You pride yourself on being kind — but is it really kindness, or something else in disguise?
In this episode, I’m talking about the subtle but powerful difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasing. Because while kindness comes from empathy and choice, people-pleasing is often driven by fear, guilt, or a need for approval — and over time, it can quietly lead to burnout, resentment, and losing touch with who you really are.
I’ll walk you through the five types of people-pleasers — from the burnout pleaser to the chameleon — and share practical, down-to-earth strategies to help you tune into why you're saying yes, and what it’s costing you.
If this hits home and you're ready to get clear on what’s really behind your people-pleasing, head to my website and book in for a 90-minute Unlock Clarity session. Let’s make sense of it together.
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