Beyond the Breakup: Raising Resilient Kids When Love Gets Complicated

In this deeply honest and insightful episode of Split Resilience, I sit down with Steven Spears, a family therapist with both personal and professional experience navigating divorce and childhood trauma.

Together, we explore what children really need during separation, how to protect them from high-conflict dynamics, and why resilience isn’t about being “tough”—it’s about feeling safe and seen. Steven shares his own childhood story, explains why courts sometimes miss the mark, and offers tangible, compassionate advice for parents doing their best in tough circumstances.

Whether you’re in the thick of a co-parenting storm or just lying awake wondering if your kid will be okay, this one’s for you.

Takeaways:

• Divorce is a journey with ongoing ripple effects.
• Children are resilient, but they need support.
• Parental conflict can deeply affect children.
• It's crucial to foster connection with children during tough times.
• Repairing relationships after conflict is essential for family health.
• Safe spaces at home are vital for children's emotional well-being.
• Hypervigilance in children can stem from parental conflict.
• Navigating court issues can be challenging for families.
• Stigma around divorce can impact both parents and children.
• Parents must prioritize their own emotional health to support their children.

Find Steven at: https://counselingbysteven.com/