April 20, 2025 • 29 mins
Lauren and Brittany explore the transformative power of shedding labels and embracing personal evolution, sharing vulnerable stories about growing beyond others' perceptions and outgrowing relationships that no longer serve your highest self.
• Challenging the labels and identities that have been placed on us by others
• Navigating the grief of outgrowing friendships, even decades-long ones
• Embracing "low-maintenance friendships" that don't require constant contact
• Drawing parallels between personal transformation and the Easter story
• Using the question "What would my future self do?" as a guide for decisions
• Finding purpose beyond identity shifts and unexpected life changes
• Understanding that growth doesn't mean abandoning your past, but using it as fuel
Tag us at @legacyoverlabels and tell us what label you're ready to let go of. Don't forget to share this with a woman in your life who needs the reminder she's allowed to change, evolve, and rise.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Don't you wanna come over?
Don't you wanna work it out?
Don't you wanna love me better?
Love me better.
Love me now.
Don't you wanna fix a problem?
Hi guys, welcome back to theLegacy Over Live with Podcast.
My name is Lauren and I am abusiness and confidence coach.
And I am a bold truth teller,fiercely loyal, and I believe in
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showing up 100% as yourauthentic self always and I
believe in showing up 100% asyour authentic self, always.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
And I'm Brittany, your mindset mirror, straight
shooting, strategy girl andco-founder of Legacy Over Labels
.
I'm a coach, encourager, energybringer and hype woman for
women chasing a life ofenlightenment, and we are so
excited to have you on episodetwo today on Good Friday, love
it.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
So today's episode is you don't have to be who you
used to be.
I want to start here becausethis one's personal.
Obviously, for a long time Ihave felt like people
misunderstood me and it's beenvery different my entire life.
(01:06):
So, like as a kid, I was asuper quiet I don't want to say
shy, but it was just likedepending on who I was around, I
was very, um, guarded as far aswho could see me in a
vulnerable state and I'm stillkind of like that, like if I'm
not completely comfortable withyou and uh, but I've gotten a
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lot more used to like having theuncomfortable or sorry,
uncomfortable conversation whenI know that it has to be had,
and being very loyal anddefending myself and defending
people.
Um, from a justice standpoint,you know, like if I know people
need someone to stick up forthem, I'm always that person,
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cause I hate seeing people thatare being wronged.
Um, but I think you know, withlabels particularly, you are
going to be misunderstood a lotand you're not necessarily going
to know how people view you,because they don't tell you or,
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again, you fear how peopleperceive you, so maybe you
aren't being yourself.
So, like both sides are alwaysto blame and you don't
necessarily know where you standall the time.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I agree, I feel like when me and Lauren were talking
about today's episode, Istruggled a bit with labels and
a younger age.
I was like I don't know, Idon't feel like I was labeled
anything when I was, you know,teen years and younger, and
maybe that's a tribute to beinga Gemini.
I feel like I just chameleonedmy way through and just felt
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like I took on who I should befor the people I was around.
So I didn't feel like I wasgetting labeled, but that's
because I was vibing offwhatever energy or what they
were putting out.
But then, you know, thinkingback to teachers, teachers
always accused me of just beingoutspoken and like talking too
much in class and all thesethings and they didn't think I
took school seriously and it'slike I think I just really
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enjoyed hanging out with myfriends.
I don't know, maybe I justdidn't take school seriously.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Which I was kind of the opposite.
Everybody perceived me as quiet, shy, reserved, taking things
too seriously.
But I am the complete oppositeof that, really like I.
Obviously I do have a lot offocus and drive and discipline,
confidence.
But if you know me well, youknow I'm the biggest jokester
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there is serious when need be.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
it's kind of the same sense.
You're very good at perceivingwhat you think somebody might
want to see, like if you wantsomebody to perceive you as
being serious because you wantto be taken seriously, but those
that know are like she cannotbe that serious.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
OK, just going back to you, know why we bring up
this topic of you don't have tobe who you used to be.
You don't have to be who youused to be because I think when
you let labels define who youare, it really brings your
confidence down.
It flattens you as far as, likeyour character, your, you know
all label that somebody elsegives you to define who you are.
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Then you don't ever, you don'tshow up as who you are
authentically.
I mean, it's as simple as that.
Like you're not being who youtruly want to be, and sometimes
I think it's also like well,they already think I'm this, so
why?
Speaker 2 (04:40):
would.
I feel like you could get.
You probably can relate as well, Like when I was growing up I
was viewed as like a big tomboy.
It's like I wore basketballshorts and played with the boy
Like I never wore girl clothes,I hated dresses.
But as I got older, clearly Iwant to dress like a girl and I
want to be a girl because I likeboys.
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But you know, it was very it wasan odd thing to start doing and
have to go to school like doingmy hair or like wearing a skirt
, because people would point itout like, oh, like you have a
skirt on today or you did yourhair and then you get
self-conscious about it.
Or you played softball like youprobably at some point felt
like that was your identity, soto like transfer out of that,
but that's all people viewed meas.
So it's like you feel like you.
You get stuck in this identityof what people view you as.
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So you're like well, can Ichange?
What are they going to say?
What are people going to dowhen I start doing something
different than what I've beendoing?
But you have to decide at thatpoint is like do I want to stay
with what this is, even though Idon't identify as this anymore,
or am I going to change and dowhat I actually want to be doing
?
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Yeah, I could definitely get in the weeds with
that because but I did a lot ofthings.
I will say, yes, I playedsoftball, but as a kid, you know
, I played softball in college.
That was really like the onlybig thing that I did in college.
But as a kid, I playedbasketball, volleyball, cross
country, I was in theater, I wasin band, I was in choir, I was,
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you know, like.
I had this like dualpersonality of like.
I was, you know, the, theathlete, the jog, whatever.
But then I also had this veryartsy side to me and I loved
writing.
I was young author, spelling,bee champ, like crazy things,
you know.
Did you enjoy all those?
Speaker 2 (06:31):
things like did you feel like you had to pursue them
because something and youwanted to be?
I don't say like the best andeverything, but like, yes, you
wanted to be like I had to dothat.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
I can do that because I knew, like if I would show
off right, like that's a reallygood word, right, show off.
I wasn't a show off, though.
I was not someone that boastedor bragged about like, oh, look
what I can do, I just I mean, itwas more like, for yourself,
that's approval, yeah, fromother people.
Yeah, like, let me show allevery as many people as I
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possibly can what I'm capable of.
Yeah, why, to your point, didyou want to do all of those
things?
Like, imagine if I just focusedon one, a few, but I was.
I was always that person thatwas super involved in everything
.
I was friends.
I was always that person thatwas super involved in everything
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.
I was friends with everyone.
But the piece of that that wasa little bit deterring is like I
didn't.
I never really fit in with onegroup.
I didn't have a necessarily abest friends group and I don't
really have a group of friendsthat I'm still friends with to
this day from grade school orjunior high or high school.
I don't either.
And when people are like I'vestill friends with to this day
from grade school or junior highor high school.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
I don't either.
And when people are like, I'vebeen friends with them since
grade school I'm like how?
Speaker 1 (07:51):
I mean and we'll talk about this later but that was a
huge identity shift for me uh,losing friendships that I had
for 20 and even 30 years,because I just felt like I
wasn't growing with those peopleanymore.
I was again.
I didn't want to lose thosefriendships and I was, you know,
people pleasing and performingto keep them and realize that I
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wasn't getting, uh, the supportthat I wanted or needed, or the
growth that I wanted or neededfrom those friendships anymore.
And that was, it was hard, hardit's a scary thing to like lose,
but then I feel like you do itand you do realize what you were
, in a sense, sacrificing tokeep those friendships yeah, and
(08:33):
I mean that really leads usinto the next part of, like you
know, call it the shedding,right I think of like a snake,
yeah, shedding its skin, or likeyou were talking about, you
know, gemini yeah, justtransforming, yeah, I mean just
becoming who you truly want tobe and not worrying about what
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that's going to look like,moving forward and also letting
go of some things that are notnecessarily serving you, and not
to cut people off or cut peopleout of your life, cause I don't
like using really either one ofthose terms.
It's just you're growing and inorder to grow, sometimes you
have to shed or leave behindsome of those things that were
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comfortable, and it's sadbecause it shaped you, it shaped
who you were and, yeah, thatwas hard, you know, like knowing
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that, like I, not that Icouldn't reach out to them or
talk to them or hang out withthem, whatever, but it just
wasn't going to get me to theplace that I wanted to be
anymore.
I felt like I was wasting a lotof time doing things I didn't
necessarily want to do anymore,one of those things being, you
know, going out and drinking onthe weekend, like it just wasn't
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serving me.
I don't think it's like youchoosing to.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
It's not a negative thing, right, because they
technically have a choice.
They have a choice.
They can either evolve with youor accept this.
You know what you're going into.
But if they choose to staydoing the same thing that
they're doing, they're alsomaking a choice that that's
where they want to stay in theirpath.
But yours is going another wayand you can't stay on that path
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anymore.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
And I think that's the best word evolving.
Yeah, you were evolving.
If they wanted to evolve withyou or grow with you, then they
would, and I knew what directionI wanted to go and I went that
way and they didn't come with.
And it felt selfish at first,it felt heavy, because I am that
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deep rooted loyal person thatwants to protect and serve the
people I care about.
But I did feel like I wasleaving them behind.
In that, in that moment, inthose years of that identity
shift and yeah, I, I grieved itfor sure.
You know there were.
It's kind of silly butseriously, you get on Facebook
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and you see these memories fromone year ago, five years ago,
you know, and some of them noware like 10 years ago, and I'm
like it's hard when you look atthem and you're like like you
still love them and in your mindyou're almost like what
happened.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
But then you're like, well, you're still in the same
place yeah, it was amicable,yeah, and there really wasn't a
conversation.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
No, you just grew apart and grew apart.
You just quit talking.
One day was the last time wehad a conversation and I don't
remember when.
That was, to be completelyhonest, which isn't that wild.
It's like kind of sad.
I there were a lot of momentswhere I was very sad.
It's like a breakup.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
It is.
But then you find your newcircle.
You, as you grow, you findpeople that are, you know, on
the same path.
You're going on and you knowmaybe they're your new friends
for 30 years, maybe they're yourfriends for five, but I do
fully believe people come intoyour life for like a season and
that's okay, like you don't haveto be friends for a lifetime.
I mean me and you, even when Iwas going through my divorce,
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were like super close.
We saw each other every singleday, every day, for like a year.
And then, you know, me andBrock got serious, moved in
together.
We didn't see each other asoften, not that we grew apart,
but it was like we were bothexploring different paths and
then within this last year,we've like come all the way back
together again.
But it's like I enjoyed thosekinds of friendships where maybe
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me and Lauren weren't talkingevery day, but she's somebody I
know that I was like in a matterof a moment, if I needed
something, I could call her.
So it's like you can havefriendships like that too.
You don't have to have friendsthat you talk to every single
day, but to have those friendsthat you know you can rely on,
no matter what, I think arecrucial, as you're growing too.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
I like to refer to them as low-maintenance
friendships.
So it doesn't matter when wereach out to each other, when we
call each other, when we texteach other, we just pick up from
where we left off.
Nothing bad happened.
No, we don't get mad at eachother because we're not free.
When each other asks each other, each other, can I say each
other, each other, each other.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Each other, Can I say each other each other, each
other.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
But if you asked me to do something and I wasn't
available, you don't get madabout it.
But hey, if you have thisreally cool thing going on or a
dinner that I don't know you puttogether with a bunch of women,
you invite me to it, whether Ican go or not.
And especially when you hadyour business and I was still at
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first form, that was hard, thatwas hard to get any time lined
up that worked and you just haveto understand that that's the
season of life that you're inand if you value that friendship
, it's going to be there.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
I think that's my biggest values now, as friends
that don't hold againsthappening to change plans last
minute or just not being in themood to go out, friends that
aren't, you know, negative.
They want to sit and talknegatively about other people
and start drama.
It's like I'm trying to fill mycircle now with uplifting
people, people that understandhectic schedules and people that
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are trying to move forward intheir lives and help others
along the way, and it's beenvery refreshing.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
I think that's the biggest thing is like, even when
you know it's right, it stillhurts.
And the other side of it too,like what you're talking about
is not placing theseexpectations on people and
taking it so personally most ofthe time has nothing to do with
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you.
No, it's not that they don'tlike you.
It's not that somebody else ismore important than you.
They might just not have thecapacity to show up.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
What was it you said the one day we were training, we
were talking about that and Iwas like that's so good, it's
where it's like the they mightnot have the energy.
You're like, you know, whensomebody's not reaching out to
me, I don't take it personally.
I think that they may not havethe mental capacity or emotional
capacity right now.
So so then I I think, like yousaid, you think yourself to
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reach out, like hey, I haven'theard from you in a while.
Is everything okay?
Instead of getting defensiveabout it, where I think a lot of
people turn to the defense,like how dare them not talk to
me?
And what are they doing?
I see them out.
Or da da, da, da.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
And it's like yeah, I mean, I, I can speak for myself
, right?
That's the whole point.
Um, I can speak more for myself, in that if I'm not reaching
out to you, I'm probably notdoing anything.
I'm probably sitting at home bymyself recharging.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
Literally.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
I'm probably mentally exhausted.
Uh, my, my.
I don't have any more bandwidthto allow anything else in my
life at the moment.
Don't take it personally.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
Yeah, this is something you wanted to touch,
this is something I wanted totouch on because easter is
sunday and we are recording onfriday, so you guys will hear
this Monday, obviously the dayafter Easter.
But I did want to touch on goodFriday Cause I feel like it
aligns so well with what we areall about to begin with.
But, um, this episodespecifically, this episode
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specifically, because I feellike if anyone knew what it felt
like to be misunderstood,betrayed and to still rise, it
was Jesus.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Absolutely.
I mean, what is the whole pointof Good Friday, like what is
happening to Jesus?
Um, why is he being sentencedto death?
Speaker 2 (17:00):
And how do you think he felt on that day?
And how do you think he felt onthat day?
Speaker 1 (17:09):
like he knew what was coming and he still chose his
path, that he knew he had tochoose.
Yeah, and he, regardless ofbeing betrayed by one of his
disciples, judas, regardless ofbeing accused of things that he
did not do, regardless of beingmisunderstood, regardless of
being doubted, regardless of allof these negative things that
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you know, every single story wetold.
That's what it's all about.
It's being misunderstood.
It's people that are notsupporting you in the way that
you want or need them to.
Are you still choosing to showup as your best self?
Speaker 2 (17:47):
And I feel like even in like your darkest days at
least for me and probably foryou too like even in my darkest
days.
That's why I've always turnedto Jesus and God, because he has
been there, he is somebody thatunderstands that and he chooses
you every day, all the time, solike if you ever feel like
nobody's choosing you or youwere by yourself, he's there and
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he's there to lean on.
And I think easter reminds usour past doesn't define our
worth, neither does it defineour performance or other
people's opinions, but it itdoes, it is defined by him, the
one person who's gave everythingfor us.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Yeah, and I feel like we both have had those moments
where we felt completely alone.
We were wondering if we weredoing the right thing, but it
was our faith most of the timethat got us through.
You know, like I was mentioningearlier of, uh, if I'm not
reaching out to you, I'mprobably not doing anything,
because maybe I'm feeling reallydown and low and alone and like
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it's a reminder to reach out tothose people you care about too
, because you know those quietprayers, those nights crying
alone on the floor in your bed,crying yourself to sleep We've
all had them, you know.
But do you hear that voice?
That's your faith that istelling you keep going right.
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If you're, you've ever feltisolated in your growth and I
think if you're growing, youdefinitely had moments of
isolation.
If you've lost people becauseyou chose healing over hustling
to fit in, or the opposite,maybe you needed to hustle a
little bit at the time and youwere, like me, choosing to go
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out to the bar and have fun.
That really wasn't getting youanywhere you realize you're not
alone and you were made to rise,and a lot of you may be living
your Fridays.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
You may be living in your darkest days, and I feel
like now this time of year, is agood time to think about, like,
what cross may you be carryingright now, um, and where do you
need to let Jesus in?
Like, where do you need to lethim help you?
Where do you feel like you'reblocking him?
It can be different things,like for me, a lot of times it's
my ego, like I don't think Ineed him.
But even when you're doingreally well and you're being
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successful, like he's stillthere.
You shouldn't just seek himwhen you're in your dark days.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
you should always be seeking him, um, I like that
because I think we're all guiltyof that.
I know, I am.
You know, I definitely reachout to him, more so when I am
just like hopeless yeah, likehelp me, yeah, exactly.
Why this morning trying to getan Uber?
This is not that deep, Ipromise.
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I sat in Uber for 3.30 in themorning and it was confirmed
everything and all of a sudden,no drivers available.
Dear God, please, baby Jesus,help me now.
I don't know what to do.
I'm in florida and I need to getto st louis to record a podcast
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and jesus heard you lorenzoshowed up at my mercy, got me to
the airport for my 6 am flight.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
You know, it's little things but so did you thank God
when she got on the plane, LikeI'm here.
Thank you, Jesus.
I thank you for the good things.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
I thanked God when I saw Lorenzo's name pop up, that
he was on his way and will bethere in six minutes.
So, yes, hallelujah, amen,praise everything that be, you
know.
But the other part of it too ishey, if it wouldn't have worked
out and I didn't get a ride andI didn't get home today, there
would have been a reason for it,exactly.
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So, yes, obviously, reach outwhen you're feeling low, when
you need some help, when youneed some guidance, but, like
Brittany said, also, be thankfulfor everything, regardless if
you think it's positive ornegative in the actual moment.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Yeah, always make time, but we hope you guys had a
beautiful easter weekend.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
We just wanted to touch on that for a moment and I
think the biggest thing I wantyou to take away is growth
doesn't mean you're abandoningyour past, right?
We talk about, obviously, growthyou're gonna lose some things
along the way doesn't mean maybeyou didn't lose anything along
the way, maybe you werefortunate enough to keep
everything in your life andeverything grew with you, and
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great you know.
But if that didn't happen whichthat doesn't happen for most of
us it's not saying forget aboutthose people that were in your
life or forget about thosemoments, good or bad.
It's take all of that with youin order to fuel your growth
moving forward, and that's,personally, what I use a lot is,
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like you know, unfortunately, Iremember much more negative
than I do positive.
I think that's the human nature, yeah, but I use that as fuel.
That is my fuel every day, likeI do not want to look back at
my life and regret not takingchances, not going for it, not
going after my dreams andaspirations, because I felt like
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I had to stay in a situationthat was no longer serving me.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
You know you can love who you used to be and still
decide she's not who you want tobe anymore.
And that's not betrayal, that'sbecoming and especially for me,
like with losing the gym allfrom when I was 18 years old,
all I've ever wanted was like myown facility.
I'm like dreams, that's all Iwant.
Beautiful facility, all thesethings, you know, got it sooner
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than we had planned to everbuild it and when we lost it it
was such like a who am I now?
Moment and what happened.
And I was so almost angry CauseI was like I can't be that
person anymore that I worked sohard to be.
But now, you know, we're three,four months out from that and
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it's been a big realization tome.
Where it was like there's moreLike that, wasn't it?
So, as much as that was aheartache and a loss for me,
it's like I've also realized,god, there's so much more to
come.
It's like I get excited becausewe, god, there's so much more
to come and so, like I getexcited because we've both been
through so much stuff and sowhen bad things do happen, I
remind myself that constantly oflike there's more to come, and
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so that's why I get excited,like keep moving forward, cause
I'm like, okay, something betteris coming, something more
exciting is coming.
So I'm like it's really cool, Iachieved something I've always
wanted.
But then I'm like it's reallycool, I achieved something I've
always wanted.
But then I'm like in my mindnow I'm like what is actually
coming?
Speaker 1 (24:26):
Well, I think we're guilty of that.
I've arrived, yeah Right.
When you got the gym, youthought I arrived.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Here's my calling, my purpose.
This is what I am supposed todo.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
Well, and this is where I'm going to be for the
rest of my life, I'm I and Idon't want to put words in your
mouth, but I'm going to growforce performance.
There's going to be multipleforce performance.
We're going to have multiplecoaches.
People are going to take overcoaching for me, so I can just
run the business.
Yeah, that was the end goal, andit's also also proof you never
really know what's coming reallydon't and I think that's one of
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my main points too is that, youknow, even going to college,
being a d1 athlete, guess what?
I knew that was going to beover in 2006 when I graduated.
And then what?
Because you, you hit on thisearlier, that identity shift.
I had identified with being anathlete my entire life.
I got a full ride scholarship,but like then what?
(25:24):
Oh, I was only 22 when that wasover.
You know, then getting a job,then deciding I don't like that
job, I'm going to go get anotherdegree.
Then not using that degree,then going and getting another
degree, you know?
So, in long story short, itdoesn't matter how much money,
time, whatever you spend onbecoming something.
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If you're not happy doing thatthing, that's okay, you don't
have to stay stuck?
Speaker 2 (25:52):
No, I think you realize a lot of things too,
even with the gym, like now,amazing, and we have Raquel and
not like, obviously, lucas.
But Raquel came in and now I'mlike God, I don't have all this
backhand stuff I have to do athome when I'm not coaching.
I have all this free time tospend with my family and my
friends and things I was missingout on because I was so
overwhelmed with all of theweight of owning a business
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Right, and now I've beenrelieved of that.
So it's like roles change,things change, but like, as you
grow, new things come and youmight be relieved.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Yeah, like you're not going to regret going through
whatever you went through, orlearning whatever you learned,
or being a part of whatever youwere a part of.
But the next time you feelstuck, I think you should ask
yourself what would my futureself do?
Because if you're in a spotwhere you realize this is not
what I want anymore, how do youfigure out who you want to be?
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And I think the simplest, mosteasiest version of being able to
accomplish that is just asking,like literally, that who do you
want to be?
Where do you want to be?
Who do you want to become?
And then even just the smallestdecisions of what am I going to
eat for breakfast?
Well, who would the person thatI want to become?
What are they going to eat forbreakfast?
(27:10):
They'd have a personal chef.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
Oh, they had.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Yeah, but okay, we're not at the point where we can
pay for the personal chef yet.
But but are we going to havedonuts?
Are we going to have eggs?
Are we going to have protein orjust straight carbs, you know
like okay, well, I have aphysical goal in mind, so I
guess I'm going to have the eggstoday, more often than not,
(27:33):
yeah, but I'm not going to getdown on myself for having the
donuts every once in a while Ihad a good friend yesterday in a
meeting mentioned somethingsimilar in the sense of like
think of yourself.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
You know what you've been through the last five, 10
years.
You've made it through everyhardship you've ever been
through, so you're going to befine the next five, 10 years.
Whatever you go through, you'regoing to get through it.
But you should still have avision of where you want to be
and it's like what steps can youtake to get there faster?
Cause you've learned stuff fromthose five to 10 years, so
(28:06):
there's no point in dwelling onthem.
But like what did you learnfrom all that that you can use
now to project yourself forwardto who you actually want to be?
Speaker 1 (28:14):
Yeah, I mean, I think the best example for us is
literally this right now, wehave done multiple versions of
showing up on social media.
Showing up, you know, givingzoom talks or conferences or
podcasts, or you know, we'vedabbled in all of these things
(28:35):
so that when we came together todo this, this, not everything
is brand new.
No, it's just learning newthings, new processes and doing
it with another person.
Yeah, so we know how hard it isto let gold old, to let go of
old versions of yourself,especially when other people
want to keep you there, but yourlegacy isn't built on staying
small.
It's built on choosing you,even when it's uncomfortable.
(28:58):
You don't have to be who youused to be.
So tag us at legacy over labels.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Tell us what's one label you're ready to let go of
and don't forget to share thiswith a woman in your life who
needs the reminder she's allowedto change, she's allowed to
evolve and she's allowed to rise.
Don't you wanna come over?
Don't you wanna work it out?
Don't you wanna love me better?
Love me better.
Love me now.
Don't you wanna fix a problem?
Hi guys, welcome back to theLegacy Over Live with Podcast.
My name is Lauren and I am abusiness and confidence coach.
And I am a bold truth teller,fiercely loyal, and I believe in
(00:21):
showing up 100% as yourauthentic self always and I
believe in showing up 100% asyour authentic self, always.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
And I'm Brittany, your mindset mirror, straight
shooting, strategy girl andco-founder of Legacy Over Labels
.
I'm a coach, encourager, energybringer and hype woman for
women chasing a life ofenlightenment, and we are so
excited to have you on episodetwo today on Good Friday, love
it.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
So today's episode is you don't have to be who you
used to be.
I want to start here becausethis one's personal.
Obviously, for a long time Ihave felt like people
misunderstood me and it's beenvery different my entire life.
(01:06):
So, like as a kid, I was asuper quiet I don't want to say
shy, but it was just likedepending on who I was around, I
was very, um, guarded as far aswho could see me in a
vulnerable state and I'm stillkind of like that, like if I'm
not completely comfortable withyou and uh, but I've gotten a
(01:30):
lot more used to like having theuncomfortable or sorry,
uncomfortable conversation whenI know that it has to be had,
and being very loyal anddefending myself and defending
people.
Um, from a justice standpoint,you know, like if I know people
need someone to stick up forthem, I'm always that person,
(01:50):
cause I hate seeing people thatare being wronged.
Um, but I think you know, withlabels particularly, you are
going to be misunderstood a lotand you're not necessarily going
to know how people view you,because they don't tell you or,
(02:11):
again, you fear how peopleperceive you, so maybe you
aren't being yourself.
So, like both sides are alwaysto blame and you don't
necessarily know where you standall the time.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I agree, I feel like when me and Lauren were talking
about today's episode, Istruggled a bit with labels and
a younger age.
I was like I don't know, Idon't feel like I was labeled
anything when I was, you know,teen years and younger, and
maybe that's a tribute to beinga Gemini.
I feel like I just chameleonedmy way through and just felt
(02:44):
like I took on who I should befor the people I was around.
So I didn't feel like I wasgetting labeled, but that's
because I was vibing offwhatever energy or what they
were putting out.
But then, you know, thinkingback to teachers, teachers
always accused me of just beingoutspoken and like talking too
much in class and all thesethings and they didn't think I
took school seriously and it'slike I think I just really
(03:06):
enjoyed hanging out with myfriends.
I don't know, maybe I justdidn't take school seriously.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Which I was kind of the opposite.
Everybody perceived me as quiet, shy, reserved, taking things
too seriously.
But I am the complete oppositeof that, really like I.
Obviously I do have a lot offocus and drive and discipline,
confidence.
But if you know me well, youknow I'm the biggest jokester
(03:35):
there is serious when need be.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
it's kind of the same sense.
You're very good at perceivingwhat you think somebody might
want to see, like if you wantsomebody to perceive you as
being serious because you wantto be taken seriously, but those
that know are like she cannotbe that serious.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
OK, just going back to you, know why we bring up
this topic of you don't have tobe who you used to be.
You don't have to be who youused to be because I think when
you let labels define who youare, it really brings your
confidence down.
It flattens you as far as, likeyour character, your, you know
all label that somebody elsegives you to define who you are.
(04:19):
Then you don't ever, you don'tshow up as who you are
authentically.
I mean, it's as simple as that.
Like you're not being who youtruly want to be, and sometimes
I think it's also like well,they already think I'm this, so
why?
Speaker 2 (04:40):
would.
I feel like you could get.
You probably can relate as well, Like when I was growing up I
was viewed as like a big tomboy.
It's like I wore basketballshorts and played with the boy
Like I never wore girl clothes,I hated dresses.
But as I got older, clearly Iwant to dress like a girl and I
want to be a girl because I likeboys.
(05:06):
But you know, it was very it wasan odd thing to start doing and
have to go to school like doingmy hair or like wearing a skirt
, because people would point itout like, oh, like you have a
skirt on today or you did yourhair and then you get
self-conscious about it.
Or you played softball like youprobably at some point felt
like that was your identity, soto like transfer out of that,
but that's all people viewed meas.
So it's like you feel like you.
You get stuck in this identityof what people view you as.
(05:28):
So you're like well, can Ichange?
What are they going to say?
What are people going to dowhen I start doing something
different than what I've beendoing?
But you have to decide at thatpoint is like do I want to stay
with what this is, even though Idon't identify as this anymore,
or am I going to change and dowhat I actually want to be doing
?
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Yeah, I could definitely get in the weeds with
that because but I did a lot ofthings.
I will say, yes, I playedsoftball, but as a kid, you know
, I played softball in college.
That was really like the onlybig thing that I did in college.
But as a kid, I playedbasketball, volleyball, cross
country, I was in theater, I wasin band, I was in choir, I was,
(06:10):
you know, like.
I had this like dualpersonality of like.
I was, you know, the, theathlete, the jog, whatever.
But then I also had this veryartsy side to me and I loved
writing.
I was young author, spelling,bee champ, like crazy things,
you know.
Did you enjoy all those?
Speaker 2 (06:31):
things like did you feel like you had to pursue them
because something and youwanted to be?
I don't say like the best andeverything, but like, yes, you
wanted to be like I had to dothat.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
I can do that because I knew, like if I would show
off right, like that's a reallygood word, right, show off.
I wasn't a show off, though.
I was not someone that boastedor bragged about like, oh, look
what I can do, I just I mean, itwas more like, for yourself,
that's approval, yeah, fromother people.
Yeah, like, let me show allevery as many people as I
(07:05):
possibly can what I'm capable of.
Yeah, why, to your point, didyou want to do all of those
things?
Like, imagine if I just focusedon one, a few, but I was.
I was always that person thatwas super involved in everything
.
I was friends.
I was always that person thatwas super involved in everything
(07:25):
.
I was friends with everyone.
But the piece of that that wasa little bit deterring is like I
didn't.
I never really fit in with onegroup.
I didn't have a necessarily abest friends group and I don't
really have a group of friendsthat I'm still friends with to
this day from grade school orjunior high or high school.
I don't either.
And when people are like I'vestill friends with to this day
from grade school or junior highor high school.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
I don't either.
And when people are like, I'vebeen friends with them since
grade school I'm like how?
Speaker 1 (07:51):
I mean and we'll talk about this later but that was a
huge identity shift for me uh,losing friendships that I had
for 20 and even 30 years,because I just felt like I
wasn't growing with those peopleanymore.
I was again.
I didn't want to lose thosefriendships and I was, you know,
people pleasing and performingto keep them and realize that I
(08:13):
wasn't getting, uh, the supportthat I wanted or needed, or the
growth that I wanted or neededfrom those friendships anymore.
And that was, it was hard, hardit's a scary thing to like lose,
but then I feel like you do itand you do realize what you were
, in a sense, sacrificing tokeep those friendships yeah, and
(08:33):
I mean that really leads usinto the next part of, like you
know, call it the shedding,right I think of like a snake,
yeah, shedding its skin, or likeyou were talking about, you
know, gemini yeah, justtransforming, yeah, I mean just
becoming who you truly want tobe and not worrying about what
(08:57):
that's going to look like,moving forward and also letting
go of some things that are notnecessarily serving you, and not
to cut people off or cut peopleout of your life, cause I don't
like using really either one ofthose terms.
It's just you're growing and inorder to grow, sometimes you
have to shed or leave behindsome of those things that were
(09:19):
comfortable, and it's sadbecause it shaped you, it shaped
who you were and, yeah, thatwas hard, you know, like knowing
(09:43):
that, like I, not that Icouldn't reach out to them or
talk to them or hang out withthem, whatever, but it just
wasn't going to get me to theplace that I wanted to be
anymore.
I felt like I was wasting a lotof time doing things I didn't
necessarily want to do anymore,one of those things being, you
know, going out and drinking onthe weekend, like it just wasn't
(10:05):
serving me.
I don't think it's like youchoosing to.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
It's not a negative thing, right, because they
technically have a choice.
They have a choice.
They can either evolve with youor accept this.
You know what you're going into.
But if they choose to staydoing the same thing that
they're doing, they're alsomaking a choice that that's
where they want to stay in theirpath.
But yours is going another wayand you can't stay on that path
(10:32):
anymore.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
And I think that's the best word evolving.
Yeah, you were evolving.
If they wanted to evolve withyou or grow with you, then they
would, and I knew what directionI wanted to go and I went that
way and they didn't come with.
And it felt selfish at first,it felt heavy, because I am that
(10:54):
deep rooted loyal person thatwants to protect and serve the
people I care about.
But I did feel like I wasleaving them behind.
In that, in that moment, inthose years of that identity
shift and yeah, I, I grieved itfor sure.
You know there were.
It's kind of silly butseriously, you get on Facebook
(11:19):
and you see these memories fromone year ago, five years ago,
you know, and some of them noware like 10 years ago, and I'm
like it's hard when you look atthem and you're like like you
still love them and in your mindyou're almost like what
happened.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
But then you're like, well, you're still in the same
place yeah, it was amicable,yeah, and there really wasn't a
conversation.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
No, you just grew apart and grew apart.
You just quit talking.
One day was the last time wehad a conversation and I don't
remember when.
That was, to be completelyhonest, which isn't that wild.
It's like kind of sad.
I there were a lot of momentswhere I was very sad.
It's like a breakup.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
It is.
But then you find your newcircle.
You, as you grow, you findpeople that are, you know, on
the same path.
You're going on and you knowmaybe they're your new friends
for 30 years, maybe they're yourfriends for five, but I do
fully believe people come intoyour life for like a season and
that's okay, like you don't haveto be friends for a lifetime.
I mean me and you, even when Iwas going through my divorce,
(12:22):
were like super close.
We saw each other every singleday, every day, for like a year.
And then, you know, me andBrock got serious, moved in
together.
We didn't see each other asoften, not that we grew apart,
but it was like we were bothexploring different paths and
then within this last year,we've like come all the way back
together again.
But it's like I enjoyed thosekinds of friendships where maybe
(12:44):
me and Lauren weren't talkingevery day, but she's somebody I
know that I was like in a matterof a moment, if I needed
something, I could call her.
So it's like you can havefriendships like that too.
You don't have to have friendsthat you talk to every single
day, but to have those friendsthat you know you can rely on,
no matter what, I think arecrucial, as you're growing too.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
I like to refer to them as low-maintenance
friendships.
So it doesn't matter when wereach out to each other, when we
call each other, when we texteach other, we just pick up from
where we left off.
Nothing bad happened.
No, we don't get mad at eachother because we're not free.
When each other asks each other, each other, can I say each
other, each other, each other.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Each other, Can I say each other each other, each
other.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
But if you asked me to do something and I wasn't
available, you don't get madabout it.
But hey, if you have thisreally cool thing going on or a
dinner that I don't know you puttogether with a bunch of women,
you invite me to it, whether Ican go or not.
And especially when you hadyour business and I was still at
(13:45):
first form, that was hard, thatwas hard to get any time lined
up that worked and you just haveto understand that that's the
season of life that you're inand if you value that friendship
, it's going to be there.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
I think that's my biggest values now, as friends
that don't hold againsthappening to change plans last
minute or just not being in themood to go out, friends that
aren't, you know, negative.
They want to sit and talknegatively about other people
and start drama.
It's like I'm trying to fill mycircle now with uplifting
people, people that understandhectic schedules and people that
(14:23):
are trying to move forward intheir lives and help others
along the way, and it's beenvery refreshing.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
I think that's the biggest thing is like, even when
you know it's right, it stillhurts.
And the other side of it too,like what you're talking about
is not placing theseexpectations on people and
taking it so personally most ofthe time has nothing to do with
(14:54):
you.
No, it's not that they don'tlike you.
It's not that somebody else ismore important than you.
They might just not have thecapacity to show up.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
What was it you said the one day we were training, we
were talking about that and Iwas like that's so good, it's
where it's like the they mightnot have the energy.
You're like, you know, whensomebody's not reaching out to
me, I don't take it personally.
I think that they may not havethe mental capacity or emotional
capacity right now.
So so then I I think, like yousaid, you think yourself to
(15:27):
reach out, like hey, I haven'theard from you in a while.
Is everything okay?
Instead of getting defensiveabout it, where I think a lot of
people turn to the defense,like how dare them not talk to
me?
And what are they doing?
I see them out.
Or da da, da, da.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
And it's like yeah, I mean, I, I can speak for myself
, right?
That's the whole point.
Um, I can speak more for myself, in that if I'm not reaching
out to you, I'm probably notdoing anything.
I'm probably sitting at home bymyself recharging.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
Literally.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
I'm probably mentally exhausted.
Uh, my, my.
I don't have any more bandwidthto allow anything else in my
life at the moment.
Don't take it personally.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
Yeah, this is something you wanted to touch,
this is something I wanted totouch on because easter is
sunday and we are recording onfriday, so you guys will hear
this Monday, obviously the dayafter Easter.
But I did want to touch on goodFriday Cause I feel like it
aligns so well with what we areall about to begin with.
But, um, this episodespecifically, this episode
(16:36):
specifically, because I feellike if anyone knew what it felt
like to be misunderstood,betrayed and to still rise, it
was Jesus.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Absolutely.
I mean, what is the whole pointof Good Friday, like what is
happening to Jesus?
Um, why is he being sentencedto death?
Speaker 2 (17:00):
And how do you think he felt on that day?
And how do you think he felt onthat day?
Speaker 1 (17:09):
like he knew what was coming and he still chose his
path, that he knew he had tochoose.
Yeah, and he, regardless ofbeing betrayed by one of his
disciples, judas, regardless ofbeing accused of things that he
did not do, regardless of beingmisunderstood, regardless of
being doubted, regardless of allof these negative things that
(17:34):
you know, every single story wetold.
That's what it's all about.
It's being misunderstood.
It's people that are notsupporting you in the way that
you want or need them to.
Are you still choosing to showup as your best self?
Speaker 2 (17:47):
And I feel like even in like your darkest days at
least for me and probably foryou too like even in my darkest
days.
That's why I've always turnedto Jesus and God, because he has
been there, he is somebody thatunderstands that and he chooses
you every day, all the time, solike if you ever feel like
nobody's choosing you or youwere by yourself, he's there and
(18:10):
he's there to lean on.
And I think easter reminds usour past doesn't define our
worth, neither does it defineour performance or other
people's opinions, but it itdoes, it is defined by him, the
one person who's gave everythingfor us.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Yeah, and I feel like we both have had those moments
where we felt completely alone.
We were wondering if we weredoing the right thing, but it
was our faith most of the timethat got us through.
You know, like I was mentioningearlier of, uh, if I'm not
reaching out to you, I'mprobably not doing anything,
because maybe I'm feeling reallydown and low and alone and like
(18:50):
it's a reminder to reach out tothose people you care about too
, because you know those quietprayers, those nights crying
alone on the floor in your bed,crying yourself to sleep We've
all had them, you know.
But do you hear that voice?
That's your faith that istelling you keep going right.
(19:10):
If you're, you've ever feltisolated in your growth and I
think if you're growing, youdefinitely had moments of
isolation.
If you've lost people becauseyou chose healing over hustling
to fit in, or the opposite,maybe you needed to hustle a
little bit at the time and youwere, like me, choosing to go
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out to the bar and have fun.
That really wasn't getting youanywhere you realize you're not
alone and you were made to rise,and a lot of you may be living
your Fridays.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
You may be living in your darkest days, and I feel
like now this time of year, is agood time to think about, like,
what cross may you be carryingright now, um, and where do you
need to let Jesus in?
Like, where do you need to lethim help you?
Where do you feel like you'reblocking him?
It can be different things,like for me, a lot of times it's
my ego, like I don't think Ineed him.
But even when you're doingreally well and you're being
(20:02):
successful, like he's stillthere.
You shouldn't just seek himwhen you're in your dark days.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
you should always be seeking him, um, I like that
because I think we're all guiltyof that.
I know, I am.
You know, I definitely reachout to him, more so when I am
just like hopeless yeah, likehelp me, yeah, exactly.
Why this morning trying to getan Uber?
This is not that deep, Ipromise.
(20:29):
I sat in Uber for 3.30 in themorning and it was confirmed
everything and all of a sudden,no drivers available.
Dear God, please, baby Jesus,help me now.
I don't know what to do.
I'm in florida and I need to getto st louis to record a podcast
(20:52):
and jesus heard you lorenzoshowed up at my mercy, got me to
the airport for my 6 am flight.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
You know, it's little things but so did you thank God
when she got on the plane, LikeI'm here.
Thank you, Jesus.
I thank you for the good things.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
I thanked God when I saw Lorenzo's name pop up, that
he was on his way and will bethere in six minutes.
So, yes, hallelujah, amen,praise everything that be, you
know.
But the other part of it too ishey, if it wouldn't have worked
out and I didn't get a ride andI didn't get home today, there
would have been a reason for it,exactly.
(21:31):
So, yes, obviously, reach outwhen you're feeling low, when
you need some help, when youneed some guidance, but, like
Brittany said, also, be thankfulfor everything, regardless if
you think it's positive ornegative in the actual moment.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Yeah, always make time, but we hope you guys had a
beautiful easter weekend.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
We just wanted to touch on that for a moment and I
think the biggest thing I wantyou to take away is growth
doesn't mean you're abandoningyour past, right?
We talk about, obviously, growthyou're gonna lose some things
along the way doesn't mean maybeyou didn't lose anything along
the way, maybe you werefortunate enough to keep
everything in your life andeverything grew with you, and
(22:11):
great you know.
But if that didn't happen whichthat doesn't happen for most of
us it's not saying forget aboutthose people that were in your
life or forget about thosemoments, good or bad.
It's take all of that with youin order to fuel your growth
moving forward, and that's,personally, what I use a lot is,
(22:34):
like you know, unfortunately, Iremember much more negative
than I do positive.
I think that's the human nature, yeah, but I use that as fuel.
That is my fuel every day, likeI do not want to look back at
my life and regret not takingchances, not going for it, not
going after my dreams andaspirations, because I felt like
(22:59):
I had to stay in a situationthat was no longer serving me.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
You know you can love who you used to be and still
decide she's not who you want tobe anymore.
And that's not betrayal, that'sbecoming and especially for me,
like with losing the gym allfrom when I was 18 years old,
all I've ever wanted was like myown facility.
I'm like dreams, that's all Iwant.
Beautiful facility, all thesethings, you know, got it sooner
(23:27):
than we had planned to everbuild it and when we lost it it
was such like a who am I now?
Moment and what happened.
And I was so almost angry CauseI was like I can't be that
person anymore that I worked sohard to be.
But now, you know, we're three,four months out from that and
(23:50):
it's been a big realization tome.
Where it was like there's moreLike that, wasn't it?
So, as much as that was aheartache and a loss for me,
it's like I've also realized,god, there's so much more to
come.
It's like I get excited becausewe, god, there's so much more
to come and so, like I getexcited because we've both been
through so much stuff and sowhen bad things do happen, I
remind myself that constantly oflike there's more to come, and
(24:13):
so that's why I get excited,like keep moving forward, cause
I'm like, okay, something betteris coming, something more
exciting is coming.
So I'm like it's really cool, Iachieved something I've always
wanted.
But then I'm like it's reallycool, I achieved something I've
always wanted.
But then I'm like in my mindnow I'm like what is actually
coming?
Speaker 1 (24:26):
Well, I think we're guilty of that.
I've arrived, yeah Right.
When you got the gym, youthought I arrived.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Here's my calling, my purpose.
This is what I am supposed todo.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
Well, and this is where I'm going to be for the
rest of my life, I'm I and Idon't want to put words in your
mouth, but I'm going to growforce performance.
There's going to be multipleforce performance.
We're going to have multiplecoaches.
People are going to take overcoaching for me, so I can just
run the business.
Yeah, that was the end goal, andit's also also proof you never
really know what's coming reallydon't and I think that's one of
(25:02):
my main points too is that, youknow, even going to college,
being a d1 athlete, guess what?
I knew that was going to beover in 2006 when I graduated.
And then what?
Because you, you hit on thisearlier, that identity shift.
I had identified with being anathlete my entire life.
I got a full ride scholarship,but like then what?
(25:24):
Oh, I was only 22 when that wasover.
You know, then getting a job,then deciding I don't like that
job, I'm going to go get anotherdegree.
Then not using that degree,then going and getting another
degree, you know?
So, in long story short, itdoesn't matter how much money,
time, whatever you spend onbecoming something.
(25:46):
If you're not happy doing thatthing, that's okay, you don't
have to stay stuck?
Speaker 2 (25:52):
No, I think you realize a lot of things too,
even with the gym, like now,amazing, and we have Raquel and
not like, obviously, lucas.
But Raquel came in and now I'mlike God, I don't have all this
backhand stuff I have to do athome when I'm not coaching.
I have all this free time tospend with my family and my
friends and things I was missingout on because I was so
overwhelmed with all of theweight of owning a business
(26:15):
Right, and now I've beenrelieved of that.
So it's like roles change,things change, but like, as you
grow, new things come and youmight be relieved.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Yeah, like you're not going to regret going through
whatever you went through, orlearning whatever you learned,
or being a part of whatever youwere a part of.
But the next time you feelstuck, I think you should ask
yourself what would my futureself do?
Because if you're in a spotwhere you realize this is not
what I want anymore, how do youfigure out who you want to be?
(26:48):
And I think the simplest, mosteasiest version of being able to
accomplish that is just asking,like literally, that who do you
want to be?
Where do you want to be?
Who do you want to become?
And then even just the smallestdecisions of what am I going to
eat for breakfast?
Well, who would the person thatI want to become?
What are they going to eat forbreakfast?
(27:10):
They'd have a personal chef.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
Oh, they had.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Yeah, but okay, we're not at the point where we can
pay for the personal chef yet.
But but are we going to havedonuts?
Are we going to have eggs?
Are we going to have protein orjust straight carbs, you know
like okay, well, I have aphysical goal in mind, so I
guess I'm going to have the eggstoday, more often than not,
(27:33):
yeah, but I'm not going to getdown on myself for having the
donuts every once in a while Ihad a good friend yesterday in a
meeting mentioned somethingsimilar in the sense of like
think of yourself.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
You know what you've been through the last five, 10
years.
You've made it through everyhardship you've ever been
through, so you're going to befine the next five, 10 years.
Whatever you go through, you'regoing to get through it.
But you should still have avision of where you want to be
and it's like what steps can youtake to get there faster?
Cause you've learned stuff fromthose five to 10 years, so
(28:06):
there's no point in dwelling onthem.
But like what did you learnfrom all that that you can use
now to project yourself forwardto who you actually want to be?
Speaker 1 (28:14):
Yeah, I mean, I think the best example for us is
literally this right now, wehave done multiple versions of
showing up on social media.
Showing up, you know, givingzoom talks or conferences or
podcasts, or you know, we'vedabbled in all of these things
(28:35):
so that when we came together todo this, this, not everything
is brand new.
No, it's just learning newthings, new processes and doing
it with another person.
Yeah, so we know how hard it isto let gold old, to let go of
old versions of yourself,especially when other people
want to keep you there, but yourlegacy isn't built on staying
small.
It's built on choosing you,even when it's uncomfortable.
(28:58):
You don't have to be who youused to be.
So tag us at legacy over labels.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Tell us what's one label you're ready to let go of
and don't forget to share thiswith a woman in your life who
needs the reminder she's allowedto change, she's allowed to
evolve and she's allowed to rise.
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