In this powerful episode of Resilience Redefined, host Michael Ostrolenk sits down with longtime partners Tripp and Alyson Lanier for a raw and insightful look at what it really takes to grow a relationship over two decades. With backgrounds in coaching, psychotherapy, and the Integral framework, Tripp and Alyson open up about the evolving nature of intimacy, the daily rituals that keep them connected, and the emotional safety required to deepen love over time.
From redefining roles and navigating conflict, to non-sexual touch and eye contact practices, this conversation is packed with hard-earned wisdom and practical tools for couples who want more than just longevity—they want depth, passion, and real connection.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
✅ How to keep emotional and physical intimacy alive over decades
✅ Why safety and trust matter more than just “communication”
✅ The role of daily touch, eye contact, and non-sexual intimacy
✅ How attachment styles shape how we love and connect
✅ What it looks like to grow individually and together in a long-term relationship
Whether you’re in a new relationship or decades into one, this episode will challenge, inspire, and equip you to show up with more presence, honesty, and resilience.
If you want to learn more about Tripp or Alyson, check out their websites here:
Tripp Lanier - https://www.tripplanier.com/
Alyson Lanier - https://www.alysonlanier.com/
Connect with me:
Website: https://www.michaeldostrolenk.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mostrolenk
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelostrolenkresiliencemastery
Timestamps:
00:31 Meet the Guests: Tripp and Alyson
01:01 Alyson's Professional Journey
04:20 Tripp's Coaching Career
06:00 Navigating Roles in Relationships
16:13 Attachment Styles and Personal Growth
21:59 Integral Model in Marriage
27:30 Physical and Emotional Connection
27:49 Maintaining Physical and Emotional Connection
28:14 The Importance of Physical Touch
29:03 Non-Sexual Intimacy Practices
31:54 Communication and Emotional Contact
32:35 Eye Contact and Daily Connection
34:42 Evolving Sexual Relationships
37:44 Men's Growth and Relationship Dynamics
46:59 Creating Safety and Intimacy
52:08 Final Thoughts and Resources
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