June 24, 2025 • 29 mins
Ever catch yourself rushing through the motions, waiting for the weekend, or wondering why life feels so...meh? In this raw and reflective episode, I open up about what it really means to live intentionally—not perfectly, but truthfully. I share the morning practices that changed my energy, how I broke free from autopilot, and why setting daily intentions has become my anchor. This one’s an invitation to slow down, breathe deeper, and remember: you’re not here to survive—you’re here to live.
Tune In If You’ve Ever Said:
- “I feel like life is just happening to me.”
- “I’m exhausted but I don’t know why.”
- “I want to live with more presence and peace… but how?”
🦋 In This Episode, You’ll Hear:
- Why intentional living is not just a morning routine—it’s a lifestyle shift
- How to break free from autopilot and stop surviving through your days
- A juicy morning practice to connect with your body and energy before the world gets loud
- What it really means to set an intention (hint: it’s more than journaling affirmations)
- The empowering truth about triggers, trauma, and your personal healing path
Reflection Questions:
- Where in your life are you living by default instead of by design?
- What is one simple action you can take today to live more intentionally?
- What intention can you set tomorrow morning that honors your truth?
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Kena Siu (00:05):
Welcome to the Midlife Butterfly Podcast.
I'm your host Ke na Siu.
You know how caterpillars gothrough the gooey cocoon phase
before emerging as butterflies.
Yeah, that's midlife.
One minute everything feelslike it's falling apart and the
next you're own cocoon.
It's all about going from fourto one.
(00:26):
Four weddings, three countries,three languages, two husbands,
two divorces and one soulawakening funeral.
This podcast is all aboutembracing that messy, magical
process of transformation.
Whether you are going through abreakup, navigating change or
waking up to your own power, Iam here to guide you.
(00:47):
Together.
We'll explore empowerment,spirituality and how to bring
more joy and pleasure into yourlife.
We will dive into the mindsetsand self-care practices that
will help you fall madly in lovewith yourself again.
You'll hear from inspiringguests, including clients I've
coached and experts, and, ofcourse, my own experiences.
(01:08):
Get ready for laughter, tears,a little cursing and a whole lot
of vulnerability every week.
This is going to be raw andunedited.
So if you're ready to shed allskins, embrace your messy
midlife and step into the mostauthentic, joyful version of
yourself, you're in the rightplace.
Let's cocoon, grow and fly.
(01:29):
Welcome to the midlifebutterfly.
Hey, beauty, welcome back tothe midlife butterfly podcast
Podcast.
This is Kena, your host in here,and today we're going to be
talking about intentional living.
(01:49):
Yeah, because the thing is, wethink we live.
Other people think they arejust surviving, which is very
sad, to tell you the truth,because we're not here to
(02:18):
survive, we're here to liveresponsibility over our lives
and how we want to feel, what wewant to create, how we want to
ah our spaces, to be our energy,the people who are around us,
how we want to experience lifeitself and the way I do it.
(02:47):
Actually, since I wake up, ofcourse, this has I need to
mention this it has built upthrough the years as I keep
adding more habits, self-carehabits into my routine.
But the thing is it's more thana routine.
You know, intentional living.
It's like when I, as soon as Iwake up, I just feel my body and
(03:15):
love listening to the silencethat is in there, and I just
start being grateful, gratefulfor another day, grateful for my
health, and then I start just,you know, moving my body from
toast up all the way up to myhead and start being thankful
(03:38):
for each part of it, and it'sjust so beautiful to connect
with my body as soon as I wakeup, and then I allow some time
in there again in silence, toobserve where my mind is.
Sometimes it's quiet, sometimesyou just start remembering
(04:04):
things from the day before, sojust to kind of like check where
I am at that very moment assoon as I wake up.
And then I like listening to ameditation.
Listening to a meditation,either if it's from Joe Dispenza
(04:28):
or one of my mentors oranything else that flows, or
sometimes he's just stayingthere in stillness.
It's just so good.
It's just so good to start theday like that, in gratitude and
with a meditation to connectwith myself.
Or could be a guided meditationwhere I want to reprogram my
(04:54):
mind Right, to get it into abetter frequency, to feel better
, to change some limitingbeliefs that are not serving me
anymore, and that's alsointentional, of course.
And then from there I think ofhow do I want to feel, what's my
(05:20):
intention for the day?
Like what's resonating morethat then from there, the
intention of the day flowsthrough, and sometimes his
presence sometimes is likeuniverse, show me the money, you
know it it.
(05:42):
I mean the range is wide open,I mean any possibility can come
through, and it's just a way ofenjoying and a way to tell the
universe.
I am here for this, like just,ah, let's allow it.
You know, it's a way ofsurrendering at the same time
(06:02):
and allowing and trusting andtrusting, and it's not about
more like getting into a goalitself, it's more into getting
into that frequency of what theintention is to really go
(06:23):
through the day with that.
How do I want to, you know, toshow up, how, which kind of
energy I want to, I want tocarry, how do I want to feel,
you know, my alignment, and then, from there, create the reality
.
You know, create the reality,you know.
(06:53):
So, yeah, it's creating thereality from there, and of
course, there's gonna be ups anddowns.
I mean, life it's a rollercoaster, but at least just by
having that intention, see,that's that very moment it sets
the tone differently throughoutmy day.
I mean, at this moment I liveon my own, uh.
But if you are a mother, if youhave a partner, and if you are
(07:15):
wearing all these hats of themother, of the wife or the
worker, and then you know, oralso the people pleaser, the
feeling of worthiness and allthese other hats that we, that
we wear because of patterns,beliefs, the programming, you
(07:36):
know really that con theconditioning that we've been
through our whole lives.
Um, so the idea is to get outof there.
And how can I put it?
This is, uh, yeah, it's simplyby having that intention we
shift, we shift, yeah, it's.
(07:58):
It's really like getting into adifferent track, not walking
the same path all day long, whenwe know that you know that this
thought is going to come, thatthis pattern is going to come,
that I'm going to get triggeredbecause of this.
So, just by taking anothertrack and having that intention,
(08:22):
it really shifts how you'regoing to create that day.
And it's very important to bybeing intentional, uh, we can be
more present during the day.
Just by sitting, by settingthat intention and by being more
(08:48):
present, you're going to beable to choose your thoughts.
You're going to be able tochoose your actions instead of
reactions, because by havingthat intention of flow, of
whatever it is that you'refeeling, it, that's what you're
(09:10):
going to attract.
As simple as that.
And, yeah, you might getsometimes stuck with things that
comes from trauma, from wounds,wounds, and again, it's about
(09:33):
having that presence so you canshift when something triggers
you, or if you have that time toactually process and say, okay,
this is triggering me.
What is this person, what isthis situation mirroring back to
me, reflecting back to me thatI have to work on it, that I
have gotta heal, because thosetriggers are really something in
(09:57):
you that it has to be healedfrom again, from trauma, from
from past wounds, for beliefsthat were passed to you and
you're probably not even awareof those.
It's getting you out of thatautopilot by living
(10:20):
intentionally and I used to livein autopilot for such a long
time and it's when I was feelingstressed, it's when I was
feeling that life was happeningto me, not for me.
It's when I was looking forfights with my partner.
(10:40):
It's when I will respond veryharsh to some people, because I
was in autopilot and my shell,my, you know this cover for me
to protect myself for all mywounds and my trauma.
(11:02):
I created this big uh warrior,uh suit in me and I would just,
you know, I didn't realize howmuch I was living in autopilot
by protecting myself.
And then the thing is I wasexhausted, I was resentful with
(11:33):
other people, I feltdisconnected from myself.
I mean really mind, body, soul,forget about it.
Those terms were not even in myvocabulary at all.
Not at all and, of course, atthat time, I was also, you know,
like it's Monday to Friday.
(11:53):
Oh yeah, finally it's theweekend, you know, you know.
And then, oh, monday is comingagain, and it's just this kind
of cycle that we should not beliving in.
When we are in that cycle ofreally measuring the days we're
(12:16):
living, it and the time thatwe're spending is because
because we are not living, weare not enjoying life, we are
not being present at all.
Does this resonate with you?
With you?
(12:47):
So my invitation is to reallystart your days by taking a few
minutes just to check in withyour body as soon as you wake up
to, to check with it, to feelgrateful for what you have, for
who you are at this very moment.
It doesn't matter what thesituation is, everything is
impermanent, so allow it.
(13:09):
At that same time, by livingintentionally, you're gonna be
able, with more ease and flow,to move towards those goals that
you want to achieve, to takethat action that is needed for
(13:29):
you to create a life that youwant, that life that you love
and that you desire, because youfucking deserve it.
You deserve it.
And at the same time, I'm goingto be very harsh and tell you
that nobody's going to come andsave you.
The only savior in here has tobe you.
(13:53):
You are the one choosing.
Be you, you are the onechoosing, and sometimes those
choices may not be the best onesthat you want, but at least
take the one that it can makeyou feel a bit better, even if
(14:15):
it's a tiny one, a tiny shift.
And the thing is, life it's nota sprint, it's a journey.
So we keep walking in thisjourney.
Sometimes it's easy, sometimesit's hard, sometimes it's joyful
, sometimes it's fucking painful.
(14:37):
Hard, sometimes it's joyful,sometimes it's fucking painful.
And that's when we have.
We gotta embody that equanimity, that allowing of what is in
life, to feel more at peace withwhatever it is that we are
going through, going through.
(15:01):
So what do you think you can dotoday to start living
intentionally?
What is an action step that youcan take to live intentionally?
Are you taking a pause?
Are you going to meditate?
Are you going to stay oneminute in silence?
(15:23):
Are you going to go for a walkand just enjoy being in nature
or focusing on your steps?
Because there's alwayssomething available for you to
be more intentional when youcook, when you are eating, being
(15:45):
grateful for the meal that youare eating.
Being grateful for your bodybecause it has movement, because
it might have a bit of painsomewhere, because it's
digestingesting, because yourheart is beating 24 7 and you
don't have to do anything.
(16:06):
Being intentional with theconversations that you have with
your dear ones, with the peoplethat is around you.
Being intentional with theenergy that you bring to the
room.
I used to have such a badenergy sometimes that sometimes
(16:28):
you can feel actually the energyof a person when he comes to
the room and you say like, oh my, that felt good.
I used to have sometimes thisheavy energy that I can even I
was not even able to start onmyself.
It was like, oh my God.
(16:49):
So doing the inner work is whatit helped me shift all that.
Doing the inner work is what ithelped me shift all that,
because living intentionally isthat also.
It's willing to do the innerwork, to go deep into whatever.
(17:13):
It is that you have to work onit, that you have to heal,
because it's not allowing you tolive the life that you desire.
It's going to the roots of whatis causing you that suffering
because, as it is well said,pain is inevitable.
Suffering is optional.
(17:35):
So what is it?
That you have to heal, that youhave to let go, that you have
to forgive, for you to moveforward in life with more
intention.
Life is not easy.
Life is not easy and it'sharder for one people, and it's
(18:01):
harder for some people more thanothers.
What I came to understand isthat each person has their own
journey.
It's not that it's better or ifit's worse, it's just the way
it is.
Who knows how many lives wehave lived before to actually
(18:24):
come to live this one at thismoment?
We don't know.
Just be grateful for it.
Be grateful for the life thatyou have now.
Be grateful for the people thatis around you.
Be grateful for the materialstuff that you have.
(18:47):
Be grateful for being grateful.
(19:08):
I've been feeling veryfrustrated lately because I have
noticed how my sight forreading closely has um decreased
and the fact that I really needto use my glasses lately.
It creates a lot of frustrationand it's not the lenses itself,
it's the fact I mean, I've beenusing lenses since I'm 13, and
I mostly use contact lenses, andit's either.
(19:31):
It's not a vanity thing of ohno, I'm not using lenses, no,
it's not that I choose to see,to be able to see, but the fact
that I'm not able to see as Iused to when I need to read
something close and actually nowI'm using it most of the time,
also when looking at my phone ithas created a lot of
(19:56):
frustration, and I'm saying thisout loud because I don't know
what is in you that is probablysomething created so frustration
and instead of being gratefulfor seeing, I'm just allowing
that frustration.
(20:17):
And it's okay to allow thatfrustration.
And it's okay because I amgrateful at the same time that I
am in midlife and I am gratefulthat I'm able to age.
It is a privilege that manypeople don't have, and if you're
listening to this, it meansthat you have that privilege too
(20:39):
.
So it's about choosing up towhat level we want to be
grateful and intentional withwhat we have, with who we are,
instead of all the time justcomplaining.
I think it takes the sameeffort to complain that don't
(21:04):
doing it, so just don't freaking.
Do it and feel better.
Yeah, intention, intention,because it's not just about the
(21:29):
mindset, right, it's how wespeak, how we act, how we move,
how we love, how we accompanyother people.
It's everything if you thinkabout it, if we really put that
(21:54):
attention of what's my intentionwhen I'm going to start working
?
What's my intention when I'mgoing to start working?
What's my intention when I'mgoing for a walk?
Sometimes I, you know, rathergo in silence.
Sometimes I want to listen to apodcast.
What's my intention when I'mgoing to see a friend?
(22:15):
What's my intention when I'mgoing dancing?
It's to connect to other people, to connect to myself, to
release stress.
There's always an intentionbehind.
Now that I'm thinking about it,it's about then are you aware of
(22:39):
that intention or you are not?
Huh, interesting, right, andliving intentionally, it can
become a lifestyle.
It's not because, if we want tolive better lives, to create
(23:08):
better realities every day, thathas to be the intention and it
has to be something conscious.
And no, it doesn't have to beperfect.
It just has to be honest.
It just has to speak your truthand it doesn't matter if other
(23:34):
people don't get it.
It is your life, it is yourtruth.
So it's about what you arechoosing to experience, what you
are choosing to live.
(24:10):
I read this was kind of a quotethat I don't even.
It didn't say who was theauthor of it.
Uh, so that trans.
I read it in Spanish, so thetranslation in English will be
the day that I understood thatthe only thing I will take with
me is what I live.
It's the day I start living thethings that I want to take with
(24:34):
me.
It's very deep if you thinkabout it, because we're not
taking anything with us, nothing, not even this body.
We're mainly taking ourexperiences, our memories, and
(25:02):
some people don't even get to.
We're mainly taking what ourexperiences, our memories, and
some people don't even get to,to take that with them.
So are you living or are yousurviving?
What is it that you want tocreate in this life that you can
(25:27):
start doing it intentionallynow, not in autopilot, not
anymore.
You are not here to survive,you are here to live.
You are here to live.
You are here to live and thething is, the more aliveness you
(25:50):
start getting, the more yourenvironment is gonna start start
showing you that, the more thepeople that is going to be
around you, the more alignedit's going to be and the more
opportunities you're going toget and the more miracles you're
going to see and the more magicyou're going to start creating
(26:14):
by shifting into something thatyou want to create by intention.
I invite you to reflect onwhere in your life you think you
(26:55):
are living by default insteadof by design, and what intention
can you set today to honor yourtruth?
And probably you can ask thisquestion every morning as soon
as you wake up what intentioncan I set today to honor my
(27:22):
truth?
Thank you so much for listening.
I know this was a slow paceepisode.
I was just.
I was just reflecting it andand feeling it.
While I was saying it out loud,for some reason it came to me
and and I realized it's.
(27:43):
I don't know, I just needed tospeak it up, speak it out loud
in here and yeah, if thisresonated with you, mmm, send me
a DM at midlife butterfly inInstagram or send me an email,
(28:05):
which is here below.
It's hello at midlife butterfly.
That's CA.
And yeah, sure, how do you wantto start living intentionally?
And if you need guidance, I'llbe more than happy to support
you.
Either, you know, you can takea free call with me, an
(28:29):
empowered strategy call, andthen, from there, if you would
like to work with me, I have oneon one coaching available and
yeah, it would be my pleasure towork together and share this
episode if you think thatsomebody else will feel inspired
(28:49):
, thanks to this.
Sending you much love, as usual, and have a beautiful day.
Welcome to the Midlife Butterfly Podcast.
I'm your host Ke na Siu.
You know how caterpillars gothrough the gooey cocoon phase
before emerging as butterflies.
Yeah, that's midlife.
One minute everything feelslike it's falling apart and the
next you're own cocoon.
It's all about going from fourto one.
(00:26):
Four weddings, three countries,three languages, two husbands,
two divorces and one soulawakening funeral.
This podcast is all aboutembracing that messy, magical
process of transformation.
Whether you are going through abreakup, navigating change or
waking up to your own power, Iam here to guide you.
(00:47):
Together.
We'll explore empowerment,spirituality and how to bring
more joy and pleasure into yourlife.
We will dive into the mindsetsand self-care practices that
will help you fall madly in lovewith yourself again.
You'll hear from inspiringguests, including clients I've
coached and experts, and, ofcourse, my own experiences.
(01:08):
Get ready for laughter, tears,a little cursing and a whole lot
of vulnerability every week.
This is going to be raw andunedited.
So if you're ready to shed allskins, embrace your messy
midlife and step into the mostauthentic, joyful version of
yourself, you're in the rightplace.
Let's cocoon, grow and fly.
(01:29):
Welcome to the midlifebutterfly.
Hey, beauty, welcome back tothe midlife butterfly podcast
Podcast.
This is Kena, your host in here,and today we're going to be
talking about intentional living.
(01:49):
Yeah, because the thing is, wethink we live.
Other people think they arejust surviving, which is very
sad, to tell you the truth,because we're not here to
(02:18):
survive, we're here to liveresponsibility over our lives
and how we want to feel, what wewant to create, how we want to
ah our spaces, to be our energy,the people who are around us,
how we want to experience lifeitself and the way I do it.
(02:47):
Actually, since I wake up, ofcourse, this has I need to
mention this it has built upthrough the years as I keep
adding more habits, self-carehabits into my routine.
But the thing is it's more thana routine.
You know, intentional living.
It's like when I, as soon as Iwake up, I just feel my body and
(03:15):
love listening to the silencethat is in there, and I just
start being grateful, gratefulfor another day, grateful for my
health, and then I start just,you know, moving my body from
toast up all the way up to myhead and start being thankful
(03:38):
for each part of it, and it'sjust so beautiful to connect
with my body as soon as I wakeup, and then I allow some time
in there again in silence, toobserve where my mind is.
Sometimes it's quiet, sometimesyou just start remembering
(04:04):
things from the day before, sojust to kind of like check where
I am at that very moment assoon as I wake up.
And then I like listening to ameditation.
Listening to a meditation,either if it's from Joe Dispenza
(04:28):
or one of my mentors oranything else that flows, or
sometimes he's just stayingthere in stillness.
It's just so good.
It's just so good to start theday like that, in gratitude and
with a meditation to connectwith myself.
Or could be a guided meditationwhere I want to reprogram my
(04:54):
mind Right, to get it into abetter frequency, to feel better
, to change some limitingbeliefs that are not serving me
anymore, and that's alsointentional, of course.
And then from there I think ofhow do I want to feel, what's my
(05:20):
intention for the day?
Like what's resonating morethat then from there, the
intention of the day flowsthrough, and sometimes his
presence sometimes is likeuniverse, show me the money, you
know it it.
(05:42):
I mean the range is wide open,I mean any possibility can come
through, and it's just a way ofenjoying and a way to tell the
universe.
I am here for this, like just,ah, let's allow it.
You know, it's a way ofsurrendering at the same time
(06:02):
and allowing and trusting andtrusting, and it's not about
more like getting into a goalitself, it's more into getting
into that frequency of what theintention is to really go
(06:23):
through the day with that.
How do I want to, you know, toshow up, how, which kind of
energy I want to, I want tocarry, how do I want to feel,
you know, my alignment, and then, from there, create the reality
.
You know, create the reality,you know.
(06:53):
So, yeah, it's creating thereality from there, and of
course, there's gonna be ups anddowns.
I mean, life it's a rollercoaster, but at least just by
having that intention, see,that's that very moment it sets
the tone differently throughoutmy day.
I mean, at this moment I liveon my own, uh.
But if you are a mother, if youhave a partner, and if you are
(07:15):
wearing all these hats of themother, of the wife or the
worker, and then you know, oralso the people pleaser, the
feeling of worthiness and allthese other hats that we, that
we wear because of patterns,beliefs, the programming, you
(07:36):
know really that con theconditioning that we've been
through our whole lives.
Um, so the idea is to get outof there.
And how can I put it?
This is, uh, yeah, it's simplyby having that intention we
shift, we shift, yeah, it's.
(07:58):
It's really like getting into adifferent track, not walking
the same path all day long, whenwe know that you know that this
thought is going to come, thatthis pattern is going to come,
that I'm going to get triggeredbecause of this.
So, just by taking anothertrack and having that intention,
(08:22):
it really shifts how you'regoing to create that day.
And it's very important to bybeing intentional, uh, we can be
more present during the day.
Just by sitting, by settingthat intention and by being more
(08:48):
present, you're going to beable to choose your thoughts.
You're going to be able tochoose your actions instead of
reactions, because by havingthat intention of flow, of
whatever it is that you'refeeling, it, that's what you're
(09:10):
going to attract.
As simple as that.
And, yeah, you might getsometimes stuck with things that
comes from trauma, from wounds,wounds, and again, it's about
(09:33):
having that presence so you canshift when something triggers
you, or if you have that time toactually process and say, okay,
this is triggering me.
What is this person, what isthis situation mirroring back to
me, reflecting back to me thatI have to work on it, that I
have gotta heal, because thosetriggers are really something in
(09:57):
you that it has to be healedfrom again, from trauma, from
from past wounds, for beliefsthat were passed to you and
you're probably not even awareof those.
It's getting you out of thatautopilot by living
(10:20):
intentionally and I used to livein autopilot for such a long
time and it's when I was feelingstressed, it's when I was
feeling that life was happeningto me, not for me.
It's when I was looking forfights with my partner.
(10:40):
It's when I will respond veryharsh to some people, because I
was in autopilot and my shell,my, you know this cover for me
to protect myself for all mywounds and my trauma.
(11:02):
I created this big uh warrior,uh suit in me and I would just,
you know, I didn't realize howmuch I was living in autopilot
by protecting myself.
And then the thing is I wasexhausted, I was resentful with
(11:33):
other people, I feltdisconnected from myself.
I mean really mind, body, soul,forget about it.
Those terms were not even in myvocabulary at all.
Not at all and, of course, atthat time, I was also, you know,
like it's Monday to Friday.
(11:53):
Oh yeah, finally it's theweekend, you know, you know.
And then, oh, monday is comingagain, and it's just this kind
of cycle that we should not beliving in.
When we are in that cycle ofreally measuring the days we're
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living, it and the time thatwe're spending is because
because we are not living, weare not enjoying life, we are
not being present at all.
Does this resonate with you?
With you?
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So my invitation is to reallystart your days by taking a few
minutes just to check in withyour body as soon as you wake up
to, to check with it, to feelgrateful for what you have, for
who you are at this very moment.
It doesn't matter what thesituation is, everything is
impermanent, so allow it.
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At that same time, by livingintentionally, you're gonna be
able, with more ease and flow,to move towards those goals that
you want to achieve, to takethat action that is needed for
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you to create a life that youwant, that life that you love
and that you desire, because youfucking deserve it.
You deserve it.
And at the same time, I'm goingto be very harsh and tell you
that nobody's going to come andsave you.
The only savior in here has tobe you.
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You are the one choosing.
Be you, you are the onechoosing, and sometimes those
choices may not be the best onesthat you want, but at least
take the one that it can makeyou feel a bit better, even if
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it's a tiny one, a tiny shift.
And the thing is, life it's nota sprint, it's a journey.
So we keep walking in thisjourney.
Sometimes it's easy, sometimesit's hard, sometimes it's joyful
, sometimes it's fucking painful.
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Hard, sometimes it's joyful,sometimes it's fucking painful.
And that's when we have.
We gotta embody that equanimity, that allowing of what is in
life, to feel more at peace withwhatever it is that we are
going through, going through.
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So what do you think you can dotoday to start living
intentionally?
What is an action step that youcan take to live intentionally?
Are you taking a pause?
Are you going to meditate?
Are you going to stay oneminute in silence?
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Are you going to go for a walkand just enjoy being in nature
or focusing on your steps?
Because there's alwayssomething available for you to
be more intentional when youcook, when you are eating, being
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grateful for the meal that youare eating.
Being grateful for your bodybecause it has movement, because
it might have a bit of painsomewhere, because it's
digestingesting, because yourheart is beating 24 7 and you
don't have to do anything.
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Being intentional with theconversations that you have with
your dear ones, with the peoplethat is around you.
Being intentional with theenergy that you bring to the
room.
I used to have such a badenergy sometimes that sometimes
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you can feel actually the energyof a person when he comes to
the room and you say like, oh my, that felt good.
I used to have sometimes thisheavy energy that I can even I
was not even able to start onmyself.
It was like, oh my God.
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So doing the inner work is whatit helped me shift all that.
Doing the inner work is what ithelped me shift all that,
because living intentionally isthat also.
It's willing to do the innerwork, to go deep into whatever.
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It is that you have to work onit, that you have to heal,
because it's not allowing you tolive the life that you desire.
It's going to the roots of whatis causing you that suffering
because, as it is well said,pain is inevitable.
Suffering is optional.
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So what is it?
That you have to heal, that youhave to let go, that you have
to forgive, for you to moveforward in life with more
intention.
Life is not easy.
Life is not easy and it'sharder for one people, and it's
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harder for some people more thanothers.
What I came to understand isthat each person has their own
journey.
It's not that it's better or ifit's worse, it's just the way
it is.
Who knows how many lives wehave lived before to actually
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come to live this one at thismoment?
We don't know.
Just be grateful for it.
Be grateful for the life thatyou have now.
Be grateful for the people thatis around you.
Be grateful for the materialstuff that you have.
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Be grateful for being grateful.
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I've been feeling veryfrustrated lately because I have
noticed how my sight forreading closely has um decreased
and the fact that I really needto use my glasses lately.
It creates a lot of frustrationand it's not the lenses itself,
it's the fact I mean, I've beenusing lenses since I'm 13, and
I mostly use contact lenses, andit's either.
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It's not a vanity thing of ohno, I'm not using lenses, no,
it's not that I choose to see,to be able to see, but the fact
that I'm not able to see as Iused to when I need to read
something close and actually nowI'm using it most of the time,
also when looking at my phone ithas created a lot of
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frustration, and I'm saying thisout loud because I don't know
what is in you that is probablysomething created so frustration
and instead of being gratefulfor seeing, I'm just allowing
that frustration.
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And it's okay to allow thatfrustration.
And it's okay because I amgrateful at the same time that I
am in midlife and I am gratefulthat I'm able to age.
It is a privilege that manypeople don't have, and if you're
listening to this, it meansthat you have that privilege too
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.
So it's about choosing up towhat level we want to be
grateful and intentional withwhat we have, with who we are,
instead of all the time justcomplaining.
I think it takes the sameeffort to complain that don't
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doing it, so just don't freaking.
Do it and feel better.
Yeah, intention, intention,because it's not just about the
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mindset, right, it's how wespeak, how we act, how we move,
how we love, how we accompanyother people.
It's everything if you thinkabout it, if we really put that
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attention of what's my intentionwhen I'm going to start working
?
What's my intention when I'mgoing to start working?
What's my intention when I'mgoing for a walk?
Sometimes I, you know, rathergo in silence.
Sometimes I want to listen to apodcast.
What's my intention when I'mgoing to see a friend?
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What's my intention when I'mgoing dancing?
It's to connect to other people, to connect to myself, to
release stress.
There's always an intentionbehind.
Now that I'm thinking about it,it's about then are you aware of
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that intention or you are not?
Huh, interesting, right, andliving intentionally, it can
become a lifestyle.
It's not because, if we want tolive better lives, to create
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better realities every day, thathas to be the intention and it
has to be something conscious.
And no, it doesn't have to beperfect.
It just has to be honest.
It just has to speak your truthand it doesn't matter if other
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people don't get it.
It is your life, it is yourtruth.
So it's about what you arechoosing to experience, what you
are choosing to live.
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I read this was kind of a quotethat I don't even.
It didn't say who was theauthor of it.
Uh, so that trans.
I read it in Spanish, so thetranslation in English will be
the day that I understood thatthe only thing I will take with
me is what I live.
It's the day I start living thethings that I want to take with
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me.
It's very deep if you thinkabout it, because we're not
taking anything with us, nothing, not even this body.
We're mainly taking ourexperiences, our memories, and
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some people don't even get to.
We're mainly taking what ourexperiences, our memories, and
some people don't even get to,to take that with them.
So are you living or are yousurviving?
What is it that you want tocreate in this life that you can
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start doing it intentionallynow, not in autopilot, not
anymore.
You are not here to survive,you are here to live.
You are here to live.
You are here to live and thething is, the more aliveness you
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start getting, the more yourenvironment is gonna start start
showing you that, the more thepeople that is going to be
around you, the more alignedit's going to be and the more
opportunities you're going toget and the more miracles you're
going to see and the more magicyou're going to start creating
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by shifting into something thatyou want to create by intention.
I invite you to reflect onwhere in your life you think you
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are living by default insteadof by design, and what intention
can you set today to honor yourtruth?
And probably you can ask thisquestion every morning as soon
as you wake up what intentioncan I set today to honor my
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truth?
Thank you so much for listening.
I know this was a slow paceepisode.
I was just.
I was just reflecting it andand feeling it.
While I was saying it out loud,for some reason it came to me
and and I realized it's.
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I don't know, I just needed tospeak it up, speak it out loud
in here and yeah, if thisresonated with you, mmm, send me
a DM at midlife butterfly inInstagram or send me an email,
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which is here below.
It's hello at midlife butterfly.
That's CA.
And yeah, sure, how do you wantto start living intentionally?
And if you need guidance, I'llbe more than happy to support
you.
Either, you know, you can takea free call with me, an
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empowered strategy call, andthen, from there, if you would
like to work with me, I have oneon one coaching available and
yeah, it would be my pleasure towork together and share this
episode if you think thatsomebody else will feel inspired
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, thanks to this.
Sending you much love, as usual, and have a beautiful day.
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