February 22, 2025 • 23 mins
Day of Events: February 22, 2024
Starting off the day pretty low and still struggling how a man who was supposedly still in love with me lied and manipulated and deceived me, I asked my best friend for help and she as there for me. Thankfully, so was the rest of the universe- i was in a much better mood and way more uplifted by the time I actually met up with my friend later that day.
Nicely or sadly- the almost ex still did a nice thing for me, but was it actually FOR me or was it an attempt to manipulate my daughter (and by extension, my son)? I think I know the answer to that but I'll let you draw your own conclusion.
Scarlett Davis
Facebook: Future Single Lady
email: FutureSingleLady@gmail.com
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(00:00):
What the what?
Oh yeah.
Oh my gosh.
Really?
Seriously?
Yep, those are often some of myreactions as I deal with the
crap that I deal with as I amgaining my freedom.
Freedom from a relationship of20 years with someone who didn't
(00:25):
want to end the relationshipyet.
He wanted to end it on histerms.
Surprise, surprise.
I just beat him to the punch.
This is the future single ladyand that's me.
I'm Scarlett Davis and these arethe chronicles of my journey
from that long relationship togetting the heck out of it.
(00:48):
Freedom! Isn't that what WilliamWallace said at the end?
Hmm.
Yeah, I could say somethingabout, uh, What was happening
whenever he said that but uh,we're just gonna leave it at
that future single lady atgmail.
com That's my email address Alsothe name of the page on Facebook
(01:12):
where you can visit where youcan chat with me where I'd love
to hear what's going on with youThis podcast is for
entertainment purposes only.
Mostly, um, I'm gonna go aheadand say my entertainment because
this is me and my thoughts andmy opinions about the things
that I'm experiencing and, well,sometimes they're just a little
bit out there.
But that's me and that's mylife.
(01:33):
I hope you're a little bit outthere too and if you're not
that's okay.
You're welcome to come along forthe ride because this ride is
like a roller coaster.
Ups, downs, twists, turns,everything.
So, yeah.
Buckle your seatbelt.
February 22nd, 2024.
Slept okay.
(01:53):
Bugged.
Bummed about.
Husband lying about.
I'm reminding myself happy facefreedom, happy face.
Didn't feel like learning lastnight, so I actually watched my
shows on TV last night.
Shocker! I really haven't beenable to get into stuff like TV
and fiction books for a while.
My mind wants to learn andaccomplish.
(02:16):
I'd kind of like to cry and tocurl up in a ball, grieving what
once was, and that's okay,because if I'm not ever upset,
it means I wasn't reallyconnected or invested.
And I was.
To some degree, I still am.
Happy face.
Heart sunshine emoji.
Lord, give me strength andcourage.
(02:37):
Courage is what I'd ask for toget me through this.
I love what God's seeing methrough, please! Exclamation
mark.
I know you will, and we will bevictorious in light, but I still
have to ask and step in faith.
Smiley face and heart sunshineemoji.
VICTORIOUS! In all capitalletters.
(02:59):
That's the trait of the day frommy best future self.
Happy face emoji.
Later that evening, I wroteagain.
Very interesting day!Exclamation mark.
I broke down this morning andtexted my best friend that I
needed help, that yesterday haddealt me a blow.
I cried as I was texting, whichI couldn't release prior to that
(03:21):
despite the music I waslistening to, the rage request
on Spotify.
It took about 45 minutes tostart getting where I needed it
to be.
One of my clients stood me upbut paid for it.
One of my clients, another oneof them, was almost, I thought,
going to be, um, a stand up, butit was only three minutes late
and smiley face.
(03:42):
She was a curious about what I'dbeen served.
The lawyer responded fasterthan, than I thought, but was,
uh, was perfect.
The lawyer responded faster thanI thought, but it was perfect
because this client was askingme questions.
That client also had a queen bedfor me and maybe some chairs.
(04:04):
And, uh, the divorce papers, inthe divorce papers, my husband
is asking for everything andchild support, and spousal
support! Exclamation mark.
Yeah.
My best friend was shocked aboutthat one too.
At three o'clock, uh, Okay, so Iwas in Cathy Heller's Boldly
(04:26):
Abundant program.
I said at three o'clock, CathyHeller won out over Dr.
John Beaulieu.
He's the one I learned soundtherapy from.
He kind of stumbled upon it, Iguess, with, um, tuning forks?
Anyway, and boy, what a bargain!Human design explained.
And I got to talk to Cathy andbe lifted up and prayed for,
(04:46):
supported for, and encouraged byin countless ways.
By not only her, but everyonewho was in the group.
So, number one, a projector, Isa guide.
Okay, I'm, uh, in human design,I am a projector.
A projector is a guide waitingfor an invitation to honor my
(05:07):
splenic authority of what I knowin my bones for what I need to
do.
My soul gives me the invitation.
Um, I got a heart sunshineemoji.
So, quick thing on that.
Now this is my words, not anyoneelse's, but my elevator pitch or
elevator description for whathuman design is, even though it
(05:28):
is based on your exact point andexact time when you were born,
similar to Zodiac, because it'sabout where the stars are and
everything, it's, Zodiac is moreabout personality stuff.
Human design is more like whatyou, you are physically designed
(05:50):
to do.
So if I were to put this incomputer terms, I would say that
human design would be the, um,the hardware on which a program
runs.
The Zodiac is more about thesoftware running on that
program.
So if you have say software fora PlayStation, but you're trying
to run it on a Nintendo, it'snot gonna work, right?
(06:11):
So knowing your human design,which I I'm still working on
getting mine done with my friendwho is, uh, she's a human design
expert and she's amazing and I'mmis conferencing with her.
Anyway, knowing what you aredesigned to do helps you
(06:35):
understand how to approach whatyou need to do.
And in this case, a projector issomeone who is here to guide
other people.
There's this whole thing aboutenergy and projectors do not
create energy.
Um, there's, there's, uh, whatis it?
(06:55):
There's projectors, reflectors,um, generators, manifestors,
manifestor generators.
There's like five differentthings.
Basically, it's just like I havealways trusted the, the, my, my
mom always taught me what doyour bones tell you.
(07:16):
She taught me to trust what Iknow inside of me.
And that's exactly what aprojector does.
Also, it's a waste basicallywaiting for invitation just
means that if I put all of myinformation or help or
assistance or anything like thatout there, it's a waste of time
and energy if I don't first havean invitation.
(07:38):
So for me to protect my energy,I need to be invited in.
As far as being a guide, my soulinvited me to do what I need to
do to guide.
So I guess in one way in my,well, again, I profess my
ignorance to a certain level,but I would say based on my
(08:02):
knowledge at this point, itwould be kind of like my soul
gave me the authority and theinvitation to create this pod,
this podcast, but as far as you.
Listening to what I have.
Well, that's you creating theinvitation by tuning in.
You're inviting my words, mythoughts, my stuff into your
(08:25):
space by tuning in.
And I thank you for that.
Okay, I will, I will, Give moreinformation as I can about human
design because it's anincredibly interesting topic and
my friend Becky Ayers, she is,yeah, she's amazing.
(08:47):
Anyway, back to what I wasjournaling.
So, I said, ah, okay.
And she saw a connection betweenhair and massage and guiding, as
they are all caring for others.
I dropped my jaw.
Jaw drop.
Ah! So good.
Two clients who I had come in,they were wonderful, and I loved
(09:08):
selling the jewelry for anotherclient of mine to them, Happy
Face.
My best friend picked me up fromthe house for dinner.
We sat in her car and talkeduntil my husband and daughter
came home.
They were so thoughtful.
Though I had said I wouldn't behome for dinner, husband saw I
was home on the ring doorbelland got me a taco from where
(09:30):
they went.
Wow, that's, that's reallythoughtful and considerate.
My best friend got some, somedental work done today, so her
teeth were really sore, and wetalked a lot more in the car and
at the restaurant.
Lots more really personal stuff.
And, finally, we, we, well, wesat in the car at the restaurant
(09:53):
and talked a lot more personalstuff.
We finally went inside therestaurant and sat down outside.
She fussed at me because I paid,but she was an exceptional
listener, complimented that I'mbeing very thoughtful in this
process.
Guess it was a theme for, forher today.
Someone else called and, andcried today, too.
LOL.
Got to chat with my daughterwhen I got home.
(10:14):
She's not handling things aswell as she puts on.
I'm really praying for her.
She's relying on our cat,Corona, a lot.
I'm a badass and I love my kid.
I love my kick ass self.
I'm loving my accountabilitypartner too.
That's somebody who I have inthe Boldly Abundant program.
(10:36):
She's also kick ass.
Already a great day.
Now, Now I gotta get a dresstomorrow, the next day, for my
friend's wedding.
Which is also tomorrow.
God help me, please.
Happy face, sunshine, heartemoji.
Sweet dreams, dear me.
Tomorrow will take care ofitself.
Happy face and star blast emoji.
(11:00):
Yeah, so some commentary onthat.
I know that that was kind of allover the place, but whenever I
write these journals, this isfor me to get my thoughts out
and so you can see that Istarted off the day pretty low.
And I was doing stuff to try tohelp myself, using music as
(11:21):
therapy.
And I prioritized my education,what was most important to me.
And it benefited me.
It benefited me in a lot ofways.
I thankfully had a good supportsystem at the time, and it was
my best friend who had said, Ifyou ever need anything, just
call me.
And I did, and she was there forme.
(11:48):
Mmm, I ended the day with somereally good blessings and some
good intentions for the nextday.
And I'm really glad that the daydidn't, didn't stay as low as it
started out.
That it ended higher than itbegan.
I love and appreciate that myhusband was still showing
(12:12):
consideration for me.
Even though I'd said that Iwasn't, wasn't going to be
there, he, he still Went out ofhis way to be considerate.
That was amazing.
That was the kind of stuff thatI was looking for and hoping for
throughout this process.
To me, that was still being ateam player family unit.
(12:35):
That was what I wanted.
I wanted for us as parents toset the example for our children
that we can still care for andabout each other.
Even if we don't wear rings onour fingers and have a piece of
paper that says that we arecommitted to each other anymore.
(12:57):
That was what I wanted and thatwas a great example of it being
done.
Now, In hindsight, was, was ittruly thoughtful consideration?
Was it, you know, was mydaughter really to receive
credit for it?
Was it her idea?
I don't think so.
Or was it him trying to showhimself being an awesome and
(13:19):
amazing person to my child, buthe was really just playing a
game?
That, sadly, is just as likelyto be the truth as anything, and
especially when you see whathappened less than two months
down the road.
(13:41):
Yeah.
I believe that he was plantingseeds and that he was making
himself look one way to ourdaughter.
It's sad.
Yeah.
It's really sad that I believethat to be the truth, because I
wanted so badly for the nicerthing to be the truth.
(14:05):
And maybe, maybe the nicer thingis the truth.
It's just, once a leopard showsits spots, it's kinda hard to
believe that they don't have anyspots.
I don't know if that reallymakes any sense to you, but it
does to me.
(14:26):
What is it, the thing that, um,once a person shows you who they
are, believe them.
Well, there's a lot of stuffthat maybe I should have
believed from the beginning, butif I had, I wouldn't have my
children out of it.
(14:47):
And even though things are not,the most family like right now,
or are more stressful andstrange than they should be.
It doesn't, it doesn't changethe fact that I am ecstatic that
I have two amazing individualsin my life who I am blessed to
(15:11):
be able to call my children.
So, regardless of the fact thatthey are spending an exorbitant
amount of energy being angrywith me, I can't help that.
I hope that they feel theiremotions and that they process
them through and treat them asexperiences and not as
possessions.
(15:33):
I hope they feel their feels sothat they can learn from it,
grow and move on, apply whatthey need to learn.
And to not let experiences holdthem back.
If, if we have, if we allow anexperience to hold us back, that
(15:54):
means that we're holding on tosome kind of trauma.
And that's, that means thatwe're treating an experience as
a possession.
And we're allowing it to block.
That's my opinion.
So, experiences, notpossessions.
(16:16):
And I hope my children learn andgrow through this Expediently,
actually just efficiently, butmostly all for the greatest good
and I'm not arrogant enough Tothink that I know what the
greatest good is That's thetricky part sometimes right we
(16:38):
think we know we we say the theshoulds and the need to's All
over the place what somebodyshould be doing or should not be
doing and they need to do thisor they need to not Be doing
that But in truth, we don't Wedon't actually know So that's
that's where faith comes in forme I put my faith in a higher
(17:00):
power and I just I pray to godThat everything works out all
for the greatest good So that'smy intention.
That's where my energy is That'swhat I do.
I don't know if that helps youor not, but there you go.
(17:20):
So, ups, downs, and all arounds.
Twisted, twisted outs andstraightened outs and, and um,
whatever, all kinds of justtangled up emotions and knots
all over the place.
It's a roller coaster ride.
It's what I've said always fromthe beginning, right?
This is me on my journey as Iprocess through everything.
(17:44):
The actions, the emotions,everything that it takes, has
taken to get me through thedivorce that I asked for.
The divorce from a man who Ilearned afterwards was a
narcissist and delivered well onhis promise to make things ugly.
(18:06):
Well, God bless him, because Iwant the father of my children
to be happy.
actually be a good decent kindof person because he's
influencing my children and Iwant my children to have the
best influence as possible butSometimes you have to have an
influence from not such a greatPerson place or thing in order
(18:30):
to learn that that's how youdon't want to be Sometimes you
have to see what is right so youcan make a decision Or you have
to see what is wrong so that youcan make a decision for what is
right It's not my choice tomake.
And that's why I just leavethings up to the universe.
And say, all for the greatestgood.
(18:53):
And then to try to be flexibleenough with a good enough
attitude to go through that.
To have courage.
It's one thing, I know that Ihave, well there's the serenity
prayer, okay?
Right?
It goes that God grant me thisand that and whatever.
Well, my version of that is, Godgive me guidance.
(19:17):
Uh, was it the vision to seeyour guidance, the wisdom to
understand it, and the courageto follow it.
Well, the first part I believeis redundant because I believe
that God guides us all the time.
I believe that God, the creator,whatever name you want to put
on, He Him, her, it, they,whatever, is pure love, the
(19:40):
purest kind of love.
And I feel that just even bythat definition, of course, my
creator is guiding me.
So, the first part is redundant.
The second part, having thewisdom to see, the guidance,
see, hear, feel, know, sense,the guidance of my creator.
(20:04):
Okay?
Yeah.
A lot of people see theguidance.
We have the intuition that weknow we're supposed to do this
and not that or whatever.
It's kind of like leading ahorse to water, but you can't
make it drink.
So the most important thing ishaving the courage, and that's
(20:25):
the part that moves me to tears.
Having the courage to follow theguidance that you're blessed to
sense.
That means that if you are thehorse that has been led to the
water, reach down and take adrink.
Know that the water isnourishing, that it's not
(20:47):
poison.
Reach down and take a fuckingdrink.
Don't be a dumbass.
It's there for nourishment.
But that's not always theeasiest thing to do.
So, courage, courage, courage.
Stepping out in faith andconfidence.
(21:09):
Confidence that the, That whatI've seen is the signs from my
creator are actually there, andtherefore their affirmations,
their guideposts on my journey.
So this is me.
This is my journey.
Thank you for being here.
(21:31):
I am ecstatic to be to be onthis journey with you, and I
hope you get as much out of itas as I do at the very least.
I hope that you're entertained.
That it creates enough diversionin your day to create some joy,
some happiness, maybe someperspective.
(21:52):
Maybe that your stuff is, is notas bad as you thought, or maybe
just some encouragement that,you know what, if somebody else
made it through this crap, maybeyou can too.
Whatever your crap is.
And that's, that's one thing I'dreally like to know.
What is your story?
What is, what is the crap thatyou're dealing with?
(22:16):
What, what signs are you seeingfor what steps you need to be
taking and do you have thecourage to follow it?
Would you like some prayer onthat?
Because I would love to send yousome good thoughts and energy,
but I need to know what it isthat, that you want help with.
And that's where your, youraction comes into play.
(22:39):
Send me a message right now.
All I've got is, um, what is it,email, future single
lady@gmail.com.
And I've got a Facebook page,future single lady.
So reach out to me because Iwant to know what your stuff is.
I wanna know what your story is,and I'd like to be with you on
(23:03):
your journey.
Is that okay?
Look at me, the projector askingfor an invitation.
It's great.
It's hilarious.
I love it.
Tune in for more of The FutureSingle Lady with Scarlett Davis
on podcasts wherever you getyour podcasts.
(23:25):
Love you!
What the what?
Oh yeah.
Oh my gosh.
Really?
Seriously?
Yep, those are often some of myreactions as I deal with the
crap that I deal with as I amgaining my freedom.
Freedom from a relationship of20 years with someone who didn't
(00:25):
want to end the relationshipyet.
He wanted to end it on histerms.
Surprise, surprise.
I just beat him to the punch.
This is the future single ladyand that's me.
I'm Scarlett Davis and these arethe chronicles of my journey
from that long relationship togetting the heck out of it.
(00:48):
Freedom! Isn't that what WilliamWallace said at the end?
Hmm.
Yeah, I could say somethingabout, uh, What was happening
whenever he said that but uh,we're just gonna leave it at
that future single lady atgmail.
com That's my email address Alsothe name of the page on Facebook
(01:12):
where you can visit where youcan chat with me where I'd love
to hear what's going on with youThis podcast is for
entertainment purposes only.
Mostly, um, I'm gonna go aheadand say my entertainment because
this is me and my thoughts andmy opinions about the things
that I'm experiencing and, well,sometimes they're just a little
bit out there.
But that's me and that's mylife.
(01:33):
I hope you're a little bit outthere too and if you're not
that's okay.
You're welcome to come along forthe ride because this ride is
like a roller coaster.
Ups, downs, twists, turns,everything.
So, yeah.
Buckle your seatbelt.
February 22nd, 2024.
Slept okay.
(01:53):
Bugged.
Bummed about.
Husband lying about.
I'm reminding myself happy facefreedom, happy face.
Didn't feel like learning lastnight, so I actually watched my
shows on TV last night.
Shocker! I really haven't beenable to get into stuff like TV
and fiction books for a while.
My mind wants to learn andaccomplish.
(02:16):
I'd kind of like to cry and tocurl up in a ball, grieving what
once was, and that's okay,because if I'm not ever upset,
it means I wasn't reallyconnected or invested.
And I was.
To some degree, I still am.
Happy face.
Heart sunshine emoji.
Lord, give me strength andcourage.
(02:37):
Courage is what I'd ask for toget me through this.
I love what God's seeing methrough, please! Exclamation
mark.
I know you will, and we will bevictorious in light, but I still
have to ask and step in faith.
Smiley face and heart sunshineemoji.
VICTORIOUS! In all capitalletters.
(02:59):
That's the trait of the day frommy best future self.
Happy face emoji.
Later that evening, I wroteagain.
Very interesting day!Exclamation mark.
I broke down this morning andtexted my best friend that I
needed help, that yesterday haddealt me a blow.
I cried as I was texting, whichI couldn't release prior to that
(03:21):
despite the music I waslistening to, the rage request
on Spotify.
It took about 45 minutes tostart getting where I needed it
to be.
One of my clients stood me upbut paid for it.
One of my clients, another oneof them, was almost, I thought,
going to be, um, a stand up, butit was only three minutes late
and smiley face.
(03:42):
She was a curious about what I'dbeen served.
The lawyer responded fasterthan, than I thought, but was,
uh, was perfect.
The lawyer responded faster thanI thought, but it was perfect
because this client was askingme questions.
That client also had a queen bedfor me and maybe some chairs.
(04:04):
And, uh, the divorce papers, inthe divorce papers, my husband
is asking for everything andchild support, and spousal
support! Exclamation mark.
Yeah.
My best friend was shocked aboutthat one too.
At three o'clock, uh, Okay, so Iwas in Cathy Heller's Boldly
(04:26):
Abundant program.
I said at three o'clock, CathyHeller won out over Dr.
John Beaulieu.
He's the one I learned soundtherapy from.
He kind of stumbled upon it, Iguess, with, um, tuning forks?
Anyway, and boy, what a bargain!Human design explained.
And I got to talk to Cathy andbe lifted up and prayed for,
(04:46):
supported for, and encouraged byin countless ways.
By not only her, but everyonewho was in the group.
So, number one, a projector, Isa guide.
Okay, I'm, uh, in human design,I am a projector.
A projector is a guide waitingfor an invitation to honor my
(05:07):
splenic authority of what I knowin my bones for what I need to
do.
My soul gives me the invitation.
Um, I got a heart sunshineemoji.
So, quick thing on that.
Now this is my words, not anyoneelse's, but my elevator pitch or
elevator description for whathuman design is, even though it
(05:28):
is based on your exact point andexact time when you were born,
similar to Zodiac, because it'sabout where the stars are and
everything, it's, Zodiac is moreabout personality stuff.
Human design is more like whatyou, you are physically designed
(05:50):
to do.
So if I were to put this incomputer terms, I would say that
human design would be the, um,the hardware on which a program
runs.
The Zodiac is more about thesoftware running on that
program.
So if you have say software fora PlayStation, but you're trying
to run it on a Nintendo, it'snot gonna work, right?
(06:11):
So knowing your human design,which I I'm still working on
getting mine done with my friendwho is, uh, she's a human design
expert and she's amazing and I'mmis conferencing with her.
Anyway, knowing what you aredesigned to do helps you
(06:35):
understand how to approach whatyou need to do.
And in this case, a projector issomeone who is here to guide
other people.
There's this whole thing aboutenergy and projectors do not
create energy.
Um, there's, there's, uh, whatis it?
(06:55):
There's projectors, reflectors,um, generators, manifestors,
manifestor generators.
There's like five differentthings.
Basically, it's just like I havealways trusted the, the, my, my
mom always taught me what doyour bones tell you.
(07:16):
She taught me to trust what Iknow inside of me.
And that's exactly what aprojector does.
Also, it's a waste basicallywaiting for invitation just
means that if I put all of myinformation or help or
assistance or anything like thatout there, it's a waste of time
and energy if I don't first havean invitation.
(07:38):
So for me to protect my energy,I need to be invited in.
As far as being a guide, my soulinvited me to do what I need to
do to guide.
So I guess in one way in my,well, again, I profess my
ignorance to a certain level,but I would say based on my
(08:02):
knowledge at this point, itwould be kind of like my soul
gave me the authority and theinvitation to create this pod,
this podcast, but as far as you.
Listening to what I have.
Well, that's you creating theinvitation by tuning in.
You're inviting my words, mythoughts, my stuff into your
(08:25):
space by tuning in.
And I thank you for that.
Okay, I will, I will, Give moreinformation as I can about human
design because it's anincredibly interesting topic and
my friend Becky Ayers, she is,yeah, she's amazing.
(08:47):
Anyway, back to what I wasjournaling.
So, I said, ah, okay.
And she saw a connection betweenhair and massage and guiding, as
they are all caring for others.
I dropped my jaw.
Jaw drop.
Ah! So good.
Two clients who I had come in,they were wonderful, and I loved
(09:08):
selling the jewelry for anotherclient of mine to them, Happy
Face.
My best friend picked me up fromthe house for dinner.
We sat in her car and talkeduntil my husband and daughter
came home.
They were so thoughtful.
Though I had said I wouldn't behome for dinner, husband saw I
was home on the ring doorbelland got me a taco from where
(09:30):
they went.
Wow, that's, that's reallythoughtful and considerate.
My best friend got some, somedental work done today, so her
teeth were really sore, and wetalked a lot more in the car and
at the restaurant.
Lots more really personal stuff.
And, finally, we, we, well, wesat in the car at the restaurant
(09:53):
and talked a lot more personalstuff.
We finally went inside therestaurant and sat down outside.
She fussed at me because I paid,but she was an exceptional
listener, complimented that I'mbeing very thoughtful in this
process.
Guess it was a theme for, forher today.
Someone else called and, andcried today, too.
LOL.
Got to chat with my daughterwhen I got home.
(10:14):
She's not handling things aswell as she puts on.
I'm really praying for her.
She's relying on our cat,Corona, a lot.
I'm a badass and I love my kid.
I love my kick ass self.
I'm loving my accountabilitypartner too.
That's somebody who I have inthe Boldly Abundant program.
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She's also kick ass.
Already a great day.
Now, Now I gotta get a dresstomorrow, the next day, for my
friend's wedding.
Which is also tomorrow.
God help me, please.
Happy face, sunshine, heartemoji.
Sweet dreams, dear me.
Tomorrow will take care ofitself.
Happy face and star blast emoji.
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Yeah, so some commentary onthat.
I know that that was kind of allover the place, but whenever I
write these journals, this isfor me to get my thoughts out
and so you can see that Istarted off the day pretty low.
And I was doing stuff to try tohelp myself, using music as
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therapy.
And I prioritized my education,what was most important to me.
And it benefited me.
It benefited me in a lot ofways.
I thankfully had a good supportsystem at the time, and it was
my best friend who had said, Ifyou ever need anything, just
call me.
And I did, and she was there forme.
(11:48):
Mmm, I ended the day with somereally good blessings and some
good intentions for the nextday.
And I'm really glad that the daydidn't, didn't stay as low as it
started out.
That it ended higher than itbegan.
I love and appreciate that myhusband was still showing
(12:12):
consideration for me.
Even though I'd said that Iwasn't, wasn't going to be
there, he, he still Went out ofhis way to be considerate.
That was amazing.
That was the kind of stuff thatI was looking for and hoping for
throughout this process.
To me, that was still being ateam player family unit.
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That was what I wanted.
I wanted for us as parents toset the example for our children
that we can still care for andabout each other.
Even if we don't wear rings onour fingers and have a piece of
paper that says that we arecommitted to each other anymore.
(12:57):
That was what I wanted and thatwas a great example of it being
done.
Now, In hindsight, was, was ittruly thoughtful consideration?
Was it, you know, was mydaughter really to receive
credit for it?
Was it her idea?
I don't think so.
Or was it him trying to showhimself being an awesome and
(13:19):
amazing person to my child, buthe was really just playing a
game?
That, sadly, is just as likelyto be the truth as anything, and
especially when you see whathappened less than two months
down the road.
(13:41):
Yeah.
I believe that he was plantingseeds and that he was making
himself look one way to ourdaughter.
It's sad.
Yeah.
It's really sad that I believethat to be the truth, because I
wanted so badly for the nicerthing to be the truth.
(14:05):
And maybe, maybe the nicer thingis the truth.
It's just, once a leopard showsits spots, it's kinda hard to
believe that they don't have anyspots.
I don't know if that reallymakes any sense to you, but it
does to me.
(14:26):
What is it, the thing that, um,once a person shows you who they
are, believe them.
Well, there's a lot of stuffthat maybe I should have
believed from the beginning, butif I had, I wouldn't have my
children out of it.
(14:47):
And even though things are not,the most family like right now,
or are more stressful andstrange than they should be.
It doesn't, it doesn't changethe fact that I am ecstatic that
I have two amazing individualsin my life who I am blessed to
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be able to call my children.
So, regardless of the fact thatthey are spending an exorbitant
amount of energy being angrywith me, I can't help that.
I hope that they feel theiremotions and that they process
them through and treat them asexperiences and not as
possessions.
(15:33):
I hope they feel their feels sothat they can learn from it,
grow and move on, apply whatthey need to learn.
And to not let experiences holdthem back.
If, if we have, if we allow anexperience to hold us back, that
(15:54):
means that we're holding on tosome kind of trauma.
And that's, that means thatwe're treating an experience as
a possession.
And we're allowing it to block.
That's my opinion.
So, experiences, notpossessions.
(16:16):
And I hope my children learn andgrow through this Expediently,
actually just efficiently, butmostly all for the greatest good
and I'm not arrogant enough Tothink that I know what the
greatest good is That's thetricky part sometimes right we
(16:38):
think we know we we say the theshoulds and the need to's All
over the place what somebodyshould be doing or should not be
doing and they need to do thisor they need to not Be doing
that But in truth, we don't Wedon't actually know So that's
that's where faith comes in forme I put my faith in a higher
(17:00):
power and I just I pray to godThat everything works out all
for the greatest good So that'smy intention.
That's where my energy is That'swhat I do.
I don't know if that helps youor not, but there you go.
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So, ups, downs, and all arounds.
Twisted, twisted outs andstraightened outs and, and um,
whatever, all kinds of justtangled up emotions and knots
all over the place.
It's a roller coaster ride.
It's what I've said always fromthe beginning, right?
This is me on my journey as Iprocess through everything.
(17:44):
The actions, the emotions,everything that it takes, has
taken to get me through thedivorce that I asked for.
The divorce from a man who Ilearned afterwards was a
narcissist and delivered well onhis promise to make things ugly.
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Well, God bless him, because Iwant the father of my children
to be happy.
actually be a good decent kindof person because he's
influencing my children and Iwant my children to have the
best influence as possible butSometimes you have to have an
influence from not such a greatPerson place or thing in order
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to learn that that's how youdon't want to be Sometimes you
have to see what is right so youcan make a decision Or you have
to see what is wrong so that youcan make a decision for what is
right It's not my choice tomake.
And that's why I just leavethings up to the universe.
And say, all for the greatestgood.
(18:53):
And then to try to be flexibleenough with a good enough
attitude to go through that.
To have courage.
It's one thing, I know that Ihave, well there's the serenity
prayer, okay?
Right?
It goes that God grant me thisand that and whatever.
Well, my version of that is, Godgive me guidance.
(19:17):
Uh, was it the vision to seeyour guidance, the wisdom to
understand it, and the courageto follow it.
Well, the first part I believeis redundant because I believe
that God guides us all the time.
I believe that God, the creator,whatever name you want to put
on, He Him, her, it, they,whatever, is pure love, the
(19:40):
purest kind of love.
And I feel that just even bythat definition, of course, my
creator is guiding me.
So, the first part is redundant.
The second part, having thewisdom to see, the guidance,
see, hear, feel, know, sense,the guidance of my creator.
(20:04):
Okay?
Yeah.
A lot of people see theguidance.
We have the intuition that weknow we're supposed to do this
and not that or whatever.
It's kind of like leading ahorse to water, but you can't
make it drink.
So the most important thing ishaving the courage, and that's
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the part that moves me to tears.
Having the courage to follow theguidance that you're blessed to
sense.
That means that if you are thehorse that has been led to the
water, reach down and take adrink.
Know that the water isnourishing, that it's not
(20:47):
poison.
Reach down and take a fuckingdrink.
Don't be a dumbass.
It's there for nourishment.
But that's not always theeasiest thing to do.
So, courage, courage, courage.
Stepping out in faith andconfidence.
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Confidence that the, That whatI've seen is the signs from my
creator are actually there, andtherefore their affirmations,
their guideposts on my journey.
So this is me.
This is my journey.
Thank you for being here.
(21:31):
I am ecstatic to be to be onthis journey with you, and I
hope you get as much out of itas as I do at the very least.
I hope that you're entertained.
That it creates enough diversionin your day to create some joy,
some happiness, maybe someperspective.
(21:52):
Maybe that your stuff is, is notas bad as you thought, or maybe
just some encouragement that,you know what, if somebody else
made it through this crap, maybeyou can too.
Whatever your crap is.
And that's, that's one thing I'dreally like to know.
What is your story?
What is, what is the crap thatyou're dealing with?
(22:16):
What, what signs are you seeingfor what steps you need to be
taking and do you have thecourage to follow it?
Would you like some prayer onthat?
Because I would love to send yousome good thoughts and energy,
but I need to know what it isthat, that you want help with.
And that's where your, youraction comes into play.
(22:39):
Send me a message right now.
All I've got is, um, what is it,email, future single
lady@gmail.com.
And I've got a Facebook page,future single lady.
So reach out to me because Iwant to know what your stuff is.
I wanna know what your story is,and I'd like to be with you on
(23:03):
your journey.
Is that okay?
Look at me, the projector askingfor an invitation.
It's great.
It's hilarious.
I love it.
Tune in for more of The FutureSingle Lady with Scarlett Davis
on podcasts wherever you getyour podcasts.
(23:25):
Love you!
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