May 13, 2025 • 30 mins
In this solo episode, I’m sharing raw, real, and radiant reflections from the heart of a woman who’s living and breathing the sacred transitions of midlife. From my return to Montreal to the full rebranding of my blissness from The Wellbeing Project to Midlife Butterfly, this episode is a juicy blend of storytelling, lessons, and soulful reminders that you are not alone in your unraveling or your rising.
Whether you're in a cocooning season, dissolving an old identity, or just starting to spread your wings again — this one's for you, beautiful.
Here’s what I cover in this episode:
- Why I rebranded my entire blissness (biz) to Midlife Butterfly (and the divine click that led to it).
- The lesson I learned the hard way from ignoring my intuition at 3 a.m.
- How technical breakdowns turned into divine reconnections (yes, guac and wine included!).
- Why transitions feel extra wild during midlife — and how to ride the rollercoaster with grace.
- What it means to be in the cocooning, dissolving, emerging, or flying phase of your own life.
- A powerful reminder: emotions are neutral, and they're here to guide you.
- My client’s incredible transformation after six months of deep soul work.
- How to stop resisting what’s falling away and start trusting what’s being born.
- The deeper meaning of midlife as a series of sacred deaths and rebirths.
- How to build the strength to spread your wings — again and again.
This episode is a love note for the woman who’s navigating loss, change, and growth all at once — and knows deep down, she’s meant to rise from it all. You are the butterfly, my love.
Reflection Questions for You:
- Which butterfly phase are you currently in — cocooning, dissolving, emerging, or flying?
- Where in your life are you being called to listen to your inner voice more deeply?
- What would it look like to trust your emotions as sacred messengers rather than problems to fix?
Check out the free Midlife Butterfly Guide [http://midlifebutterfly.ca/theguide] with five key practices that have helped me navigate major life transitions with more ease and alignment. Visit midlifebutterfly.ca or follow me on Instagram @KenaSiu.
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Kena Siu (00:02):
Midlife butterfly, a woman in the sacred in between.
She's not who she once was andnot quite who she's becoming yet
.
She's unraveling, awakening,remembering.
She's navigating lifetransitions, divorce, loss,
reinvasion, moves With a burningdesire for freedom, joy and
solid living.
(00:22):
She feels the pull to rise, tofly.
She's no longer afraid of herown wings.
Hello, beautiful soul, welcomeback to the Midlife Butterfly
Podcast with your host, Kena Siu.
It is a pleasure having youhere and having you in your ears
(00:43):
.
Thank you for your time.
I deeply appreciate it.
I feel just so inspired to comehere today after having an
interview with one of my podsisters, dana hunter fradella
from girls for recovery podcast.
Uh, oh, my god.
We had such a yummyconversation and it is amazing
(01:07):
how impactful and how reflectiveand how full of connection a
question can cause in a person.
Like I tell myself oh yeah, Iwas questioning myself and I you
(01:30):
know.
But then when someone elsecomes and question me from a
total different perspective, andthen I was at one point like,
okay, how am I going to answerthis?
And I was just being so presentand said, of course I'm gonna,
I'm going to know the answer.
There's no reason why notknowing the answer and it was
(01:52):
just it flew so beautifully.
Of course, I'm going to besharing with you eventually when
that podcast comes out and it'sbeen a while that I feel like
it being recorded, because thelast time was when I was in bed
in Oaxaca.
That was like almost a monthago, and here I am now.
(02:15):
A lot has happened and as I workwith you know women in
transition, here we go, a lot oftransitions happening.
Since then, uh, I am back inmontreal, I got here.
I got here the very beginningof may and, uh, it's been
(02:35):
wonderful, you know, to be back,uh, at my place.
I kind of needed it.
At the same time, I'm like, oh,I own my own again.
Like, even though you know what, I I was having my own room in
a hostel, but then I will just,you know, go to the kitchen and
talk to people and all thosethings.
(02:56):
So it's kind of like I'm kindof readapting on being on my own
and, yeah, taking it easy, onestep at a time.
The other transition that I wantto talk to you about if you
don't follow me in social mediayet it's about the rebranding of
(03:20):
my business.
Yes, we call it business, notbusiness, because it's a bliss
having the opportunity to dowhat I love.
And so the well-being project,which it has been the name of my
brand for four or five years,has turned around and become
(03:46):
midlife butterfly as the name ofthis podcast, which it has been
the main inspiration, uh, of it.
Uh, again, talking aboutquestions, I got questioned by
someone.
It's like, yeah, but yourbusiness is called Wellbeing
Project, then you have theMidlife Butterfly podcast and
(04:07):
then you have, you know, yoursocial media handles and it's
kind of confusing, too manynames, whatever.
And I was like, yeah, you'reright.
And she was like, what about ifI just ask you, are you a
midlife butterfly?
And I was like, you know, likethe freaking click, I was like,
(04:30):
hell, yeah, this is it.
So that's what I chose torebrand my business, my business
, to midlife butterfly as thename of this podcast.
Thank you, maggie Moore, forthat inspiration as the name of
this podcast.
Thank you, maggie Moore, forthat inspiration.
And so here I am.
(04:57):
I just launched on May 7th andtalking about the transitions,
because I'm going to do a mix ofthem here.
You know I like it.
It's the date that I officiallysaid that I was going to launch
(05:17):
was May 5th, and then I wasworking during the weekend and
the website, and then, around 3am, I was actually feeling very
inspired, but I heard thislittle voice in my head saying
go to bed.
And then my other voice sayingoh, but you can stay a bit
longer.
You still have energy, right?
(05:41):
If you know what I'm talkingabout.
One voice was my intuition, myinner beautiful soul, telling me
go to bed, it's time.
When the other one was mylittle ego saying but you can do
more.
So I followed this last voiceand then I screwed it up within
(06:05):
minutes right after, and mywebsite was literally an orange
screen with a 404 error on it.
I was like I cannot believethis.
So there you go.
It's important to listen to theright voice.
(06:27):
It's always there and when weput attention to in it, when we
follow there are things aregonna follow, that's for sure.
On the other hand, I gotta sharethat because of that, I reach
(06:47):
out to a beautiful dear friendof mine asking him for help
because, like, even though I,you know, I put a ticket with
the platform that I have mywebsite with, they said, well,
they must take, you know, like24 hours and a while or whatever
.
And I was like, okay, I thinkthis is going to take much
longer.
So I reach out to this friendof mine.
(07:07):
And then he was like you knowwhat?
I'm actually on my way toMontreal now because he doesn't
live here and to see a client soI might be able to go to your
place.
After I was like, okay, let'ssee how it flows, I'm just going
to leave it there Ends up, yeah, he was able to come here to
help me with some things.
Well, fix the email.
(07:29):
First of all, that I was havinganother issue.
We fixed that.
But then the website was stillthe same.
And he was like you know what?
I'm gonna check with my boss.
He's pretty good at this and,as my father used to say, better
friends than money.
And yeah, within a couple ofhours no, there was more than a
(07:50):
couple of hours uh, his boss wasable to help us.
I know this guy as well.
So, thank you so much.
Thank you so much for your help, frank and um, and yeah.
And then I was like this is isfixed.
And you know what I got tomention.
Everything happens for a reason.
I really wanted to catch upwith my friend, so he brought a
(08:10):
bottle of wine, we had some Imean some guacamole, and so we
have a really nice conversationand everything we catch up.
And then the next day I waslike I don't want to feel the
rush to to launch my website, soI'm just going to finish
(08:31):
whatever I have to finish withcalmness, intentionally, with
peace, and then it's going toflow.
So I just end up whatever Ineeded to do, at least to have
it up and running, whatever andthen I launch it on May 7th
midlifeputterflyca, if you wantto go check it out.
So that's the other transitionthat I'm going on, besides
(08:56):
coming back to montreal, is thefact that my website is up.
I'm super excited about it.
It feels so aligned you don'thave an idea.
It is feels so aligned with thekind of work that I'm doing now
with my clients, with my soul,with the soul of my business,
(09:16):
that you can hear it now in myvoice.
I feel so emotional and sohonored to be able to do this
kind of work and put it outthere, because I keep seeing the
results that people can get andin the last calls that I have
(09:41):
had, like especially one of myclients, like I literally hung
up the call in Zoom and then Istart crying because of the
shifts that she's been doing inher life.
We were working together forsix months and it's just
incredible how she has shiftedand how she has improved her
(10:05):
life and the opportunities andthe synchronicities and the
connection with her children andback with her family and it's
just so freaking amazing thatthat's what it feels.
So fucking proud, because Iknow that the work that I'm
doing, I know the help that Ican offer women in transition is
(10:30):
transformational.
It is.
It is At the same time, I wantto mention that midlife it's a
(11:01):
roller coaster.
Well, life itself is a rollercoaster of our lives.
The ups and downs are probablycoming more often and deeper and
we feel it wilder.
(11:22):
And yeah, because there's a lotof things happening at the same
time, because if either is youknow, know something happening
with your partner at home, or ifyou have children, with your
children, either if they arethere or they have special needs
, or if they are, you're goingto become an empty nester.
(11:44):
Or if you are separating ordivorcing, or if you are moving
to a new city, to a new country,or if you are just traveling
around and coming back to yourplace and if you're changing um
jobs or if you're, you know,meeting new people and then
letting go of their friendships,all those transitions in this
(12:08):
season of midlife, it's justmore wild, you know, it's just,
and it's so exciting at the sametime because I mean, that's
life, that's the journey is justso freaking great and and I
mean it truly it's so freakinggreat when we go up the hill,
(12:31):
and it's so freaking great whenwe go up the hill, and it's so
freaking great when we go down,because then we're going to
learn something and we're goingto discover something within
ourselves that we didn't know itwas there.
And then, when we go up thehill, oh, we know, like, oh, I
can be more resilient, oh, Ihave all this courage, and then
when we go down the hill, it'slike, oh shit, like all this
(12:52):
grief and all this sadness, butI know, to have resilience, that
I can keep going.
And that's my invitation foryou, beautiful, to keep going,
because this journey is sofucking worth it.
If you are here, I believe,because there is a connection
(13:18):
with our souls and because youbelieve that we have a soul, and
by welcoming whatever it is inlife that is happening.
Whatever it is in life that ishappening, it just goes with
(13:49):
more flow and more ease and morepeace, despite whatever is
happening out there and whateverit can be happening inside of.
You know, with all youremotions, whatever between
quotes we call bad emotions, butthey are not such a thing, it's
just all emotions are neutral.
It's just about, you know,getting back into alignment,
getting back into um, intocenter, because our emotions are
(14:13):
there just to guide us.
That's it, that's all.
And when they are guiding us,it's just about allowing them to
go through us and then theywill move away.
That's it, that's it, that's it.
(14:38):
So are you a midlife butterfly?
In which transition of yourlife do you feel that you are
going at this very moment?
What is happening that youmight be now?
You know, in the cocooningphase where it's time for you to
(15:04):
go in and really do aself-discovery over there,
because, I don't know, probablya relationship broke, you lost a
dear one, or your children moveaway, or you know whatever it
(15:29):
is, or probably it's your ownawakening.
Are you in that cocooning phasewhere you need to get more
intimate with yourself atlooking at your dots, at your
(15:56):
emotions and your patterns andwhatever it is that it can get
your attention.
That is like calling you up forsomething that has or needs to
be healed, that needs, yeah,that attention, that presence.
Or are you already kind of likea?
(16:25):
Yeah, because that's part ofthe gooey part, right, that
cocooning?
Sometimes it looks so that it'snever going to end because we
cannot see the light at the endof the tunnel.
But I can tell you there is alight.
There is a light the length ofthe tunnel, I don't know, but
(16:46):
what I can tell you is the moretime you take to explore, to
begin to experience thoseemotions, to heal, the shorter
that tunnel might get.
Water that tunnel might get.
(17:09):
Or, I don't know if you're inthe part of the dissolving,
because, remember, the wormactually eats itself until it
has to die.
And that's what midlife is allabout too, about those, about
(17:34):
death and rebirth continuously.
What is something that you haveto let go, or somebody, or what
part of you is dying that youneed to honor, that you need to
(17:55):
take the time to grieve that?
If it's a relationship, if it'sanother job, if it's an older
version of you, are you reallytaking that time to dissolve, to
go to that death and honor it.
So then you can move to thatphase of emerging, of that
(18:23):
little butterfly growing backagain little by little, and how
important it is to honor thatphase as well, that phase of
growth, that phase of becomingthat we say, but I prefer the
(18:52):
word of remembering, becauseit's a remembrance of who you
really are.
Every time you are sheddingsomething out, it's about
remembering and coming back toyourself.
So what is it that is emergingin there?
And I invite you in this phaseto have that courage and that
(19:19):
resilience to keep going Because, as you might have seen, you
know when a butterfly is comingout, the butterfly need that
push, that strength to be ableto rip off that cocoon I think
(19:48):
that's the word in English,sorry and to be able to spread
the wings again, because theysay that if someone helps a
butterfly get out of that cocoonand not use their own strength,
(20:09):
they might die because they'renot gonna be able to fly on
their own.
So that's what I'm here for asan empowerment coach it's to
show you tools and practicesthat you can use in your daily
(20:34):
life to build in that strengthand to regain that power and
that responsibility so you canspread your wings With such an
(20:54):
expression and splendor andmagnificence so you can fly
again, because I know you canfly again.
If I was able to do it, you cando it too, and there's so many
(21:18):
stories about that here inMidlife Butterfly, in the other
episodes of comebacks from womenafter many things, after you
know being a widow, after youknow living from trauma from a
(21:38):
mom, after recovering fromdivorce, after so many things,
after so many things, becauseyou are not alone.
You are never alone.
One thing is when we isolateourselves, but truly we are
never alone.
(22:02):
So in which phase of the midlifebutterfly are you?
In the cocooning phase?
In a dissolving phase?
In the emerging phase?
In the flying phase?
I would like you to share thatwith me.
Either, you know you can sendme a dm and in instagram, or, if
(22:23):
you're listening in Spotify,you can actually write a comment
in here, or you can also shareit in Apple Podcast.
If you do a testimonial, youcan also write it down in there.
You're more than welcome to dothat.
And yeah, that's life, that ismidlife the transitions that we
(22:55):
go over and over again, thephases that we go over and over
again, and that courage andresilience that we can build
from within by taking care ofyourself, by prioritizing
(23:16):
yourself, by takingresponsibility for yourself, by
setting beautiful boundarieswith people, by acknowledging
your worthiness, by feelingwhole again when you welcome and
(23:37):
embrace and accept all parts ofyou.
This is the path that I havewalked to be where I am now.
(24:02):
All these different tools, allthese different practices that I
have been putting out, and itis because I have embodied them
now and that's what I am here toteach and to show others,
because life is going tocontinue to shift over and over
(24:29):
again, and the more you get toknow who you are, love yourself,
know your worth, the more solid, grounded, stable and aligned
you're going to feel that itdoesn't matter what transition
(24:53):
you are going through.
You're going to be able to staygrounded or, if you really fell
down, you're going to have thetools for you to get up faster.
And that's what I offer, that'swhat I have these conversations
(25:19):
with other women that you know,with their practices, with the
things that they have comethrough to be where they are now
, because it is possible for youto come out and to get up again
and to do it again and againand again, and the more you are
(25:46):
into alignment with your soul,body and mind, the easier it's
going to be for you to movethrough those transitions.
So that's my invitation for you, and I have the midlife
(26:11):
butterfly guide.
It's a free guide whichactually shows the five main
practices that have helped memove forward after every
transition after my fatherpassed away, after I separated
(26:44):
and divorced, after the breakupof one of my best friends, after
getting to live on my own,after having a short
relationship of six months,after living now as a digital
(27:05):
nomad, after still going intohealing with the relationship
with my siblings you know allthese things that are always
happening again, the rollercoaster is there.
We are in it.
So keep, strap on, take thesetools with you and you're gonna
(27:34):
see that these ups and downs aregonna get easier, at least with
more flow by you not creatingresistance okay.
With more flow by you notcreating resistance, okay.
So cheers to the transitions inlife, cheers to you for
(27:57):
investing in yourself bylistening to this.
Thank you so much.
I appreciate you, I love youand I hope to hear from you very
soon.
If you want to follow thispodcast, podcast midlife
butterfly, if you want to leavea review if you want to share in
the socials when you'relistening to it, whatever it is
(28:21):
that inspire you.
So I know that you are there.
I know you are there.
It's just different when I'mjust looking at my screen now
while recording this.
But be sure that I'm recordingwith a heart open, with an open
heart, with a big smile in myface of happiness, of gratitude
(28:47):
and for having the honor of yourtime.
Thank you so much.
I love you, sending you lots ofkisses, take care.
Thank you for tuning intoMidlife Butterfly.
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follow button on Apple Podcasts,spotify or wherever you love to
(29:09):
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You can tag @KenaSiu so I cancelebrate you and your expansion
.
Until next time, keep spreadingthose wings and living in joy,
(29:32):
growth and pleasure.
Midlife butterfly, a woman in the sacred in between.
She's not who she once was andnot quite who she's becoming yet
.
She's unraveling, awakening,remembering.
She's navigating lifetransitions, divorce, loss,
reinvasion, moves With a burningdesire for freedom, joy and
solid living.
(00:22):
She feels the pull to rise, tofly.
She's no longer afraid of herown wings.
Hello, beautiful soul, welcomeback to the Midlife Butterfly
Podcast with your host, Kena Siu.
It is a pleasure having youhere and having you in your ears
(00:43):
.
Thank you for your time.
I deeply appreciate it.
I feel just so inspired to comehere today after having an
interview with one of my podsisters, dana hunter fradella
from girls for recovery podcast.
Uh, oh, my god.
We had such a yummyconversation and it is amazing
(01:07):
how impactful and how reflectiveand how full of connection a
question can cause in a person.
Like I tell myself oh yeah, Iwas questioning myself and I you
(01:30):
know.
But then when someone elsecomes and question me from a
total different perspective, andthen I was at one point like,
okay, how am I going to answerthis?
And I was just being so presentand said, of course I'm gonna,
I'm going to know the answer.
There's no reason why notknowing the answer and it was
(01:52):
just it flew so beautifully.
Of course, I'm going to besharing with you eventually when
that podcast comes out and it'sbeen a while that I feel like
it being recorded, because thelast time was when I was in bed
in Oaxaca.
That was like almost a monthago, and here I am now.
(02:15):
A lot has happened and as I workwith you know women in
transition, here we go, a lot oftransitions happening.
Since then, uh, I am back inmontreal, I got here.
I got here the very beginningof may and, uh, it's been
(02:35):
wonderful, you know, to be back,uh, at my place.
I kind of needed it.
At the same time, I'm like, oh,I own my own again.
Like, even though you know what, I I was having my own room in
a hostel, but then I will just,you know, go to the kitchen and
talk to people and all thosethings.
(02:56):
So it's kind of like I'm kindof readapting on being on my own
and, yeah, taking it easy, onestep at a time.
The other transition that I wantto talk to you about if you
don't follow me in social mediayet it's about the rebranding of
(03:20):
my business.
Yes, we call it business, notbusiness, because it's a bliss
having the opportunity to dowhat I love.
And so the well-being project,which it has been the name of my
brand for four or five years,has turned around and become
(03:46):
midlife butterfly as the name ofthis podcast, which it has been
the main inspiration, uh, of it.
Uh, again, talking aboutquestions, I got questioned by
someone.
It's like, yeah, but yourbusiness is called Wellbeing
Project, then you have theMidlife Butterfly podcast and
(04:07):
then you have, you know, yoursocial media handles and it's
kind of confusing, too manynames, whatever.
And I was like, yeah, you'reright.
And she was like, what about ifI just ask you, are you a
midlife butterfly?
And I was like, you know, likethe freaking click, I was like,
(04:30):
hell, yeah, this is it.
So that's what I chose torebrand my business, my business
, to midlife butterfly as thename of this podcast.
Thank you, maggie Moore, forthat inspiration as the name of
this podcast.
Thank you, maggie Moore, forthat inspiration.
And so here I am.
(04:57):
I just launched on May 7th andtalking about the transitions,
because I'm going to do a mix ofthem here.
You know I like it.
It's the date that I officiallysaid that I was going to launch
(05:17):
was May 5th, and then I wasworking during the weekend and
the website, and then, around 3am, I was actually feeling very
inspired, but I heard thislittle voice in my head saying
go to bed.
And then my other voice sayingoh, but you can stay a bit
longer.
You still have energy, right?
(05:41):
If you know what I'm talkingabout.
One voice was my intuition, myinner beautiful soul, telling me
go to bed, it's time.
When the other one was mylittle ego saying but you can do
more.
So I followed this last voiceand then I screwed it up within
(06:05):
minutes right after, and mywebsite was literally an orange
screen with a 404 error on it.
I was like I cannot believethis.
So there you go.
It's important to listen to theright voice.
(06:27):
It's always there and when weput attention to in it, when we
follow there are things aregonna follow, that's for sure.
On the other hand, I gotta sharethat because of that, I reach
(06:47):
out to a beautiful dear friendof mine asking him for help
because, like, even though I,you know, I put a ticket with
the platform that I have mywebsite with, they said, well,
they must take, you know, like24 hours and a while or whatever
.
And I was like, okay, I thinkthis is going to take much
longer.
So I reach out to this friendof mine.
(07:07):
And then he was like you knowwhat?
I'm actually on my way toMontreal now because he doesn't
live here and to see a client soI might be able to go to your
place.
After I was like, okay, let'ssee how it flows, I'm just going
to leave it there Ends up, yeah, he was able to come here to
help me with some things.
Well, fix the email.
(07:29):
First of all, that I was havinganother issue.
We fixed that.
But then the website was stillthe same.
And he was like you know what?
I'm gonna check with my boss.
He's pretty good at this and,as my father used to say, better
friends than money.
And yeah, within a couple ofhours no, there was more than a
(07:50):
couple of hours uh, his boss wasable to help us.
I know this guy as well.
So, thank you so much.
Thank you so much for your help, frank and um, and yeah.
And then I was like this is isfixed.
And you know what I got tomention.
Everything happens for a reason.
I really wanted to catch upwith my friend, so he brought a
(08:10):
bottle of wine, we had some Imean some guacamole, and so we
have a really nice conversationand everything we catch up.
And then the next day I waslike I don't want to feel the
rush to to launch my website, soI'm just going to finish
(08:31):
whatever I have to finish withcalmness, intentionally, with
peace, and then it's going toflow.
So I just end up whatever Ineeded to do, at least to have
it up and running, whatever andthen I launch it on May 7th
midlifeputterflyca, if you wantto go check it out.
So that's the other transitionthat I'm going on, besides
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coming back to montreal, is thefact that my website is up.
I'm super excited about it.
It feels so aligned you don'thave an idea.
It is feels so aligned with thekind of work that I'm doing now
with my clients, with my soul,with the soul of my business,
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that you can hear it now in myvoice.
I feel so emotional and sohonored to be able to do this
kind of work and put it outthere, because I keep seeing the
results that people can get andin the last calls that I have
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had, like especially one of myclients, like I literally hung
up the call in Zoom and then Istart crying because of the
shifts that she's been doing inher life.
We were working together forsix months and it's just
incredible how she has shiftedand how she has improved her
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life and the opportunities andthe synchronicities and the
connection with her children andback with her family and it's
just so freaking amazing thatthat's what it feels.
So fucking proud, because Iknow that the work that I'm
doing, I know the help that Ican offer women in transition is
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transformational.
It is.
It is At the same time, I wantto mention that midlife it's a
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roller coaster.
Well, life itself is a rollercoaster of our lives.
The ups and downs are probablycoming more often and deeper and
we feel it wilder.
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And yeah, because there's a lotof things happening at the same
time, because if either is youknow, know something happening
with your partner at home, or ifyou have children, with your
children, either if they arethere or they have special needs
, or if they are, you're goingto become an empty nester.
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Or if you are separating ordivorcing, or if you are moving
to a new city, to a new country,or if you are just traveling
around and coming back to yourplace and if you're changing um
jobs or if you're, you know,meeting new people and then
letting go of their friendships,all those transitions in this
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season of midlife, it's justmore wild, you know, it's just,
and it's so exciting at the sametime because I mean, that's
life, that's the journey is justso freaking great and and I
mean it truly it's so freakinggreat when we go up the hill,
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and it's so freaking great whenwe go up the hill, and it's so
freaking great when we go down,because then we're going to
learn something and we're goingto discover something within
ourselves that we didn't know itwas there.
And then, when we go up thehill, oh, we know, like, oh, I
can be more resilient, oh, Ihave all this courage, and then
when we go down the hill, it'slike, oh shit, like all this
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grief and all this sadness, butI know, to have resilience, that
I can keep going.
And that's my invitation foryou, beautiful, to keep going,
because this journey is sofucking worth it.
If you are here, I believe,because there is a connection
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with our souls and because youbelieve that we have a soul, and
by welcoming whatever it is inlife that is happening.
Whatever it is in life that ishappening, it just goes with
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more flow and more ease and morepeace, despite whatever is
happening out there and whateverit can be happening inside of.
You know, with all youremotions, whatever between
quotes we call bad emotions, butthey are not such a thing, it's
just all emotions are neutral.
It's just about, you know,getting back into alignment,
getting back into um, intocenter, because our emotions are
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there just to guide us.
That's it, that's all.
And when they are guiding us,it's just about allowing them to
go through us and then theywill move away.
That's it, that's it, that's it.
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So are you a midlife butterfly?
In which transition of yourlife do you feel that you are
going at this very moment?
What is happening that youmight be now?
You know, in the cocooningphase where it's time for you to
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go in and really do aself-discovery over there,
because, I don't know, probablya relationship broke, you lost a
dear one, or your children moveaway, or you know whatever it
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is, or probably it's your ownawakening.
Are you in that cocooning phasewhere you need to get more
intimate with yourself atlooking at your dots, at your
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emotions and your patterns andwhatever it is that it can get
your attention.
That is like calling you up forsomething that has or needs to
be healed, that needs, yeah,that attention, that presence.
Or are you already kind of likea?
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Yeah, because that's part ofthe gooey part, right, that
cocooning?
Sometimes it looks so that it'snever going to end because we
cannot see the light at the endof the tunnel.
But I can tell you there is alight.
There is a light the length ofthe tunnel, I don't know, but
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what I can tell you is the moretime you take to explore, to
begin to experience thoseemotions, to heal, the shorter
that tunnel might get.
Water that tunnel might get.
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Or, I don't know if you're inthe part of the dissolving,
because, remember, the wormactually eats itself until it
has to die.
And that's what midlife is allabout too, about those, about
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death and rebirth continuously.
What is something that you haveto let go, or somebody, or what
part of you is dying that youneed to honor, that you need to
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take the time to grieve that?
If it's a relationship, if it'sanother job, if it's an older
version of you, are you reallytaking that time to dissolve, to
go to that death and honor it.
So then you can move to thatphase of emerging, of that
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little butterfly growing backagain little by little, and how
important it is to honor thatphase as well, that phase of
growth, that phase of becomingthat we say, but I prefer the
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word of remembering, becauseit's a remembrance of who you
really are.
Every time you are sheddingsomething out, it's about
remembering and coming back toyourself.
So what is it that is emergingin there?
And I invite you in this phaseto have that courage and that
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resilience to keep going Because, as you might have seen, you
know when a butterfly is comingout, the butterfly need that
push, that strength to be ableto rip off that cocoon I think
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that's the word in English,sorry and to be able to spread
the wings again, because theysay that if someone helps a
butterfly get out of that cocoonand not use their own strength,
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they might die because they'renot gonna be able to fly on
their own.
So that's what I'm here for asan empowerment coach it's to
show you tools and practicesthat you can use in your daily
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life to build in that strengthand to regain that power and
that responsibility so you canspread your wings With such an
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expression and splendor andmagnificence so you can fly
again, because I know you canfly again.
If I was able to do it, you cando it too, and there's so many
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stories about that here inMidlife Butterfly, in the other
episodes of comebacks from womenafter many things, after you
know being a widow, after youknow living from trauma from a
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mom, after recovering fromdivorce, after so many things,
after so many things, becauseyou are not alone.
You are never alone.
One thing is when we isolateourselves, but truly we are
never alone.
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So in which phase of the midlifebutterfly are you?
In the cocooning phase?
In a dissolving phase?
In the emerging phase?
In the flying phase?
I would like you to share thatwith me.
Either, you know you can sendme a dm and in instagram, or, if
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you're listening in Spotify,you can actually write a comment
in here, or you can also shareit in Apple Podcast.
If you do a testimonial, youcan also write it down in there.
You're more than welcome to dothat.
And yeah, that's life, that ismidlife the transitions that we
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go over and over again, thephases that we go over and over
again, and that courage andresilience that we can build
from within by taking care ofyourself, by prioritizing
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yourself, by takingresponsibility for yourself, by
setting beautiful boundarieswith people, by acknowledging
your worthiness, by feelingwhole again when you welcome and
(23:37):
embrace and accept all parts ofyou.
This is the path that I havewalked to be where I am now.
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All these different tools, allthese different practices that I
have been putting out, and itis because I have embodied them
now and that's what I am here toteach and to show others,
because life is going tocontinue to shift over and over
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again, and the more you get toknow who you are, love yourself,
know your worth, the more solid, grounded, stable and aligned
you're going to feel that itdoesn't matter what transition
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you are going through.
You're going to be able to staygrounded or, if you really fell
down, you're going to have thetools for you to get up faster.
And that's what I offer, that'swhat I have these conversations
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with other women that you know,with their practices, with the
things that they have comethrough to be where they are now
, because it is possible for youto come out and to get up again
and to do it again and againand again, and the more you are
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into alignment with your soul,body and mind, the easier it's
going to be for you to movethrough those transitions.
So that's my invitation for you, and I have the midlife
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butterfly guide.
It's a free guide whichactually shows the five main
practices that have helped memove forward after every
transition after my fatherpassed away, after I separated
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and divorced, after the breakupof one of my best friends, after
getting to live on my own,after having a short
relationship of six months,after living now as a digital
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nomad, after still going intohealing with the relationship
with my siblings you know allthese things that are always
happening again, the rollercoaster is there.
We are in it.
So keep, strap on, take thesetools with you and you're gonna
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see that these ups and downs aregonna get easier, at least with
more flow by you not creatingresistance okay.
With more flow by you notcreating resistance, okay.
So cheers to the transitions inlife, cheers to you for
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investing in yourself bylistening to this.
Thank you so much.
I appreciate you, I love youand I hope to hear from you very
soon.
If you want to follow thispodcast, podcast midlife
butterfly, if you want to leavea review if you want to share in
the socials when you'relistening to it, whatever it is
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that inspire you.
So I know that you are there.
I know you are there.
It's just different when I'mjust looking at my screen now
while recording this.
But be sure that I'm recordingwith a heart open, with an open
heart, with a big smile in myface of happiness, of gratitude
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and for having the honor of yourtime.
Thank you so much.
I love you, sending you lots ofkisses, take care.
Thank you for tuning intoMidlife Butterfly.
If this episode lead a spark inyou, hit that subscribe or
follow button on Apple Podcasts,spotify or wherever you love to
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If you're feeling generous,drop a review on Apple Podcasts.
It helps this empoweringcontent reach more souls ready
to transform their lives.
And don't forget to take aphoto of you while listening and
share it on your socials.
You can tag @KenaSiu so I cancelebrate you and your expansion
.
Until next time, keep spreadingthose wings and living in joy,
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growth and pleasure.
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