In this episode, we dive into the hidden trauma of being “the good one.” We explore the childhood conditions that shape the Good Girl / Good Boy complex, the nervous system patterns it creates, and the emotional toll it takes on our adult relationships, health, and sense of self.
We unpack:
How emotionally unavailable or controlling caregivers shape self-abandonment
The adult signs of chronic people-pleasing, hyper-independence, and perfectionism
How nervous system dysregulation reinforces the “good” performance
Gabor Maté’s research on autoimmune illness and repressed emotion
Why “niceness” isn’t the same as compassion
What it really means to become whole, not just good
I also share a powerful message from someone in my audience who said:
“I love being the good girl. Being empowered feels too masculine. I’ve had to be strong for too long.”
If you’ve ever felt that way — this episode is for you.
We’re unlearning "good" to make space for truth, softness, and self-trust.
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🎥 Watch the LIVE [Good Girls Gone Bad] with Psychotherapist Yelna here: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DMhtrQIsVO9/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
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