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July 10, 2025 9 mins

Content warning: Episode addresses self-harm. 

Summary

In this episode of Real Over Ideal, Vanessa Gorelkin delves into the complex topic of self-harm, exploring its various forms beyond the commonly recognized behaviors. 

She emphasizes the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for self-harming behaviors and introduces tools to help interrupt the cycle of shame and distress. The conversation highlights the need for compassion and professional support while providing resources for those in need.

Takeaways

Self-harm encompasses more than just physical acts.
It can manifest in subtle ways, even in those who seem fine.
Understanding the purpose behind self-harm is crucial for healing.
Self-harm often serves as a coping mechanism for emotional pain.
Common forms of self-harm include emotional sabotage and overworking.
Tools like using a red Sharpie can help manage impulses.
Recognizing patterns in self-harming behaviors is the first step to change.
Compassion towards oneself is essential in the healing process.
Professional help is recommended for those struggling with self-harm.
Resources are available for immediate support and guidance.

Vanessa Gorelkin, MA, OTR/L is a licensed Occupational Therapist with 30 years of experience. She is in private telehealth practice-- providing therapy and coaching services nationally and internationally.

To get in touch -- email us at realoveridealpod@gmail.com


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