July 28, 2025 • 11 mins
Randy and Beverly jump into some reasons why people - even single people - can benefit from listening to a relationship podcast. Building your relationship skills - like learning to understand Heart and Head styles - isn't just positively life changing with a partner. It can help you navigate work relationships, parenting or finally understanding your weird neighbor. If you've wondered what a relationship podcast like Heart Versus Head can add to your life, give this short 10 minute bonus episode a listen.
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UNKNOWN (00:00):
music music
SPEAKER_00 (00:06):
Welcome to Heart vs.
Head, a podcast that helpscouples communicate
SPEAKER_02 (00:11):
and fight better.
(00:36):
wondering why in the heck shouldI listen to a relationship
podcast?
That's what we're going to hittoday.
Beverly, why should peoplelisten to a relationship
podcast?
SPEAKER_01 (00:46):
Well, there's several reasons.
Obviously, we want a successfulrelationship.
We don't want to be withsomebody that is unsatisfactory,
someone that makes us miserable.
So ultimately, we want to behappy.
They want to be happy.
We want to be happy together.
with that goal of relationshipsuccess, you're probably going
(01:11):
to want to reach out and getsome advice.
You know, this podcast is allabout tips and information,
education we share.
SPEAKER_02 (01:18):
From a head perspective, it's kind of the
old, well, we don't want tosuck.
I don't want to be a badpartner.
I don't want my partner to beangry that I'm a bad partner.
And so it makes sense for me tolisten to a relationship podcast
so I can be a better partner.
We've Bumped into somebody.
We were talking about ourpodcast and they said, I don't
(01:39):
need to listen to your podcast.
I'm not in a relationship, whichis cool.
Thank you for not listening tothe podcast.
However, why should somebody notin a relationship listen to a
relationship podcast?
SPEAKER_01 (01:51):
There are several reasons why someone who is not
in a relationship would seekadvice.
And one of those would be justgetting more clarity about your
own values, your own goals, anyunhealthy patterns that you
might have.
It's also helping you to make abetter match to kind of find
(02:14):
that person that you're lookingfor.
A lot of the heart and the headtheory behind it can help you if
you're single so that you canfigure out, am I looking for a
heart?
Am I looking for a head?
How do I know the difference?
What am I looking for exactly ornot looking for?
You can also, if you're single,learn information about just
(02:34):
emotional intelligence, boundarysetting, better communication
skills.
And all of these things makedating a better, efficient use
of time.
As Randy said, avoid mistakes.
And it helps you to go out therewith and intention, we can reach
our goals much more efficientlyif we are well equipped as we
(02:59):
head out.
Now, I want to throw out there,I'm really known for these
analogies and metaphors, so I'mgoing to give you one today.
If you won the lottery, you cameinto a lot of money, let's say,
there's really a couple ofchoices.
One, you can just wing it onyour own.
SPEAKER_02 (03:16):
Yeah, most lottery winners do not maintain their
fortunes.
SPEAKER_01 (03:21):
The other idea is you could learn from all of that
and say, okay, I just got allthis money.
I am not necessarily moneysavvy.
It's not my forte.
Maybe I should hire some help.
So if it was your money, youwould want to find a coach or
somebody who had the expertiseto give you some guidance.
SPEAKER_02 (03:44):
Okay, sure.
You'd go out, you'd get afinancial advisor.
SPEAKER_01 (03:47):
Right.
We don't learn how to investmoney from school.
We We can through trial anderror, but it's usually not the
best way.
You might lose that entirelottery money before you
realize, oh, that didn't work.
I learned something.
And of course, friends andfamily are going to give you
advice right and left.
That's usually not the bestplace to get advice.
(04:09):
In fact, if you want to lookback at your family growing up,
you know, were theymillionaires?
Probably not.
SPEAKER_02 (04:16):
Drunk Uncle Joe's shrimp shack was not a good
investment of Lottery money.
Okay.
Okay.
It makes sense.
SPEAKER_01 (04:25):
So we get it with money.
Probably not the best person toknow how to get the most out of
that money, how to make it lastmaybe my entire life.
So sure, we could understandgoing to get some advice, some
help, an investment expert.
Think about your relationship.
There's a lot of similaritieshere.
This is a one and done.
(04:46):
Most people don't want to bedivorced.
This is for life.
It's just as important.
as money, if not even more so,because this is your intimate
person, someone that's got yourback, your team member, your
romantic best friend.
Why would you risk losing that,screwing it up, going through
(05:08):
trial and error, getting advicefrom TikTok or some influencer
or somebody who's well-meaningbut has no idea about
relationships?
SPEAKER_02 (05:19):
And that really gets to the third question that we
came up with.
Why in the heck should peoplelisten to us?
Why listen to Randy and Beverly?
Why listen to heart versus head?
First of all, the name talksabout the approach.
We look at this verydifferently.
We look at relationshipsdifferently.
We just do.
We look at it from a perspectiveof the feeling partner, the
(05:44):
partner that is making sureeverybody's okay, that heart
partner, and the logical, yes orno, black, white, color, And
because we look at itdifferently, we understand it
differently and we can make itmake sense for most people.
And that's where we've beensuccessful in our careers as
(06:06):
relationship coaches.
It's really what makes itdifferent, what makes it unique
to us is it works.
It will help you understand yourpartner.
So heart versus head is a reallygreat concept that we've just
found.
that just works.
It's an easier way to look at itwhen you're in a conversation
(06:26):
with your partner.
Somebody's being head-led,somebody's being heart-led, and
it helps you communicate.
Us, from even experiencestandpoint, I make a joke
sometimes.
This is a second marriage forBeverly and I, so we've both
done this before.
We both screwed it up before.
We both had things in ourprevious marriages that we go,
(06:48):
okay, well, I probably shouldhave done that differently or
better or Or I wish my personhad done that differently or
better.
Or I understand why thathappened now and all of those
things.
So you get the experience.
We're not a 30-year-old Instainfluencer.
SPEAKER_01 (07:06):
No offense to them.
SPEAKER_02 (07:07):
No, no.
We know a ton of them.
Awesome, awesome, amazing peoplethat are doing their thing.
But they maybe don't have asmuch experience in some of these
areas as a couple of old people.
Beverly.
SPEAKER_01 (07:23):
Speak for yourself.
I'm wise.
I'm not old.
SPEAKER_02 (07:27):
No, no.
And we're not trying toold-splain anything.
We just want to help youunderstand relationships.
And darn it, we've screwed themup enough and been through
enough that we go, oh, okay,that makes sense.
And we tell our stories.
We talk about our crap.
And sometimes that's reallyhelpful.
This podcast is designed to getyou talking, and that's what we
(07:49):
want to do.
So hopefully you'll listen tosome of these episodes and you
go oh wait they're talking aboutthat and that affects my
relationship and you may noteven be aware of it or know it
go talk to your partner about it
SPEAKER_01 (08:00):
different clients throughout the decade what 12
years that we've been workingwith folks whether they're
clients whether they're couplesindividuals the seminars we've
done for relationships theintensives and the books that
we've written the podcast theblogs that we write we certainly
(08:21):
have Yeah.
Why would you?
Stick with what you know.
This is what we know.
(08:41):
And we love what we do.
We're very passionate about it.
Love helping people figure itout.
And even those that reallyshould break up, love helping
them to understand what wentwrong and what to look for
different next time.
SPEAKER_02 (08:57):
That's what we do.
Beverly, anything you want toadd?
SPEAKER_01 (09:00):
No, I mean, it's hard when you're in a
relationship.
It's like the forest and thetrees.
There's my metaphors.
But it really is hard to seewhat you're doing wrong, whereas
that impartial outsideperspective is really what we
can provide and can do so veryquickly and effectively,
efficiently.
Can
SPEAKER_02 (09:19):
I ask you a really important question?
Why do hearts, when you ask thema question, sometimes give you
an answer and then completelycontradict it?
Well, see, because I asked.
I said, Beverly, is thereanything you want?
to add.
And you said, no.
And then added a bunch of stuff.
It's okay.
I was okay if you wanted to addstuff.
(09:41):
I just wasn't sure why you saidno.
I
SPEAKER_01 (09:47):
wasn't adding.
SPEAKER_02 (09:52):
I know you kept talking.
I was like, wait, she's addingstuff.
She said no.
SPEAKER_01 (10:01):
Okay, yes.
I would like.
SPEAKER_02 (10:05):
Okay, we're finished now.
Okay, now that there's a yes.
Okay, my brain can handle that.
I'm good.
Okay.
Oh, you're done now?
Excellent.
That's a podcast.
That's what we're about.
Thanks for tuning in.
Check out Heart vs.
Head.
We post every Wednesday morning,and we love doing what we're
(10:28):
doing.
So thanks, everybody.
SPEAKER_01 (10:30):
Hello.
UNKNOWN (10:34):
Hello.
SPEAKER_00 (10:41):
Thanks for listening to Heart vs.
Head.
You can learn more atheartandheadcoaching.com and
check out new podcast episodesevery Wednesday.
If you have a question for Randyand Beverly, send an email to
info atheartandheadcoaching.com.
music music
SPEAKER_00 (00:06):
Welcome to Heart vs.
Head, a podcast that helpscouples communicate
SPEAKER_02 (00:11):
and fight better.
(00:36):
wondering why in the heck shouldI listen to a relationship
podcast?
That's what we're going to hittoday.
Beverly, why should peoplelisten to a relationship
podcast?
SPEAKER_01 (00:46):
Well, there's several reasons.
Obviously, we want a successfulrelationship.
We don't want to be withsomebody that is unsatisfactory,
someone that makes us miserable.
So ultimately, we want to behappy.
They want to be happy.
We want to be happy together.
with that goal of relationshipsuccess, you're probably going
(01:11):
to want to reach out and getsome advice.
You know, this podcast is allabout tips and information,
education we share.
SPEAKER_02 (01:18):
From a head perspective, it's kind of the
old, well, we don't want tosuck.
I don't want to be a badpartner.
I don't want my partner to beangry that I'm a bad partner.
And so it makes sense for me tolisten to a relationship podcast
so I can be a better partner.
We've Bumped into somebody.
We were talking about ourpodcast and they said, I don't
(01:39):
need to listen to your podcast.
I'm not in a relationship, whichis cool.
Thank you for not listening tothe podcast.
However, why should somebody notin a relationship listen to a
relationship podcast?
SPEAKER_01 (01:51):
There are several reasons why someone who is not
in a relationship would seekadvice.
And one of those would be justgetting more clarity about your
own values, your own goals, anyunhealthy patterns that you
might have.
It's also helping you to make abetter match to kind of find
(02:14):
that person that you're lookingfor.
A lot of the heart and the headtheory behind it can help you if
you're single so that you canfigure out, am I looking for a
heart?
Am I looking for a head?
How do I know the difference?
What am I looking for exactly ornot looking for?
You can also, if you're single,learn information about just
(02:34):
emotional intelligence, boundarysetting, better communication
skills.
And all of these things makedating a better, efficient use
of time.
As Randy said, avoid mistakes.
And it helps you to go out therewith and intention, we can reach
our goals much more efficientlyif we are well equipped as we
(02:59):
head out.
Now, I want to throw out there,I'm really known for these
analogies and metaphors, so I'mgoing to give you one today.
If you won the lottery, you cameinto a lot of money, let's say,
there's really a couple ofchoices.
One, you can just wing it onyour own.
SPEAKER_02 (03:16):
Yeah, most lottery winners do not maintain their
fortunes.
SPEAKER_01 (03:21):
The other idea is you could learn from all of that
and say, okay, I just got allthis money.
I am not necessarily moneysavvy.
It's not my forte.
Maybe I should hire some help.
So if it was your money, youwould want to find a coach or
somebody who had the expertiseto give you some guidance.
SPEAKER_02 (03:44):
Okay, sure.
You'd go out, you'd get afinancial advisor.
SPEAKER_01 (03:47):
Right.
We don't learn how to investmoney from school.
We We can through trial anderror, but it's usually not the
best way.
You might lose that entirelottery money before you
realize, oh, that didn't work.
I learned something.
And of course, friends andfamily are going to give you
advice right and left.
That's usually not the bestplace to get advice.
(04:09):
In fact, if you want to lookback at your family growing up,
you know, were theymillionaires?
Probably not.
SPEAKER_02 (04:16):
Drunk Uncle Joe's shrimp shack was not a good
investment of Lottery money.
Okay.
Okay.
It makes sense.
SPEAKER_01 (04:25):
So we get it with money.
Probably not the best person toknow how to get the most out of
that money, how to make it lastmaybe my entire life.
So sure, we could understandgoing to get some advice, some
help, an investment expert.
Think about your relationship.
There's a lot of similaritieshere.
This is a one and done.
(04:46):
Most people don't want to bedivorced.
This is for life.
It's just as important.
as money, if not even more so,because this is your intimate
person, someone that's got yourback, your team member, your
romantic best friend.
Why would you risk losing that,screwing it up, going through
(05:08):
trial and error, getting advicefrom TikTok or some influencer
or somebody who's well-meaningbut has no idea about
relationships?
SPEAKER_02 (05:19):
And that really gets to the third question that we
came up with.
Why in the heck should peoplelisten to us?
Why listen to Randy and Beverly?
Why listen to heart versus head?
First of all, the name talksabout the approach.
We look at this verydifferently.
We look at relationshipsdifferently.
We just do.
We look at it from a perspectiveof the feeling partner, the
(05:44):
partner that is making sureeverybody's okay, that heart
partner, and the logical, yes orno, black, white, color, And
because we look at itdifferently, we understand it
differently and we can make itmake sense for most people.
And that's where we've beensuccessful in our careers as
(06:06):
relationship coaches.
It's really what makes itdifferent, what makes it unique
to us is it works.
It will help you understand yourpartner.
So heart versus head is a reallygreat concept that we've just
found.
that just works.
It's an easier way to look at itwhen you're in a conversation
(06:26):
with your partner.
Somebody's being head-led,somebody's being heart-led, and
it helps you communicate.
Us, from even experiencestandpoint, I make a joke
sometimes.
This is a second marriage forBeverly and I, so we've both
done this before.
We both screwed it up before.
We both had things in ourprevious marriages that we go,
(06:48):
okay, well, I probably shouldhave done that differently or
better or Or I wish my personhad done that differently or
better.
Or I understand why thathappened now and all of those
things.
So you get the experience.
We're not a 30-year-old Instainfluencer.
SPEAKER_01 (07:06):
No offense to them.
SPEAKER_02 (07:07):
No, no.
We know a ton of them.
Awesome, awesome, amazing peoplethat are doing their thing.
But they maybe don't have asmuch experience in some of these
areas as a couple of old people.
Beverly.
SPEAKER_01 (07:23):
Speak for yourself.
I'm wise.
I'm not old.
SPEAKER_02 (07:27):
No, no.
And we're not trying toold-splain anything.
We just want to help youunderstand relationships.
And darn it, we've screwed themup enough and been through
enough that we go, oh, okay,that makes sense.
And we tell our stories.
We talk about our crap.
And sometimes that's reallyhelpful.
This podcast is designed to getyou talking, and that's what we
(07:49):
want to do.
So hopefully you'll listen tosome of these episodes and you
go oh wait they're talking aboutthat and that affects my
relationship and you may noteven be aware of it or know it
go talk to your partner about it
SPEAKER_01 (08:00):
different clients throughout the decade what 12
years that we've been workingwith folks whether they're
clients whether they're couplesindividuals the seminars we've
done for relationships theintensives and the books that
we've written the podcast theblogs that we write we certainly
(08:21):
have Yeah.
Why would you?
Stick with what you know.
This is what we know.
(08:41):
And we love what we do.
We're very passionate about it.
Love helping people figure itout.
And even those that reallyshould break up, love helping
them to understand what wentwrong and what to look for
different next time.
SPEAKER_02 (08:57):
That's what we do.
Beverly, anything you want toadd?
SPEAKER_01 (09:00):
No, I mean, it's hard when you're in a
relationship.
It's like the forest and thetrees.
There's my metaphors.
But it really is hard to seewhat you're doing wrong, whereas
that impartial outsideperspective is really what we
can provide and can do so veryquickly and effectively,
efficiently.
Can
SPEAKER_02 (09:19):
I ask you a really important question?
Why do hearts, when you ask thema question, sometimes give you
an answer and then completelycontradict it?
Well, see, because I asked.
I said, Beverly, is thereanything you want?
to add.
And you said, no.
And then added a bunch of stuff.
It's okay.
I was okay if you wanted to addstuff.
(09:41):
I just wasn't sure why you saidno.
I
SPEAKER_01 (09:47):
wasn't adding.
SPEAKER_02 (09:52):
I know you kept talking.
I was like, wait, she's addingstuff.
She said no.
SPEAKER_01 (10:01):
Okay, yes.
I would like.
SPEAKER_02 (10:05):
Okay, we're finished now.
Okay, now that there's a yes.
Okay, my brain can handle that.
I'm good.
Okay.
Oh, you're done now?
Excellent.
That's a podcast.
That's what we're about.
Thanks for tuning in.
Check out Heart vs.
Head.
We post every Wednesday morning,and we love doing what we're
(10:28):
doing.
So thanks, everybody.
SPEAKER_01 (10:30):
Hello.
UNKNOWN (10:34):
Hello.
SPEAKER_00 (10:41):
Thanks for listening to Heart vs.
Head.
You can learn more atheartandheadcoaching.com and
check out new podcast episodesevery Wednesday.
If you have a question for Randyand Beverly, send an email to
info atheartandheadcoaching.com.
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