You Can Leave and Still Like Yourself

The season finale of I Am The Advocat is about the hardest decision most professionals will ever make: the choice to leave.

In You Can Leave and Still Like Yourself, LawBooBoo unpacks the emotional calculus of resignation: the guilt, the fear, and the quiet relief that follows. From sunk costs and identity collapse to the subtle shame of “giving up,” this episode redefines what it really means to quit well.

Because sometimes the bravest thing you can do isn’t to push through, it’s to step out.

LawBooBoo explores how leaving a toxic environment can be an act of self-respect, not failure, and how rebuilding your sense of worth after burnout is less about reinvention and more about remembrance.

The Advocats is a fictional “Claw Firm” that tells real anonymous stories of lawyer burnout — to make you laugh, wince, and maybe rethink the culture we’ve normalised. 

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Key Takeaways

• You are not obligated to meet anyone else’s expectations.
  

• Leaving a toxic job is not weakness — it’s self-preservation.
  

• Your past experiences aren’t wasted; they were training.
  

• The right question isn’t “What will people think?” — it’s “What will this cost me if I stay?”
  

• Your identity is bigger than your job title.
  

• Resume gaps can signal wisdom, not failure.
  

• Quitting can be an act of clarity, not collapse.
  

• Redefining success starts with telling the truth about what no longer fits.
  

• Courage isn’t loud — sometimes it’s a quiet, private yes to yourself.
  

• You can leave and still like yourself more.

Sound Bites

“You are not your job.”

“The liberation realization.”

“You have permission to start over.”

Chapters

00:00 Permission to Leave: The Disappointment Cascade

00:57 The Disappointment Cascade

01:48 Confronting The Failure Narrative

02:13 Paws For Thought, Bestie

02:29 Sunk Costs - Did I Waste The Best Years Of My Life?

03:21 Stay Or Go? WRONG Question

03:27: 3 Questions You NEED To Ask

03:55 Identity Crisis: Who Are You Without Your Job?

04:42 Navigating Resume Gap Anxiety

05:20 Not Lying… REFRAMING

05:31 Paws for (TOXIC) Thought

05:46 Walking Away: WISDOM

06:35 The Liberation Realization: Finding Freedom

07:23 A Reflection For YOU

07:42 Rage Quit REGRET

08:46 Mental Inventory Check: Future Self Reflection

10:34 Permission to Start Over: Redefining Success

11:49 Litterbox Wisdom: Courage to Choose Yourself