December 11, 2024 • 45 mins
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In this podcast [episode 19] Emily and I will be deep diving into navigating duality and healing limited beliefs! You create and manifest your life according to your belief system. The problem is that most of your beliefs are unconscious, this is especially true with the limiting beliefs. When those unconscious beliefs are dualistic in nature it will create blocks to manifesting the life you desire.
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Matty (00:00):
Hello amazing souls and welcome to today's show.
We are excited to behere with you once again.
Emily (00:07):
Hello, we are very excited about today's topic.
It is definitely somethingthat affects everyone at
the core of our being.
So this is a really interestingtopic to dive on into.
Matty (00:21):
We are going to jump off into the deep end and get
into navigating life in dualityand having dualistic beliefs.
This is a bit of a, not anextension, but last week's
show, we talked aboutrelationship beliefs that
could be ruining your life.
We got into dualisticbeliefs there and how they
show up in relationships.
(00:42):
And it got Emily and I thinkingjust how much we really wanted
to dive into just how awesomeduality is and how richly
textured it can be and howlife can be tough and it can
be easy and it can be painfuland it can be beautiful too
while we're here in duality.
But that we choose it.
Our souls know what they'regetting into before we come.
(01:06):
And no matter what yourperception or thoughts are about
living here and experiencingthis duality and what side of
the coin you find yourself on,or if you don't find yourself
on a side because you understandthe importance of the gray
area, of the in between already.
Just know that we chose tocome here and have these
experiences within duality.
(01:28):
That duality is here forus to find our beingness
within it all, thatunique vibe that we are.
Emily (01:37):
Yes.
And part of the reason for thisduality that we experience is
because we are looking to createthis wholeness within ourselves.
So for example, if you'relacking a certain trait or
characteristic, then youprobably want to learn that
trait or characteristic,especially if it's
(01:57):
holding you back in life.
So on a simpler level, forexample, maybe you, well, this
is a really personal one to me.
Maybe you need more selfdiscipline in your life because
you're not getting the thingsdone that you want to get done.
And so therefore selfdiscipline is something
that's holding you back.
And so you may come hereto choose to work on that
(02:21):
in order to create thiswholeness within yourself.
That's part of thereason for this duality.
And it's also toexplore themes from all
different angles as well.
If you're wanting to think aboutsuccess, you're probably going
to explore it from being supersuccessful and understanding
(02:43):
that view point of it.
And then you're going to viewit from being not so successful.
And, of course, successfulis subjective, so that's
gonna be different foreveryone, whatever that scale
is and whatever that means.
I mean, you could be the mostsuccessful person financially,
but you're not successfulin your relationship.
So therefore in your mind,you could not be successful
(03:04):
at all or vice versa.
It is a subjective wayof looking at whatever
success is or whateverself discipline is to you.
I mean, for example, I havereally high self discipline
when it comes to exercise andeating healthy, but then I
really like to take that extrahour or two in the bed because
(03:27):
it's just so warm and snuggly.
So it's just, it, it's reallyabout looking at it at all
sides and what works for you.
Matty (03:38):
Emily brought up in an effort to have more wholeness.
more well roundednesswithin you as a soul.
We all have our own strengthsand gifts and archetypes
and things that we excelat naturally, innately,
but sometimes there isthings that we lack.
And this is whatEmily's talking about.
(03:58):
So we come here andwork on these themes.
So we're attractingthese themes in our life.
The environments thatwe choose help us to
live out these themes.
And duality lets us livethem out in an infinitesimal
way of exploring the upsand downs and all of the
in betweens within it.
(04:19):
That's why duality isso richly textured.
And it can be this amazing toolif you're willing to look at
life and duality as a tool forour growth and for our learning.
Emily (04:31):
Yeah, and it's really this experiential knowledge
is how we learn and grow.
It is through experiencingsomething and taking
on that knowledge thatit turns into wisdom.
Because you don't, youdon't become wise by not
experiencing anything.
You only become wise byhaving those experiences.
(04:52):
And I mean, I'm sureyou can relate to this.
If you're wanting to learnsomething from someone,
you're not going to go tosomeone that has never had
that experience or has no ideawhat you're talking about.
You want to go to someone whohas lived it, been through
it, suffered through it, ormaybe not suffer through it,
but at least came throughit on the other side.
And they have that wisdom.
(05:13):
And I mean, a lot of timesit does come with some
hard lessons as well.
I mean, you can't really becomewise without the hard lessons.
Matty (05:21):
That's typically part of being here in Earth, in Earth's
duality, is in order to have theexperiential knowledge gained
and to truly know something,you've lived the ups and downs.
And sometimes these themes,these life lessons that we
work on, it can take anywherefrom 5 to 15 lifetimes.
(05:42):
Think about that.
Think about how much you'veexperienced already in your
life, just this life, and thenthink about multiplying by the 5
or 15 times worth of experience.
To fully embrace theexperiential knowledge
needed to own that theme,that self discipline
within, that success within.
(06:07):
And in our work in the AkashicRecords when we do our Soul
Journey readings, I mean,we check on 91 different
themes at this point.
Emily (06:15):
Yeah, and growing.
Matty (06:16):
Yeah, and that's just the ones that we know of.
At any point we could discovermore, or our mentor could,
and we could be sharing thingsback and forth with them,
whoever makes the discovery.
And we start to share itwith clients and get their
resonation and feedback, yes,this is resonating with me.
And then we know that we'reon to something new as well.
So it, that's one of thecool things with, with that
(06:37):
part of our work is you kindof already have a base of
knowledge, but you could atany point make a new discovery.
Because each soul isnew and to us and unique
in their own right.
So it's, it's not like justreading a blueprint and like,
Oh yeah, you're going to fitinto these boxes right here
that we already know about.
Every soul is like,whatever, check this out.
(06:58):
Look how I did this.
My box is over here.
Yeah, I got a foot in thisone and a foot in this
one and a hand in this.
Yeah, see I'm playingtwister with all these
boxes around here.
Emily (07:08):
That's a funny way to think about it.
Matty (07:10):
I've got a big smile on my face right now.
So experiential knowledge iseverything here in duality.
It's a lot of it'sabout your perception.
Are you are you willing tolook at your experiences
as as a tool for growth oris it just the shit that's
happening to you and the thingsthat you're doing in return?
It can be pretty trickythough to find your balance
(07:32):
and to coexist within dualitybecause it is so up or down.
Emily (07:38):
Yeah, it definitely gets a bad rap because,
because of the polaritiesand the dualistic thinking.
Matty (07:46):
Dualism is generally the belief in two fundamental
concepts that are opposingforces, that are governing
a situation, or governingpeople, or the world, or,
you know, what have you, andit, it doesn't really allow
for any gray area in between.
The progression of humanconsciousness is evolving,
but we've been in dualism fora long time because of the
(08:09):
dualistic world that we live in.
And oftentimes we justwant to figure things out
and we want to understand.
That's kind of a naturalthing for humans.
Now whether, we want to godeep and really, like, get
into our own inner world andgo deep into other people and
really truly understand orour mind just wants to figure
it out and kind of move on.
(08:31):
There is an innateness ofwanting to figure things out,
kind of within all of us.
But the problem with dualismis it's, it can be a rigid,
like, view of the worldand it can force things
into boxes or a particularpolarity, if you will.
Once the brain kind of getssomething labeled, well that's
it, I figured that out, I canmove on to something else.
(08:54):
And if anything similar comesup, I already know, that
just goes right in therewith that viewpoint that
I've already picked out.
Emily (09:00):
Well, I mean, our brain is literally wired
to do that exact thing.
It is kind of wired to putthings in boxes so that it
can save energy, but if you'reconstantly just putting things
in boxes and not thinking aboutwhy or how or any of those
things about why it's labeledthat certain way, then anytime
anything remotely similarcomes up in your, in your
(09:22):
life, then you're just going tocontinue to label it as such.
Especially if you don't questionthese labels that you're giving
things in the first place.
And so, like Matty said, thatcan really create a lot of
rigid, rigid thinking and avery rigid world view if you're
just like, Oh yeah, it's that,meh, but you're not allowing for
(09:44):
the vastness of uniqueness thatexists here on the earth plane
and especially within people.
And there is, I mean,there's so much, so much
variation in the uniqueness.
It's pretty muchjust incredible.
Matty (10:02):
Yeah, dualism is either this or that.
That's the rigid view of it.
And there's not a lot ofallowing for gray area.
And it's one thing to kindof work your way through
this and be like, Oh, thisis that, and that's this.
Okay, I understand.
But if you never go backto see if that first
assumption you made is,really truly correct for you?
(10:25):
Or really truly how it is?
Or go back and say, HeyI thought this was this,
but there's gray areas, sowhat's really happening here?
If you never like want tofurther understand, then
you're going to be stuckin this very This is this,
that is that, only that way,move forward, everything's
separate, we are not together.
(10:46):
And we're gonna give someexamples and you'll be
like, oh yeah, I've heardthat, I've heard this.
In the end, dualism anddualism thinking, it
creates a lot of separation.
And there's not much roomfor us to share in this world
together because there's toomany labels being thrown around.
(11:06):
And it's tough to grow togetherif we're thinking this way.
This is the, theconsciousness that we're
kind of evolving out of.
And we're starting to see moreunity, more connectedness, more,
we're here to grow together.
Seeing ourselves in a symbioticrelationship with our planet.
Emily (11:28):
Sure.
Hope we are.
Matty (11:29):
I know that there are more and more people
thinking this way.
And I sure hope that moreand more and more of us do.
Emily (11:35):
Well, what I feel like is really happening is
that there's more allowancefor individuality and the
uniqueness on the planet.
Matty (11:44):
Absolutely.
Emily (11:44):
I feel like that's like a big shift that's
happening right now.
There's a lot of people thatare like, wait a minute.
I don't want to fitinto that box anymore.
I don't want to make thisother person's dream come true.
I have the ability to makemy own dream come true.
And so that is steppingmore into your uniqueness
(12:08):
and your individuality.
And I think there's a lotmore allowance for that.
I think that's part of whatthe internet has done is
it's allowed a platformfor this individuality and
this uniqueness to reallycome through and shine.
And I think it'sreally exciting.
I know, you know, a lot of Olderways of thinking is like, what,
no, you're supposed to workat that factory until you die.
(12:31):
And that's, that's the lifeyou're supposed to live.
Matty (12:34):
It's the way we've always done it.
Emily (12:36):
Exactly.
That's the way we'vealways done it.
So therefore we shouldkeep doing it that way.
Well, I got news for you.
The way we've always doneit isn't working, so we
have to find these newways of doing things.
But I digress because that'ssomething I feel very passionate
about is that I really wouldlove to see everyone in the
world stepping up, doing theirpassions, like really stepping
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into their personal power.
Like how much happier andjust what a much better
world it would be to livein if everyone was like
following their passionsand being uniquely them.
Matty (13:11):
And on that note, we are so complex.
Each one of us are supercomplex and dualism is,
it's of the simplistic mind.
It's where we were.
It's where massconsciousness was.
But now we can take ourindividual complexity,
and like Emily said,we have the internet.
(13:31):
It's not that you're anindividual standing more out
in your community or yourvillage, and you might affect
a couple people around there.
Now we have the opportunityto see all of this uniqueness
all around the world and beaffected by it, to share in
it, to realize more and moreand more that I'm not the only
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one that thinks differently.
I'm not the only one thattried to try to fit in that
box and it didn't work for meand I need another solution.
And whoa, there's a solutionin a neighboring state or
a neighboring country orhalfway around the world.
Look at how they'redoing things.
That looks awesome.
That feels good.
I want to try that now.
That's some of the richlytextured beauty of this
(14:16):
dualistic world we livein and how much is going
on and how much uniquenessis within the gray area
that we can experience.
Emily (14:24):
Okay, so let's give some common examples of do like
dualistic beliefs and just dualdualistic thinking in general.
Matty (14:35):
Let's start with the the dualism like the thinking
in general then kind of wherewe've come from where we
are and then let's get we'lljump into the progression
of the beliefs and stuff.
Emily (14:45):
Okay.
So good versus evil.
Matty (14:48):
Right and wrong.
Emily (14:50):
Positive and negative.
Matty (14:53):
Healthy or toxic.
Emily (14:55):
Success is the only thing that matters and
everything else is failure.
Matty (15:01):
If you ain't first, you're last.
Men are strong.
Women are emotional.
Emily (15:07):
Spirituality is completely different
from the material world.
Matty (15:12):
You're either with me or you're against me.
Emily (15:15):
Your passions and a job are different.
You can't have both together.
Matty (15:20):
Now in those examples, did you feel any room
to fit in between there?
There's not much whenit comes to dualism.
You're either thisor you're that.
There's not much roomfor anything else.
And there's, I mean,somebody might think that
thinking is right for them.
I'm good, so thereforethat's evil, or something.
(15:41):
But it doesn't leave muchroom for anything else.
And in duality, bothare usually true.
Both sexes are strong.
Both sexes are emotional.
It's part of life here.
One sex doesn't get to ownone thing or the other.
Uh uh.
Emily (15:57):
Yeah.
Matty (15:58):
We as humans are evolving past this.
There are plenty enough ofus that are awakening to see
through the limitingness thatcomes with strict dualism
thinking, and where we've comefrom as a mass consciousness.
There is so much learningin the gray area in between
this rigid dualism thinking.
(16:19):
Let's jump into some examplesthat we can learn through
experiencing duality and notbeing stuck in this rigid
box of either this or that.
Emily (16:29):
Well, I just want to say one thing like the
beauty of this gray area.
I mean, it doesn't soundbeautiful because it's gray,
but the beauty of the gray areais realizing that one person
can be healthy and toxic.
One person has positiveand negative attributes,
but it doesn't makethem one or the other.
(16:51):
We are all, all of it.
And so that is the beauty ofthis gray area, is realizing
that we can be all the things,but we don't necessarily
have to be just one thing.
And that is the box that weare not wanting to fit in
anymore, I think as a wholeis the collective conscious.
Matty (17:12):
We are moving from either or to this and.
Emily (17:18):
Both and.
Matty (17:18):
Both and.
Thank you.
That's the more proper way.
I totally agree.
Thank you for bringing that up.
Emily (17:24):
So I just wanted to say that, like the gray area
is also about realizing thatdivinity isn't just good.
I mean, divinity includesall the things as well.
Matty (17:37):
Everything's divinity, if we want to
jump down that rabbit hole.
Emily (17:40):
Yeah.
Matty (17:41):
Divinity makes room.
Unconditional love makesroom for everything.
Good and evil, becausewe both are it.
It's a part of creation.
Positive and negative,love and hate.
All of this stuff thatwe're experiencing in
here, it's all divine.
It's all part of creation.
(18:02):
It's all part of God, Goddess,the universe, in my opinion.
Emily (18:06):
Yes, and by focusing on one side or the other, then
you're allowing for that sideto be more dominant in your life
Matty (18:16):
Well, either way, you're denying part of creation, part
of divinity by just acceptingone side of it You're you're
turning around at the sametime and being like this
is acceptable to acceptableto me god But that's not.
And that's fine if you don'tlike that aspect of it, but it's
still part of divine creation
Emily (18:37):
Yeah, and that's a huge denial too.
I mean, it's kind of like,Oh, la, la, la, la, la,
la, that doesn't exist.
But I also think that justbecause something isn't
something that you really want,you don't have to like fully
immerse yourself in it either.
And so you can in this lifechoose what you want to
(19:02):
focus on more and what youcan allow into your life.
I mean, I think that'spart of free will as well.
You can say, I don't want to bearound haters and you can choose
to, you can make that choice.
But the more, if you areconstantly focused on
that, then guess what?
You're going to besurrounded by, by haters.
(19:24):
I don't know.
That was a weird example, but.
Matty (19:28):
Well, you, but I feel like it is an example.
You amplify.
And even denying somethingis a focus on that so you
amplify that which you aretrying to deny or don't
like or don't accept.
So if you just accept that allof duality is part of divine
creation, you can then focuson what feels best to you.
(19:52):
You can focus on your desiresand how you fit in that if
you're willing to accept thatit's all here for our growth.
It's all part ofthe divine plan.
I don't enjoy every aspectof duality, but I do accept
that it's all here for mygrowth, for that potential
of experiential knowledge.
I "thinks" the slightdifference in there.
Emily (20:13):
Yeah.
And I think that's a goodsegue to the examples of why
we even have duality in thefirst place and what you can
actually learn from duality.
So, one is you can appreciatethe warmth of the sun
because you know the chilland the night is coming.
Matty (20:34):
You can appreciate the, when spring breaks
because you've experienceda bleak long winter.
Emily (20:41):
You can appreciate love more because
you've experienced hate.
Matty (20:47):
I like this one a lot.
Appreciating the kindness ofa stranger after experiencing
the betrayal of a friend.
Emily (20:55):
Yeah.
Just think how much harderthat would hit after
experiencing betrayal.
Like someone could be kindto you without that and
you're just like, Oh, thanks.
You know, and, and you couldbe grateful for it, but
after that it could be somuch more meaningful to you.
Almost like the universeis like trying to
Matty (21:16):
Send a message through a stranger.
Yeah through a randomact of kindness.
Emily (21:20):
Yeah.
Yeah, totally.
If you've had like a seriesof relationships where you
had zero communication, thenbeing in a relationship where
you can communicate openlyand feel very heard and
understood with a partner,you can appreciate that more.
Matty (21:42):
Appreciating having trust in your partnership because
you know what it's like to havebeen cheated on or betrayed or
lied to inside a partnership.
Whatever that relationshipis, love, friendship, family.
But when you have that trust,you can appreciate it more
(22:02):
if you've experienced theother side of not having it.
Emily (22:05):
You can.
Matty (22:07):
Appreciating peace, because there's
also war in this world.
These are some of the harshdifferences in the reality
of duality, but that ageold saying, how can you
appreciate something if youdon't know its opposite,
holds very true in this.
Really appreciating thepeaceful times, because you
know that somewhere in theworld there might be war.
Emily (22:30):
And this is kind of on the same note, but appreciating
the mundaneness of life becauseyou've had an extended period
of chaos where just, it seemslike one thing after another
keeps happening and you're justexhausted and fried from it.
And you're like, Oh mygosh, finally I've had all
this time in this spacewhere nothing's happening.
(22:54):
I mean, I can just.
Do my thing and there's nota lot of chaos happening.
Matty (23:04):
Yeah, that was one, uh, took me a while to learn to
just be content and peacefulwithin the mundaneness
of life as I came out ofchaos and chaotic events.
I mean, my, my early childhoodand up through my twenties
were pretty chaotic, you know,and I mean, I know a lot of
(23:25):
us create some chaos runningthrough, especially our teens
and twenties, but definitelysettling more into my thirties
and realizing, Oh, I kindof like having a groove.
I kind of like mundane's notsuch a bad word to me anymore.
There is peacefulness within it.
That's beautiful.
Thanks.
So learning to find yourunique balance and coexisting
(23:49):
with induality is, is tricky.
It just can be.
Emily (23:53):
And it's going to be different for
everyone, that balance.
Matty (23:57):
Yeah.
Somebody might be able to tellyou about theirs and it helps
you with yours, but we are allunique and our balance point
is usually unique, even if itis similar to someone else's.
But it's, it's unique.
It's you.
We really, truly are all uniqueindividuals on the inside.
(24:17):
Everything that we've gonethrough, all the experiences
that we've had over ourmultitudinous of lifetimes
here on Earth and elsewhere.
So incorporating yourexperiential knowledge of
living in duality of, soincorporating these things
into your reality is to becomemore aware of who you are.
And remember, we said thatyour soul knew what it was
(24:41):
getting into when it came here.
You also took on spiritualamnesia, so you forgot that
you knew the plan, but therewas a plan of experience
of growth to happen.
Emily (24:51):
I think there's a loose plan, but then
you also have free will.
Matty (24:54):
Exactly.
It is a loose planbecause of free will.
Emily (24:56):
So that can just like, you know, throw
everything off the cuff.
Matty (25:02):
But I guess what I was getting at is in being
in duality, like being you,the beingness of being you
is the aim of why your soulchose to come have life here.
Emily (25:16):
That is expressing your true divinity.
Matty (25:18):
Yes.
Thank you.
That's a prettier way to saywhat I was trying to get across.
So coming here andexpressing your uniqueness
of divinity is the aim.
It's the hope andit's tricky to do.
Emily (25:32):
It is.
It's so tricky with all theconditioning and all the advice
and all of the this and thethat and the this way and that
way and fit into this box.
It's like this, and like that,and like this, and like that,
and like this, and like that.
Matty (25:49):
I was totally thinking it too.
So you take all this duality,and you're trying to find
your unique expressionof divinity with this
balance point within it.
And we kind of gave you someexamples of dualism thinking,
then some things you could kindof learn while here in duality.
(26:11):
You know, some themesyou could pick up.
But once you incorporate this.
Emily (26:15):
Integrate it into your being.
Matty (26:18):
I guess what that could look like is being able
to experience the spiritualhere in the material world.
No longer viewing themas separate entities, but
seeing the divinity of
Emily (26:33):
everything, of
Matty (26:34):
everything, of being in duality.
Of how much can be learnedand grown from and gleaned
and enjoyed and knowingenjoyment because you've
also known sadness.
I mean, it's allwrapped up together.
And I think that one of the bigthings is that we can finally.
(26:54):
see how we experience divinitywithin this physical material
world when for so long they'vebeen viewed as separate things.
Emily (27:02):
Well, and I think it's easier when you're
watching this epic sunsetor looking at a rainbow.
It's easy to see the divinityin that, but can you look
in the mirror and see thedivinity within yourself?
Can you feel the divinityin your unique traits and
your characteristics whenyou're doing your thing
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and like really in it?
Expressing yourgifts to the world.
Matty (27:29):
Can you see the divinity in your challenges?
Or those that arechallenging you?
Emily (27:36):
That's a good one.
So let's talk about dualisticbeliefs versus limited beliefs.
In this episode so far, we'vetalked a lot about dualism.
And we've talked about thedifferences in this rigid
way of thinking and howdualism can affect your life.
But now let's look atdualistic beliefs and
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what they are and how theyaffect your life as well.
And then we're going totalk about limited beliefs
as well and how they differfrom dualistic beliefs.
So dualistic beliefs can be orare limiting in nature, but they
oppose a desire that you have.
And they put the powerin the hands of something
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outside of yourself.
And we will be giving someexamples of each of these.
Matty (28:24):
Whereas limiting beliefs are the limitations
you put on yourself thataren't true or are an illusion.
Emily (28:34):
And another way of thinking about this
is dualistic beliefs arelimited beliefs living by
proxy of something else.
Matty (28:44):
I like that.
Emily (28:46):
So here are some examples of some dualistic beliefs.
And some of theseare very common.
And some of these we seevery often in our work and
with working with clientsand just in our family
and friends in general.
So one could be, Iwant a really deep love
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connection with someone.
And then the other sideof that is you also hold
a belief that people endup always abandoning me.
And so these two ways ofthinking work against each other
because you're saying you wantthis love connection, but then
you have this deeply held beliefthat if people always end up
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abandoning you then why wouldyou want to get in this love
connection in the first place?
So it works in oppositionto what you actually want.
Matty (29:37):
Yeah, that's key.
It's working in oppositionto what you want.
Something like having dreamsof being married and having
a family and also feeling orbelieving I can't imagine being
with one person my whole life.
Emily (29:52):
Or I want to create my own business doing
what I'm passionate about.
I can't because I workedmy way up to high earnings
in my current job and youdon't get a second chance at
making this kind of money.
Matty (30:05):
Or how about, the only way to get to the top is by
bringing down other people.
I want to get to the top,but don't have what it takes.
Emily (30:14):
Or I have a desire to travel and see the world.
But that's onlyfor wealthy people.
Matty (30:21):
Or something like, I want to make more money, but
you can only make money ifyou're a doctor or a lawyer, own
your own business or whateverother prestigious profession
you can think of in this momentright now that you don't have.
Emily (30:37):
Or money is the root of all evil.
I want more money, butI don't want to be evil.
Matty (30:43):
That's commonplace.
Yeah.
Or the belief that money is afinite resource and there isn't
enough money to go around.
So you don't get to takepart in this finite resource.
Emily (30:57):
And so as you can see in all of these examples, there
are two sides of the coin.
There are thoughts thatare in opposition to each
other that are preventingunity in the thought.
Matty (31:11):
And so, excuse me, please go.
Emily (31:15):
And then we were going to move on to just some examples
of limiting beliefs, and alot of these are very common.
Um, I'm too old to go backto college or change careers.
Matty (31:27):
I'm not worthy of being happy, loved, successful.
Emily (31:31):
Or I don't get to be happy.
That's for other people.
Matty (31:36):
As long as people need me because of what I do
for them, they won't abandonme and I won't be alone.
Emily (31:43):
Or I'm only loved for what I can do, not for who I am.
Matty (31:47):
And as you can see, this is simply limiting yourself,
not through someone else.
You're just limitingyourself in these examples.
Emily (31:57):
And both limiting beliefs and dualistic beliefs can keep
you stuck in your personal life.
And that's why we reallywanted to do a whole episode
on these, because if you arerecognizing yourself in any
of these, then there are waysto heal these beliefs, these
dualistic and these limitingbeliefs so that you can
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create the life that you want.
You can create your desires.
You can have this passionatejob where you make all
the money that you want.
These things are possiblefor you, but sometimes there
are these dualistic beliefsand limited beliefs that
oppose or serve as blocks towhat you want and that what
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you're trying to manifest.
And it is about healing theseblocks in order to create
the life of your dreams.
Matty (32:52):
Healing is just becoming aware, like, Oh,
I have this belief that'sopposing what I want.
And then looking for theroot cause of that belief
and finding it, and thenunderstanding and making
awareness that this isn't true.
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You brought this belief fromsomewhere else and made it true.
You've been holdingthis illusion in place.
Discovering these dualisticbeliefs within you does require
some inner world travel.
A willingness to ask yourselfquestions that challenge your
thinking and belief system.
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And not having what youwant in life is a clue to
having a dualistic beliefopposing your desires.
So if you're not aware ofyour belief system that's in
place, but you are aware ofwhat you want, but you don't
have it, then you can startto look at your actions?
(33:55):
Are you taking the right ones?
Is there a belief in placethat's holding this off?
Is there a block here?
Emily (34:00):
And a lot of times these, well, sometimes these
can be conscious beliefs.
Oftentimes they are eitherunconscious beliefs or just
things that you just took onunquestioningly from a parent
or a caregiver growing up.
And this is especiallytrue when it comes to your
beliefs about relationships,your beliefs about money,
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your beliefs about the waythe world is in religion.
Matty (34:26):
Oh yeah.
Emily (34:27):
So we are just challenging you to think
about these beliefs.
Think about these thingsthat are running programs
in your life, or runningon repeat in your mind.
And so that's all we'resimply saying is just become
aware of these things.
Because like Matty said,if there are things in your
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life that are not coming intofruition, things that you
desire, things that you wantto manifest, then that is a
humongous clue that, that youdo have some dualistic beliefs.
Or limiting beliefs thatare running programs
unconsciously within your brain.
Matty (35:08):
When you're thinking about this and understanding
that you chose to come hereand experience duality, you
chose the family that youwere born into, so what is
it you're here to learn?
If you're looking for, you know,more wholeness around a theme
in life, well, what are thethemes that were passed down
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can start to give you clues towhat you're here working on.
What the beliefs couldbe because you're setting
yourself up for these thingsto be instilled in you so
then you can become awarelater and work through it.
It's a good idea tothink back to, were their
sayings in your family?
What were their belief systems?
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What was passed down?
That can be a hugeone for our life here.
These limiting beliefs anddualistic beliefs can come
oftentimes from intensepast life experiences where
the emotional connection isstill there because it was
never healed or resolved.
Emily (36:11):
Yeah, and if this sounds like something that
could be prevalent in yourlife, then you could book a
past life regression session.
And these are extremely healingsessions where we can help
guide you to this root causeand guide you to these answers.
And if that resonateswith you, then
Matty (36:34):
I'll have a link in the description for you to follow.
We're accepting bookingsthrough the month of December.
And just to, I'll put thisout there, like my most
recent client came seekingthe root cause for their
lack of connection with theirspirit guides, with others,
and having a life partner.
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The past life we revisited.
It revealed that earlyon their father died at
an early age for them.
And then as they grewolder, we got to experience
this intense, deep, lovingrelationship that they had,
but unfortunately it wastragically taken from them out
of their control way too earlybecause of an accident at work.
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And they took on the beliefthat love always abandons them.
And they carried this beliefover into this lifetime.
So they came wanting answersaround this theme in their life.
And then we got to visit apast life that showed them
the root cause for this.
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And then at the end we went andmet with their spirit guide.
And of course, I'mgoing to bring it up.
What was the connectionwe were looking for here?
Why did we see this life?
And the spirit guide'sanswer was, to show the
root cause for this.
And that this moment was nevermeant to be taken and held onto
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and made as the truth for them.
It's just, when we're hereexperiencing duality, it, it
was just a moment that hurtdeeply and that's how they
were able to deal with it.
They found ways to haveenjoyment and love through
other areas in their life, butnot in a loving partnership way
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but now they're aware of thisand they get to heal this root
cause through their awareness,through understanding that
this is not the truth for them.
This is just a beliefthat they brought over.
Emily (38:36):
Yeah.
And it's through that healingand that integration of that
new awareness is what helpsreally transform your life.
Because any time you start tomaybe go back into that faulty
way of thinking, you think, ohwait, I know the root of this.
I know where this camefrom, and that is not true.
Exactly.
And the more you start to tellyourself that that's not true,
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that is not true in your lifenow, that is no longer true,
then you can help really shiftand transform your entire life.
And to have more emotionalconnection in the here and now
with this specific example.
Matty (39:14):
Wonderfully put.
You can see the lie taking placeinside your own self, right?
Emily (39:19):
Yeah.
And then you becomethe observer of it.
Matty (39:22):
Exactly.
Emily (39:24):
And by becoming the observer of it, it like
kind of takes the poweraway from it because you're
no longer like in it.
And it's not playing outthrough you any longer.
You're like, wait a minute.
I see what's happening now.
Matty (39:37):
You become empowered.
Yeah, definitely.
We brought up something inour last episode talking about
relationship beliefs and howsome people are just assholes.
Things just happen and peopledo things and that their
actions say way more aboutthem and very little about you.
And that is so true.
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We talked about how we can takeother people's actions and make
them mean something about us.
But they really don'tsay much about us.
It's really about them.
But the little that they dosay about us is more about our
willingness to explore our innerworld to get to the root cause.
And I feel like when we'redoing this, when we're looking
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for, what's the nugget in thatexperience that we've had?
Even when somebody is lashingout or acting out against us.
This is why for me personally,being able to access
the Akashic records andhaving an energy clearing
practice comes in so handy.
Because there are times inlife that beliefs come from
the things we see or theway other people do stuff.
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And so it's this unintendedinfluencing energy of others.
So being able to clear yourenergy away and get more
to the core of where you'reat in any moment is huge.
It's why the first coursethat we made: "Embarking on
a sacred voyage, navigatingspiritual protection with a
divine co pilot" was created.
(41:03):
Was to teach the basicfoundations for what Emily
and I use every time we accessthe Akashic records or anytime
that we clear our energy.
Calling in a divine co pilotand using that unlimited
energy of our ascendedmasters, Archangels, higher
beings like that to help us.
And then being able to accessthe Akashic records allows
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us to go in and we're hereas humans and we have this
perception filter, if you will.
We view our life throughour perceptions and
through our beliefs.
I'm super lucky tohave Emily in my life.
We go deep together and she'skind of my accountability buddy.
She can call me on my shit.
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She helps me seethings more clearly.
But when we're working alone,we have our belief system, our
perceptions in the way whenwe're doing this inner world
travel, when we're tryingto get to these root causes.
But accessing the recordsis accessing the truth
of a situation or anevent that's taken place.
(42:07):
And we can kind of put downthis lens or this filter of
perceptions and beliefs andget to the truth of root
causes I think much easierwith our guides in the records.
Emily (42:19):
Absolutely.
So it's really powerful workingin the Akashic Records and
working with your spirit guides.
These are the guides thathave known you your entire
existence, and so they havea very strong idea of what
it is that you are wantingto achieve on a soul level.
Matty (42:37):
Your own intuition and gut instinct would
probably be helping youout with this one too.
But the Akashic Records containthe truth of what happened,
as well as the perspectivesof the parties involved.
Whereas we can only comefrom our perspective or our
conditioning as a human being.
And that can be really trickywhen we're working with our
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own intuition and developingthat and trusting in that
is that we're also workingthrough our own filters.
So accessing the Akashicrecords can really help, in
my opinion, boost big timethe trust factor and get
right to the truth of things.
If you have any interestin taking charge of your
energetic well being, I'llmake sure there's a link
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to our Introduction toSpiritual Protection course
in the description as well.
And if you enjoyed thisshow, make sure to pass
it along to a friend.
We sure love sharing ourknowledge and our experiences
and deep diving into subjectsthat matter to us and that
matter to everyone we think.
I thought this was a funexploration of navigating
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duality and dualisticbeliefs and examples of
what they could look like.
Emily (43:48):
Thanks everyone so much for joining us.
We really enjoyed talkingabout this topic and if
this is something thatresonates with you, just
know that you are not alone.
That we all have dualisticthinking and limited
beliefs and it's aboutbecoming aware of them.
And do this inner work andinner exploration so that
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we can really heal theseand be on the receiving end
of the life of our dreams.
Matty (44:17):
So know that when you're looking for your unique
balance point so are we all.
Thank you for joining us today.
Emily (44:23):
Yeah.
Thanks so much for listening.
Matty (44:25):
We'll catch you next week.
Hello amazing souls and welcome to today's show.
We are excited to behere with you once again.
Emily (00:07):
Hello, we are very excited about today's topic.
It is definitely somethingthat affects everyone at
the core of our being.
So this is a really interestingtopic to dive on into.
Matty (00:21):
We are going to jump off into the deep end and get
into navigating life in dualityand having dualistic beliefs.
This is a bit of a, not anextension, but last week's
show, we talked aboutrelationship beliefs that
could be ruining your life.
We got into dualisticbeliefs there and how they
show up in relationships.
(00:42):
And it got Emily and I thinkingjust how much we really wanted
to dive into just how awesomeduality is and how richly
textured it can be and howlife can be tough and it can
be easy and it can be painfuland it can be beautiful too
while we're here in duality.
But that we choose it.
Our souls know what they'regetting into before we come.
(01:06):
And no matter what yourperception or thoughts are about
living here and experiencingthis duality and what side of
the coin you find yourself on,or if you don't find yourself
on a side because you understandthe importance of the gray
area, of the in between already.
Just know that we chose tocome here and have these
experiences within duality.
(01:28):
That duality is here forus to find our beingness
within it all, thatunique vibe that we are.
Emily (01:37):
Yes.
And part of the reason for thisduality that we experience is
because we are looking to createthis wholeness within ourselves.
So for example, if you'relacking a certain trait or
characteristic, then youprobably want to learn that
trait or characteristic,especially if it's
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holding you back in life.
So on a simpler level, forexample, maybe you, well, this
is a really personal one to me.
Maybe you need more selfdiscipline in your life because
you're not getting the thingsdone that you want to get done.
And so therefore selfdiscipline is something
that's holding you back.
And so you may come hereto choose to work on that
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in order to create thiswholeness within yourself.
That's part of thereason for this duality.
And it's also toexplore themes from all
different angles as well.
If you're wanting to think aboutsuccess, you're probably going
to explore it from being supersuccessful and understanding
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that view point of it.
And then you're going to viewit from being not so successful.
And, of course, successfulis subjective, so that's
gonna be different foreveryone, whatever that scale
is and whatever that means.
I mean, you could be the mostsuccessful person financially,
but you're not successfulin your relationship.
So therefore in your mind,you could not be successful
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at all or vice versa.
It is a subjective wayof looking at whatever
success is or whateverself discipline is to you.
I mean, for example, I havereally high self discipline
when it comes to exercise andeating healthy, but then I
really like to take that extrahour or two in the bed because
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it's just so warm and snuggly.
So it's just, it, it's reallyabout looking at it at all
sides and what works for you.
Matty (03:38):
Emily brought up in an effort to have more wholeness.
more well roundednesswithin you as a soul.
We all have our own strengthsand gifts and archetypes
and things that we excelat naturally, innately,
but sometimes there isthings that we lack.
And this is whatEmily's talking about.
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So we come here andwork on these themes.
So we're attractingthese themes in our life.
The environments thatwe choose help us to
live out these themes.
And duality lets us livethem out in an infinitesimal
way of exploring the upsand downs and all of the
in betweens within it.
(04:19):
That's why duality isso richly textured.
And it can be this amazing toolif you're willing to look at
life and duality as a tool forour growth and for our learning.
Emily (04:31):
Yeah, and it's really this experiential knowledge
is how we learn and grow.
It is through experiencingsomething and taking
on that knowledge thatit turns into wisdom.
Because you don't, youdon't become wise by not
experiencing anything.
You only become wise byhaving those experiences.
(04:52):
And I mean, I'm sureyou can relate to this.
If you're wanting to learnsomething from someone,
you're not going to go tosomeone that has never had
that experience or has no ideawhat you're talking about.
You want to go to someone whohas lived it, been through
it, suffered through it, ormaybe not suffer through it,
but at least came throughit on the other side.
And they have that wisdom.
(05:13):
And I mean, a lot of timesit does come with some
hard lessons as well.
I mean, you can't really becomewise without the hard lessons.
Matty (05:21):
That's typically part of being here in Earth, in Earth's
duality, is in order to have theexperiential knowledge gained
and to truly know something,you've lived the ups and downs.
And sometimes these themes,these life lessons that we
work on, it can take anywherefrom 5 to 15 lifetimes.
(05:42):
Think about that.
Think about how much you'veexperienced already in your
life, just this life, and thenthink about multiplying by the 5
or 15 times worth of experience.
To fully embrace theexperiential knowledge
needed to own that theme,that self discipline
within, that success within.
(06:07):
And in our work in the AkashicRecords when we do our Soul
Journey readings, I mean,we check on 91 different
themes at this point.
Emily (06:15):
Yeah, and growing.
Matty (06:16):
Yeah, and that's just the ones that we know of.
At any point we could discovermore, or our mentor could,
and we could be sharing thingsback and forth with them,
whoever makes the discovery.
And we start to share itwith clients and get their
resonation and feedback, yes,this is resonating with me.
And then we know that we'reon to something new as well.
So it, that's one of thecool things with, with that
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part of our work is you kindof already have a base of
knowledge, but you could atany point make a new discovery.
Because each soul isnew and to us and unique
in their own right.
So it's, it's not like justreading a blueprint and like,
Oh yeah, you're going to fitinto these boxes right here
that we already know about.
Every soul is like,whatever, check this out.
(06:58):
Look how I did this.
My box is over here.
Yeah, I got a foot in thisone and a foot in this
one and a hand in this.
Yeah, see I'm playingtwister with all these
boxes around here.
Emily (07:08):
That's a funny way to think about it.
Matty (07:10):
I've got a big smile on my face right now.
So experiential knowledge iseverything here in duality.
It's a lot of it'sabout your perception.
Are you are you willing tolook at your experiences
as as a tool for growth oris it just the shit that's
happening to you and the thingsthat you're doing in return?
It can be pretty trickythough to find your balance
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and to coexist within dualitybecause it is so up or down.
Emily (07:38):
Yeah, it definitely gets a bad rap because,
because of the polaritiesand the dualistic thinking.
Matty (07:46):
Dualism is generally the belief in two fundamental
concepts that are opposingforces, that are governing
a situation, or governingpeople, or the world, or,
you know, what have you, andit, it doesn't really allow
for any gray area in between.
The progression of humanconsciousness is evolving,
but we've been in dualism fora long time because of the
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dualistic world that we live in.
And oftentimes we justwant to figure things out
and we want to understand.
That's kind of a naturalthing for humans.
Now whether, we want to godeep and really, like, get
into our own inner world andgo deep into other people and
really truly understand orour mind just wants to figure
it out and kind of move on.
(08:31):
There is an innateness ofwanting to figure things out,
kind of within all of us.
But the problem with dualismis it's, it can be a rigid,
like, view of the worldand it can force things
into boxes or a particularpolarity, if you will.
Once the brain kind of getssomething labeled, well that's
it, I figured that out, I canmove on to something else.
(08:54):
And if anything similar comesup, I already know, that
just goes right in therewith that viewpoint that
I've already picked out.
Emily (09:00):
Well, I mean, our brain is literally wired
to do that exact thing.
It is kind of wired to putthings in boxes so that it
can save energy, but if you'reconstantly just putting things
in boxes and not thinking aboutwhy or how or any of those
things about why it's labeledthat certain way, then anytime
anything remotely similarcomes up in your, in your
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life, then you're just going tocontinue to label it as such.
Especially if you don't questionthese labels that you're giving
things in the first place.
And so, like Matty said, thatcan really create a lot of
rigid, rigid thinking and avery rigid world view if you're
just like, Oh yeah, it's that,meh, but you're not allowing for
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the vastness of uniqueness thatexists here on the earth plane
and especially within people.
And there is, I mean,there's so much, so much
variation in the uniqueness.
It's pretty muchjust incredible.
Matty (10:02):
Yeah, dualism is either this or that.
That's the rigid view of it.
And there's not a lot ofallowing for gray area.
And it's one thing to kindof work your way through
this and be like, Oh, thisis that, and that's this.
Okay, I understand.
But if you never go backto see if that first
assumption you made is,really truly correct for you?
(10:25):
Or really truly how it is?
Or go back and say, HeyI thought this was this,
but there's gray areas, sowhat's really happening here?
If you never like want tofurther understand, then
you're going to be stuckin this very This is this,
that is that, only that way,move forward, everything's
separate, we are not together.
(10:46):
And we're gonna give someexamples and you'll be
like, oh yeah, I've heardthat, I've heard this.
In the end, dualism anddualism thinking, it
creates a lot of separation.
And there's not much roomfor us to share in this world
together because there's toomany labels being thrown around.
(11:06):
And it's tough to grow togetherif we're thinking this way.
This is the, theconsciousness that we're
kind of evolving out of.
And we're starting to see moreunity, more connectedness, more,
we're here to grow together.
Seeing ourselves in a symbioticrelationship with our planet.
Emily (11:28):
Sure.
Hope we are.
Matty (11:29):
I know that there are more and more people
thinking this way.
And I sure hope that moreand more and more of us do.
Emily (11:35):
Well, what I feel like is really happening is
that there's more allowancefor individuality and the
uniqueness on the planet.
Matty (11:44):
Absolutely.
Emily (11:44):
I feel like that's like a big shift that's
happening right now.
There's a lot of people thatare like, wait a minute.
I don't want to fitinto that box anymore.
I don't want to make thisother person's dream come true.
I have the ability to makemy own dream come true.
And so that is steppingmore into your uniqueness
(12:08):
and your individuality.
And I think there's a lotmore allowance for that.
I think that's part of whatthe internet has done is
it's allowed a platformfor this individuality and
this uniqueness to reallycome through and shine.
And I think it'sreally exciting.
I know, you know, a lot of Olderways of thinking is like, what,
no, you're supposed to workat that factory until you die.
(12:31):
And that's, that's the lifeyou're supposed to live.
Matty (12:34):
It's the way we've always done it.
Emily (12:36):
Exactly.
That's the way we'vealways done it.
So therefore we shouldkeep doing it that way.
Well, I got news for you.
The way we've always doneit isn't working, so we
have to find these newways of doing things.
But I digress because that'ssomething I feel very passionate
about is that I really wouldlove to see everyone in the
world stepping up, doing theirpassions, like really stepping
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into their personal power.
Like how much happier andjust what a much better
world it would be to livein if everyone was like
following their passionsand being uniquely them.
Matty (13:11):
And on that note, we are so complex.
Each one of us are supercomplex and dualism is,
it's of the simplistic mind.
It's where we were.
It's where massconsciousness was.
But now we can take ourindividual complexity,
and like Emily said,we have the internet.
(13:31):
It's not that you're anindividual standing more out
in your community or yourvillage, and you might affect
a couple people around there.
Now we have the opportunityto see all of this uniqueness
all around the world and beaffected by it, to share in
it, to realize more and moreand more that I'm not the only
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one that thinks differently.
I'm not the only one thattried to try to fit in that
box and it didn't work for meand I need another solution.
And whoa, there's a solutionin a neighboring state or
a neighboring country orhalfway around the world.
Look at how they'redoing things.
That looks awesome.
That feels good.
I want to try that now.
That's some of the richlytextured beauty of this
(14:16):
dualistic world we livein and how much is going
on and how much uniquenessis within the gray area
that we can experience.
Emily (14:24):
Okay, so let's give some common examples of do like
dualistic beliefs and just dualdualistic thinking in general.
Matty (14:35):
Let's start with the the dualism like the thinking
in general then kind of wherewe've come from where we
are and then let's get we'lljump into the progression
of the beliefs and stuff.
Emily (14:45):
Okay.
So good versus evil.
Matty (14:48):
Right and wrong.
Emily (14:50):
Positive and negative.
Matty (14:53):
Healthy or toxic.
Emily (14:55):
Success is the only thing that matters and
everything else is failure.
Matty (15:01):
If you ain't first, you're last.
Men are strong.
Women are emotional.
Emily (15:07):
Spirituality is completely different
from the material world.
Matty (15:12):
You're either with me or you're against me.
Emily (15:15):
Your passions and a job are different.
You can't have both together.
Matty (15:20):
Now in those examples, did you feel any room
to fit in between there?
There's not much whenit comes to dualism.
You're either thisor you're that.
There's not much roomfor anything else.
And there's, I mean,somebody might think that
thinking is right for them.
I'm good, so thereforethat's evil, or something.
(15:41):
But it doesn't leave muchroom for anything else.
And in duality, bothare usually true.
Both sexes are strong.
Both sexes are emotional.
It's part of life here.
One sex doesn't get to ownone thing or the other.
Uh uh.
Emily (15:57):
Yeah.
Matty (15:58):
We as humans are evolving past this.
There are plenty enough ofus that are awakening to see
through the limitingness thatcomes with strict dualism
thinking, and where we've comefrom as a mass consciousness.
There is so much learningin the gray area in between
this rigid dualism thinking.
(16:19):
Let's jump into some examplesthat we can learn through
experiencing duality and notbeing stuck in this rigid
box of either this or that.
Emily (16:29):
Well, I just want to say one thing like the
beauty of this gray area.
I mean, it doesn't soundbeautiful because it's gray,
but the beauty of the gray areais realizing that one person
can be healthy and toxic.
One person has positiveand negative attributes,
but it doesn't makethem one or the other.
(16:51):
We are all, all of it.
And so that is the beauty ofthis gray area, is realizing
that we can be all the things,but we don't necessarily
have to be just one thing.
And that is the box that weare not wanting to fit in
anymore, I think as a wholeis the collective conscious.
Matty (17:12):
We are moving from either or to this and.
Emily (17:18):
Both and.
Matty (17:18):
Both and.
Thank you.
That's the more proper way.
I totally agree.
Thank you for bringing that up.
Emily (17:24):
So I just wanted to say that, like the gray area
is also about realizing thatdivinity isn't just good.
I mean, divinity includesall the things as well.
Matty (17:37):
Everything's divinity, if we want to
jump down that rabbit hole.
Emily (17:40):
Yeah.
Matty (17:41):
Divinity makes room.
Unconditional love makesroom for everything.
Good and evil, becausewe both are it.
It's a part of creation.
Positive and negative,love and hate.
All of this stuff thatwe're experiencing in
here, it's all divine.
It's all part of creation.
(18:02):
It's all part of God, Goddess,the universe, in my opinion.
Emily (18:06):
Yes, and by focusing on one side or the other, then
you're allowing for that sideto be more dominant in your life
Matty (18:16):
Well, either way, you're denying part of creation, part
of divinity by just acceptingone side of it You're you're
turning around at the sametime and being like this
is acceptable to acceptableto me god But that's not.
And that's fine if you don'tlike that aspect of it, but it's
still part of divine creation
Emily (18:37):
Yeah, and that's a huge denial too.
I mean, it's kind of like,Oh, la, la, la, la, la,
la, that doesn't exist.
But I also think that justbecause something isn't
something that you really want,you don't have to like fully
immerse yourself in it either.
And so you can in this lifechoose what you want to
(19:02):
focus on more and what youcan allow into your life.
I mean, I think that'spart of free will as well.
You can say, I don't want to bearound haters and you can choose
to, you can make that choice.
But the more, if you areconstantly focused on
that, then guess what?
You're going to besurrounded by, by haters.
(19:24):
I don't know.
That was a weird example, but.
Matty (19:28):
Well, you, but I feel like it is an example.
You amplify.
And even denying somethingis a focus on that so you
amplify that which you aretrying to deny or don't
like or don't accept.
So if you just accept that allof duality is part of divine
creation, you can then focuson what feels best to you.
(19:52):
You can focus on your desiresand how you fit in that if
you're willing to accept thatit's all here for our growth.
It's all part ofthe divine plan.
I don't enjoy every aspectof duality, but I do accept
that it's all here for mygrowth, for that potential
of experiential knowledge.
I "thinks" the slightdifference in there.
Emily (20:13):
Yeah.
And I think that's a goodsegue to the examples of why
we even have duality in thefirst place and what you can
actually learn from duality.
So, one is you can appreciatethe warmth of the sun
because you know the chilland the night is coming.
Matty (20:34):
You can appreciate the, when spring breaks
because you've experienceda bleak long winter.
Emily (20:41):
You can appreciate love more because
you've experienced hate.
Matty (20:47):
I like this one a lot.
Appreciating the kindness ofa stranger after experiencing
the betrayal of a friend.
Emily (20:55):
Yeah.
Just think how much harderthat would hit after
experiencing betrayal.
Like someone could be kindto you without that and
you're just like, Oh, thanks.
You know, and, and you couldbe grateful for it, but
after that it could be somuch more meaningful to you.
Almost like the universeis like trying to
Matty (21:16):
Send a message through a stranger.
Yeah through a randomact of kindness.
Emily (21:20):
Yeah.
Yeah, totally.
If you've had like a seriesof relationships where you
had zero communication, thenbeing in a relationship where
you can communicate openlyand feel very heard and
understood with a partner,you can appreciate that more.
Matty (21:42):
Appreciating having trust in your partnership because
you know what it's like to havebeen cheated on or betrayed or
lied to inside a partnership.
Whatever that relationshipis, love, friendship, family.
But when you have that trust,you can appreciate it more
(22:02):
if you've experienced theother side of not having it.
Emily (22:05):
You can.
Matty (22:07):
Appreciating peace, because there's
also war in this world.
These are some of the harshdifferences in the reality
of duality, but that ageold saying, how can you
appreciate something if youdon't know its opposite,
holds very true in this.
Really appreciating thepeaceful times, because you
know that somewhere in theworld there might be war.
Emily (22:30):
And this is kind of on the same note, but appreciating
the mundaneness of life becauseyou've had an extended period
of chaos where just, it seemslike one thing after another
keeps happening and you're justexhausted and fried from it.
And you're like, Oh mygosh, finally I've had all
this time in this spacewhere nothing's happening.
(22:54):
I mean, I can just.
Do my thing and there's nota lot of chaos happening.
Matty (23:04):
Yeah, that was one, uh, took me a while to learn to
just be content and peacefulwithin the mundaneness
of life as I came out ofchaos and chaotic events.
I mean, my, my early childhoodand up through my twenties
were pretty chaotic, you know,and I mean, I know a lot of
(23:25):
us create some chaos runningthrough, especially our teens
and twenties, but definitelysettling more into my thirties
and realizing, Oh, I kindof like having a groove.
I kind of like mundane's notsuch a bad word to me anymore.
There is peacefulness within it.
That's beautiful.
Thanks.
So learning to find yourunique balance and coexisting
(23:49):
with induality is, is tricky.
It just can be.
Emily (23:53):
And it's going to be different for
everyone, that balance.
Matty (23:57):
Yeah.
Somebody might be able to tellyou about theirs and it helps
you with yours, but we are allunique and our balance point
is usually unique, even if itis similar to someone else's.
But it's, it's unique.
It's you.
We really, truly are all uniqueindividuals on the inside.
(24:17):
Everything that we've gonethrough, all the experiences
that we've had over ourmultitudinous of lifetimes
here on Earth and elsewhere.
So incorporating yourexperiential knowledge of
living in duality of, soincorporating these things
into your reality is to becomemore aware of who you are.
And remember, we said thatyour soul knew what it was
(24:41):
getting into when it came here.
You also took on spiritualamnesia, so you forgot that
you knew the plan, but therewas a plan of experience
of growth to happen.
Emily (24:51):
I think there's a loose plan, but then
you also have free will.
Matty (24:54):
Exactly.
It is a loose planbecause of free will.
Emily (24:56):
So that can just like, you know, throw
everything off the cuff.
Matty (25:02):
But I guess what I was getting at is in being
in duality, like being you,the beingness of being you
is the aim of why your soulchose to come have life here.
Emily (25:16):
That is expressing your true divinity.
Matty (25:18):
Yes.
Thank you.
That's a prettier way to saywhat I was trying to get across.
So coming here andexpressing your uniqueness
of divinity is the aim.
It's the hope andit's tricky to do.
Emily (25:32):
It is.
It's so tricky with all theconditioning and all the advice
and all of the this and thethat and the this way and that
way and fit into this box.
It's like this, and like that,and like this, and like that,
and like this, and like that.
Matty (25:49):
I was totally thinking it too.
So you take all this duality,and you're trying to find
your unique expressionof divinity with this
balance point within it.
And we kind of gave you someexamples of dualism thinking,
then some things you could kindof learn while here in duality.
(26:11):
You know, some themesyou could pick up.
But once you incorporate this.
Emily (26:15):
Integrate it into your being.
Matty (26:18):
I guess what that could look like is being able
to experience the spiritualhere in the material world.
No longer viewing themas separate entities, but
seeing the divinity of
Emily (26:33):
everything, of
Matty (26:34):
everything, of being in duality.
Of how much can be learnedand grown from and gleaned
and enjoyed and knowingenjoyment because you've
also known sadness.
I mean, it's allwrapped up together.
And I think that one of the bigthings is that we can finally.
(26:54):
see how we experience divinitywithin this physical material
world when for so long they'vebeen viewed as separate things.
Emily (27:02):
Well, and I think it's easier when you're
watching this epic sunsetor looking at a rainbow.
It's easy to see the divinityin that, but can you look
in the mirror and see thedivinity within yourself?
Can you feel the divinityin your unique traits and
your characteristics whenyou're doing your thing
(27:22):
and like really in it?
Expressing yourgifts to the world.
Matty (27:29):
Can you see the divinity in your challenges?
Or those that arechallenging you?
Emily (27:36):
That's a good one.
So let's talk about dualisticbeliefs versus limited beliefs.
In this episode so far, we'vetalked a lot about dualism.
And we've talked about thedifferences in this rigid
way of thinking and howdualism can affect your life.
But now let's look atdualistic beliefs and
(27:59):
what they are and how theyaffect your life as well.
And then we're going totalk about limited beliefs
as well and how they differfrom dualistic beliefs.
So dualistic beliefs can be orare limiting in nature, but they
oppose a desire that you have.
And they put the powerin the hands of something
(28:20):
outside of yourself.
And we will be giving someexamples of each of these.
Matty (28:24):
Whereas limiting beliefs are the limitations
you put on yourself thataren't true or are an illusion.
Emily (28:34):
And another way of thinking about this
is dualistic beliefs arelimited beliefs living by
proxy of something else.
Matty (28:44):
I like that.
Emily (28:46):
So here are some examples of some dualistic beliefs.
And some of theseare very common.
And some of these we seevery often in our work and
with working with clientsand just in our family
and friends in general.
So one could be, Iwant a really deep love
(29:07):
connection with someone.
And then the other sideof that is you also hold
a belief that people endup always abandoning me.
And so these two ways ofthinking work against each other
because you're saying you wantthis love connection, but then
you have this deeply held beliefthat if people always end up
(29:28):
abandoning you then why wouldyou want to get in this love
connection in the first place?
So it works in oppositionto what you actually want.
Matty (29:37):
Yeah, that's key.
It's working in oppositionto what you want.
Something like having dreamsof being married and having
a family and also feeling orbelieving I can't imagine being
with one person my whole life.
Emily (29:52):
Or I want to create my own business doing
what I'm passionate about.
I can't because I workedmy way up to high earnings
in my current job and youdon't get a second chance at
making this kind of money.
Matty (30:05):
Or how about, the only way to get to the top is by
bringing down other people.
I want to get to the top,but don't have what it takes.
Emily (30:14):
Or I have a desire to travel and see the world.
But that's onlyfor wealthy people.
Matty (30:21):
Or something like, I want to make more money, but
you can only make money ifyou're a doctor or a lawyer, own
your own business or whateverother prestigious profession
you can think of in this momentright now that you don't have.
Emily (30:37):
Or money is the root of all evil.
I want more money, butI don't want to be evil.
Matty (30:43):
That's commonplace.
Yeah.
Or the belief that money is afinite resource and there isn't
enough money to go around.
So you don't get to takepart in this finite resource.
Emily (30:57):
And so as you can see in all of these examples, there
are two sides of the coin.
There are thoughts thatare in opposition to each
other that are preventingunity in the thought.
Matty (31:11):
And so, excuse me, please go.
Emily (31:15):
And then we were going to move on to just some examples
of limiting beliefs, and alot of these are very common.
Um, I'm too old to go backto college or change careers.
Matty (31:27):
I'm not worthy of being happy, loved, successful.
Emily (31:31):
Or I don't get to be happy.
That's for other people.
Matty (31:36):
As long as people need me because of what I do
for them, they won't abandonme and I won't be alone.
Emily (31:43):
Or I'm only loved for what I can do, not for who I am.
Matty (31:47):
And as you can see, this is simply limiting yourself,
not through someone else.
You're just limitingyourself in these examples.
Emily (31:57):
And both limiting beliefs and dualistic beliefs can keep
you stuck in your personal life.
And that's why we reallywanted to do a whole episode
on these, because if you arerecognizing yourself in any
of these, then there are waysto heal these beliefs, these
dualistic and these limitingbeliefs so that you can
(32:19):
create the life that you want.
You can create your desires.
You can have this passionatejob where you make all
the money that you want.
These things are possiblefor you, but sometimes there
are these dualistic beliefsand limited beliefs that
oppose or serve as blocks towhat you want and that what
(32:41):
you're trying to manifest.
And it is about healing theseblocks in order to create
the life of your dreams.
Matty (32:52):
Healing is just becoming aware, like, Oh,
I have this belief that'sopposing what I want.
And then looking for theroot cause of that belief
and finding it, and thenunderstanding and making
awareness that this isn't true.
(33:13):
You brought this belief fromsomewhere else and made it true.
You've been holdingthis illusion in place.
Discovering these dualisticbeliefs within you does require
some inner world travel.
A willingness to ask yourselfquestions that challenge your
thinking and belief system.
(33:34):
And not having what youwant in life is a clue to
having a dualistic beliefopposing your desires.
So if you're not aware ofyour belief system that's in
place, but you are aware ofwhat you want, but you don't
have it, then you can startto look at your actions?
(33:55):
Are you taking the right ones?
Is there a belief in placethat's holding this off?
Is there a block here?
Emily (34:00):
And a lot of times these, well, sometimes these
can be conscious beliefs.
Oftentimes they are eitherunconscious beliefs or just
things that you just took onunquestioningly from a parent
or a caregiver growing up.
And this is especiallytrue when it comes to your
beliefs about relationships,your beliefs about money,
(34:20):
your beliefs about the waythe world is in religion.
Matty (34:26):
Oh yeah.
Emily (34:27):
So we are just challenging you to think
about these beliefs.
Think about these thingsthat are running programs
in your life, or runningon repeat in your mind.
And so that's all we'resimply saying is just become
aware of these things.
Because like Matty said,if there are things in your
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life that are not coming intofruition, things that you
desire, things that you wantto manifest, then that is a
humongous clue that, that youdo have some dualistic beliefs.
Or limiting beliefs thatare running programs
unconsciously within your brain.
Matty (35:08):
When you're thinking about this and understanding
that you chose to come hereand experience duality, you
chose the family that youwere born into, so what is
it you're here to learn?
If you're looking for, you know,more wholeness around a theme
in life, well, what are thethemes that were passed down
(35:32):
can start to give you clues towhat you're here working on.
What the beliefs couldbe because you're setting
yourself up for these thingsto be instilled in you so
then you can become awarelater and work through it.
It's a good idea tothink back to, were their
sayings in your family?
What were their belief systems?
(35:52):
What was passed down?
That can be a hugeone for our life here.
These limiting beliefs anddualistic beliefs can come
oftentimes from intensepast life experiences where
the emotional connection isstill there because it was
never healed or resolved.
Emily (36:11):
Yeah, and if this sounds like something that
could be prevalent in yourlife, then you could book a
past life regression session.
And these are extremely healingsessions where we can help
guide you to this root causeand guide you to these answers.
And if that resonateswith you, then
Matty (36:34):
I'll have a link in the description for you to follow.
We're accepting bookingsthrough the month of December.
And just to, I'll put thisout there, like my most
recent client came seekingthe root cause for their
lack of connection with theirspirit guides, with others,
and having a life partner.
(36:55):
The past life we revisited.
It revealed that earlyon their father died at
an early age for them.
And then as they grewolder, we got to experience
this intense, deep, lovingrelationship that they had,
but unfortunately it wastragically taken from them out
of their control way too earlybecause of an accident at work.
(37:20):
And they took on the beliefthat love always abandons them.
And they carried this beliefover into this lifetime.
So they came wanting answersaround this theme in their life.
And then we got to visit apast life that showed them
the root cause for this.
(37:41):
And then at the end we went andmet with their spirit guide.
And of course, I'mgoing to bring it up.
What was the connectionwe were looking for here?
Why did we see this life?
And the spirit guide'sanswer was, to show the
root cause for this.
And that this moment was nevermeant to be taken and held onto
(38:03):
and made as the truth for them.
It's just, when we're hereexperiencing duality, it, it
was just a moment that hurtdeeply and that's how they
were able to deal with it.
They found ways to haveenjoyment and love through
other areas in their life, butnot in a loving partnership way
(38:25):
but now they're aware of thisand they get to heal this root
cause through their awareness,through understanding that
this is not the truth for them.
This is just a beliefthat they brought over.
Emily (38:36):
Yeah.
And it's through that healingand that integration of that
new awareness is what helpsreally transform your life.
Because any time you start tomaybe go back into that faulty
way of thinking, you think, ohwait, I know the root of this.
I know where this camefrom, and that is not true.
Exactly.
And the more you start to tellyourself that that's not true,
(38:58):
that is not true in your lifenow, that is no longer true,
then you can help really shiftand transform your entire life.
And to have more emotionalconnection in the here and now
with this specific example.
Matty (39:14):
Wonderfully put.
You can see the lie taking placeinside your own self, right?
Emily (39:19):
Yeah.
And then you becomethe observer of it.
Matty (39:22):
Exactly.
Emily (39:24):
And by becoming the observer of it, it like
kind of takes the poweraway from it because you're
no longer like in it.
And it's not playing outthrough you any longer.
You're like, wait a minute.
I see what's happening now.
Matty (39:37):
You become empowered.
Yeah, definitely.
We brought up something inour last episode talking about
relationship beliefs and howsome people are just assholes.
Things just happen and peopledo things and that their
actions say way more aboutthem and very little about you.
And that is so true.
(39:59):
We talked about how we can takeother people's actions and make
them mean something about us.
But they really don'tsay much about us.
It's really about them.
But the little that they dosay about us is more about our
willingness to explore our innerworld to get to the root cause.
And I feel like when we'redoing this, when we're looking
(40:20):
for, what's the nugget in thatexperience that we've had?
Even when somebody is lashingout or acting out against us.
This is why for me personally,being able to access
the Akashic records andhaving an energy clearing
practice comes in so handy.
Because there are times inlife that beliefs come from
the things we see or theway other people do stuff.
(40:43):
And so it's this unintendedinfluencing energy of others.
So being able to clear yourenergy away and get more
to the core of where you'reat in any moment is huge.
It's why the first coursethat we made: "Embarking on
a sacred voyage, navigatingspiritual protection with a
divine co pilot" was created.
(41:03):
Was to teach the basicfoundations for what Emily
and I use every time we accessthe Akashic records or anytime
that we clear our energy.
Calling in a divine co pilotand using that unlimited
energy of our ascendedmasters, Archangels, higher
beings like that to help us.
And then being able to accessthe Akashic records allows
(41:23):
us to go in and we're hereas humans and we have this
perception filter, if you will.
We view our life throughour perceptions and
through our beliefs.
I'm super lucky tohave Emily in my life.
We go deep together and she'skind of my accountability buddy.
She can call me on my shit.
(41:45):
She helps me seethings more clearly.
But when we're working alone,we have our belief system, our
perceptions in the way whenwe're doing this inner world
travel, when we're tryingto get to these root causes.
But accessing the recordsis accessing the truth
of a situation or anevent that's taken place.
(42:07):
And we can kind of put downthis lens or this filter of
perceptions and beliefs andget to the truth of root
causes I think much easierwith our guides in the records.
Emily (42:19):
Absolutely.
So it's really powerful workingin the Akashic Records and
working with your spirit guides.
These are the guides thathave known you your entire
existence, and so they havea very strong idea of what
it is that you are wantingto achieve on a soul level.
Matty (42:37):
Your own intuition and gut instinct would
probably be helping youout with this one too.
But the Akashic Records containthe truth of what happened,
as well as the perspectivesof the parties involved.
Whereas we can only comefrom our perspective or our
conditioning as a human being.
And that can be really trickywhen we're working with our
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own intuition and developingthat and trusting in that
is that we're also workingthrough our own filters.
So accessing the Akashicrecords can really help, in
my opinion, boost big timethe trust factor and get
right to the truth of things.
If you have any interestin taking charge of your
energetic well being, I'llmake sure there's a link
(43:20):
to our Introduction toSpiritual Protection course
in the description as well.
And if you enjoyed thisshow, make sure to pass
it along to a friend.
We sure love sharing ourknowledge and our experiences
and deep diving into subjectsthat matter to us and that
matter to everyone we think.
I thought this was a funexploration of navigating
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duality and dualisticbeliefs and examples of
what they could look like.
Emily (43:48):
Thanks everyone so much for joining us.
We really enjoyed talkingabout this topic and if
this is something thatresonates with you, just
know that you are not alone.
That we all have dualisticthinking and limited
beliefs and it's aboutbecoming aware of them.
And do this inner work andinner exploration so that
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we can really heal theseand be on the receiving end
of the life of our dreams.
Matty (44:17):
So know that when you're looking for your unique
balance point so are we all.
Thank you for joining us today.
Emily (44:23):
Yeah.
Thanks so much for listening.
Matty (44:25):
We'll catch you next week.
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