The Secret to Manifesting Your Ideal Life: Mindset Shifts, Obsession & Brotherhood

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In this week's episode, we talkabout radical ownership and how
it can give you freedom, how toreprogram your brain using the
Raz reticular activating system,how to manifest a life you want
without the woo woo, and howaddictions can become your
superpowers.

Welcome to Man (00:23):
A Quest to Find Meaning, where we help men
navigate modern life, find theirtrue purpose, and redefine
manhood.
I'm your host, James, and eachweek, inspiring guests share
their journeys of overcomingfear Embracing vulnerability and
finding success.

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From experts to everyday heroes.
Get practical advice andpowerful insights.
Struggling with career,relationships or personal
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Join us on Man Quest to FindMeaning.
Now, let's dive in.

James (01:00):
Welcome Michael.
Tell me about yourself.

Michael (01:04):
Thanks for having me, James.
It's a pleasure to be here andI'll start off by telling you
just a little bit about myhistory.
I it was from like a really, I'mgonna give you the Reader's
Digest fast version from ainstance of my family where my
grandfather started teaching usin the martial arts.
He was brought it back in thetwenties.
He had a black belt in Judo inJuujitsu.
My dad, Steve Johnson, was oneof the original students of

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Bruce Lee.
Lived and trained with him from67 to 69.
Bruce and my dad were goodfriends.
In fact, Bruce was my dad's bestman at his first wedding.
And after Bruce Lee died, my dadtraveled to China and ended up
being he wanted to train underYip man, but he ended up
training under Yip Chunginstead.
After being there for about ayear, my mom was done with that.
She didn't wanna live in China,so they moved back to the US,

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looked for Virgin territory andopened their first school in New
Mexico.
And, then I was born in 79 andhad a series of events that
pushed me towards the martialarts, whereas my brother and
sister weren't really interestedin it.
And one of those events was mehaving a knife to my throat at
around five years old.
And this individual telling methey were gonna slip my throat
and stuff, my body behind thetelevision, my parents couldn't

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find me.
And you really adapt to thisconcept of what it feels like to
be so close to death at such ayoung age.
And I believe that was one ofthe, that experience, at least
the fruits of that experiencewere one of the gifts that gave
me the inspiration of convictionto start moving down a direction
that was, that there's more inlife than just trying to live.

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There are things in life thatare worse than death.
And so what you want to do isyou wanna learn to live a life
that's worth dying for, and thenthat leaves a legacy for the
people that are behind you tofollow.
And then that went on from otherexperiences that moved me to
have stronger conviction, likemy mom marrying an individual
that.
Was threatening to kill us allin our sleep.
And she slept in my room forprobably six to nine months.

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And my objective at that pointwas just to make sure I kept my
mom and me safe.
And this guy was just, I was infights with him every other
weekend as a young man, right?
Six foot four, 200 and somethingpounds.
And I was at the time like ahundred and I think 35 soaking
wet, and five foot seven orsomething.
So this ongoing experience inlife where I kept having these

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experiences that were teachingme the importance I.
Of controlling your emotions,controlling your mind, and I
still to this day go throughexperiences of how to do that.
I before we started the podcast,I was sharing with you that,
there were some I recently wentthrough a breakup and that, even
those types of experiencesextend to you how to control

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your emotions because you're notalways gonna do that.
You're not gonna do everythingperfectly as a man.
And there's people that aregonna try and weaponize that
against you in order to gainleverage over you.
So you gotta learn how to conconceptualize that as well.
So I went on from thatexperience to when I was a kid,
I finally moved out, got adegree in criminology and
political science.
My first lawsuit was my mother.
She sued me and so shetrademarked all the stuff that

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I'd built for the business atthe time.
So I had to start from scratchand rebuild entirely, which was
one of the greatest gifts thatever happened to me.
'cause I had to learn how tofigure out okay, if I got rid of
all the crap that didn't workand I just made it effective and
efficient, how would it be?
And so I developed this approachcalled Bella Caseology, which
was the study of militantmarshal warfare ways, and moved

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through that experience andstarted my school and then met
the, a woman that I thought Iwas gonna spend my life with.
And six months after my daughterwas born, she cheated on me.
And that obviously led to itsown experience.
And that here's why that wasgreat, is that started to teach
me the concept of what is knownas external, like versus
internal validation.

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You're looking to the outsideworld and you're going, man,
what's wrong with me?
Why couldn't I, why wasn't I,why wouldn't?
And you ask all these questionsand then you realize that
there's nobody that can help youfrom the pain that you're facing
on the inside.
The pain comes from the insideand so do the solutions.
And so you have to actuallysearch within yourself to find
that.
And you're hurting'cause you'relike, man, this I have a child

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with this woman.
And so that was an experienceand I moved past that and had a
lot of anger from that andstarted training with one of my
old instructors, God rest hissoul, Felix Valencia.
And man, an experience one daythat like somebody honked at us
or something.
And this was right after thiswhole cheating thing.
And, I'm like climbing out thewindow to go after this guy and

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he's all, you seem like you gota lot of anger.
I'm like, yeah it's'cause I'mfucking angry.
He's have you ever heard of thisgroup?
And he tells me about this groupwith these underground fights.
They fight with sticks andchains and bull whips and you
could pick any weapon you want,fight against another man.
If he agrees with it, you'regood to go and there's no rules
and no judges and no refs andyou're basically out there
trying to kill each other.
And I said, yeah, I'm in.
I said, if I get to do that andI'm not going to prison, I'm

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definitely doing it.
So he said, yeah, and I startedwith the first one and next
thing I know, like 60, like I, Idid it with that group.
Then we have our own group alsoand 60 to 80 fights in.
I'm realizing how therapeuticthis is for me, right?
Like you're teachingcompartmentalization of pain,
you're learning how to controlyour breath, you're learning how
to do all of, these parts thatare really deep self work.

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And that door led to I, I endedup going out to the Department
of Corrections, actually theTallahassee and Thomas Law
Enforcement Academy.
Out there.
And I'd started going to eventsand was realizing how powerful
what we did in our approach tofighting was and how quick it
was working because we didn'tjust take the physical approach.

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We taught how to utilize yourmind and how to use binaural and
is chronic tones in order tohijack your subconscious mind
and how to actually startreprogramming your brain and
your emotions and how to developconvictions.
So we'd take people that werelike only training for maybe
four weeks, and we'd end upputting'em against somebody who
was training for six years andthey destroy'em.
And we're like, dude, there'ssomething to this.

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We need to bottle this and startpacking this shit up because
there's something about thisthat's unique.
And so these fights were reallygood and.
I go down to this thing inTallahassee and the Department
of Corrections walks up to me,Dennis Taylor.
Really good dude.
We're still friends to this day.
He's just an amazing humanbeing.
And he he walks up to me and heis so what is it that you do
here?
And at the time I had likebraids in my hair and I'm in the

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upper north part of Florida andin Florida the farther north you
go, the farther south you get,right?
So it's not like I didn't fitin, let's put it that way.
So I had braids in my hair andgreen hair and he's so tell me
what you do.
And I said what I'm gonna teachyou is probably gonna get you
fired, but it'll save your life.
And he goes, lemme tell yousomething son.
We're gonna work on yourdelivery.
But I'm very curious, right?
So we go in there and he goes toone of my free classes I'm

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offering.
Next thing I know I've got a andthe Lord is so good to me,
right?
Like the next thing I know,'cause at the time I was hurt
financially'cause my head wasn'tin the right space.
I've got a 12,000 or$13,000 dealto go in there and teach for two
days and then it just grew afterthat, like wildfire.
We trained the ERT RapidResponse Cert, all these guys,
and then.

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It was getting disseminated outto 19,000 officers throughout
the state of Florida.
And then next thing we know I'mdown in Ecuador training the
Special forces and the defenseminister's bodyguards and their
Navy Seals.
And after that ended up going toSouth Africa and training the
tactical response team for CapeTown.
I went to the four 59th there inthe Lift Squadron in Tokyo

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Japan.
Ended up training them.
I got the privilege andopportunity to work with the
five 12 Rescue Squadron inAlbuquerque, New Mexico, which
is honestly how the whole thingstarted was with Colonel de
Palmer.
And then that led to, the otherbranches.
So I've been around the worldtraining different tier one
individuals, special forcesgroups as long as they're
friendly to the us.
That's my rule And lawenforcement around the globe.

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And then come Covid two yearsbefore Covid, I wanted to make
this thing scalable.
And I talked to one of mymentors who's just an amazing
human being and a power hitterinside of the development space
for industrial development andcommercial development, Steve
Maestes.
And he said, you gotta make thisthing scalable.
And so by the time they shuteverything down for Covid, I was

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ready to launch my ads.
And so we already had this wholeapproach on how to actually not
just train the body, but trainthe mind.
And we went from taking as aprimary product, combatives in
Bella Caseology and making italmost an ancillary product to
our program to build Renaissanceman and what a Renaissance man
is, as a man who is multifacetedand capable of doing a lot of

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different things from being amaster in spirituality, to being
able to operate his ownemotions, to being physically
dangerous, to being a man who'sfinancially astute.
And in tuned, I went from I, Ileft this part out, but I used
to be homeless, right?
When I first left, I washomeless, living outta my car.
And I, that shit sucked, right?
Like you go down to a pointwhere you sit down for so long

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and you go, man, this is notwhat I was intending.
This is not what I was hopingfor.
And you get to a very low point.
And recently I had met a girlthat I thought I was gonna marry
and the relationship didn't workout.
And that was another hugechallenge just for, it's like
God keeps letting me know, Hey,you need to always be in tune
with your emotions.
What did you do wrong here?

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What did you do right?
What did you do wrong?
And so I look at what I didright for the, not the purpose
of being right, but rather thepossibility of emulating the
behavior that's successful inthe future as far as ownership I
will take.
And I think this is somethingthat's actually given me a ton
of freedom, and I've beenmeditating on this a lot lately.
When we go here's where theywent wrong and here's what they

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did to me.
You take on the mindset of avictim and that's never gonna
help you.
And it doesn't give you freedom.
In fact, it makes you weak andit makes you vulnerable to
people controlling you.
I look at it from a standpointnow of saying, you know what?
Everything's my fault.
The whole thing's my fault.
If it ended, it's my fault.
Because if it's my fault, I havepower to control how I could do

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things in the future, what Icould use to benefit, right?
And my main message out of myexperience to men of your
podcast is it doesn't matterwhat happened.
None of it happened to you.
What happened for you?
It's all there.
God's designing you and refiningyou, and the fire is gonna burn
all the impurities out of youand make you a stronger, better,

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more powerful man.
Suffering's a choice.
Pain is not his men.
We're gonna go through pain.
Whether or not you attach youridentity to the suffering or to
the pain is what's gonna causethe suffering, the craving and
the desire to have things thatare outside of your control is
gonna cause the suffering.
So a big part of what I'm gonnashare with your audience today

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is I.
This concept called a reticularactivating system and how to
rewire it.
But I'm also gonna show'em thefive pillars of how to stop
being weak and how to getyourself to the next level of
being a man.
And I have had the privilege ofhaving a ton of events that
would destroy most human beingsbe part of my diet in life that

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I got to consume so that theydidn't consume me, and I could
teach men how to come out on theother side hole.
So that's a quick overview andI'm sure I left a ton of stuff
out, but that's a quick overviewof my history and how we are
sitting here today and beautifulene Columbia.

James (12:05):
Yeah there's absolutely loads in there.
But let's just, let's start off,you were saying about going into
pain.
My belief is that in order togrow, you've got to go into that
darkness.
'cause there's a lot of peoplewho see the darkness and are
more, almost don't, we are tooafraid to go into the darkness.
But inside the darkness, that iswhere the goal is because that

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is where you can own your, whatI call the shadows.
So the parts that we hate aboutourselves, the parts that we try
to push away, these are theparts we can own.
And with owning these parts, wecan really turn them around and
to create this sense of thissense of growth, this sense of

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goal, this ability to step intoour new, into our best version.

Michael (12:57):
Yes shadow self and the shadow self isn't necessarily
dark, it's just misunderstood.
And typically the very innocentpart of you that at one point
you adopted and accepted and itsomehow got taken advantage of.
So then you try to pull it backand say, that's not good.
That part equals pain.
And it's not that part equalspain, it's just, it's innocent.

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And the world can't appreciateit because it vomits on
innocence.
It tries to consume innocenceand eat it.
And the reality of thatdarkness, I want you to think
about the creation of the earth.
God moved on this, amongst thisformless void.
And there was darkness.

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And in the beginning, and Ithink this is the first tool
that I wanna give to you guys,is that you only think it's
darkness.
'cause you don't know how tocontrol the voice.
You don't know how to use it.
In the beginning was the word,and the word was with God.
And the word was God.
Think of down the road.
We see Christ and we understandthat he's the word.
The manifestation of God'sinternal dialogue became flesh

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and spoke to men to teach themhow to activate the power within
themselves.
Think about that for a minute.
What is your internal dialoguetelling you on a regular basis?
What is your internal dialoguecreating inside of your
identity?

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We're afraid to go in because wedon't wanna face our internal
dialogue.
We don't wanna face ouremotions.
We don't wanna face our feelingsbecause I believe in our hearts
as men, we fear our weakness.
We fear that we're evil.
We fear all of the things thatwe think are what's wrong with

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us.
But on the other side of fear isfreedom.
Everything you want is on theother side of your fear.
So what you do is you lean intoit, and this is a part that I've
had to do a few times, and youdon't wanna go into it alone.
This is why it's so important tohave your faith that when you go
into it with God, you canactually go, okay, God, I'm
terrified, then I'm gonna losewho I am.
And I gotta be honest.

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I really don't know what that isin this conversation that you're
having with God.
And then you go in and you'relike, if I'm gonna lose myself
and lose everything I am, atleast I'll know.
And that is a phrase that stayedwith me for a long time.
At least I'll know.
So if you're a horrible humanbeing, at least you'll know.
When I thought about startingShockwave back in 2002, when I

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started, I was like, but what ifI lose it?
My dad's in all these majormagazines and he's this giant
and this gargantuous icon in themartial arts.
What if I fail?
And God put this voice in me?
At least you'll know.
And it's so awesome because I'vedone be because of the Lord's
help.
I've done 20 times even what mydad was able to do.
And so I sit down and I look atthat and I go, okay, at least

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I'll know.
So when you go into thedarkness, go in with the light
of truth, understanding that thetruth is what's actually gonna
set you free.
Learn how to program thatnarrative inside of yourself
too.
And so a good exercise for theentire audience is right now,
sit there for five seconds anddon't let a single thought pop
into your head.

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Notice how that didn't work.
So thoughts are coming and goingcontinually.
They're passing through.
It's almost there's a frequencyamong all the living, and we
think that this physical worldis life, but there are creatures
and beings that exist within adimension that we can't see, but
they still communicate.
If you think of a cell phone,your cell phone, you can put it

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in a room and you can make acall and it will send a
frequency through concrete andstill contact somebody else.
We are so much more powerfulthan cell phones.
So if we are, and there's otherbeings that we can't see
whatever's going on in theirperipheral, I.
Is also coming through us and wefeel it.
There's thoughts all the timethat we as men, it's so funny.

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We as men, we have thesethoughts where we're like, dude,
I would never think that, wheredid that come from?
How many times have you beendriving?
And your brain's dude, if youjust turned the wheel and just
like tag that person and saywhat the fuck?
I would've think that way.
Why that thought come in myhead?
Because I believe that there'sthings that feed off of our
thoughts and our energy.

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So there's thoughts that we havethat will enter into our head
and I believe that there's, Ihad a dream about this long time
ago.
I was like this energy and I wasmoving in this darkness and
space and there were these othercreatures that were energy.
They would try to pull you intotheir orbit because if they
could appeal to you and pull youinto their orbit, you would get
stuck in their orbit and theywould feed off your energy and

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your energy of life until youwere no more.
And they were called lip mites.
And so what I teach my men isyou gotta be very careful with
the lip mites.
'cause they'll try to draw youinto their energy.
They'll try and steal you.
How do they do that?
They get you angry.
They start controlling youremotions.
They start trying to controlyour thoughts that events occur
in life.
Like your woman cheating on youor people abandoning you or

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leaving you or getting in a caraccident or whatever, to try to
control the urge, that surge ofenergy that rises from you.
And they try to eat it.
So they'll try to create eventsthat will take place to actually
make more of those thingshappen.
So the dark will eat dark, butthat which is light, looks at

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gratitude, love, joy.
So if you wanna attract energythat.
Feeds on that and thinks that'sbeautiful and a sweet, savory
smell, then you behave in thatlikeness.
If you want to attract darkness,then you behave with hate, envy,
greed, bitterness, resent.
So you've got these two thingsand you need, you can't serve'em

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both.
So you gotta starve one and feedthe other.
Which one is your attention andyour internal dialogue being put
on?
Are you focusing on thevictimhood?
Are you focusing on all thenegative?
Are you focusing on the factthat you were raped as a kid?
Are you focusing on what is itthat your attention's on?
Or are you focusing on the stuffthat's actually gonna elevate
you and ascend you to the nextlevel?

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Does that make sense?

James (18:58):
Yeah, that makes sense.
And I know it's

Michael (18:59):
a little, it's, I know it's a little out there, but
it's the way my head works.

James (19:03):
That's right.
I'm well out there.
I have to be careful in thepodcast, especially not to go
too far out, but the funny thingis, now, and again, I will work
with my darkness.
I'll work with an area that I'lljust lie on the floor, allow
myself to go into it.
But the more that I try toresist it, that almost the more
it almost overcomes me.

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But as soon as I surrender andlet go, it just, I just float
and I'm floating around.
And I find this idea of lettinggo and surrendering to it
powerful.
And it's a sense that you justare able to Yeah.
So really move through it.

Michael (19:46):
You're so right.
It's funny because recently,about two weeks ago, I was gonna
go to church and I just wasn'tfeeling it.
And I ended up going to thismen's event where these guys
were working out, and I meetthis dude that's like a former
MARSOC guy and.
Which is like a marine specialoperation command guy.
And he's just a super cool dude.
And he had recently also gonethrough a breakup.
And I'm just sitting theretalking to him and I'm, I

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respect him because I know he'sa fellow warrior.
'cause I get a lot of guys thatthey'll come around me and they
try and gimme advice and I justdon't respect him because I can
kill him, right?
Like I look at him and I'm like,dude, like you, you're saying
all this stuff based off yourweakness.
It's not because you overcameadversity and now you chose to
believe this way, right?
I have more respect for thelatter.
So this guy, he is sitting thereand we're talking and he's dude,

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I went through all this.
I used to kick in doors.
I've been in gunfights, I'vedone all these things.
He goes, and you know what?
He goes, I found out thatsurrender was another form of
fighting.
And that was all, huh?
Like surrender was never reallypart of my vocabulary.
I said, tell me more.
And he goes, yeah.
So the more we resist, the morepower we give to an enemy that
feeds on resistance.

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And I'm like, no shit.
Like it just like my head is I.
And then I'm sitting here likelistening to this guy that I
actually respect and he's all,yeah, man, surrender's another
form of fighting.
And I thought, isn't that truefor like arts, like Wayne Chung,
when the enemy punches you, youabsorb it, right?
And then you can throw it backat him.
But if I'm fighting it all thetime, you get tired.

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The muscles always clenched.
And I thought, all right, I'mlistening now.
And so I started using surrenderas a form of meditation and also
a form of letting go.
'cause I'm not good at that.
Like when I attach to somethingI'm a hundred percent in, like I
like giving up isn't really partof my makeup, right?
Like it's not the way I'm wired.

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But there's a difference betweenputting out energy in something
that's not worth it and tryingto control things that are
outside of your control.
And learning how to surrenderand just control the
controllables.
Controlling the controllables iswhere there's power.
If I choose to surrender, I'mnot giving up.
I'm letting go so I can observe.

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Then use whatever's in front ofme.
So the analogy of surrender fora lot of men, that's hard
because they're like, dude, Idon't wanna surrender.
That means I become captive.
You're already captive.
You're already locked into acage.
And one of my biggest objectiveswith every man I come in contact
with is to teach'em how to beuncaged, spiritually,

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emotionally, physically,financially.
The cage we built for ourselvesas men are the parts of emotions
that we can't control.
How many guys in your audiencedo you think have sat there and
been broken up with a girl andnext thing they know, they're
like, dude, I don't know what myidentity is anymore.
I fuck.
I just recently went throughsomething like this and I had to
recapture and bring back.

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I was like, wait a minute.
My identity cannot be attachedto the mission of taking care of
another human being because whenI make another human being my
mission, and that fuckingmission walks out the door, I'm
very confused.
So my mission has to be aboveand beyond any single person on
this planet.
My mission has to be driventowards the legacy that I'm

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gonna leave an inheritance frommy grandchildren's
grandchildren, any woman whogets the opportunity to stand by
my side.
And any girl that you talk towho I.
Remotely still gets along withme from my past.
We'll tell you that.
I was talking to one of myfriends, Iris.
She's an amazing human being.
I dated her for four years.
It just didn't work out betweenus.
We were just, weren't a goodfit.
But she's just, she's a reallygood person.

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She's Michael, any woman whogets to be with you is it's a
gift.
She's all, you're amazing.
You protect whatever is yours.
You look after whoever's in yourcircle, you will provide for
them protection and financialprotection and physical
protection.
She's if anybody can't see that,let'em walk away.
And I was like, dude, you'resuch a badass.
Thank you.
I needed to hear that, thank youfor that.

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And her soul is so genuine inthat arena, right?
Because she actually knows me.
This woman dated me for fouryears.
She knew the ups and downs, andshe's and you're just a
beautiful human being.
And then she also shared with methings that she felt like, you
could work on this some more.
And I'm like, badass, fairenough.
But I was so receptive to itbecause she wasn't being a
bitch, right?
She was just telling me out oflike purity of Hey, here's the

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next level of you, like what youcould do better.
And I was like, man, thank you.
I appreciate that.
Fucking knuckles, dude.
Like just giving her ametaphorical knuckles through
the phone, but as men, when weattach ourselves to a woman, we
forget our purpose.
Any woman who's privileged to bewith you as a man and help you
achieve your mission, that's agift to her.

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Don't make her your mission.
She can be part of it.
And if she's a good woman,she'll want to help build your
mission.
If she's a good woman, she'sgonna want to help you grow
because she understands thatwhat you're doing is legacy
building.
You're not just there to makemoney.
You're not just there to fuckingentertain her like you're some
dancing monkey.
Your job is actually to leavesomething on this earth that is

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known in dimensions that aren'teven close to here, that your
actions and your purity and thetruth that you shine on this
planet is so amazing that it'shurt in heaven.
And it's not just built aroundbeing a dancing monkey for some
chick who's never happy.
And everything you do is wrong.
But I'll tell you, those womenand I'm not saying, and I've met

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those women and I've met women.
They're amazing women, right?
And they're, the lastrelationship I had was so
beautiful in so many waysbecause it showed me.
The parts that I needed to workon within myself, it showed me
the things that I could level upon.
And then it also showed me a lotof stuff where I was like, oh,

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hey, maybe you put up with somethings that you should not have.
So they're all gifts.
We just have to see'em that way.
And I hear these statistics thatover 75% of suicides, I'm
talking all suicides thathappen.
It's something like 73 to 75% ofsuicides are men.
And I'm like, dude, fuck that.

(25:43):
We need to change that.
The reason is men feel alone.
They can't be vulnerable andtechnically with your woman, you
shouldn't be, but you do need tohave a group of men that you can
actually be vulnerable with.
You need to be able to have atribe that you can communicate
with.
And then I also want my ride ordie buddies, right?
Like I remember I had ascenario, and I won't go into a
ton of detail on it, but therewas a guy that really wronged.

(26:06):
A situation that was going onand one of my buddies was like,
let's get a 55 gallon drum.
We'll fill it with gas, we'lldrive out there, we'll drive
back.
And I'm like, yeah dude thoseguys are a awesome, but I had to
pull the reins back on that one.
I'm like, no, we're not doingthat.
That is not like you want thattype of loyalty in your brothers
where they're like, dude, whosecar are we taking?
They'll show up at any time ofnight no matter what, and

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they're there for you.
And the sad part is, I'd say 80%of men don't have that.
In fact, I'll tell you what I'lltell you about 73 to 75% of men
don't have that.
You know how I know that?
'cause they're putting bulletsin themselves.
And so you have to find thattribe and it is so important.
And you can listen to all theYouTube videos and you can

(26:50):
listen to all the podcasts andthose can be helpful.
They're useful tools.
But at the end of the day, youstill have to have somebody
that's brother, come to me and Idon't care how strong you are.
I know dudes that were NavySeals.
I know guys that were just oneof the guys that's and again, I,
I wanna make sure I'm guardingthese guys identities.
But there's a gentleman that hasa show on Fox now and there's a

(27:10):
bunch of special forces stuffgoing on.
He had a really rough time whenhe first got outta the military,
and I got to sit down and talkto him one-on-one and just, he
was like, dude, I was a mess.
And his woman that he had endedup helping him get past that
once he got out.
We need brothers.
And we need brothers more thanwe need, honestly, more than we
need a woman because a woman isthere and she's there for a

(27:34):
specific purpose.
And if she's a good woman,she'll be nurturing, she'll be
caring, she'll be, she'll giveyou love.
She'll be there to help youthrough your weak points.
And she will take yourvulnerabilities and not use'em
against you and go you said thisand you said that.
That's not a good woman.
So brothers will be there foryou.
They'll stand with you, they'llhelp you fight, and then they'll

(27:56):
call you on your shit.
They'll tell you, Hey, manyou're being a little bitch
right now.
Here's how to overcome it.
And I think that's why it's soimportant for men to have a good
tribe.

James (28:08):
Yeah.
I, myself have come to thisrealization, so I'm absolutely
great on my own.
I'm able to deal with lonelinessquite easily.
But at the same time, you stillneed them, people around you.
'cause even myself, who's verygood on my own, it sometimes can

(28:29):
get a better of you.
And it's those times when youneed to have the people to
support you and to be able tolean on, to be able to go and
have some fun with, to be ableto, as you say, deal with
situations that need dealingwith.
And it's so important.
Yeah.
Important.
Can you talk about how toreprogram the Raz?

Michael (28:52):
Yeah.
Let's in fact, if you don'tmind, I'll share my screen here
and I'll give you guys a littlebit of insight.
I'm gonna send a request to you.

James (29:01):
Yeah.
So this will be on YouTube aswell as on on Noah podcast.
So anybody listening can watchit on YouTube as well, so you
can actually see the screen.

Michael (29:17):
Yeah, and I'm just gonna cover this kind of quickly
for you guys, but I think it'simportant that like you need to
direct your mind to train yourreticular activating system.
And there's a creator withinyou.
If you look at the way the humanbeing is made and you look at
how as people we are designed,we are like, they can find 97,
90 8% of what's in the universeand it stars and everything else

(29:38):
inside of the human structure.
What that means is you areliterally, the universe
incarnate, and then you have adivine breath breathed inside of
you.
You're made in the image of God.
So although you are not the God.
You are godlike, which meansthat when you choose to take on
an endeavor and you choose topursue something, you're doing

(29:58):
it with the authority that'sbeen given to you from above as
a God.
So if you tell yourself you're aloser, if you tell yourself that
you are weak, if you tellyourself you're broke, if you
tell yourself any of thesenegative things, you are putting
faith in doubt.
You are putting faith inlimitations and you are going to
create that in your reticularactivating system because you
identify what that's gonna showyou more and more proof around

(30:20):
you to actually make you right.
If you do the reverse of that,the same will happen.
So let's talk about what thereticular activating system is.
Just, you guys can understandit.
Basically in a nutshell, it'sthe gatekeeper of the mind.
It's a mental gatekeeper, it'san information filter.
So it is based on consciousawareness and your what you

(30:42):
believe to be true.
It will shift your consciousnessand your attention and your
focus on it as though it's aspotlight.
And so it'll only see what itbelieves matters.
There's over 2 billion bits ofinformation trying to get into
your head at any given second.
So what the brain's gonna do andwhat the mind's gonna do is it's
gonna filter what's important.
If you're a top level CEO andyou're like, man, I'm working on

(31:03):
this multi a hundred milliondollar deal, that is gonna take
priority over say something likewhat you're having for lunch.
Now, if you have that samepressure and you're about to
lose that deal, and you're like,a lot of people's jobs are on
the line and a lot of people areabout to suffer, and all of a
sudden an active shooter pops upand start shooting at people,
guess what you're not thinkingabout anymore?

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You're not thinking about that ahundred million dollar deal.
You're thinking about not dying.
So the brain is going to see theinformation that matters the
most and what it believes is themost important.
It's also an opportunityspotter.
So what I'm gonna do here is I'mgonna spotlight some of this.
People aren't jumping ahead.
So when you start to have thisbelief that this is significant
and you believe it to besignificant, the RAS is gonna

(31:46):
reveal the pathways of yourgoals so that you can get there
and it's gonna say, Hey, look,here's all the evidence.
Like you may be looking at onething over here to the right and
something exists on the left.
But the way the RAS is gonnawork is it's going to put
highlighting focus on what's onthe right, if that's what you
believe is real and what youbelieve is true.
Does that make sense so far?
And I'm gonna take a, yeah, areally, like I'm not a

(32:07):
neurologist, I'm not a brainsurgeon.
I'm a dude who is fascinated bypsychology studying neurology
associative linkage pavlonian,and operating classical
conditioning and BF Skinner'srats and all that.
So that's why I got a degree incriminology.
'cause I'm fascinated with howto hijack the mind.
And so I'm gonna break this downin really layman's terms.
The other thing that the RESdoes is it's an identity

(32:28):
reinforcer.
So whatever you believe is whoyou are, it's gonna find
evidence and it's gonna seek itout.
That confirms that self image.
So if your old image is basedoff of an old relationship where
your woman cheated on you andshe constantly was like just
tearing you down, telling youall the things that you did

(32:48):
wrong, telling you how she can'tforgive you for those things I'm
just gonna make you feel bad.
Those are her issues, by theway.
If somebody can't forgive you,that's something that they need
to work on.
It doesn't mean what you did wasright, but it does mean that, if
they keep trying to use it tolord over you, to have control,
to have power, that's a problemwith them.

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And here's what I found incertain relationships that when
somebody says, I can't forgiveyou and I can't do this, I can't
allow you back near, all they'rereally trying to do is maintain
control.
The reason they're trying tomaintain control is that they
themselves cannot controlthemselves.
So inside of themselves, theyfeel vulnerable.
So they have to try and controlthe relationship instead of

(33:29):
working on themselves.
So you have to be very carefulwhat you allow other people's
beliefs to become your reality,because then you will adopt that
and the RAS will start lookingfor ways to reinforce it.
So don't just accept otherpeople's beliefs of you as
reality and truth, because onceyou start doing this, it builds
momentum and it becomes a loop,and it goes, all right, belief,

(33:52):
proof, reinforcement, beliefproof, reinforcement, belief,
proof, reinforcement.
And then you, before you know it20 years later, that God design
that you've been given hascreated something you don't like
and don't want and does.
All that makes sense so far?

James (34:12):
Yes.
Yeah.

Michael (34:15):
So one of our mindset coaches that we have in our
training is a personal friend ofmine.
I've known this guy for 20 plusyears now, and James is just
brilliant.
And one of the things that we doon our live calls every week is
that we take the wins that ourmen give us, and we start
focusing on how to design thoseinto RAS conditioned drills so

(34:37):
that these guys can get in, theycan experience what they want,
and then go, how do I reinforceit?
And how do I build it so thatthey can start attracting more
of that visual mind, the mind'seye perception perception to it.
So it's very important thatevery single person gets into
having daily wins and declaringthem.
And the way that this isimportant, the first part is
that you gotta speak it when youverbalize your progress.

(35:00):
When you tell your RAS what tolook for, it hears it in the
ears.
So I'll give you guys a drill.
One of the things that you cando every single morning is you
tell, you're not asking, you'retelling and commanding with
presence what the RES should dobased off the previous days
wins.
So you're like, man, I mademoney yesterday.
I was great.
So now what you do, you knowthat you feel it, you experience

(35:20):
it because feeling is the bridgebetween imagination and
manifestation.
And so you sit down and you say,alright, today you're gonna show
me one new way to increase myfinancial wealth.
Today you are gonna show me onenew way to increase my
influence.
Today you're gonna show me onenew way to let go of what was
and manifest what I want.

(35:41):
But you speak it out loud andit's a commandment.
And as you speak it out loud,one of the things I like to do,
and people think I'm weird forthis, I just don't care is that
I'll actually take like a dryerase marker and I'll write
things on my mirror so that I'lleventually ignore it.
I'll come and I'll see it and Iwon't pay attention to it.
It starts to embed itself intomy subconscious.
System, and my subconscious mindsees it even if my physical mind

(36:05):
forgets.
So speak it, write your wins onyour mirror, and then train it
out loud.
Number two, notice when you'rewinning.
A lot of people go I want to behumble.
Hey, that's great that humilityis the ability to have great
achievements and not brag about'em.
But this isn't aboutself-deprecating on yourself.

(36:26):
You can't sit down and go, oh,I'm really not good when you
are.
That's actually you're a fuckingliar.
If you're really good, you'regood.
Don't lie about it.
Just don't.
It's the difference about beinghumble and knowing that even
though you're good, you don'thave to sit there and flaunt it
and tell everybody, oh, look howgreat I am.
So notice when you have a winand then that RES becomes more
attuned to spotting similaropportunities as evidence for

(36:50):
your success within youridentity.
Number two, feel it.
Or number three, you wanna feelit because feeling, and I wanna
talk about something that I giveto my men.
Inside of our training, we talkabout the four vs.
And the vision, the voice, thevisceral, the vibration.
We break these down into a tonof, and I know I'm giving you
guys a really condensed highperspective here, a 30,000 foot

(37:13):
perspective.
But when you feel something, youneed to fully feel it with all
five senses, and you feel it ina way of belief.
So belief is feeling, we believewhat we feel.
So if you start experiencingthat dropping feeling and that,
oh no, you're gonna start tobelieve, oh no,'cause you feel
it, but see where the Dante is.

(37:33):
If you guys are familiar withChinese energy, about two inches
below your belly button, this isthat gut area.
That's also where the elixir oflife of energy is.
This is why I.
You can have children from downthere, right?
Like that spiritual energy.
You'll notice most of yourfeeling as a man is gonna come
from down there or in yourheart.
The heart has over 40,000neurons in it.

(37:55):
Did you know that the Heart andMath Institute did a study on
this back in the nineties?
That means your heart literallythinks your Ian also feels, and
it thinks so.
We have to learn how to feelproductive.
A lot of people don't think thisway.
We don't go I'm gonna conditionmy muscles, but they don't think
I'm gonna condition my feelings.

(38:16):
Start conditioning yourfeelings.
Start exercising your feelingsfirst thing in the morning.
Train yourself to start feelinga specific way.
What does it take to feel?
And acknowledge that and createthat positive emotion, energy,
and motion, and reinforce itwith your new identity.
And also don't forget to tellyour face, right?

(38:36):
Because if you're like, I'mhappy.
You're not gonna feel happy,right?
So we gotta make sure that ourwhole presence of who we are as
men is being manifested.
Okay?
And then this is important.
Repeat it because buildingmomentum and getting that
feedback loop is very importantfor reinforcement.
Okay.
So next thing we're going tolook at is how do we create that

(38:58):
manifestation?
What are the four steps?
The one, you gotta see itclearly without a vision that
people perish.
The main person that's gonnaperish if you don't have vision
is you.
So you have to have detailedmental images.
You have to experience it likewe talked about before, on five
levels of your census, but alsowith the four Vs.
And that's a topic for adifferent day.

(39:18):
'cause that in itself, like Icould spend an entire podcast
just talking about the vision, Icould spend an entire one
talking about the voice, anentire one.
Talking about the visceralresponse, the entire one talking
about vibrational frequency.
So first thing, see it next.
Feel it.
Feel it fully generateauthentic.
Now this is important, authenticand genuine emotions as if your
visions already are there.

(39:40):
Like when we're told to pray forsomething Christ didn't say,
pray for it and see if it comes.
He goes, I'll pray for it andgive thanks.
So he's saying, pray for it andgive thanks.
Is soda already exists?
When you walk with a level ofbelief that you already are
carrying it, not that you'reworking on it, not that it one

(40:00):
day will come, but as though italready exists right now, it'll
come forward.
There are so many parts ofscripture that help us
understand the power of ourimage being made in the image of
God, and then utilizing faith tomanifest something without
doubt.
And there's a lot of people,especially unfortunately in the
Christian community that getvery confused on this, like
manifestation evil.

(40:21):
It's throughout all of the NewTestament.
It's also in the Old Testamentyou fucking read, right?
There's so many times where Ijust want to take people and
shake'em and be like, read theBible, right?
You're sitting down you'remaking all these claims and you
haven't even read the book thatyou claim that you're gonna
follow So, so fervently, right?
So you gotta learn how to managethose.

(40:41):
You gotta learn how to managethose feelings fully.
Now, next manifested internally.
Now alignment is a you're notbroken, gentlemen, you're not
stuck.
You're misaligned.
If you get in a car and it'smisaligned, what happens?
The ride's really bumpy.
If you let go of the steeringwheel for one fucking second,
you're veering off into DairyQueen, right?

(41:02):
Like you're here, cars drivingoff the road.
Like, how do we get realigned?
Think of the fact that you'remade in the image of your maker.
A lot of people think, oh Godmust have two arms and two legs,
and a core in a head.
I believe that there's a part ofthat, may be accurate, but I
think what's more accurate islike we look and see that God
has manifested himself in aburning pill pillar of smoke for

(41:23):
the Jews when he was leadingthem through the desert.
One of fire we see that heappeared to Moses with a burning
bush.
I don't think it's talking aboutphysical structure.
What it's talking about isFather, son Holy Ghost, you have
three separate tongues that arespeaking as one tongue.
So when we align our thoughts,when we align our internal
dialogue, when we align ourfeelings, when we align, when

(41:43):
things are in alignment, theyspeak as one tongue.
The only way you're gonnamanifest something externally is
if you do it internally first.
And see there's other parts ofscripture that talk about, woe
to them that need proof.
The one that believes withoutproof is the one that's actually
gonna get it.
Why?
Because those who have thefaith, right?
When you believe inside and it'sunshakeable, the external world

(42:04):
is a manifestation of theinternal world.
Our flesh, for example, isnothing more than a
manifestation of thesubconscious mind.
If you are sick in your head allthe time, you will manifest
illness in your body anddisease.
So if we sit down and we look atthis from a standpoint of going,
man, what I really need to doright now is I need to believe
that I am successful.
The more you believe that youwill carry that and you'll put

(42:26):
out that frequency, and then theproof will come.
So you believe inwardly first,and then the proof becomes the
evidence that other peoplewithout faith can follow.
But us as men that arerenaissance men, that are men of
God, we don't need the proof.
We know it to be true.
It's self-evident.
Think of that.
It's self-evident.
You are the evidence.

(42:48):
So when we sit down and we startto take on belief, we will
believe to a level that mostpeople will not.
And then we become the vigilanceof that proof and they can
follow based on that.

James (42:59):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.

Michael (43:00):
So manifest it.
Manifest it internally.
Okay, so next part of this isyou wanna live by design and not
default.
There's a lot of people that go,we'll see, I've experienced this
in relationships where they goit just is what it is.
And I've even said this, it'snot what it is, it's what we
make it.
But if only one person's playingon that page, you can't force

(43:22):
other people, right?
Like you, you've got controlover you.
So it's not, it is what it is orit's not.
Let's see what's gonna happen.
We're men.
We create it.
And men, I wanna give you someadvice.
Also, if you're stuck in a, likea toxic relationship or
something that's just nothealthy for you, you need to get
away from that.

(43:42):
That energy's gonna pull youdown and it doesn't make her
bad.
She may go away and fix thatshit and come back a brand new
person down the road.
But as of right now, if it'stoxifying to you and it's
destroying you, you gotta letgo, dude.
That is so hard for men that arepower hitters and men that are
warriors.
'cause like we don't fucking letgo.
We keep going.

(44:03):
We're like pit bulls.
We grab onto something and wedon't quit till it's done.
That can be to your detriment.
It becomes sunk cost, right?
Like you don't keep puttingmoney in a business that just
keeps losing business.
At some point you gotta cut thatthing free and build a business
that's gonna work.
So we live by design.
We don't walk in doubt or wedon't sit in doubt.

(44:23):
We walk in faith.
And I want you guys to startthinking this way.
So when we live by design, we'regonna take the top part of this
pyramid as though, hey, there weare and we're gonna work our way
in reverse.
How do we actually get to theend result?
We start with, hey, the creationwas realized.
Your visions, they manifest as aphysical reality.
Like you can sit down and youcan create things.

(44:45):
You cannot control other people.
If they wanna walk, they walk.
But you can control your realityand manifest into existence.
Your ability to control yourthoughts, your physique, your
finances, the life that you getto live, you can draw towards
you, the right woman.
And sometimes we think it's theright woman and we keep trying
to hold on.
And she keeps trying to run.

(45:05):
Fucking let her go, right?
If she can't appreciate you andshe keeps wanting to run every
time you guys have a difficultconversation, she's not strong
enough for mature enoughemotionally to have a strong
conversation, let her go.
Now, your job as a man, the bestof your ability is to lead her.
She needs to change.
And she's not gonna change onher own.
You gotta guide her to thatchange.
But if she's going to leave andshe's gonna keep running all the
time, at some point you gottalet go.

(45:29):
Let that realization of yourselfin the world, you want focus on
that.
That's where your energy shouldbe.
Now, what did we do before that?
Deliberate action.
You've gotta take action that isaligned with your vision.
If you're like, man, I reallywant to be successful, but I'm
not gonna do anything inbusiness.
I'm gonna sit at home all dayand watch Netflix or sit in my
mother's basement and playfucking video games.

(45:49):
Gentlemen, one of the reasonsthat a lot of men have a bad
name now is'cause men aren'tacting like men.
They're acting like fuckinglittle boys.
It is up to us to shift that.
We have to choose to changethat, right?
If you're gonna sit down and belike, ah, I just want net of
code red and I'm gonna sit hereand fucking believe it, grow up.
There's a level of us as menwhere we have to step up to the
next level and don't beoffended.
If that offended you just now,good.

(46:10):
You need to work on that.
Like getting to the next levelof financial protector and
financial provider and awarrior, all the shit you don't
want to do.
'cause it's uncomfortable andpainful.
That's why you do it.
You do it because it makes youthe best version of you that you
can be.
If you're addicted to comfort,you're gonna live a miserable
life, right?

(46:31):
Pick your poison.
Pick your pain.
If you decide to go do your painfirst thing in the morning, that
might be a cold shower.
The rest of the day is wayeasier.
Stop pursuing comfort.
Get comfortable beinguncomfortable.
But all of the uncomfortableshit that you do leads to
something great.
Like working out leads tosomething great, making those
phone calls you don't wanna makein business.
It leads to something great.

(46:52):
Going to getting cash collectedleads to something great,
getting used to rejection leadsto something great.
Stop seeking permission from theoutside.
And like I talk to guys all thetime that'll, oh, I gotta go ask
my wife or I gotta go ask myfriends, dude, make a fucking
decision.
The only reason you gotta askthese people is'cause they don't
trust you.
'cause you made bad decisions inthe past.
And the truth is you don't trustyourself.
So how are you gonna make abetter decision?
Start making better decisions,and then learn to trust yourself

(47:14):
and have that confidence.
I never ask a woman before Ispent money, I didn't do it with
my kids' mom, I didn't do itwith anybody.
And people go maybe that's theproblem.
Nope, they didn't want me to.
What they loved was the factthat they knew, no matter what
decision I made, I would neverput our family in a position
where we'd be without.
So they trusted me to make thosedecisions.
Gentlemen, you wanna be the sameway?

(47:34):
So that deliberate action learn.
What are the deliberate actions?
What are the egos?
What are the income generatingactivities that if you did every
single day, you'd be a fuckinggee, right?
What does it take for you to getto that next level as a warrior?
What are the deliberate actionsthat if you took, you would be
the best man in yourrelationship?
And granted, she's gotta bewilling to accept it.
If she's one of those girlsthat's yeah, but in the

(47:55):
beginning you did this and Ijust can't accept, fuck get
someone else, right?
Like at that point you've gotta,you've gotta make a decision
that like somebody can acceptyour growth.
If they can't accept your growthand they're not willing to do
that, it's'cause they're notwilling to grow themselves and
they're not willing to take thesteps and the actions for them
to do the work on themselves toget to the next level.
And if you're in that kind offucking toxicity, it's time to
go right?

(48:16):
But what are the deliberateactions that you need to take to
get to be the best friend?
A lot of guys would go, I don'thave good friends.
Are you a good friend?
Maybe that's why, right?
My men are so loyal to me.
Why?
Because they know a fucking doanything for'em.
Does that.
Deliberate action.
I think we beat that dead horse.
Okay, let's go.
Let's move forward.
Okay.
Conscious des, conscious design.

(48:40):
I am so big on action.
'cause a lot of people, they'relike, if I just sit here and
feel good, then you know, Iwatch the secret and if I sit
here and feel good, everythingwill come to me.
I'm like, nah.
That's how you end up fuckingbroken living in a cake, right?
That's not, yeah, that's notgonna work.
You've got to take action.
So conscious design is adeliberateness of you being
willing to think this thing outand reverse engineer it.

(49:02):
So you craft your vision withintention and emotional energy
and you reverse engineer thatthing so that you get what you
wanted.
But emotional energy is reallyimportant.
We talked about the importanceof feeling emotional energy.
If I walk up to you and I'mabout to do a multimillion
dollar deal and I shake yourhand and I look like I just
fucking woke up, right?
And I'm exhausted and myenergy's hi, my name's Bill.

(49:23):
You're not getting that deal.
What's the point?
Because it doesn't happenanyway.
Yeah.
It's'cause of your energy.
Nobody wants to do business withsomebody that looks like they're
ready to kill themselves.
Like you've gotta get yourselfto that next level.
Who's the man that you have tobecome in order to have
everything you say you want?
I want this kind of woman.
What do you deserve her?
Who's the man you have to be inorder to get her?

(49:44):
Now women have to look at thisthe same way.
I only coach men now, but I hada girl jump on a call probably
last year.
And it was a reinforcement to meas to why I only train men.
But, as of right now,'cause Ifeel that's the best way to help
women.
But I was talking to her and shesaid, I don't think like I
should have to change.
I want this guy to be this.
And she lays out this wholething and I said, what do you
have to become in order to bethe woman that deserves that

(50:04):
man?
She's all nothing.
I shouldn't have to do anythingto get him.
He should love me for who I am.
And I was like, and who the areyou?
That is the stupidest shit Iever heard, right?
You think you're gonna attract aguy that's gonna come and do all
this stuff for you and you'rejust gonna do nothing?
No, that's not how that works,gentlemen.
You gotta take on the same role.
And I want a woman who's a 10.
Okay, great.
You better be like a 90.

(50:24):
You better be a hundred, becausethose women are gonna have high
standards.
And a really good woman is gonnawant to have a man who can take
care of things and get thingsdone and protect her, and also
give her that safe space for herto be a little bit of a nudge
job every now and then, becausethey're built differently than
us.
So she's gonna have emotionaltimes, especially once a month,
probably gonna lose it.
And you need to be able to giveher that safe space.

(50:45):
And this is something I wasn'talways good at, and I had to
learn this.
You gotta give her that safespace so that she can lose it,
not have to save everythingperfect.
And you're like, I still loveyou and I'm gonna help you.
Okay?
But it's a conscious design fromspiritual to emotional, to
physical, to financial.
And then you also have to wakeup and realize your divine
potential.
You are made in the image ofGod.

(51:07):
You need to stop having faithand doubt in limitation and
start having faith in the designthat God built you to be.
You start doing that, you'llkill it.
You start doing that, you'llactually understand the power
that you have.
My goal my, my job and my maingoal in life is to teach men how
to conquer weakness.
Yeah, combat is part of that.
But think about what you justgot from just this training

(51:29):
today on this podcast of a manwho has a true heart.
James has a true heart to justgo out and really wants to help
men because he knows what it'slike to be in pain.
He knows what it's like toreally be searching and just
feel fricking lost.
And how many of us as men, weget lost and we're like, dude, I
don't know what to do.
I thought I did everythingfucking I got the job.
I fucking went to school.
I took care of the kids.

(51:50):
I took care of the wife, and sheleft, right?
Or I did this, and this, and myboss fired me, or I did this.
Am I'm still not approved by myfamily?
Stop seeking that externalvalidation.
Who are you?
You are whoever you say you are.
God gave you the power to beyou.

(52:10):
You are a fluid concept.
You are not your pastexperiences.
You are the design that youchoose to be today because
you're made in the image of yourmaker.
Are you living like it?
Because whether or not youunderstand it, you may go I'm
just a loser.
As a person who's creating God'simage, if you think you're a
loser, guess what?
You're gonna create a loser.

(52:31):
But if you believe that you area manifestation of what you
choose to be, and you designthat, like the person you look
up to, and that becomes like theidentity in your reticular
activating system will startshowing you all the evidence
that you need in order to createit.
And that's how you do thisprogramming.
Was that helpful?

James (52:50):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
That's massively helpful.
And it's yeah it's seeingyourself as a limitless being.
And that you can do, you are,you can accomplish and do
whatever you want, but again,you've gotta put the work in,
you've gotta see yourself therealready.

Michael (53:08):
Yeah.
I'm gonna throw two things inthere'cause I wanna make sure
that men don't get toofrustrated with this because you
are a limitless being until youcontradict God's flow.
Okay?
So if you, if what you are doingis not in alignment with what
God's mission is for you on theearth and you start
contradicting like the benefitof God's plan, you'll hit

(53:29):
everything along the way.
And that's where we were talkingearlier about surrender, right?
When I was learning how to flymy helicopter.
It was actually pretty funnybecause like you get up there,
dude, and I'm not gonna lie, Igot a little bit of an ego from
time to time and I'm like tryingto fly this thing and I can't
fucking hover to save my life.
Like literally.
And I'm sitting there and I'mall over the place and I'm
asking my flight instructor, I'mlike, dude, what's going on?

(53:50):
He's don't worry, everybody hasan issue with this.
It is so hard.
It took me 15 hours to likehover and not be moved by the
wind and stuff.
And some people it takes'em alot less.
Some people it takes some more.
For me, it took 15 hours.
And I was like, dude, thissucks.
And so I asked the colonel fromthe five 12th Rescue Squadron
and I said, Hey Puma, what isthe deal here?
Why am I not able to fly thishelicopter?

(54:10):
He goes,'cause you're trying to,you're letting the helicopter
fly you.
He said, you don't get in andstrap into the helicopter.
You get in and you strap thehelicopter onto you.
And like that dude, likeeverything changed for me.
Just having that one simpleprinciple, I was like, oh fuck.
Then I get in there and I coulddo everything I, most everything
I wanted the helicopter to do.
And there's a time in lifethat's the action that you take,
especially when you're beingdeliberate in design.

(54:32):
But I wanna caution you guysthat when you start going, man,
I have done all of this and it'snot working.
Sometimes that is because Godwants you to keep pushing and he
wants you to pursue it.
Other times it's because you'rein a riptide.
I went to Costa Rica and I'mdown in Santa Taa and I'm
looking at these currents, dude,and they are wicked, right?
You're surfers out there.
If you try to swim against thatcurrent, what's gonna happen?

James (54:56):
You gonna tie yourself out.

Michael (54:58):
You're gonna tie yourself out.
You're gonna drown, you're gonnadie.
You need to know when it's timeto strap on the helicopter and
when it's time to swim alongsidethe current and then swim over
it, right?
There's a time and place foreverything in life.
Your job as a man, especially asa renaissance man, is to learn
discernment and to learn when toswim with the current and when

(55:19):
to strap the helicopter ontoyou.
Makes perfect sense.

James (55:24):
So perfect example for myself was that when I launched
my podcast, it was effortless.
It's effortless, doing podcastepisodes, scaling, launched,
edit to them myself, and it'sdead easy.
But trying to launch a coachingbusiness at the moment in time
isn't quite an alignment withmyself at the moment.
So it's that realization thatwhen you've got hard work, when

(55:45):
things are hard working reallywhen things are flowing and it's
dead easy, you are in alignment.
When things become hard, you areout of alignment somewhere.

Michael (55:59):
And you may be out of alignment, not with the
principle of launching acoaching business, but rather
with the way you think you'resupposed to go about doing it.
So for a long time I, I kept,God blessed me to be able to
train some of the coolest peopleon the planet.
And I am, I'm surrounded bygreatness and I'm just so
grateful for that.
But I kept trying to take thetactics side to a level and it
was keep hitting resistance.
And I finally realized, oh, I'vedone what I was supposed to do

(56:21):
with that.
That's ancillary.
Now, God wants me to take theprinciples of warfare and teach
men how to conquer their innerwar.
He wants me to take theprinciples of warfare and teach
men how to fight their innerdemons, right?
And then things start flowingagain, right?
So becoming a coach I think isreally important.
And that's something that Iactually coach men on how to be
coaches, because that's a gift,and we need more of them.

(56:44):
And it's not just this thing ofoh, I'm a coach.
And so you're out there tryingto like, just take people's
money.
You have to genuinely care.
And I think that's the problemwith a lot of men.
I don't think you have thatproblem, but I think that's the
problem with a lot of men andjust coaches as a whole, is that
you gotta have something veryunique.
You gotta actually care aboutyour clients.
One of my guys, he's 70 yearsold, he's had a lot of success.

(57:04):
He hired Michael Jordan's coachpersonally.
He hired all of these like he'shad a ton of really high level
coaches.
And the other day he's dude,you're like within my top three.
He said, you called me fromColumbia to make sure I was
doing okay.
He's all, you actually care.
I'm like, yeah, it's'cause Iactually care.
Is coaches, one of the thingsthat we have to give to men,

(57:27):
whether it's a podcast oranything, is like, how do we
elevate them to the next level?
Because they're coming as theyare.
And oftentimes we get upset withthat.
I know I did.
I was like so upset by men'sweakness and I realized that's a
weakness in me and why am Ireally afraid of that?
Because if I'm getting angry,it's not anger, it's fear.
So why am I really afraid ofthat?

(57:48):
Oh, it's because I'm afraid if Ihang out with them, I'm gonna
become like that.
You just have to be a morepowerful magnet and train'em to
your frequency.
Don't get entrained to theirs.
Every time you get pissed withsomething going on, there's
something inside of you thatneeds to be worked on.
True.
And the more we dive into thattrue, we can be better men.
So what else can I give you guysand your audience today?

James (58:11):
So can you talk about the inner war room and what that,
yeah.
What's that about?
And what are the biggest battlesthat people deal with and how
can they overcome them?

Michael (58:22):
Yeah, so I'll do this quickly.
Like the inner war room for uswas a concept that we all men go
to war with themselves, andthey're gonna fight internally
way more than they areexternally.
So we developed, as part of ourproduct of what we offer men,
which are typically pretty highlevel achievers from a financial
standpoint.
They come to the table and theysay, look, I've achieved a lot

(58:42):
I've done this, I've done this,I've done this.
I've got money, I've achievedall this wealth, but I'm still
feeling like something'smissing.
I still feel like I'm not whoI'm supposed to be.
I still have these limitingbeliefs and self-doubts in these
specific areas, and I wannaconquer'em.
And we're like let's go into theinner war room and conquer'em.
And that's part of our communitywhere the high level achievers,
they go in there as men and theygo to war together in this

(59:04):
community.
Every single day against theweaknesses inside of'em.
And they'll say, Hey guys,here's my wins.
Here's what I'm struggling withtoday.
And then as a tribe, the othermen will go in there and say,
Hey brother, here's somethingthat you might wanna work on.
Here's something that I found,or here's a YouTube video that I
found that really helped me withthis exact same thing.
And then we have our live callsthat we do every single week,
and we post that inside of theinner war room as well, where

(59:25):
they're coaching calls.
I don't agree with just doingcheck-ins, right?
Like a lot of people go, here'swhere I'm at.
And okay that's not a usefultime for me.
I want to teach you shit, right?
So every single week we haveeducational trainings that we do
for our men, and they getrecordings of that.
We do want the check-in, but wedon't want it from a check-in
standpoint of like victimhood.
Because a lot of people go,here's what's wrong.

(59:46):
And then that entrains the wholegroup, right?
So we say, what are your wins?
Let's get there.
And then one-on-one, they getinteraction through our app with
the coaches where they canactually say, Hey, I'm
struggling with this.
And then we'll give'em, whetherit be an audio like word power
or the power of expectation orany of our stuff that we have,
we've got some really amazingtools that we give to our
clients.
And that's what the Inner WarRoom is about.

(01:00:07):
I don't know if that's whatyou're asking me, but that's how
we, that's how we work.
The inner war room and the mainchallenges that men face, I
think are the same that all menface, the seven deadly sins.
Like men face greed, they facelust, they face pride, they
face, and it's all relative ondifferent things.
Like we, we had a guy last nightin our group, and I think his

(01:00:28):
company's going to.
Like they're at like 25 millionor 30 million for the year, but
they still have their own formsof financial challenges or
employee challenges or whateverthat the guy that maybe is
making I've got another guy outhere in Columbia that I'm
hanging out with right now,who's a buddy of mine.
They're on track to make 1.1million this month.
The same challenges that he'sdealing with at 1.1 million,

(01:00:50):
this other guy is dealing withat a different level at 25
million.
So it's like the challenges thatwe face as men, because we're
dealing with ourselves and we'redealing with human beings,
they're the same.
Everybody has addiction issues.
It's just what are you addictedto?
I tell people that addictionsare superpowers if channeled
correctly, right?
If your addiction is likecocaine and snorting it off a

(01:01:11):
hooker's ass, that's not ahealthy addiction, right?
That's gonna lead to someproblems and you're probably
gonna lose all your shit.
The addictions we do want areself-betterment, self-growth
reconditioning your mind, soit's the strongest muscle,
emotional muscle that you haveas well, so that you're not
getting stuck in your thoughts.
Learning how to limit yourbelief, sy get rid of limiting
belief systems and conquer thenarrative inside that's maybe

(01:01:35):
defecating if you're addicted tothat kind of stuff, it's gonna
be really good for you.

James (01:01:40):
It's so can you talk about theaddictions being your
superpower?

Michael (01:01:47):
Okay.
So I'll say this as quick as weget internet connectivity here.
Sure.
When you're obsessed with theright things.
You can actually achieve greatthings.
I was obsessed with wanting aDodge Viper.
I put the picture on myscreensaver.
I started doing research on'em.

(01:02:07):
I was like, okay, what do I needto do in order to make that?
And I had no idea how six monthslater I had the Dodge Viper that
was on my screensaver, right?
It was one of 300 copperheadedition.
I love Dodge Vipers.
If any of your listeners have acollection of Dodge Vipers, I
will fly to your house and gocheck that thing out and spend a
day with you, right?
Like I love Dodge Vipers.

(01:02:28):
I had an obsession with stickfighting for a while, and so
became the best stick fighterthat I could be.
I had an obsession with flyinghelicopters.
I put the picture of thehelicopter that I wanted on my
screensaver.
I actually own that exacthelicopter.
Now.
Getting obsessed with certainthings will help you work
towards manifesting thebehaviors that you need in order

(01:02:48):
to achieve it.
And it'll actually build insideof the alignment of what you
wanna do.
My buddy that aligned thistogether for us I got to a point
where I was like, I wanna be onpodcasts and I wanna start
actually helping men at a levelthat I can't do on a one-on-one
level.
With a podcast you can hitfricking a million people in a
day and I was like, alright,that works and it's scalable.

(01:03:10):
So I became obsessed with it.
And now my buddy Andre, as youknow him also like he was Jordan
Peterson's former son-in-law anddid a ton of work to help Jordan
Peterson become who JordanPeterson is.
Andre's an amazing human being.
All my experience with him hasjust been phenomenal.
I meet him after moving to theOptima in Scottsdale.
Like when you get obsessed withthings, God will start aligning

(01:03:32):
stuff for you and then yourreticular activating system will
start working in unison with itand you'll start catching the
opportunities that start to putyou into that zone.
That's why we have to be socareful because when we have
negative obsessions, we'll startlike.
When you're addicted tonegativity, and this is
something that I recentlyrealized that I, it got brought
to my attention and then it gotbrought to my attention probably

(01:03:52):
two or three times.
And I was like, man, I'm not aspositive as I thought I was.
I focus a lot on the negative.
Maybe that's why so muchnegative shit keeps happening,
right?
And so I was like, all right,how do I shift that?
How do I start moving out ofthat and into alignment with
what's positive?
I still wanna pay attention towhat's real.
I still wanna pay attention tothe stuff that needs my
attention.
'cause I don't wanna ignore thatthere's some guy over there with

(01:04:14):
a knife.
But I do wanna make sure that Isee the guy with the knife, but
I also see that, oh my goodness,they have vanilla ice cream
also.
So after I kick the shit outtahim, I'm gonna go get an ice
cream cone, right?
Like you, you have the fullspectrum, but you put the heavy
emphasis on the positive.

James (01:04:30):
Yeah.
Makes get obsessed.
Makes sense

Michael (01:04:33):
With healthy obsessions.

James (01:04:35):
Can you finish off by telling us how can we get in
contact?
How can people get in contactwith you?

Michael (01:04:42):
Yeah, there's two ways of doing that.
Probably the easiest I'd say isjust go check out my Instagram
channel.
I am somewhat politicallyincorrect, so if my Instagram
channel gets shut down, I'llgive you another version of
that.
But it's at Shockwave Warrior.
So one word, Sierra Hotel,Oscar, Charlie kilo Whiskey,
alpha, Victor Echo.
And then you have Delta Echo.

(01:05:03):
No, I'm sorry.
The next word is warrior.
So shockwave is the first word.
And then Whiskey alpha Romeo,India, Oscar Romeo.
I forgot all of my, my, myhelicopter alphabet terms here
for a second, for some reason.
So it's at Shockwave Warrior.
And then you can also contact usthrough our website, which is

(01:05:23):
shockwave defense.com.
And don't forget, the defense isspelled with an S here in the
us.
So it's delta echo, foxtrot,echo november sierra echo.com,
not with a C like it is inLondon.

James (01:05:37):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Perfect.
Perfect.
I, I have, I'm ingrained withthe phonetic alphabet because
I'm, I work for the fireservice.
Oh, very nice.
So we have to know it.
We have to know it all andstuff.
But yeah, thank you very muchfor having you, for having you
on.

Michael (01:05:51):
Thank you, brother.
I wa I really, here's one thingthat I found, if I give and I
contribute to the world, italways comes back.
And I'm sure that there's gonnabe a few of your listeners that
are like, dude, I wanna workwith this guy personally, and
I'd love to, I'd love to helpthem out.
So anything we can do to helplet us know.
And I know if you guys have anyquestions, I'm sure you'll post
'em in the comments below.

James (01:06:10):
Yeah.
Thank you very much.

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