What Wellness Actually Looks Like

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SPEAKER_01 (00:01):
All I do is make you work

SPEAKER_02 (00:45):
Welcome back to the Legacy Over Labels podcast.
My name is Lauren and I am abusiness and confidence coach.
I'm a bold truth teller,fiercely loyal, and I believe in
showing up 100% as yourauthentic self always.
And

SPEAKER_03 (00:59):
I'm Brittany, your mindset mirror, straight
shooting strategy girl, andco-founder of Legacy Over
Labels.
I'm a coach, encourager, energybringer, and hype woman for
women chasing a life ofenlightenment.
And we are super excited forepisode four.

SPEAKER_02 (01:15):
I'm super excited.
One, because this is my passion,your passion, something that has
been incorporated in our lifefor a really long time.
So give your

SPEAKER_03 (01:29):
two cents on

SPEAKER_02 (01:30):
that.

SPEAKER_03 (01:31):
It's something I've...
fell into and then it's justbeen something I've grown more
and more and more and the olderI get the more I appreciate how
much this has impacted my lifeand what it means for my life

SPEAKER_02 (01:43):
yeah and one thing I want to touch on too is that
we're not just talking aboutfitness fitness is great but we
really want to encompasswellness and what wellness
actually looks like becausewellness isn't a size it's a
standard you set for yourself

SPEAKER_03 (02:01):
exactly it's everything and It's not one
specific thing.
It's not just workouts.
It's not just your nutrition.
It's not just your mindset.
It's a combination of all.

SPEAKER_02 (02:12):
Totally.
So the first part I really wantto dive into is like our fitness
journey.
So what that looked like foryou, what that looked like for
me.
So we're going to do kind oflike a little Q&A session today
because I think a lot of ourbackstory is going to be really
important in understanding howwe both approach wellness now.

(02:33):
You know, what we were exposedto as children, which I think
anybody can relate to.
You know, what did you see yourmom, your dad, your grandma,
your grandpa, whoever wasraising you, what you were
surrounded with, what sports youwere involved with, habits at
home.
I mean, I could go on and on andon.

(02:55):
But first question, what didfitness and wellness mean to you
growing up?
I like to because we'll bothhave different.

SPEAKER_03 (03:03):
stories to tell.
Lauren grew up more of anathlete.
I didn't really play sports.
So which I'm shocked, honestly,just a waste of a human being
here.
No, I wish I would have playedsports.
I love sports and played outsidea lot and played sports, but I
was never in like an actualsports team.
But Lauren was so I feel likewe've got good sides for both of

(03:23):
those things as to where fitnessdidn't really become a huge part
of my life till I was 18.
But backtrack a start at like 10years old, young teen years.
I, you know, like I said, Ididn't play sports, so I didn't
really have like a vision ofwhat fitness was.
It never really was a thought ofmy mind.

(03:44):
The only example I ever saw ofit was my mom and she and my
neighbor would like walk everynight.
And in my mind, I was just like,man, they just like, they love
to walk.
They just like walking a lot.
And I remember my mom, you know,eating low calorie foods, like
low carb chicken nuggets, whichI actually like begged for
because they were good.
But at the time I had no idea itwasn't until I was older that I

(04:05):
realized oh my mom did thosethings because she wanted to be
quote-unquote skinny she wantedto be fit and so like I don't
feel like it really impacted meat a young age I never you know
didn't like the way I looked Inever looked at other girls and
wished to look like them or lookat the magazines and wanted to
look like them I was just I me iwas just happy to be able to be

(04:29):
a kid and it wasn't until i wasprobably 17 that i really came
into caring what i looked like iwas a big tomboy when i was
little i wanted to i wore boyclothes i played with the boys i
did all the things so being agirl quote unquote just doesn't
didn't resonate with me um sowhen i got into high school i

(04:52):
was like you know I kind ofwanted to look more like a girl.
I wanted to get a boyfriend.
So I want to look pretty.
Is that how it worked?
So I mean, then I started caringmore about like more or less
what my clothes looked like.
So we changed.
But I think even in that aspect,for some people, that can be a
shift.

(05:12):
I was like, what are they goingto think when I wear a skirt to
school?
All I've ever worn is shorts andpants.
And people make comments whenyou wear a skirt for the first
time or when you wear your hairdown that you've never worn down
before.
And then I started getting alittle bit more self-conscious
and overthinking what I wasdoing.
And then I remember the one dayI came home, I was probably 18

(05:33):
and I could eat whatever Iwanted.
all the time never gained apound i was stick thin but as
you get older your metabolismslows down a little bit i was 18
i came home and my dad was likeoh he like poked my belly oh

SPEAKER_02 (05:46):
my

SPEAKER_03 (05:46):
god getting a little belly there and i was and he was
like making a joke but that wasthe trigger point for me of like
oh my god i need to like workout i don't want to be fat So I
literally the next day went outand bought Julian Michaels DVDs
and like started doing them inmy bedroom.
And I didn't clean up my diet atall by any means.
I would like work out and thencome down and eat Culver's.

(06:09):
But that was the start of merealizing, you know, fitness.
I wanted fitness to be a part ofmy life.
And that was the start of likeme really recognizing my body
and like what it looked like,what I could do to change it.
I guess in a way becomingself-conscious of the way I
looked.
So I was probably 18, 19 whenthat happened.

(06:31):
So I feel like it was later in

SPEAKER_02 (06:32):
life.
Yeah, I feel like we hang onwhat obviously our parents or
people we view as importantpeople in our life and what they
say.
And while your dad wasn't tryingto hurt your feelings or he's
poking fun at you a little bit.
Right.
He wasn't saying, oh, you betterstart working out.
You're getting fat.

SPEAKER_03 (06:53):
That's one thing I've always credited him to.
I'm like, you've never houndedme on the way I've looked.
So it was like him teasing me.
I was like, oh, it must reallybe noticeable if dad's saying
something.

SPEAKER_02 (07:04):
Right.

SPEAKER_03 (07:04):
And then what are other people noticing?
Are other people noticing I'mgetting a belly?
Like

SPEAKER_02 (07:08):
so many things to unpack there.
But before we dive into that,obviously, like I'm a little bit
older than Brittany.
I grew up in the 80s slash 90s.
Like I was born in 84.
So I saw both ends of thespectrum with my parents.
My mom, very similar toBrittany's mom, were like slim,
fast, bizarre.
Always in the house.

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I'd see her eat a grapefruit andthen nothing else for the rest
of the day.
Now, mind you, I wasn't with mymom all day every day.
My mom wasn't a stay at homemom.
But, you know, we would get todinner.
I would have we would see likebreakfast and dinner or, you
know, on the weekends,obviously, I would see what she
would eat all day.
And we would have dinnertogether and she wouldn't eat

(07:53):
with us.
She'd be like, I'm not hungry.
And I'm like, that's strange.
It kept happening.
And like Brittany said, whenyou're young, you don't really
notice why that's happening.
Because I guess I was aware thatmy mom was always trying to lose
weight.

(08:13):
We would go to the Y gym.
As a family, my mom would alwaysdo aerobic classes while my dad
was lifting weights.
And me and my brother wouldeither be in a class or we would
be with my dad.
And my dad would always preach.
basically fueling your body tobe strong, fueling your body for
anything that you want to do.

(08:34):
You know, very like you said,very much an athlete approach to
life, an athlete approach tofitness, an athlete approach to
nutrition.
So I do credit my dad for likethat side of like starting me
out.
And by no means did my dad likeknow everything, right?
He wasn't counting macros.

(08:55):
He's not watching his calories.
My dad could pretty much just doanything he wanted and not gain
a pound.
My dad was very in shape.
My dad was an athlete.
Like we just, we came by itnaturally.
Um, so that was really goodbecause I'm same as you,
Brittany.
Like I was stick thin as a kid,like even really through high

(09:16):
school, like I was 110 pounds ofjust muscle and And tiny, you
know, like same height I am now,5'2", 110.
And it was always just aboutthat.
But we did spend a lot of timein the weight room.
We did go on walks as a family.
I remember my mom walking withher friends.

(09:38):
Like that was a big thing.
You don't really see that asmuch anymore.
You know, I'm sure in some

SPEAKER_03 (09:44):
places, but.
I would say like what a kind ofawesome thing for your parents
to instill in you is thehealthy, like your dad, like the
healthy way.
Oh, yeah.
Of doing it.

SPEAKER_02 (09:54):
And the walking, too.
Even my grandparents.
Like, it was always a thing.
Like, after dinner, we would gofor a walk.
Like, you eat and then you gowalk.
Like, but I didn't know why.
Which is

SPEAKER_00 (10:05):
what we did.
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (10:07):
And so those are some of the things that, like,
have really stuck with me longterm.
Again.
I am not perfect by any means.
I've definitely had lots ofdifferent mindsets, mindset
shifts throughout my life,depending on some pretty
significant events, which we'llget into.
But that was kind of like myfoundation.

(10:29):
That was my baseline.
So I had a good start.
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (10:34):
I feel like we both maybe came in later to the real
mental...
challenge of the way we lookedwhen we were a little bit older
where i think a lot of femalesdo struggle with it in their
teen years of like how theirbody looks how much they weigh i
think we both were kind of luckyin the sense that our parents

(10:55):
didn't raise us to fixate onanything.
Not that they intentionally didthat, but whatever they were
doing with us, that wassomething they did really well.
Neither of us wereself-conscious about the way we
looked.
And I hear a lot of women talkabout that.
They were growing up, they'dlook at magazines, or when they
watched TV shows, they wanted tolook like the girls in the shows

(11:18):
or on magazines.
Not saying their parents madethem feel that way.

SPEAKER_02 (11:21):
No, but that really leads us into our next question
of were you ever chasing Acertain look, you know, and as a
kid, you know, maybe even likeyou said, till you were maybe
18, you weren't.
And then when your dad made thatcomment to you,

SPEAKER_03 (11:37):
then what?

SPEAKER_02 (11:40):
Light the

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fire, you know, then I'm like, I'll prove you wrong.
Like, I ain't getting a littlechunky over here.
Like, and by no means was Igetting chunky.
It was just, you know, thelittle soft touchy of the belly,
but that did ignite.
And being raised, I mean, bothmy parents, neither of them
played sports and they had meand my brother and sister very
young and they just worked a lotto support our family.

(12:02):
So, you know, I never, when Istarted fitness, I didn't have
like a quote unquote role model.
I didn't have anything to lookto as to what was the correct
way to do it besides watching myJulian Michaels DVDs and being a
female.
The only thing I did know waseat less.

(12:24):
Eat less if you want to weighless.
So that's what I started doing.
I fixated on controlling what Iput into my body and started
working out.
And it started gradually.
It was slow.
I would control just maybe Iwon't eat breakfast today and
ate the rest of the meals.
Then it turned into like, well,I'll eat fruit for breakfast.

(12:46):
And then I'll have just chickenfor lunch.
I'm going to cut carbs becausecarbs make you fat.
They don't, but a lot of peoplebelieve they do.
They don't.
Repeat, they don't.
But yeah, that mindset, youknow, in the early, I guess that
was 2010s, that you know lesscarbs is better so i started

(13:07):
cutting my carbs i startedeating as little as possible i
wanted to be as small aspossible i was you know i can
still go back into my fitnesspal and i was eating 8 000
calories a day 8 000 8 000 8 000or 800 good god i wish i was
eating 8 000 calories a day 800right i knew what you meant but

(13:29):
that's why i was like why are wequestioning it yes and i was
like yeah um yeah 800 calories aday and working out twice a day.
And I was 5'8", weighing 115pounds.
Holy cow.
It was not great.
And people, you know, peoplemake comments like my ex's
mother would be like, you shouldeat more food or you should eat

(13:51):
this.
And to me, I didn't see aproblem.
I was like, I'm doing everythingright.
I'm working out and I'mcontrolling what I eat.

SPEAKER_02 (14:00):
Well, and who is saying those things to you?
I think it makes a bigdifference if someone you view
as a leader or role model issaying those things to you.
Maybe you take it a little bitmore seriously versus someone
you look at that you don't wantto have a body like them because
I know for me, I mean, it's thesame goes for anything in my

(14:23):
life really.
Like if someone's giving meadvice on something, but I look
at them and their life and Idon't want to be anything like
them or the things that they'recommenting on, Eh, they don't
know what they're talking about.
I'm not going to listen

SPEAKER_03 (14:36):
to you.
No, thank you.
So, I mean, I didn't listen.
It took me, you know, getting...
I mean, I probably did that forthree, four years.
It took me getting to the pointof just being physically
exhausted.
It was after I had Lucas becauseI was still...
I had issues getting pregnantwith him and they, everybody

(14:56):
kept saying it was because ofhow small I was, but I didn't
change anything.
I did.
And then I stopped because Istill wasn't getting pregnant.
And I went back to my extremesand I did end up falling
pregnant while I was restrictingand overworking out.
But then, so then after I hadLucas, I kept that same mindset,
but it wasn't until after I hadhim.
And I just remember sittingthere and like, he wanted to go
outside and I was just so tired.

(15:18):
And I was like, I don't want toget off the couch to go play
with my son.
Like that is not healthy.
I was like, I'm literally thatexhausted that I don't have the
energy to get off the couch togo play with him.

SPEAKER_02 (15:28):
Well, and how old were you at that point?
Because, you know, obviouslythis started when you were 18.
You got married at 26.
Okay.

SPEAKER_03 (15:37):
And I had, well, 25.
I had Lucas at 27.
Okay.
So, you know, it went on forseven years.
Right.
Of this back and forth battle offood and stuff.
Yeah.
At that point, I was like, okay,I need to reevaluate what I'm
doing.
I knew by that time what I wasdoing in a way because I'd been
so long, but I was so in thissick mindset that it's really

(16:00):
hard to get out of when you feellike you're in control of
something you don't want to losecontrol of it and i could
control what i ate and i mean bythen i was already on instagram
and so you're getting thesepositive comments right you look
great look at your abs like allof these things so they're
fueling the fire and it's almostwhy now i can spot it in females

(16:22):
yeah that aren't eating enoughand i it makes me sad because
I'm like, they're projectingthat onto their audience, but
they're getting that positivefeedback.
And I know how they feel inside.
I'm like, I know that feelsgood, but I also know how they
feel on the inside of tiredexhaustion and just wore out.
And I don't know why you want tohelp them.

SPEAKER_02 (16:42):
Well, I think it really, you know, I can relate
to the control aspect.
Um, no, I didn't have thatmindset.
You know, I will say like forme, when I got into fitness, uh,
Like I said, I had a really goodfoundation.
And then going into high school,I was playing competitive
softball.
I was on a select team.

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I was striving for a collegescholarship.
So for me, I was always chasingperformance.
I was obsessed with beingbetter, stronger, faster,
probably to a fault, honestly,because I didn't view rest like
I should have.

(17:24):
But I never was injured.
But I would put everything off.
It's so weird.
It's very similar to how I amnow with work.
Yeah, all in.
This is what I mean by thecontrol, is I had an all-in

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mindset.
You're all in or you're nothing.
All or nothing.

UNKNOWN (17:51):
Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02 (17:51):
And so, I mean, I just remember after school, if I
didn't have practice, then Iwould stay in the weight room
for, like, probably two hours.
But, like, lifting and thengoing out and doing speed and
agility or just going for athree-mile run or, you know,
whatever.
And I think at that age, too,like, you know, we're talking 14

(18:13):
through 18.
I don't think it was necessarilyunhealthy.
But...
it's this thing that you just,you crave, you crave, you crave,
you know, kind of, I thinksimilar to what you're saying
with the control aspect is like,how far can I take it?
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (18:30):
It's almost like you're challenging yourself and
it's like, well, I did this.
Now watch me do this one.
Watch me go, keep going.
Watch how far I can make it.
Yeah.
I mean, it's just, um, I

SPEAKER_02 (18:42):
don't kind of like what you said.
It is kind of like the sickness.

SPEAKER_03 (18:45):
It's a sickness.
Cause you, you know, that it'sextreme and you know it's a lot.
But in a weird way, it

SPEAKER_02 (18:55):
makes you proud.
Absolutely.
It gave me confidence, for sure,without a doubt.
I mean, were people telling you,Lauren, you're so great?
Absolutely.

SPEAKER_03 (19:04):
So then you're like,

SPEAKER_02 (19:05):
I'm going to keep working.
I mean, I was.
There's no denying, right?
I'm first team all-conference.
I'm all-state.
I got a full-ride collegescholarship to play softball at
a D1 college.
There was no denying that it waspaying off.
But how much did that

SPEAKER_03 (19:23):
fuel you?
You know what I mean?
Absolutely.
It was like, what's next?
Yeah.
How do I keep going?
I'm going to be better.

SPEAKER_02 (19:29):
Yeah.
I mean, and I would say thesickness part for me was always
thinking I'm falling short, eventhough I knew I wasn't.
Did you sacrifice other

SPEAKER_03 (19:43):
areas of your life to perform better?

SPEAKER_02 (19:46):
Oh, 100%.
Maybe that's what

SPEAKER_03 (19:48):
the sickness too.
I

SPEAKER_02 (19:50):
mean, view it how you want, right?
In my mind, yes, I sacrificedother parts of my life because I
wanted to win in these aspects,you know, again, it goes back to
like, well, I, I don't want tobe in debt in college.
I want to go to the college thatI want to go to.

(20:10):
I know that my parents aren'tgoing to be able to pay for my
college.
Like there's so many otheraspects to it.
And I think that's that likemental awareness of, um, I don't
know.
I guess what keeps pushing you.
Yeah.
All right.
So obviously, like that for mewas, you know, up to college for

(20:34):
you, too.
I would say, you know, obviouslyI graduated college at 22.
You had Lucas at 27, 27.
OK.
Once you realized, you know,obviously college.
Nutrition, workouts, things hadto change a little bit, feeling
fatigued.

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For me, obviously, not being aD1 athlete anymore, it's like
you don't have scheduledworkouts.
You don't have scheduledpractices.
You don't have scheduledconditionings.
It's literally like a full-timejob.
And once college is over, okay,now what are you working

(21:16):
towards?
Right.
Like I don't.
What's the purpose now?
Right.
The why, the purpose, you know.
So what did fitness look for youlook like for you?
Once you realize that, once yourealize, oh, I have to make a
switch like.
Did it was it just like, oh,snap your fingers and you're

(21:36):
like, I think it's like yousaid, you know,

SPEAKER_03 (21:37):
it's confusing at a time because you are so all in
and you've done it for so long.
And while our stories aredifferent, it's like once you
realize you can't do it acertain way anymore, it's like,
okay, well, how do I begindifferently now?
How do I change what I'm doing?
And for me...
I cut back on cardio.
I was like, I have to.

(21:58):
What?
I know.
You didn't have to do an hour ofcardio every day?
Every day, no.
Which was hard.
I mean, as a female, it'sdrilled into our heads.
Cardio, cardio, cardio.
If you want to be skinny,cardio, cardio, cardio.
And I had a huge mind shift ofnot wanting to be skinny
anymore.
I was like, I don't want to beskinny.

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I have been skinny, and I'm nothappy anymore.
You know, I was so small and Istill would look in the mirror
and pick myself apart.
And I'm like, OK, this obviouslyis not like what I'm looking
for.
And my brother had been workingout and lifting weights and
stuff.
And so I went with him a fewtimes to club fitness and he
helped me like lift weights,figure out what to do.

(22:41):
And it was like a month ofworking out with him that I was
like, oh, my God, like I havemuscles on my arms.
And like then I felt good aboutmyself.
Then like seeing the musclebeing strong, seeing the numbers
go up that I was lifting.
I stopped focusing so much asthe number on the scale.
And I realized that's what wasmaking me feel good.
And so I wanted to lift moreweight.

(23:02):
And how do we lift more weight?
We have to eat better.
We have to fuel our bodiescorrectly.
So then I started deep divinginto food and nutrition and
doing all the things I needed todo in order to lift more weight
in the gym, because I loved theway I felt being able to move
the weight.
It makes you powerful, gives youconfidence, like all these
things I was looking for andbeing a smaller version of

(23:23):
myself.
I found in being a better,stronger version of myself.
And I think once that shifthappened and I saw those first
results, it's just trusting theprocess when you begin.
It's hard, but it's like, whatdo I have to lose if I start?
Right.
It was just a big shift.

SPEAKER_02 (23:43):
Again, like, you know, I will say like I had that
good foundation.
You know, I always really hadthat.
So I felt like that alwaysreally put me in an advantage
when it came to I never worriedabout what I ate.
I never worried about mycalories.
And I never even counted macrosor calories until now.

(24:03):
I started working for FirstForm.
I was 31 years old when Ilearned how to count macros.
Okay.

SPEAKER_03 (24:13):
And it wasn't because you were trying to eat
less.
I think a lot of people startbecause they're trying to be in
a deficit.

SPEAKER_02 (24:19):
No, it was just learning.
Well, it's understanding too oflike, yeah, oh, there is a
deficit.
Well, how do you know what adeficit is for your body?
Right.
Unless...
You eat a certain amount ofcalories.
Like you should continue to add.
Right.
If you're going to maintain, youneed to know what a deficit is,

(24:40):
what maintenance is, what asurplus is.
Yeah.
Like and you it really is trialand error.
You don't know.
No.
I mean, you can do some basiccalculations, obviously, to get
like your resting metabolic rateand get kind of a good window of
where you should be.
Yeah.

UNKNOWN (25:00):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (25:00):
But you don't really know until like, okay, well, how
much activity are you doingduring the day?
Number one, if you're doing twoworkouts a day, guess what?
You're burning more calories.
And that also means unless we'retrying to, again, get smaller,
right?
We could go into a millionexamples of that.
So I don't want to get in theweeds with it.

(25:21):
But point being, you have tofigure out What does that look
like for you?
Because even if you are the sameweight, same size as somebody
else, like your body isdifferent.
Your activity is different.

SPEAKER_03 (25:34):
Your BMR, your basic metabolic rate, which is what
your body burns at rest, isgoing to be different than
somebody else's.
Everything.

SPEAKER_02 (25:45):
Which leads you into like, why are you doing it?
You know, like what is your whypoint?
What was it then?
What is it now?
What did workouts look for youthen?
What do workouts look for younow look like for you now?
Because obviously, I think a bigpiece of all of this is
literally experience.
Like you have to live and learn.

(26:06):
You have to make mistakes, youknow, and also experience.
as we age obviously our bodieschange you have to make changes
you have to adapt you have tofigure out okay well what was
working for me when I was 18 to22 as a D1 athlete is not now
working for me as a 41 year oldwoman like I can't quite do the

(26:32):
things that I did when I was 18to 22 not saying that I can't do
very similar things I don't wantto say that I hate putting age
No.
No.

(27:04):
You know, you had Lucas when youwere 27.
You had Raquel when you were 33,34, 34, 34,

SPEAKER_03 (27:09):
33.

SPEAKER_02 (27:11):
Oh, my God.
Brittany doesn't know how oldshe

SPEAKER_03 (27:14):
is.
Well, obviously.

SPEAKER_02 (27:15):
Point being, though, you know, those are two
different pregnancies, twodifferent children.
You are in two different phasesand

SPEAKER_03 (27:25):
stages of life.
Even a highlight to that.
As I said, I was so small when Ihad Lucas.
And after I had him, mypostpartum recovery was so much
harder with Lucas than it waswith Raquel.
Why do you think that is,though?
I take better care of myselfnow.
Protein! Fueling your body! Iwas frightened to death that

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this was going to be so muchharder because I'm older.
Everybody equates being older tothings being harder on your
body.
Raquel's postpartum was sosmooth and easy.
And I credit it to actuallytaking care of myself.
I

SPEAKER_02 (28:01):
mean, that's what it boils down to, you know, and
through anything.
And I hate I really do hate justwhen people you.
Oh, well, we're getting oldernow.
So it makes sense that X, Y, Z.
And it's like, OK, maybe.
Right.
Again, I don't want to say likeage doesn't play a role because
obviously as you age, you'rechanging.

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You're going through changes.
However.

SPEAKER_03 (28:27):
I will say I know some 45, 50-year-olds that could
probably whoop some20-year-olds' asses.

SPEAKER_02 (28:33):
A thousand percent.
But why is that?
Because they take care ofthemselves.
They're getting more sleep.
They're getting more water.
They're getting electrolytes.
You name it, right?
Imagine that.
I think about myself now.
Oh, my gosh.
If I knew what I know now, 18 to22 years, Holy crap.

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I don't know if I would havedrank a sip of alcohol.
No.

SPEAKER_03 (28:59):
No.
I even think about the athleteswe coach, how great they have it
now that they're able to betaught how to eat properly for
their sport, how to exerciseproperly for their sports.
The animal of athletes in theirhigh school years is insane now.
Oh my gosh.
I'm like, okay.
How you guys had

SPEAKER_02 (29:18):
it

SPEAKER_03 (29:18):
in

SPEAKER_02 (29:18):
high

SPEAKER_03 (29:18):
school.

UNKNOWN (29:19):
Pfft.

SPEAKER_02 (29:20):
Okay, I graduated high school in 2002, okay?
We were still in the age of theAtkins diet, South Beach diet,
basically eat less, avoid allcarbs, and, you know,
eight-minute abs and theThighmaster.

SPEAKER_03 (29:38):
Good old Thighmaster.

SPEAKER_02 (29:42):
Well, and I remember, too, like...
You know, we'd have ourpractices.
We'd have our weightliftingsessions.
Like, thank God I had all thatbecause I was still, you know,
I'd go to the rec center incollege after my entire day.
Right.
So I'd have classes.
Then I'd have weightlifting.
Then I would have practice.

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And I was like, well, now I'mgoing to go to the rec center
and run for an hour and do, youknow, abs and pushups.

SPEAKER_03 (30:13):
I need to do more.

SPEAKER_02 (30:14):
Yeah, like more, more, more, more, more.
Better,

SPEAKER_03 (30:16):
better, better, better, better.

SPEAKER_02 (30:17):
Yeah, and it was...

SPEAKER_03 (30:19):
What

SPEAKER_02 (30:20):
were you eating today?
Really good, honestly.
I was eating great.
Like I said, I never avoidedanything.
Like if I was hungry, I ate, andI ate to fuel my body.
And, you know, I ate better incollege than I did growing up at
my house because while myparents both encouraged me you

(30:42):
know, fitness and going andworking out and drinking water
and eating healthy meals, theyalso didn't limit us from
anything in our house.
Like we could have whatever wewanted.
Like, we had all the fruitsnacks.
We had all the chips.
Oh, I never ate that stuff.
I still don't eat that stuff.

(31:04):
You know

SPEAKER_00 (31:04):
me.
I

SPEAKER_02 (31:04):
am not a sweets person.
Yeah, fudge round, those arealways in our house.
I never ate them.
You name it.
Every little Debbie snack therewas was in our house.
My brother and my dad ate all ofthose.
I was chips.
Like, I'll eat a whole bag ofchips.

(31:27):
I'm a very savory person.
So that was, yeah, I mean, likeI said, I was string bean.
So it didn't matter what I did.
But for the most part, I willsay, like, I ate very, very
healthy.
And then when I, again, when Iwent to college, like, fruits,
vegetables, you know, likeeating healthy.

(31:47):
Fine.
Now, alcohol, was that a foodgroup?
Because we can...
Uh-oh.
Let me go down the line of allthe bad choices I made with
alcohol in college andpost-college.
Alcohol is not a food group, andalcohol also inhibits your
ability to burn fat depending onhow fast your body can

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metabolize it.
So we're talking anywhere from24 to 48 hours where you are
unable to burn fat in your body

SPEAKER_03 (32:19):
what do you typically want to do when you're
hungover oh

SPEAKER_02 (32:22):
and also yeah eat garbage

SPEAKER_03 (32:24):
yeah

SPEAKER_02 (32:25):
so um yeah I definitely had a routine with
that so you know okay we'regonna drink and then we're gonna
go get a number two no onions atMcDonald's large fry uh yeah
That's the two cheeseburgermeal, if you guys remember that

(32:45):
back in the day.
We live in your word.
Yeah, like I said.
But again, I was shredded.
So there was no stop, though.
No.

SPEAKER_03 (33:04):
It's like you said, though.
We age.
And as we age, you get a littlebit smarter.
And you realize hormones comeinto effect.
how your body is, the activitiesthat you're doing, your why is
always going to change orwhatever season of life you're
in is going to affect what yourwellness looks like, what

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workouts you're going to bedoing, maybe what you're eating.
You're going to have higherstress moments in life where
it's going to be a little bitharder to stay on track with
your food.
It's definitely why I like toquote-unquote preach to clients,
you know, this is a lifelongjourney.
We are not going to find asolution.
I'm not going to make you oneplan that you're going to do for
the rest of your life.

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Ideally, you find the ways thatwork best to stay on track as
much as you can.
You're not going to be able tostay on track 100% of the time,
but the idea is to learn thedo's and don'ts and to abide by
them as much as you can.

SPEAKER_02 (34:03):
Right.
I mean, again, like I said, thatall or nothing mindset is just a
terrible mindset.
It's a

SPEAKER_03 (34:09):
trap.
It is literally a trap waitingfor you to break.

SPEAKER_02 (34:13):
Well, if and I will say if that's what you're
hanging on to, because.
One, if you have the all ornothing, then when you reach the
point where you're like.
F it.
Then that's a slippery slope.
And you may

SPEAKER_03 (34:32):
say F it and you never get back on the train
again.

SPEAKER_02 (34:34):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (34:35):
Where I literally watched a reel of this guy.
He had another reel on his of a19 year old girl.
and she's talking about howshredded she is she has like we
buy steak for breakfast andshe's like no excuses and like
if you want to look like me yougot to eat like this you can't
have cookies in your life andthe guy in the video is like 45
years old well he was like honeyyou're 19 you don't have

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children you don't have a jobyou don't have stress like you
still she lived at home with herparents but you know he's like
you can be shredded and have acookie Yeah.
It's about balance.
This is like, like Lauren said,it's not all or nothing.
There is a fine balance.
You don't have to give updrinking completely.
There's just a fine balance.
Yeah.

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And once, I think once youfigure that out, this whole
lifestyle becomes a whole loteasier because you realize it's
not all or nothing.
You don't have to give up thingsyou love to look a certain way
or to feel a certain way.

SPEAKER_02 (35:30):
Right.
And I don't, you know, I don'tdisagree with the 19 year old
either.
You know, like, are you going toget good results by doing what
she said?
Absolutely.
Are you going to get fasterresults doing what she did?
Doing what she did.
Absolutely.
But I will also tell you fromexperience, if you...

(35:50):
you have a moment a low momentsomething bad happens in your
life and you're not strongenough to get through it with
the all or nothing mentalityyou're gonna go on a deep dive
the other direction I

SPEAKER_03 (36:03):
think it's like you said would you take advice take
advice from people that you wantto be like I personally wouldn't
take advice from a 19 year oldgirl who has no children or

SPEAKER_02 (36:11):
no not at this point in my life but if I was 19
watching her I'd be like hellyeah let's go I

SPEAKER_03 (36:17):
literally commented on the guy's video I was like
take it from somebody who usedto be that girl yeah i used to
be the 19 year old girlpreaching the abs and do this
and do that and i was like andnow i'm a 34 year old mother of
two don't take the young lady'sadvice unless you're 19 years
old i

SPEAKER_02 (36:32):
think one of my favorite quotes is uh nobody
ever wrote a song about abs lotsof songs about big butts facts
yeah so um But like you said, Itold

SPEAKER_03 (36:50):
them who actually cares about the abs.
You

SPEAKER_02 (36:51):
yourself.
A hundred percent.
And you see it in everybody'sprogress pictures.
I die every time I see it.
Someone's taking a progresspicture of themselves and
literally the entire picture.
Abs.
It's just their abs.
I'm like, well, flex your bicep.
Where are your legs?
Where are your arms?
Like, what?
What about your toes?
And that, you know, why I likeprogress pictures, like

(37:15):
obviously when helping peoplewith their fitness, it's like, I
know you are fixated on whetheror not you have abs, but look at
your biceps.
Look at your quads.
Look at, you know.
I'd

SPEAKER_03 (37:27):
rather see a progress photo that is four
years apart.
I don't want to see one that'ssix weeks, a month, two months
apart, because to me, you justdieted really well.
I want to see one that's fiveyears that you've kept it up.
Well, still look great.

SPEAKER_02 (37:42):
Yeah.
And that's exactly it is like,was it the extreme?
Because you can do the extremefor six, eight weeks.
Like what we're talking about.
Don't eat a cookie.

SPEAKER_03 (37:52):
We're not eating no carbs.
We're eating just eggs andprotein.
And

SPEAKER_02 (37:57):
that's it.
But can you commit to alifestyle?
Mm hmm.
For a year, two years, threeyears.
Literally a lifestyle.
Can you just keep living yourlife like that?

SPEAKER_03 (38:09):
What you are doing now, this was a mind shift for
me.
What I'm doing right now, do Iwant to do that for the rest of
my life?
Yeah.
Do I want to not eat cookies,cake?
I love sweets.
That was a choice I decided.
I want to decide I'm not goingto eat sweets the rest of my
life to be quote unquote skinny.
No.
So I'm going to find a way thatI can and look and feel the way

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that I want to feel.

SPEAKER_02 (38:31):
Which that's why all of these trendy or fad diets,
you know, I don't want to saythey don't work, but they don't
work because it's not a longterm solution.
Do they work short term?
Yes.
Right.
Depending on the person andwhatever, whatever you commit to

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is going to work.
Yeah.
Right.
But to your point.
Is that what you want to do forthe rest of your life?
Because if it's not, you know,maybe you do have like a really
short term goal that you want toaim for, hit,

SPEAKER_03 (39:06):
whatever.
Okay.
You're doing a show.
Do your show.
Do what you need to do to getthe show done.
Look your best on stage.
Then what do you do after that?

SPEAKER_02 (39:16):
And I would even argue with that of, like, are
you doing a show because youjust want to try it out, you
want to push your body to thelimits, or are you doing a show
to lose weight?
Because I bet if I polled all ofthe people that have ever done a
show, 90% of them do it to livethis extreme lifestyle, and they

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can't stop.
And every person that I knowpersonally that has done
shows...
Guess what happens to them postshows or post body lifting or
sorry, bodybuilding lifestyle.
Their hormones are jackedbecause they've been living this

(39:58):
extreme lifestyle.
And so, you know, which leads toour next question of like, what
is your why now?
Because I feel like when we areyoung, we get that mindset of,
oh, my gosh, I want to be theskinniest, most jacked virgin.
You know, whatever.
You have this dream, vision,body in your head.

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And we just we go after it.
And we don't stop until we getthere.
Versus right now at, you know,41 years old.
For me, like my why, which.
was never this why my entirelife.
I did not think this way ever,but right now it's like

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eventually I want to be a mom.
In order to be a mom, I have totake care of my body.
Like you said.
Could I be a mom if I didn'ttake care of my body?
Yeah, I see tons of people outthere that are moms that
unfortunately did not take careof their bodies.

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For me, it's like I want to bethe best home for my child you
know that which

SPEAKER_03 (41:10):
well it's like i said it makes it so much easier
postpartum as well like anywoman can attest to that that
they take care of themselvesbefore pregnancy during
pregnancy that postpartum is somuch easier on their bodies

SPEAKER_02 (41:23):
yeah i mean in this point in my life at 41 you know
god willing it happens but umyou know i have no control over
that yeah which is also like thekind of fun part about it too
because When you're younger, itwas all about the control.
I have complete control.
And now my why really hasnothing to do with control, yet

(41:45):
I have to control my behavior,my actions, what I'm doing, like
waking up early, making surethat I keep my promises to
myself, getting to the gym,making sure that I'm walking,
making sure I'm eating to fuelmy body, not just eating crap.
Am I perfect?
No.
It's

SPEAKER_03 (42:04):
part of life, though.

SPEAKER_02 (42:05):
Brittany yelled at me last week because I wanted, I
was like, ah, you want me to getyou some food?
I'm going to go to a missiontaco and get tacos and chips and
guac and all the things.
She's like, uh, are you doingthe summer ready program?
Like, the heck are you talkingabout shut your mouth

SPEAKER_03 (42:25):
shouldn't be friends with your coach

SPEAKER_02 (42:28):
i still got the tacos

SPEAKER_03 (42:30):
she did get the tacos i told her she could dip
popcorn in the guacamole oh my

SPEAKER_02 (42:34):
god i was like fine i'm not gonna get the

SPEAKER_03 (42:36):
guac just something to sound gross

SPEAKER_02 (42:38):
and it's not that i couldn't have had the guac but i
know what i would have done iwould have had an entire bag of
chips an entire container guacand i would have eaten it all
myself

SPEAKER_03 (42:48):
just need a nice little reminder

SPEAKER_02 (42:49):
so it's not about i couldn't have had the chips i
couldn't have had the guac ijust know myself that if I would
have taken a serving of thechips, a serving of the guac,
and still wanted my taco, Ididn't need all of it.
So I was like, ugh, fine.
I told her

SPEAKER_03 (43:09):
what she already knew, basically.

SPEAKER_02 (43:10):
Yeah, I already knew it.
I didn't need Brittany to tellme that, but anyway.

UNKNOWN (43:17):
Okay.

SPEAKER_02 (43:17):
As

SPEAKER_03 (43:18):
I've aged, my why's been very, very different
throughout stages of my life.
You know, before kids, it was tobe skinny.
Then after kids, you know, afterLucas, it was to be able to play
with him and then went through adivorce.
And my why was, you know, to notbe focused on life.
I needed an outlet.
So fitness became that outlet.

(43:39):
And then now.
In this stage of my life, my whyreally is just to feel good in
my body and to be able to playwith my children, to play soccer
with Lucas outside, to get offthe ground while holding Raquel,
like ways that I can maneuverlife without any aches and
pains.

(44:00):
And so, you know, I'm notlifting heavy still super
important to me becauseprogressive overload is
everything, but it's not allright now.
Everything's more like mobilitythings.
I do like practice.
I literally yesterday washolding like kettlebells and
like kneeling to stand to getoff the ground because that's

(44:20):
what you do when you're holdinga baby.
You're on the ground.
So it's just anything I can doto make life easier right now.

SPEAKER_02 (44:26):
Yeah.
More longevity, functionalityare functional.
You know, I just are.
Our wives have extremelychanged.
Yeah.
As they should.
You know, and I think really youdon't understand that, too.
You can't understand it untilyou've gone through some stuff.

(44:46):
Yeah.
You gain that

SPEAKER_03 (44:47):
life experience.
I think and like my clients,women are my why.
Like I want women to see wedon't have to be that extreme.
to look the way we want to look.
You don't have to do bad dietsand things like that.
So like clients and women areconstantly a why for me.
I want to be a source for them.

SPEAKER_02 (45:05):
And, you know, we've talked a lot about the physical.
We've talked a lot about, youknow, the nutrition, how that
plays a role, which also I wouldtie into physical.
But when we tie in, you know,like obviously our main topic
here is wellness.
Yeah.
Okay.
It's not just about how you lookphysically.
It's not just about what youeat.

(45:26):
Um, but it is about how you fuelyour, your mind and obviously
your spiritual health, whichBrittany and I both align on,
you know, incorporating thingsfor mindset, incorporating
things for spiritual health.
And, you know, really like thefirst question within this is,
you know, when did you realizespiritual health mattered just

(45:49):
as much as physical health?

SPEAKER_03 (45:51):
Yeah.
For me, For me, faith has beenwith me since childhood, but as
I went through my divorce,infertility issues with Nate, my
first husband, Lucas's dad, andthen Brock went through rehab
and everything, we lost ourbusiness, faith kind of became

(46:13):
the only thing that I couldcount on.
It's been my anchor throughevery hardship of my life.
God has always come back to me,no matter how lost I felt.
I grew up super Catholic, PSR,church on Sundays.
My grandmother has basicallylived in the Catholic church her
whole life.
And it wasn't, though, until Iwent through my divorce that it

(46:36):
really resonated with me becausethat was the first time in my
life that I was completelyalone.
My family was, you know,struggling with understanding my
divorce.
I had moved 45 minutes away fromany of my friends, started new
jobs.
It was the first time in my lifethat I lived by myself.
I had Lucas by myself.
And so I really turned to God inthat moment to be somebody that

(46:57):
I could lean on and just liketrusted in his process and the
path he held for me and sincethen and seeing how he brought
me through that me having faithin him and where I am now
because I had faith in himanytime I go through anything
now just like I know he has me Iknow what is coming is supposed
to be coming I don't have toworry I don't have to stress

(47:19):
everything will be okay andthat's just always been a center
for me now.
It's like younger, it's justlike something you did.
And then we learned it and it'slike, okay, yeah, I know it's
important, but I don't feel likeit wasn't until I was actually
in a moment of needing himdesperately that I appreciated
exactly what he meant for me andwhat he provided for me.

SPEAKER_02 (47:39):
Well, and I think everything that you brought up
too is loss.
I don't, for me anyway, I don'tthink until...
you go through a season ofextreme loss, devastation, you
know, you call it whatever youwant, but, um, That, to me, is

(47:59):
what helps you gain theexperience of why it is so
important.
When you are either so sad oryou can't make sense of
something, whether it'ssomething you had control over
or not.
In the case of your divorce,there are some things you had
control over and some things youhad zero control over, just like

(48:22):
with anything in life.
You can't control other people.
You can't control the future.
You can't control.
You name it.
Right.
You can't control it.
And I think for me, it's samething is like I've experienced a
lot of loss.
And I think that it's sad to saybecause like I would love to say

(48:43):
that I have turned to God andall my glory as well as all of
my loss.
But I can't say that I honestlycannot say that I cannot, you
know.
Yeah.
Yeah.

(49:14):
But that's not to say that it'sany less important.
And again, like faith to me ishuge.
And I will say like the biglosses, like why my fitness has
changed over the last even threeyears, because I You know, I
lost my godmother.
I lost my cousin, my bestfriend, Dan, to suicide.

(49:38):
I lost my grandmother at theend, five days before Christmas
at the end of 2022.
And my grandpa, you know, fourmonths later to suicide.
And in between that, my dad haddouble bypass open heart
surgery.
And then a year later, like thispast year, had a abdominal

(49:59):
aortic aneurysm and then anotheraneurysm.
in his leg like I could go onand on and on and it's like if I
would just focus on all thatnegativity and not to say it was
even negative but when peopleyou are that close to you lose
them you think like why do allof these things keep happening

(50:20):
to me versus they're happeningfor me they're teaching me
something you know like All ofthese important people were
taken out of my life.
All of these important peoplethat have really shaped me.
Why were they all taken from me?
Literally, I will say, growingup, those people I just
mentioned, my godmother, mycousin Dan, my grandma, my

(50:44):
grandpa, my dad, those were thebiggest...
people that shaped my life youknow throw my mom in there too
thank god nothing's happened toher um bless bless yes uh but
that's that's just it is like ihad to go through that extreme
loss to gain a new perspective

SPEAKER_03 (51:06):
it's like and that will happen you'll you know he
will make sure to recenter youwhen it needs to happen and you
know, it's, you will be doing,we talked about it.
One of the, one of the otherepisodes where it's like, you
can't forget to be grateful whenyou're doing well too.
You can't just thank him.
You know, when something goodhappens after something bad has

(51:27):
already been going on, you needto thank him constantly and be
grateful for your lifeconstantly.
And, you know, it's something Iwork on too, is not letting my
ego get in the way of my faithand, you know, calling to him on
my good days and thanking himfor a good day and not just
calling to him on my bad days.

SPEAKER_02 (51:43):
Yeah.
And I think, too, it's likerealizing when we talk about,
you know, working out andwellness and fitness and, you
know, whatever word you want touse.
Is there a time where likeprayer and meditation healed you
way more than a workout evercould?
Oh,

SPEAKER_03 (52:01):
yeah.
I feel like and definitelywithin the last two years, I've.
I've always struggled with beinga very in-between person because
it's very contradicting the wayI believe because I do believe
in astrology and the stars andenergies, but I believe in Jesus
and God.
And people have a hard timeunderstanding how the two can go

(52:23):
together.
And I've explained this a littlebit on Instagram.
But within the last two years,I've really dove into combining
the two because me being able toconnect to myself spiritually
and feeling energies andaligning with the planet, that
has brought me deeper into myfaith.
So when I meditate, I'll doprayers.

(52:43):
I'll turn music on.
I, you know, put incense.
I go to healers and energyreaders.
I've done two retreats where,you know, we sat with, what are
they called?
Like Tara, what are they called?
Oh my gosh.
Are they Tara's?
Like the spiritual people?

SPEAKER_02 (53:05):
There's a lot of different kinds of spiritual
people.
So it just depends on...
I know what you're talkingabout.
I

SPEAKER_03 (53:09):
can't think of the word

SPEAKER_02 (53:10):
right

SPEAKER_03 (53:11):
now.

SPEAKER_02 (53:11):
like a wellness like meditation and breath work and

SPEAKER_03 (53:15):
yeah like we did breath work and yoga and just
really centered our bodies therewas like no technology no TV all
the food was blessed it was avery beautiful experience and
doing two of those things hasjust brought me it's instilled
different practices into my lifewhere you know I do breath work
regularly I meditate regularly Ijournal while I do breath work

(53:37):
moon phases are a big thing nowmaking wishes on the moon and
being grateful on the moon butdoing that has brought so much
peace mentally for me so nowwhen I have bad days instead of
letting myself get anxious I'llmeditate I will pray I will turn
to my faith and that's beenreally a huge part of my

(53:57):
wellness now is making sure Iinclude those things as a part
of my routine to stay on a goodpath

SPEAKER_02 (54:05):
um Yeah, I'm just kind of like thinking through my
like, where did this start?
You know, like when I was young,I was going to church, baptized,
you know, confirmation.
all the things.
Um, as I got more involved inselect softball, you know, we
used to, we would go to churchevery Sunday.

(54:28):
Well, that really stopped oncesoftball started like really
competitively.
Obviously we had tournamentsevery single weekend.
Um, not to say that maybe wecould have made it to church
every once in a while, butreally like when you play
tournaments, if anybody knowsthat lifestyle, like you're
playing at the butt cracker on,on Sunday morning, like if
you're doing good, if you'rewinning, which we were winning.
Um, so I will say I still wentto church when I could.

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It was not as often as I wouldhave liked.
But when I lost Dan, my cousin,in 2017, I decided to start
going back to church.
And I remember the very firstservice that I went to, like...

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it was insane.
I was like right on time.
So I had to sit in the back andthe entire service, like I can't
remember what was said or, youknow, exactly what everything
happened, you know, but theservice was about suicide.
And I'm like, what?

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Like it was why I was bawling myeyes out at the back of the
church.
Like, but also at the same time,like I, this was meant to be,
this was supposed to happen.
Like I'm just a very, um, youknow, I believe in, like you
said, the energies and thingsthat are meant to be and you're
meant to be places and thingsare meant to be, even if they're

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bad, like they're teaching yousomething and you have to find
the meaning within thoselessons.
And, um, it's just, it's wild,you know?
And then later that year, soDan, um, committed suicide in
January it was like late Januarymaybe February when I went to
that service and I was alsodoing my yoga teacher

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certification that year whichlike I'm so grateful that I had
started that like I that wasyeah I started that year because
that was 2017 and And I rememberI went to, it was Thanksgiving.
So this first big holiday sincethis happened, Thanksgiving,

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Christmas, New Year's was liketimes where we spent tons of
time together.
We lived together.
So like we, we always had somuch fun during the holidays.
So it was like the first timewithout him that I was just like
already in my head about it.
Um, so I went to a hot yoga, um,I don't know what you want to

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call it, service session thatThanksgiving, like first thing
in the morning and same thing.
And this is where, like, again,sometimes yoga gets a bad name
when it comes to like beingChristian and believing in Jesus
and God.
And, you know, and I don'tbelieve that, you know, I'm not

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worshiping any other gods, likewhatever, you know, think about
it how you want.
I don't care.
It's

SPEAKER_01 (57:30):
what I believe.

SPEAKER_02 (57:32):
I truly believe in setting an intention and the
energy you're giving off and theenergy you're getting back.
And it's not about worshipinggods or anything like that.
It's just about feeling good inyour body.
And same thing.
It was just really, first ofall, an emotional day because

(57:54):
it's a holiday, something that Ireally spent a lot of time with
my cousin doing and reallycherished a ton of those years
together.
You know, at this point, I'm 35.
I don't know how old I am.
2017.
Again, math.
I think I was 33.

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Something like that.
Anyway, doesn't matter.
Point being, got to Savasana atthe end of the session.
If you don't know, you're done.
You've done the whole flow andyou're just kind of laying there
and zoning out.
Kind of reflecting on yourpractice and they turn down the

(58:36):
lights, you're still, you're,you know, laying on your back,
whatever it is.
And that's what I was doing, uh,on my mat.
And I, again, just like sograteful for, uh, my body and
being able to move and stillbeing alive on this earth and
you know reflecting back on myrelationship with dan and

(58:57):
missing him and just likeliterally sobbing but like not
in a sad way like maybe a littlebit but

SPEAKER_03 (59:06):
like a peaceful loving way

SPEAKER_02 (59:07):
right like it's the energy

SPEAKER_03 (59:09):
yeah

SPEAKER_02 (59:09):
and again that's why i say like faith and wellness
energy and wellness meditationum and I'll even take it back
farther where like with mycompetitive softball team, my
coach always had a, I mean, fromthe age of 10 on, we would do

(59:30):
visualization and meditationabout softball, but we would
talk about other things too.
And that was like the very firsttime that I really channeled
like breath work, visualizing,closing your eyes, being still,
um, And you know, again, notdoing anything physical.

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to regulate my nervous system.
You know, I didn't know allthese things at the time when
it's happening, but that's whatI was doing, you know,
regulating my nervous system,learning how to control my
emotions, my energy, being ableto visualize myself succeeding
in whatever capacity I neededto.
A huge

SPEAKER_03 (01:00:12):
portion of actually accomplishing the things you
want to do is being able tovisualize it.

SPEAKER_02 (01:00:18):
Yep.
Which again, like, Today,obviously, we talked about our
why and how our whys havechanged.
How does faith affect you inwellness today?
Faith

SPEAKER_03 (01:00:33):
runs hard in everything I do now, even while
I work out.
Sometimes I just listen toChristian music.
I want to be in this peacefulmindset.
My breathing.
We all know how importantbreathing is while you work out.
But I sometimes get into ameditative state while I work
out, especially in like a yogaclass or something.
It is so easy to also bring.

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Once you bring your mind topeace, your whole body will
relax.
You feel this whole just warmthcome over you.
But you have to learn to do thatyourself.
You have to learn how to controlyour mind.
But that transitions intoeverything else.
But I think we live in a worldwhere everything's so go, go,
go, go, go.
And I was on that for so long.

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And then finding ways torecenter myself, find my faith
again, stay in tune with it andallow it to be a part of my
every day.
has made just a huge differencein how I feel mentally, which
transitions into all of mywellness aspects.

SPEAKER_02 (01:01:33):
Yeah, I mean, I think the biggest lesson for me
is you don't have control overeverything.
Like faith keeps me grounded.
I'm a doer.
I'm a fixer.
I want control.
but faith teaches you tosurrender.
You know, it reminds you thatlike your results are not the

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only thing that matter.
Like how you look physically isnot the only thing that matters.
Your presence in it is, youknow, like if you don't remember
what it was like, and I reallydo have a hard time remembering
a lot of things from like mypast.
Yeah.
Or looking back and think, youknow, when you thought, Oh, I,

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I, I'm not where I need to be orI don't look as good as I would
like to look or whatever.
Again, all the physical resultsmeant nothing.
Nothing.
And I don't want to say theymeant nothing.
No, but it's...
But in the grand scheme ofthings.

SPEAKER_03 (01:02:31):
I think in a lot of people, it's getting in your
mind.
And all of the things you'redoing, you're so fixated on the
outside of what you look like,you should be focusing on your
mindset.

SPEAKER_02 (01:02:42):
You can't appreciate it the way you should.
Because I wasn't working on mymindset the way that I should.
And again, I think that onlycomes with experience.
The older you get, the more yourealize and the more you are
able to appreciate things and begrateful for things.
Not everybody.
But, you know, once you realizelike that's a that's the to me

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the most important aspect of thewellness journey.
That's when you can truly

SPEAKER_03 (01:03:13):
appreciate the physical results.
Yeah.
And you don't even I mean, do webelieve in Jesus and God,
obviously, but you don't have toto get to that mindset point.
Being able to just recenter,shut out the noise and find ways
to do that is going to make ahuge difference in your entire
journey.

SPEAKER_02 (01:03:33):
Yeah.
And I mean that I think thatleads us really into our next
part of like, what were some ofthose toxic things you believe?
I know we've touched on them alittle bit already, but what
were some of those toxic beliefsthat you had in the past that
you have?
released let go of fantastic

SPEAKER_03 (01:03:54):
to not let rule my life anymore right yep for me
just the cardio mindset the allor nothing into the cardio I
have PTSD from running I ran somuch so it feels good though to
not let as weird as it is asbeing a coach it feels good that
fitness doesn't rule my life myworkouts don't rule my life

SPEAKER_02 (01:04:14):
well when did you realize that it was hurting you
more than it was helping you

SPEAKER_03 (01:04:19):
yeah After I had Lucas, you know, I realized I
didn't have a healthy mindsetwith the way I viewed workouts.
And that was toxic.
And I wanted to fix it.
And letting that go was able toallow me to really focus on what
I wanted and how I wanted tofeel.

SPEAKER_02 (01:04:40):
Yeah.
Gosh.
I mean, obviously being young,being very competitive, being an
athlete, you know, playing a D1sport.
But even after, for me, youknow, working for a fitness
company, definitely like, oh,well, you know, your workout
wasn't even good enough ifyou're not as sore as you could

(01:05:00):
possibly be.
Or, you know, if you're not...
I don't know.
Again, it was everybody else'sopinions and outlooks on you
that you let that you allow intoyour thoughts and opinions of
yourself.
And really, it's all lies.
I

SPEAKER_03 (01:05:19):
think that's another another why you need to realize.
Are you doing are you trying tolook a certain way for other
people because you want to bevalidated like our last episode?

SPEAKER_02 (01:05:27):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (01:05:27):
Or maybe refocus on how you want to feel.

SPEAKER_02 (01:05:30):
What would make you happy?
And for me, again, for you, itwas yourself, right?
You had the control.
For me, just like pretty mucheverything else, it was like I
want to prove to everybody I cando X, Y, Z.
So I did the half marathon.
I did the marathon.
I did the half Ironman.
I did– I don't even remember thenames of everything, but all the

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obstacle– competitions yes allof them I've done all of them
the only thing I haven't done islike a bodybuilding show

SPEAKER_03 (01:06:04):
yeah

SPEAKER_02 (01:06:05):
but now

SPEAKER_03 (01:06:06):
that's why when people are

SPEAKER_02 (01:06:06):
like

SPEAKER_03 (01:06:07):
you want to do this event I'm like no PTSD

SPEAKER_02 (01:06:11):
right but I remember you know doing the half iron man
and again I'm glad I did it I'mglad I proved to myself that I
could do it um But it wasn'tsomething I necessarily enjoyed.
You know, I don't I don't thinkto myself.
What's

SPEAKER_03 (01:06:27):
something else that you've done that makes.
I always like, OK, this is whatI wonder, because you did that.
And I think people expect this,which it is.
It's a huge accomplishment.
I don't want to discreditanybody.
But I do think I mean, I've rantwo marathons.
Yeah.
And I thought I was going tohave this magnificent feeling
when I was done.
Like I'm a superhero.
I'm crazy.
I've had better feelings.

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I don't know.
Picking up 300 pounds on a trapbar.
Like I thought this was supposedto be so hard.
If I accomplished it, I wouldfeel so good.
And it did nothing for me in theend, at least for me.
Like it did nothing.
I did it.
And I was like, why did I do allthat?

SPEAKER_02 (01:07:04):
Well, I mean, I've done solo CrossFit competitions.
I did HOA team CrossFitcompetition.
You know, like I'm not going tosay I didn't feel good after
all, because I definitely

SPEAKER_03 (01:07:15):
did.
Some people love that.
But for me, that's

SPEAKER_02 (01:07:18):
not my end goal.
I didn't do it again.
Right.
It was a bucket list thing forme.
Check it off.
But let's go back to what yousaid, because I definitely, you
know, I remember the first timeI deadlifted 315 pounds and I
felt on top of the world, youknow, like whatever it is.
To me now, at 41, that's my ego.

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Something I've had to let go of.
You know, at...
I was 35.
This is 2019 in the fall.
I had a back injury.
I still don't really knowexactly what it was.
But, I mean, it put me out forthe count for a good few months.

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Come to find out...
It was a type 4 congenitalspinal anomaly, L1S5.
And I also have degenerativediscs, T10 through 12, blah,
blah, blah, blah, blah.
Didn't know any of that stuff.
Obviously congenital means youwere born with it.
I have a partial fusion on oneside, a full fusion on the

(01:08:25):
other.
Like things that like...
Obviously, it didn't stop mefrom doing anything.
Your body is just miraculous inthe fact that it can adapt to
whatever.
But that was eye-opening for mebecause I'm not even kidding.
I was at Gold's Gym.
I was doing sets of, I think,240, I don't know, something,

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you know, like four sets of 10.
Again, I was in thought the bestshape in my life, felt
phenomenal.
Literally, last set, last rep,deadlifts.
I don't know what happened.
Something slipped.
I thought I literally paralyzedmyself.
Like...

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It was insane.
Still, like, cleared the bar.
Like, oh, my God, this isembarrassing.
Like, it's embarrassing thatthat was my first thought.
The

SPEAKER_03 (01:09:15):
mindset you

SPEAKER_02 (01:09:16):
have.
Yeah.
I can't let people know.
Exactly.
Like, what?
Like, I really injured myself.
Instead of, like, asking forhelp.
You

SPEAKER_03 (01:09:25):
cleared your bar

SPEAKER_02 (01:09:25):
off.
Yeah.
And letting people know, oh, mygosh, I think I just injured
myself.
I was embarrassed.
Like, oh, my God, what a loser Iam.
I'm

SPEAKER_03 (01:09:36):
so fit.
What

SPEAKER_02 (01:09:37):
happened?
Yeah.
Cleared my bar, put all myweights away, slowly walked to
the sauna.
Like, oh, my God, oh, my God,oh, my God, oh, my God, oh, my
God.
Like, literally, again, like,praying to God, please don't let
this be something serious.
Like, freaking out.

UNKNOWN (01:09:56):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (01:09:56):
I laid in the sauna for, I don't know, 30 minutes
thinking like, it'll be fine.
Like literally, yeah, I don'tknow.
I'm laying flat on my back and Igo to get up.
I'm like, Oh, my.
This is kind of difficult.

SPEAKER_03 (01:10:14):
And also, you're downplaying it.
You're

SPEAKER_02 (01:10:16):
downplaying.
Oh, I don't want anybody

SPEAKER_03 (01:10:17):
to know that.
I

SPEAKER_02 (01:10:17):
didn't

SPEAKER_03 (01:10:18):
say anything.
Mentally, you're downplayingprobably what

SPEAKER_02 (01:10:21):
it actually is.
Oh, I'm talking myself out ofit.
Like, that's just how I am aboutanything negative or bad.
I'm fine.
I'm fine.
This will be gone by themorning.
In just 30 minutes, it'll begone.
I'll just sleep.
It's fine.
I'll sleep it off.
Yeah.
It was difficult to stand.
Walking to my car, baby steps.

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At the time, I had my 2013Nissan Altima.

SPEAKER_03 (01:10:47):
Hotty

SPEAKER_02 (01:10:48):
to hotty.
Yeah.
So getting into my car wasdifficult.
Driving back to my apartment,slight elevation, difficult.
I had stairs down to myapartment, difficult.

SPEAKER_03 (01:11:07):
Still never asked for help.
Yeah,

SPEAKER_02 (01:11:09):
no.
Why would we do that?
This is disgusting, but this iswhat really happened.
I did not shower.
I just went straight to bed.
Like, I got to sleep this off.
I have to quit thinking aboutthis.
And, yeah.
Woke up, you know, normal thatday.
Tried to get out of bed.

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Could not, like, I had to rollup.
out of bed like i couldn't usemy core or back or whatever the
heck was going on right to likenothing normal about it
difficult to put on my pantsdifficult to tie my shoes like
oh my gosh what did i do whathappened this is devastating

(01:11:52):
because like i'm not evenkidding you this is we did this
is 2019 had just done the halfiron man in may and Went right
into 75 hard with you.
Went right into solo CrossFitcompetition.
Went right into HOA teamcompetition and phase one.

(01:12:16):
And...
God, I don't remember whathappened.
We had that relay race too atwork.
I don't remember which injurycame first.
Anyway, point being, my body waslike...
Um, it's time to slow down.
It's time to stop.
It's time for rest.

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And I wasn't going to givemyself that rest.
No, I wasn't stopping anytimesoon.
And guess what?

SPEAKER_03 (01:12:47):
Your body made you.

SPEAKER_02 (01:12:48):
Yeah.
And it happens every time, nomatter what we're talking about.
Like for you having Lucas andjust like, Oh crap.
Like I cannot even play with mychild right now.
Something has to change.

UNKNOWN (01:13:00):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (01:13:00):
It doesn't matter what it is.
Your

SPEAKER_03 (01:13:02):
body will signal to you.
That's why sometimes people getsick.
Your body will literally makeyou sick if it is tired and
needs a break.
You will get injured if yourbody is tired and needs a break.
I can't tell you how many timesI have trained somebody and they
are not eating properly and aninjury happens, not saying it's

(01:13:22):
with me, but just them doingsomething, them standing up.
I mean, them bending over topick something up and throwing
their back out, them picking uptheir child and tearing their

SPEAKER_02 (01:13:30):
quad.
I was showering and pulled myneck.

SPEAKER_03 (01:13:33):
But I mean, it's because your body's, they get
tired.
Like you have to rest.
You have to take care ofyourself and you have to do that
all around mentally, physically,emotionally.
That's why it's wellness.
It's a well-rounded, the wholething.
And you have to be mindful ofall of it.

SPEAKER_02 (01:13:55):
Yeah.
And I mean, like I said, my backinjury per se was my wake up
call.
Why?
Because I couldn't do anything.
I'm not kidding you.
We got snow in November thatyear and I will never forget it
because it was when thishappened, it was November 11th.
We've got snow in the parkinglot at my apartment complex and

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I am walking like an old, likeI'm not kidding you, a 90 year
old woman and I'm dying becauseit's cold and there's snow and
I'm going to fall on my butt andslip and like

SPEAKER_00 (01:14:33):
my

SPEAKER_02 (01:14:33):
back right and like you know i yesterday i was a 35
year old in the best shape ofher life and then like what

SPEAKER_03 (01:14:44):
one measly rep on a deadlift you'd already been
doing 10 reps on

SPEAKER_02 (01:14:48):
yeah

SPEAKER_03 (01:14:49):
messed y'all up

SPEAKER_02 (01:14:50):
but you know that's why we say health is not just
physical no because you Whenthings like that happen, it's
not the end of the world.
But if you don't have a strongmind, if you don't have a strong
spirit in addition to your body,because if you can't use your

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body for whatever reason, maybeyou are just sick and you can't
go to the gym for a week.
What is devastating to you?

SPEAKER_03 (01:15:18):
Also, on that point, what can you do to take care of
yourself?
Obviously, pushing yourself isnot the answer at that point.
Your body needs to rest and itneeds nutrition to heal.

SPEAKER_02 (01:15:28):
Well, and it's understanding like you're not in
control always.
Right.
Like I was not.
Did I go into the gym with theintention of injuring my back?
No.
But guess what?
It happened for I'm sure amultitude of reasons that didn't
just happen on that day at 35.
Right.

(01:15:48):
Like.
without going into detail thingslike that add up and I had done
things prior overuse whateveryou know add all the things I'd
done in my life but you're notalways in control and the only
thing you can control is how youcare for yourself so when I was
in that spot instead of like wasI bummed out yeah you know but

(01:16:13):
did I just stay bummed out forthe entire time of like coming
back from that absolutely notdid i just throw in the towel
with my nutrition and just sayoh well screw it i can't work
out so i'm just gonna eat likecrap no you know like the those
are the things that you have toremember of like okay well i
still have my mind i still havemy faith i still have my

(01:16:38):
nutrition just because i can'tfocus on physical which also not
100 true like obviously i had todo some things like rehab
exercises core exercises morespecifically and if i wasn't
going to do that things weren'tgoing to get better so it again
it was the combination of all ofyour

SPEAKER_03 (01:16:59):
hard yeah you're gonna stay injured and suffer
that way or are you gonna workat it and get better

SPEAKER_02 (01:17:07):
All right, so I think it's important, too, to
just run through what doeswellness look like for you now
in the sense of what are youdoing on a weekly basis?
What does...
fitness what's like my weeklyrundown i mean

SPEAKER_03 (01:17:24):
basically basically um weekly rundown i lift weights
four days a week so we are doingchest back i do two leg days a
week and then i have two cardiodays we'll call them i call them
high performance days uh it'smore functional movements more
mobility like i said the thingsthat i do to make sure i can

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maneuver in my everyday lifewithout getting injured and then
i have one rest day a week Imight go for a walk or I might
just sit on the couch and watchNetflix all day because that's
what my body needs that day.
I make sure to meditate three tofour times a week, which hint,
hint.
That may be something coming upfor our community that we're

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excited about.
It may or may not.
And I make sure I go to churchevery Sunday.
I, you know, worship music hasbecome a huge part of my every
day.
I find it as a great way toconnect with myself spiritually.
My nutrition, I keep at like...
80 so i'll eat really reallyclean but your girl's having
some type of sweet at some pointduring the week

SPEAKER_02 (01:18:30):
um okay guys i just stomped on the recording

SPEAKER_03 (01:18:35):
just stomped the laptop and it may or may not
have just turned off and i thinkwe're safe

SPEAKER_02 (01:18:38):
though um and i mean i can echo a lot of what britney
does i don't do all of the sameexact things i do i will say a
lot less than i used to do justbecause honestly my body craves
more rest now more sleep um butthings that I do don't go a week

(01:19:01):
without lifting at least threedays if not more like it just
really depends on how I feel umyou know some weeks I'll lift
five days out of the week and Itry to get movement Every single
day.
And I do.
I have a very sedentary job.
It's on the computer talking topeople all day long.

(01:19:23):
So like I have to get up andwalk.
Right.
But that's really like my weekand focusing on my water intake
and electrolytes and sleep.
And again, it just coffee.

UNKNOWN (01:19:41):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (01:19:42):
I'm not as addicted as Brittany is, but I love my
coffee.
But point being, it's like youhave to listen to your body.
And again, like we said at thebeginning, everybody is a little
bit different.
So don't think that you have tobe doing exactly what somebody
else is doing.
You need to figure out whatworks for you, what you can

(01:20:02):
stick to, and what you canreally incorporate as a
lifestyle.
You

SPEAKER_03 (01:20:08):
don't have

SPEAKER_02 (01:20:08):
to work

SPEAKER_03 (01:20:09):
out five days a week, six days a week.
I tell people, even juststarting with two days, if
you're not working out at all,Start working out two days and
then maybe a month or two youadd a day.
Like you don't have to beextreme.
It's about figuring out what youcan do within your life to make
it better.

SPEAKER_02 (01:20:26):
Yeah.
Well, and realize how you feelwhen you do certain things.
Right.
So for me on days where like Iget caught up in my work and I
didn't get up to get someadditional movement to get a
walk in.
Guess what?
I feel kind of sluggish andcrappy.
So I will say just kind of tosum it up.
basically lifting three to fourdays a week, walking every day,

(01:20:49):
uh, making sure I'm gettingenough water, sleep, um, fueling
my body properly, right?
Like not eating a bunch of crap.
Um, and I just keep it thatsimple.
You know, I will say it's alsovery beneficial for me again to
do meditation, visualvisualization, um, really

(01:21:10):
focusing on, breath work andregulating my nervous system.
I know I keep saying that.
And like Brittany said,realizing how important that is
and that we will beincorporating that into some of
the challenges that we're doing.
We will be incorporating thatwithin our community because I
don't think enough people focuson it, not because they don't

(01:21:34):
want to, because they don't knowhow.

SPEAKER_03 (01:21:36):
Yeah.
And I even think like formyself, As much as people
struggle with doing the good asfar as eating right and working
out, for me, I struggle with theresting.
I love to go.
I love working out.
It's my stress release, myanxiety release.
So I really have to fight myselfto rest.
I have to remind myself that therest is good.
My body needs it.

(01:21:56):
Because as though I don't havemy eating disorder mindset
anymore, it does still show up.
And I do have to daily remindmyself the importance of fueling
my body, resting, and not goingballs to the wall.

SPEAKER_02 (01:22:10):
Yeah.
I mean, and that's definitelysomething that I struggled with.
In the beginning was just likethe sitting still, the slowing
down, the quiet, the sittingwith

SPEAKER_03 (01:22:23):
whatever struggle you're going through.
Which I think that's where themeditation helps.
It makes you realize that beingable to sit and find that inner
peace and calm is just as goodof a feeling as chasing that
high from your workouts.

SPEAKER_02 (01:22:37):
So Brittany, what would...
your younger self be shocked,more proud of that you are doing
today that was very difficultfor you when you were younger or
that maybe you told yourself,there is no way I'll ever do
that.
I

SPEAKER_03 (01:22:53):
think she would be so proud of the way that I can
move now because she alwaysviewed herself as a weakling.
I never thought I was verystrong.
I knew I had a strong will, butI never...
viewed myself as like I couldmove weight so I think if she
could see me now she'd be veryvery proud of herself for
pushing herself to do things shethought she couldn't do

SPEAKER_02 (01:23:16):
yeah and I think I'm like kind of the opposite right
like I always believed in mystrength I always believed in my
athletic ability um but I didn'tnecessarily believe in like my
faith or my spiritual self andthe fact that, you know, I can
lead people from the inside outnow and not just like leading by

(01:23:41):
example.
Yeah.
Right.
Look at all

SPEAKER_03 (01:23:43):
these

SPEAKER_02 (01:23:43):
weights I can lift.
I think that's

SPEAKER_03 (01:23:45):
a beautiful thing too.
Like being able to show peoplethe beauty you have with inside
of you, that that's something tobe proud of too.

SPEAKER_02 (01:23:53):
And getting people to understand how strong that is
on everything else in your lifeas well.
You know, The fact that Imeditate and visualize and I
will say, you know, obviously,yes, the physical is very good
for you.
I could go on and on about allthe physiological benefits.
Right.
That's great.

SPEAKER_03 (01:24:11):
We all want to look good naked.
We got

SPEAKER_02 (01:24:15):
it.
And quite honestly, that's whatpushes me.
But, you know, you don't realizehow just like sitting in quiet,
sitting in prayer, sitting andmeditating, sitting and
visualizing.
How you can see yourself doingcertain things and see yourself
walking through life or evenlike visualizing or meditating

(01:24:38):
on something in the future andhow you're going to handle it,
how you're going to navigate it,how you're going to, you know,
get ready for the unexpected, soto speak.
Like, again, just it helps you.
i hate saying this but helps youcontrol what you what you can't
control control and

SPEAKER_03 (01:25:00):
meditation doesn't have to be silent like i have to
have music i turn music on andit can i mean usually it's
worship music and i just sit andbe still listen to the words
focus on your breathing anythought that pops up that's not
quiet you push it away

SPEAKER_02 (01:25:17):
Well, and I think too, you know, what we're going
to have for, you know, ourchallenge in our community too
is a lot of guided meditationbecause I know for me, um, I
turned to yoga first.
This is 2006, maybe before that.
I don't even remember the firstyoga class I took.
I think it was 2005 or 2006.
Hot yoga.

(01:25:38):
Bikram hot yoga.
We'll get into that later.
But anyway, point being, thereason I did it is because I
didn't know how to sit still.
I didn't know what fitness wasoutside of just, like you said,
balls to the wall, lifting heavyweights, putting it down, being
Being an athlete, beingcompetitive and where yoga was

(01:26:01):
the complete opposite.
Yeah.
You are in silence.
These were 90 minute hot yoga.
I'm dripping sweat.
thoughts that

SPEAKER_03 (01:26:11):
run through your mind oh my god I thought I was
gonna 90 minute hot yoga classes

SPEAKER_02 (01:26:15):
not kidding I'm gonna die I'm gonna die I'm
gonna die why

SPEAKER_03 (01:26:17):
did I do this why am I here what is happening what is
going on you look around isanybody else gonna pass out no

SPEAKER_02 (01:26:23):
why am I in child pose so much and everybody else
looks like they're doing fine I

SPEAKER_03 (01:26:27):
wish she had a handstand

SPEAKER_02 (01:26:32):
but the point is is you have to find out what the
meditation and visualization isfor you it does not have to be
90 minute Bikram hot Okay.
And some of the things thatwe'll do are like, you know,
three to five minute guidedmeditation.

SPEAKER_03 (01:26:48):
We plan to give you some baby steps.
Yeah.
Hopefully lead you to the paththat you need for yourself.
Exactly.

SPEAKER_02 (01:26:54):
So Brittany, what would you say to the woman who
feels like she's failing becauseher wellness doesn't look
perfect online?

SPEAKER_03 (01:27:04):
I don't.
would tell her that no one'sjourney looks the same.
Your win today might be rest.
It might be a walk.
It might be eating a full meal.
You're not behind.
You are building, and that'senough.
You do not have to be likeanybody else, but yourself, your
wins are your wins, and to justnever compare yourself to

(01:27:28):
somebody else.

SPEAKER_02 (01:27:29):
I love that.
The comparison is the bigtakeaway that I want to throw
out there because Instagramlies.
Filters lie.
So many influencers aren't evenhonest about what they do or how
they feel.
Don't go chasing curated chaos.

(01:27:49):
Take it

SPEAKER_03 (01:27:50):
from both of us in that sense too.
Me and Lauren have been in thefitness and social media
influencer world for a very longtime.
we've seen a lot of people'sreal selves

SPEAKER_02 (01:28:00):
yep

SPEAKER_03 (01:28:01):
yep

SPEAKER_02 (01:28:02):
that's all i'll say on that but yeah and you know
last thing like that's just saysdon't compare yourself to
anybody else and don't talk shitabout anybody either no like
it's not worth it you don't needit it doesn't matter like the
only person you should befocusing on is yourself staying
in your lane and honestly um youknow going along with fitness

(01:28:24):
things that i've learned movingforward too is like quit taking
so much in from other peoplelike choose peace surround
yourself with people who upliftyou and don't judge you you know
I think we have all fallenvictim to trying to fit in with
a certain crowd or certainpeople and realizing like those

(01:28:46):
people are not sticking up foryou in rooms that you are not in
and unfortunately you learn thatthe hard way yep So when it
comes to wellness, again, like Isaid, it is not just the
physical.
It's also the mental.
It's also spiritual, faith,whatever you believe.
It doesn't matter.
But all of that plays a role,including the people you allow

(01:29:07):
in your life and including whatyou tolerate in your life,
including the people that.
are in your life and the waythey are treating you, that is
your environment also.
And that affects your physicaljust as much as the mental, the
spiritual, the faith.
Like you have to realize like ifyou are not allowing positive

(01:29:31):
influences in your life and youare allowing negative that, that
affects

SPEAKER_03 (01:29:38):
you.
I challenge you to take a lookat the people around you and see
how much negative talk they do.
and how much positive talk theydo and decide if that's what you
want to be around.
Yep.

SPEAKER_02 (01:29:49):
So I hope this resonated with you.
I hope you understand thatwellness is not just physical
and you understand what wellnessactually looks like for you.
You know, I think listening tothis, you probably figured out
that there's some areas that,ooh, I could work on that.
I could improve that.

(01:30:10):
Or, oh, I never thought ofeven...
that being a part of my wellnessjourney

SPEAKER_03 (01:30:15):
and we'd love to hear it like if you guys want to
share your stories you want tosend us a message we'd love to
hear about your journeys whatyou're going through maybe if
you're struggling with somethingand we can help out in that way
that's what we're here for so

SPEAKER_02 (01:30:26):
yeah we both are super passionate obviously about
fitness nutrition wellness as awhole we keep hinting at our
challenge that's coming up butwe're really really excited for
that because again wellness isgoing to play a really big role
in helping you become who youwant to become, what you were
meant to become.

(01:30:47):
And it doesn't have to bedifficult.
You need supportive, upliftingpeople in your life.
And Brittany and I hope that wecan be a couple of those people
in your life.
But I will say like, You onlyneed one or two.
You

SPEAKER_03 (01:31:04):
want two salads and you're good to go.

SPEAKER_02 (01:31:06):
But like Brittany said to tag us at legacy over
labels.
Tell us what does wellnessactually look for you look like
for you this week.
Share that with us.
Let us know.
Let us know where we can help.
We'll see you guys next week.
We can't wait.
Bye.

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