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Unlock the secrets of your body in this episode as we delve into the intriguing messages sent by your nervous system. Learn how to recognize and respond to the signs of nervous system dysregulation and the simple yet transformative changes you can implement today for your wellbeing. Our engaging discussion covers essential topics like the impact of the fight-or-flight response, the importance of the vagus nerve, and effective techniques to restore your natural state of calm.

Discover valuable techniques such as deep, belly breathing to activate your body's healing processes and make your way back to balance. We also touch on the vital role of social connections in nurturing emotional wellness, showing that human interaction can significantly mitigate stress and anxiety.

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Emily (00:02):
Your body is constantly talking to you, but are you
listening?
Today, we'll break down thesigns of the nervous system
dysregulation and the simpleshifts that we can help you feel
safe and control again.
Welcome to it Starts at Vagus.
The podcast where holistichealth meets modern living.

(00:23):
I'm Emily, your guide tounlocking the power of the vagus
nerve, which is your body'sultimate key to calm, connection
and overall well-being.
Together, we'll explore simpleways to nourish your mind and
body with natural remedies,actionable tips and empowering
stories.
Whether you're here to reducestress, restore balance or take

(00:45):
charge of your health, you're inthe right place, because
wellness doesn't just happen.
It starts at Vagus.
Let's dive in.
Your body is constantly sendingyou signals about your nervous
system, but how are you payingattention?
Today, we're going to breakdown the signs of dysregulation
and explore simple ways to bringyourself back into balance.

(01:11):
So first off, you might bewondering what is nervous system
dysregulation?
So just in a brief bit, it'show the autonomic nervous system
works.
The autonomic nervous systemhas two main branches the
sympathetic and theparasympathetic.
The sympathetic nervous system,that is our fight or flight

(01:38):
action.
It's when we're scared soscared and sympathetic both.
That S's.
It kind of helps you remember.
But it is activated when you'restressed or you're preparing
your body to respond to dangerby views of threat.
So when your body feels asbeing threatened, it starts

(01:59):
saying okay, let's increase yourheart rate, let's tense your
muscles, get them ready to runor fight, be prepared.
And at the same time your mindstarts sharpening its focus.
You can really just payattention to what's going on,
but it's usually payingattention to the problem.

(02:23):
It's paying attention to theproblem.
It's guarding itself.
It wants to make sure that itcan feel safe when it doesn't
feel like it's in a safesituation.
Now the parasympathetic nervoussystem.
The second part is our rest anddigest.
It helps you relax, recover.

(02:43):
It helps you restore yourbalance by slowing down your
heart rate and you can breatheslower, deeper, and this in turn
helps improve your digestionand promotes that overall
calmness feeling.
And this is where we start usingthe vagus nerve.

(03:06):
It's where we're saying, okay,we're kind of in that fight or
flight response.
Now let's help our system calmdown, get out of that guarded
feeling, so that our body canjust rest, digest and be happy.

(03:27):
It just wants to calm down.
It doesn't need to be on guardall the time, but I do need to
make a note that thisdysregulation isn't bad per se.
It is more of a survivalresponse.
It's a really good thing wehave it.
We just don't need it to getstuck in that mode, and that's

(03:51):
where I see a lot of my clientsthat come in with high anxiety.
That's where they get stuck inthat cycle of stress, tense
muscles, and then the tensemuscles feed their stress and it
kind of gets that cycle andthat's what we really focus on
to interrupt that, that feedingcycle.

(04:14):
So that is what I want to sharewith you is just how that vagus
nerve is such a key and an easyone, a simple, easy, pain-free
way to bring our body back tobeing calm.
So now that we know a bit aboutthe sympathetic nerve system and

(04:35):
the fight or flight and theshutdown, let's discuss the
signs.
So this is what really got meinterested in the beginning,
when I was digging more intoabout the vagus nerve.
What caught my attention isthat it connects so many dots
and explained why some peoplewere really stressed out and

(04:58):
guarded and while other clientsthat I was working with really
just like shut down and it wouldtake them moments to respond to
a question, and so the tworeally are different.
They're still in that thatscared feeling, but it's just a

(05:20):
different way how they respond.
It's how their body just saysokay, which degree do we need to
take it?
So even though they're bothactivated by the sympathetic
nervous system, they stillpresent differently.
So the fight or flight signswould be feeling anxious or

(05:42):
restless, kind of on the edge.
You've got the racing thoughtsand the difficulty of focusing
on things that aren't urgent inyour mind.
So you might have all theseunderlying feelings and fears
and then therefore have a hardertime focusing things that your

(06:04):
body doesn't put priority on.
Because again, your brain sayslet's make sure you're safe.
And if it doesn't, if it's notin that realm of worrying about
you keeping safe, it might justpush it away.
So it's not going to puturgency on resting because it's
not sure if it's safe.
And so this is where we startgetting easily irritated at

(06:31):
little things reactive.
Irritated at little thingsreactive.
We get tension in our body withlike jaw clenching or tight
shoulders, even stomach issues.
All of that is part of thefight or flight.
But the shutdown part, which ispart of the dorsal vagal
response, it has the fatigue,the low energy, kind of like the

(07:05):
, the checked out, I can't, Ican't even respond.
It has that kind of sign.
It's where they start feelingnumb or disconnected from
emotions.
Because it just gets sooverwhelming the brain just goes
that's enough done, just shutdown because it's too much.
Your brain does put priority onthings.
Um, a good example of this ofthe brain putting priority is

(07:32):
let's pretend you of the brainputting priority is let's
pretend you, you know, get apaper cut on your finger Now
that's, you know, not enjoyableand it gets your attention.
But if you were to slam yourhand in a door, the other hand

(07:53):
your brain's going to focus onthat hand, not the paper cut.
So it really just says, hey,which one needs the most
attention, which one's mostcritical for us to survive?
And that is after a while itjust says let's put these in
priority, let's put these inpriority.
And if it gets too much and tooheavy, your brain just says you

(08:25):
know what?
Just, we're just going to pauseand ignore it.
Kind of like when you slam yourhand in the door, sometimes it's
such an adrenaline rush youdon't even feel the pain until a
few moments later.
Like you know, it should hurt.
But when you first slam it it'ssuch an intense feeling that it
doesn't even process.
And that's kind of what happenswhen we're just too bombarded.

(08:48):
It's too heavy of a feeling.
We just need to shut downbecause that's the only way the
body's like we need to rest andyou're not resting, so we're
just going to make you.
And that is where we startavoiding people and
procrastinate, because it'sagain another thing that our

(09:10):
body's just like nope, we've gottoo much on our hands.
Right now we're just going totake ourselves and we're going
to hide, because, again, thebody or the brain wants to keep
us safe and until it feels safe,it's going to protect it in any
way that it can.
So how do we shift back intoregulating to where we can go

(09:34):
from protective and survival tothat rest and digest, deep belly
breathing to get that full lungexpansion, diaphragm extension,
because that's where we'rereally going to get that oxygen

(10:05):
in.
It helps tone our vagus nervebecause, again, the vagus nerve
is part of our breathing andwhen we're in that fight or
flight we often breathe with ourshoulders so we can get those
really short breaths and they'renot very full of oxygen because
they're just short.
We're just breathing with ourupper traps, but when we breathe
with our diaphragm it helps getour lungs full of oxygen and

(10:30):
that in turn will help us slowdown.
That oxygen is going to helprelax your muscles and you will
start feeling calmer.
You can also incorporate somegentle movement.
So if you just want to do anice little walk, a little brisk

(10:50):
walk Again, we're not going torun like we're in danger, but a
nice calm walk is really reallyhelpful.
It helps clear your brain andit says okay, we're strolling,
and strolling means thatnobody's chasing us, so we're
fine.
If you are experiencing thatshutdown mode where life just

(11:14):
feels too heavy, the, in myopinion, one of the best ones to
activate that vagus nerve is tocall a friend.
You know it's start gettingthat social engagement, because
with social engagement werealize that that vagus nerve is
working really well.

(11:35):
We feel better when we havesomeone to talk to.
So if you have a friend, oreven if you have a pet, and you
just start making that eyecontact with them, it helps you
feel that all is well and ithelps you getting out of that

(11:56):
feeling of the doom and gloomand not sure of what the world
is going to present itself whenyou make those connections.
It helps just like ease that up.
And it's just such a goodfeeling when you have a friend
just to talk to and relate toand if they have you know

(12:18):
experiences where they shut down.
You know it's really justhelping each other and bringing
that community feeling.
And we're humans, we're meantto interact with one another.
So that's probably one of myfavorite ones.
But sometimes it's overwhelming,we don't even want to do that.
So we can do gentle movementagain, but this time it's going

(12:39):
to be more rocking, moresoothing type of motions.
You can do some stretching andlet's just say you're even in
your bed and you're not evenwilling to get out, where you
can do that, even just likewiggling your toes and your
fingers.

(13:00):
That helps just activate somemotion in you and it starts
feeling better Again.
It's just you have some controlof it and it will start that
that domino effect to where youcan start feeling like, okay, I

(13:21):
wiggled, now I can get out ofbed and maybe I can shower.
Or if I can't do that, I cancall my friend, I can lift up my
phone, give my friend a call.
So all those little things.
We just need little steps tomake it feel better.
It's just that snowball effect,little little things.
We are not looking for bigthings, just simple steps,

(13:47):
because there may be times thatyou're just in the thick of it
of either that fight or flightor the shutdown and you don't
know what the step is.
My recommendation, then, is tofocus on your breathing.
It's a good go-to Again.
It tones the vagus nerve, itslows everything down, so your

(14:09):
brain goes okay, we're not beingchased, we're not in a panic
Oxygen getting all over.
Your're not in a panic Oxygengetting all over your body is
always a plus Getting thosenutrients moving within your
body.
And it's easy to do.
It's free, it's painless, theseare just simple things.

(14:31):
It's painless, these are justsimple things.
And if you can't rememberbreathe out, just do a slow,
deep breath out, because you'reautomatically going to breathe
in.
Your body's going to requirethat.
So if you take a slow, deepbreath out, you're going to

(15:00):
bring in that air.
So at minimum, if you're havingjust a really, really hard day,
just breathe out and again thatbreathing in will happen, and
then you can focus on am I bellybreathing If I put my hand on
my tummy?
Does my hand go up and down.
If not, you might be breathingwith your upper traps in your

(15:22):
chest, but we really do wantthat belly breathing.
To get that full expansion ofyour diaphragm and that's just
one way to tell is if your handgoes up and down off of your
belly when you breathe in andout.
So just do that for a fewminutes and regroup, say does
this make me feel better?
Is there another thing that Ican do and get the ball rolling

(15:44):
from then?
And if you can't, then justkeep breathing.
If anything, you'll just take anice little nap which goes back
into that rest and digest thecalm state, and that's always
when a nap is always a win, inmy opinion.
So just remember that when youget into this fight or flight,

(16:07):
or even the shutdown, it's yourbody's way of protecting you, or
even the shutdown it's yourbody's way of protecting you.
So you might need to do somejournaling to say why is my body
reacting at so extremes withoutbeing able to get out by itself
?
What is my body protecting mefrom?
And then adjust life from there.

(16:27):
Sometimes it's easy, sometimesit's hard, but you know your
body is it in If it's tellingyou to shut down or to get ready
for a fight or run.
Your body is using those cues.
So the more you recognize it,the more you can adjust these
little shifts.
Sometimes we might not alwaysbe able to change our

(16:52):
surroundings, but we can changehow we react to that.
I know it's kind of said a lot,but there's a lot of truth to it
, because you can just do thesesimple little things and nobody
notices.
That's the best part.
Like nobody notices if you knowyou take a few minutes, go to
the bathroom and breathe.
They're like, well, she's justin the bathroom, no big deal.

(17:12):
Meanwhile you know that you'rejust helping your nervous system
settle down so you don't becomereactive, so you can just enjoy
the day.
Take those few breathers andit's just trying it out.
That's the best part is that wecan.
We can test all these things.

(17:33):
We can try them and see whichone feels best to us, because my
go-to might not be exactly whatyour go-to is and that's why
it's so great having all thesedifferent options.
But breathing is one that Irecommend just because that is
necessary for life.
It's easy, it's automatic, buthow we breathe, we can influence

(17:59):
that.
So today, just try practicingthat belly breath, see how it
feels and when it feels reallygood, recognize that, because
your body needs more recognitionof what feels good, because
it's always on that guard andstay.
It's always making sure you'regoing to survive.

(18:20):
So when you say it's okay,let's just breathe, it's
typically really enjoys it andit's going to start moving that
direction as more of a defaultthe more you practice it.
So thank you for spending someof your day with me.
I really appreciate it.
Remember to breathe and do atleast one thing today that makes

(18:44):
you happy.
Thanks for listening to.
It Starts at Vagus.
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It's a quick and easy way tostart feeling better today and
until next time, rememberwellness starts at Vagus.
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