September 25, 2025 • 32 mins
Discover the remarkable journey of Brigette Sobis, a dynamic coach and consultant, who has traversed the tumultuous path from a master certified hair colorist to a thriving business owner and coach. Hear her inspiring story of resilience, as she navigated personal and financial hardships, including a challenging divorce, breast cancer, and bankruptcy. Brigette reveals how she transformed adversity into opportunity, selling her award-winning salon to focus on personal growth and coaching, emphasizing the power of resilience, letting go of ego, and embracing change.
Explore the fascinating world of the unconscious mind with us, as we discuss the transformative power of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and timeline therapy. Brigette sheds light on how these techniques can help release negative emotions, transform self-beliefs, and address trauma, including PTSD. Learn the significant role the unconscious mind plays in our decision-making and behaviors, and how aligning conscious and unconscious thoughts can lead to overcoming self-sabotage and enhancing personal growth.
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Brigette Sobus is a dynamic Coach and Consultant dedicated to empowering individuals to build thriving businesses and lead fulfilling lives. With a background in business transformation, she's known for revitalizing struggling ventures and guiding them to remarkable success. Brigette's expertise lies in coaching individuals to step into leadership roles with confidence, fostering power, joy, and prosperity. As a seasoned practitioner and Trainer, she holds certifications as a Master NLP Coach, Master Practitioner of Time Line Therapy, and Master Hypnosis Practitioner. Brigette's commitment to personal and professional growth led her to expand her toolkit, attaining certification in Advanced Coaching for Trauma, PTSD, and Addiction. She also incorporates Somatic Coaching and Reiki into her practice, further enhancing her ability to facilitate holistic transformation and healing. Connect with Brigette at brigette@brigettesobus.com to embark on your journey to success and fulfillment.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to the Heal Yourself Podcast, where we dive
deep into all things healing.
I'm Denise, a speech-languagepathologist and a self-love
coach for adults and teens.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
And I'm Kira, a traditional naturopath and
functional nutritionist, and weare here to guide you through
the transformative process ofhealing your body, mind and soul
.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
From the latest in functional medicine to nurturing
your relationship with yourself, healing trauma and even
transforming your money story.
We're here to empower you withthe knowledge and tools to
create lasting change.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
So, whether you're looking to heal physically,
emotionally or spiritually, joinus as we explore the many paths
to wholeness and wellness.
Hello everyone, welcome back toanother episode of Heal
Yourself Podcast.
I'm Kira, and today I am joinedby special guest Bridget Sobis.
(01:02):
I'm going to introduce her andthen welcome her on.
So Bridget is a dynamic coachand consultant dedicated to
empowering individuals to buildthriving businesses and lead
fulfilling lives.
With a background in businesstransformation, she's known for
revitalizing struggling venturesand guiding them to remarkable
success.
Bridget's expertise lies incoaching individuals to step
(01:26):
into leadership roles withconfidence, fostering power, joy
and prosperity, and as aseasoned practitioner and
trainer.
She holds certifications as amaster NLP coach, master
practitioner of timeline therapyand master hypnosis
practitioner.
So I'm excited to talk aboutall these modalities.
So, Bridget, welcome.
I'm so to talk about all thesemodalities.
So, bridget, welcome, I'm soglad to be here with you today.
(01:47):
Yeah, I always start with thesame question at this point Tell
us how you got into this, like,give us a little bit of your
background.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Yeah.
So how I got into this was howI even became an entrepreneur
was my first and foremost.
I was a master certified haircolorist Love it, yeah.
And I was working in a prettydysfunctional salon making a six
figure income, and I'd workedfor many different kinds of
businesses at that point and Ithought, if this person can own
(02:18):
a salon, there's no reason why Ican't.
And then the opportunitypresented itself.
I bought the salon.
I became the hot mess because Ididn't know how to run a salon,
and then the opportunitypresented itself.
I bought the salon.
I became the hot mess because Ididn't know how to run a salon
and I lost my six-figurepaycheck and, gratefully, I was
like crying all the time.
I was so highly emotional andsomeone introduced me to my
first coaching consultant, whichthat was back in 2005.
(02:41):
And coaching wasn't even reallya popular thing back then.
And I remember invest.
I had zero money in the bankand I had.
I hired this company.
It was like $1,800, like amonth for coaching consulting
back in 2005.
And it was one of the bestinvestments I ever made.
I started turning the businessaround by 30, 40% and I thought
(03:05):
I want to do this with otherpeople.
I want to help people like this.
So that started my journey tobecome a trainer and then, in
2012, I took a year-longcertification to join the
International CoachingFederation.
So that was my first coachingcertificate.
(03:26):
And then, yeah, I started doingcoaching and consulting for
years.
And then what really led me todo the work I do now?
I have sold my salon during thepandemic, and that's part of my
journey, because in the middleit was award-winning business,
it was profitable, and I foundmyself going through a really
(03:48):
nasty divorce in 2010, which ledme into $1.3 million of
personal debt, which is a realeffect.
Sometimes I have to look back atthe numbers and I'm like what
my ex-husband unfortunately, youjust don't know what, you don't
know Right, like I was runningthe salons, he was running
(04:10):
properties that we owned and hehad a drug addiction, all the
things, and that's where the$1.3 million of debt came from,
and I took it on personally toget legally away from him.
(04:31):
And then from there, I foundmyself going through breast
cancer for the first time, whicheveryone's free and clear of,
and then I ended up filingbankruptcy to get out from it,
because I had a lot of attorneyssay if you don't file
bankruptcy, you're really goingto be financially ruined and I
(04:52):
was like, but I could lose mybusiness, this is profitable,
this is hard earned and Idecided to buy it back.
I decided to buy it back andthen that that was like another,
really traumatic year, like Icoined 2019 dark night of the
(05:12):
soul year, yeah Right.
So like I was like trying to buymy business back, I was in
massive survival mode.
I was working like crazy amountof time.
I was working like crazy amountof time and finally, when I
felt like I really hit rockbottom, I was like I cannot do
this anymore, like I can't livelike this.
(05:32):
So I decided and actually I waslike you know what, sometimes
the universe has a way ofkicking you in the booty and
being like you're ready forsomething different.
You know, I almost had it for 15years.
So I decided to put my egoaside and then, like, I sold it.
And then I was.
I was like what's next for me?
(05:53):
And I had always had the like I, at the heights of my career,
like, even being a coach, Iwould be producing 1.3 or 1.4
million in sales between thesalon and my coaching.
You know business and but therewas always this part of me that,
like, my mind was always onnegative thought.
(06:16):
I couldn't get my mind to stopthinking negative thoughts.
I couldn't.
My emotions would take controlof me.
Like if I was telling you aboutmy divorce, like I don't know
six years ago, you'd see me getlike all angry and like mad
again.
Like I would be reliving theemotions over and over and over
again.
I had I was a people pleaser.
I felt a lot of guilt and shame, and then so I sold the salon,
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put the ego aside and I startedgoing into therapy and getting a
coach again.
And then I had always heardabout NLP and I didn't know what
it really was.
I just had a mentor that wouldsay and I'm a master of NLP and
you're like that's right.
I don't know what that means,but you're amazing and I was
(07:02):
always looking up to her and Iwas always like I want to be
like Kathy.
When I, when I grow up, and Ifound a course that was that
trained NLP, and they also saidyou're going to learn timeline
therapy and hypnosis.
So back then, like four yearsago, I was like hypnosis, that
sounds really weird.
(07:22):
I'm like in timeline therapy.
I have no idea what that is,but I just trusted my instinct
and I took the course and I washalfway through the program and
I was like am I not upset atthat anymore?
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Am.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
I not mad?
Do I not believe this anymore?
I had.
I had so much peace of mindthat I've never experienced
before.
Actually, after I left thecertification course, my
therapist quote unquote fired me.
She didn't fire me, but she waslike, cause I kept coming to
the sessions now being like, uh,I don't know, there's nothing
(08:01):
really to talk about.
And then, like the other coachI had been working with, I ended
that relationship because hewould be like, so that person
that is always triggering you,let's talk about that.
And I'm like, no, I'm good, I'mgood, I'm not triggered stopped
(08:26):
off that hamster wheel.
Because I used to say sometimesI wish I could get everyone's
free and clear of this.
But, like I would say sometimesI wish I could get a lobotomy
so that I can actuallydisconnect from these negative
thoughts and like negativeemotions and.
I had no idea the power ofworking with the unconscious
mind, yeah.
So I then did a deep dive.
I mean, I had the biggestquantum leap I ever had in my
life.
I literally took thatcertification, got my master's,
(08:51):
got board certified, and then Ilaunched Power and Joy Coaching
Academy, which that was.
I haven't had my three-yearanniversary in October, so
that's a little snippet of thestory.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Yeah Well, and I feel like the aha for many is going
to come from.
Oh my gosh, that's me.
I get in the negative spiral,the victim mentality, the
emotional mess where I don'tknow how to get myself out of
this, and goodness knows, that'swhat leads to health issues.
I mean, we talk about all thetime on the podcast these things
come up people pleasingperfectionism, all those fun
(09:25):
things.
I think most of our listenersknow what hypnosis is, just
because of me, and I know whatthe other two are, but I would
love for you to expand upon them.
What's NLP?
How can it help someone?
And then same thing withtimeline therapy.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
Yeah, so NLP.
I mean NLP is a lot ofdifferent modalities, but
ultimately it's studyingexcellence and it's actually
modeling excellence.
And it also it's all aboutlanguage and how you're using
language not only incommunication skills and how
you're being more in control ofyour state versus your state
(10:04):
being in control of you.
So it's very like, it's very.
It's a lot of unconscious workand subconscious work too, and
timeline therapy is it's.
I would say it's a hybrid ofNLP and hypnosis work.
It works, it's, it could be, itcould be very fast technique
(10:27):
that helps people release angers, fear, hurt, guilt, at the
unconscious level.
And it's.
They're pretty like, once I getmy clients going on it like I
can do the do the techniquewithin like I don't know,
sometimes five to 15 minutes,and then I'll be like so, like
I'll do the do the techniquewithin like I don't know,
sometimes five to 15 minutes,and then I'll be like so, like
(10:49):
I'll be like before they go in.
I'm like so, have you, um, haveyou ever thought, can you think
about an event in the pastwhere you used to be able to
feel anger?
And they'll be like oh yeah,I've got a few of those and I'm
like yeah, exactly Like oh myGod, I can go back 10 years ago.
And then, after I take themthrough the process, I'm like
(11:11):
all right, so how do you feelabout that anger now?
And they're like hmm, yeah, Imean I knew it was there but
like I don't feel it atall anymore.
It's wild, yeah, it's wild, sothat's a really.
And then it also supports withreleasing negative decisions
(11:32):
like I'm unworthy, I'm unlovable, I don't deserve it, I'm fear
of, you know, fear of successand things like that.
And then I do also, I've evenlike, since that, you know,
since three, you know three,four years ago, I've added
certifications in trauma andPSTD.
So then I even take thosetechniques even deeper and do
(11:55):
like trauma releases, supportpeople on releasing anything
that's getting in their way withPTSD.
And then one more thing I'dlike to share about with even
NLP, with cause, like it's solike when you're with language
is so powerful.
I was actually even liketalking to my 12 year old nephew
(12:15):
last night about it, about howto like have his own language,
cause you know I was teachinghim.
I'm like, okay, so you've,you've heard of the unconscious
mind and he has.
And I said the unconscious minddoesn't process a direct
negative.
So if I say to you, do notthink about a purple pig.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
I was like did you think about any?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
of those and he's like, yeah, I'm like okay, so
consider, when you're thinkingabout all the things you don't
want to happen, you're stillattracting that.
So it's shifting to focus onwhat you want instead.
And it sounds so easy and it'sso fascinating to me when I'm
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talking to people how they talkso much and like I don't want
this, I don't want that, I won't, don't want, blah, blah, blah,
blah, blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
And then it's like really retraining them to be so
consciously aware how they'retalking to themselves and out
loud, and I'm same with myclients on a physical healing
journey.
Um, and we talk aboutsubconscious unconscious.
Will you explain that a littlebit for those that are like oh,
I don't understand what theunconscious is, how do you know
(13:29):
what the unconscious is evendoing?
Because it's unconscious.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
Hilarious, I know right.
Well, here's the thing.
We have an unconscious.
Well, I mean you can go intodifferent layers.
There's the conscioussubconscious.
I mean, you know, you can gointo different layers, like
there's the conscious,subconscious, unconscious, and
then there's a higherconsciousness, like in a
spirituality which I believe,and so ultimately, your
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unconscious mind runs at about95 to 97% of decision making
behaviors and people are justeven unaware of it, like most
people are just on autopilot,and a lot of times what's
happening is people areconstantly self-sabotaging
themselves because theunconscious mind is where, like
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the emotion, it's the domain ofthe emotions and it's the domain
of the unfortunately positivebelief systems and then negative
ones, and then, when thenegative ones are really deep
and the negative ones and thepositive ones were most likely
formed during the ages of likezero to seven, seven and
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possibly in the womb, becausepeople's unconscious minds are
like little critical, uncritical, little sponges gathering up
the good, bad and the uglyaround them.
And even if they have, like themost amazing parents that are
working on doing everything,well, I'll just say quote,
unquote, right, they can have arun in with some stranger on the
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street and it could be anegative situation and that
could have formed some negativebelief system.
So I mean, even if we go backto like primitive days, like how
the primitive mind works, theunconscious mind is designed to
protect you, even though it'sweirdly not sabotaging you.
Yeah, yeah.
So when you have, when yourconscious and your unconscious
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are incongruent with each other,that's where, again, a lot of
the self-sabotaging comes in.
I love to use the analogy oflike an elephant.
Like, if you think about anelephant, that's your
unconscious, and then, if you'resitting on top of your elephant
, your conscious mind.
And if you're, if you'resitting on your elephant, you're
(15:51):
like I'm going to go start abusiness and make a half a
million dollars.
And elephant is like oh hell,no, you're not.
What if you fail?
What if people judge you?
What if you lose all your money?
Like we can go on a you know,like a but and then your
elephant kicks you off.
(16:11):
So what I love to do is I loveto work with people to retrain
the elephant.
So the elephant is like I know,I'm like releasing all that
stuff that no longer servespeople.
So now the elephant's likesomeone's, like I'm going to go
start a business and make a halfa million.
The elephant's like yeah, weare, we deserve this, we have
all the knowledge to do this, wecan, we're flexible, we can
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learn and grow and you know allthe things.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
So then now you have your conscious and unconscious
congruent with each other andthey're actually going in the
same direction now, yeah, whichis so important, and I feel like
that's where a lot ofself-sabotage comes in around
health too, yes, people dealingwith chronic health issues.
So how does the unconscious,subconscious, mind, impact our
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physical healing?
Speaker 3 (17:06):
the unconscious, subconscious mind, impact our
physical healing.
Oh my God, I mean I, I firstinformed, I mean I a hundred
percent know, I can speak fromexperience on this one because
you know, I, I didn't have andeveryone's pretty clear this I'm
very mindful of installing, um,I've, I personally had breast
cancer not once, twice, oh mygoodness.
And my personal belief systemis, and I, you know, I follow
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people like Deepak Chopra andLouise Hay and I am not I just
want to say I'm not a doctor, soI always tell people to, you
know, do their own research.
And it's just was really I feellike from two traumatic events,
one, first one being my divorceand then the second one filing
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bankruptcy and trying to buy myown business back from dark
night of the soul year.
So it was even just weird howfile divorce two and like it was
almost like two and a halfyears later, like I was like I
was training for a marathon thefirst time I got it and I was
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feeling really great.
And I was like I came, I gotcalled back from a mammogram and
I was like, are you kidding me?
Like I'm training for amarathon, how could I possibly
have this?
And then did again, did all myhealing work, all the things.
And then you know, now it's2019, dark night of the soul
(18:31):
year.
I come out of that, sell mybusiness, reinvent my life, have
these quantum leaps, and I'mlike, I'm like, oh my gosh, I
love my life, I love my business, I'm so excited.
I literally walk into 2022,which is two and a half years
later, got a re-diagnosis and Iwas like, are you kidding me?
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It was just, it's just weirdhow the timing was, and like I
and but I will tell you this,though, because of the work that
I do now, I did have the mostemotionally healthy year I ever
had in 2022.
While navigating through surgery, radiation, chemotherapy, I
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actually and I just I justlaunched Power and Joy Coaching
Academy.
So it was like I was like leftto my own devices, generating
revenue and income and sales,and I still had over a
six-figure year and I worked 50%less at the time.
So I just I'm, just I'm a huge,and that's this is another
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reason why I decided to get mycertifications in trauma and
PSTD, so I could support peopleon releasing that stuff.
Because I just I'm I'm a firmbeliever of the mind, body and
soul connection andunfortunately, unfortunately.
This is why I'm like everyonestart working on your mental
health now.
(20:02):
You know, the more you work onyour mental health now, that's
going to just, that's going toserve you in your body and your
cellular system down the line.
You know, I don't, I don'tthink people need to wait to
have some, like, dark night ofthe soul or traumatic experience
to work on their mental health.
Like, please, by all means,like, do it before.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
Yeah, mental health, like, please, by all means, like
, do it before.
Yeah, you're preaching to thechoir over here Because, yeah, I
mean, I tell people symptomsdon't just come on, they don't
just happen, the body doesn'tdecide.
One day, you know what I thinkI'm not going to function
properly.
We're doing something and it alot of times starts in the mind,
with our emotions, withsomething traumatic, and, yes,
it creates a ripple effect.
I'm mind with our emotions,with something traumatic and,
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yes, it creates a ripple effect.
I'm not saying, hey, just cleanup those emotions and
everything's going to go away.
No, then you have to take careof what deficiencies have come
about.
How has this impacted my gut?
Am I absorbing things?
And you know, there's a nicelittle ripple effect that
happens.
But yeah, we can't wait.
I tell people, by the timesymptoms come on, I'm not going
to say too late, right, it'snever too late, yeah yeah, yeah.
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But you're past that point oflike oh shoot, now I have to try
to backtrack and we can't.
And a lot of times we ignorethose initial symptoms, right?
They present as little whispersof like oh gosh, I'm getting a
headache three times a month,but it's fine, it's not that big
of a deal.
And then they get louder, andlouder, and louder and then
they're screaming at you andit's like oh crap.
(21:27):
Well, yeah, I had all theseevents happen and I don't know
how to slow down and I have noboundaries.
Was I supposed to do somethingwith that?
Yeah, every day we working onthat every day.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
Yeah, so it's I, I'm, so, I'm an advocate like and
it's.
You know, I love statistics, soI'm always like reading
statistics and like looking themup and you know, it's like you
know, on the entrepreneur level,like how many entrepreneurs
it's 81 percent of entrepreneurssuffer silently.
Like they're not, they're not,they're they're.
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And I did it myself.
Like I was the queen of lookingamazing.
Everyone thought I like had itall together and like was always
on vacation or always doingsomething, and like I was
literally, yeah, I would havefun don't get me wrong but like
I would literally like I wouldmy anxiety.
Well, I need to.
I keep reframing myself.
Somebody actually pointed itout to me.
They're like it's the, it's notmy.
Yeah, yeah, so I just I keepreframing myself.
Somebody actually pointed itout to me.
They're like it's the, it's notmy, and I'm like yeah, so I
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just I keep catching myself.
So I do this work in real time.
Yes, we should be.
I live by it, right?
So that was just a.
That was just me catchingmyself right there.
So delete the, my the.
The anxiety used to be like ona scale of one to 100.
It was like 150.
That's how.
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And it was weird because Iliterally had to retrain my
nervous system, yeah, how to letit go and get out of that, like
you know, flight, fight, flightor fight mode, fight or fight
mode.
So it was like I think, likereflecting back then, like I was
literally and a lot of peopleare like this and they don't
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realize it addicted to thenegative emotion, yeah.
And then when I was like off ofit, I was like, oh, this is
weird.
Yeah, how do I wait, how do Ifeel this is so weird?
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Like I had to get used to the the, the feeling of
feeling like, oh, light andrelaxed, you know, and people
get addicted to the stress,which sounds really funny.
When I've talked about this,that was me like not knowing how
to slow down, because it's likeas soon as I did, it's like,
well, what do I do Now?
I'm getting tired, like if Istayed busy, my energy stayed up
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, and I mean, hello, cortisolissues, but women especially,
but entrepreneurs too, likethat's a whole beast on its own.
Speaker 3 (23:56):
Yeah, I mean we can you know?
I mean, again, you know peoplethat are not entrepreneurs.
They have, you know, they havetheir own stress and all the
things and what you, if you're astay at home mom or you're
working in corporate or you know, whatever you're doing in life,
it's just, unfortunately, Ilove, like I love.
Do you listen to Joe Dispenza?
You do, yeah, so I was, I likeI was like binging his books
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over the summer, all three ofthem, like three of them that he
has and he, you know, he reallytalks about like how you know,
back in the caveman days, thatflight or fight mode served us,
you know, and then, as weevolved over humans, it hasn't
necessarily gone away and peopleare addicted to the stress and
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the fear and like the survivalmode and all there is to do.
Really, I mean it sounds easiersaid than done and I think it
can be super easy, but commit to, you know, working with your
unconscious mind, reprogrammingyour mind, releasing cellularly,
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mentally, physically,emotionally, those limiting
decisions and those negativeemotions that no longer serve
you, because I believe thatthose negative emotions can get
harbored in your cellular system.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
They do, creating issues in the tissues.
So loaded question.
I ask these pretty much onevery episode too.
But how does someone getstarted with retraining, like,
is there something they can doin this moment to start
retraining?
Speaker 3 (25:36):
I like to go to like the easiest thing that I like to
say.
Even when I'm, you know, doingmy own intro trainings with
people is like even startingbreath'm.
You know, doing my own introtrainings with people is like
even starting breath work.
You know, doing that somaticbreath work.
There's two.
My go-tos are doing alternatenostril breathing.
Where you're breathing in, youknow you close one nostril.
You deep, deep breath in, closethe you know close that side.
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Breathe out, breathe in, thenkeep alternating for at least 90
seconds.
I actually had a client of mineI did add a client of mine that
she was getting ready to do apresentation and she was like
texting me and saying oh my gosh, I'm really worried and
stressed out and I was like allright, pull, pull your car over.
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And she did.
And I told her I had told herto do that exact practice.
And she messaged me after thepresentation was over.
She goes oh my gosh, I can'teven believe how centered and
grounded I felt.
So I would say and then myother go-to is like let's just
say you're even in real timewith someone and you know, and
you're feeling like you're evenin real time with someone and
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you know, and you're feelinglike you're noticing yourself
being triggered.
Um, I would do the boxbreathing because I mean, I
think, like doing that, like allof a sudden you're breaking out
your people are like what areyou doing?
what are you doing so for?
To be like, uh, you know, likeless conspicuous, like you can
just do box breathing, which is,and then that's like breathing
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in, slowly, breathing in for thecount of four, holding for the
count of four, releasing for thecount of four, holding for the
count of four, and then um, andthen uh, yeah, do that at least
four times.
Just you know, you couldprobably easily Like, but now
I'm really noticing what you'redoing yes, and pausing.
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There's so much power in thepause, so when you practice
pausing, you're going toactually start retraining your
brain to do those automatics.
You know the automatic crying,the automatic.
Wanting to yell, the automatic.
If that's you know someone'sgo-to, uh, the automatic.
(27:45):
You know, my automatics used tobe like I'd either start crying
, I'd scream at you or I wouldlike run away.
I gotta go so love breathwork.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
We've definitely talked about that.
Um, had some breathwork expertscome in and it's.
It's such a simple one, andthat's the thing, and that's
what I'm always telling peopleis we overcomplicate things.
I'd rather go to the simplethings.
Yeah, pause, because whenyou're doing simple hacks of
breathwork, you're being presentand then you can start to
(28:20):
reflect.
If you immediately go intoreaction, you can't reflect and
you can't be like well, how am Iemotionally feeling right now
and how am I processing this anddo I need to move my attention?
And that's not going to happenunless you ground yourself and
get present in that moment.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
I'm actually in the process of getting my breathwork
certification, so it's possibleby the time you're listening to
this, I could already have it.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
Yeah, nice.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
So it is pretty powerful.
I love all these different likesomatic modalities, like, if
you add, like even I love doingmeditation work with my clients,
like somatic meditation andvisualization work.
They're so powerful,visualization work, they're so
(29:09):
powerful.
And it was so funny becausewhen I took my first coaching
certification, there was aweekend where it was
spirituality weekend and we didmeditation.
Back then I was like all I keptthinking to myself was when is
this going to be over?
When is this going to be over?
So if you are listening to thisand you are like, oh, I have a
(29:30):
really hard time meditating,know that I was there at one
point and now I'm obsessed withit and I love it and I do it
every.
It's a practice I do everysingle day and every single
night Same.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
It used to be a big challenge for me.
I mean hypnosis, meditation,breathwork, any of it was a
challenge.
And now it's like I crave it.
Speaker 3 (29:49):
I can't wait to do it , yeah, yeah.
And I think people have themisconception.
I mean, yes, you can get to apoint, I believe, when you could
possibly clear your mind andliterally think of nothing.
But I think people have thatmisconception that like they try
to do hypnosis and they they'relike I can't get my mind to
stop.
That's totally normal, it'stotally okay and it's a practice
(30:14):
.
Yeah, and it's a practice and aprocess.
So all you got to do is just,it's just.
I say it's just like if you, ifyour mind wanders, you just got
to bring it back and that's it.
That's why I do love to startwith people is doing the more
visualization meditations,because then they do go into
trance, they go deep insidethemselves and they're like
(30:36):
getting connected to their innerself and then getting learnings
while they're in thatmeditation and going through
like the visual, the visualprocesses.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
Awesome.
Well, if people want to findyou, where do they go?
Speaker 3 (30:53):
I'll probably say the easiest way would be on
LinkedIn or Facebook.
Awesome, LinkedIn or Facebook.
You know I have a professionaland personal, but personal is
always welcome.
Cause I you know, talkprofessional on there.
I don't really.
No, I mean, yes, sometimes I'llshow my dog.
(31:14):
She's super cute, but those areprobably the two easiest ways I
would probably say and then myall my resources and if you want
to text me, my phone number'sthere.
Email you know, I'm pretty easyto get a hold of.
I believe I think all thosespammers out there oh goodness,
yeah, the spammers can get ahold of me.
(31:34):
I think anyone can.
Speaker 2 (31:36):
Yeah, right, right.
Well, I will have everything inthe show notes, so you guys
check that, as always.
Thanks for listening.
Thanks for being a guest,bridget, so nice having you on.
Yeah, yeah, and you guys, wewill see you on the next episode
, but first, if there's anytopics you want to hear about,
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Welcome to the Heal Yourself Podcast, where we dive
deep into all things healing.
I'm Denise, a speech-languagepathologist and a self-love
coach for adults and teens.
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Hello everyone, welcome back toanother episode of Heal
Yourself Podcast.
I'm Kira, and today I am joinedby special guest Bridget Sobis.
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I'm going to introduce her andthen welcome her on.
So Bridget is a dynamic coachand consultant dedicated to
empowering individuals to buildthriving businesses and lead
fulfilling lives.
With a background in businesstransformation, she's known for
revitalizing struggling venturesand guiding them to remarkable
success.
Bridget's expertise lies incoaching individuals to step
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into leadership roles withconfidence, fostering power, joy
and prosperity, and as aseasoned practitioner and
trainer.
She holds certifications as amaster NLP coach, master
practitioner of timeline therapyand master hypnosis
practitioner.
So I'm excited to talk aboutall these modalities.
So, Bridget, welcome.
I'm so to talk about all thesemodalities.
So, bridget, welcome, I'm soglad to be here with you today.
(01:47):
Yeah, I always start with thesame question at this point Tell
us how you got into this, like,give us a little bit of your
background.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Yeah.
So how I got into this was howI even became an entrepreneur
was my first and foremost.
I was a master certified haircolorist Love it, yeah.
And I was working in a prettydysfunctional salon making a six
figure income, and I'd workedfor many different kinds of
businesses at that point and Ithought, if this person can own
(02:18):
a salon, there's no reason why Ican't.
And then the opportunitypresented itself.
I bought the salon.
I became the hot mess because Ididn't know how to run a salon,
and then the opportunitypresented itself.
I bought the salon.
I became the hot mess because Ididn't know how to run a salon
and I lost my six-figurepaycheck and, gratefully, I was
like crying all the time.
I was so highly emotional andsomeone introduced me to my
first coaching consultant, whichthat was back in 2005.
(02:41):
And coaching wasn't even reallya popular thing back then.
And I remember invest.
I had zero money in the bankand I had.
I hired this company.
It was like $1,800, like amonth for coaching consulting
back in 2005.
And it was one of the bestinvestments I ever made.
I started turning the businessaround by 30, 40% and I thought
(03:05):
I want to do this with otherpeople.
I want to help people like this.
So that started my journey tobecome a trainer and then, in
2012, I took a year-longcertification to join the
International CoachingFederation.
So that was my first coachingcertificate.
(03:26):
And then, yeah, I started doingcoaching and consulting for
years.
And then what really led me todo the work I do now?
I have sold my salon during thepandemic, and that's part of my
journey, because in the middleit was award-winning business,
it was profitable, and I foundmyself going through a really
(03:48):
nasty divorce in 2010, which ledme into $1.3 million of
personal debt, which is a realeffect.
Sometimes I have to look back atthe numbers and I'm like what
my ex-husband unfortunately, youjust don't know what, you don't
know Right, like I was runningthe salons, he was running
(04:10):
properties that we owned and hehad a drug addiction, all the
things, and that's where the$1.3 million of debt came from,
and I took it on personally toget legally away from him.
(04:31):
And then from there, I foundmyself going through breast
cancer for the first time, whicheveryone's free and clear of,
and then I ended up filingbankruptcy to get out from it,
because I had a lot of attorneyssay if you don't file
bankruptcy, you're really goingto be financially ruined and I
(04:52):
was like, but I could lose mybusiness, this is profitable,
this is hard earned and Idecided to buy it back.
I decided to buy it back andthen that that was like another,
really traumatic year, like Icoined 2019 dark night of the
(05:12):
soul year, yeah Right.
So like I was like trying to buymy business back, I was in
massive survival mode.
I was working like crazy amountof time.
I was working like crazy amountof time and finally, when I
felt like I really hit rockbottom, I was like I cannot do
this anymore, like I can't livelike this.
(05:32):
So I decided and actually I waslike you know what, sometimes
the universe has a way ofkicking you in the booty and
being like you're ready forsomething different.
You know, I almost had it for 15years.
So I decided to put my egoaside and then, like, I sold it.
And then I was.
I was like what's next for me?
(05:53):
And I had always had the like I, at the heights of my career,
like, even being a coach, Iwould be producing 1.3 or 1.4
million in sales between thesalon and my coaching.
You know business and but therewas always this part of me that,
like, my mind was always onnegative thought.
(06:16):
I couldn't get my mind to stopthinking negative thoughts.
I couldn't.
My emotions would take controlof me.
Like if I was telling you aboutmy divorce, like I don't know
six years ago, you'd see me getlike all angry and like mad
again.
Like I would be reliving theemotions over and over and over
again.
I had I was a people pleaser.
I felt a lot of guilt and shame, and then so I sold the salon,
(06:41):
put the ego aside and I startedgoing into therapy and getting a
coach again.
And then I had always heardabout NLP and I didn't know what
it really was.
I just had a mentor that wouldsay and I'm a master of NLP and
you're like that's right.
I don't know what that means,but you're amazing and I was
(07:02):
always looking up to her and Iwas always like I want to be
like Kathy.
When I, when I grow up, and Ifound a course that was that
trained NLP, and they also saidyou're going to learn timeline
therapy and hypnosis.
So back then, like four yearsago, I was like hypnosis, that
sounds really weird.
(07:22):
I'm like in timeline therapy.
I have no idea what that is,but I just trusted my instinct
and I took the course and I washalfway through the program and
I was like am I not upset atthat anymore?
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Am.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
I not mad?
Do I not believe this anymore?
I had.
I had so much peace of mindthat I've never experienced
before.
Actually, after I left thecertification course, my
therapist quote unquote fired me.
She didn't fire me, but she waslike, cause I kept coming to
the sessions now being like, uh,I don't know, there's nothing
(08:01):
really to talk about.
And then, like the other coachI had been working with, I ended
that relationship because hewould be like, so that person
that is always triggering you,let's talk about that.
And I'm like, no, I'm good, I'mgood, I'm not triggered stopped
(08:26):
off that hamster wheel.
Because I used to say sometimesI wish I could get everyone's
free and clear of this.
But, like I would say sometimesI wish I could get a lobotomy
so that I can actuallydisconnect from these negative
thoughts and like negativeemotions and.
I had no idea the power ofworking with the unconscious
mind, yeah.
So I then did a deep dive.
I mean, I had the biggestquantum leap I ever had in my
life.
I literally took thatcertification, got my master's,
(08:51):
got board certified, and then Ilaunched Power and Joy Coaching
Academy, which that was.
I haven't had my three-yearanniversary in October, so
that's a little snippet of thestory.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Yeah Well, and I feel like the aha for many is going
to come from.
Oh my gosh, that's me.
I get in the negative spiral,the victim mentality, the
emotional mess where I don'tknow how to get myself out of
this, and goodness knows, that'swhat leads to health issues.
I mean, we talk about all thetime on the podcast these things
come up people pleasingperfectionism, all those fun
(09:25):
things.
I think most of our listenersknow what hypnosis is, just
because of me, and I know whatthe other two are, but I would
love for you to expand upon them.
What's NLP?
How can it help someone?
And then same thing withtimeline therapy.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
Yeah, so NLP.
I mean NLP is a lot ofdifferent modalities, but
ultimately it's studyingexcellence and it's actually
modeling excellence.
And it also it's all aboutlanguage and how you're using
language not only incommunication skills and how
you're being more in control ofyour state versus your state
(10:04):
being in control of you.
So it's very like, it's very.
It's a lot of unconscious workand subconscious work too, and
timeline therapy is it's.
I would say it's a hybrid ofNLP and hypnosis work.
It works, it's, it could be, itcould be very fast technique
(10:27):
that helps people release angers, fear, hurt, guilt, at the
unconscious level.
And it's.
They're pretty like, once I getmy clients going on it like I
can do the do the techniquewithin like I don't know,
sometimes five to 15 minutes,and then I'll be like so, like
I'll do the do the techniquewithin like I don't know,
sometimes five to 15 minutes,and then I'll be like so, like
(10:49):
I'll be like before they go in.
I'm like so, have you, um, haveyou ever thought, can you think
about an event in the pastwhere you used to be able to
feel anger?
And they'll be like oh yeah,I've got a few of those and I'm
like yeah, exactly Like oh myGod, I can go back 10 years ago.
And then, after I take themthrough the process, I'm like
(11:11):
all right, so how do you feelabout that anger now?
And they're like hmm, yeah, Imean I knew it was there but
like I don't feel it atall anymore.
It's wild, yeah, it's wild, sothat's a really.
And then it also supports withreleasing negative decisions
(11:32):
like I'm unworthy, I'm unlovable, I don't deserve it, I'm fear
of, you know, fear of successand things like that.
And then I do also, I've evenlike, since that, you know,
since three, you know three,four years ago, I've added
certifications in trauma andPSTD.
So then I even take thosetechniques even deeper and do
(11:55):
like trauma releases, supportpeople on releasing anything
that's getting in their way withPTSD.
And then one more thing I'dlike to share about with even
NLP, with cause, like it's solike when you're with language
is so powerful.
I was actually even liketalking to my 12 year old nephew
(12:15):
last night about it, about howto like have his own language,
cause you know I was teachinghim.
I'm like, okay, so you've,you've heard of the unconscious
mind and he has.
And I said the unconscious minddoesn't process a direct
negative.
So if I say to you, do notthink about a purple pig.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
I was like did you think about any?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
of those and he's like, yeah, I'm like okay, so
consider, when you're thinkingabout all the things you don't
want to happen, you're stillattracting that.
So it's shifting to focus onwhat you want instead.
And it sounds so easy and it'sso fascinating to me when I'm
(12:58):
talking to people how they talkso much and like I don't want
this, I don't want that, I won't, don't want, blah, blah, blah,
blah, blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
And then it's like really retraining them to be so
consciously aware how they'retalking to themselves and out
loud, and I'm same with myclients on a physical healing
journey.
Um, and we talk aboutsubconscious unconscious.
Will you explain that a littlebit for those that are like oh,
I don't understand what theunconscious is, how do you know
(13:29):
what the unconscious is evendoing?
Because it's unconscious.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
Hilarious, I know right.
Well, here's the thing.
We have an unconscious.
Well, I mean you can go intodifferent layers.
There's the conscioussubconscious.
I mean, you know, you can gointo different layers, like
there's the conscious,subconscious, unconscious, and
then there's a higherconsciousness, like in a
spirituality which I believe,and so ultimately, your
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unconscious mind runs at about95 to 97% of decision making
behaviors and people are justeven unaware of it, like most
people are just on autopilot,and a lot of times what's
happening is people areconstantly self-sabotaging
themselves because theunconscious mind is where, like
(14:17):
the emotion, it's the domain ofthe emotions and it's the domain
of the unfortunately positivebelief systems and then negative
ones, and then, when thenegative ones are really deep
and the negative ones and thepositive ones were most likely
formed during the ages of likezero to seven, seven and
(14:40):
possibly in the womb, becausepeople's unconscious minds are
like little critical, uncritical, little sponges gathering up
the good, bad and the uglyaround them.
And even if they have, like themost amazing parents that are
working on doing everything,well, I'll just say quote,
unquote, right, they can have arun in with some stranger on the
(15:06):
street and it could be anegative situation and that
could have formed some negativebelief system.
So I mean, even if we go backto like primitive days, like how
the primitive mind works, theunconscious mind is designed to
protect you, even though it'sweirdly not sabotaging you.
Yeah, yeah.
So when you have, when yourconscious and your unconscious
(15:31):
are incongruent with each other,that's where, again, a lot of
the self-sabotaging comes in.
I love to use the analogy oflike an elephant.
Like, if you think about anelephant, that's your
unconscious, and then, if you'resitting on top of your elephant
, your conscious mind.
And if you're, if you'resitting on your elephant, you're
(15:51):
like I'm going to go start abusiness and make a half a
million dollars.
And elephant is like oh hell,no, you're not.
What if you fail?
What if people judge you?
What if you lose all your money?
Like we can go on a you know,like a but and then your
elephant kicks you off.
(16:11):
So what I love to do is I loveto work with people to retrain
the elephant.
So the elephant is like I know,I'm like releasing all that
stuff that no longer servespeople.
So now the elephant's likesomeone's, like I'm going to go
start a business and make a halfa million.
The elephant's like yeah, weare, we deserve this, we have
all the knowledge to do this, wecan, we're flexible, we can
(16:34):
learn and grow and you know allthe things.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
So then now you have your conscious and unconscious
congruent with each other andthey're actually going in the
same direction now, yeah, whichis so important, and I feel like
that's where a lot ofself-sabotage comes in around
health too, yes, people dealingwith chronic health issues.
So how does the unconscious,subconscious, mind, impact our
(17:02):
physical healing?
Speaker 3 (17:06):
the unconscious, subconscious mind, impact our
physical healing.
Oh my God, I mean I, I firstinformed, I mean I a hundred
percent know, I can speak fromexperience on this one because
you know, I, I didn't have andeveryone's pretty clear this I'm
very mindful of installing, um,I've, I personally had breast
cancer not once, twice, oh mygoodness.
And my personal belief systemis, and I, you know, I follow
(17:29):
people like Deepak Chopra andLouise Hay and I am not I just
want to say I'm not a doctor, soI always tell people to, you
know, do their own research.
And it's just was really I feellike from two traumatic events,
one, first one being my divorceand then the second one filing
(17:50):
bankruptcy and trying to buy myown business back from dark
night of the soul year.
So it was even just weird howfile divorce two and like it was
almost like two and a halfyears later, like I was like I
was training for a marathon thefirst time I got it and I was
(18:10):
feeling really great.
And I was like I came, I gotcalled back from a mammogram and
I was like, are you kidding me?
Like I'm training for amarathon, how could I possibly
have this?
And then did again, did all myhealing work, all the things.
And then you know, now it's2019, dark night of the soul
(18:31):
year.
I come out of that, sell mybusiness, reinvent my life, have
these quantum leaps, and I'mlike, I'm like, oh my gosh, I
love my life, I love my business, I'm so excited.
I literally walk into 2022,which is two and a half years
later, got a re-diagnosis and Iwas like, are you kidding me?
(18:56):
It was just, it's just weirdhow the timing was, and like I
and but I will tell you this,though, because of the work that
I do now, I did have the mostemotionally healthy year I ever
had in 2022.
While navigating through surgery, radiation, chemotherapy, I
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actually and I just I justlaunched Power and Joy Coaching
Academy.
So it was like I was like leftto my own devices, generating
revenue and income and sales,and I still had over a
six-figure year and I worked 50%less at the time.
So I just I'm, just I'm a huge,and that's this is another
(19:41):
reason why I decided to get mycertifications in trauma and
PSTD, so I could support peopleon releasing that stuff.
Because I just I'm I'm a firmbeliever of the mind, body and
soul connection andunfortunately, unfortunately.
This is why I'm like everyonestart working on your mental
health now.
(20:02):
You know, the more you work onyour mental health now, that's
going to just, that's going toserve you in your body and your
cellular system down the line.
You know, I don't, I don'tthink people need to wait to
have some, like, dark night ofthe soul or traumatic experience
to work on their mental health.
Like, please, by all means,like, do it before.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
Yeah, mental health, like, please, by all means, like
, do it before.
Yeah, you're preaching to thechoir over here Because, yeah, I
mean, I tell people symptomsdon't just come on, they don't
just happen, the body doesn'tdecide.
One day, you know what I thinkI'm not going to function
properly.
We're doing something and it alot of times starts in the mind,
with our emotions, withsomething traumatic, and, yes,
it creates a ripple effect.
I'm mind with our emotions,with something traumatic and,
(20:44):
yes, it creates a ripple effect.
I'm not saying, hey, just cleanup those emotions and
everything's going to go away.
No, then you have to take careof what deficiencies have come
about.
How has this impacted my gut?
Am I absorbing things?
And you know, there's a nicelittle ripple effect that
happens.
But yeah, we can't wait.
I tell people, by the timesymptoms come on, I'm not going
to say too late, right, it'snever too late, yeah yeah, yeah.
(21:06):
But you're past that point oflike oh shoot, now I have to try
to backtrack and we can't.
And a lot of times we ignorethose initial symptoms, right?
They present as little whispersof like oh gosh, I'm getting a
headache three times a month,but it's fine, it's not that big
of a deal.
And then they get louder, andlouder, and louder and then
they're screaming at you andit's like oh crap.
(21:27):
Well, yeah, I had all theseevents happen and I don't know
how to slow down and I have noboundaries.
Was I supposed to do somethingwith that?
Yeah, every day we working onthat every day.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
Yeah, so it's I, I'm, so, I'm an advocate like and
it's.
You know, I love statistics, soI'm always like reading
statistics and like looking themup and you know, it's like you
know, on the entrepreneur level,like how many entrepreneurs
it's 81 percent of entrepreneurssuffer silently.
Like they're not, they're not,they're they're.
(22:05):
And I did it myself.
Like I was the queen of lookingamazing.
Everyone thought I like had itall together and like was always
on vacation or always doingsomething, and like I was
literally, yeah, I would havefun don't get me wrong but like
I would literally like I wouldmy anxiety.
Well, I need to.
I keep reframing myself.
Somebody actually pointed itout to me.
They're like it's the, it's notmy.
Yeah, yeah, so I just I keepreframing myself.
Somebody actually pointed itout to me.
They're like it's the, it's notmy, and I'm like yeah, so I
(22:27):
just I keep catching myself.
So I do this work in real time.
Yes, we should be.
I live by it, right?
So that was just a.
That was just me catchingmyself right there.
So delete the, my the.
The anxiety used to be like ona scale of one to 100.
It was like 150.
That's how.
(22:48):
And it was weird because Iliterally had to retrain my
nervous system, yeah, how to letit go and get out of that, like
you know, flight, fight, flightor fight mode, fight or fight
mode.
So it was like I think, likereflecting back then, like I was
literally and a lot of peopleare like this and they don't
(23:08):
realize it addicted to thenegative emotion, yeah.
And then when I was like off ofit, I was like, oh, this is
weird.
Yeah, how do I wait, how do Ifeel this is so weird?
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Like I had to get used to the the, the feeling of
feeling like, oh, light andrelaxed, you know, and people
get addicted to the stress,which sounds really funny.
When I've talked about this,that was me like not knowing how
to slow down, because it's likeas soon as I did, it's like,
well, what do I do Now?
I'm getting tired, like if Istayed busy, my energy stayed up
(23:46):
, and I mean, hello, cortisolissues, but women especially,
but entrepreneurs too, likethat's a whole beast on its own.
Speaker 3 (23:56):
Yeah, I mean we can you know?
I mean, again, you know peoplethat are not entrepreneurs.
They have, you know, they havetheir own stress and all the
things and what you, if you're astay at home mom or you're
working in corporate or you know, whatever you're doing in life,
it's just, unfortunately, Ilove, like I love.
Do you listen to Joe Dispenza?
You do, yeah, so I was, I likeI was like binging his books
(24:21):
over the summer, all three ofthem, like three of them that he
has and he, you know, he reallytalks about like how you know,
back in the caveman days, thatflight or fight mode served us,
you know, and then, as weevolved over humans, it hasn't
necessarily gone away and peopleare addicted to the stress and
(24:44):
the fear and like the survivalmode and all there is to do.
Really, I mean it sounds easiersaid than done and I think it
can be super easy, but commit to, you know, working with your
unconscious mind, reprogrammingyour mind, releasing cellularly,
(25:06):
mentally, physically,emotionally, those limiting
decisions and those negativeemotions that no longer serve
you, because I believe thatthose negative emotions can get
harbored in your cellular system.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
They do, creating issues in the tissues.
So loaded question.
I ask these pretty much onevery episode too.
But how does someone getstarted with retraining, like,
is there something they can doin this moment to start
retraining?
Speaker 3 (25:36):
I like to go to like the easiest thing that I like to
say.
Even when I'm, you know, doingmy own intro trainings with
people is like even startingbreath'm.
You know, doing my own introtrainings with people is like
even starting breath work.
You know, doing that somaticbreath work.
There's two.
My go-tos are doing alternatenostril breathing.
Where you're breathing in, youknow you close one nostril.
You deep, deep breath in, closethe you know close that side.
(25:59):
Breathe out, breathe in, thenkeep alternating for at least 90
seconds.
I actually had a client of mineI did add a client of mine that
she was getting ready to do apresentation and she was like
texting me and saying oh my gosh, I'm really worried and
stressed out and I was like allright, pull, pull your car over.
(26:22):
And she did.
And I told her I had told herto do that exact practice.
And she messaged me after thepresentation was over.
She goes oh my gosh, I can'teven believe how centered and
grounded I felt.
So I would say and then myother go-to is like let's just
say you're even in real timewith someone and you know, and
you're feeling like you're evenin real time with someone and
(26:43):
you know, and you're feelinglike you're noticing yourself
being triggered.
Um, I would do the boxbreathing because I mean, I
think, like doing that, like allof a sudden you're breaking out
your people are like what areyou doing?
what are you doing so for?
To be like, uh, you know, likeless conspicuous, like you can
just do box breathing, which is,and then that's like breathing
(27:04):
in, slowly, breathing in for thecount of four, holding for the
count of four, releasing for thecount of four, holding for the
count of four, and then um, andthen uh, yeah, do that at least
four times.
Just you know, you couldprobably easily Like, but now
I'm really noticing what you'redoing yes, and pausing.
(27:25):
There's so much power in thepause, so when you practice
pausing, you're going toactually start retraining your
brain to do those automatics.
You know the automatic crying,the automatic.
Wanting to yell, the automatic.
If that's you know someone'sgo-to, uh, the automatic.
(27:45):
You know, my automatics used tobe like I'd either start crying
, I'd scream at you or I wouldlike run away.
I gotta go so love breathwork.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
We've definitely talked about that.
Um, had some breathwork expertscome in and it's.
It's such a simple one, andthat's the thing, and that's
what I'm always telling peopleis we overcomplicate things.
I'd rather go to the simplethings.
Yeah, pause, because whenyou're doing simple hacks of
breathwork, you're being presentand then you can start to
(28:20):
reflect.
If you immediately go intoreaction, you can't reflect and
you can't be like well, how am Iemotionally feeling right now
and how am I processing this anddo I need to move my attention?
And that's not going to happenunless you ground yourself and
get present in that moment.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
I'm actually in the process of getting my breathwork
certification, so it's possibleby the time you're listening to
this, I could already have it.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
Yeah, nice.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
So it is pretty powerful.
I love all these different likesomatic modalities, like, if
you add, like even I love doingmeditation work with my clients,
like somatic meditation andvisualization work.
They're so powerful,visualization work, they're so
(29:09):
powerful.
And it was so funny becausewhen I took my first coaching
certification, there was aweekend where it was
spirituality weekend and we didmeditation.
Back then I was like all I keptthinking to myself was when is
this going to be over?
When is this going to be over?
So if you are listening to thisand you are like, oh, I have a
(29:30):
really hard time meditating,know that I was there at one
point and now I'm obsessed withit and I love it and I do it
every.
It's a practice I do everysingle day and every single
night Same.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
It used to be a big challenge for me.
I mean hypnosis, meditation,breathwork, any of it was a
challenge.
And now it's like I crave it.
Speaker 3 (29:49):
I can't wait to do it , yeah, yeah.
And I think people have themisconception.
I mean, yes, you can get to apoint, I believe, when you could
possibly clear your mind andliterally think of nothing.
But I think people have thatmisconception that like they try
to do hypnosis and they they'relike I can't get my mind to
stop.
That's totally normal, it'stotally okay and it's a practice
(30:14):
.
Yeah, and it's a practice and aprocess.
So all you got to do is just,it's just.
I say it's just like if you, ifyour mind wanders, you just got
to bring it back and that's it.
That's why I do love to startwith people is doing the more
visualization meditations,because then they do go into
trance, they go deep insidethemselves and they're like
(30:36):
getting connected to their innerself and then getting learnings
while they're in thatmeditation and going through
like the visual, the visualprocesses.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
Awesome.
Well, if people want to findyou, where do they go?
Speaker 3 (30:53):
I'll probably say the easiest way would be on
LinkedIn or Facebook.
Awesome, LinkedIn or Facebook.
You know I have a professionaland personal, but personal is
always welcome.
Cause I you know, talkprofessional on there.
I don't really.
No, I mean, yes, sometimes I'llshow my dog.
(31:14):
She's super cute, but those areprobably the two easiest ways I
would probably say and then myall my resources and if you want
to text me, my phone number'sthere.
Email you know, I'm pretty easyto get a hold of.
I believe I think all thosespammers out there oh goodness,
yeah, the spammers can get ahold of me.
(31:34):
I think anyone can.
Speaker 2 (31:36):
Yeah, right, right.
Well, I will have everything inthe show notes, so you guys
check that, as always.
Thanks for listening.
Thanks for being a guest,bridget, so nice having you on.
Yeah, yeah, and you guys, wewill see you on the next episode
, but first, if there's anytopics you want to hear about,
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