August 26, 2025 • 31 mins
Let’s get real. Midlife isn’t just about wrinkles or hot flashes. It’s about the armours we’ve built over decades of survival. The walls we wear to protect ourselves from hurt also keep out love, support, abundance, and joy. In this episode, I open up about the armors I discovered in myself—emotional, energetic, and even spiritual—and how they’ve shaped my relationships, my ability to receive, and my freedom.
If you’ve ever caught yourself over-giving, hiding your true desires, or priding yourself on being “strong and independent” while secretly craving to be held and supported, this one’s for you. It’s time to loosen the straps, my love, and let yourself feel safe, soft, and powerful at the same time.
✨ In This Episode, You’ll Hear:
- The hidden ways your armour blocks love, opportunities, and abundance.
- How journaling cracked open a deep wound I didn’t know was still alive.
- The armours women wear most often.
- Why true safety comes from within, not from walls.
- A gentle invitation to replace protection with presence, and discover your worthiness to receive.
🦋 Soulful Reflection Questions
- What kind of armour am I currently wearing, and what am I trying to protect myself from?
- Where in my life do I say I’m open, but my heart is still guarded?
- If I loosened just one strap of my armor today, what might shift in how I receive love, joy, or abundance?
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might benefit. Check the show notes for links to coaching services, mini coaching sessions, and self-paced online programs to support your journey.
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Kena Siu (00:00):
Do you wear an armor and did you know that by wearing
one, you actually might beblocking love, people and even
yourself?
Midlife Butterfly a woman inthe sacred in between.
She's not who she once was andnot quite who she's becoming.
(00:22):
Yet she's unraveling, awakening, remembering.
She's navigating lifetransitions, divorce, loss,
reinvasion moves, with a burningdesire for freedom, joy and
solid living.
She feels the pull to rise, tofly.
She's no longer afraid of herown wings.
Welcome back to the MidlifeButterfly Podcast.
(00:52):
My name is Kena Siu, your host,and this is going to be a
powerful message for you.
I just realized yesterday how aversion of me was still
(01:12):
believing and needed to protectme from being used, and by doing
that, I also block my capacityto receive, and even when I'm
still feeling the vulnerabilityof my heart, by realizing this
hidden pain because that'sreally what it was in there I
(01:40):
cried over it, cracked open andthen a lot of anger came through
, and you know I mean that'spart of the healing process.
So that's what I want to sharewith you, because you might have
an armor, or several of them,either if you're creating them
(02:06):
consciously or unconsciously,and it's to protect yourself
from being hurt, and that'snormal, we don't want to feel
hurt.
And then the armor, or armorsthat we create, they are, of
course, they are emotional, theyare energetic, but they are
(02:28):
still there.
And because we are energy,everything is energy, of course
we get to block that flow ofenergy to come through us.
And the breakthrough that Iwent through it was by noticing
(02:52):
my behavior.
And then, when I startedjournaling, is when I was like
what the fuck?
I was like this is what'shappening is when I realized
that it was me feeling used andin this case was by men, and it
(03:13):
was eye-opening for me and atthe same time, it's so healing
and so liberating.
So I noticed my behavior by um.
So I met the person a couple ofmonths ago and I finally felt
inspired to, you know, send hima text.
(03:34):
I said, okay, let's go for acoffee, for tea, and so we did.
And, uh, I made it clear sincethe beginning that I just, you
know, I just wanted to have, youknow, friendship.
He is much older than me andbut you know the short
conversation that we have atthat very moment it felt good
(03:56):
and the energy felt goodnoticing my behavior with him
when he was texting me or when Iwas in his presence.
It's when I noticed how mybehavior was being there and
then I was like, oh yeah, I'mreally like putting a wall in
(04:18):
here.
It was not even a boundary, itreally felt more than that.
I really didn't realize that Iwas carrying a shield with me.
You know, when it comes to mennot with all of them, because I
(04:38):
have great female friends, sorrymale friends, but it seems like
it showed up with some people,and more when they are still
kind of unknown to me, that I,you know just the beginning of a
relationship and even though,when you know, when they show up
with clear intentions, you know, and they are respectful and
(05:01):
everything, I'm still puttingthis armor in between to protect
myself.
And so last night, when I wasreflecting about it, then that's
what I love about journaling,because once I start journaling,
(05:25):
I just have this what the fuckmoment really, then, noticing
why this armor was built.
So I started writing down, youknow, the name of a person and
then the situation that happened, and then how I felt at that
(05:48):
moment.
And then another person youknow and another person, and
that's how I realized that, bywriting down all these relevant
memories that it came to mind.
It's when I really noticed andthen when I kind of felt that
(06:13):
crack in my heart and saying,yeah, I felt used by them, even
though in some cases probablywas not the case, but it was how
we interpret things at acertain moment, right.
So then I started realizing,okay, which were my patterns at
(06:34):
the time, how was my behavior?
And there was so much sorrowand at the same time there was
(06:55):
so much anger when I felt thatcracking the armor, like saying
you don't need me anymoreBecause you are safe, because
the truth is it's not in onlyshowed up, you know, with
certain men again, kind of likea new relationships, what they
would happen is also it's mewhen I want to open up to my
(07:19):
friendships or, you know,getting new clients or new
opportunities, and because Iremember like I used to struggle
to receive compliments, I usedto struggle and still kind of
like you know the aging there ofasking for help.
(07:45):
So what are you trying toprotect yourself from that?
You are blocking yourself fromthat flow of energy of being
open, of receiving others, andnot only others but yourself.
(08:08):
And the thing is, if we are notopen to receive ourselves,
nobody else is going to do it.
I know it's a hard pill toswallow, but that's the truth.
(08:29):
How can we expect others to dosomething for us if we don't do
it for ourselves?
That's the way the laws aremade and this is not about, you
(09:00):
know, blaming men or blaming theother person or whatever it is
that might have happened to you.
It's about really witnessingthe version of you that believed
that you had to protectyourself from that danger and
(09:27):
then realizing also how thatbelief still shaped your actions
and reactions with others.
Because the armor sometimes itcan look like strength and the
reality is that it's it's a fearin disguise.
Have you experienced someone?
When they are very loud, it'susually because they are
(09:50):
freaking, afraid or something,and by raising their voice, they
are creating authority and theyare protecting well, authority,
between quotes, they areactually protecting themselves
from whatever other people cantell them and that can break
(10:14):
them, put them on the floor,right?
So how, or better to say like,what kind of armors have you
created?
One of them is the over-giverarmor, and I know a lot of women
(10:36):
and men as well.
We can relate to this onebecause the over-giver I see it
as the people pleaser to thisone, because the over giver I
see it as the people pleaser.
You know you do everything fromeveryone so they don't leave you
, so they love you, so that youget rejected, so you don't feel
(10:58):
abandonment.
You know you are always onsomething and managing and
fixing and caretaking and doingeverything for everyone and at
the same time, unfortunately,you might feel some resentment
(11:20):
or you might feel drainedbecause you can't stop giving.
But it's really that wound thatyou have that has to be healed.
Is it the wound of rejection,of abandonment, of not being
(11:41):
enough, of not feeling loved?
What is the wound under it?
That it created this armor ofovergiving?
And the thing is, when you aredoing that, at the same time you
(12:01):
are blocking yourself fromreceiving, and the law says that
giving and receiving has to bein flow.
Other way it doesn't workproperly.
You need to fill up your cupfirst to be able to give from a
(12:26):
place of love and abundance,instead of having a freaking
empty cup and giving fromresentment and scarcity.
Have you probably built thearmor of being strong and
independent?
And saying the armor of beingstrong and independent and
saying I don't need anyone?
That's a freaking lie.
(12:48):
We always need from peoplearound us.
You know, I mean, we can behyper-independent and you can
pride that you are super coolwith only on your own, but we
really need help from others.
We do, we do.
And let me tell you, after Iseparated during COVID and then
(13:16):
I changed to a new place, that Iwas receiving the last amount
of money, say I am receiving,even when it felt so freaking
(13:37):
uncomfortable and when it feltthat I didn't deserve it, I
needed to bend myself and say,yes, I do need help from other
people.
So then don't complain.
If you don't feel seen andsupported.
(14:02):
If you have created that armorof strength and independence,
then you are blocking people andyou are causing that effect of
feeling unseen and unsupported.
I've been there and I'm stillsometimes do that.
So then don't dare to say, ohno, they don't see me, they
(14:27):
don't support me.
Well, what are you doing thatyou are blocking that flow.
What are you doing that you areblocking that flow?
And I think in here also itcomes a freaking control.
Freak, isn't it?
We don't want help because wewant to create things in our own
(14:50):
way and it has to be so perfectand beautiful and whatever
other idea you have in your headand, of course, no one else is
able to do it that way.
So it has to be your way, andI'm not only talking to you,
(15:10):
i'm'm talking to myself.
If I'm putting it out there,it's because these words I need
to listen to these words too.
Have you ever worn the spiritualarmor?
I remember I did when I startedmy spiritual journey.
(15:31):
You know, sometimes we believelike, oh no, I already healed
this and I only going to focuson the light and the positive.
Yeah, that's true, I mean, it'sgood to just focus on that.
Why I want to, you know, focuson the darkness.
But the thing is we are humans,we have a light side, we have a
(15:54):
dark side and we all have theseemotions that are always
flowing through us, and the onlyway to heal is by processing
those emotions.
So if some people, or if youare in this case, you know,
(16:14):
wearing this spiritual armor anddon't want to process your
emotions, most likely you arejust kind of like bypassing your
trauma, and that's not the wayto do the inner work.
Because if you are in thispodcast, listening to it, I want
(17:03):
to think that you, besideslistening to content and
consuming and integrate theteachings that you receive,
because if you don't, you'renever going to move forward, you
are never going to heal, you'renever going to grow and evolve
as a human being.
What about the invisible armor?
Oh, my God, I wear this one sooften Well, now, not that often,
(17:26):
but you know it's the one thatsays oh, if they don't notice me
, they can't hurt me.
They don't notice me, theycan't hurt me.
And then what happens?
You hide your guests, you avoidto be invisible because you
(17:55):
don't want to be misunderstoodor judged or rejected, like in
my case.
We rather stay on the shadow.
You know, being invisible,nobody sees me, so nobody can
hurt me.
But that's not the way we arebuilt.
We are here to be loved, to beloved.
We are here for community, forexpression, for creativity and
(18:23):
even when we get to, you know,create and everything for our
own sake, on well-being andsatisfaction, when we get to
share it, on well-being andsatisfaction, when we get to
share it, it feels good.
What do you think?
I'm here?
This is one of the reasons I amhere and it's so satisfying.
(18:50):
And it doesn't matter really,really, what you may think.
This is just my message, thisis just my words putting out
there and hopefully it willinspire you.
(19:10):
So crack that invisible armor,start owning your voice, start
owning your desires, startowning and building the dreams.
(19:31):
You are more than worthy to dothat Just by being.
You are worthy to do, to be andhave whatever you want.
I invite you to pause and askyourself, really ask yourself am
(19:57):
I wearing an armor?
What kind of armor is it?
How am I trying to protectmyself that I'm wearing this
armor?
Again, the armor is there toprotect you from pain, but it
(20:21):
also protects you from love,from clients, from family, from
friends, from creating newrelationships, from money, from
abundance, from magic, fromeverything.
Because when we wear an armor,we're in protection, not on
(20:51):
reception, not on reception.
So is there a place in yourlife where you said I'm open,
but your heart still guarded?
Pause this, if you want.
I invite you to reflect.
I invite you to go within,because all the answers are
(21:17):
there, all of them.
And it's not that you need todrop the armor all at once.
No, healing has different, alot of layers.
It's not that you need to dropthe armor all at once.
No, healing has different, alot of layers.
It's like an onion, butprobably at least you can loosen
(21:38):
one trap today, you know, oneat a time.
I don't know what you've beenthrough.
You are the only one who knowswhat you've been through.
You are the only one who knowswhat you've been through, so you
can check with your body how toproceed.
(22:01):
What has your body opened atthis very moment to heal?
What has your body opened atthis very moment to heal?
Your armor may have many straps, I don't know.
(22:27):
My invitation for you is to takethe time to feel it, to wonder,
to ask it what are you tryingto protect me from?
And journal about it.
The answers are within and whenwe put them into paper,
(22:56):
unconscious answers are writtenin there and, oh woman, many of
those are gold.
So let your pen fly.
That's what I can say, and Ithink one of the things that we
(23:22):
gotta differentiate that onething is to create, you know,
the armor that you might bewearing now and then, by then,
just creating a wall instead ofjust setting boundaries, and
using our discernment, becausesafety itself is created inside
(23:52):
your body.
So it's about self-regulatingyour nervous system and it's
about practicing emotionalintelligence and having mindset
(24:13):
practices that it can help youheal your wounds, your trauma
that is not allowing you to feelsafe within, and I want you
(24:41):
also to remind you that we canbe soft and powerful at the same
time.
You know you can allow yourselfto receive and you can protect
yourself by speaking your truth,by being your truth.
Yeah, I'm creating this spacefor you of stillness.
(25:19):
Just pausing here, feel yourbody, feel your breath.
Can you feel the armor, orarmors, that you are wearing?
(25:53):
Can you ask it, what are youprotecting me from?
And I welcome your protectionand I do peace with you.
(26:18):
And, at the same time, I wantyou to know that I am safe.
I am safe to receive, toreceive love, compliments, help,
nourishment, support, abundance.
(26:38):
So journal about it, please doso.
And even when I felt some angerafter I realized the armor that
(27:00):
I was wearing, I just took thetime to process it.
I cried about it.
I felt the emotion in my bodyand that's the way how I
released it, because rememberthat you are wearing that armor
(27:22):
because you were hurt and nowthat you make it conscious, it's
up to you to do the inner workand heal it.
It is your choice.
It's up to you Because rememberthat this is a journey and
(27:51):
self-discovery Because rememberthat this is a journey and
(28:12):
self-discovery and doing theinner work, it's a never-ending
more aware.
And then, once you start in thisprocess and noticing how, by
working in your trauma andhealing your wounds and shifting
your mindset, and, yeah, likehow you can feel the shifts in
body, mind and soul, it'snever-ending, because it's so
(28:40):
freaking exciting.
Yeah, it's challenging.
It's freaking challenging.
It is Because it's about takingresponsibility for yourself and
in that responsibility comesthe processing of your emotions
(29:02):
and unfortunately, we were nottaught how to process our
emotions and it's the only wayyou can start removing the
straps of the armor or thearmors that you are wearing.
And this is the work that I getto do on myself and this is the
(29:32):
work that I get to guide myclients with, to go deeper into
that self-discovery, to feelbetter, to live better lives, to
create better relationships, toimprove your current
relationships, starting with theself, and by doing so, your
(30:00):
whole life shifts.
It's so beautiful.
That's why the butterflies arehere.
Thank you so much for listening.
I your time, I appreciate yourpresence and if this episode
resonated with you, please shareit.
I'm sure that you have a sister, you have a brother who might
(30:23):
be armored up and not even knowit.
I didn't know it.
So let's rise into softness,into power and truth, together
and as a collective right.
Much love to you, as usual, andif you would like to work with
(30:47):
me, in the show notes you havethe links of the different
coaching services that I offer,and I even have mini coaching
sessions and online programsthat you can take at your own
pace, so feel free to check themout.
I will be more than happy to beable to support you in this
journey.
(31:08):
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(31:30):
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Do you wear an armor and did you know that by wearing
one, you actually might beblocking love, people and even
yourself?
Midlife Butterfly a woman inthe sacred in between.
She's not who she once was andnot quite who she's becoming.
(00:22):
Yet she's unraveling, awakening, remembering.
She's navigating lifetransitions, divorce, loss,
reinvasion moves, with a burningdesire for freedom, joy and
solid living.
She feels the pull to rise, tofly.
She's no longer afraid of herown wings.
Welcome back to the MidlifeButterfly Podcast.
(00:52):
My name is Kena Siu, your host,and this is going to be a
powerful message for you.
I just realized yesterday how aversion of me was still
(01:12):
believing and needed to protectme from being used, and by doing
that, I also block my capacityto receive, and even when I'm
still feeling the vulnerabilityof my heart, by realizing this
hidden pain because that'sreally what it was in there I
(01:40):
cried over it, cracked open andthen a lot of anger came through
, and you know I mean that'spart of the healing process.
So that's what I want to sharewith you, because you might have
an armor, or several of them,either if you're creating them
(02:06):
consciously or unconsciously,and it's to protect yourself
from being hurt, and that'snormal, we don't want to feel
hurt.
And then the armor, or armorsthat we create, they are, of
course, they are emotional, theyare energetic, but they are
(02:28):
still there.
And because we are energy,everything is energy, of course
we get to block that flow ofenergy to come through us.
And the breakthrough that Iwent through it was by noticing
(02:52):
my behavior.
And then, when I startedjournaling, is when I was like
what the fuck?
I was like this is what'shappening is when I realized
that it was me feeling used andin this case was by men, and it
(03:13):
was eye-opening for me and atthe same time, it's so healing
and so liberating.
So I noticed my behavior by um.
So I met the person a couple ofmonths ago and I finally felt
inspired to, you know, send hima text.
(03:34):
I said, okay, let's go for acoffee, for tea, and so we did.
And, uh, I made it clear sincethe beginning that I just, you
know, I just wanted to have, youknow, friendship.
He is much older than me andbut you know the short
conversation that we have atthat very moment it felt good
(03:56):
and the energy felt goodnoticing my behavior with him
when he was texting me or when Iwas in his presence.
It's when I noticed how mybehavior was being there and
then I was like, oh yeah, I'mreally like putting a wall in
(04:18):
here.
It was not even a boundary, itreally felt more than that.
I really didn't realize that Iwas carrying a shield with me.
You know, when it comes to mennot with all of them, because I
(04:38):
have great female friends, sorrymale friends, but it seems like
it showed up with some people,and more when they are still
kind of unknown to me, that I,you know just the beginning of a
relationship and even though,when you know, when they show up
with clear intentions, you know, and they are respectful and
(05:01):
everything, I'm still puttingthis armor in between to protect
myself.
And so last night, when I wasreflecting about it, then that's
what I love about journaling,because once I start journaling,
(05:25):
I just have this what the fuckmoment really, then, noticing
why this armor was built.
So I started writing down, youknow, the name of a person and
then the situation that happened, and then how I felt at that
(05:48):
moment.
And then another person youknow and another person, and
that's how I realized that, bywriting down all these relevant
memories that it came to mind.
It's when I really noticed andthen when I kind of felt that
(06:13):
crack in my heart and saying,yeah, I felt used by them, even
though in some cases probablywas not the case, but it was how
we interpret things at acertain moment, right.
So then I started realizing,okay, which were my patterns at
(06:34):
the time, how was my behavior?
And there was so much sorrowand at the same time there was
(06:55):
so much anger when I felt thatcracking the armor, like saying
you don't need me anymoreBecause you are safe, because
the truth is it's not in onlyshowed up, you know, with
certain men again, kind of likea new relationships, what they
would happen is also it's mewhen I want to open up to my
(07:19):
friendships or, you know,getting new clients or new
opportunities, and because Iremember like I used to struggle
to receive compliments, I usedto struggle and still kind of
like you know the aging there ofasking for help.
(07:45):
So what are you trying toprotect yourself from that?
You are blocking yourself fromthat flow of energy of being
open, of receiving others, andnot only others but yourself.
(08:08):
And the thing is, if we are notopen to receive ourselves,
nobody else is going to do it.
I know it's a hard pill toswallow, but that's the truth.
(08:29):
How can we expect others to dosomething for us if we don't do
it for ourselves?
That's the way the laws aremade and this is not about, you
(09:00):
know, blaming men or blaming theother person or whatever it is
that might have happened to you.
It's about really witnessingthe version of you that believed
that you had to protectyourself from that danger and
(09:27):
then realizing also how thatbelief still shaped your actions
and reactions with others.
Because the armor sometimes itcan look like strength and the
reality is that it's it's a fearin disguise.
Have you experienced someone?
When they are very loud, it'susually because they are
(09:50):
freaking, afraid or something,and by raising their voice, they
are creating authority and theyare protecting well, authority,
between quotes, they areactually protecting themselves
from whatever other people cantell them and that can break
(10:14):
them, put them on the floor,right?
So how, or better to say like,what kind of armors have you
created?
One of them is the over-giverarmor, and I know a lot of women
(10:36):
and men as well.
We can relate to this onebecause the over-giver I see it
as the people pleaser to thisone, because the over giver I
see it as the people pleaser.
You know you do everything fromeveryone so they don't leave you
, so they love you, so that youget rejected, so you don't feel
(10:58):
abandonment.
You know you are always onsomething and managing and
fixing and caretaking and doingeverything for everyone and at
the same time, unfortunately,you might feel some resentment
(11:20):
or you might feel drainedbecause you can't stop giving.
But it's really that wound thatyou have that has to be healed.
Is it the wound of rejection,of abandonment, of not being
(11:41):
enough, of not feeling loved?
What is the wound under it?
That it created this armor ofovergiving?
And the thing is, when you aredoing that, at the same time you
(12:01):
are blocking yourself fromreceiving, and the law says that
giving and receiving has to bein flow.
Other way it doesn't workproperly.
You need to fill up your cupfirst to be able to give from a
(12:26):
place of love and abundance,instead of having a freaking
empty cup and giving fromresentment and scarcity.
Have you probably built thearmor of being strong and
independent?
And saying the armor of beingstrong and independent and
saying I don't need anyone?
That's a freaking lie.
(12:48):
We always need from peoplearound us.
You know, I mean, we can behyper-independent and you can
pride that you are super coolwith only on your own, but we
really need help from others.
We do, we do.
And let me tell you, after Iseparated during COVID and then
(13:16):
I changed to a new place, that Iwas receiving the last amount
of money, say I am receiving,even when it felt so freaking
(13:37):
uncomfortable and when it feltthat I didn't deserve it, I
needed to bend myself and say,yes, I do need help from other
people.
So then don't complain.
If you don't feel seen andsupported.
(14:02):
If you have created that armorof strength and independence,
then you are blocking people andyou are causing that effect of
feeling unseen and unsupported.
I've been there and I'm stillsometimes do that.
So then don't dare to say, ohno, they don't see me, they
(14:27):
don't support me.
Well, what are you doing thatyou are blocking that flow.
What are you doing that you areblocking that flow?
And I think in here also itcomes a freaking control.
Freak, isn't it?
We don't want help because wewant to create things in our own
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way and it has to be so perfectand beautiful and whatever
other idea you have in your headand, of course, no one else is
able to do it that way.
So it has to be your way, andI'm not only talking to you,
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i'm'm talking to myself.
If I'm putting it out there,it's because these words I need
to listen to these words too.
Have you ever worn the spiritualarmor?
I remember I did when I startedmy spiritual journey.
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You know, sometimes we believelike, oh no, I already healed
this and I only going to focuson the light and the positive.
Yeah, that's true, I mean, it'sgood to just focus on that.
Why I want to, you know, focuson the darkness.
But the thing is we are humans,we have a light side, we have a
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dark side and we all have theseemotions that are always
flowing through us, and the onlyway to heal is by processing
those emotions.
So if some people, or if youare in this case, you know,
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wearing this spiritual armor anddon't want to process your
emotions, most likely you arejust kind of like bypassing your
trauma, and that's not the wayto do the inner work.
Because if you are in thispodcast, listening to it, I want
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to think that you, besideslistening to content and
consuming and integrate theteachings that you receive,
because if you don't, you'renever going to move forward, you
are never going to heal, you'renever going to grow and evolve
as a human being.
What about the invisible armor?
Oh, my God, I wear this one sooften Well, now, not that often,
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but you know it's the one thatsays oh, if they don't notice me
, they can't hurt me.
They don't notice me, theycan't hurt me.
And then what happens?
You hide your guests, you avoidto be invisible because you
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don't want to be misunderstoodor judged or rejected, like in
my case.
We rather stay on the shadow.
You know, being invisible,nobody sees me, so nobody can
hurt me.
But that's not the way we arebuilt.
We are here to be loved, to beloved.
We are here for community, forexpression, for creativity and
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even when we get to, you know,create and everything for our
own sake, on well-being andsatisfaction, when we get to
share it, on well-being andsatisfaction, when we get to
share it, it feels good.
What do you think?
I'm here?
This is one of the reasons I amhere and it's so satisfying.
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And it doesn't matter really,really, what you may think.
This is just my message, thisis just my words putting out
there and hopefully it willinspire you.
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So crack that invisible armor,start owning your voice, start
owning your desires, startowning and building the dreams.
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You are more than worthy to dothat Just by being.
You are worthy to do, to be andhave whatever you want.
I invite you to pause and askyourself, really ask yourself am
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I wearing an armor?
What kind of armor is it?
How am I trying to protectmyself that I'm wearing this
armor?
Again, the armor is there toprotect you from pain, but it
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also protects you from love,from clients, from family, from
friends, from creating newrelationships, from money, from
abundance, from magic, fromeverything.
Because when we wear an armor,we're in protection, not on
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reception, not on reception.
So is there a place in yourlife where you said I'm open,
but your heart still guarded?
Pause this, if you want.
I invite you to reflect.
I invite you to go within,because all the answers are
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there, all of them.
And it's not that you need todrop the armor all at once.
No, healing has different, alot of layers.
It's not that you need to dropthe armor all at once.
No, healing has different, alot of layers.
It's like an onion, butprobably at least you can loosen
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one trap today, you know, oneat a time.
I don't know what you've beenthrough.
You are the only one who knowswhat you've been through.
You are the only one who knowswhat you've been through, so you
can check with your body how toproceed.
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What has your body opened atthis very moment to heal?
What has your body opened atthis very moment to heal?
Your armor may have many straps, I don't know.
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My invitation for you is to takethe time to feel it, to wonder,
to ask it what are you tryingto protect me from?
And journal about it.
The answers are within and whenwe put them into paper,
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unconscious answers are writtenin there and, oh woman, many of
those are gold.
So let your pen fly.
That's what I can say, and Ithink one of the things that we
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gotta differentiate that onething is to create, you know,
the armor that you might bewearing now and then, by then,
just creating a wall instead ofjust setting boundaries, and
using our discernment, becausesafety itself is created inside
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your body.
So it's about self-regulatingyour nervous system and it's
about practicing emotionalintelligence and having mindset
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practices that it can help youheal your wounds, your trauma
that is not allowing you to feelsafe within, and I want you
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also to remind you that we canbe soft and powerful at the same
time.
You know you can allow yourselfto receive and you can protect
yourself by speaking your truth,by being your truth.
Yeah, I'm creating this spacefor you of stillness.
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Just pausing here, feel yourbody, feel your breath.
Can you feel the armor, orarmors, that you are wearing?
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Can you ask it, what are youprotecting me from?
And I welcome your protectionand I do peace with you.
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And, at the same time, I wantyou to know that I am safe.
I am safe to receive, toreceive love, compliments, help,
nourishment, support, abundance.
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So journal about it, please doso.
And even when I felt some angerafter I realized the armor that
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I was wearing, I just took thetime to process it.
I cried about it.
I felt the emotion in my bodyand that's the way how I
released it, because rememberthat you are wearing that armor
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because you were hurt and nowthat you make it conscious, it's
up to you to do the inner workand heal it.
It is your choice.
It's up to you Because rememberthat this is a journey and
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self-discovery Because rememberthat this is a journey and
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self-discovery and doing theinner work, it's a never-ending
more aware.
And then, once you start in thisprocess and noticing how, by
working in your trauma andhealing your wounds and shifting
your mindset, and, yeah, likehow you can feel the shifts in
body, mind and soul, it'snever-ending, because it's so
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freaking exciting.
Yeah, it's challenging.
It's freaking challenging.
It is Because it's about takingresponsibility for yourself and
in that responsibility comesthe processing of your emotions
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and unfortunately, we were nottaught how to process our
emotions and it's the only wayyou can start removing the
straps of the armor or thearmors that you are wearing.
And this is the work that I getto do on myself and this is the
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work that I get to guide myclients with, to go deeper into
that self-discovery, to feelbetter, to live better lives, to
create better relationships, toimprove your current
relationships, starting with theself, and by doing so, your
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whole life shifts.
It's so beautiful.
That's why the butterflies arehere.
Thank you so much for listening.
I your time, I appreciate yourpresence and if this episode
resonated with you, please shareit.
I'm sure that you have a sister, you have a brother who might
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be armored up and not even knowit.
I didn't know it.
So let's rise into softness,into power and truth, together
and as a collective right.
Much love to you, as usual, andif you would like to work with
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me, in the show notes you havethe links of the different
coaching services that I offer,and I even have mini coaching
sessions and online programsthat you can take at your own
pace, so feel free to check themout.
I will be more than happy to beable to support you in this
journey.
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Have a wonderful day.
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Until next time, keep spreadingthose wings and living in joy,
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