#31 - Stop Self-Betrayal and Start Living Your Truth

If you’ve been feeling “off”… like something’s not quite right even though you’ve done all the right things, this one's for you. That tug in your chest, that ache in your gut? It’s not a crisis—it’s a call.

In this short but potent solo drop, I speak straight from the heart (literally from bed) to the midlife woman who’s been betraying herself one small compromise at a time—putting everyone else first, shrinking her voice, and wondering why the love and validation never feel quite enough.

This is your wake-up whisper—and your permission slip to stop shape-shifting for the world and start returning to yourself.

In This Episode, You’ll Hear:

✨ Why self-betrayal often looks like being “the nice one”
✨ The moment I stopped calling it a crisis and started calling it a midlife awakening
✨ A powerful story of one of my clients standing in her truth—and how the world shifted around her
✨ The real reason you feel unseen (and how to change that)
✨ What it feels like to be unshakably YOU—and how to get there

Reflection Questions:

1. Where in your life are you still shrinking or shape-shifting to be accepted?
2. What would it look like to stop betraying yourself and start choosing you, every damn day?
3. If your soul left you a voicemail today… what would she say?

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Episode Transcript

Kena Siu (00:02):
Midlife butterfly, a woman in the sacred in between.
She's not who she once was andnot quite who she's becoming yet
.
She's unraveling, awakening,remembering.
She's navigating lifetransitions, divorce, loss,
reinvasion, moves, with aburning desire for freedom, joy
and solid living.

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She feels the pull to rise to,to fly.
She is no longer afraid of herown wings.
Hey, beauty Kena here, welcomeback to the Midlife Butterfly,

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this time recording from bed,because I just feel inspired at
this very moment in the morning.
So here we go.
My question to you is when areyou going to stop betraying
yourself?
Yes, it's amazing how us likewomen mainly we betray ourselves

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by prioritizing others, youknow, by being the last in the
list by others.
You know, by being the last inthe list, by shifting, so we can
fit in, so we can be loved, wecan avoid rejection and
abandonment.
And what happens?

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By doing all that, you are notliving in integrity.
If you feel off, that meansthat there is a misalignment

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over there, because you are notbeing the true you.
You are there for others butnot for yourself.
And then you wonder why Otherpeople, according to your
perception, are not loving youor accepting you or listening to

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you.
You're not being seen and heard.
They are just reflecting backto you what you are not doing to
yourself.
If you are always pleasingothers, if you are always

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looking for validation, it meansthat you are not being you.
That's not your true self, sothat's self-betrayal.
So what do you have to do here?

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What do you get to do?
Actually, that's the excitement.
What do you have to do here?
What do you get to do?
Actually?
That's the excitement.
It's about noticing who you are,not because you are being now
someone that you are not really.
That's what you might believe,that you are in a midlife crisis

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, when the truth is you are in amidlife awakening.
Your soul is calling you backhome and that's why the ick and
the offness and the probablyshower of emotions that you
might get sometimes, becauseyour soul, through your body, is

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calling you out, is telling youcome on, it's time for you to
bring your truth, to speak yourtruth, to be you, to be you, and

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if you keep betraying yourself,you're never going to be you.
You gotta let go of all thosebehaviors and patterns and

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conditioning that you have beenunder, telling you who you're
supposed to be, plus thechecklist, the status quo.
Aren't you fucking fed up ofthat?
I am.
I'm so fucking fed up of that,and the truth is you are the one

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in charge of shifting that youare.
It's about you taking thedecision to say, okay, this is
it, this is it, and allowyourself to start receiving that

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information from your intuition, from God, from your self, from
your soul, whatever you want tocall it, and now allow her to
guide you.
It might guide you to take amoment for yourself of stillness

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.
It might guide you to rest.
It might guide you to connectback to nature.
It might guide you to set aboundary.
It might guide you to hire acoach or a mentor to speed up

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the process, because this takestime.
Stop being yourself, the selfthat is actually eking now, the
one that is in crisis.
Between quotes, there are ways,by getting help from other

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people, to get to know yourselfbetter, and that's what I love
doing with my clients, becauseit's so exciting.
Like this week I had aconversation with one of my
clients and she was telling mebecause she went on vacation

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with other families they rentedan Airbnb and she was so nervous
because she's like I know Ihave changed and I'm afraid that
I'm gonna keep, you know, likebetter, say, like going
backwards by being with thesepeople and trying to please them
and going back to my behaviors.
And she was so surprised and Icould see her on her face when

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we were talking, like that pride, you know, and excitement, and
she said we have such a greatvacation.
She said the first couple ofdays was a bit hard because they
were kind of like pulling meback, but I just stood on my
truth.
She was saying what she neededand for her children and within

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a few days I mean since theynoticed that she shifted to
speak her truth and to be moreher person for herself and for
her children the other peoplestepped back and started
respecting that andunderstanding and seeing that

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she was different this time.
And just by her because again,you are the creator of your own
reality by her standing into hertruth and saying, okay, this is
what I want, this is what isneeded for my family at this

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moment and I'm going to followwhat is good for me and for us.
And she had such a beautifulvacation.
She was like we have such agreat time.
I cannot believe it.
And that's the thing.
She's been coming back home toherself by releasing the people

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ple her, by stepping into hertruth, what is for her, good?
You know her values, what isimportant for her and her
principles and in who she trulyis.
So by stopping thatself-betrayal and stepping into

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her truth and speaking it up andembodying it, that's how she's
creating a better reality in herlife.
Isn't it cool?
Oh my gosh.
She was telling me I was justlike I am now, like so excited.

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I felt so happy and proud ofherself because she's doing it.
It is possible to be you and, atone point, stand strong to who

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you truly are, that, no matterwhat other people might think,
they're going to feel it becauseyou are from a place of
alignment and harmony and lovefor yourself, that you're

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fucking unshakable.
That's the truth.
Of course, it gets wobblysometimes.
Yes, I mean Accept, you'rehumanist, yeah, but it's much
harder that somebody comes andstep on you.
It's much harder that you'regoing to self-betray because you

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know more and more who you areand what you are standing for.
That oof, that self-betrayal,becomes confidence, becomes

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resilience I don't know, I justlost the words but it becomes.
It becomes a true you, tall andproud, in this beautiful gown

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and feeling that you knowfreshness and the wind, and
feeling the sun over your skinand saying, yes, this is me,
this is me, and I get to keeppracticing.

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With every experience, withevery interaction, with every
connection that I have, I get tokeep practicing to come back
home to myself.
I'm just feeling the chills ofthat distral station.

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Are you.
If you are not, pause this andlisten to it again.
Imagine how will you feel onceyou awake to your true self and
start embodying and being her.

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It is right there.
She is right there waiting foryou to pick up the call.
She is there.
Are you ready to pick up?

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And with this I'm leaving youthis juicy short episode.
If you're interested in workingwith me and my coaching
services, please reach out.

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All the information is in theshow notes.
Wishing you a lot of love froma beautiful place that I'm going
to be at the time this episodecomes out and I'll be in my moon
dance retreat for the thirdyear in a row, dancing for the

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moon with a beautiful group ofpeople to bring more peace and
love to this beautiful humannessand world.
That is very, very needed.
Much love to you and take care.

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