In this episode, LawBooBoo claws into one of the most insidious parts of legal culture: gaslighting.
From partners who rewrite reality to HR policies that “protect everyone” (but somehow never you), this episode exposes how sensitivity gets weaponised, suffering is framed as tradition, and truth gets quietly edited until you start doubting your own memory.
Through biting commentary and real stories from the claw-firm trenches, LawBooBoo explores how institutional gaslighting keeps lawyers compliant — and how reclaiming your reality is the first act of rebellion.
The Advocats is a fictional “Claw Firm” that tells real anonymous stories of lawyer burnout — to make you laugh, wince, and maybe rethink the culture we’ve normalised.
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Key Takeaways
Gaslighting isn’t just interpersonal — it’s institutional.
Sensitivity is not weakness; it’s perception sharpened by empathy.
“Tradition” is not a valid defence for cruelty.
Policies often protect the firm, not the people.
Minimisation is a control tactic, not perspective.
Reframing abuse as “learning” is manipulation, not mentorship.
Document everything — for your sanity, not for HR.
- Your feelings are data.
- Self-advocacy is the antidote to gaslighting.
Sound Bites
“It’s all theatre.”
“The resignation mirage.”
“Your feelings are data.”
Chapters
00:00 — Gaslighting in Legal Culture00:23 — I Am The Advocat
00:50 — The Sensitivity Diagnosis02:00 — The Tradition Defence (When Abuse Becomes Culture)
02:54 — The Reality Revision
03:53 — Institutional Gaslighting
04:59 — Policy Theatre
06:11 — The Resignation Mirage
07:19 — Everything That Hurts You Gets Minimised
08:14 — The Reframe Game
08:58 — Challenge Yourself: Call It What It Is
09:16 — Mental Inventory Check
10:19 — The Reality Anchor (How to Stay Grounded)
11:10 — Litterbox Wisdom
11:51 — Closing: When You’re Questioning Yourself
Keywords: gaslighting, legal culture, sensitivity, tradition defense, reality revision, institutional gaslighting, minimization, mental health, workplace trauma, self-advocacy
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