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August 7, 2025 12 mins

Not every therapist is the right fit, and that's OK.

In this episode of Real Over Ideal, Vanessa Gorelkin explains how to tell if your therapist is not serving your needs anymore.

Vanessa discusses the the most common red flags in therapy, how to trust your instincts and what to do if you end the relationship. The power dynamics at play in therapeutic relationships is discussed. 

This episode describes how therapy is a service meant to benefit the client, and clients have the right to terminate therapy without guilt or obligation, while providing practical tips to handle the termination process.

Vanessa encourages listeners to prioritize their own needs and well-being in their therapeutic journey, while also engaging with your own support systems and trusted people in your life who might be able to help you determine the best way for you to proceed.

Takeaways

Therapy is not magic; it requires active participation.
You have the right to fire your therapist if needed.
Therapists can also need to be fired by clients.
Therapy should be client-centered, focusing on your needs.
You don't owe your therapist closure or explanations.
It's okay to stop therapy if it's not helping you.
Therapy costs money; don't waste it on unwanted sessions.
You can terminate therapy without guilt or shame.
Your mental health is your responsibility.
You can communicate your decision to leave clearly and kindly.


Vanessa Gorelkin, MA, OTR/L is a licensed Occupational Therapist with 30 years of experience. She is in private telehealth practice-- providing therapy and coaching services nationally and internationally.

To get in touch -- email us at realoveridealpod@gmail.com


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