybody like that.
But, in a personal situation,where I had the authority to
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walk away, then I did.
Because, I was embarrassed forcrying, for one.
And, I was crying because I wasfrustrated.
Because I was so angry, wastypically my thing.
I didn't cry just for the sakeof crying.
And, I don't do the crocodiletears.
And, I have never liked cryingbecause, My face, my sinuses get
so swollen on the inside that Ican't breathe.
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But my nose suddenly turns towater.
So my nose is suddenly drippingand I don't ever, there's never
a Kleenex handy.
And.
I can't breathe and I'm tryingto like sniff up the the running
watery nose and my nose becomesraw because I'm wiping out the
wateriness of it and my face isSo so I do I do not well, I
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don't know things seem to it'sfunny even Physiologically
things are changing for me, butin the past I did not ever cry
pretty I didn't even cry tearsTears would not actually come
out of my eyes.
The funny thing is now they do.
Isn't that crazy?
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I am physically changing, and Idon't mean like just losing
weight or getting toned oranything, I am physically
changing.
So, forty, forty six, fortyseven years of my body behaving
in one way, and when I startspeaking my truth and stepping
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out, stepping out in faith,making huge, massive,
transformational changes likethis, relying, really just
relying on God.
Yeah.
And then these things startchanging physiologically in my
body.
Isn't that interesting?
Anyway, back to, to the point.
So there was this one day that,so I, I just, I turned around, I
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walked off.
I was pregnant with our son.
I went to, to the bedroom and,uh, I closed the door.
I think I might've locked it.
I'm not sure.
I was laying down, uh, cryingmyself to sleep.
The, the, uh, The overhead lightwas on.
I think I had been on the phonewith, with my mom and that's a
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separate conversation rightthere.
The TV was on because I thinkthe TV was on whenever I walked
into the room or something.
So do you know what that assholedid?
He went outside to where thecable came into the house and
disconnected the fucking cable.
Yeah.
So that all that was on the TVwas So you know what I did?
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I tuned it out.
I wasn't gonna let him win.
I wasn't gonna let himmanipulate me and make me come
out of that room and interactwith him.
I wasn't gonna be his puppetthat reacted, that jumped up
because he did something.
Hell.
Fucking.
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No.
So fast forward to February13th, 2024, and when there is a
blip, There's something,something went out, something, I
don't even remember, it was likea black screen or something on
the TV.
What did I think?
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Asshole strikes again.
Because yet again, I'm in themaster room by myself and then
the TV goes out.
Turns out it was just astrikingly odd coincidence.
So I was giving him kudos forthat, that he did not do that
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asshole ish thing.
stay tuned for more.
There's lots more, but I willtry to keep it from being too
incredibly dramatic.
I thank you for being here, forjoining me on the ride, and,
well, I'm just praying blessingson everyone and everything.
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Whatever you're going through,whatever your situation is, I'm
praying for you.
I give thanks that you're here.
I have a lot of prayers formyself and the things that I'm
going through and that, uh, whatI continue to go through.
So, thanks for sharing and, ifyou're so inclined, I would love
it if you would send prayers,not just to me, or for me or
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about me, but most especiallyfor my children.
And then, here's where it'sgoing to get really crazy.
I also ask you to pray for theirfather, and not just for their
father.
But for his live in girlfriend,too, because I want them to be
happy.
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While my son is in the Navy, atleast as far as I know, and he
is still in Pensacola doing histraining, my daughter is still
at home, and she's living inthis, this situation, and I want
her to be in a happy home.
So, even though she's notspeaking to me.
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I want her to be happy.
I need her to be in a stableenvironment.
So if you're so inclined to sendgood thoughts and prayers, I
would very much appreciate itfor them, for all of them.
I believe that we rise bylifting each other.
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I don't ever want to holdanybody down.
My ego might want to holdsomebody down and beat the crap
out of them sometimes, butultimately that's not who I am.
I want everyone to do well andto succeed in the best possible
things in the best possibleways.
And as always, my prayer isalways for the greatest good,
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all for the greatest good.
So whatever you're inclined toput towards that, I have very
sincerely, deeply appreciate it.
I'm so glad that you have beenhere with me through all of
this.
You're absolutely magnificent.
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The story continues.
There's much, much, much moretea to spill.
I hope you enjoy it.
Has reality got you down?
Would you rather check intosomebody's reality and see if
it's better or worse than yoursand hopefully get an appropriate
adjustment of attitude?
Great.
Here's the place to be.
I'm Scarlett Davis and this isThe Future Single Lady.
This is documentation of me andmy journey as I declare my
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insistence upon getting adivorce from my husband of
almost 20 years while stillwanting to maintain a family
unit.
Just not married to him anddoing things nicely and
peacefully.
That was the goal.
Takes two to tango though.
Didn't happen that way.
Now it's a year later, and I canshare my chronicle with you.
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So I hope you'll enjoy it.
You'll join me and enjoy theride because it's ups downs.
It's all around and Also, just alittle bit of a disclaimer.
I'm not a doctor.
I'm not a counselor.
Technically, I am a medicallytrained professional, but it's
like the lowest bottom rung onthe totem pole of medical
professionals.
I'm a therapist of massage, butI'm not a counselor.
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I'm not anything else.
I'm not qualified other thanhaving life experience to give
any kind of advice, legaladvice, medical advice, or
anything else, but I can sharemy experience.
And that's If it resonates withyou, if you find it even
remotely entertaining, if ithelps you get through what
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you're getting through or overabove around, whatever it is
that you've gone through, thatyou're going through, that your
friend is going through, who youcare about.
If it helps give you a glimmerof hope and understanding, and
if you just find it comical orwhatever kind of entertainment
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you're looking for.
Then great.
I love you.
I'm glad you're here.
Please enjoy.
Okay, I said I'd do it.
Um, it's late in the day onFebruary the 13th, 2025, and I
am at least for a while gonnatry to keep this stuff day to
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day, um, so that it's a one yearanniversary when the podcast
launches from when the thingactually happened.
So you can keep right up with mein basically real time as how I
was experiencing it.
And Since I didn't startrecording vocals until, until
six weeks in, now I'm having tocatch up, and I'm going off of
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what my journal said, so.
For February the 13th, 2024, Ijournaled twice that day.
In the morning, it was two fullpages, and in the evening, it
was two and a half pages.
Now, I will be pausing forcommentary in here, and some of
this I kind of briefly glossedover yesterday.
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But I figure it's easiest justto go ahead and read it and I
apologize in advance becauseSometimes I can't read my own
writing.
So whether it has to do with myvisual uh, my my eyes my ability
my visual acuity or myhandwriting stuff happens
sometimes and if anything is notclear for how i'm expressing it
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to you, then I do sincerelyapologize for that for that, but
I'm trying to be thoroughwithout Just Whatever.
Let's get started.
So, February 13th, 2024.
WHEW! I did it.
I asked for what I wanted.
A peaceful parting of ways, andit was all calm.
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My husband has promised quote,things will get ugly and I even
marked that out because I rejectthat and Because you find what
you're looking for, so I lookfor a peaceful, mutually
beneficial parting of ways.
He wants me out of the house bythe end of March, and I told him
that I reject that too.
He doesn't think I have anyclaim to the house, let alone
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its current value.
He's wrong.
He's gone through and trashedour picture.
How long did it take him to getit off the, oh, He trashed our
picture, and then I don't knowthe next word, but how long did
it take him to get it off thewall near the ceiling?
He's cut up what I assume to bethe food card and left it by the
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Keurig, where he used myprecious Sumatra blend this
morning.
Ha ha ha ha ha.
God bless him.
Really, I didn't think he'd bethis hurt, and he could only be
this hurt if he actually cared.
And he did say that there hadbeen some small glimmer of hope
and acted as if I had the powerto reconcile, but I didn't see
any possible way we could.
(04:44):
I'm gonna put a pin in that.
Um, it's quite likely that Um,he may have been more hurt and
upset because it turns out thathe's a narcissist.
Also, he revealed at the end ofthis that he had been planning
something, and he was deviouslyplanning it a year and a half
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from, from that point.
And, um, I think he was just madthat I beat him to the punch.
And, um, When I tell you lateron when we talk about actually
how the conversation went downhis glimmer of hope oh my gosh
You're gonna laugh, you're gonnaroll your eyes, you're gonna be
disgusted.
(05:27):
It's gonna be an extremereaction.
But, back to the journal.
As expected, my daughter is morein line with my husband, and I
pray beauty on my and herrelationship.
Heck, I pray beauty on all ofour relationships.
I'm so happy and calm, I praythat my son's celebrations are
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not impacted by this.
The concert, the Navy stuff,graduation, all of it.
I, I invoke Durga and Michael.
Michael Archangel Michael forsuccess and protection.
My eyes are swollen, almost shutfrom crying, and sinuses still
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are swollen.
I took Clear Quill to sleep forheadache, sinus and watery, nose
or eyes, and dreamed for thefirst time in a long time
receiving downloads like crazy.
There are definitely.
Things were definitely busybehind the scenes.
I saw an aurora.
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So much.
So much stuff.
Relaxing, healing, probablybased on something my husband
said.
I had a dream about someone whois a leader for me and his kids.
I had totally told him off fordoing something inappropriate.
And the inappropriate thing wasbased on something my husband
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had said.
About my thong.
616 when I started, 838 when Igot in my chair.
616 when I started theconversation telling that I
wanted him, wanted a divorce,and 838 when things were done,
and I was sitting back in mychair.
Angel number meanings, I toldyou these yesterday, but I'm
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gonna go ahead the say themagain.
616, it's time to bring balanceinto your life.
This can mean working to createa safe and welcoming home space,
re addressing your work lifebalance, and making time to
nurture relationships.
Consider personal developmentand practice gratitude and
positivity.
838.
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Believe in yourself and worktoward your goals.
You're on the right path.
If you think positively andtreat others with kindness.
Additionally, you are a reminderto use your material success as
a means to give back and make apositive impact on the world.
Thank you! I drew in a happyface because I draw stuff all
the time.
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Thank you, I receive this!Underscored an exclamation a
lot.
God, please continue to gobefore me and clear the path.
Archangel Michael, pleaseprotect me and my children from
all harm and evil.
Any malfeasance.
Allow them to not be harmed.
I do not, I do not ask that theybe not affected by these actions
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because they may need to growfrom it, but do most
emphatically, I do mostemphatically ask that they stay
safe.
Durga, I invoke you to help usovercome any malfeasance.
I desire a mutually beneficial,peaceful parting of ways as we
continue on as a family unit andhave our individual multitudes
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of success.
He's given me this room andinsists on finding a new
hairdresser, a new hairstylist.
Fine, if that makes him feelbetter, then great.
Drew in a happy face.
I'm just happy that as he said,I'm just happy that I, as he
said, finally grew a pair, lol.
He gave me my Valentine's gift,too, and I truly hope that this
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is a symbol, is symbolic of howthings will be for us.
The Mandalorian baby Grogu withmy voice from it whenever I got
hit with a ricochet BB.
We laughed because it startswith OW and ends with I'm out of
here and as he said it was veryappropriate.
May we always be able to shareand laugh, laugh it out.
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I'm Dondurga Ye Namaha.
Peace, resilience, success.
So mode it be.
Oh, much ringing in the ears.
Like, wow.
Which ringing in the ears is,one interpretation is that that
is, uh, receiving of downloads,which I will be honest, since I
started this the last couple ofdays, the ringing in my ears has
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been absolutely incredible.
Um, I thought it was really coolthat we could laugh about the
whole Valentine's thing and, youknow, I started this process on.
I did not, uh, on February the12th last year because I didn't
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want to ruin Valentine's foranybody.
Uh, which is funny because inall of the legal paperwork, the
legal documentation, he hasfiled everywhere that this all
started on Valentine's Day lastyear.
Just yet another example of whata fucking liar he is.
(10:29):
Anyway, continuing on.
So this is in the evening onFebruary the 13th.
Oh.
My husband came home while I wastalking to lawyers offices and
getting ready to file.
Had to talk I had to talk withhim in the room.
Sorry, adjusting my glasses.
I had to talk with him in theroom, especially when he's
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emptying the dishwasher.
Mind you, I was sitting at thefucking kitchen table.
But what did he have to do?
His normal thing, where he hasto be all up in everybody else's
business and being a nuisanceand he loves making clanking of
dishes.
So kind of difficult to have aconversation with a lawyer when
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the person you're trying todivorce is in the room.
Narcissistic much?
Anyway, continuing on.
Hard to talk with him in theroom, especially when he's
emptying the dishwasher.
He definitely talked to alawyer.
There was a him and a she,though he won't say who.
Say who?
Because he was told not to?
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Seriously?
Okay, fine.
I'm getting, I'm guessing acertain person, but it doesn't
matter.
I offered him info on the bills,and he was tacky.
I went to my room, and, oh, I'msorry, I went outside to my
truck to make calls withprivacy.
So, of course, he came out to gowalking around the park, and he
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called our son out there withhim.
Thankfully, our son and I hadtalked whenever he came home,
and he had said he wasn't movinganywhere until he ships out.
I agreed, and my daughtershouldn't have to move schools
either.
Evidently, my son told myhusband while they were walking
that I had said that andwhatever else, and it calmed my
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husband down.
My husband says we both have toget appraisers, and that minus
the amount owed, divided ofcourse.
for the house.
I said, of course I said that'swhat it is.
(12:38):
He's saying that he guesstimatesI'll get 50 to 60, 000 and that
he's not refinancing the house.
So he's kind of trying to tellme that I'm just fucked and I'm
getting nothing.
And so, you know, trying tointimidate me.
Um, I told him my response was,shouldn't be a problem with the
commission checks you'll begetting soon.
The first one was supposed to beover a hundred thousand dollars.
(12:59):
And he said, that's alldeferred.
I, in, in, That was bullshit.
He said that's all deferred.
Not sure, not sure I believehim.
He was relieved when he heardthat I didn't plan to stay here
after our daughter graduates.
Why would I?
I said, I only stayed herebecause of you.
I never planned to stay.
He wanted to know what I'll doafter and I just said that we'll
(13:20):
cross that bridge when we getthere.
Actually, whenever, um, he was,he was so relieved whenever I
said I didn't plan on staying inthe area.
He was like, well, that's goodbecause then I won't have to
look at you.
Asshole.
Um, so even though I had alreadyhad a game plan of what I wanted
to do with the next five to tenyears of my life, it's not his,
(13:43):
not his fucking business.
And I wasn't about to divulgethat.
I'll be nice and friendly andeverything, but he had already
promised me that things weregonna get ugly.
Why would I divulge all of myplans to him?
I just told him we'll cross thatbridge when we get there.
I handle one step at a time.
I looked up alimony in Texas andit's called spousal support and
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currently the lesser of 20percent of gross income or 2,
500.
At least, basically I calculatedI should, should have gotten
like at least 1440, somethinglike that.
I go on to list off the thingsthat what I'm pushing for as far
as assets.
And one of the things is that hewas notorious for emptying out
(14:27):
IRAs.
and 401ks.
So money that we saved together,that we both budgeted for and
did without, that we did that,he spent willy nilly however he
wanted to because once he gotaccess to it, he treated an IRA,
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multiple times, treated IRAs asif it were a personal savings
account.
But we also paid the taxes on itand we also paid the penalties
on it.
So over 30 percent of that moneywas just straight up gone.
We did without, we sacrificed,we saved.
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It might've come out of hispaycheck and had his name on it,
but we did that.
So I was wanting to leveragethat into him, um, giving me
money for tuition because I wantto be back in Texas A& M
University and College Station.
I want to finish out my doubledegree.
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Um, Okay, so that was a list ofthose things.
Um, he was pushing for me to,yeah, he was pushing for me to
pay bills, and I said I'd payhundreds of dollars less than
the alimony I get.
When I start getting that.
In other words, you start payingme and then I'll start paying
some bills.
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He asked, and of course he wassmart off, smart ing off about
that.
He asked what I wanted to takeas far as furniture and was
surprised when I said I wantedvery little.
But I reminded him that I cameinto the marriage with a paid
off truck, a whole house offurniture, including washer,
dryer, microwave, and otherappliances.
I want the money to replace allof that.
He thought, he thought I'd wantboth beds, which are both king
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size, one of them I came intothe marriage with, the big
refrigerator that my grandmotherbought us, etc.
I said, no, what am I gonna dowith all that?
I don't want that table, youknow, blah blah blah, you know,
it's like, I just, I don't wantit.
And, or, you know, he said thathe didn't want it.
And he complained about thetable and said he'd never wanted
(16:37):
it from the beginning.
Um, well, you never had anyproblem using it.
I said, okay, then put it out tothe curb.
I don't need anything that big.
He made a comment about, aboutmy daughter.
I said i'd probably take Therewas some very specific furniture
From ikea.
I said i'd probably take theikea stuff or get new if he
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wanted to keep it and So I'mwondering, is that why he wants
to keep it in his room and useit?
Um, Ned said, lol, doesn'tmatter.
He told his best friend and healso told me to tell my family
not to contact him.
He's erased all of theirinformation, uh, all of my, all
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of their, all of their, theirnumbers Facebook, etc.
He basically spent his whole daytrying to erase me from his
life.
Pictures on his phone, etc.
Everything.
I told him I was glad hecouldn't erase our kids.
He's ge Oh, and I even saw onhis phone that he, in his phone,
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he changed my last name to mymaiden name.
Um, which is fine.
I don't give a shit about that.
But, you'll find out 11 monthslater if you keep listening,
some stuff.
Mm hmm.
Oy! Things just keep gettingbetter.
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He's giving me the Aerosmithtickets and only doing shine,
shine down on our son's birthdayif our son wants him there, etc.
He's canceled the hotel on, forthe concert and for our hotel in
Abilene for my cousin's wedding.
Understandable, um, so much fora family pic, too.
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Wasted a lot of time waiting onhim.
Basically, I had been wanting afamily picture for over a year
and a half and he wanted to loseweight first.
And basically I will never havethat family picture now.
I even thought about going andhaving them having it with just
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me and the kids.
But of course that would havebeen some kind of statement.
I'll never have that now.
Um, I can add more informationto that right now, but I'm not
going to.
Will I get happy faces from mykids when we do it?
Basically saying if the kids andI go or am I gonna get truly
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happy faces from them?
Smiles that genuinely go all theway up to their eyes with joy
and laughter.
He offered me the tax refundlast night and today he wants to
separate He wants to fileseparately with him claiming a
kid.
I said, I get both.
I don't trust him and he iseither manipulating me or
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planning to set me up by goingfirst, filing first, and
claiming both kids.
So I have to scramble to filefirst.
Manipulated, but who cares?
It helps, right?
In the end, he offered to gothrough the camping stuff.
I can't think of anything Iwould need or would want from
there.
So, uh, I offered to let himjust video the stuff I have at
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the ranch and probably just tossit all because He's covering his
butt same as with the familyplanner on the family planner I
also would put my work schedulethere on my clients so everybody
could see if I was working ornot and I think that this was
smart of him.
He deleted himself off of it sothat he couldn't have access to
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it.
So that if for some reason therewas a scheduling issue with a
client, he wouldn't receive theblame.
And I thought that that wassmart of him.
Um, the kids seem distant,especially my daughter.
So I'm feeling like an outsider.
I knew it would happen.
I do not enjoy it, but I doenjoy hearing them work together
(20:35):
on chocolate dipped strawberriesand key lime cheesecake.
My daughter's shins hurt, butshe doesn't want me to work on
them.
Even the outside cats seem alittle iffy.
Guess I'm projecting.
Corona, who is the indoor cat,can you guess when we got him?
Corona is closer than ever.
Flip flop, seesaw, teetertotter.
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It was nice to watch a certainTV show with my husband, even
though he skipped out in theend.
It's possible.
I know it is.
I call it forth.
I'm Dom Dergiyeh Namaha.
I want all of us togetherenjoying Young Sheldon, a TV
show that we watch.
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We all deserve to be happy,don't we?
My son's MEPS, uh, MEPS thing,the big send off, graduation,
family trip, huge commission.
I may, may be missing out.
On all of it, but I I couldn'twait a second longer.
Basically.
I'm acknowledging here thatthere are a lot of things that
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may be happening that I may missout on not just family events,
but financial benefits too,because there were some massive
ones in the pipeline is that,um, I couldn't wait a second
longer, please.
God, I need an excellent lawyerwho takes my case and does it
for free.
I was really concerned aboutmoney.
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Maximum amount on the house, A&M tuition paid, max spousal
support, max furnitureallotment, all expenses paid,
moving, and I went on and onlisting several of the things.
Um, assets that had value,especially when it all added up.
Uh, every expense one couldpossibly think of, please have
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him pay me now and make mehappy.
Uh, that statement was part of aManifestation formula, and I was
trying to use it.
I was trying to use every tool Iknew to help get through this.
My stomach feels not well.
God, I'm trusting you for all ofit.
Good news He didn't disconnectthe satellite TV services.
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It was just really funny timing.
So There was there was one timewhen this was over a decade
earlier, and we were in a reallybad situation with each other
and we were We were arguing andbasically my thing was to walk
away.
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I don't want to, didn't want tostay there and fight and cry
because I'm angry andfrustrated, um, because I was
taught.
Not to cry.
Suck it up.
And, you know, fathers,grandfathers, they, people did
shut that, you shut that shitup, or I'll give you something
to cry for, you know, kind ofthing.
That's what I grew up with.
So I grew up stuffing down myemotions, being taught that I
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didn't have a right to cry, thatI did not have a right to feel
or express my feelings.
and if I'm not going to be ableto do that, then, then I walked
away.
Um, and not from, not from mystepfather or anybody like that.
But, in a personal situation,where I had the authority to
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walk away, then I did.
Because, I was embarrassed forcrying, for one.
And, I was crying because I wasfrustrated.
Because I was so angry, wastypically my thing.
I didn't cry just for the sakeof crying.
And, I don't do the crocodiletears.
And, I have never liked cryingbecause, My face, my sinuses get
so swollen on the inside that Ican't breathe.
(24:19):
But my nose suddenly turns towater.
So my nose is suddenly drippingand I don't ever, there's never
a Kleenex handy.
And.
I can't breathe and I'm tryingto like sniff up the the running
watery nose and my nose becomesraw because I'm wiping out the
wateriness of it and my face isSo so I do I do not well, I
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don't know things seem to it'sfunny even Physiologically
things are changing for me, butin the past I did not ever cry
pretty I didn't even cry tearsTears would not actually come
out of my eyes.
The funny thing is now they do.
Isn't that crazy?
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I am physically changing, and Idon't mean like just losing
weight or getting toned oranything, I am physically
changing.
So, forty, forty six, fortyseven years of my body behaving
in one way, and when I startspeaking my truth and stepping
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out, stepping out in faith,making huge, massive,
transformational changes likethis, relying, really just
relying on God.
Yeah.
And then these things startchanging physiologically in my
body.
Isn't that interesting?
Anyway, back to, to the point.
So there was this one day that,so I, I just, I turned around, I
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walked off.
I was pregnant with our son.
I went to, to the bedroom and,uh, I closed the door.
I think I might've locked it.
I'm not sure.
I was laying down, uh, cryingmyself to sleep.
The, the, uh, The overhead lightwas on.
I think I had been on the phonewith, with my mom and that's a
(26:06):
separate conversation rightthere.
The TV was on because I thinkthe TV was on whenever I walked
into the room or something.
So do you know what that assholedid?
He went outside to where thecable came into the house and
disconnected the fucking cable.
Yeah.
So that all that was on the TVwas So you know what I did?
(26:37):
I tuned it out.
I wasn't gonna let him win.
I wasn't gonna let himmanipulate me and make me come
out of that room and interactwith him.
I wasn't gonna be his puppetthat reacted, that jumped up
because he did something.
Hell.
Fucking.
(26:57):
No.
So fast forward to February13th, 2024, and when there is a
blip, There's something,something went out, something, I
don't even remember, it was likea black screen or something on
the TV.
What did I think?
(27:20):
Asshole strikes again.
Because yet again, I'm in themaster room by myself and then
the TV goes out.
Turns out it was just astrikingly odd coincidence.
So I was giving him kudos forthat, that he did not do that
(27:40):
asshole ish thing.
stay tuned for more.
There's lots more, but I willtry to keep it from being too
incredibly dramatic.
I thank you for being here, forjoining me on the ride, and,
well, I'm just praying blessingson everyone and everything.
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Whatever you're going through,whatever your situation is, I'm
praying for you.
I give thanks that you're here.
I have a lot of prayers formyself and the things that I'm
going through and that, uh, whatI continue to go through.
So, thanks for sharing and, ifyou're so inclined, I would love
it if you would send prayers,not just to me, or for me or
(28:25):
about me, but most especiallyfor my children.
And then, here's where it'sgoing to get really crazy.
I also ask you to pray for theirfather, and not just for their
father.
But for his live in girlfriend,too, because I want them to be
happy.
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While my son is in the Navy, atleast as far as I know, and he
is still in Pensacola doing histraining, my daughter is still
at home, and she's living inthis, this situation, and I want
her to be in a happy home.
So, even though she's notspeaking to me.
(29:12):
I want her to be happy.
I need her to be in a stableenvironment.
So if you're so inclined to sendgood thoughts and prayers, I
would very much appreciate itfor them, for all of them.
I believe that we rise bylifting each other.
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I don't ever want to holdanybody down.
My ego might want to holdsomebody down and beat the crap
out of them sometimes, butultimately that's not who I am.
I want everyone to do well andto succeed in the best possible
things in the best possibleways.
And as always, my prayer isalways for the greatest good,
(29:57):
all for the greatest good.
So whatever you're inclined toput towards that, I have very
sincerely, deeply appreciate it.
I'm so glad that you have beenhere with me through all of
this.
You're absolutely magnificent.
(30:18):
The story continues.
There's much, much, much moretea to spill.
I hope you enjoy it.
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