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Here it is and here we are andin the words of Phil Collins,
just another day Just anotherday in paradise and actually
this is a form of paradise forme But it wasn't easy getting
here and it's not everybody'sidea of paradise But it's me in
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my own space telling my storythe way I want to tell it and I
hope you enjoy it that you liketo come along for the ride
because I There's a lot to tell.
It's kind of like a rollercoaster.
There's some ups and downs andall arounds, twists and turns,
corkscrewing, high dive, lowdive, whatever.
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There's all kinds of things thatyou never know what to expect
until BOOM! It's there.
So this is my story.
I'm Scarlett Davis, and I am thefuture single lady.
I'm here telling you from myperspective things that
happened.
As I sometimes clawed my waythrough a divorce and I'm not
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going to lie, there were times Iwanted to be drunk or maybe even
high or something that I justwanted to escape the reality
that I had created.
I didn't, by the way, well, I'vegot drunk a few times, but, um,
I just wanted to escape my lifeand the, well, on multiple
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levels, I wanted to escape mymarriage because I felt
Oppressed to say the very leastand that's putting it in a very
nice way.
I was absolutely not happy and Ihadn't been for years And I had
been faking it for a long timeand I just Couldn't do it
anymore so This is my journeyAnd a few weeks into it I
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started recording things just asI am now as they happen My
feelings about those things whenthings were still really raw
whether it was happy and joyousor very much not.
But in the beginning, the onlydocumentation I had was my
journal.
So this is that and yeah, I hopeyou enjoy, I hope you get
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something out of it.
Even if you're just rolling youreyes saying, Oh my gosh, just
shut the fuck up, Scarlett.
Oh, I also have to say that thisis only for entertainment
purposes.
I'm not giving any advice toanyone, even if it sounds like I
am.
I'm not, I'm not giving anyadvice because I'm not qualified
to.
I've lived my life.
This is my life.
I've learned a lot of things,but it doesn't mean that it
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applies to you and I'm notcertified or legally approved in
any way to give any kind ofadvice.
I'm not a counselor.
I'm not, uh, I'm not, I'm not alegal person, a legal
professional.
I'm, I'm not any of those thingsthat qualifies me to tell you
what to do.
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I'm just a woman documenting hersituation and sharing it with
you.
That's all hope you enjoy.
Okay, continuing on.
February 18th, 2024.
This is a short one.
It's not even a half a page, Ithink.
So here we go.
Well, he's due home any minute.
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Prayers.
My knees hurt from being on thefloor so much and my shoulders
and back don't feel the best andmy feet don't feel Unused but
I'm happy and I am relaxed and Ihave faith and I feel good about
things My stuff is out of hisway He has his own whole room
and my stuff isn't looking crazyin here Thought about using bed
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risers or cinder blocks to beable to put luggage and massage
table under there.
Hmm I kind of already need astep up.
So, dot, dot, dot, questionmark.
Prayers for all of us.
To all of the best versions ofourselves out there, please come
guide us through this time.
Not just today, but for alldays.
Help us learn, apply, and growfrom all of these experiences
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and help create the best worldpossible for all.
Heart sunshine emoji.
So mote it be.
And then I have a quote here.
All these things I ask of thee,give your blessing.
So mote it be.
Me just now I had just come upwith that as I was writing and I
know you may say so mode it beScarlet That's like a witch
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thing like a Wiccan thing.
You know, what?
It's it's basically a version ofsaying amen amen basically means
and so it is so I could saythank you I could say Gracias, I
could say Oh gosh, otherlanguages are Drawing a blank on
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me right now.
It is first thing in themorning, but It's two ways of
saying the same thing.
Did you know that abracadabrathe word that magicians are
famous for saying for I don'tknow forever I know at least for
decades if not longer than that.
Do you know what the wordactually means?
Do you think it's justgibberish?
I mean most people probably doright?
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It's not gibberish.
It's actually a language It'scalled Aramaic.
you know what that one is?
Jesus's language 2, 000 yearsago.
That's the language that Jesusspoke and abracadabra means with
my words I create.
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Think about that.
With my words, I create.
We associate that withmagicians, with magic.
So mode it be means bring itinto existence.
Amen.
Make it so.
Okay.
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Also here's, I'm going to goahead, and since we're on this
topic, since we've alreadytalked about magic and
witchcraft and Jesus.
Hell of a combination, right?
Right.
I'm just gonna, and I'm, I'mliterally at, and I may get in
trouble for this, and, andthat's okay if I do.
But it is an honest, real, legitquestion.
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I'm not trying to stir a pot oranything.
I am seriously wanting somebodyto give me an honest, legitimate
breakdown or perspective onthis.
And not just something that's aknee jerk thing.
Give me, give me something realhere.
Prayers.
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Spells, those are words tryingto bring about a certain end
result.
There may often be candles,incense, and we'll just say
burnt offerings.
What's the difference between aspell and a prayer?
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What is the difference between aspell and a prayer?
There are words that are beingused to generate a certain, what
we view as positive response.
But let's, let's face it.
And I, I'm going to bring upthis song, I Pray For You,
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because there's, there's a songthat's a country song where the
guy's like, I pray for you.
You know, the preacher said to,to pray for, okay, I pray for
you.
I pray for your brakes to go outas you're rolling down a hill.
And, and it's a funny and cutesong.
But it is a great example abouthow not all prayers or the end
result of all prayers are notalways happy.
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They're not necessarilypositive.
And let's face it, we do that.
One of the, the common things issomething will happen and be
like, Oh, I'm so looking forwardto karma coming back and biting
that person in the ass.
Right?
Most of us have said somethinglike this or, Ooh, God is going
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to pay that back to you tenfoldbecause of vengeance is mine.
Sayeth the Lord.
I know the Lord's going to whoopyour ass for me.
And those are, those are formsof prayers, but there's, there's
all, um, there's all kinds ofthings.
So what is the differencebetween a prayer and a spell
candles insense they're used inboth, not always, but So I'm not
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saying that I advocate one thingmore or over the other or even
in equal parts but because yourplace and your thoughts in the
world are, are fine.
I'm just, I have a broaderperspective over what I believe
is acceptable.
I'm not as triggered by certainthings like phrases like
abracadabra or so mote it be oramen because I look back and I
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look forward to this being athing.
I would love to meet withsomebody who has a computer
program who can do this.
So there's a common phrase thatsays, that sometimes we can't
see the forest because of all ofthe trees.
Well, that's true, and my momtaught me that one from early
on.
Well, so I would love to seethis thing where, Zoomed in on
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basically looking at the bark ofa tree and then zoom out and
then see, oh, it's not just abark, it's a whole tree.
And maybe it's a certain type oftree, like it's an ash or an oak
or cedar or mesquite orwhatever.
Some different, some, some typeof tree.
And then as you zoom out andzoom out right next to it.
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There is a different type oftree.
And next to that one, adifferent type of tree.
So that there is, I would loveto have this, this graphic of
every different type of tree inthe world that we know exists.
Palm trees, and there's like 17different types of palm trees,
date trees, just all kinds ofthings.
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An entire forest of one each ofevery different species of tree.
Some of them younger, some ofthem older.
And as you zoom out, you seethis whole entire forest.
It's a forest of trees, but eachtree is very specific in its own
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way.
And it's special in its ownright and its own way.
And then I would love even morethan that to continue zooming
out.
So after you see the forest,then you see what exists around
the forest and out and out.
And then you see the wholeplanet earth.
And then you see the planetarysystem and the galaxy.
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And, you know, just, and so it'sthe same viewpoint.
The person's, the person's focalpoint hasn't changed.
It's just that where you'rezoomed into on what level
determines what you're actuallyseeing.
Are you zoomed in on the littlecracks in between the bark of
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one tree that is part of aforest that is part of a planet
that is part of a system that ispart of a galaxy that is part of
the cosmos.
When, when you look at things,are you just seeing only the
cosmos?
And then, I love the end of Menin Black, when they're zooming
out like this.
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And then, this entire galaxy,everything is, turns out that
it's in little marbles that thegiant aliens are playing with.
I love that.
So anybody who wants to do somegraphic design, hook me up.
Hit me up, futuresinglelady atgmail.
com or futuresinglelady page onFacebook.
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More social media to come, butright now that's what I got.
That would be great.
I would love to plaster yourname all over this podcast
saying, Look what this persondid for me.
Thank you so much.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Anyway, so that was February18th, 2024.
I was happy.
I was relaxed.
I was not looking forwardnecessarily to him coming home,
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but I was praying about it,praying for good things to
happen for our family unit.
I was trying to give him hisspace and try to organize all of
my stuff because let's face it,I have a lot of stuff,
especially at that time andtrying to have my stuff.
All in one location, and itwasn't so much that I was trying
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to do that for myself or for, orfor him, but it was, uh,
basically he had kind ofrevolted a bit and said that he
wanted my stuff out.
He shouldn't have to besurrounded by my stuff, and, and
I agreed with that.
I thought that that was arespectable desire, request.
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And so absolutely, I got on it,and it was physically
exhausting.
I was sorting through all kindsof things, because here's the
thing.
It's not just me and my stuff.
It's also my work stuff.
It's stuff that supports thefamily.
It is the family documents, allthe documentation, the mail, the
everything.
All the stuff that was myresponsibility.
And I had a lot ofresponsibilities for the family.
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But it was progress being madethat day.
It was great.
It was wonderful.
And I was looking for more ofthat, and I wanted everything to
happen in the best way.
I wanted my continuing prayersto be continually answered.
God, go before me and clear thepath.
And everything that this familyhas to go through, please let it
be in the best possible way.
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Let us be guided by our bestselves, our best future selves.
And let everything be good.
Let us be a family unit, justnot married.
Give us the freedom to expressourselves in the way that we
need to, in a kind andrespectful manner that's
healthy.
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That was my desire, and that'swhat I was asking for.
So my mama taught me that if youwant something, ask for it.
The worst thing that a personcan do is tell you no.
So, in this case, she wasencouraging my brother to ask
the girl that he had a crush on,to encourage him to ask her to
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dance.
That was his 6th grade dance,and my 4th grade dance actually
was a party, because certainreligions don't allow dances, so
it had to be a party, so everyso often we'd have to stop and
play a game, but She said, mymom told him, Ask her.
The worst thing she can do istell you no.
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And that, so that was always myattitude for, for life.
So I wanted a peaceful partingof ways.
So I asked for it.
We will just say that hedefinitely told me no.
And even though I tried toreject it and well, I did reject
it and set my boundaries, wewill just say it has to take two
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to tango.
So, yeah, stuff happened.
Right now, things are stillreally good.
The sun is shining, the bird ischirping, and it's a beautiful
day at this point.
Unfortunately, it doesn't staythat way.
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So, thanks for being on myjourney.
I hope you hang out to hear moretea.
There's more social media stuffon the way, but for now, talk to
me at futuresingleladyatgmail.
com or my Facebook page, FutureSingle Lady.
I'd love to hear what's going onwith you.
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Right now, I'm spilling my guts,sharing my story, and if you're
listening this far, then surelyyou got some stuff going on,
too.
So, maybe you think I'm just atotal whack job.
Maybe this is reallyentertaining.
Maybe you've gone through it,too.
Maybe you know someone who is,or who has, Please, reach out to
me.
Tell me, tell me what you think.
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Tell me what's going on in yourlife, in your world.
Because this isn't a one waystreet.
This is a back and forth.
I want to hear from you.
I hope you hang out to hear morestuff, the ups and downs and all
arounds.