September 1, 2025 • 16 mins
Letting Go of Perfection: Embracing Good Enough Parenting
In this episode of the Globally Thriving Families Podcast, host Clare O'Byrne addresses the pressure parents, especially those raising children internationally, feel to create perfect experiences for their kids. She unpacks the sources of this pressure, including guilt, fear of missing out, and social media comparisons. Clare introduces the concept of 'good enough parenting,' backed by scientific research from experts like Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson. She explains the four S's (safe, seen, soothed, secure) that children need to develop a secure attachment, emphasizing that perfection is not required. Clare encourages parents to reflect on their own experiences and to focus on showing up for their children in everyday moments.
00:00 Introduction to Globally Thriving Families
01:11 The Pressure of Perfect Parenting
03:48 Understanding the Source of Parenting Pressure
06:51 The Science of 'Good Enough' Parenting
11:50 Practical Tips for Showing Up
14:01 Reflecting on Your Parenting Journey
15:27 Conclusion and Next Steps
Resources mentioned in this episode:
The Power of Showing Up: how parental pressure shapes who our kids become and how their brains gets wired. Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson
Connect with Clare: globally.thriving@gmail.com
Website: https://www.globallythriving.com
Connect with Clare on Instagram: http://instagram.com/globally_thriving
Book a free 20 minute call with Clare: https://tidycal.com/globallythriving/20-minute-meeting
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Speaker (00:05):
Are you a parent or caregiver raising your child
internationally?
Are you curious about how tonurture your child's
development?
But find all the parentinginformation out there confusing?
If so, you are in the rightplace.
Welcome to the GloballyThriving Families Podcast.
I'm your host, Clare O'Byrne, aparent coach and occupational
(00:28):
therapist with a passion forsupporting children and their
families for more than 25 years.
Whether it's understanding howto build resilience to practical
tips for language development,screen time challenges, and
staying calm amongst the chaos,Globally Thriving Families is
here to help.
Join me as we explore thetopics that give you the
(00:51):
insights and guidance you needto support your children to
thrive.
No matter where your family'sadventures take you.
Hello and welcome back toanother episode of Globally
Thriving Families.
So today we're gonna talk aboutsomething many of us feel, but
(01:15):
perhaps don't talk about thatmuch.
It's the pressure to createperfect experiences for our
kids.
Do you ever feel like youshould be doing more for your
family?
Making things magical.
Making things perfect, doingamazing things?
As parents and especially asglobally mobile families, I
think it's easy to feel theweight of creating extraordinary
(01:38):
experiences for our kids,whether it's how we spend the
school holidays or taking trips,or even just our everyday
weekend plans.
But is this what our kidsreally need?
So keep listening because weare going to talk about why our
kids don't actually need perfectexperiences, and we'll unpack
(01:58):
where this pressure comes from,what the science says about it,
and why everyday ordinarymoments might matter even more.
Now, as I've said before, Idon't have all the answers.
Remember, I am living thisalongside you, but I can gently
guide you to awareness andinsight so that you can reflect
on your own situation andconsider small actions to create
(02:21):
change if you want it.
So how does this pressure showup in our life as a globally
mobile parent?
Well, firstly, the way we spendour summer holidays or the
school holidays., We might bethinking, are we having enough
adventures?
Are we giving our kidssomething that they don't get
during term time?
Are we optimizing theirdevelopment or are we helping
(02:43):
them maintain their academicskills year round?
And then in term time, we mightbe thinking, did we research
the schools enough before wechose one?
Did we pick the right school?
Should we be striving to find abetter school?
And in general in our lifeoverseas, we could be asking
ourselves, are we making themost of the time while we are
here?
Are we having enough fun?
(03:04):
Are we having enough enrichingexperiences for our kids?
Are we immersing ourselvesenough in the life here?
Are we doing enough to maintainrelationships with family who
live far away?
Have we done our kids adisservice by moving away or
moving frequently?
And then parenting in general.
Are we supporting our kids tobe their best selves?
(03:26):
Are we teaching them enoughabout life?
Are we helping them build corememories of their childhood?
Are they growing up to beresilient, adaptable, and
successful?
Am I spending enough time withmy kids?
Are we connecting enough withour kids?
Am I spending too much timewith them?
Are they becoming independent?
Basically?
Are we doing enough?
Are we being enough?
(03:47):
I feel exhausted and a littlebit stressed just saying these
out loud, but let's think aboutwhere this pressure actually
comes from?
Is some of it to do withguilt?.
You know, we chose this life.
We chose to move away, we choseto travel.
Maybe we chose to stay longerthan we first thought we ever
would.
You know, we know that thereare significant benefits for our
(04:10):
kids to having this kind ofglobally mobile.
Life, but we also know thatthere are some sacrifices and,
and some losses along the way.
And so maybe that leads us tomicromanaging some of those
experiences such as the summerholidays or the decisions about
schools, or even just how wespend our weekends to try and
(04:31):
compensate for some of thosepotential losses or to make sure
that, you know, what we chosefor them doesn't put them at a
disadvantage or expose some ofthose losses.
And then there's good old fomo,the fear of missing out.
You know, if we don't do Xright now, we might not have a
chance to again, and I know I'vedefinitely said that about
(04:52):
travel to certain places.
Once we leave, we won't comeback again, blah, blah, blah.
You know, almost like there's ascarcity mindset about our time
in one place.
You never know how long we'llbe here.
It could all change veryquickly.
And then there's comparison.
It's easier than ever tocompare our lives to others with
(05:12):
social media.
Many, if not most of us arescrolling through Instagram and
we see what everyone's up to.
Have you ever seen somebody'ssummer adventures and thought
that you needed to do somethingexciting too, or that your life
was a bit too boring?
Or ask yourself at that point,are you doing enough?
Be honest.
Even though we logically knowthat social media is curated,
(05:37):
you know, a highlight reel,there might be part of us that
makes these comparisons.
I mean, it's natural.
And then there's our ownnervous system too.
If we wanna get a little bitdeeper into this, it might be
part of a greater need forperfection in general in our
life.
And perfectionism comes fromanxiety.
Our nervous system is trying toprotect us by over controlling
(06:00):
and micromanaging aspects of ourlife or our kids' life might
feel safer because we are takingaction to reduce the chance of
failure or upset or judgment ordisappointment.
This might tie in withsomething you also experienced
as a child yourself.
Did you feel like achievementsomehow equaled how valuable you
(06:21):
were?
Many of us attach achievementto our worth.
And if you gain insight intothat, then you might spend years
trying to unravel from it .Ourchildren's life, their skills,
their success.
What does that say about us asa parent, as an individual, and
this over curating andmicromanaging experiences to try
to be perfect?
(06:42):
Would that mean that I'm doingwell as a parent?
Does that mean I'm good enough?
Yeah, it's deep, isn't it?
But guess what?
The good news is, science tellsus that we actually don't need
to provide perfect experiencesat all or try to be perfect
parents.
We don't even have to getthings right most of the time,
(07:05):
so we can actually chill out abit with the guilt and anxiety.
In the book, the Power ofShowing Up by Dr.
Dan Siegel and Dr.
Tina Payne, Bryson, I'll putthat in the show notes.
They talk about rather thanaiming for perfection, which
isn't really attainable, weactually just need to show up
for our kids.
But that sounds a bit vague,doesn't it?
(07:27):
What does showing up actuallyeven mean and how do we do that?
So they described the four S'sthat are needed to do this.
So number one, the first s isthat the child feels safe.
So at its most basic andfundamental, it's about keeping
a child physically safe fromharm.
(07:47):
So protected from harm, butalso safe emotionally.
Are they safe to expressthemselves without fear of being
shamed or dismissed?
And then the second s is, doesthe child feel seen?
So do they know that you careabout them and that you'll pay
attention to them?
Are you listening to them?
Are you noticing and areinterested in their world?
(08:11):
And what lights them up orwhat's important to them and
noticing what they don't like?
And then the third s is, dothey feel soothed?
Do they know that you'll bethere for them for the hard
times when they're sad, whenthey're overwhelmed or they're
hurting?
Can they go to you for comfort?
This is a biggie becauseco-regulation is what helps our
(08:32):
kids develop resilience.
It's not about being left totough something out by
themselves.
It's about being supportedthrough tough situations and
challenges.
And then over time, when thosethree S's are provided, the
fourth S will happen, which isthat they will have a secure
attachment, which they describeas the goal of parenting.
(08:56):
A secure attachment gives ourkids the best chance to healthy
and optimal development.
They're more likely to grow upwith confidence and flexibility
and be able to manage challengesand relationships in the future
if they have a secureattachment.
And so if we step back fromthat, it's not that our kids
(09:16):
actually need the Pinterestworthy life or the perfectly
curated experiences, even ifthose are great experiences, but
what they do need is toconsistently feel safe, seen,
soothed, and secure.
As I briefly mentioned, wedon't even have to get this
right all the time.
So in the sixties, Dr.
(09:38):
Winicott, a Britishpediatrician, coined the term 'a
good enough parent'.
So a good enough parent is onethat meets enough of the child's
needs, enough of the time forthe child to still feel safe and
loved, and that actually when aparent.
takes a bit of a wrong turnwith it and mis attunes to their
child, but then repairs, thisis actually helping their
(10:02):
development because it'steaching them about flexibility
and navigating these nuances ofrelationships.
And then this work was furthersupported by Ed Tronick, a
developmental psychologist.
So his research on parent-childrelationships found that
parents were only attuned or insync with their children about
(10:23):
20-30% of the time, but theystill showed that they had this
secure attachment pattern,.
And in the rest of the time,the 70% there were missed cues
between the child and theparent, or the parent wasn't
responding the way that thechild needed.
So what this means for us, theimportant aspect to this is when
(10:43):
we are not attuned, we canreflect, we can revisit, we can
repair, we can tune in again,and then we can still foster
that secure attachment.
Thank goodness.
So if the science is telling usthat we don't need perfection
and that our kids just need usto show up and feel safe, seen
(11:03):
and soothed in order to besecurely attached, then we can
let go a bit of the pressure asglobally mobile parents to
create these magical, perfectexperiences.
Yes, of course, the travel andthe summer adventures and going
to a great school.
I mean, of course those can bereally beneficial and awesome
(11:26):
experiences and can teach ourkids a lot and contribute to
their core memories of theirchildhood for sure.
But what's wiring their brainsconsistently is those other
moments where nothingparticularly special has to
happen.
But how we respond to them andhow we connect with them and how
we repair with them is actuallywhat matters most.
(11:49):
It could be the sort of simple,consistent thing of using a car
seat every day to keep themsafe or holding their hand when
they cross the road when they'relittle.
It could be noticing their moodchanges when they're frustrated
doing their homework andmentioning it.
It could be sitting quietlywith them and letting them cry
(12:10):
without you rushing to fixsomething when they're upset and
importantly, repairing after wemess up.
Maybe it's apologizing afterwe've yelled at them.
These are those micro momentsthat actually build the secure
attachment and what makes us agood enough parent.
You know, we took the kids awayfor a weekend in Dubai
(12:31):
recently, just before schoolstarted, and one night we went
to this board game cafe that wesaw across the road from where
we were staying.
And it looked super fun andsomething different for us all
getting away from the screensand just having time together,
chatting and.
At one point, I actually justthought, oh my God, I wanna go
home.
There was just a bit of arguingand grumpiness, and I actually
(12:56):
started to feel grumpy because Iwas trying to kind of
micromanage the fun so that itwas a perfect experience and
luckily, I.
Did notice this about myself,and I had to kind of think
about, okay, I, I need to turnthis around a little bit.
Maybe be more playful.
I've got to try and cut thetension.
I need to not take the bait andmatch the grumpiness because
(13:19):
that's not helping all of thosekind of things.
And it actually did turn out tobe fun.
We left in a good mood, but itdefinitely wasn't perfect.
It was pretty messy.
And like I said, at one point Ihonestly wanted to go home, so
it didn't go the way Ienvisaged, but the repair and
the connection was actually themost important part of the
(13:41):
experience.
So there's so much more to thistopic of attachment and early
childhood experience, and Ihighly recommend reading the
book The Power of Showing Up.
If you wanna understand a bitmore about it.
It really weaves in the sciencein a digestible way, and it
gives lots of practical examplestoo.
Now, before we finish, here'swhat I want you to do.
(14:03):
I want you to think about wherein your parenting do you feel
the pressure to create somethingmagical or perfect, and what
would it look like if you justshowed up instead, what if it
was just good enough?
How would that change thingsfor you?
Also, think about a situationor a moment that you had
recently with your child.
(14:24):
It could be something good ormaybe something that went a bit
wrong and in that moment.
Did your child feel safe, seen,soothed, and secure?
I mean, maybe not all four ofthose things will be possible in
that particular example, butyou know what I mean?
This isn't about pointing outwhere you're going wrong as
such, but it's actually justpracticing reflecting on what
(14:46):
we're doing and what'shappening, because we can't
really gain new insights withoutreflecting, maybe it will help
you to notice where you havebeen a good enough parent when
you didn't think you were, ormaybe it will help you.
Notice small shifts that mightimprove your connection.
Next time you find yourselfwondering if you are doing
(15:08):
enough, remember, if you aretrying to show up and if you're
getting it right about 30% ofthe time, then you're doing
great.
We're all good enough parents.
Even just listening to thisepisode proves that because
you've taken the time to show upfor your child in the way they
need.
So thank you so much forlistening and see you next time.
(15:30):
If anything in this episodesparked something for you, I'd
love to hear about it.
You can find me on Instagram atglobally_thriving, or you can
reach out to me on my website.
Globally thriving.com Also, ifyou are curious about parent
coaching and if it might beright for you, you can book free
(15:53):
20 minute call via the link inthe show notes, and we can have
a no pressure conversation justto find out more about it.
See you next time.
Are you a parent or caregiver raising your child
internationally?
Are you curious about how tonurture your child's
development?
But find all the parentinginformation out there confusing?
If so, you are in the rightplace.
Welcome to the GloballyThriving Families Podcast.
I'm your host, Clare O'Byrne, aparent coach and occupational
(00:28):
therapist with a passion forsupporting children and their
families for more than 25 years.
Whether it's understanding howto build resilience to practical
tips for language development,screen time challenges, and
staying calm amongst the chaos,Globally Thriving Families is
here to help.
Join me as we explore thetopics that give you the
(00:51):
insights and guidance you needto support your children to
thrive.
No matter where your family'sadventures take you.
Hello and welcome back toanother episode of Globally
Thriving Families.
So today we're gonna talk aboutsomething many of us feel, but
(01:15):
perhaps don't talk about thatmuch.
It's the pressure to createperfect experiences for our
kids.
Do you ever feel like youshould be doing more for your
family?
Making things magical.
Making things perfect, doingamazing things?
As parents and especially asglobally mobile families, I
think it's easy to feel theweight of creating extraordinary
(01:38):
experiences for our kids,whether it's how we spend the
school holidays or taking trips,or even just our everyday
weekend plans.
But is this what our kidsreally need?
So keep listening because weare going to talk about why our
kids don't actually need perfectexperiences, and we'll unpack
(01:58):
where this pressure comes from,what the science says about it,
and why everyday ordinarymoments might matter even more.
Now, as I've said before, Idon't have all the answers.
Remember, I am living thisalongside you, but I can gently
guide you to awareness andinsight so that you can reflect
on your own situation andconsider small actions to create
(02:21):
change if you want it.
So how does this pressure showup in our life as a globally
mobile parent?
Well, firstly, the way we spendour summer holidays or the
school holidays., We might bethinking, are we having enough
adventures?
Are we giving our kidssomething that they don't get
during term time?
Are we optimizing theirdevelopment or are we helping
(02:43):
them maintain their academicskills year round?
And then in term time, we mightbe thinking, did we research
the schools enough before wechose one?
Did we pick the right school?
Should we be striving to find abetter school?
And in general in our lifeoverseas, we could be asking
ourselves, are we making themost of the time while we are
here?
Are we having enough fun?
(03:04):
Are we having enough enrichingexperiences for our kids?
Are we immersing ourselvesenough in the life here?
Are we doing enough to maintainrelationships with family who
live far away?
Have we done our kids adisservice by moving away or
moving frequently?
And then parenting in general.
Are we supporting our kids tobe their best selves?
(03:26):
Are we teaching them enoughabout life?
Are we helping them build corememories of their childhood?
Are they growing up to beresilient, adaptable, and
successful?
Am I spending enough time withmy kids?
Are we connecting enough withour kids?
Am I spending too much timewith them?
Are they becoming independent?
Basically?
Are we doing enough?
Are we being enough?
(03:47):
I feel exhausted and a littlebit stressed just saying these
out loud, but let's think aboutwhere this pressure actually
comes from?
Is some of it to do withguilt?.
You know, we chose this life.
We chose to move away, we choseto travel.
Maybe we chose to stay longerthan we first thought we ever
would.
You know, we know that thereare significant benefits for our
(04:10):
kids to having this kind ofglobally mobile.
Life, but we also know thatthere are some sacrifices and,
and some losses along the way.
And so maybe that leads us tomicromanaging some of those
experiences such as the summerholidays or the decisions about
schools, or even just how wespend our weekends to try and
(04:31):
compensate for some of thosepotential losses or to make sure
that, you know, what we chosefor them doesn't put them at a
disadvantage or expose some ofthose losses.
And then there's good old fomo,the fear of missing out.
You know, if we don't do Xright now, we might not have a
chance to again, and I know I'vedefinitely said that about
(04:52):
travel to certain places.
Once we leave, we won't comeback again, blah, blah, blah.
You know, almost like there's ascarcity mindset about our time
in one place.
You never know how long we'llbe here.
It could all change veryquickly.
And then there's comparison.
It's easier than ever tocompare our lives to others with
(05:12):
social media.
Many, if not most of us arescrolling through Instagram and
we see what everyone's up to.
Have you ever seen somebody'ssummer adventures and thought
that you needed to do somethingexciting too, or that your life
was a bit too boring?
Or ask yourself at that point,are you doing enough?
Be honest.
Even though we logically knowthat social media is curated,
(05:37):
you know, a highlight reel,there might be part of us that
makes these comparisons.
I mean, it's natural.
And then there's our ownnervous system too.
If we wanna get a little bitdeeper into this, it might be
part of a greater need forperfection in general in our
life.
And perfectionism comes fromanxiety.
Our nervous system is trying toprotect us by over controlling
(06:00):
and micromanaging aspects of ourlife or our kids' life might
feel safer because we are takingaction to reduce the chance of
failure or upset or judgment ordisappointment.
This might tie in withsomething you also experienced
as a child yourself.
Did you feel like achievementsomehow equaled how valuable you
(06:21):
were?
Many of us attach achievementto our worth.
And if you gain insight intothat, then you might spend years
trying to unravel from it .Ourchildren's life, their skills,
their success.
What does that say about us asa parent, as an individual, and
this over curating andmicromanaging experiences to try
to be perfect?
(06:42):
Would that mean that I'm doingwell as a parent?
Does that mean I'm good enough?
Yeah, it's deep, isn't it?
But guess what?
The good news is, science tellsus that we actually don't need
to provide perfect experiencesat all or try to be perfect
parents.
We don't even have to getthings right most of the time,
(07:05):
so we can actually chill out abit with the guilt and anxiety.
In the book, the Power ofShowing Up by Dr.
Dan Siegel and Dr.
Tina Payne, Bryson, I'll putthat in the show notes.
They talk about rather thanaiming for perfection, which
isn't really attainable, weactually just need to show up
for our kids.
But that sounds a bit vague,doesn't it?
(07:27):
What does showing up actuallyeven mean and how do we do that?
So they described the four S'sthat are needed to do this.
So number one, the first s isthat the child feels safe.
So at its most basic andfundamental, it's about keeping
a child physically safe fromharm.
(07:47):
So protected from harm, butalso safe emotionally.
Are they safe to expressthemselves without fear of being
shamed or dismissed?
And then the second s is, doesthe child feel seen?
So do they know that you careabout them and that you'll pay
attention to them?
Are you listening to them?
Are you noticing and areinterested in their world?
(08:11):
And what lights them up orwhat's important to them and
noticing what they don't like?
And then the third s is, dothey feel soothed?
Do they know that you'll bethere for them for the hard
times when they're sad, whenthey're overwhelmed or they're
hurting?
Can they go to you for comfort?
This is a biggie becauseco-regulation is what helps our
(08:32):
kids develop resilience.
It's not about being left totough something out by
themselves.
It's about being supportedthrough tough situations and
challenges.
And then over time, when thosethree S's are provided, the
fourth S will happen, which isthat they will have a secure
attachment, which they describeas the goal of parenting.
(08:56):
A secure attachment gives ourkids the best chance to healthy
and optimal development.
They're more likely to grow upwith confidence and flexibility
and be able to manage challengesand relationships in the future
if they have a secureattachment.
And so if we step back fromthat, it's not that our kids
(09:16):
actually need the Pinterestworthy life or the perfectly
curated experiences, even ifthose are great experiences, but
what they do need is toconsistently feel safe, seen,
soothed, and secure.
As I briefly mentioned, wedon't even have to get this
right all the time.
So in the sixties, Dr.
(09:38):
Winicott, a Britishpediatrician, coined the term 'a
good enough parent'.
So a good enough parent is onethat meets enough of the child's
needs, enough of the time forthe child to still feel safe and
loved, and that actually when aparent.
takes a bit of a wrong turnwith it and mis attunes to their
child, but then repairs, thisis actually helping their
(10:02):
development because it'steaching them about flexibility
and navigating these nuances ofrelationships.
And then this work was furthersupported by Ed Tronick, a
developmental psychologist.
So his research on parent-childrelationships found that
parents were only attuned or insync with their children about
(10:23):
20-30% of the time, but theystill showed that they had this
secure attachment pattern,.
And in the rest of the time,the 70% there were missed cues
between the child and theparent, or the parent wasn't
responding the way that thechild needed.
So what this means for us, theimportant aspect to this is when
(10:43):
we are not attuned, we canreflect, we can revisit, we can
repair, we can tune in again,and then we can still foster
that secure attachment.
Thank goodness.
So if the science is telling usthat we don't need perfection
and that our kids just need usto show up and feel safe, seen
(11:03):
and soothed in order to besecurely attached, then we can
let go a bit of the pressure asglobally mobile parents to
create these magical, perfectexperiences.
Yes, of course, the travel andthe summer adventures and going
to a great school.
I mean, of course those can bereally beneficial and awesome
(11:26):
experiences and can teach ourkids a lot and contribute to
their core memories of theirchildhood for sure.
But what's wiring their brainsconsistently is those other
moments where nothingparticularly special has to
happen.
But how we respond to them andhow we connect with them and how
we repair with them is actuallywhat matters most.
(11:49):
It could be the sort of simple,consistent thing of using a car
seat every day to keep themsafe or holding their hand when
they cross the road when they'relittle.
It could be noticing their moodchanges when they're frustrated
doing their homework andmentioning it.
It could be sitting quietlywith them and letting them cry
(12:10):
without you rushing to fixsomething when they're upset and
importantly, repairing after wemess up.
Maybe it's apologizing afterwe've yelled at them.
These are those micro momentsthat actually build the secure
attachment and what makes us agood enough parent.
You know, we took the kids awayfor a weekend in Dubai
(12:31):
recently, just before schoolstarted, and one night we went
to this board game cafe that wesaw across the road from where
we were staying.
And it looked super fun andsomething different for us all
getting away from the screensand just having time together,
chatting and.
At one point, I actually justthought, oh my God, I wanna go
home.
There was just a bit of arguingand grumpiness, and I actually
(12:56):
started to feel grumpy because Iwas trying to kind of
micromanage the fun so that itwas a perfect experience and
luckily, I.
Did notice this about myself,and I had to kind of think
about, okay, I, I need to turnthis around a little bit.
Maybe be more playful.
I've got to try and cut thetension.
I need to not take the bait andmatch the grumpiness because
(13:19):
that's not helping all of thosekind of things.
And it actually did turn out tobe fun.
We left in a good mood, but itdefinitely wasn't perfect.
It was pretty messy.
And like I said, at one point Ihonestly wanted to go home, so
it didn't go the way Ienvisaged, but the repair and
the connection was actually themost important part of the
(13:41):
experience.
So there's so much more to thistopic of attachment and early
childhood experience, and Ihighly recommend reading the
book The Power of Showing Up.
If you wanna understand a bitmore about it.
It really weaves in the sciencein a digestible way, and it
gives lots of practical examplestoo.
Now, before we finish, here'swhat I want you to do.
(14:03):
I want you to think about wherein your parenting do you feel
the pressure to create somethingmagical or perfect, and what
would it look like if you justshowed up instead, what if it
was just good enough?
How would that change thingsfor you?
Also, think about a situationor a moment that you had
recently with your child.
(14:24):
It could be something good ormaybe something that went a bit
wrong and in that moment.
Did your child feel safe, seen,soothed, and secure?
I mean, maybe not all four ofthose things will be possible in
that particular example, butyou know what I mean?
This isn't about pointing outwhere you're going wrong as
such, but it's actually justpracticing reflecting on what
(14:46):
we're doing and what'shappening, because we can't
really gain new insights withoutreflecting, maybe it will help
you to notice where you havebeen a good enough parent when
you didn't think you were, ormaybe it will help you.
Notice small shifts that mightimprove your connection.
Next time you find yourselfwondering if you are doing
(15:08):
enough, remember, if you aretrying to show up and if you're
getting it right about 30% ofthe time, then you're doing
great.
We're all good enough parents.
Even just listening to thisepisode proves that because
you've taken the time to show upfor your child in the way they
need.
So thank you so much forlistening and see you next time.
(15:30):
If anything in this episodesparked something for you, I'd
love to hear about it.
You can find me on Instagram atglobally_thriving, or you can
reach out to me on my website.
Globally thriving.com Also, ifyou are curious about parent
coaching and if it might beright for you, you can book free
(15:53):
20 minute call via the link inthe show notes, and we can have
a no pressure conversation justto find out more about it.
See you next time.
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